Essential Reads

Dropping Your "Me" Story

How to stop taking your life so personally.

If You Judge People, You Have No Time To Love Them

Missing Out on Enjoying The People in Our Lives

5 Questions We Often Ask Ourselves After Microaggressions

The "Unseen and Unheard" internal dialogues that affect marginalized peoples.

The Macabre Side of Growing Up Catholic

Nothing like a little blood & guts to spice up a religion!

Recent Posts on Spirituality

Geography of Aging and the Illusion of Self

By Mario D Garrett PhD on May 04, 2015 in iAge
There is no "me". My body is a fusion of the outside world and an internal reality. The distinction between me and them is purely a creation of my mind. The separation comes as an afterthought. My mind creates this dualism, but in reality my body is fused with the geography and behavior of others around. The sense of self is how the body placates me.

Connect Act Evolve

What is today's non-religious approach to community?

The Six "Caring Words" that Block Intimacy

You want to empathize. But these six words can leave your partner, friend, or sister feeling terribly alone.

A Spiritual Life with a Psychology to Match

Spiritual people, spiritual psychology: hope for the future.

Nuclear Weapons R'Us - Not!

It takes wisdom, compassion and courage to lay down weapons and offer friendship to those we have formerly mistaken as enemies.

A Workover: Coping with a Co-Worker Who Drives You Nuts

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 02, 2015 in How To Do Life
Advice I gave to a caller to my NPR-San Francisco radio program.

Stop Working On Yourself and Start Growing in a Deeper Way!

The article explores how our attitude toward personal growth can hold us back. The expression "I'm working on myself" might foster a self-critical vigilance that impedes our growth rather than furthers it. Perhaps paradoxically, it is when we accept ourselves just as we are that we create a more reliable foundation for personal growth.

A Path To Less Suffering

By Allison Carmen on May 01, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
So what is the key to internal freedom and joy? In a word, it is acceptance. Acceptance does not change your passion or need for change, but allows you to “show up” in the moment with peace about what is, and strength and focus to make things different.

Why Loneliness Hurts So Much

Just we feel hunger when we haven't enough food, we feel affection hunger when our needs for connection go unmet. Close relationships aren’t a luxury, but a necessity. The need for social connection is innate, just like the need for food, sleep, and air.

Dropping Your "Me" Story

You are not experiencing suffering, you are suffering your experience.

Revisiting “Be Here Now”

Being here now is a term that is often misunderstood. Rather that use spiritual practice to avoid feelings, what would it mean to embrace our feelings?

Iran and Middle East in the Nuclear Age

US-Iranian nuclear deal in the Asian pivot: It’s complicated.

Good Faith

By Russ Gerber on April 22, 2015 in Our Health
Materialism or spirituality? Which way should you go? Which way can you count on?

A Dream of Decapitation

By Robert J Landy Ph.D. on April 20, 2015 in Couch and Stage
Two drama therapists discuss a dream about a beheading and an attempt to restore life. In doing so, they recount two mythological stories, one about the Golem of Prague and the other about a simple journey home. Through their dialogue they seek to understand the meaning of healing.

Spiritual Seekers: The Backstory

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on April 20, 2015 in The Empowerment Diary
Spiritual seekers are those who follow the path of self-discovery, a path that can be a lifelong path or one sought as a result of a life-changing event. I've been a seeker for my entire life. Seekers look to transform for themselves and also may choose to transform others, especially if they share their thoughts and/or findings.

Will You Be Openly Secular?

By David Niose on April 19, 2015 in Our Humanity, Naturally
Openly Secular Day aims to encourage nonbelievers to be open about their personal secularity.

Identifying with the “No-Self”

If we can live one moment at a time, we’ll free ourselves like a young child and we’ll discover life can be beautiful. The small changes add up and make a difference.

If You Judge People, You Have No Time To Love Them

By Allison Carmen on April 16, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
"If You Judge People, You Have No Time To Love Them." Mother Teresa Our judgments interfere with many of our relationships. Often we get so consumed with everything our spouse, child, friend or co-worker is not doing right, that we often forget to see what is special and wonderful about them.

Wired for Perfect Health

Your unconscious mind knows exactly what you need to be healthy. So why aren’t you?

What Do I Need in Order to Live the Way I Want?

There is an "in spite of" quality to pursuing what is most important in life.

Breaking Good

By Adi Jaffe Ph.D. on April 13, 2015 in All About Addiction
Coming face to face with your own shame and emotion about the past can be hard. This is me trying to do it in public.

5 Questions We Often Ask Ourselves After Microaggressions

Society’s awareness of microaggressions and its many expressions have increased over the past few years. The internal dialogues and psychological struggles that microaggressions cause marginalized people, however, are rarely discussed and remain largely “Unseen and Unheard” by the general public. I hope this helps.

Feeling Grateful and 'Paying it Forward'

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on April 13, 2015 in Media Spotlight
According to the "find, remind, and bind" theory of gratitude first proposed by psychologist Sara B. Algoe, gratitude plays a role in cementing the social bonds we have with other people. A new research study published in the journal Emotion suggests that grateful are more likely to copy body movements of those who help them which can help cement new relationships.

When a Sociopath Is Hell Bent on Destroying You

By Carrie Barron M.D. on April 13, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
Sociopaths (anti-social personality, psychopath) can decimate a life. The mental, emotional or physical trauma can be stunning. The aftermath of sociopathic is unique because the assault instills a dim world view, a shaky sense of safety and a feeling that one has been visited by evil. Here are 16 points of focus to begin recovery.

12 Keystone Principles That Bolster Resilience

These 12 keystone principles will increase your resilience and help you stay brave in the face of adversity.

Should You Become a Counselor or a Coach?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 12, 2015 in How To Do Life
An internal debate to elucidate the issues.

Worrying

By Joann P. Galst Ph.D. on April 12, 2015 in Fertility Factor
Uncertainty is one of the certainties of life. While difficult to cope with, there are ways to help yourself as you traverse your path to parenthood.

Your Ultimate Self-Care Assessment (with resources!)

Self-care is more than bubble baths. It's about how you approach each aspect of your life. Below are different categories of self-care with questions designed to help you reflect on how you're doing in each area. This isn't a tool to make you feel guilty. Approach these questions with gentleness and curiosity. Resources follow the questions. Enjoy!

The Baby Share

By Sharon Praissman on April 10, 2015 in Beyond the Egg Timer
Babies are born into families and communities. Although it can be anxiety inducing, allowing others to hold your baby benefits you, your baby, and the baby's fan club.

Happinesses

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on April 10, 2015 in One Among Many
I found 26 blog posts on happiness in my blog archive. Here’s a list of them with a brief statement of contents for each. Peace and happiness!