Essential Reads

Happy Birthday Edward Gibbon

On the Decline and Fall of Britain

Infatuation, Temptation? How To Think Less About That Person

Telling yourself to stop may not be enough.

The Uses of Shame

How society makes use of shame to enforce its values

Good Sex

Sex and character

Recent Posts on Sex

20 Signs Your Partner Is Controlling

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on June 01, 2015 in Friendship 2.0
The stereotype of a controlling partner is one who is physically intimidating and threatening. Sometimes, the signs are much more subtle-- but the danger is just as real.

Rebound and Revenge Sex: New Insights Challenge Old Myths

By Michael Castleman M.A. on June 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Myth: To get over breakups, people quickly jump into bed with new lovers, often strangers. Truth: Recent research shows that this is more the exception than the rule.

The Promise of "Happily Ever After" for Everyone

Rainbow weddings and "Mr. & Mr." or "Mrs. & Mrs." events are a growing phenomenon -- but keeping the relationship strong is equally challenging regardless of the gender identity of the couple!

"Sorry, Honey, I Wasn't Listening. What Did You Say?"

Your partner might say, “I don’t mean to interrupt your discussion of my lack of affection, but look at this right away! Isn’t it the Goodyear blimp? Wow. Amazing. Now what were you talking about?”

Happy Birthday Edward Gibbon

227 years ago this month, the last installment of The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire came out. Gibbon was wrong about Roman emperors, and he was wrong about the Church. But he was right that democracy depends on the ability to sail away from a tyrant.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 4

By Eyal Winter on May 30, 2015 in Feeling Smart
Jealousy, cheating and evolution

Raising Happily Productive Kids in Every Kind of Family

What works to support children’s optimal development works, whether you’re raising your kids in a traditional family, in the midst of divorce, part of a gay couple, or doing anything else that doesn’t look like ‘Leave It to Beaver.’ Here are ten rules for raising happily productive kids, no matter what kind of family you’re creating.

Violent Crime Linked to Male Sexuality

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on May 29, 2015 in The Human Beast
In a recent post, I described how women are catching up on men in terms of criminal violence. Yet, the difference remains large and calls for explanation. Much of the gender difference is explainable in terms of male sexuality and societies where men compete directly for mates have more criminal violence.

Treating Erectile Dysfunction Without Pills

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on May 28, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
Treating Erectile Dysfunction Without Drugs

Tips and Tricks for Managing Erectile Dysfunction W/O Meds

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on May 28, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
Erectile Issues Can Zap Your Self Confidence

Moneygrams: Recalled Childhood Memories About Money

A surprising number of people are "money troubled." Because money is a taboo topic, people often get surprised by the money beliefs and habits of their partners who they have known for a long time. But where do these money attitudes and habits come from? Do we have moneygrams from our childhood?

Infatuation, Temptation? How To Think Less About That Person

By Ira Hyman Ph.D. on May 27, 2015 in Mental Mishaps
You meet someone new and attractive. Temptation strikes. Perhaps you’re a little infatuated. The eye looks and the mind wanders. You find your thoughts keep returning to the encounter and the possibility for romance, sex, or a relationship. But if you’re already in a committed and happy relationship, you may not want those thoughts. How can you stop those thoughts?

Men Have Bigger Brains--So What Does That Mean?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on May 26, 2015 in Open Gently
Don't trust what you hear about male and female brains.

Sex Without Intimacy/Intimacy Without Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on May 25, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
We all know that the ideal relationship contains both sex and intimacy, but does it have to? Is that true for everyone?

Games to Cure Common Sex Problems

Too fast or too slow (or not at all!) Premature ejaculation for men and anorgasmia (no orgasm) for women are the two most common sexual problems that plague a couple’s sexual experience. Anxiety is the root cause of both problems. Solve these problems easily with two fun psychologically-oriented sex games.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences Session 3

By Eyal Winter on May 23, 2015 in Feeling Smart
(1) expression of love (2) sex without commitment (3) health concerns.

The Sad Case of The Duggars

How The Duggars Situation Contributed To Sex Abuse

Premarital Sex Rises with Economies

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on May 22, 2015 in The Human Beast
I have been analyzing Pew data on acceptance of premarital sex around the globe to see whether it fits in with the ecology of modern life. Is acceptance of premarital sex higher in developed countries? What about the risks of pregnancy, and disease? What about female participation in the workforce?

The Uses of Shame

By Joseph Burgo Ph.D. on May 20, 2015 in Shame
In different ways, the religious right and the liberal left both make use of shame to enforce their values.

How to Identify a Sexual Manipulator

Not all relationships are formed on an equal footing. Learn how to spot a sexual manipulator and avoid the heartache.

You Live Together, but You Aren’t Even Engaged?

Living together before marriage is not uncommon, but living together before engagement may spark feelings of uncertainty. New research studied non-engaged couples living together and what topics/situations spark uncertainty.

Good Sex

Truly good sex is about more than bodies, it is about persons.

Can Snapchat Cause Jealousy?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on May 18, 2015 in Love, Digitally
Snapchat used for sexting Participants used Snapchat more for flirting

The Sexuality Of Schools

By Nick Luxmoore on May 16, 2015 in Young People Up Close
The way a school expresses or represses its collective sexual identity will have an effect on the individuals attending that school.

What Women Need to Know about the Bystander Effect in Men

The problem of sexual aggression toward female students by their male peers is becoming an increasing matter of concern on college campuses. Alcohol is known to be a risk factor in fueling violence against women but new research shows that sexist attitudes greatly compound the dangers.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 2

By Eyal Winter on May 16, 2015 in Feeling Smart
"sperm competition" is a major force that shaped men and women differently

Do Condoms Impair Erotic Sensitivity?

Despite the lingering “shower in a raincoat” myth, if you enjoy the sex you’re having, condoms don’t impair sensitivity.

Good Enough Sex vs. Perfect Individual Sex Performance

Sex does not equal intercourse and intercourse and orgasm is not a pass-fail sex test.

Infidelity Goes Public

In 2001, entrepreneur Noel Biderman launched Ashley Madison, a dating/hookup website designed not to help single people meet, date and potentially fall in love, but to help people in established relationships engage in sexual infidelity.

Are We Attracted to People Who Look Like Us?

Do opposites attract? Apparently not. According to recent research, we are attracted to people who resemble our parents or ourselves.