Sex Essential Reads

The Scientific Case for Owning Up to Your Porn Use

Many people believe that porn use should be hidden from a relationship partner. However, a new study suggests that when women think their partners are honest about their porn use, they tend to be happier with their relationships.

Creepy New Marketing Targets Female Sex Hormones

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in The Human Beast
During the fertile phase of their monthly cycle, women are prone to greater risk taking. For psychologists, this means that they are more likely to initiate sexual affairs. Marketers discovered that women are more likely to try new brands as well. Now they plan to use this fact in targeted marketing. Assuming that they get away with it, will the scheme work?

Singles, You Can Lower Your Risk of Divorce

Many singles are interested in marriage but fear divorce. You can do things before marriage to increase your odds of lasting love in marriage.

Does Science Really Say That Hot Guys Are Jerks?

There have been many recent media stories—with titles like "Science Says: Hot Guys Are A-Holes"—about a new study on attractiveness and behavior. I was lead author on this study, and I'll clarify here what our study really showed.

Do Generations Exist?

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on February 26, 2015 in The Prime of Life
Is it misleading to speak about a self-absorbed “Me Generation” or jaded, cynical GenXers, overeducated and underemployed?

What Color Should You Wear on a First Date?

Maximize your attractiveness in that online dating profile pic or on that first date

Is Sadomasochism a Uniquely Human Form of Sexuality?

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in Animals and Us
From an evolutionary point of view, the enjoyment of pain would seem to be maladaptive. Is there an animal analog of finding sexual satisfaction in being whipped, poked with needles, or having hot wax dripped on your skin?

9 Thoughts That Destroy Loving Relationships

Don't let any of these toxic thoughts overtake you and hurt or destroy your loving relationship.

8 Negative Attitudes of Chronically Unhappy People

All of us experience negative thoughts from time to time. How we manage our negative attitudes can make the difference between confidence versus fear, hope versus despair, mastery versus victimhood, and victory versus defeat. Here are eight negative attitudes of chronically unhappy people...

Confessing Your Office Romance

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on February 20, 2015 in Adventures in Dating
Workplace romances are common...but how do employees learn that two people are dating at work? My latest research study describes this process.

10 Barriers to Intimacy and How You Can Break Them Down

By Peg Streep on February 18, 2015 in Tech Support
How close and connected you feel to your partner changes over time and can, alas, both ebb and flow. What you can do to increase intimacy in your relationship, based on science.

I Would Rather Have Tasted Her Lips Just Once

Social psychologist Phillip Shaver and colleagues asked students how confident they were that words on a list of over one hundred emotion words referred to emotions. Interestingly, they found that “love” was the single word that students were most confident signified an emotion. But is love really an emotion?

Fifty Grades of Shale

By Robert J King Ph.D. on February 14, 2015 in Hive Mind
50 Shades of Grey is part of a pattern of human behavior going back millennia

Lean Back, Dad

By Nanette Fondas on February 11, 2015 in WorkLife Matters
When a dad spends more time with his children, virtually everyone benefits.

3 Relationship Myths, Debunked (and 1 Proven True)

A lot of love advice out there is nothing more than myths and urban legends. If you are an experienced myth buster, go solve some puzzles on Mensa's math site. If not, continue reading.

What Straight Couples Can Learn from Gay Couples

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 05, 2015 in Unwrapped
Ten things that gay couples know that every couple should learn. Gay couples often have had to fight for their relationship against great odds: the upside is they know how to do it and why it is worth it.

The Surprising Psychology of BDSM

‘Fifty Shades’ piqued your curiosity? Answers to five kinky questions.

The Number One Complaint of Married Men (and Some Women)

Here's what men can't tolerate from women--even if they truly appreciated it at the early stage of the relationship.

Does Wanting Casual Sex Really Mean Not Wanting Love?

By Zhana Vrangalova Ph.D. on January 28, 2015 in Strictly Casual
If someone loves one-night stands, do you automatically assume that they don't like long-term relationships? Yeah? Well, you shouldn't.

Muslims, Christians Become More Alike in an Unlikely Place

By Christine Wicker on January 27, 2015 in Pray for Me
In Nigeria, one of the world's hottest spots for religious conflict, changes in prayer practices are bringing two groups together in ways no one could have foreseen.

Is Curiosity Good for Your Relationship?

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on January 27, 2015 in In the Name of Love
Curiosity is usually regarded as a virtue, since it widens our horizons and develops our capacities. However, our natural romantic curiosity is contrary to the natural need to deepen the romantic connection. Distinguishing between two types of romantic curiosity may solve this enigma.

Conservatives Like Welfare (For Traditional Families)

When President Obama proposed lowering taxes for middle-class dual-income families with children, some conservatives objected that traditional single-earner families were left out. Like many political fights, this one shows conflicting interests at work.

How To Act Most Seductively With A Lover

By Sheila Kohler on January 26, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
How To Make Someone Love You Forever.

Normative Happiness

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on January 24, 2015 in One Among Many
Is happiness a subjective, inner, feeling, or is it subject to analytical examination? If so, can your life and your happiness be objectively evaluated? Many philosophers but few psychologists believe so.

Amazing Website Predicts All Your Political Opinions!*

I've posted an interactive tool that shows how various features (race, religion, gender, education, etc.) relate to a range of political opinions (abortion, same-sex marriage, immigration, healthcare, etc.). Don't let a focus on your own views get in the way of learning about fascinating patterns in the data.

iPhone Separation Anxiety

Are you suffering from iPhone Separation Anxiety?

Healing the Shame of Childhood Abuse Through Self-Compassion

Shame can be the most damaging effect of child abuse--compassion is its anecdote.

10 Tips for Reducing Anger

By Steven Laurent on January 15, 2015 in Chill Pill
I think some readers may take exception to tip no. 4. And many will struggle with no. 7 (myself included); but it's no reason not to strive for it...

Ten Things You Need to Know about Campus Sexual Assault

Sexaul assault on campus is common--far more common than many people imagine.

Penis Size Matters

By Robert D. Martin Ph.D. on January 13, 2015 in How We Do It
Myths regarding human penis size have acquired a life of their own but are easily debunked by analyses of reliable data from available quantitative studies. Men do not have the longest penis found among primates. There are no conspicuous differences in average penis size between human populations. And shoe size is not a reliable guide to male endowment.