Essential Reads

Waiting for the Haiku in Mindfulness

Have we taken the bones out of Dogen so that we can pick our teeth?

Playfulness Is a Spiritual Practice

Playfulness is a reverse martial art. A peaceful art, the art of peace itself.

Fundamentalist Christianity and Child Abuse: A Taboo Topic

A former fundamentalist minister speaks out.

Gray Must Remain Our Sacred Space

In response to the Paris attacks, we must embrace tolerance and multiple truths.

Recent Posts on Spirituality

Giving Thanks for the Gift of Time

Death was close, but for some reason, now was not my time.

Waiting for the Haiku in Mindfulness

By Thomas Hills Ph.D. on November 26, 2015 Statistical Life
Mindfulness can be about a personal and experimental exploration of reality that is not about saving yourself, but rather experiencing your self. Realizing that the "explanation for you" is not only the finger your mind constantly points at itself, but something undefinably larger and more personal at the same time.

Author Claims Borderline Disorder Behavior is "Sinful"

By Randi Kreger on November 25, 2015 Stop Walking on Eggshells
A Christian therapist/author writes that's "God’s Word holds the solution and his Spirit alone can heal the havoc of borderline personality disorder." She thinks that this scriptural perspective though "tough love" offers hope to people who have BPD.

Seven Simple Ways to Fight the Holiday Blues

By Jennifer Haupt on November 25, 2015 One True Thing
During this season of giving, it's often the small gifts and everyday gestures of kindness that matter most. Here are 7 low or no-cost ways to help you find your holiday spirit.

How to Save the World

Could the same nightmares we fear possibly also be the soul-stimuli that we need to grow in compassion and love?

Releasing the Barriers to Love: An Interview with Tara Brach

By Mark Matousek on November 24, 2015 Ethical Wisdom
What is the role of radical acceptance in intimate relationships? Why is spaciousness necessary for deep connection? Is it possible to be committed without attachment? How can we set our beloved free without losing trust?

Cooking Up More Gratitude This Thanksgiving

By Jaime L. Kurtz Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Happy Trails
Feeling grateful isn't always easy.

Playfulness Is a Spiritual Practice

By Bernard L. De Koven on November 23, 2015 On Having Fun
Being playful, the very understanding of the purpose of games is redefined. Games are no longer about winning or even about cooperating. They are all and only about celebrating our capacity for having fun together.

How Gratitude Leads to a Happier Life

Gratitude has been shown to have many benefits in terms of our health, happiness, satisfaction with life and the way we relate to others. It goes hand in hand with mindfulness in its focus on the present and appreciating what we have now, rather than wanting more and more. Learn research-based strategies to be more grateful.

We Are Becoming Gods

By Mario D Garrett PhD on November 21, 2015 iAge
While we are behaving more like gods, we are learning that we are less human.

What Does "Agnostic" Mean?

By Phil Zuckerman Ph.D. on November 20, 2015 The Secular Life
There are some things we just may never know. Deal with it.

Our Hidden Fear of Acceptance

While the fear of rejection is understandable, the fear of acceptance is less visible. The article explores how this more subtle fear operates. Being mindful of how we fear acceptance can open to door to a deeper capacity to receive the love and caring that is available.

Fundamentalist Christianity and Child Abuse: A Taboo Topic

How does fundamentalist religion affect our children?

When God Was a Big Old Man in the Sky, Part 2

Sometimes you have to go into the wilderness.

3 Ways to Be Happy in Unrequited Love

By definition, an unreturned love is one-sided. But doubtless, the experience itself embodies two sides. On the upside, you’re enthralled, charmed, and captivated by the beloved. Your passion for them is exhilarating: an incomparable high. Regrettably, the downside of such ardor is every bit as intense—replete with agonizing feelings of loneliness, misery, and despair...

Who Should Help Pay for Yoga?

