Essential Reads

Is Friendship in Decline?

Does social media spell the end of intimate friendship?

Theo Fleury Is Teaching Us How to Heal

Hockey great explains power of conversation

Get Out of Yourself

Put your mind on something else, or your troubles will take up the whole world.

One Way to Use Someone Else to Strengthen Your Good Habits

Some people create accountability by pulling another person into the process.

Recent Posts on Spirituality

The Big Mistakes of Religion and Secularism

People have a choice about religion and spirituality: to conform more or less rigidly to accepted teaching, or to think and act independently. Both bring problems, but the issues resolve spontaneously as we grow more mature and find a true set of values to follow

Understanding Why You Can’t Get to Sleep

Education and alternative therapies can provide healthy solutions to sleep abnormalities. Talk to a healthcare professional for additional information about getting a proper night’s sleep, safely and naturally.

A Reflection on Extreme Prejudice and Violence

By Andy Tix Ph.D. on March 04, 2015 in The Pursuit of Peace
It is painful to passively accept the extreme prejudice and violence being reported across the world. Reflecting on these incidents can help to raise awareness of similar tendencies around and within all of us. What can we do locally and in ourselves to counter prejudice and violence, and promote more peaceful and effective relations, particularly across different groups?

Is Friendship in Decline?

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on March 04, 2015 in The Prime of Life
Face-to-face conversations extending over decades is indeed evaporating.

Happiness With Life 6: Serve Yourself a Slice of Happiness

I don't care how physicists define time. Time, to me, is choice. This blog, Serve Yourself a Slice of Happiness, provides the mindsets and strategies to choose pleasure each and every day of our lives.

Does Happiness Lie Within?

By Steve Taylor Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Out of the Darkness
Consciousness has a natural quality of well-being which we tap into when our minds are quiet and empty

On Grief

The distinction between physical ‘pain’ and ‘psychological ‘grief’

Theo Fleury Is Teaching Us How to Heal

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in Brick by Brick
Former professional hockey player Theo Fleury is no stranger to confrontation, both on and off the ice. In 2009, he bravely and publicly confronted a very personal issue—sexual abuse and alcoholism. He explains how communication is pertinent to well-being, and even though the road ahead may not be easy, he truly believes that people can learn to heal.

Snow and the Choice of Joy

By Ran Zilca on March 02, 2015 in Confessions of a Techie
It’s all a matter of perspective, and the adult, practical perspective, sometimes even cynical, misses out on opportunities to experience such sheer joy.

Welcoming Emotions Into the Present Moment

We're often encouraged to be in the present moment. This article explores the hidden pitfalls of trying to be in the moment-- and discusses what is actually means to live in the present.

Get Out of Yourself

We are fortunate when something happens that extricates us from an excessive focus on ourselves. The hardest burden in life is self-centeredness.

Envy and Social Propinquity

Did you ever notice how you will envy those most like you in some important way? If you love chess you won't envy Yitzhak Perlman, just as if you play violin you won't envy Bobby Fisher. What is the deeper meaning beneath this phenomenon and how can it help us better understand those pangs of envy we sometimes feel?

Finding The Sweetness in LIfe Even When Times Are Tough

By Allison Carmen on February 28, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
I had just found out my mother had breast cancer, and I was walking to meet her for dinner. My mind was seized by the most frightening thoughts of losing my mother and what this illness would mean. All of a sudden, a beautiful breeze hit my face and an enveloping peace and joy ran through me. Was it okay for me to feel this joy when danger was looming over my family?

Waldeslust - Joy of the Forest

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on February 27, 2015 in One Among Many
Spending a little time in Nature can break the yoke of self-domestication and bring peace and happiness. Begin with a walk in the woods.

Kick the Bucket List

What is the difference between a bucket list and a five-year plan?

Addiction Speaks

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on February 27, 2015 in In Flux
Addiction comes in many shapes and forms. Not all addictions are alike in their severity and duration. Even those addictions that are less severe and less life-threatening can hold us in its clutches for years on end. This entry includes a letter written to Veronica by her "addict self." What emerges from our own depths and from our own will to heal is often poignant.

4 Keys to Great Sex

By Kimberly Key on February 27, 2015 in Counseling Keys
Sex with the wrong partner can have deleterious effects on your self-esteem. Learn the four keys to an awesome sex life.

Intimate Partner Abuse: Walk Away Before the Cycle Starts

We should never live in fear of the people who say they love us.

How People Quit Being High Maintenance

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 26, 2015 in Ambigamy
Holding our heads high is good an necessary, but higher than other heads is exhausting both for us and the people who have to deal with us. Here's an alternative.

An Integrative Approach to Wellness Really Works

I had a cerebral bleed causing me to black out resulting in a serious automobile collision. Months later I had brain surgery. I was told by my doctors I was permanently brain damaged. Determined to get better, I set out on my journey to regain my life. So I experimented with a variety of different approaches to treatment, and got better!

5 Steps from Fear to Freedom

By Lissa Rankin M.D. on February 25, 2015 in Owning Pink
The journey from fear to freedom, which is all about coming into right relationship with uncertainty, is a predictable journey, one that many have traveled before you and many will travel after you.

Should You Write With a Partner?

By Dennis Palumbo on February 25, 2015 in Hollywood on the Couch
Learn the pros and cons of writing with a partner.

How to Integrate Mindfulness Practices into the Classroom

By Azadeh Aalai Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in The First Impression
How may college students benefit if mindfulness practices are introduced into their classes?

Managing Pain Versus Recovering From Pain

By Scott Dehorty MSW, LCSW-C on February 25, 2015 in Chronic Pain 360
A pain management approach is frequently considered as the first line of attack when the degree of pain exceeds a person’s ability to cope on his or her own. When pain moves from the acute to the chronic stage, some people may continue with a pain management regimen because they’re unaware that other modalities exist.

One Way to Use Someone Else to Strengthen Your Good Habits

By Gretchen Rubin on February 25, 2015 in The Happiness Project
Because accountability is so important, I’m always looking for new, ingenious ways that people have created accountability.

Looking for the Right Relationship? Make a Plan!

Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and you’re still alone. Or maybe you’re just wishing you were alone because clearly you’re dating a total loser. Or maybe you’ve decided to address your long-standing dating dilemma with a bold new approach. If you’ve opted for the latter, read on.

What Do Scientists Know About Finding a Purpose in Life?

By Todd B Kashdan Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in Curious?
Providing information on the science of a purpose in life. heavy, beautiful, and of paramount importance

Do Friends Shame You For Not Believing Them?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in Ambigamy
We have freedom of speech, but we have to earn our audience and credibility. The sooner we realize this, the freer we become and the more responsibility we take for getting heard and winning hearts and minds.

Grow a Key Inner Strength

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Use these four questions help grow inner strengths. 1) What's the issue? 2) What psychological resource - inner strength - if it were more present in your mind, would really help with this issue? 3) How could you have experiences of this inner strength? 4) How could you help this experience of the inner strength really sink in to you?

Confusing How and Why Is Prolonging The Suffering in Bipolar

By Tom Wootton on February 23, 2015 in Bipolar Advantage
If you want to end all suffering you need to understand the difference between why and how. The reason so many people are still suffering is because this difference has not been made clear enough.