Essential Reads

Malignant Narcissism and the Murder of a Parent

Loving parents, disturbed children and 12 approaches to the problem

How to Talk to Yourself

Speak to yourself using words that soothe and heal.

8 Negative Attitudes of Chronically Unhappy People

8 Negative Thoughts of Chronically Unhappy People

Recent Posts on Stress

Why You Should be More Grateful

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 01, 2015 in Hide and Seek
Despite its many benefits, gratitude is hard to cultivate.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

How I Try to Make My Work Life Healthy

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 28, 2015 in How To Do Life
We're working longer and harder. At least we can work healthier.

What Happened to Lunch?

By Susan M. Pollak MTS, Ed.D., on February 28, 2015 in The Art of Now
Why have we stopped eating lunch?

Aging Mindfully

By Christa Smith Psy.D. on February 28, 2015 in Shift
Aging Mindfully

The Bystander Effect

By Rosemary K.M. Sword on February 27, 2015 in The Time Cure
We’d all like to think that when we see something bad happening that we’d step forward to render aid. But in reality most of us don’t. And although some people won’t take the initiative to help, they will take the time to photograph or videotape the event and post it on the internet. Why?

Is Your Job Ruining Your Marriage?

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on February 27, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
Most of us have had the impulse to yell at our boss or even burst into tears at work—but we typically don’t, because we don’t want to get fired. But suppressing our emotions at work can have a big impact on our home lives. Here's why:

ADHD and Weed: What’s the Draw?

Does marijuana help with ADHD?

Study Finds Habits in Children Take Root by Age 9

By Rebecca Jackson on February 26, 2015 in School of Thought
The research is eye-opening for many parents who hope their children will eventually take on more responsibility. The evidence is clear; it's not happening without intervention. This article examines the new research and provides parents with an updated guide of age age appropriate responsibilities to build self-sufficiency in children.

How to Tidy Your Home Mindfully

By Marlynn Wei M.D., J.D. on February 26, 2015 in Urban Survival
Could the cluttered state of your home be holding you back? Marie Kondo's method of decluttering is about more than tidying the home—surrounding yourself with things that bring you joy can help you achieve a greater clarity and awareness of the mind, too.

Should Health Care Providers Joke About Patients?

By Jean Kim M.D. on February 26, 2015 in Culture Shrink
Medical Gallows Humor can help providers cope, but at what cost to the care provider-patient relationship?

An Integrative Approach to Wellness Really Works

I had a cerebral bleed causing me to black out resulting in a serious automobile collision. Months later I had brain surgery. I was told by my doctors I was permanently brain damaged. Determined to get better, I set out on my journey to regain my life. So I experimented with a variety of different approaches to treatment, and got better!

3 Reasons Your Kids Won't Take "No" For An Answer

By Erica Reischer Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in What Great Parents Do
The surprising truth about why your kids won't take "no" for an answer and what to do about it

How to Integrate Mindfulness Practices into the Classroom

By Azadeh Aalai Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in The First Impression
How may college students benefit if mindfulness practices are introduced into their classes?

Anxiety is a Mindfulness Problem

By Linda Esposito LCSW on February 25, 2015 in From Anxiety to Zen
Awareness is everything to anxiety. The solution isn’t identifying why you’re anxious—but recognizing the signs of anxiety before nervousness, panic and rapid breathing hijack your emotional wellness.

What Do Scientists Know About Finding a Purpose in Life?

By Todd B Kashdan Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in Curious?
Providing information on the science of a purpose in life. heavy, beautiful, and of paramount importance

What Makes it Easier to Be Kind to Strangers Than Loved Ones

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on February 24, 2015 in Off the Couch
Ann and Bob have been married for five years and, after trying to get pregnant for two years, have just had their first baby. Their friends and family are all thrilled for them. And while they are both excited to be parents at last, they are also exhausted, anxious and miserable.

Lashing Out: Why Do We Blame?

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on February 24, 2015 in The Dolphin Divide
The scapegoat psychology of snappy judgments. Our pressing need to vent the stress of negative emotions makes us prone to lash out, even at those who don’t really deserve our ire. But knee-jerk responses don’t always solve our long-term problems—and can even make the world stage a darker, more dangerous place in which to live.

New Sleep Guidelines to Keep Youth Healthy

By Richard Taite on February 24, 2015 in Ending Addiction for Good
Without regular age appropriate amounts of sleep, adolescents are at risk for developing a variety of conditions such as depression, anxiety, weight change, and sometimes insomnia.

How Leaders Should React When Someone Disappoints

By Peter Bregman on February 24, 2015 in How We Work
“What were you thinking?” The portfolio manager muttered a weak defense which the CEO promptly and easily tore to shreds. When the manager left his office, the CEO turned to me, exasperated. “How do you reverse a losing streak?” he asked. “Not like that,” I said.

Ebb and Flow

By Stephen Gray Wallace on February 24, 2015 in Decisions Teens Make
Overuse of technology by young people may result in distraction, stress and impaired performance. Help them find flow!

How to Tell if Your Child Is Depressed

If you’re waiting for your child to admit to being depressed, you’re going to be waiting a long time. Maybe too long. As parents, we need to be proactive and know the signs of childhood depression.

Malignant Narcissism and the Murder of a Parent

By Carrie Barron M.D. on February 24, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
This blog explores Malignant Narcissism and the damaging impact that it can have on family members and others.

Want to Damage Your Relationship? Here Are 2 Easy Ways

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in The New Resilience
Troubled couples who seek therapy often show patterns of withdrawal and silent expectation when dealing with conflict; a kind of dance that deepens the damage to their relationships. New research shows how that happens.

How to Slow Down Your Busy Life

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in Making Change
If you feel overwhelmed by the pace of your life, it is time that you slow it all down and take back control. It will make your life better and you happier. You can do this by using four basic approaches.

The Most Important Word You'll Ever Use

By Tim David on February 23, 2015 in The Magic of Human Connection
What if I told you you were completely ignoring THE most important word in the English language? What if ignoring this has been causing you undue pain and stress and creating tense situations with other people that could have easily been avoided? If you're like most people, you've been missing out on a key to success in life and you don't even know it.

How to Talk to Yourself

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on February 23, 2015 in Turning Straw Into Gold
When the going gets rough, I often speak to myself silently or softly in a soothing and compassionate voice. If I feel let down by a friend, I might repeat silently, “I feel hurt by her behavior but I mustn’t blame myself.” When I don’t deny that I feel bad, and even acknowledge it in a self-compassionate way, I’m better able to cope with disappointment and sorrow.

Good Reasons to Join the Mindfulness and Yoga Trend

By Temma Ehrenfeld on February 23, 2015 in Open Gently
You do have time to meditate--all you need is 12 minutes a day.

The Number #1 Rule for Fighting With Your Partner

Here's the number 1 rule to stop fighting that is going nowhere and even making things worse.

Discovering Peace of Mind

By Leon Pomeroy Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in Beyond Good and Evil
I became the person I always wanted to be