By Marlynn Wei M.D., J.D. on November 17, 2015 Urban Survival
Here are four reasons why health insurers should pay attention to yoga programs and help us pay for them.

The Continuous Nature of Awe

By Andy Tix Ph.D. on November 16, 2015 The Pursuit of Peace
The emotion of awe fascinates as much as it confounds. Usually, awe is presented as an either / or phenomenon. Conceptualizing awe as a continuous variable, with different levels of strength possible, may clarify the concept and provide individuals with different applications to life enrichment.

A Bigger Take-Away From Paris

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on November 16, 2015 Ambigamy
In holier than thou competition, the absolutely holy become holy terrors.

Gray Must Remain Our Sacred Space

By Tim Leberecht on November 16, 2015 The Romance of Work
Gray is the stance against a bipolar world, with extreme claims and exponential implications. Living in gray means living uncomfortably in the middle, but it also means living in tolerance and peace. It means commuting between two worlds and leading a double, a poetic life. It means being able to love, to feel everything but not know anything at all.

Can Altruism Go Too Far?

By Jennifer Haupt on November 16, 2015 One True Thing
"One thing that sets extreme do-gooders apart is their willingness to ignore convention. These are people who are morally passionate, relentless, and incredibly stubborn—they invent lives that don’t make much sense to those around them."

Is Virtual Virtue a Virtue or a Vice?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on November 15, 2015 Ambigamy
If you're a little troubled by the lightweight gesture of simply Praying for Paris, Je suis Charlie, or just clicking to superimpose the French Flag on our Facebook pictures, you're tapping into an old concern, whether little gestures are empty or useful.

Have to? Should? Could? Will?

Caught up in the "too much" world, we may find ourselves living unconsciously, doing, doing doing. But take a moment and imagine what you might do in any moment. Sit with possibilities. And then, feeling into your own knowing, make a choice.

The Know-It-All's Code

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on November 10, 2015 Ambigamy
Life is hard and complex but it doesn't have to feel that way. Follow the Troll Code and you can have all the smug self-satisfaction you want.

Co-opting and Redefining Religious Words by the Nonreligious

By John A. Johnson Ph.D. on November 10, 2015 Cui Bono
Philosophical naturalism denies the existence of supernatural entities such as angels, demons, elves, fairies, ghosts, gods, souls, and spirits, except as figments of imagination. How is it possible, then, that some naturalists describe themselves as "spiritual" and describe some aspects of nature as "sacred?"

Starbucks and the Real War on Christmas

Please stop co-opting the Christian faith for your culture war. Most of us want nothing to do with it.

How to Make Every Day Feel Sacred

If we have always been able to walk, can we feel awe for the act of walking? Experiencing the profound inside the mundane.

What If Your Most Cherished Ideals Collide?

Being true to yourself is all well and good. It certainly sounds crucial. But there are times when doing so is far easier said than done. For one of your most treasured ideals may not always jibe with another. In such instances you can find yourself, almost literally, torn in two—simultaneously trying to honor both these seminal values when they’re mutually exclusive....

The Search For Meaning

The vast majority of humans need some meaning to our lives beyond acquiring, consuming and devouring. The search for meaning might be a belief in a benevolent, omniscient God, but spiritual states and beliefs exist for non-believers as well. That Search for a Sense of Believing (along with Being, Belonging and Benevolence) enables us to fulfill and evaluate our lives.

When Seeking Pleasure Turns Into Emotional Pain

By Allison Carmen on November 04, 2015 The Gift of Maybe
There is nothing wrong with desires and pleasure seeking; it is perfectly normal to want wonderful things and experiences. But longing to repeat an experience that has already happened is a type of pleasure-seeking that can leave us feeling miserable. Our minds become so focused on repeating a past experience that we that we can’t appreciate the new moment we are in.

The Game of Prui

By Bernard L. De Koven on November 03, 2015 On Having Fun
If you wish to understand the meaning of community, try walking around with your eyes closed.