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K. Ramsland

Predatory Portals: Need and Trust

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on December 09, 2016 in Shadow Boxing
People who intend harm, whether theft or worse, exploit arenas of trust. Classified ads offering romance or mutual interest activities are an easy way to conceal true intentions.

Do You Have the "Right" Amount of Ex-Partners?

By Ryan Anderson on December 08, 2016 in The Mating Game
A recent study has found some surprising results regarding an individual's sexual history. Neither men nor women want with either too much or too little sexual experience.

Affirming Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity

By David Ludden Ph.D. on December 06, 2016 in Talking Apes
It’s perfectly normal in adolescence to question your sexual orientation and gender identity. For some, these questions linger well into adulthood.

Is Mild Love the New Exciting Romance?

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on December 06, 2016 in In the Name of Love
Ideal love is depicted as a very passionate experience. Yet mild love seems a better indicator of enduring love. Can we admit our mild love without insulting our partners?

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How Important is Sex? Part 1

Keeping sexual passion alive and healthy is critical to sustaining an enduring and fulfilling partnership.

From Client to Counselor

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on December 09, 2016 in Minority Report
I grew up in a traditional Chinese immigrant household which stressed the virtues of collectivism, harmony, and honor. In a way, my upbringing shaped my sex addiction.

How to Improve Your Sex Life After Having Kids

By Erica Reischer Ph.D. on December 08, 2016 in What Great Parents Do
Recent research has promising news for parents who wish their sex life were more like it was before kids.

Sexual Fantasy as a Form of Play

By Alexandra Katehakis MFT on December 08, 2016 in Sex, Lies & Trauma
How do you distinguish between which fantasies deepen sexual expression with healthy play, and which ones prey on others by repeating old traumas?

Talking to Your BFF About Your Relationship Troubles

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on December 08, 2016 in Emotional Fitness
If you need to talk to someone, I highly recommend that you choose someone who can see the whole relationship, not just your side of it.

The Psychology of Financial Dominatrixes

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on December 08, 2016 in In Excess
There have been an increasing number of media reports about women who demand money from men who in turn get sexual pleasure from the activity. But why?

Pain, Sleep, and Affection

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on December 07, 2016 in Adventures in Dating
Do you think you get as much affection as you'd like? New research examines that perception, along with pain and sleep.

To Groom or Not to Groom?

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on December 06, 2016 in Cravings
A new study says trimming your pubic area can increase your risk of STIs.

Empathy Can Lead to Profound Insights

As empathy wanes, so does critical thinking, and both concepts are essential to a democracy.

The Sex Test

What if sex brings us just too close to the very things that it's ostensibly supposed to: intimacy, empathy, emotional risk and investment?


By Laura Betzig Ph.D. on December 04, 2016 in The Political Animal
Fidel Castro has been laid to rest. His words, and his descendants, live on.

Inside the Bungled Case That Spawned Sex Offender Registries

By Karen Franklin Ph.D. on December 01, 2016 in Witness
The 1989 abduction of Jacob Wetterling riveted the nation and spawned modern sex offender registries. But would these laws have made a difference? A brilliant podcast explores.

Do Try This at Home

By Robert J King Ph.D. on December 01, 2016 in Hive Mind
Female orgasm: What happens when you try to study it in a more natural setting than labs? Persistent infertility is a hot topic at the moment and this research offers insight.
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Analysis: How the AASECT Sex Addiction Statement Was Created

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on November 30, 2016 in Standard Deviations
An Insider's Perspective Behind the Scenes of AASECT's Historic Sex Addiction Statement.
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AASECT Releases Historic Position Statement on Sex Addiction

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on November 29, 2016 in Standard Deviations
AASECT, the national sex therapy certifying organization releases a groundbreaking position statement about the sex addiction model.
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Boys Dressed as Girls Who Became Serial Killers

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on November 29, 2016 in Shadow Boxing
Some serial killers recall being dressed as girls when young, despite being male. It might have had a negative impact.

7 Subtle Ways to Measure the Strength of Your Relationship

How committed is your partner? Use these tests to find out.

Not Trusting the Happy

One reader asks if it is possible to be happy as a secondary in a polyamorous relationship. Dr Eli says go for it -- with two cautions.

Turns Out, Porn Doesn’t Kill Love

By David J Ley Ph.D. on November 28, 2016 in Women Who Stray
A 1989 study found that porn made men love their wives less, but these findings could not be replicated in more recent research.

Are Your Partner's Rules Ruining Your Sex Life?

Sexual boundaries protect our special commitment. Sex rules, on the other hand, are often unspoken and usually limit sex.

What People Keep Asking Me About Sex and Relationships

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on November 27, 2016 in Sex & Sociability
Now you'll know what others want to know too, here, and in educational and entertaining essays on every aspect of dating and mating, socializing and sexuality.

Sexual Infidelity: The Post-Discovery Longer-Term Aftermath

After you discover your partner's infidelity, this is what you should expect to feel and deal with during the next weeks or months.

Infidelity, Open Relationships, and Polyamory

Some romantic partners are convinced that they can provide everything the other person needs. Not so.

What The Holidays Can Provide for a Couple's Erotic Life

What can the holiday season teach us about improving our erotic lives? Gratitude practice may be the answer.

The Psychology of Animal Torture

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on November 23, 2016 in In Excess
Why would anyone want to deliberately inflict pain on a defenseless animal?

How to Scare Your Kids Off Taking Painkillers

By Temma Ehrenfeld on November 22, 2016 in Open Gently
Painkillers weaken bones, interfere with sex hormones, and can make pain worse.

Politics From the Polling Booth to the Bedroom

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on November 22, 2016 in Attraction, Evolved
Is our preferred political party linked to our sexual behaviour? New research suggests that certain sexual acts are associated with right/left political ideology.

The Politics of Faking Orgasm: Saving Time, Saving Face

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on November 21, 2016 in Insight Therapy
People who fake orgasms deprive themselves of great pleasure for an empty show of it, introduce a lie into an act of trust, distance into an occasion for closeness. Why?

Is Blame Shutting Down Your Sex Lilfe?

Nothing crushes love's high more quickly than the low blows of blame.

Mechanophilia Exposed and Explained

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on November 17, 2016 in In Excess
In a society where more people are spending more time with technology and machines, is there evidence that some people are sexually aroused by machines?