Sex Addiction: Fact or Fiction? Part 1 of 3
Popular culture embraces “sex addiction,” but most psychologists reject it.
Posted Jun 01, 2018
When people say they’re “addicted” to bacon, Beyoncé’s music, or The Simpsons, it’s largely in jest. They’re not actually addicted. They just really like whatever.
But when behavioral “addiction” meets sexuality—particularly some men’s frequent masturbation to porn—many see a crisis as grave as drug addiction. In fact, “sex addiction” usually has little to do with truly out-of-control sexuality—and everything to do with the guilt and shame some people feel about being sexual, particularly men who regularly make use of porn.
A Brief History of “Sex Addiction”
In 1976, the term "sex addiction" was coined. It's actually a contemporary update of what used to be called “perversion,” any sex the self-appointed arbiters of decency considered unacceptable: “excessive” erotic fantasies, “excessive” sex, almost any sex with sex workers, and most solo sex, especially when it involves porn. “Perversion” implied immorality, but traditional religious morality has lost its hold on many Americans, so “perversion” has lost its sting. Proponents of sex-addiction “medicalized” perversion by calling it “addiction.”
Sex addiction struck a chord with social conservatives, religious fundamentalists, anti-porn feminists, much of the media, 12-step veterans with sexual issues, some mental health professionals, and women upset about their men’s porn habits.
Researchers flocked to study the supposedly new affliction. Before 1985, psychology journals published very few mentions of “sex addiction” or “compulsivity.” By 2017, three decades later, articles numbered more than 12,000.
Sex addiction gained the media spotlight when celebrities shamefully—and very publicly—admitted they were sex addicts, usually to bolster their legal positions during messy divorces: actors Charlie Sheen and David Duchovny, and golfer Tiger Woods.
Celebrity confessions attracted more media—and not just supermarket tabloids. The New York Times first mentioned sex addiction in 1980. By 2017, the term had appeared in hundreds of articles.
“Sex addiction” flooded the Internet. I searched—37 million hits.
Treatment programs proliferated. Finally, neuroscientists jumped on the bandwagon. Many studies showed that “excessive,” “compulsive” sex triggered neurological changes identical to those experienced by drug addicts—sharp spikes in brain levels of the neurotransmitter, dopamine.
- Tolerance. The more you use, the more you need.
- Craving. Addicts experience such intense desire for their substance that they organize their lives around obtaining and using it.
- Withdrawal. If addicts stop using, they suffer debilitating symptoms.
- Increasingly severe consequences. Addicts risk job loss, family destruction, severe illness, and death.
The vast majority of people called “sex” or “porn” “addicts” don’t meet these criteria. (The top “sex addiction” involves masturbating to porn, so I use the terms “sex” and “porn” addiction synonymously.)
- No tolerance. If porn caused tolerance, over time, users would have to consume increasing amounts. But according to PornHub, the world’s largest porn site, most viewers (75 percent of them male) watch less than five minutes per visit, and 86 percent spend less than 20 minutes. Only 0.2 percent watch more than two hours at a time. Now some men might visit several times a day or download videos for later viewing. But there’s no evidence that porn-watching causes tolerance. Only two porn-viewers per 1,000 watch more than two hours at a time, Meanwhile, most Americans watch more television than that. Where’s the outrage over “TV addiction”?
Some contend that as their addictions intensify, sex addicts become tolerant to “conventional” porn, and seek more “extreme” imagery. But there is no normal amount or type of sex, so what constitutes “conventional” or “extreme?” To the sex-addiction industry, “extreme” porn includes: anal play, BDSM, swinging, group sex, and public sex, and a good deal of homosexuality. Actually, these are all fairly prevalent, involving tens of millions of otherwise loving, productive, mentally healthy Americans.
Many men begin with one type of porn, then sample others. That’s not tolerance. It’s usually curiosity or boredom. After viewing the most “extreme” porn, almost all men can still get off watching one lone couple doing it in the missionary position. No tolerance.
