Essential Reads

"Hey This Isn't A Competition And You Have Cooties So I Win"

88 ways to get the dangerously decisive last word

Stop Thinking Positively

The secret to accomplishing the impossible.

5 Psychological Lessons from Marathon Running

The psychology of pushing your limits.

Four Ways to Foster Ethics in College Athletics

College athletics can be an excellent venue to nurture ethics and character.

Recent Posts on Sport and Competition

Smartphones for Dummies—and Young People

You've hemmed and you've hawed, but finally you've given in and bought your child a smartphone. Now, the challenge begins: how do you ensure that he or she uses it wisely? Here are 10 guidelines to promote respectful, responsible use of your child’s new gadget.

5 Neuroscience Based Ways to Clear Your Mind

This blog post offers five easy ways to clear your mind of unwanted thoughts based on the latest neuroscience.

Reframing Parent-Child Time Can Reduce Stress

Mentally reframing how you think about parent-child time can lessen stress and help you better appreciate the time you spend with your child.

Sex Is Disgusting But We Keep Doing It

Disgust and sexual arousal seem at odds with each other but they're also more closely related than you might think.

12 Keystone Principles That Bolster Resilience

These 12 keystone principles will increase your resilience and help you stay brave in the face of adversity.

Meet Danielle Meitiv: Fighting for Her Kids’ Rights

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on April 11, 2015 Freedom to Learn
Danielle and Alexander Meitiv have been giving their children some of the same freedom that they themselves enjoyed as children, in a world that is safer than the one in which they grew up. As a consequence, they have been visited by police, and the county Child Protective Services have threatened to take their children away. Here is my interview with Danielle.

Is Competition Between Men Healthy?

In moderation, competition is a normal, healthy human expression and way to strengthen ourselves. But it is not uncommon for competition to be taken to extremes, and manipulated to feed a man’s ego. If left unaddressed, unhealthy competitiveness can lead to detrimental relationships and other long-term problems for men.

Let’s Play: How the Science of the Brain Is Changing Therapy

I recently attended a conference at UCLA entitled: Play, Creativity, Mindfulness and Neuroscience in Psychotherapy. The conference offered an approach that has been gaining increasing importance, namely that: “Throughout the lifespan, play supports neurological growth and development while building complex, skilled, flexible, responsive and socially adept brains."

Do Sleep Issues in Teens Predict Drug and Alcohol Problems?

By Michael J Breus Ph.D. on April 09, 2015 Sleep Newzzz
Despite their seemingly boundless energy—and propensity to stay up late at night—teens need more sleep than adults.

Evidence? We Don't Need No Stinkin' Evidence!

By Alfie Kohn on April 07, 2015 The Homework Myth
It's possible to prove that rewards and punishments aren't effective in the long run. But what if defenses of these practices are rooted more in ideology than psychology?

There is No Formula or Timetable for Athletic Success

Wouldn't it be great if sports had a formula that you could follow to be successful? Imagine if you had a list of things you simply needed to do (for example: get into shape, hone your technical and tactical skills, get your equipment dialed in,) and, voila, you would have a 100 percent chance of performing your best and getting the results you want.

Five Easier Tips for Time Management

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 03, 2015 How To Do Life
Most poor managers of time are insufficiently motivated to follow the usual recommendations.

Pressure & The Final Four

If you're going to bet on The Final Four, you best read this first!

Reducing Pressure Anxiety: The Art Of Depressurization

If you feel like you live in a pressure cooker, it's time to depressurize!

How to Find a Husband if You Only Have 60 Seconds

Science says it can be done if you put your faith in statistics

6 Traits of Successful People

Embracing and enacting these six traits will lead you along the same path to success as the notable individuals throughout history.

Stress and the Gender Gap

By Shimi Kang M.D. on March 31, 2015 The Dolphin Way
Less than 200 years ago, women were faced with fighting for their fundamental civil rights. The right to vote, attend university, a pension, play contact sports, earn minimum wage, the list goes on. Today, despite being the closest we have ever been to equality in North American history, women are now fighting an entirely different battle against a silent killer: stress.

5 Epic April Fool’s Pranks and the Psychology Behind Them

There are psychological reasons why we fall for April Fool's pranks, and these 5 are among the best.

High School and Beyond

As a parent, you understand the desire to help your child succeed in the world and have the best future possible. Many parents dream their child will be successful, obtain postsecondary education, excel academically and most of all: find a career that is rewarding and satisfying. After all, isn't that the American dream?

The Facts of (Business) Life

Is the Business School degree the ideal passport to health, wealth and happiness?

The Important Lesson in March Madness

By Kory Floyd Ph.D. on March 29, 2015 Affectionado
March Madness reminds us that winning and losing are a natural part of life. We should teach our children the same.

Pressure Anxiety: A Contemporary Plague

Pressure Anxiety---if you don't have it, chances are great you know many who do!

The Case of the Incentivized Applicant

How much is a job interview worth?

Who Participates in Dog-sporting Events and Why?

Although people can be highly competitive in the various dog-sports, recent research shows that internal motives and social benefits are more important than trophies and accolades.

The Effective, Ethical, and Less Stressful Job Interview

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 25, 2015 How To Do Life
You risk failure if you sit there passively and give canned answers.

March Madness

Students and parents rarely consider that they might need mental health services during college and often urgently. For this reason, they would be well advised to include the quality and availability of mental health services along with traditional considerations as they decide on the college of their choice.

Yes, You Can Get Addicted to Exercise

For approximately 3 percent of the population, striving to stay fit does them more harm than good.

Are You a Free-Range Parent? You Should Be

Children need to have the freedom to explore their worlds on their own without parents acting like helicopters, always hovering around to "protect" them for the apparently dangerous world in which they now. Yet, our children are fenced in, literally and metaphorically, almost every moment of every day.

Pressure: Meet The Villain

Pressure downgrades your "cognitive success tools," compromises your ethics, makes you a damaging parent, and can destroy your marriage. You'd be wise to learn how to manage pressure.