What Good Is Regret?

Our regrets may preserve an emotional attachment to someone or something we lost or someone or something we should have avoided in the first place.

Our regrets may preserve an emotional attachment to someone or something we lost or someone or something we should have avoided in the first place.

“You’re Just Too Sensitive”

Viewing emotions within the greater context of our values radically changes our relationship with them.

Viewing emotions within the greater context of our values radically changes our relationship with them.

Are There Benefits to Saving Yourself for Marriage?

Studies have shown that virginity may increase the likelihood of a long-term, successful marriage. Do you wonder why?

Studies have shown that virginity may increase the likelihood of a long-term, successful marriage. Do you wonder why?

Unseen Family Caregiving

Common stressors with being the mother of an adult child with bipolar, schizophrenia, or major depression.

Common stressors with being the mother of an adult child with bipolar, schizophrenia, or major depression.

Shame, Relationships, and Adverse Childhood Experiences

Shame is common to the human condition. Recognizing, accepting, and changing our response to shame helps us to live more joyfully.

Shame is common to the human condition. Recognizing, accepting, and changing our response to shame helps us to live more joyfully.

The Social Roots of Youth Suicide

Why do some communities find their young people to be more vulnerable to suicide than others? Our research identifies the social roots of youth suicide to improve prevention.

Why do some communities find their young people to be more vulnerable to suicide than others? Our research identifies the social roots of youth suicide to improve prevention.

We Don't Have to Be Ashamed of Aging

Personal Perspective: We all go through it, no one is immune, and nothing produces more universal shame in our society than aging.

Personal Perspective: We all go through it, no one is immune, and nothing produces more universal shame in our society than aging.

Have Children Lost the Ability to Fail Successfully?

Is the way we look at failure in school harmful to children's development? Let's talk about how to re-frame it and fail successfully.

Is the way we look at failure in school harmful to children's development? Let's talk about how to re-frame it and fail successfully.

How a Non-Disclosure Agreement Can Cause Emotional Harm

When individuals cannot discuss their painful experiences with others, it hinders their ability to psychologically process the event, impeding healing and post-traumatic growth.

When individuals cannot discuss their painful experiences with others, it hinders their ability to psychologically process the event, impeding healing and post-traumatic growth.

Was That a Real Orgasm?

Is it ever appropriate to ask a partner if they faked an orgasm? Why interrogating a partner about their intimate experience may not be the best approach.

Is it ever appropriate to ask a partner if they faked an orgasm? Why interrogating a partner about their intimate experience may not be the best approach.

"But I Don't Want to Blame My Parents!"

How do we heal old childhood wounds without blaming our parents?

How do we heal old childhood wounds without blaming our parents?

How to Survive a Malpractice Lawsuit With Your Soul Intact

Malpractice litigation can be emotionally devastating to a healthcare practitioner. But there are ways of preventing this.

Malpractice litigation can be emotionally devastating to a healthcare practitioner. But there are ways of preventing this.

A Broader Picture of Sexual Compulsivity

The field of "sex/porn addiction" is a contentious one that comes with much confusion and myths. Thankfully, the field of sexology can bring clarity with a sex-positive approach.

The field of "sex/porn addiction" is a contentious one that comes with much confusion and myths. Thankfully, the field of sexology can bring clarity with a sex-positive approach.

Control Is the Opposite of Love

While self-protection is good in moderate doses, it can, in higher ones, lead to excessive pride, which masks vulnerability and hinders the prospect of love.

While self-protection is good in moderate doses, it can, in higher ones, lead to excessive pride, which masks vulnerability and hinders the prospect of love.

The Shame of Perfectionism

Counterintuitively, being preoccupied with problem-solving to manage your shame may create more problems, spiraling out of control.

Counterintuitively, being preoccupied with problem-solving to manage your shame may create more problems, spiraling out of control.

Addressing the Self-Doubt of OCD

We can learn to create a more limited, but healthier, version of perfectionism.

We can learn to create a more limited, but healthier, version of perfectionism.

Letting Go of the Stigma of Addiction

Although addiction is widely recognized as an illness, it can cause deep-seated feelings of shame. Healing from shame can help families cope with an addicted loved one.

Although addiction is widely recognized as an illness, it can cause deep-seated feelings of shame. Healing from shame can help families cope with an addicted loved one.

Doing Less Can Break Your Worst Habits

Discover how doing less can break your worst habits with the EAT cycle. Explore, accept, and transform for lasting change.

Discover how doing less can break your worst habits with the EAT cycle. Explore, accept, and transform for lasting change.

What Paris Taught Me About Being "Older"

Personal Perspective: My last night in the City of Light showed me the pleasure and power of embracing, rather than resisting, the role of oldest in the room.

Personal Perspective: My last night in the City of Light showed me the pleasure and power of embracing, rather than resisting, the role of oldest in the room.

Do We Really Need to Believe in Free Will?

The concept of free will helps us feel more in control of our lives, but it may also make us feel too responsible for each of our failures.

The concept of free will helps us feel more in control of our lives, but it may also make us feel too responsible for each of our failures.

How to Live Without Regret

When we're faced with a decision that could alter the course of our lives, how do we know which way to go? We all have the answer inside us. We just need to know how to uncover it.

When we're faced with a decision that could alter the course of our lives, how do we know which way to go? We all have the answer inside us. We just need to know how to uncover it.

Is Body Shaming an Ex a Good Idea? A View From Ancient Rome

If a professor or teacher suggests that body shaming your partner is a good idea, should you just believe them?

If a professor or teacher suggests that body shaming your partner is a good idea, should you just believe them?

Carried Shame and Betrayal

Individuals who experience infidelity often feel immediate waves of shame in the aftermath of betrayal. Understanding carried shame and how to release it are vital for healing.

Individuals who experience infidelity often feel immediate waves of shame in the aftermath of betrayal. Understanding carried shame and how to release it are vital for healing.

The Persistence of Traumatic Childhood Shame

Shame can be one of the toughest emotions to face. Explore how childhood traumatic shame shapes adult relationships and how reminiscent situations help it retain its hold.

Shame can be one of the toughest emotions to face. Explore how childhood traumatic shame shapes adult relationships and how reminiscent situations help it retain its hold.

Don't Let It Go: Try This Instead

Sometimes we get stuck for a reason.

Sometimes we get stuck for a reason.

Do You Feel Worthy of Being Healthy?

Feelings of unworthiness can negatively impact our physical and mental health. Often they stem from early pain. When we seek out new healing experiences, the brain can recover.

Feelings of unworthiness can negatively impact our physical and mental health. Often they stem from early pain. When we seek out new healing experiences, the brain can recover.

“Cringe” and New Online Forms of Shame

Do you obsess over your online posts? "Cringe" may help explain our public vulnerability in the social media age.

Do you obsess over your online posts? "Cringe" may help explain our public vulnerability in the social media age.

Addressing Chronic Defensiveness

Perfectionists tend to sabotage their relationships by being chronically defensive, yet they strongly believe that doing so saves it.

Perfectionists tend to sabotage their relationships by being chronically defensive, yet they strongly believe that doing so saves it.

Adolescence and Increased Sensitivity to Social Teasing

At an age of growing insecurity, adolescents can put each other down to protect or feel better about themselves, meanly teasing when they do.

At an age of growing insecurity, adolescents can put each other down to protect or feel better about themselves, meanly teasing when they do.

How Perfectionists Use Anxiety to Cope with Depression

Anxiety can be a compulsive activity, helping us avoid acknowledging shame and our existential predicaments.

Anxiety can be a compulsive activity, helping us avoid acknowledging shame and our existential predicaments.