Essential Reads

How Easily Can Someone Change Your Mind?

Can you resist the powers of persuasive messages?

Happy Birthday Edward Gibbon

On the Decline and Fall of Britain

Social Influence About Risk Differs for Teens and Adults

Teens beliefs about risk are strongly influenced by other people.

3 Reasons We Tell Strangers More Than We Should

Why you may tell the guy next to you on a flight more than your family knows.

Recent Posts on Social Life

Flavors of Reclusiveness

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 03, 2015 in How To Do Life
Options for soloing that even social people might want to consider.

A Virtual Identity Crisis in the Making

So, what's your avatar look like?

Is the Tongue the "Sword of a Woman?"

The current evidence about sex differences in gossip indicates that beliefs about females being more likely to use gossip in an aggressive fashion are based upon more than just a stereotype. However, this does not mean that women are more aggressive or “nastier” than men. Men and women simply differ in their preferred style of aggression.

Should Anonymous Comments Be Banned on Blogs?

Would banning anonymous comments keep Internet trolls away? What are the arguments for and against a ban?

How Easily Can Someone Change Your Mind?

Are you the type of person who can resist the lure of tempting ads or the pressure of someone you know to get you to change your mind? Maybe you’re not as resistant to these influences as you think so that, even without knowing it, you’re an easy target.

How To Read People’s Minds: Everyday Mind Reading

Although there is no sound evidence for ESP, there is evidence that we can develop our perceptual skills and become better at reading other people’s feelings and thoughts. Here’s how to become an everyday mindreader.

20 Signs Your Partner Is Controlling

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on June 01, 2015 in Friendship 2.0
The stereotype of a controlling partner is one who is physically intimidating and threatening. Sometimes, the signs are much more subtle—but the danger is just as real.

Three Ways We Should All Be Introverts

By Jen Kim on June 01, 2015 in Valley Girl With a Brain
Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, everyone can benefit from being quiet and thoughtful.

Why So Much Financial Crime?

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on June 01, 2015 in Hidden Motives
If money is our universal solvent, allowing us to exchange anything for anything else, we seem to have reached the point where virtually all other values are dissolved as well.

Teens Redefining "Norms"

By Shimi Kang M.D. on June 01, 2015 in The Dolphin Way
Teens versus school dress codes—should they be able to dress however they choose? Teenagers express themselves through clothing and blogs. A teenage girl causes controversy amongst parents when told to "cover up" by her school and responds with a three-page letter citing hyper-sexualization of women and sexist dress codes at school.

Dealing With Commitment Issues And Noncommittal Lovers

Why do so many partners seem to prefer casual dating and friends-with-benefits, rather than deeper commitments and marriage? What can you do if you feel stuck in a relationship that is going nowhere? Learn about the research on commitment in romantic relationships—and find out what you can do to get him (or her) to commit!

Irrelation(Friend)ship

Irrelationship does not just have to do with romance, but friendship too. Do you get into a fix with friends sometimes? Do you recognize in friendships troublesome relational—irrelational—dynamics that are tanking opportunities for genuine emotional connection? Do you regret friendships which have failed and wish that you'd been able to hang onto those folks? Read on...

Happy Birthday Edward Gibbon

227 years ago this month, the last installment of The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire came out. Gibbon was wrong about Roman emperors, and he was wrong about the Church. But he was right that democracy depends on the ability to sail away from a tyrant.

Über-Confidence

Overconfidence in judgment and decision-making is one of the signature biases of human cognition. A new measure sheds new light.

CROSSING THE BOUNDARIES

Should a woman act or become submissive because a man uses power gestures? Does he cue her to be acquiescent with his expansive, powerful, dominating behaviors?

No One Wants a Secret Admirer

A closed mouth gathers no foot. It also gathers no friends. People want verbal affirmation of their attributes and accomplishments, not secret admirers. Regardless of how far up the food chain someone has managed to climb, everyone wants to be assured of their value and worth.

Social Influence About Risk Differs for Teens and Adults

By Art Markman Ph.D. on May 28, 2015 in Ulterior Motives
Life is full of risky decisions. Some involve physical risks like crossing the street against the light. Others involve social risks like expressing an opinion that differs from those of peers. Still others involve financial risks like investing in the stock of a new company.

End Of Term Report

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on May 28, 2015 in In Excess
Many people confuse the term ‘problem gambling’ with ‘gambling addiction’. These two terms are not inter-changeable. When I give lectures on gambling addiction I always point out that “all gambling addicts are problem gamblers but not all problem gamblers are gambling addicts”. Find out why in my latest article on gambling psychology.

Moneygrams: Recalled Childhood Memories About Money

A surprising number of people are "money troubled." Because money is a taboo topic, people often get surprised by the money beliefs and habits of their partners who they have known for a long time. But where do these money attitudes and habits come from? Do we have moneygrams from our childhood?

How to Talk to a Single Person

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 27, 2015 in Living Single
Some people seem to have a hard time conversing with single people. All they can think of to ask is whether the single person is seeing someone. Even worse, researchers can be just as flummoxed. A survey claiming to be "the most comprehensive" about single life asked only about 1 question of 128 that was not about becoming unsingle. Here's how to talk to a single person.

3 Reasons We Tell Strangers More Than We Should

Have you ever told intimate details of your life to a stranger on a plane? Does your hair stylist know your whole life story? Why do we disclose so much personal information to complete strangers? Here are 3 surprising psychological reasons.

Sounding Off About High-Volume Friends

How to reclaim our personal quiet zones and restore peace. High-volume blusterers are often chronic—even if unknowing—offenders, and they are generally among our least favorite folks to encounter. Otherwise pleasant personalities become ones we avoid. The psychology of behavioral shaping offers a polite way to turn down the volume.

How Evolutionary Psychology Illuminates Everyday Life

Evolutionary psychology has become famous as a powerful framework for understanding even the most mundane aspects of life. Read further to see how the evolutionary perspective provides insights into 10 common cliches.

How Good Are You at Flirting?

Flirting isn't easy but some styles are more effective than others.

Are You a Jerk or a Pushover?

Research shows we're really bad at identifying how other people perceive us.

Facing Our Two-Facedness

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 26, 2015 in Ambigamy
We all want opposite things. Life goes better and gets more interesting when you admit that you do, too.

Aging-in-Place May Be a Fountain of Youth Secret

One of the benefits of aging-in-place is good neighborhood gossip -- a reason to stay alive and well is so that you don’t miss out on the next installment.

Simple, Everyday Actions That Support Mental Health

Learn simple ways to support yourself and others for better mental health.

Make New Friends, Keep (Some of) the Old

By Wendy Paris on May 26, 2015 in Splitopia
Divorce can shake up friendships, but it also gives us a chance to connect with others, and recreate a social circle more supportive of our new lives. Sometimes ending a marriage enables us to see the value in others we've formerly dismissed.

More Than Words Can Say

By David Ludden Ph.D. on May 26, 2015 in Talking Apes
The meaning of a conversation lies not in the words that are spoken but rather in the minds of the speaker and listener.