Essential Reads

The Art of Farming

Why dance when the corn plants are wilting?

Do You Forgive and When Should You?

Psychological facts to consider before you decide whether to forgive

How to Talk About Religious Beliefs Without Sounding Silly

Plural is proper in light of the real religious landscape

Are You Numb to Pleasure? How to See Life with New Eyes

The key is we have to see everything in life, even our health, as a gift.

Recent Posts on Spirituality

Spiritual Beings on a Human Journey—Remembering Our Stardust

Something in us already knows that we are spiritual beings on a human journey, not just finite and little me-s. So what gets in the way of our remembering our infinite nature, our stardust. How to not forget who we really are...

The Unveiling

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 06, 2015 in How To Do Life
A Jewish tradition with lessons for us all.

The Most Beautiful Flowers on Earth: A Spiritual Experience

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 03, 2015 in How To Do Life
Staring at a flower can be a spiritual experience for atheists...or anyone else.

Reflections on the Soul of Washington, D.C.

By Pythia Peay on July 02, 2015 in America On The Couch
"In my view, Washington is the spiritual center of the country. I don't mean that in terms of a church or beliefs. I mean that in the very real sense of a religious way of being." Thomas Moore

The Wisdom Mind of Love

It is worth stopping regularly for a period of reflection, to reconcile our 'everyday' mind with our 'wisdom' mind, to avoid the build-up of painful and destructive emotions like anxiety, anger, sadness, hate and greed.

Hunkering Down

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 01, 2015 in How To Do Life
Finding contentment if, in our so-called improving economy, you're still struggling.

The Art of Farming

The corn did not look good. The transplants were bending over sideways. What good would it do to dance?

No More Tears

It will be a year ago tomorrow that my mom left this world. Even though I believe that she is happy and at peace, I still want her here with me NOW.The heartbreak of loss seems to be a fundamental, inescapable aspect of the human condition. When we take the risk of caring about another living being, we set ourselves up for eventual loss. What can compare to that pain?

Do You Forgive and When Should You?

From our partner not doing their share of the chores to infidelity, brutal mass murder and everything in between, there are many times in life when we are called on to forgive (or not). Consider these psychological facts before making your personal decision about forgiveness.

Seven Reasons We Are Captivated by the Number Seven

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on June 27, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
Why do we find the number 7 so alluring and fascinating? It turns out seven is our favorite number for a broad variety of reasons--seven of them.

How to Talk About Religious Beliefs Without Sounding Silly

By Guy P. Harrison on June 25, 2015 in About Thinking
We are a god-creating species. We should recognize this in our discussions and debates about religion. It is inaccurate, confusing, and dishonest to frame general belief issues in the context of one god.

Are You Numb to Pleasure? How to See Life with New Eyes

We can have the most amazing life, if we live in the present moment without being attached or focused on the future; not being stuck in the past, just living in the now and seeing everything with those beginner eyes.

Coping with Loneliness: Finding Your Way Out of the Dark

Loneliness can be so agonizing that it often presses us to seek a quick remedy, something to numb the pain. Here are a few suggestions to help you make your way back out of the darkness without introducing new regrets.

Thoughts Wandering in an Estonian Cemetery

Do Estonians, because of their surnames, feel more closely connected to nature? And what would happen if the dead wrote their own inscriptions on gravestones?

Keeping the Faith With Cindy Williams

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on June 25, 2015 in Brick by Brick
Cindy Williams of TV's "Laverne and Shirley" shares how her devout faith in G-d has shaped the person that she is today.

What Would the Buddha Do?

By David P. Barash Ph.D. on June 24, 2015 in Pura Vida
It's a kind of dog-car problem: a dog who chases cars eventually catches one. What does he do with it? Similarly, when we catch a violent perpetrator, what should we do with him?

Do Parts of How You Are Bother You or Others?

By Dan Mager MSW on June 24, 2015 in Some Assembly Required
Reactions driven by personality challenges are unconscious and automatic, like a reflex. You don’t think about it, it just happens... However, we can learn and develop the skills to respond to other people and situations intentionally with conscious awareness, rather than react on impulse.

Getting Intentionally Lost Later in Life

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on June 23, 2015 in Listen Up!
As we age, taking a Time Out can be crucial to vital involvement in our life. How to create a space where we can renew and rediscover ourselves?

Beyond Atheism

By Eric Dietrich Ph.D. on June 22, 2015 in Excellent Beauty
Atheism, then, doesn’t really get at the heart of the matter. It is not that there are no gods or goddesses, but rather that there are no religions.

Tikkun Olam

By Robert J Landy Ph.D. on June 22, 2015 in Couch and Stage
In response to a previous blog of a very troubling dream about my attempt to sew together the head and body of two decapitated figures, my friend describes a transformational journey to Vienna where he is transfixed by the Rubens painting of Mary removing a thorn from the head of Jesus and discovers the meaning of Tikkun Olam, repairing of the world.

A Liberal Believer

The difference between the words ‘religion’ and ‘spiritual’

Seeking Solitude but Finding Loneliness: Five Wrong Turns

Many of us feel the need to seek out solitude. Recently, though, I’ve been learning that this quest for time alone can be a gamble. Sometimes, when all that I’m seeking is a little solitude, I can take a wrong turn somewhere and find myself way out in a lonely place. Here are five wrong turns that might take us away from solitude and toward loneliness.

Zen and the Art of Herding Cats

Finding the present moment may involve herding some cats.

My Religion Is Kindness

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on June 17, 2015 in Finding True Refuge
One of the wonderful teachings of the Dalai Lama, something he says quite regularly, is “My religion is kindness.” When we hear that, it resonates, because it points to something at the core of all spiritual and humanistic paths. If we just dedicated our lives to kindness, to the qualities of friendliness and care, we would be directly serving peace on earth.

Which Buddhist Teachings Might Be Most Helpful?

Examine the teachings in light of your understanding of what is harmful and leads to suffering, and what is beneficial and leads to peace and well-being. I think of myself as an eclectic Buddhist, meaning that I study, practice, and write about whatever I think is beneficial and alleviates suffering, regardless of which tradition it comes from.

Stories of Seclusion: A Cloistered Nun

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 14, 2015 in How To Do Life
A composite story of a woman who chose to enter an "enclosed" order of nuns.

Stories of Seclusion: An Episodic Recluse

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 12, 2015 in How To Do Life
An installment of a series on people who choose to spend much time alone.

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How to Increase Your Lifespan By 2 Years

Living longer doesn't necessarily mean you have to make major changes to your diet or your exercise routine.

The 7 Killers of Hope

Hail yee of little faith, belief, nada, nada, nada...