Essential Reads

When Is Porn Use a Problem?

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 19, 2018 in ExperiMentations
How do relationship and sexual satisfaction affect couples' use of pornography? New research provides guidance for when porn use is likely to become detrimental.

11 Reasons Women Have Difficulty with Orgasm, and What Helps

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 17, 2018 in ExperiMentations
Up to half of women report difficulty with orgasm. Research identifies barriers to sexual pleasure, and provides guidance on how to enjoy intimate experiences more fully.

Gender Differences in Desire

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on February 14, 2018 in In It Together
How do long-term couples maintain desire? They understand the importance of secure emotional attachment.

Why Do Veterans Have Issues with Sex and Intimacy?

By Meaghan Mobbs on February 14, 2018 in The Debrief
Why do vets have issues with sex and intimacy? The conversation that needs to be happening but isn't.

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3 Keys to Enhancing Your Love Life After Retirement

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on February 02, 2018 in Mindful Anger
Treat your partner like you did when you first met — with the newness and sexiness of young love — and you’ll live happily ever after-retirement.

Do Lovers' Sexually Transmitted Infections Prove Cheating?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 01, 2018 in All About Sex
When a lover turns up with a sexually transmitted infection, the person may have been unfaithful, but not necessarily.
By © Nevit Dilmen, CC BY-SA 3.0

Toys Are Us? Gender Behavior, Subject to Manipulation?

Research lends supports to the view that one is born with a gender orientation (likely along a continuum), implying that attempts to change it are doomed and will likely cause harm

On Ellen, Saoirse Ronan Beautifully Resists Pressure to Date

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on January 31, 2018 in Living Single
In a clip viewed more than 8 million times, Ellen relentlessly pressured Saoirse Ronan to express an interest in dating. Saoirse resisted magnificently.

Polyamory, Consensual Non-Monogamy, or AltSex?

What is the right word for people in multiple relationships at the same time who all know about each other? This blog explores the various labels and suggests one to use.

The Sexual Secrets Women Keep, Even From Themselves

Many of the factors which shape our sexual thoughts and desires remain consciously undetected by women.

Why Sexual Harassment is a Human Characteristic

Sexual harassment is an invention of the human brain. The inventiveness of the human brain makes harassment one inevitable feature of human behavior, but it also offers a remedy.
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The Vicious Sex and Affection Cycle

When your relationship is spinning out of control, you should learn to dance.

Storytellers Have More Sex

By Charles S. Jacobs on January 27, 2018 in Management Rewired
How can the use of well-crafted narratives enrich your sex life?

The Illusion of Sameness

One of the biggest mistakes we make in love relationships is assuming that our partners' experience is the same as ours.

Things To Consider About New Relationships

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on January 27, 2018 in Emotional Fitness
The most interesting thing about all these desires is that they usually change with time, and the wants of someone in his or her twenties are different from those at middle-age.

What Teenage Girls Wish Their Mothers Said About Sex

By Jane Adams Ph.D. on January 26, 2018 in Between the Lines
What we don't tell our daughters about sex and why it's the most important thing to remember.

Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder in ICD-11

By David J Ley Ph.D. on January 24, 2018 in Women Who Stray
If Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder is accepted into ICD-11, as appears likely, what does that mean for the great sex addiction debate?

A Letter to Young Adult Men: What You Can Learn from Ansari

By Laurie Mintz Ph.D. on January 23, 2018 in Stress and Sex
Young Men: Here are seven tips to follow so that no “Grace” ever describes her evening with you as “the worst in her life."

Mindfulness, Masculinity, and #MeToo

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on January 22, 2018 in The Web of Violence
Steps for men to support nonviolence from guest blogger Katie Querna, MSSW.

Talking About the Things That Matter

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on January 20, 2018 in Emotional Fitness
When the two of you can spend the entire night talking, you know this is someone you can spend a lifetime with.
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Asexuality Is a Lifelong Lack of Sexual Attraction

By Lucia F O'Sullivan Ph.D. on January 20, 2018 in At First Blush
If you have never experienced sexual attraction, like, ever, you may be asexual.

How to Say Yes, No, or Some: A Post-"Cat Person" Guide

By Sari Cooper, CST, LCSW on January 19, 2018 in Sex Esteem
Do you relate to the characters in "Cat Person"? Here are some critical dating and sexual tips for Millennials and beyond.

Has the #MeToo Movement Gone Overboard with Aziz Ansari?

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on January 19, 2018 in Laugh, Cry, Live
Isn't there a difference between bad guys doing bad things, and good guys doing gross things? A bad date is not #metoo.

If Oxytocin and Sex Deceive You, Try Gratitude to Move On

By Rita Watson MPH on January 18, 2018 in With Love and Gratitude
If you are suffering from heartbreak, honestly evaluate your last love relationship, then embrace gratitude and look forward to Valentine's Day with a new perspective on love.

The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife

By Wednesday Martin Ph.D. on January 17, 2018 in Stepmonster
These cheating wives challenge all our easy assumptions about female sexuality.

The Most Important Sex Education Lesson of All: Consent

By Adam Price Ph.D. on January 17, 2018 in The Unmotivated Teen
How to teach boys when no means no and when yes means no.


By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on January 16, 2018 in Minority Report
Do you find your partner's emojis to others too flirty or just too much with someone else? If so, your romantic relationship could be victim to "micro-cheating".

How the “Porn Addiction” Movement Disrespects Women

By Marty Klein Ph.D. on January 16, 2018 in Sexual Intelligence
Assuming that women can't control their emotions in the face of their partner's porn use disempowers them--and undermines the partnership a couple needs to work things out.

Cat Person, Aziz Ansari and Power in the Age of Trump

The New Yorker's "Cat Person" short story seemed to be a prelude to the current Aziz Ansari story. What can we learn about power and vulnerability in the Trump era?

Want More Intense Orgasms? Try This Simple, Subtle Exercise

By Michael Castleman M.A. on January 15, 2018 in All About Sex
For more intense, more pleasurable orgasms—guaranteed!—try quick, easy, private Kegel exercises.

6 Tips to Practice on a First Date

"Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love"—Mother Teresa

Tips for Sexual Wellness in 2018

By Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST on January 11, 2018 in Modern Sex
What will you do to cultivate more sexual wellness this year?

Why Men Will Always Be More Disgusting Than Women

By Frank T. McAndrew Ph.D. on January 09, 2018 in Out of the Ooze
It can be very liberating to be the most disgusting person in the room.