Sex Essential Reads

Why Are So Many Indian Arranged Marriages Successful?

Relinquishing difficult aspects of choice, deciding quickly, and starting the relationship with lower expectations may have upsides for longer-term marital outcomes.

Why Is Your Relationship a Secret?

Historically, the closest a young woman could get to having power was to have sex with a man who had it. If the powerful man desires a woman privately, could he really deny publicly that she's the love of his life?

Why Are Kids Sexting?

By Leonard Sax M.D., Ph.D. on November 17, 2015 Sax on Sex
Why do girls and boys send sexy photos? The answers for girls are different from the answers for boys.

Do Bullies Want Love, Not War?

Psychologists in Canada have found that bullies experience greater opportunities for sex. Bullies are more likely to have dated, had sex, and to report numerous sexual partners.

11 Questions to Find Out How Much Your Partner Turns You On

Studies on relationship satisfaction don’t always capture the true qualities that promote intimacy between partners, especially when it comes to sexuality. The real key, as recent research shows, may lie in a much more intense feeling called, for lack of a better word, “fascination.” This 11-item scale will put your fascination with your partner to the test.

Loss Aversion and Romance

By Eyal Winter on November 07, 2015 Feeling Smart
Lazy and disheveled ranks as top deal breaker.

Sex and Happiness: Natural Allies or Strange Bedfellows?

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on November 05, 2015 Insight Therapy
Sex and happiness are linked, we know that. How exactly are sex and happiness linked? We don’t know that.

Can You Fall Back in Love With Your Partner?

By Isadora Alman MFT on November 03, 2015 Sex & Sociability
Falling in love is always exciting, and can be even more so when it's with your own mate.

15 First Date Mistakes You Should Avoid

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on November 03, 2015 The Squeaky Wheel
Small mistakes can ruin your chances of getting a second date. Here are the most common ones to avoid:

The Mating Game Is Changing —And You Won't Believe How

By Hara Estroff Marano on October 26, 2015 Nation of Wimps
Mating is changing in some very surprising ways in response to an increasing shortage of high-quality men. When it comes to mating, it turns out, numbers change psychology.

Implementing Amy Schumer’s Orgasm Advice

By Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D. on October 26, 2015 Stress and Sex
Amy Shummer is using her comedic genius to be an orgasm advocate. Now it’s up to you to take her advice and advocate for your own orgasm. It feels great, and Amy’s right: You deserve it and your clitoris and your communication are the key.

User's Manual for the Male Brain

Theory and practice of getting the best and avoiding the worst in male humans

Do 'Macho' Men Get All the Attention in the Dating Pool?

Women's preferences for masculine or feminine faces vary considerably. A new study puts evolutionary explanations of these preferences to the test.

What Do Hypoactive Sexual Desire and PTSD Have in Common?

By Jeffrey Lieberman M.D. on September 22, 2015 Shrink Speak
Science and social pressures influence how and when drugs are developed by the pharmaceutical industry.

The Perils of Left and Right Swiping

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on September 18, 2015 Adventures in Dating
Online dating is a common activity for many single (and married) Americans. Still, just how old is that photo in the profile you're eyeing? Is it accurate? Research summarized here answers those questions.

Why Some Welcome Unisex Bathrooms, and Some Steer Clear

Why are women more comfortable than men when sharing multi-user unisex bathrooms? Although still influenced by Victorian-era paternalism toward women, the gendered dynamics behind men's discomfort primarily reflect their fears and insecurities in all-male public restrooms. Does man's de facto exclusion undermine the inclusive intention of multi-user unisex bathrooms?

Is Online Infidelity Really Infidelity?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on September 16, 2015 Love, Digitally
Online liaisons are not necessarily considered to be unfaithful behaviour. Sexual infidelity online is no threat to a male’s certainty of paternity

Are Transgender Women Just Reinforcing Sexist Stereotypes?

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 15, 2015 Laugh, Cry, Live
How is gender identity formed? Are masculinity and femininity just oppressive stereotypes? Would transgender women, like Caitlin Jenner, exist if men were free to wear dresses? Modern brain research reveals how sex differences, hormones, and experiences influence gender identity and expression.

Your Belief in Porn Addiction Makes Things Worse

By David J Ley Ph.D. on September 15, 2015 Women Who Stray
New research shows that the belief that one is a porn addict causes psychological suffering over time. This is an important wake-up call to the many people who tout the idea that porn is addictive. Their promotion of this concept is akin to those who have exploited people by selling dangerous quack remedies which ultimately caused harm.

Could Having More Sex Actually Make You Less Happy?

Are you having enough sex? Before you change you habits, beware: more, it seems, is not necessarily better.

Why Men and Women Have Different Sexual Regrets

Research finds that women are more likely to regret the sex they had, whereas men are more likely to regret the sex they did not have.

Seven Tips for Kissing Like You Mean It

By Jennifer Haupt on August 31, 2015 One True Thing
My husband of 25 years and I recently attended Kissing School, the brainchild of Seattle psychotherapist Cherie Byrd. Here's what we learned after seven hours of smoothing.

Are You and Your Partner Faking Intimacy?

Being involved in a truly intimate relationship means that you reveal your real self to your partner. The question is whether the self you show to your partner is authentic or sham. Find out whether you and your partner are being as honest as possible with each other.

How to Completely Change How You Think About Menopause

If you are a woman anywhere near 50, you either just went through menopause or you are going to go through it within the next five years. How is that going to affect your sex life? And how will you respond chemically to new love affairs and breakups?

Women in Science: Why So Few?

The smaller number of women than men with jobs in science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM) fields is an established fact. Trying to understand why and coming up with solutions is not an easy task.

Attitudes Toward Asexuals (ATA) Prejudice Scale

In a past post I discussed bias against asexuals (those without enduring sexual attraction directed toward men or women). Here I discuss a newly validated scale that captures prejudice toward asexuals, providing a more nuanced understanding of biases against sexual minorities and the challenges such individuals face.

The Reality of Hooking Up at College

By Elena Weissmann on August 05, 2015 Psy-College-y Today
Adults seem to think we’re these sex-crazed emotionless teenagers who have traded relationships for one-night stands, long conversations for heart emojis, romantic dinners for Tindr dates. Why this is a complete misperception.

What Makes A Great Lover

By Isadora Alman MFT on August 03, 2015 Sex & Sociability
The ingredients that comprise a great lover may surprise you.

Three Paradoxical Ways for Coping With Romantic Abundance

Romantic love is often characterized as involving a great deal of sensitivity, excitement, and closeness. However, our cyber society often provides an overabundance of these features. Hence, a few opposite principles are proposed: (a) Indifference is the new romantic sensitivity; (b) Calmness is the new romantic excitement; and (c) Distance is the new romantic closeness.

When Men Aren't As Good-Looking As They Think

Research finds, again, that men tend to overestimate their own attractiveness.