Sex Essential Reads

Sober Dating + Sober Sex = Less Drug and Alcohol Relapse

What should recovering alcoholics and former drug addicts keep in mind when pursuing romantic relationships?

3 Sure Signs of a Relationship at Risk

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on February 01, 2016 Insight Is 20/20
Relationships don't end for mysterious reasons. If you learn to watch for the signs, you can see it ending clearly.

5 Steps to a Better Valentine's Day

Valentine’s Day is a day that can be fraught with and weighed down by expectations. Perhaps we can mitigate potential problems by prepping for it together.

Of Mice and Women: A Dark Side of Oxytocin and Conservation

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on January 27, 2016 Animal Emotions
Studies of sex differences in responses to stress now focus on females. Usually data from animal studies are used for humans, but this information is important for the animals.

The Explosive Mix of Sex and Violence

By R. Douglas Fields on January 26, 2016 The New Brain
The mass sexual assaults in Cologne illuminate a dark side of human nature—how sex and violence are interlinked in the human brain.

Forensic Misuse of Sex Addiction

By David J Ley Ph.D. on January 18, 2016 Women Who Stray
Despite sex addiction not being an accepted diagnosis, people keep trying to use it as a way to stay out of jail, keep their kids, or to hang onto their career.

For the Sake of Blueberries and Sex

We Love to Believe A Good Story, Can Blueberries Prevent Erectile Dysfunction?

Where’s the Nearest Starbucks? Sex Differences in Wayfinding

Are there really evolved sex differences in cognition?

Ten Erection Disappointments That Are NOT “ED”

By Marty Klein PhD on December 31, 2015 Sexual Intelligence
Didn't get an erection last time you wanted to? You probably don't have "ED"--maybe it's just unrealistic expectations.

No Mabel, You DON'T Have to Compete With Porn Actresses

By Marty Klein PhD on December 22, 2015 Sexual Intelligence
Comparing yourself to porn actresses--and feeling resentful? Here's an alternative.

This Is How Friendship Turns Into Romance

The line between friendship and love is more blurred than you think.

What It Means to Eat 'Like a Man' (or Woman)

Foods are gendered—meat is associated with virile masculinity and “light” foods are evoke delicate femininity—and are a means gender performance and others’ gendered evaluation.

Statistical Abracadabra: Making Sex Differences Disappear

How to make sex differences appear to disappear.

Darwin’s Long Reach Across Psychology

A small evolutionary psychology conference in upstate New York sheds light on a wide variety of psychological phenomena — from music to emotions to relationships — and more.

Why Are So Many Indian Arranged Marriages Successful?

Relinquishing difficult aspects of choice, deciding quickly, and starting the relationship with lower expectations may have upsides for longer-term marital outcomes.

Why Is Your Relationship a Secret?

Historically, the closest a young woman could get to having power was to have sex with a man who had it. If the powerful man desires a woman privately, could he really deny publicly that she's the love of his life?

Why Are Kids Sexting?

By Leonard Sax M.D., Ph.D. on November 17, 2015 Sax on Sex
Why do girls and boys send sexy photos? The answers for girls are different from the answers for boys.

Do Bullies Want Love, Not War?

Psychologists in Canada have found that bullies experience greater opportunities for sex. Bullies are more likely to have dated, had sex, and to report numerous sexual partners.

11 Questions to Find Out How Much Your Partner Turns You On

Studies on relationship satisfaction don’t always capture the true qualities that promote intimacy between partners, especially when it comes to sexuality. The real key, as recent research shows, may lie in a much more intense feeling called, for lack of a better word, “fascination.” This 11-item scale will put your fascination with your partner to the test.

Loss Aversion and Romance

By Eyal Winter on November 07, 2015 Feeling Smart
Lazy and disheveled ranks as top deal breaker.

Sex and Happiness: Natural Allies or Strange Bedfellows?

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on November 05, 2015 Insight Therapy
Sex and happiness are linked, we know that. How exactly are sex and happiness linked? We don’t know that.

Can You Fall Back in Love With Your Partner?

By Isadora Alman MFT on November 03, 2015 Sex & Sociability
Falling in love is always exciting, and can be even more so when it's with your own mate.

15 First Date Mistakes You Should Avoid

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on November 03, 2015 The Squeaky Wheel
Small mistakes can ruin your chances of getting a second date. Here are the most common ones to avoid:

The Mating Game Is Changing —And You Won't Believe How

By Hara Estroff Marano on October 26, 2015 Nation of Wimps
Mating is changing in some very surprising ways in response to an increasing shortage of high-quality men. When it comes to mating, it turns out, numbers change psychology.

Implementing Amy Schumer’s Orgasm Advice

By Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D. on October 26, 2015 Stress and Sex
Amy Shummer is using her comedic genius to be an orgasm advocate. Now it’s up to you to take her advice and advocate for your own orgasm. It feels great, and Amy’s right: You deserve it and your clitoris and your communication are the key.

User's Manual for the Male Brain

Theory and practice of getting the best and avoiding the worst in male humans

Do 'Macho' Men Get All the Attention in the Dating Pool?

Women's preferences for masculine or feminine faces vary considerably. A new study puts evolutionary explanations of these preferences to the test.

What Do Hypoactive Sexual Desire and PTSD Have in Common?

By Jeffrey Lieberman M.D. on September 22, 2015 Shrink Speak
Science and social pressures influence how and when drugs are developed by the pharmaceutical industry.

The Perils of Left and Right Swiping

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on September 18, 2015 Adventures in Dating
Online dating is a common activity for many single (and married) Americans. Still, just how old is that photo in the profile you're eyeing? Is it accurate? Research summarized here answers those questions.

Why Some Welcome Unisex Bathrooms, and Some Steer Clear

Why are women more comfortable than men when sharing multi-user unisex bathrooms? Although still influenced by Victorian-era paternalism toward women, the gendered dynamics behind men's discomfort primarily reflect their fears and insecurities in all-male public restrooms. Does man's de facto exclusion undermine the inclusive intention of multi-user unisex bathrooms?