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Infatuation, Temptation? How To Think Less About That Person

Telling yourself to stop may not be enough.

The Uses of Shame

How society makes use of shame to enforce its values

Good Sex

Sex and character

What Women Need to Know about the Bystander Effect in Men

Alcohol and sexism make male bystanders less likely to help women in trouble

Recent Posts on Sex

Moneygrams: Recalled Childhood Memories About Money

A surprising number of people are "money troubled." Because money is a taboo topic, people often get surprised by the money beliefs and habits of their partners who they have known for a long time. But where do these money attitudes and habits come from? Do we have moneygrams from our childhood?

Infatuation, Temptation? How To Think Less About That Person

By Ira Hyman Ph.D. on May 27, 2015 in Mental Mishaps
You meet someone new and attractive. Temptation strikes. Perhaps you’re a little infatuated. The eye looks and the mind wanders. You find your thoughts keep returning to the encounter and the possibility for romance, sex, or a relationship. But if you’re already in a committed and happy relationship, you may not want those thoughts. How can you stop those thoughts?

Men Have Bigger Brains--So What Does That Mean?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on May 26, 2015 in Open Gently
Don't trust what you hear about male and female brains.

Sex Without Intimacy/Intimacy Without Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on May 25, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
We all know that the ideal relationship contains both sex and intimacy, but does it have to? Is that true for everyone?

Games to Cure Common Sex Problems

Too fast or too slow (or not at all!) Premature ejaculation for men and anorgasmia (no orgasm) for women are the two most common sexual problems that plague a couple’s sexual experience. Anxiety is the root cause of both problems. Solve these problems easily with two fun psychologically-oriented sex games.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences Session 3

By Eyal Winter on May 23, 2015 in Feeling Smart
(1) expression of love (2) sex without commitment (3) health concerns.

The Sad Case of The Duggars

How The Duggars Situation Contributed To Sex Abuse

Premarital Sex Rises with Economies

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on May 22, 2015 in The Human Beast
I have been analyzing Pew data on acceptance of premarital sex around the globe to see whether it fits in with the ecology of modern life. Is acceptance of premarital sex higher in developed countries? What about the risks of pregnancy, and disease? What about female participation in the workforce?

The Uses of Shame

By Joseph Burgo Ph.D. on May 20, 2015 in Shame
In different ways, the religious right and the liberal left both make use of shame to enforce their values.

How to Identify a Sexual Manipulator

Not all relationships are formed on an equal footing. Learn how to spot a sexual manipulator and avoid the heartache.

You Live Together, but You Aren’t Even Engaged?

Living together before marriage is not uncommon, but living together before engagement may spark feelings of uncertainty. New research studied non-engaged couples living together and what topics/situations spark uncertainty.

Good Sex

Truly good sex is about more than bodies, it is about persons.

Can Snapchat Cause Jealousy?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on May 18, 2015 in Love, Digitally
Snapchat used for sexting Participants used Snapchat more for flirting

The Sexuality Of Schools

By Nick Luxmoore on May 16, 2015 in Young People Up Close
The way a school expresses or represses its collective sexual identity will have an effect on the individuals attending that school.

What Women Need to Know about the Bystander Effect in Men

The problem of sexual aggression toward female students by their male peers is becoming an increasing matter of concern on college campuses. Alcohol is known to be a risk factor in fueling violence against women but new research shows that sexist attitudes greatly compound the dangers.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 2

By Eyal Winter on May 16, 2015 in Feeling Smart
"sperm competition" is a major force that shaped men and women differently

Do Condoms Impair Erotic Sensitivity?

Despite the lingering “shower in a raincoat” myth, if you enjoy the sex you’re having, condoms don’t impair sensitivity.

Good Enough Sex vs. Perfect Individual Sex Performance

Sex does not equal intercourse and intercourse and orgasm is not a pass-fail sex test.

Infidelity Goes Public

In 2001, entrepreneur Noel Biderman launched Ashley Madison, a dating/hookup website designed not to help single people meet, date and potentially fall in love, but to help people in established relationships engage in sexual infidelity.

Are We Attracted to People Who Look Like Us?

Do opposites attract? Apparently not. According to recent research, we are attracted to people who resemble our parents or ourselves.

I'm Caught In A Love Triangle

What To Do About Love Triangles

Oxytocin — The Multitasking Love Hormone

By Robert D. Martin Ph.D. on May 12, 2015 in How We Do It
Oxytocin is widely known because hospitals routinely use it to trigger and support birth. The hormone also triggers milk ejection during breastfeeding. But it is also involved elsewhere, including bonding. Oxytocin has significant effects on brain function as well as on the reproductive organs. But it has very ancient origins, so what was its initial function?

First Dates

By Isadora Alman MFT on May 11, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
First dates can be a fun exercise in developing your social graces.

Seventy Percent: A Statistic to Enhance Your Sex Life

If more women and men knew this statistic, less women would be faking orgasm.

What is Love?

For Mother’s Day this blog will not address the pressing issues of psychiatry today. Suffice it to say that the harm done by the twin traumas of deprivation and abuse generate all the psychiatric struggles we are all subject to. This is the other side of the story - my appreciation for what I have learned from my wife.

What Excites You?

All love is based on the experience of positive emotion, and the part of love that makes your heart thump owes its power to the emotion of excitement that began in early childhood.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 1

By Eyal Winter on May 09, 2015 in Feeling Smart
The Evolutionary Role of Love Romance and Sexuality

Are You Single for the Right Reasons?

If you find yourself feeling turned on the idea of relationships in general, your attitudes are worthy of exploration. There may be a lot of good reasons why you’re not in a relationship right now, but what I’ll aim to unmask here are the not-so-good reasons people steer away from love and intimacy… and possibly even their own happiness.

What is a 'Clean' Breakup? (And How to Achieve One)

Letting go can be so painful that it's easier to create drama and/or necessitate a fight rather than part ways on amicable terms.

Homosexuality is Not an Addiction

By David J Ley Ph.D. on May 08, 2015 in Women Who Stray
Clinicians and programs who provide conversion or gay reparative therapies are now using a new treatment justification, claiming that homosexuality is an addictive disorder.