Essential Reads

Seven Tips for Kissing Like You Mean It

How to make the most of making out.

Can You Fake Intimacy?

We know that sex can be faked, but what about emotional closeness?

Women in Science: Why So Few?

We often hear that there are fewer women than men in science. How can that be?

Recent Posts on Sex

What Is the Female Social Code?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on September 03, 2015 in The Teen Doctor
How To Handle Complicated Friend/Boyfriend Situations

Genitally Does It

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on September 02, 2015 in In Excess
Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) is a distressing, handicapping, and/or impairing preoccupation with an imagined or slight defect in body appearance. One particular body part that has been the focus of some research in the BDD field is that of genitalia. Many men obsessively worry about the size of their penis. But what does the psychological literature tell us?

Sex and Singing

By Eric Haseltine Ph.D. on September 01, 2015 in Long Fuse, Big Bang
If you want more grandchildren, give your kids music lessons

DON’T Buy Erection Drugs on the Internet

By Michael Castleman M.A. on September 01, 2015 in All About Sex
A recent study finds that 77 percent of Internet “Viagra” is fake.

Seven Tips for Kissing Like You Mean It

By Jennifer Haupt on August 31, 2015 in One True Thing
My husband of 25 years and I recently attended Kissing School, the brainchild of Seattle psychotherapist Cherie Byrd. Here's what we learned after seven hours of smoothing.

3 Long-Term Investments for Lasting Love

When the physical hunger starts to wane, what can you do to keep the fire of steady love stoked?

Why a New Partner Boosts Your Sex Life

The review reports a recent British survey which found women recorded an average of eight opposite sex sexual partners over their lifetime, while men reported 12. But the survey also found 22% of women and 14% of men reported having only one sexual partner in their lifetime.

I Was On Ashley Madison

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on August 29, 2015 in Minority Report
You are on the Ashley Madison list and the pit of your stomach is churning. You may experience shortness of breath, dizziness, or loss of concentration. Your double life is over and exposed (at least to those who have the list) now you're wonder if you should double-down and continue to lie or face significant consequences for sharing the truth. But where do you start?

10 Ways To Let Your Partner Know That You Care

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on August 29, 2015 in Emotional Fitness
Caring and closeness is what makes life worth living, and anyone can improve upon how they treat the people they love. Remember that showing you care is much more powerful than just saying it.

Attraction & Infidelity: Can 'Eye Candy' Always Be Resisted?

When the Ashley Madison website, apparently promoting infidelity, was hacked revealing just how many people appear involved in relationship betrayal, the media appeared scandalised at the prevalence of infidelity - or at least the appetite for it. However psychologists have recently posed the opposite question - why is there in fact not more infidelity?

Women's Sexual Fantasies - the Latest Scientific Research

It's important to note that while headline writers may focus on the fact women have sexual fantasies about coercive sex, this research finds it's an occasional daydream, not a preoccupation. It would be similarly unfair to tar men with the brush of an occasional fantasy they may have.

Why high heels make women more attractive

In their recent study, entitled "High heels as supernormal stimuli: How wearing high heels affects judgements of female attractiveness", the psychologists compared ratings of women walking in flat shoes, with the same women walking in high heels, in order to establish whether or not walking in high heels enhances the attractiveness of gait.

Stereotypical Gender Differences in Sexuality Are Crumbling

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on August 27, 2015 in The Human Beast
Marked differences between male and female sexuality used to be supported by solid evidence around the globe. The trouble is that such distinctions are getting blurred in developed countries.

Sex: The Pursuit of Immortality at the Cost of Immorality?

Our minds are wired for survival, but what happens when the technology and abundance of contemporary life lead some of us to "eat beyond fullness" in terms of sex, diet, and information?

Cheating Ethically?

By Isadora Alman MFT on August 24, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
I can think of no circumstance in which cheating of any klind can be ethical. Can you?

Limiting Abortion to Healthy Fetuses?

By Marty Klein PhD on August 24, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
To make a point, states are criminalizing abortions that don't exist.

What Men Want

By Ryan Anderson on August 24, 2015 in The Mating Game
Men are only interested in sex right? There's more to it than you think

5 Surprising Reasons Relationships Fail

Much has been written about reasons why relationships fail. Incompatibility, different priorities, and poor communication are just a few of the causes of relational dissolution. At the same time, there are some couple characteristics which, although seemingly positive at first, can ruin a relationship down the line. Here are five surprising reasons relationships fail...

Young Men and Bad Sex: Women Are Being Shortchanged

By Rita Watson MPH on August 21, 2015 in With Love and Gratitude
Too many smart women are being shortchanged by sexually inadequate and callous men. Can men learn the art of loving just as a seal can learn to balance a ball on its nose?

"Pink Viagra"—No It Isn't

By Marty Klein PhD on August 21, 2015 in Sexual Intelligence
FDA approves Flibanserin—and the search for sexual desire continues.

Josh Duggar, Porn Addict?

By David J Ley Ph.D. on August 20, 2015 in Women Who Stray
Embattled Christian reality television star Josh Duggar has blamed porn addiction and a battle with Satan for the latest sex scandal, as he is revealed in the Ashley Madison data dump.

Sex Addiction

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on August 20, 2015 in Minority Report
Is a sex-crazed person a sex addict? Is it someone who enjoys sex with his/her partner? Due to the confusion of sex addiction even among therapists, it's important to understand the qualitative difference that sets a sex addict apart from others.

Why Male and Female Psychopaths Get More Sex

One theory is that male and female psychopaths end up hypersexual through different routes via contrasts in personality - it's the antisocial aspect in men, but instead the impulsive thrill seeking in women.

My Daughter Can't Handle College

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 20, 2015 in The Teen Doctor
What to do about daughter's inability to manage her life

Infidelity: Looking Beyond the Ashley Madison Scandal

Although it’s difficult to know where to draw the line between addiction, ‘high sex drive’ and plain old dishonesty, there are some basic patterns that one can identify in an effort to make sense of a betrayal.

The Importance of Sex While Raising The Special Needs Child

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on August 19, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
Sex & Raising The Special Needs Child

New Psychology of Kissing Reveals Its True Purpose

The investigation challenges conventional views of why we kiss. The surprising results suggest there may be more going on beneath the surface, when it comes to kissing, than is commonly realised.

10 Common Relationship Myths (and Why They're All Wrong)

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on August 19, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
We enter into relationships with certain beliefs about what good relationships are supposed to be like and how we’re supposed to feel within them. But what if we're wrong?

The Movie "Trainwreck" Isn't Just A Rom-Com

In Trainwreck Amy Schumer points out the holes in the idea (that many Millennials have) that the work of feminism has been done, that drinking or having sex or working “like a man” makes women equal, that the casual, commitment-free sex they’re having is really their choice.

Could Online Pornography Be A Silent Yet Exploding Epidemic?

Online pornography may be an emerging epidemic. Perhaps we need to treat the internet like any other possible addictive substance. Then we can be more thoughtful and intentional in being sure that online pornography doesn’t take hold of us and our youth.