Essential Reads

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Dinner at Home or Do We Go Out?

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on September 24, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Cultural and generational changes in how we approach food color how we use food to express love. We can choose to cook, or gather, organize or ignore opportunities for feeding.

A Reflection on Creepy Mustaches and Creepy Hobbies

By Frank T. McAndrew Ph.D. on September 22, 2017 in Out of the Ooze
How you spend your leisure time may signal how uncomfortable others expect to be when they interact with you; in other words, your hobbies can be a way of flaunting creepiness.

How Many Americans Want to Be Single? Results of 5 Studies

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Living Single
How many unmarried Americans want to be married? 5 studies suggest answers, but it will take a revolution to know for sure.

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One Simple Question for Modern Humans Who Want to Be Happy

Our minds must operate in the hustle and bustle of the modern world. Yet their underlying hardware was molded in a tribal context on the African Savanna. How can we make this work?

Students Who Defend Bullying Victims Become More Popular

Bullying is not a spectator sport - don't be a captivated audience. Intervention on behalf of victims can discourage bullies and save lives.

Personality Pathology in Modern America

Does personality pathology explain some of our socialpolitical unease?

When Bullies Go Back to School: Spot Them, and Stop Them

Back to school is a time of excitement, or dread--depending on whether or not a child is being bullied. Spot and stop bullies from ruining another year for victims and families.

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By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on August 28, 2017 in Ambigamy
Hate is not the answer. Neither is love. Love is the question, what to love, a question you won't get to if you pretend that you're simply loving.

The Emotional Life of Single People

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 27, 2017 in Living Single
For people who love living single and for people who really don’t, emotional life is complicated.

Are you Generating Instagram Envy? How to Post, Not Boast

Although starstruck Instagram followers enjoy living vicariously, posters are most likely to generate goodwill through showcasing a life of love, not luxury.

Five People You Need to Kick Out of Your Life

You don't want certain types of people in your life if you want support in times of need.

10 Signs You're a People-Pleaser

Being agreeable and cooperative is a good thing. But being subservient could backfire.

Your Legacy After You Die: Will It Be Anger or Love?

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in The Forgiving Life
When you die, you might leave a legacy of anger in the world that could be passed to your children. Or you could leave a legacy of love that is passed on as a gift to others.

Can You Sue Someone Over a Broken Promise?

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on August 18, 2017 in So Sue Me
Have you ever relied on someone's promise, only to be hurt when that promise was broken? Promissory estoppel is the little-known legal doctrine that holds people to their word.

A Simpler Way to Get Along Without Asking About Feelings

By Kimberly Key on August 18, 2017 in Counseling Keys
Some people, and lots of men, have been raised not to feel and are at a loss when they are asked to identify a feeling. Or worse, they have been abused for their feelings.

Are Friends the Enemies of Wise Choices?

Could your friends be causing you to make bad choices? Avoid this problem with a few tips from this piece.

Confluence, Unity, and Coliberation

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 16, 2017 in On Having Fun
The experience of confluence is the glue that binds us to a social setting, the promised reward that keeps us seeking each other out. It is not freedom, it is union.

Sleep and the Social Brain

By Patrick McNamara Ph.D. on August 15, 2017 in Dream Catcher
Each night key structures of the social brain are deactivated during NREM and then reactivated during REM. Why?

What Makes Conspiracy Theories so Appealing?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on August 14, 2017 in Media Spotlight
What motivates people to believe in different conspiracy theories and what makes these beliefs so hard to change?

How Can We Change the Rampant Disrespect in Our World?

Is disrespect wearing you down? Some ways to begin making a difference.

Teens and Texting: A Recipe for Disaster

Teens and texting... Is your child the next Michelle Carter?

The Seduction of Secret — How Intrigue Sparks Attraction

Mysterious, fascinating, or assertive partners spark intrigue and admiration. Yet avoid a date with disaster by considering why someone does not open up.

You've Got to Be Carefully Taught

Is there a new Diversity Gap? How does it affect our children?
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Testing Free Will

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on August 09, 2017 in One Among Many
Not to rain on your parade, but the will is still not free. Just accept it, freely if you will.

Road and Sideline Rage

What to do if you’re a person or parent subject to misplaced anger and aggression.

Awe as an Antidote to the Polarized Mind

By Kirk J. Schneider Ph.D. on August 08, 2017 in Awakening to Awe
Awe-based tips for healing the social divides.

The Problem with Assuming Others Are Perfect

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 07, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
Assuming others live perfect lives is problematic.
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Why Socializing Drains Introverts More Than Extroverts

There are some very real differences between introverts and extroverts, and these differences come down to how they respond to rewards.

Danger Zones: 3 Red Flags to Avoid on a First Date

Many daters unwittingly blow their chances of a first date turning into a second by treading into danger zones of awkwardness or inappropriate behavior.

The Best Way to Deal With People Who Talk Too Much

People who talk too much can make your work and social life miserable if you don’t feel like listening to them. New communications research shows how to manage the long-winded.

In the Midst of Hate, Why Not Love?

How did the "summer of love" appear out of a backdrop of war and discontent?

Going Native

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on August 02, 2017 in One Among Many
When you “go native,” you not only enter an unfamiliar group, you also find that your folks don’t like it.

My Life as an Unlikable Woman

By Jennifer Haupt on August 02, 2017 in One True Thing
Janelle Brown's characters do everything that she is afraid of doing herself.