Essential Reads

One Way to Use Someone Else to Strengthen Your Good Habits

Some people create accountability by pulling another person into the process.

Object Permanence In Adult Life

If I offer to "be there for somebody," I do expect it to be on my own terms.

Hyper-Mentalism, Hyper-Empathizing, and Supernatural Belief

The diametric model predicts the cognitive configuration of superstition.

Recent Posts on Spirituality

Envy and Social Propinquity

Did you ever notice how you will envy those most like you in some important way? If you love chess you won't envy Yitzhak Perlman, just as if you play violin you won't envy Bobby Fisher. What is the deeper meaning beneath this phenomenon and how can it help us better understand those pangs of envy we sometimes feel?

Finding The Sweetness in LIfe Even When Times Are Tough

By Allison Carmen on February 28, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
I had just found out my mother had breast cancer, and I was walking to meet her for dinner. My mind was seized by the most frightening thoughts of losing my mother and what this illness would mean. All of a sudden, a beautiful breeze hit my face and an enveloping peace and joy ran through me. Was it okay for me to feel this joy when danger was looming over my family?

Waldeslust - Joy of the Forest

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on February 27, 2015 in One Among Many
Spending a little time in Nature can break the yoke of self-domestication and bring peace and happiness. Begin with a walk in the woods.

Kicking the Bucket List

What is the difference between a bucket list and a five-year plan?

Addiction Speaks

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on February 27, 2015 in In Flux
Addiction comes in many shapes and forms. Not all addictions are alike in their severity and duration. Even those addictions that are less severe and less life-threatening can hold us in its clutches for years on end. This entry includes a letter written to Veronica by her "addict self." What emerges from our own depths and from our own will to heal is often poignant.

4 Keys to Great Sex

By Kimberly Key on February 27, 2015 in Counseling Keys
Sex with the wrong partner can have deleterious effects on your self-esteem. Learn the four keys to an awesome sex life.

Intimate Partner Abuse: Walk Away Before the Cycle Starts

We should never live in fear of the people who say they love us.

How People Quit Being High Maintenance

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 26, 2015 in Ambigamy
Holding our heads high is good an necessary, but higher than other heads is exhausting both for us and the people who have to deal with us. Here's an alternative.

An Integrative Approach to Wellness Really Works

I had a cerebral bleed causing me to black out resulting in a serious automobile collision. Months later I had brain surgery. I was told by my doctors I was permanently brain damaged. Determined to get better, I set out on my journey to regain my life. So I experimented with a variety of different approaches to treatment, and got better!

5 Steps from Fear to Freedom

By Lissa Rankin M.D. on February 25, 2015 in Owning Pink
The journey from fear to freedom, which is all about coming into right relationship with uncertainty, is a predictable journey, one that many have traveled before you and many will travel after you.

Should You Write With a Partner?

By Dennis Palumbo on February 25, 2015 in Hollywood on the Couch
Learn the pros and cons of writing with a partner.

How to Integrate Mindfulness Practices into the Classroom

By Azadeh Aalai Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in The First Impression
How may college students benefit if mindfulness practices are introduced into their classes?

Managing Pain Versus Recovering From Pain

By Scott Dehorty MSW, LCSW-C on February 25, 2015 in Chronic Pain 360
A pain management approach is frequently considered as the first line of attack when the degree of pain exceeds a person’s ability to cope on his or her own. When pain moves from the acute to the chronic stage, some people may continue with a pain management regimen because they’re unaware that other modalities exist.

One Way to Use Someone Else to Strengthen Your Good Habits

By Gretchen Rubin on February 25, 2015 in The Happiness Project
Because accountability is so important, I’m always looking for new, ingenious ways that people have created accountability.

Looking for the Right Relationship? Make a Plan!

Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and you’re still alone. Or maybe you’re just wishing you were alone because clearly you’re dating a total loser. Or maybe you’ve decided to address your long-standing dating dilemma with a bold new approach. If you’ve opted for the latter, read on.

What Do Scientists Know About Finding a Purpose in Life?

By Todd B Kashdan Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in Curious?
Providing information on the science of a purpose in life. heavy, beautiful, and of paramount importance

Do Friends Shame You For Not Believing Them?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in Ambigamy
We have freedom of speech, but we have to earn our audience and credibility. The sooner we realize this, the freer we become and the more responsibility we take for getting heard and winning hearts and minds.

Grow a Key Inner Strength

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Use these four questions help grow inner strengths. 1) What's the issue? 2) What psychological resource - inner strength - if it were more present in your mind, would really help with this issue? 3) How could you have experiences of this inner strength? 4) How could you help this experience of the inner strength really sink in to you?

Confusing How and Why Is Prolonging The Suffering in Bipolar

By Tom Wootton on February 23, 2015 in Bipolar Advantage
If you want to end all suffering you need to understand the difference between why and how. The reason so many people are still suffering is because this difference has not been made clear enough.

What Exactly Is 'The Best Interest of the Child?', Part 2

When parents are asked about the essential needs of their children during and after parental separation, children’s emotional, psychological, social, moral and spiritual needs are seen to be of paramount importance. But what exactly are these “metaphysical” needs?

Love, Longing and Lust: The Pursuit of Happiness

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in The Empowerment Diary
Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe and sets humans apart from other species. The emotion invites us to transcend into altered states of consciousness which can be very transformative and result in feelings of empowerment.

What Exactly Is “The Best Interest of the Child”?

A truly child-focused approach positions children’s needs at the forefront of “best interests” considerations, along with corresponding parental and social institutional responsibilities to these needs.

The Sound Of Silence

By Lynne Soraya on February 21, 2015 in Asperger's Diary
I have recently come face-to-face with a fact about myself: I have a problem with silence. I’m not really sure why.

The Jews Are Going Extinct

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 21, 2015 in How To Do Life
Why that’s bad, why it’s coming, and how to stop it.

Object Permanence In Adult Life

Eye contact, a pat on the back, a smile of appreciation, and a shared laugh-out-loud of sheer pleasure are the best and most direct signals of communication, after all.

Mastering the Art of Relationship Yoga

You probably didn’t log on to this website to read about yoga, but trust me, there’s a connection between the subject at hand, and the theme of this blog, and that, in fact, is the point of this post, and the point of Yoga: Connection.

The Last Letter My Grandmother Ever Wrote

The trick is to live more watchfully.

Fake vs. True Forgiveness

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on February 20, 2015 in Evolution of the Self
Undeniably, forgiving others for their wrongs to you has many practical, as well as spiritual, advantages. But the problem is that too often it takes place in the head, rather than the heart. Primarily an intellectual act, it doesn’t go nearly far enough. Rational, logical, and objective, it assumes—wrongly—that mental effort alone can talk the heart out of its feelings.

Use 'One Good Thought' to Change Your Harmful Habit

By Meg Selig on February 20, 2015 in Changepower
To improve your life, connect with your core values. Try this simple, 5-minute technique right now!

Emotions As a Second Language - Or Should They Be Our First?

Emotional literacy is being able to feel and identify one’s feeling states. This fluency enhances emotional self-regulation, lessens over-reactivity to negative emotions such as anger, and is the basis of interpersonal emotional modulation.