Sex Essential Reads

User's Manual for the Male Brain

Theory and practice of getting the best and avoiding the worst in male humans

Do 'Macho' Men Get All the Attention in the Dating Pool?

Women's preferences for masculine or feminine faces vary considerably. A new study puts evolutionary explanations of these preferences to the test.

What Do Hypoactive Sexual Desire and PTSD Have in Common?

By Jeffrey Lieberman M.D. on September 22, 2015 Shrink Speak
Science and social pressures influence how and when drugs are developed by the pharmaceutical industry.

The Perils of Left and Right Swiping

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on September 18, 2015 Adventures in Dating
Online dating is a common activity for many single (and married) Americans. Still, just how old is that photo in the profile you're eyeing? Is it accurate? Research summarized here answers those questions.

Why Some Welcome Unisex Bathrooms, and Some Steer Clear

Why are women more comfortable than men when sharing multi-user unisex bathrooms? Although still influenced by Victorian-era paternalism toward women, the gendered dynamics behind men's discomfort primarily reflect their fears and insecurities in all-male public restrooms. Does man's de facto exclusion undermine the inclusive intention of multi-user unisex bathrooms?

Is Online Infidelity Really Infidelity?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on September 16, 2015 Love, Digitally
Online liaisons are not necessarily considered to be unfaithful behaviour. Sexual infidelity online is no threat to a male’s certainty of paternity

Are Transgender Women Just Reinforcing Sexist Stereotypes?

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 15, 2015 Laugh, Cry, Live
How is gender identity formed? Are masculinity and femininity just oppressive stereotypes? Would transgender women, like Caitlin Jenner, exist if men were free to wear dresses? Modern brain research reveals how sex differences, hormones, and experiences influence gender identity and expression.

Your Belief in Porn Addiction Makes Things Worse

By David J Ley Ph.D. on September 15, 2015 Women Who Stray
New research shows that the belief that one is a porn addict causes psychological suffering over time. This is an important wake-up call to the many people who tout the idea that porn is addictive. Their promotion of this concept is akin to those who have exploited people by selling dangerous quack remedies which ultimately caused harm.

Could Having More Sex Actually Make You Less Happy?

Are you having enough sex? Before you change you habits, beware: more, it seems, is not necessarily better.

Why Men and Women Have Different Sexual Regrets

Research finds that women are more likely to regret the sex they had, whereas men are more likely to regret the sex they did not have.

Seven Tips for Kissing Like You Mean It

By Jennifer Haupt on August 31, 2015 One True Thing
My husband of 25 years and I recently attended Kissing School, the brainchild of Seattle psychotherapist Cherie Byrd. Here's what we learned after seven hours of smoothing.

Are You and Your Partner Faking Intimacy?

Being involved in a truly intimate relationship means that you reveal your real self to your partner. The question is whether the self you show to your partner is authentic or sham. Find out whether you and your partner are being as honest as possible with each other.

How to Completely Change How You Think About Menopause

If you are a woman anywhere near 50, you either just went through menopause or you are going to go through it within the next five years. How is that going to affect your sex life? And how will you respond chemically to new love affairs and breakups?

Women in Science: Why So Few?

The smaller number of women than men with jobs in science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM) fields is an established fact. Trying to understand why and coming up with solutions is not an easy task.

Attitudes Toward Asexuals (ATA) Prejudice Scale

In a past post I discussed bias against asexuals (those without enduring sexual attraction directed toward men or women). Here I discuss a newly validated scale that captures prejudice toward asexuals, providing a more nuanced understanding of biases against sexual minorities and the challenges such individuals face.

The Reality of Hooking Up at College

By Elena Weissmann on August 05, 2015 Psy-College-y Today
Adults seem to think we’re these sex-crazed emotionless teenagers who have traded relationships for one-night stands, long conversations for heart emojis, romantic dinners for Tindr dates. Why this is a complete misperception.

What Makes A Great Lover

By Isadora Alman MFT on August 03, 2015 Sex & Sociability
The ingredients that comprise a great lover may surprise you.

Three Paradoxical Ways for Coping With Romantic Abundance

Romantic love is often characterized as involving a great deal of sensitivity, excitement, and closeness. However, our cyber society often provides an overabundance of these features. Hence, a few opposite principles are proposed: (a) Indifference is the new romantic sensitivity; (b) Calmness is the new romantic excitement; and (c) Distance is the new romantic closeness.

When Men Aren't As Good-Looking As They Think

Research finds, again, that men tend to overestimate their own attractiveness.

The Pros and Cons of Polygamy

With gay marriage now legal across the USA, some are suggesting that legal polygamy should be next. But would this really be a good idea?

New Relationships and Sex after 60, 70, and 80

What does intimacy look like after sixty and should you broach the subject with your older parents?

Is Your Childhood Wrecking Your Love Life?

By Peg Streep on July 21, 2015 Tech Support
One of the legacies of childhood is how well or badly we connect to others, both in friendship as well as intimate settings. How your childhood experiences may shape your ability to love and be loved today, and how to understand and recognize patterns of insecure attachment.

Evolutionary Psychology 2.0

Evolutionary psychology got its start with a large focus on evolved behavioral sex differences. Since its inception, the field has broadened to the entirety of topics studied within the behavioral sciences. It may be time to start talking EP 2.0.

Sex and the Single Borderline Woman

The Buddha and the Borderline is a cross between "Girl, Interrupted" and "Bridget Jones’s Diary." She is much more than a ‘lonely and increasingly horny receptionist,’ as she says in the book. Her insights into the world of the borderline mind are as funny as they are revealing.

Gay Marriage: Where Politics Meets Matters of the Heart

Well, now we’ve got marriage equality. And with it, we’ve also got marriage—with all of its ups and downs and psychological challenges.

5 Signs That Men and Women Are Converging

Fairly rigid gender divisions of the past are giving way to a much more equal relationship for Millennials. Men's actions and sensibilities are converging with women in remarkable ways even as women begin to act, and feel more like men. What are the key signs that this is happening?

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 8

By Eyal Winter on July 04, 2015 Feeling Smart
In fact Men Talk More than Women - Read for evidence. Read also about the role the"demand withdrawal" phenomenon that is typical to so many relationships shapes this myth.

The Sexism in Science Controversies

By Lee Jussim Ph.D. on July 02, 2015 Rabble Rouser
Are scientific claims of sexism in science overstated?

Should Couples Share Their Sexual Fantasies?

Sexual fantasies excite the imagination—and sometimes are better left there.

Why Good Looks Don't Guarantee a Great Relationship

New research finds that attractiveness does little to guarantee a healthy relationship.