Essential Reads

Why High School Stays with You Forever

Why do memories of high school stand in such stark contrast to other memories?

5 Ways to Break Bad News without Actually Lying

There’s good news about the best way to break bad news

The Loneliness of Social Media: Part One

How social media fame can reveal the "dark side" of life in our digital age

The Only Excuse You’ll Ever Need (or Should Ever Use)

... and the research to back it up.

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Why High School Stays with You Forever

For some of us, high school shines like an enchanted kingdom; for others, it is remembered as an endless Hell of daily torments. For most of us, it is something in between, but memorable nonetheless. Is it the collision between evolved psychological mechanisms and the nature of the modern high school that is to blame?

The Best Place to Be Is Together

A sense of peace and relaxation is the largest benefit from a vacation according to experts. Five guidelines help you return relaxed and happy.

Life in the Mushpot

By Bernard L. De Koven on July 27, 2015 in On Having Fun
Sometimes it's OK when you don't get to play. Sometimes, not so much.

Abnormal Behaviour – What Does It Really Mean?

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on July 27, 2015 in A Sideways View
Most people like to think that they are "normal". But what does it mean to be normal? And if you are not normal does that mean you are abnormal?

Puns and the Aging Process

By Richard Smith Ph.D. on July 26, 2015 in Joy and Pain
The question of what makes a good pun depends on the age of the punster and the expectations associated with age. There is lesson in this for all inveterate punsters as they "mature."

Changing Clocks Causes Cancer?

Time rules life. Does disrupting inner body clocks cause cancer?

Dumped Without An Explanation: Is There Anything To Do?

A woman feels dumped without explanation by her close friend and wonders how to move on.

5 Ways to Break Bad News without Actually Lying

Very few, if any, of us truly enjoys being the bearer of bad news. If you have no choice but to be that messenger, there are ways to get the job done with a minimum of damaged feelings. These 5 strategies will help you figure out how to make the best out of some of life’s unpleasant situations.

The Loneliness of Social Media, Part Two

Social media is not always very social. Understanding why not can help us understand what is lacking in our lives.

Should We Work Harder?

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on July 24, 2015 in Hidden Motives
In America, we tend to think that success is all about individual effort. And recently Jeb Bush reinforced that idea in suggesting that our economy could be more robust if each of us worked harder.

Social Anxiety Diminished by Brain Signals and Re-Thinking

Social anxiety and its treatment with cognitive behavioral therapy can be studied with advanced brain imaging. Both the prefrontal cortex and the amygdala are involved.

Stories of Seclusion: A Rejected Man

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 23, 2015 in How To Do Life
He too often commits The Mortal Sin of relationships.

Re-thinking Gender, Part 1

By Anthony Synnott Ph.D. on July 22, 2015 in Rethinking Men
The Ups, Downs, and Sideways of Gender Politics

Beautifying Your Armpits

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on July 21, 2015 in A Swim in Denial
Would dyeing your armpit hair fabulous circus colors make you more beautiful, more expressive, more liberated? The armpit artists say they're saving women from "harmful standards." But all body decoration needs to balance technique and real-life experience. Do we want intimacy or applause?

The Loneliness of Social Media: Part One

You may have seen "the baby whisperer" photo that went viral. What it teaches us about life and loneliness in the digital age is fascinating.

Confluence

By Bernard L. De Koven on July 20, 2015 in On Having Fun
Confluence - the force that draws us together

Hidden Persuaders: The Psychology of Subliminal Perception

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on July 20, 2015 in A Sideways View
The idea of subliminal perception has never gone away. Are advertisers and marketers using clever and possibly illegal or immoral means to change our behaviour

Why We Should Think and Act Like Superheroes

What are the factors that cause and enable people to help others? How can we ourselves think and act like superheroes?

Game of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is good. Yet, it is not always forthcoming. This should tell us something about human psychology.

The Only Excuse You’ll Ever Need (or Should Ever Use)

When there’s something you’d rather not do, or wish you hadn’t done, an excuse might seem like the only graceful remedy. This simple guideline to making that excuse work will help you figure out how to make the best of that bad situation.

Our digital devices might make us kinder

Henry James once wrote, Three things in human life are important: The first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind. Maybe our digital devices can help us discover all three.

10 Tips for More Efficient Listening

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on July 16, 2015 in Ambigamy
Better listening isn't more listening, it's listening more efficiently to what's worth heeding, not what's worth ignoring.

How Do You Really Know If You're Falling in Love?

Are you falling in love, or is this just a passing attraction?

What Race Is Rachel Dolezal?

Rachel Dolezal says she is black, but many others--whites and blacks, liberals and conservatives--disagree. What race is she really? How should we react to her claim?

The Stanford Prison Experiment Hits the Big Screen

Humans are clearly capable of greatness. But one of the best-known studies in the behavioral sciences tells us that human nature also has a dark side. A VERY dark side. And you can now see this for yourself in a theater new you …

A Debate: Is Marriage Worth It?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 16, 2015 in How To Do Life
These pros and cons may help you decide.

Looking in the Cultural Mirror at 100, The Top 10

Five years ago I began writing pieces for Looking in the Cultural Mirror. While psychology may define itself as the science of behavior, when it comes to people it often seems more like the science of American behavior than of human behavior everywhere. This, my 100th piece, discusses the blog’s background and aims. It offers links to most popular 10.

When Your "Inner Child" Hijacks Your Adult Relationships

When “little you” goes unchecked, destructive relationship dynamics can wreak havoc on your adult life. Here are 4 examples of dysfunctional inner child patterns and how to better access the ‘adult you.’

From Diagoras to Dawes and Denrell

To live is to sample – experiences. Sample the good and ignore the bad. Would that not lead to happiness? Read about the fly in the ointment.

Hypocritical Capitalism

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on July 11, 2015 in Hidden Motives
When capitalism takes its own picture, it inevitably smooth’s over the blemishes,