There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may short-change the future—which starts by our envisioning something better.
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Ann Gold Buscho Ph.D.
Nurturing a healthy relationship requires a few useful tools to keep the love alive. Use these so that divorce is the last resort. You'll have no regrets if you've tried them all.
About 60% of people in a divorce process may be open to reconciliation, 13% reconcile before divorcing, and a smaller number reconcile later. Here's why.
Co-parenting is a skill that you and your co-parent can learn and cultivate. Your children will benefit from your efforts with these 10 tips.
Bringing a new partner into your family is risky if kids aren't ready or the new love isn't rock solid. Here are tips for when and how to do it so that your family will blossom.
When you don’t have children, you aren’t bound together by the need to raise them. But finances and emotions can make the divorce complicated.
There are many reasons why a spouse can't or won't work after divorce. Emotional overload, lack of skills or opportunity, and pressure from the courts add to the problem. Find helpful tips here.
The decision to separate or divorce triggers a tsunami of crises, especially in the first few days. Here are nine tips to avoid starting down a destructive path.
Anger, disrespect, passive-aggressive acting out, and feeling controlled are all reasons agreements are broken. Here's how to fix it.
Tips to navigate the life crisis of divorce with respect and dignity.
The emotional divorce is difficult, but the legal divorce requires resolving three main issues. Focus on emotions first, and then get informed about the legal issues.
Research suggests that perhaps half of all divorces are caused by infidelity, but many factors affect the fate of a marriage after an affair.
Parents always love their kids and want to protect them from damage. Here's how.
Recognizing potential loyalty traps can help you protect your children during a divorce.
Getting divorced? These eight New Year's resolutions guarantee that 2022 will be a better year.
The holidays can be painful for your and your children when you are separated or divorced. A few tips can help you give your kids the joy of the season, despite the divorce.
Can a relationship benefit from taking a break? It all comes down to outlining clear intentions, communication, and goals.
Social media can cause damage in a marriage and a divorce. Here are 10 social media tips to keep yourself sane and safe during your divorce.
Children who were resilient before the separation or divorce may not have the resilience to adjust to the changes in the family. Here's how you can build up their resilience.
You can cultivate a resilient marriage. Not all marriages can be resilient, but many that move to divorce might have been strengthened with these 11 tips.
Everyone grieves after divorce in their own way. There's no “right way” and no timeline. Here are some tips to help yourself or others cope with the grief of divorce.
In most states, your spouse does not have to grant you or agree to a divorce. Here are six tips to prepare and cope.
Struggling with your decision to keep or sell your home? Worried about moving your kids? The emotional attachment to your home is as important as the real estate appraisal.
If you're divorcing, your friends may tell you to hire a "shark," but you might do better with a "peacemaker" attorney.
Seeing signs that your spouse is considering divorce? Paying attention to these red flags early on may help you repair the marriage—or end it without further damage.
How can you co-parent with an ex you don't get along with? Here's to make co-parenting successful after separation or divorce.
Everyone seems to be divorcing a narcissist. Here's how you can tell if your spouse is a "real" narcissist or showing typical (normal) self-centeredness during the divorce—and what to do about it.
Racing through a divorce is both unwise and impractical. Here's why.
Do you dread telling your kids about your upcoming divorce? Here's what to expect, what is normal, and how to know if your child needs more help.
Divorce numbers overall continue to decline, but the divorce rate of people over 50 is increasing. Here's how the financial and emotional factors are different from other divorces.
Real stories: The most common reasons for divorce are drifting apart, affairs, and fighting. Here are tried-and-true solutions.
Ann Gold Buscho, Ph.D., is the author of The Parent's Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce.