Sex Essential Reads

When Men Aren't As Good-Looking As They Think

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 27, 2015 in Social Instincts
Research finds, again, that men tend to overestimate their own attractiveness.

Should Polygamy Really Be Legal?

With gay marriage now legal across the USA, some are suggesting that legal polygamy should be next. But would this really be a good idea?

New Relationships and Sex after 60, 70, and 80

What does intimacy look like after sixty and should you broach the subject with your older parents?

Is Your Childhood Wrecking Your Love Life?

By Peg Streep on July 21, 2015 in Tech Support
One of the legacies of childhood is how well or badly we connect to others, both in friendship as well as intimate settings. How your childhood experiences may shape your ability to love and be loved today, and how to understand and recognize patterns of insecure attachment.

Evolutionary Psychology 2.0

Evolutionary psychology got its start with a large focus on evolved behavioral sex differences. Since its inception, the field has broadened to the entirety of topics studied within the behavioral sciences. It may be time to start talking EP 2.0.

Sex and the Single Borderline Woman

The Buddha and the Borderline is a cross between "Girl, Interrupted" and "Bridget Jones’s Diary." She is much more than a ‘lonely and increasingly horny receptionist,’ as she says in the book. Her insights into the world of the borderline mind are as funny as they are revealing.

Gay Marriage: Where Politics Meets Matters of the Heart

Well, now we’ve got marriage equality. And with it, we’ve also got marriage—with all of its ups and downs and psychological challenges.

5 Signs That Men and Women Are Converging

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on July 08, 2015 in The Human Beast
Fairly rigid gender divisions of the past are giving way to a much more equal relationship for Millennials. Men's actions and sensibilities are converging with women in remarkable ways even as women begin to act, and feel more like men. What are the key signs that this is happening?

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 8

By Eyal Winter on July 04, 2015 in Feeling Smart
In fact Men Talk More than Women - Read for evidence. Read also about the role the"demand withdrawal" phenomenon that is typical to so many relationships shapes this myth.

The Sexism in Science Controversies

By Lee Jussim Ph.D. on July 02, 2015 in Rabble Rouser
Are scientific claims of sexism in science overstated?

Should Couples Share Their Sexual Fantasies?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 02, 2015 in All About Sex
Sexual fantasies excite the imagination—and sometimes are better left there.

Why Good Looks Don't Guarantee a Great Relationship

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in Social Instincts
New research finds that attractiveness does little to guarantee a healthy relationship.

Eleven Facts About Sex I Wish Judges & Lawyers Understood

By Marty Klein PhD on June 30, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
The justice system requires knowledgeable judges and lawyers. When it comes to sex, most aren't.

The Fat Fetish, Explained

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in In Excess
One sexual behaviour that appears to be very popular among a minority of men is ‘BBW squashing’ (i.e., men being squashed by one or more ‘big beautiful women’ for sexual pleasure) and also known as ‘crushing’ or ‘smashing’ by squashing enthusiasts. But what do we know psychologically about this strange sexual behaviour?

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 7

By Eyal Winter on June 27, 2015 in Feeling Smart
More Clichés: Men seek Younger and Physically Attractive; Women seek Professionally Successful

The Psychological Benefits of Legalized Gay Marriage

By Clay Routledge Ph.D. on June 26, 2015 in More Than Mortal
Marriage provides psychological security and meaning. And now these benefits are fully available to same-sex couples.

Same-Sex Marriage Needed to Be Decided by the Supreme Court

Today the Supreme Court decided that marriage is a right for all, same-sex and opposite-sex couples alike. Some would rather this has been decided by popular vote, but it's more appropriate and just that the courts should decide. But why?

It Is Time to Legalize and Accept Same-Sex Marriage

Researchers, the majority of the American public, and even advertisers are calling for acceptance of same-sex marriage—isn’t it time the Supreme Court and our legal system followed suit?

Nice Guys Really Do Finish Last

A new study shows that being over-confident may not make you more desirable, but can still help you get the girl.

Can We Choose Our Identity?

By David J Ley Ph.D. on June 23, 2015 in Women Who Stray
Caitlyn Jenner, Rachel Dolezal, Barrack Obama. The news today is filled with a debate about how much choice and control we truly have, over defining who and what we are.

Why Violent Crime Is Shrinking

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on June 23, 2015 in The Human Beast
Rising crime rates during the twentieth century were a small blip on a very steep decline extending back to the fourteenth century and earlier. That stunning conclusion emerged only in the last decade. Causes of most of the long-term decline are currently unknown. That of the past few decades seems simpler.

Sibling Incest in the News

Having worked in the child sexual abuse field for 30 some years, I am continually struck with a sense of sadness when yet another family comes forward with admissions of sibling sexual abuse. Rather than judgment it is important to be aware of treatment and healing options. Jumping to quick labeling without understanding the help needed is dangerous.

Good Guys Finish Last? Not So Fast…

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on June 15, 2015 in Insight Therapy
“Good guys finish last,” goes the familiar lament of many ‘good’ men. “All the good guys are taken,” goes the familiar lament of many good women. So, which is it?

What Are the Psychological Effects of Casual Sex?

Much of my audience is appalled by the fact that infidelity is so prevalent and that it has been so thoroughly monetized, while others simply shrug their shoulders and say things like, “People have been cheating since the beginning of time, so what’s the big deal?”

Are You in the Mood?

By Erica B Slotter Ph.D. on June 04, 2015 in Me, You, & Us
Mis-matched feelings of sexual desire are an incredibly common problem in relationships today. Sometimes you're in the mood and your partner isn't, sometimes it's the other way around. Brand new research has investigated how people with different relationship motivations handle these dilemmas to find sexual and relationship satisfaction.

Do Teens Imitate the Sex They See in the Movies?

Although research finds that exposure to sexualized media is linked to more sexual partners and unprotected sex among teens, it is premature to suggest that sex should be edited out from the movies entirely.

Is the Tongue the "Sword of a Woman?"

The current evidence about sex differences in gossip indicates that beliefs about females being more likely to use gossip in an aggressive fashion are based upon more than just a stereotype. However, this does not mean that women are more aggressive or “nastier” than men; they simply differ in their preferred style of aggression.

7 Reasons for Gay & Lesbian Couples to Celebrate

Rainbow weddings and "Mr. & Mr." or "Mrs. & Mrs." events are a growing phenomenon -- but keeping the relationship strong is equally challenging regardless of the gender identity of the couple!

Happy Birthday Edward Gibbon

227 years ago this month, the last installment of The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire came out. Gibbon was wrong about Roman emperors, and he was wrong about the Church. But he was right that democracy depends on the ability to sail away from a tyrant.

How to Stop Thinking About Someone

By Ira Hyman Ph.D. on May 27, 2015 in Mental Mishaps
You meet someone new and attractive. Temptation strikes. Perhaps you’re a little infatuated. The eye looks and the mind wanders. You find your thoughts keep returning to the encounter and the possibility for romance, sex, or a relationship. But if you’re already in a committed and happy relationship, you may not want those thoughts. How can you stop those thoughts?