Essential Reads

User's Manual for the Male Brain

Three excerpts that will help you get more enjoyment from the device

Macho Macho Men

The science of why masculine men are sexy.

What Do Hypoactive Sexual Desire and PTSD Have in Common?

The politics of challenged disorders and drug development

The Perils of Left and Right Swiping

That Tinderella photo might have been taken on an actual camera.

Recent Posts on Sex

My College Daughter Hates Me

What to do when your college child distances herself.

The Orgasm Gap: Simple Truth & Sexual Solutions

By Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D. on October 04, 2015 Stress and Sex
In heterosexual sexual encounters, men have more orgasm than women. To close the orgasm gap, we have to hold clitoral stimulation and penetration as equal. Closing the orgasm gap isn’t going to be easy. Still, it’s well worth the effort. It’s time for Orgasm Justice for All! .

Who Is The Real Father of Sex Addiction?

By David J Ley Ph.D. on October 02, 2015 Women Who Stray
Who is the true father of sex addiction? Could it be a man who treated homosexuality as an addiction?

Fear of Damage to Children in Polyamorous Families

Because polyamory is stigmatized in conventional society, many poly parents or other adults who love children being raised in poly families are concerned about how growing up in a polyamorous family might affect children. In this blog I include a question from a concerned mother and my response to her concerns about how her relationships might impact her kids.

Does Circumcision Reduce Men’s Sexual Sensitivity?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on October 02, 2015 All About Sex
The best evidence shows that circumcision doesn't impair men’s sexual function.

Are People More Interested in Sex Today Than Before?

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on September 30, 2015 As You Like It
Are you more interested in sex than your parents or grandparents were?

The Tipping Point and the Serial Killer

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on September 29, 2015 Shadow Boxing
What's it like to befriend a serial killer? Martha Elliott offers her no-holds-barred account.

User's Manual for the Male Brain

Theory and practice of getting the best and avoiding the worst in male humans

Want More And Better Sex? Get Married And Stay Married.

The belief that singles have more and better sex than marrieds has become a cultural myth that researchers and sociologists are finding to be untrue, and coming up with some hard evidence to substantiate this claim.

What Dating Looks Like for a Recovering Sex Addict

Compulsive sex is the fast food of relationships, and developing a taste for the slow-cooked meal may take some time.

Sex and Parenting

By Isadora Alman MFT on September 24, 2015 Sex & Sociability
The comfort of good loving often falls to the bottom of the To Do list, just when it is most needed.

Art Therapy With Sex Offenders: Exposing the Fragile Self

By David Gussak Ph.D., ATR-BC on September 24, 2015 Art on Trial
Guest blogger Cindy Chen focuses on the challenges of using art therapy with sex offenders to identify treatment barriers, build alliances and establish resiliency, and even to work with her own counter-transferential issues.

The Sex Offender Next Door: Why Reintegration Helps

Ex-offenders are less likely to re-offend if there are people who will support their recovery.

Hypersexual Disorder Debates

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on September 24, 2015 In Excess
Sex addiction appears to be a highly controversial area. Given that "gambling disorder" was reclassified from a disorder of impulse control to a behavioral addiction in the DSM-V, there is now no theoretical reason why other behavioral addictions can’t be added in years to come. So why wasn’t sex addiction included in the latest DSM-V?

3 Ways To Sexually Reconnect With Your Partner

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on September 23, 2015 Think Well
Want to reconnect with your partner sexually? No matter how long it's been, here are three powerful was to resuscitate your sex life.

Macho Macho Men

Women's preferences for masculine or feminine faces vary considerably. A new study puts evolutionary explanations of these preferences to the test.

What Does It Mean When We Stick Our Tongues Out?

Questions relating to sticking out one's tongue can be surprisingly complicated. For its meaning in babies and children may be quite different from adults doing the same thing. And there are so many nuances to it: Is the tongue sticking straight out? to the left? right? hanging down? curled? And what’s the accompanying facial expression and context in which it occurs? ...

What Do Hypoactive Sexual Desire and PTSD Have in Common?

By Jeffrey Lieberman M.D. on September 22, 2015 Shrink Speak
Science and social pressures influence how and when drugs are developed by the pharmaceutical industry.

An Anti-Drinking Drug May Hold the Cure to Sex Addiction

What about naltrexone makes it so effective at treating both alcohol and sex addiction? Study after study continues to suggest that behind every addiction, behavioral or otherwise, lies a malfunctioning reward center. It makes intuitive sense, then, that a medication that treats one kind of addiction may be able to treat another.

That's So Gay!

By Oscar Holmes IV Ph.D. on September 20, 2015 Beyond the Cubicle
Similar to the popular TV show Mythbusters, Matthew and I surveyed a large sample of people and asked them what common sayings, beliefs, and/or questions they had about LGBTQ people that they wanted to know whether or not were true. Are you LGBTQIA culturally competent? How many questions did you get right?

Will a Pink Pill Make Me Horny?

Will a Pink Pill Make Me Horny? It depends on what kind of sexual problem you are having. By Susan Kolod, Ph.D.

The Myth of Wanting It All

There is a pervasive mantra that has gone around in the professional world for decades. Women “want it all” – career, family, a work-life balance – but with a few minutes reflection, it is often clear that “it all” is an unattainable goal no matter who you are and how you measure “all.” Yet, the professional world for women doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

Having a Crush on Insects

By Jeffrey Lockwood Ph.D. on September 18, 2015 The Infested Mind
You’ve probably heard about people who have a sexual fetish for shoes, leather, or red hair. But what if a person is aroused by the crushing of a living being? Might there be an argument that the pleasure derived in this way is has fewer moral problems than the sensual satisfaction of eating meat?

The Perils of Left and Right Swiping

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on September 18, 2015 Adventures in Dating
Online dating is a common activity for many single (and married) Americans. Still, just how old is that photo in the profile you're eyeing? Is it accurate? Research summarized here answers those questions.

When Homosexuality Stopped Being a Mental Disorder

By Neel Burton M.D. on September 18, 2015 Hide and Seek
Not until 1987 did homosexuality completely fall out of the DSM.

How Big Is the Average Penis?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on September 18, 2015 Open Gently
Men tend to overestimate their size.

Why Some Welcome Unisex Bathrooms, and Some Steer Clear

Why are women more comfortable than men when sharing multi-user unisex bathrooms? Although still influenced by Victorian-era paternalism toward women, the gendered dynamics behind men's discomfort primarily reflect their fears and insecurities in all-male public restrooms. Does man's de facto exclusion undermine the inclusive intention of multi-user unisex bathrooms?

The Truth About Female Orgasms

By Ryan Anderson on September 17, 2015 The Mating Game
There are a lot of myths and mysteries surrounding the female orgasm, especially among men. This article looks at some of the science behind the female orgasm.

Five Disadvantages of Polyamory

This blog examines some of the disadvantages to polyamory, including 1. Complexity, 2. Partner Turnover, 3. Faulty Negotiation, 4. Legal Problems, and 5. Too Much Supervision

Is Online Infidelity Really Infidelity?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on September 16, 2015 Love, Digitally
Online liaisons are not necessarily considered to be unfaithful behaviour. Sexual infidelity online is no threat to a male’s certainty of paternity