Essential Reads

Are You Spiritual or Religious? Does it Matter?

Where you fall on the spiritual/religious continuum

What Trump Can Learn About Leadership From His Daughter

The right decision choices can make all the difference in our leadership success

Hallucinated Happiness

Imagination doesn’t make it so.

Why Women Don't Make the First Move

In the rules of dating, it’s all about control

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It Hurts to Be Left Out. Does it Also Hurt the Rejecter?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on October 04, 2015 Off the Couch
Researchers have provided evidence for what you and I already know – being ostracized, or ignored or excluded by a group to which we would like to belong or have already been part of is not good for our psyches or our souls. But what about the ostracizers? Do they get off scot free? Or does something happen to them as well.

What Trump Can Learn About Leadership From His Daughter

Leadership is in the news these days. The primaries race for the Presidential candidacy has really put the spotlight on this issue. For anyone in a leadership role self-awareness and reflection can make a big difference in your leadership success.

Hallucinated Happiness

If only imagination could sustain our happiness! Alas, we remain shackled to reality. Examples of continued attempts to psych ourselves into happiness – or others into unhappiness – range from the entertaining to the disturbing.

The Hidden Trait that Predicts Being Attractive

Finding love is a tricky game. New evidence suggests that others' interest in you might be tied to your dispositional mindfulness.

Why Women Don't Make the First Move

In the traditional world of dating, men ask and women wait to be asked. A new dating app is changing the rules, but what makes women wait in the first place?

Biggus Bangus

In the beginning was god and god made the big bang. But who make god? Five-year olds want to know, but seasoned christian cosmogonists have forgotten this question. They rather create god in their own image – projectively.

When Getting Close Equals Getting Hurt, Part Two

Six key questions to consider to help your clients begin to take healthy risks towards seeking and sustaining closeness.

Interview with 'The Martian'

By Guy P. Harrison on October 02, 2015 About Thinking
"The Martian" talks space and story telling.

10 Ways Coupling Has Changed Over the Past 75 Years

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 02, 2015 Living Single
In some significant ways, over the past three-quarters of a century, couples have been acting more like single people.

Five Reasons People Don't Like Atheists

By Clay Routledge Ph.D. on October 01, 2015 More Than Mortal
Atheists seem to really drive people nuts. Polls identify atheists as untrustworthy, unelectable for public office, and unworthy of marrying into one’s family.

Trumpism: Daily Examples of a Stunning Lack of Compassion

Is one-upmanship, or Trumpism, becoming more prevalent than empathic or compassionate responses in our day-to-day lives?

Is Marriage Worth It For Women?

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on October 01, 2015 Insight Therapy
Why are women more likely than men to initiate divorce?

13 Easy Ways to Jumpstart Your Boring Life

By Donna Barstow on October 01, 2015 Ink Blots Cartoons
Routines can be comforting, but when every day looks the same, that can be a danger signal.

How to Break Up with Someone Compassionately and Effectively

While it is always difficult to end an intimate relationship, research indicates that some ways of breaking up are better than others. In fact, it is possible to learn how to break up with someone compassionately and effectively. This approach helps minimize the pain and confusion for both partners, while sometimes even preserving a friendship.

The Secret to Keeping Your Cool When You’re Really Mad

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on September 30, 2015 Feeling It
Anger costs us a lot, but it's also helpful. Here's a science-based secret to reaping the good while avoiding the bad.

Why We Love to Hate Politicians

You may think politicians deserve the hate spewed at them because others seem to feel that way. It helps to know that the mammal brain bonds around common enemies. The mammal brain seeks safe ways to oppose power. The mammal brain mirrors others and relies on old pathways. Your inner mammal feels good when you hate politicians, which lures you to forget that it's hate.

7 Tips for Having Difficult Conversations

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 29, 2015 Friendship 2.0
The need to talk about something difficult can fill us with anxiety, whether at work or in our romantic, family, or friend relationships. Often we enter these conversations without being mindful of how to make them go the best they possibly can-- and we can make things far worse if we're not prepared. Here are important factors to consider when planning the interaction.

Why You Trust Your Friends Even When They're Ripping You Off

By David DiSalvo on September 29, 2015 Neuronarrative
Your brain wants to trust. We’re wired for social connection—not just casual meet and greets, but genuine connection—and trust is what makes it work. But that same drive to trust, essential though it is, also makes us natural born suckers.

7 Tricks of Socially Connected People

By Kira Asatryan on September 29, 2015 The Art of Closeness
All socially successful people behave in basically the same way. What are their secrets? Find out now!

Volkswagen, Why?

By Ken Eisold Ph.D. on September 29, 2015 Hidden Motives
What could have possibly motivated VW to take the risk?

Thinking Is Hard

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on September 29, 2015 One Among Many
We experience ourselves as thinking creatures, and our thinking seems to matter for our actions. Why, however, is thinking so hard?

In Defense of Watching Football

By Jaime L. Kurtz Ph.D. on September 29, 2015 Happy Trails
Five benefits of tuning into America's favorite sport.

Why Do Well-Meaning People Say Insensitive Things?

By Juliana Breines Ph.D. on September 27, 2015 In Love and War
The internet has recently seen an explosion of “Things You Should Never Say” articles. Why is it that people often say the wrong thing, despite their best efforts and intentions? Here are five potential explanations.

What Does the Family Foster: A Lovable or Unlovable Self?

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on September 27, 2015 Moral Landscapes
Pope Francis said that “family life as the place where we come to learn the meaning and value of human relationships.” The sense of self is built there and carried forward into the rest of life. Will the child build a sense of being lovable? Or will the individual forever feel inadequate, self-loathing or unlovable?

Love of Single Life: The Quintessential Modern Love?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 26, 2015 Living Single
At a time when there are more than 100 million single people just in the US, there are still people denying that any of them could be truly happy. Research shows that people get angry at single people who choose to be single. What's that about?

The Shame of Breaking-up

Are women more woebegone than men when a romantic involvement ends?


By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 24, 2015 Ambigamy
Over-committed? Try inventorying your commitments. Some have accumulated like weeds worth pulling up by their roots.

Balancing Old and New Friendships Isn't Always Easy

How do you strike a balance between variety in friendship groups while forging deeper bonds with a chosen few?

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