Essential Reads

Do Christians Trust Muslims?

A surprising study of good faith

Dropping Your "Me" Story

How to stop taking your life so personally.

If You Judge People, You Have No Time To Love Them

Missing Out on Enjoying The People in Our Lives

5 Questions We Often Ask Ourselves After Microaggressions

The "Unseen and Unheard" internal dialogues that affect marginalized peoples.

Recent Posts on Spirituality

5 Ways to Deepen Relationships

It's easy to go to sleep in our important relationships; it's easy lose the connection without even realizing that that is happening. Here are 5 areas to bring mindfulness to so that our relationships can thrive.

Forgiveness and the Meaning of Memorial Day

We can forgive those who harm us, but we can't forgive those who kill us.

On the Battlefield of the Psyche

By Pythia Peay on May 25, 2015 in America On The Couch
Decker said, I once had an interview with the Tibetan Buddhist leader, the Dalai Lama. When I asked him for his advice on how to work with veterans he said . . first, they had to have some kind of spirituality. And secondly, they had to know that it was their job—their duty—to kill people. He also made a distinction between having to kill during war, and committing murder.

Why Are Christian Numbers Dropping?

By David Niose on May 23, 2015 in Our Humanity, Naturally
The rise of religiously unaffiliated 'Nones' is sometimes explained as a reaction to the religious right, but there's more to it than that.

Clark Strand: Are you addicted to light?

By Jennifer Haupt on May 21, 2015 in One True Thing
Waking up to the dark was viewed as a nightly blessing before the introduction of artificial light. That restless dread so many of us feel in the middle of the night is a byproduct of our artificially lengthened days and the amount of wattage we've taken in through information, advertising, news alerts, and actual light.

What Keeps You From Being Unconditionally Self-Accepting?

The desire to become your personal best is normal—and it’s admirable. But wanting to become better than others, not so much . . . maybe not at all. For, so defined, this particular goal reflects an inflated, aggressive, and possibly domineering ego. If you genuinely see yourself as unique—for, after all, there’s never been anybody exactly like you, then . . .

The Power of Awe: A Sense of Wonder Promotes Loving-Kindness

A new study led by researchers at the University of California reports that having a sense of wonder and being in awe of something greater than oneself promotes loving-kindness and prosocial behavior.

3 Reasons Why Intuition is a Sacred Gift

Give your intuition a chance and you'll give yourself the biggest gift of your life.

Can't Sit Still? You Are Not Alone

A friend laughed with relief when I told her how noisy my mind is when I step outside intending to sit and listen to birdsong. She thought she was the only one who could barely quiet her mind enough to sit still. I find that the fresh air, earth aromas, and the bird chorus are there for a moment or two and then all that I am trying to savor drops away.

Synchronicity Can Signal Love Moments or Breakthroughs

Creating the environment that allows for you to aware of how synchronicity and its cousin, serendipity, can enrich your life.

The Hazard of Coasting in Your Partnership

We often coast in our important relationships rather than pay attention. Avoiding a slippery slope toward disconnection means being mindful of when we’re unwisely coasting.

Goddesses: What Are Their Origins and Roles?

A recent birthday celebration reminded me of the importances of goddesses in our lives. We are different goddesses depending upon where we are in the life cycle. Athena, for example, puts career first, Hera puts marriage first, Artemis is the goddess of the hunt and saves other women and Aphrodite is the sensual lover. The wise woman arrives later in life.

How To Connect To Your Audience (Even After You’re Dead)

Your stone is your closing number, summing it all up, an eternal Facebook page. Your life is your Message. If ever there was a place to put “The Message of You,” it’s on your gravestone!

Clergy as Counselor

Clergy are usually the first to know when painful psychological problems come up for people. Michelle Friedman, MD helps us understand the value of religious leadership and what clergy need to learn to fulfill their calling. Good counseling, after all, is also a Godsend. But, it often requires extra training.

Give Your Mind a Rest: Practice Not-Thinking

Discursive thinking—the constant stream of one thought following another—is a deeply ingrained habit. It’s so ingrained that we often start thinking just to occupy our minds.

Is There Ever Just One Side To A Story?

By Allison Carmen on May 18, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
Sometimes it's hard to imagine how someone else could have another perspective when we feel so right about how we perceive a situation. But if we are willing to pause and think about why the other person feels the way that they do, we might open our hearts a bit and realize MAYBE there is more to the situation than meets the eye.

Do Christians Trust Muslims?

Does the apparent increase in religious tension between Muslims and Christians adversely affect trust between the two groups. A new study sheds light with both surprising and reassuring results.

Christianity Declining, Secularism Rising

There are fewer Christians and more non-religious Americans than ever before. This is good news, for several reasons.

Waking Up To the Dark: Ancient Wisdom for a Sleepless Age

By Mark Matousek on May 11, 2015 in Ethical Wisdom
Clark Strand's brilliant new book, Waking Up To the Dark: Ancient Wisdom for a Sleepless Age is a life-changer. Most of us have little to no idea what a transformative -- sometimes damaging -- effect the incandescent life bulb has had on human life. We've lost the healing, and spiritual, power of darkness -- to say nothing of our natural sleep patterns.

Memorial Day: A Gift That Keeps On Giving

We all need general convictions that give meaning to our life and enable us to find a place for ourselves in the larger universe. The spirit that boils from our good choices and sacrifices cannot and must not be extinguished during our dark times, yet we are reminded every day that darkness is at our doorstep.

What Do You Do When Hope Shows Up?

When hope shows up, support it however you can.

The Good Divorce Story

By Wendy Paris on May 05, 2015 in Splitopia
When facing divorce, many people struggle almost as much from narrative disconnect as from the logistical changes. Their story about what should have happened plagues them almost as much as the facts themselves. Rewriting the narrative is not only necessary, but also can be powerful.

Geography of Aging and the Illusion of Self

By Mario D Garrett PhD on May 04, 2015 in iAge
There is no "me". My body is a fusion of the outside world and an internal reality. The distinction between me and them is purely a creation of my mind. The separation comes as an afterthought. My mind creates this dualism, but in reality my body is fused with the geography and behavior of others around. The sense of self is how the body placates me.

Connect, Act, Evolve

What is today's non-religious approach to community?

The Six "Caring Words" that Block Intimacy

You want to empathize. But these six words can leave your partner, friend, or sister feeling terribly alone.

A Spiritual Life with a Psychology to Match

Spiritual people, spiritual psychology: hope for the future.

Nuclear Weapons R'Us - Not!

It takes wisdom, compassion and courage to lay down weapons and offer friendship to those we have formerly mistaken as enemies.

A Workover: Coping with a Co-Worker Who Drives You Nuts

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 02, 2015 in How To Do Life
Advice I gave to a caller to my NPR-San Francisco radio program.

Stop Working On Yourself and Start Growing in a Deeper Way!

The article explores how our attitude toward personal growth can hold us back. The expression "I'm working on myself" might foster a self-critical vigilance that impedes our growth rather than furthers it. Perhaps paradoxically, it is when we accept ourselves just as we are that we create a more reliable foundation for personal growth.

A Path To Less Suffering

By Allison Carmen on May 01, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
So what is the key to internal freedom and joy? In a word, it is acceptance. Acceptance does not change your passion or need for change, but allows you to “show up” in the moment with peace about what is, and strength and focus to make things different.