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The Magic Formula for Managing Conflict

Do you struggle with conflict? Retaliating or giving in is not always the best strategy.

Do you struggle with conflict? Retaliating or giving in is not always the best strategy.

Dealing With the Devastation of a Schizophrenia Diagnosis

A Personal Perspective: Receiving a schizophrenia diagnosis can be devastating. Many are unaware they are sick, refusing medication, temporarily unable to work, and disjointed from friends.

A Personal Perspective: Receiving a schizophrenia diagnosis can be devastating. Many are unaware they are sick, refusing medication, temporarily unable to work, and disjointed from friends.

The Five Phases of Divorce Grief

No one brings a lasagna when a marriage dies, and yet people facing divorce must grieve both their past relationship and their future together.

No one brings a lasagna when a marriage dies, and yet people facing divorce must grieve both their past relationship and their future together.

A Great Ballplayer, a Not So Great Person

Ted Williams was one of the greatest all-time ballplayers. But he was a single-minded, angry, difficult person. This raises the question: What do you want out of life?

Ted Williams was one of the greatest all-time ballplayers. But he was a single-minded, angry, difficult person. This raises the question: What do you want out of life?

The Folly of Falling in Love Too Quickly

A paramour who seems too good to be true probably is, especially after a first date. Beware the rapture of emophilia—in love with falling in love.

A paramour who seems too good to be true probably is, especially after a first date. Beware the rapture of emophilia—in love with falling in love.

How to Be a Safe Space for Others

Neuroscience-backed strategies to be a better listener and compassionate communicator.

Neuroscience-backed strategies to be a better listener and compassionate communicator.

Intimacy: The "New Womb" of Our Development

Our closest relationships have enormous power to reveal the extent of our emotional development. Guided by these personal revelations, we can further our growth.

Our closest relationships have enormous power to reveal the extent of our emotional development. Guided by these personal revelations, we can further our growth.

Why Sex After 40 Might Surprise You, in the Best Way

Think your best sex is behind you? Think again. Midlife might just be the key to deeper, hotter, more satisfying intimacy.

Think your best sex is behind you? Think again. Midlife might just be the key to deeper, hotter, more satisfying intimacy.

'Mokita': The Quiet Lies We Live With

"Mokita" is the Papua New Guinea word that describes shushed truths. We come by self-deception honestly, all in the name of emotional comfort. Let's talk about it, shall we?

"Mokita" is the Papua New Guinea word that describes shushed truths. We come by self-deception honestly, all in the name of emotional comfort. Let's talk about it, shall we?

Who Can We Blame for Our Troubles?

Rise above blame and get back into the driver's seat.

Rise above blame and get back into the driver's seat.

The Myth of the Isolated Mind

The idea that the mind is an individual entity and psychological suffering is something gone wrong inside of us is flawed. We need a relational understanding instead.

The idea that the mind is an individual entity and psychological suffering is something gone wrong inside of us is flawed. We need a relational understanding instead.

The Six Strategies of Pathologically Controlling Partners

Feeling trapped by a partner’s love-bombing, threats, or control? Explore the deeper fears driving their behavior—and how you can finally break free.

Feeling trapped by a partner’s love-bombing, threats, or control? Explore the deeper fears driving their behavior—and how you can finally break free.

Strengthen Your Relationship in 60 Minutes

Having a “State of the Union” meeting can reinforce your bond with your partner. Here's how to get started.

Having a “State of the Union” meeting can reinforce your bond with your partner. Here's how to get started.

Did You Used to Love Sex but Dread It Now?

If you're nostalgic for the days when you and your partner were "always" ready and willing, don't despair.

If you're nostalgic for the days when you and your partner were "always" ready and willing, don't despair.

When Relationships Feel Like a Rollercoaster

Why do people with BPD have such unstable relationships?

Why do people with BPD have such unstable relationships?

There Is No Small Talk

Personal Perspective: Think small talk is meaningless? It can be. But from weather to vacation itineraries, these tiny chats can open to real connection—if we stay with them.

Personal Perspective: Think small talk is meaningless? It can be. But from weather to vacation itineraries, these tiny chats can open to real connection—if we stay with them.

3 Ways Contempt Hides Within Humor in Relationships

Is your partner laughing with you, or laughing at you?

Is your partner laughing with you, or laughing at you?

How to Boost Relationship Satisfaction and Prevent Divorce

A recent study examined 46 relationship investment tactics and evaluated their effectiveness in enhancing relationship satisfaction.

A recent study examined 46 relationship investment tactics and evaluated their effectiveness in enhancing relationship satisfaction.

Does More Sex Equal Relationship Bliss?

How often should you have sex to reap the greatest benefit for your relationship? Science may have an answer—and it’s probably less often than you think.

How often should you have sex to reap the greatest benefit for your relationship? Science may have an answer—and it’s probably less often than you think.

Desire Discrepancy and the Meaning We Make of It

Discover a rubric for interrupting negative meaning-making.

Discover a rubric for interrupting negative meaning-making.

Reflective Listening to Enhance Relationships

Reflective listening allows humans to fall into a symbiotic biological state of sharing and exploring with a win-win communication volley of whatever is ready to emerge.

Reflective listening allows humans to fall into a symbiotic biological state of sharing and exploring with a win-win communication volley of whatever is ready to emerge.

The Three Travelers We Meet in Grief

Personal Perspective: Connections that shaped my healing journey through grief.

Personal Perspective: Connections that shaped my healing journey through grief.

3 Ways Boundaries Can Backfire

Some well-intentioned boundaries can lead to disconnection and emotional walls.

Some well-intentioned boundaries can lead to disconnection and emotional walls.

Gen Z, Romantasy, Anime Porn and Chatbots

AI can appear to offer sexually what humans aren’t providing right now: safety, non-judgement, and privacy.

AI can appear to offer sexually what humans aren’t providing right now: safety, non-judgement, and privacy.

More Sex, Longer Life: Coincidence? Or Cause and Effect?

Several studies show an association between sexual frequency and longevity. There's additional evidence that it's likely cause and effect.

Several studies show an association between sexual frequency and longevity. There's additional evidence that it's likely cause and effect.

Trusting the Quiet Voice Within

Trusting our feelings is the foundation for self-awareness, self-confidence, and connection—especially when past invalidation makes it hard to honor our feelings and experience.

Trusting our feelings is the foundation for self-awareness, self-confidence, and connection—especially when past invalidation makes it hard to honor our feelings and experience.

What College Students Wish They Could Tell Their Parents

Students want parents to "give us a room to figure it out, but please be there for us."

Students want parents to "give us a room to figure it out, but please be there for us."

Infidelity in Relationships and Recovery in Couples Therapy

Why people cheat, how infidelity affects relationships, and how to recover.

Why people cheat, how infidelity affects relationships, and how to recover.

The Connection Between Honeymoon Phase and Attachment Styles

The honeymoon phase doesn’t tell you everything. Learn how your attachment style shapes your relationships and what to do if you want love that lasts.

The honeymoon phase doesn’t tell you everything. Learn how your attachment style shapes your relationships and what to do if you want love that lasts.

A Positive Spin on Student AI Use

Student AI use can grow trust between students and teachers and strengthen relationships if handled proactively.

Student AI use can grow trust between students and teachers and strengthen relationships if handled proactively.