We feel emotional pain and that often becomes the end of the story. What if it is only the chapter heading? What if we explored the full chapter? I believe we would be immersed in the adventure of discovering the richness and depth of who we are.
Crisis often mobilizes us to experience the transitory nature of life and our no-thing-ness. Acknowledging that we are no-thing goes against the cultural paradigm that all we are is some-thing. One must come from the space of one’s no-thing in order to be authentically some-thing.
We live in a culture that values sharing every thought and feeling as it occurs. By paying attention to the silence within our conversations and embracing those spaces, we can connect more deeply with ourselves.
We are always choosing. We can't not choose, for even if we don't consciously choose something, the not-choosing is a choice. When I understand that living includes choosing, always and in every moment, this awareness is very profound. This process of choosing can be liberating and empowering as well as anxiety provoking and frightening.
It is the spring of 1971 and I am a 21 year old senior at the University of Pennsylvania, majoring in economics. I believe psychology and psychotherapy are about some father or mother figure telling me what to do and how I should live my life. I want nothing to do with this, even though I'm not sure why.