- No craving. There’s a big difference between craving and enjoying. The vast majority of men enjoy porn, but only a tiny fraction organize their lives around it. Drug addicts have difficulty going a day without their substances. But if men have something better to do, they don’t watch porn. Visits to PornHub drop substantially for all major holidays and sporting events. Most men enjoy porn, but don’t develop cravings suggesting addiction.
- No withdrawal. When sports fans—mostly men—have responsibilities that preclude watching games, they feel bummed, but don’t suffer debilitating symptoms. For almost all men, the same is true for porn. When it’s available, they watch. When it’s not, they may feel wistful, but function fine without it.
- No increasingly severe consequences. The main consequence of watching porn is the pleasure of orgasm. But two pitfalls are possible:
- Some porn-using men develop erectile dysfunction (ED). But the best research shows that increasing porn use is not a significant risk factor for ED. Any porn-related ED usually results not from watching porn, per se, but from the anxiety, guilt, and shame men feel about masturbating to it.
- Some women catch their men using porn and threaten nasty consequences, including divorce. But since the late-1990s when porn exploded on the Internet, the divorce rate has declined. No credible evidence suggests that viewing porn leads more than a tiny fraction of men to increasingly severe negative consequences.
Most Psychologists Reject “Sex Addiction”
Here’s the supreme irony of “sex addiction.” As the term becomes ever-more-deeply embedded in popular culture, most psychologists have rejected the whole idea. The bible of mental health disorders is the American Psychiatric Associations’ Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM), first published in 1952. Early editions pathologized “excessive” sexual activity. But as a mountain of research has demonstrated the enormous diversity of normal, healthy sexuality, the professional consensus has shifted to the view that “sex addiction” is little more than a myth.
For DSM-V (2013), thousands of stakeholders reviewed tens of thousands of studies over several years. But they produced little credible evidence that viewing porn or engaging in unconventional sex are mental health disorders.
Meanwhile, the sex-positive community countered with abundant research showing that, for the large majority of “sex addicts,” the issue is not sex, per se, but the guilt and shame they feel about thinking and acting sexually.
DSM machinations may appear arcane, but hundreds of millions of dollars a year are at stake. DSM recognition means insurance reimbursement for treatment. In DSM-V, there is no diagnosis of “hyper-sexuality” or “sex addiction.”
“Sex addiction” is largely fiction.
Part 2 (June 15, 2018) explores the harm the sex-addiction industry says the affliction causes. Part 3 (July 1, 2018) discusses the real prevalence of problematic sex, and how to change unwanted sexual habits without mislabeling them as "addictions.”
Men masturbate considerably more than women. Herbenick, D. et al. “Sexual Behavior in the United States: Results from a National Probability Sample of Men and Women Ages 14-94,” Journal of Sexual Medicine (2010) 7(suppl 5):255.
Laumann, E.O et al. The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States, University of Chicago Press, 1994.
The average American watches several hours of TV per day. https://www.nytimes.com/2016/07/01/business/media/nielsen-survey-media-viewing.html
Celebrities identified as sex addicts.https://onedio.co/content/17-celebrities-who-bravely-battled-sex-addiction-12164
NY Times mentions of sex addiction. Reay, B. et al. “Inventing Sex: The Short History of Sex Addiction,” Sexuality and Culture (2013) 17:1.
Trends in academic journal articles on sex addiction. Kraus, S.W. et al. “Should Compulsive Sexual Behavior Be Considered an Addiction?” Addiction (2016) 111:2097.
Neuroscience, dopamine, and sex addiction. Park, B.Y. et al. “Is Internet Pornography Causing Sexual Dysfunction? A Review with Clinical Reports,” Behavioral Sciences (2016) 6:17.
Even frequent porn viewing does not meet the criteria for addiction. Ley, D. The Myth of Sex Addiction. Rowman & Littlefield, Lanham, MD, 2012.