Essential Reads

Precision Medicine’s Cultural Limits

Even if we had an Oracle Chip, we'd still need doctors.

Sex in the Head

What may look like pure physical arousal is usually much more complicated.

Should You Make Choices for Your Kids?

Tuning in—or being tuned out

The Tolerable Distance of Closeness

How long should you wait for your beloved?

Recent Posts on Sex

Affairs: The Healing Process

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on March 26, 2015 in Fixing Families
Affairs are devastating on so many levels, but at its core it is about trust and loss. A map for moving through the normal healing process.

Somatic Experiencing

Somatic Experiencing (SE) is a powerful method of overcoming trauma via the mind-body connection, and often without medication. This piece by Saint-Laurent and Bird is a great introduction for those considering the treatment as well as for therapists interested in SE training.

Precision Medicine’s Cultural Limits

"Everyone is different." This is the fundamental tenant of Precision Medicine: to utilize this difference to improve outcome. Real life is more complicated, and there is a lot that is not yet worked out before this approach will yield benefits.

What No One Tells You About Avoidant Men

A subgroup of men with an avoidant attachment style suffer from a condition known as the Madonna-whore complex. Men with this complex assign Madonna status to some women and whore status to others.

10 Reasons You Should Go to Sleep Right Now

On the myriad benefits of sleep, glorious sleep.

6 Myths About Intimacy

Both men and women have myths about intimacy. The problem with these myths is that when believed, they can result in dysfunctional relationships.

Sex in the Head

What is sexual desire? Is it raw, animal instinct? Or is it something more mindful?

The Retreat of Romanticism

The term Romantic has become downgraded.

Is Flirting Ever Unethical?

Can flirting be unethical? The answer to that question depends on what counts as flirting.

50 Shades of Black

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on March 25, 2015 in Shadow Boxing
Serial killer John Robinson's recent appeal casts a spotlight on his deviant ruses for luring his victims.

Should You Make Choices for Your Kids?

Parents need to be concerned about the choices their kids make. The quality of your presence and support as your child explores and sorts through the options establishes the basis for his and her confident and solid decision-making when he and she are on their own.

What to Consider When Adding to Your Four-Legged Family

Choosing a new canine companion can be daunting. Should you adopt a shelter pet or buy from a breeder? Would a puppy or adult dog be a better fit for your life style and family? In this blog Dr. Stepita discusses what to consider before bringing your next furry family member home.

Meeting Your Conditions for Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on March 24, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Not having your conditions for good sex met is a frequent cause of failed erections and no orgasms.

How Clinical Psychology Programs Get Wussified

Aren’t therapists supposed to be able to stomach strong emotion, confront conflict, keep calm, and carry on?

In at the Sharp End

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in In Excess
Belonophilia refers to the deriving of sexual pleasure and arousal from pins or needles. Although media stories relating to ‘needle fetishes’ appear to be relatively rare, clinical and medical case studies in the academic literature are almost non-existent. So, what do we know psychologically about this apparently rare sexual fetish?

The Tolerable Distance of Closeness

Being physically close to your lover is central to romantic love. Indeed, temporal and geographical closeness typically increases emotional closeness, and this often makes distance seem intolerable. Some kind of distance, however, must remain even between two lovers. What is the nature of such distance, and is it indeed intolerable?

Are You a Traumatized Woman?

By Rosemary K.M. Sword on March 24, 2015 in The Time Cure
When we peruse the landscape of our world half the women we see have experienced a life-altering traumatic event, perhaps a natural disaster like a tornado, or a human-made disaster such as a car accident. And 1 in 3 women will experience sexual assault in their lifetime. But this number is probably much higher because these are only reported cases.

Are People Inequality Averse?

By Jesse Marczyk on March 23, 2015 in Pop Psych
There have been claims made that inequality—not losses—are a major motivator of human punishment. My research disagrees.

Do As I Say: Be Oppositional!

Oppositional behavior by children would seem to run counter to arguments in my previous posts that family members often do what they think their families want them to, even at great personal sacrifice. But oppositionality can be more apparent than real. People often act that way to accomodate what they perceive their parents to want and need from them.

How Being Funny Can Save You Money

Having a sense of humor can save you money. I learned that while working as a comic. I’ve found out that when you make someone laugh, they feel positively toward you and will actually give you discounts. Here's how to do it...

How to Explore Your Sexual Boundaries With Your Partner

One of the best ways to prevent boredom and breathe new life into the bedroom is to explore your sexual boundaries together. Most couples don’t explicitly communicate their boundaries with each other, so a lot of couples don’t actually know where they stand on the behaviors and fantasies they feel comfortable experimenting with.

Do You Feel Sexy on the Inside?

By Rick Miller LICSW on March 23, 2015 in Unwrapped
Expanding the ways in which we feel “sexy” is good for everyone (yup, except maybe for the beauty industry that sells just one way).

For More Sex, Spend More Time in Bed—Sleeping

By Linda Wasmer Andrews on March 23, 2015 in Minding the Body
In a recent study, getting an extra hour of sleep increased women’s likelihood of having sex with a partner the next day by 14 percent.

Is A Bad MarrIage Dangerous To Your Health?

Is an alienated spouse a matter of life or death?

Talking Like It’s 1984

By David Ludden Ph.D. on March 23, 2015 in Talking Apes
While gender-neutral language won’t eliminate gender-biased thought crimes, its intentional use does help us keep in mind that non-biased behavior is now the norm in our society.

Secrets Your Brain Hides From You

Why you can't trust your brain

The Disadvantages of Having a Mistress

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on March 22, 2015 in Fighting Fear
I think it is important to be conservative in dealing with the matter of mistresses, especially more than one.

Ask Your Doctor if You Are Healthy Enough for Sex

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on March 22, 2015 in Fighting Fear
How to reassure patients when they ask their doctor if they are healthy enough for sex (should the occasion of their asking ever arise.)

Book Review: Wisdom from the Couch

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP on March 22, 2015 in In Therapy
Dr. Jennifer Kunst shares the warmer, friendlier side of Kleinian psychology in this interview and book review.