Essential Reads

What’s the Key Imperative for Lasting Love?

One thing most distinguishes romantic love from a more mature, adult love.

How Good Are You at Flirting?

Your flirting style can set you up for success...or failure.

Anger Management Failures

Ordinary Anger vs. Problem Anger

Simple, Everyday Actions That Support Mental Health

Elena Greco on mental health and community support

Recent Posts on Self-Help

Healing Anxiety Naturally

The original and best remedy for fear is a safe relationship: initimacy is the mother of all anxiety tonics.

Dr. Louis CK

By Christa Smith Psy.D. on May 29, 2015 in Shift
What a comedian can teach us about growing up

New Ways to Happiness with Strengths

Need a happiness boost? Looking for more meaning in life? Trying to reach a goal? A new pathway to reach these benefits is to identify your signature strengths (your best personality characteristics) and use them in a new way each day. Research on strengths has repeatedly found this intervention...

What’s the Key Imperative for Lasting Love?

In the idyllic state of romantic love, you typically attempt to secure the object of your passion by putting their wants and needs ahead of your own. It’s as though you’re saying to yourself: “So I can make you mine, I’ll make fulfilling your desires more important than my own.” But that relational stance yet includes a crucial contingency clause. . . .

Don’t Worry. Make an Expansive Move, and Be Happy.

By Steve Sisgold on May 29, 2015 in Life in a Body
Create more happiness and less stress through being aware of our body movements..

How Can Letting Go Make Us Stronger?

By Allison Carmen on May 29, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
It can be tough to let go of expectations and attachments when the unexpected happens. Yet, if we can find a mantra or a tool to help us let go of our thoughts about what might have been, we often make room to embrace whatever we are experiencing. We can come to the moment with an open heart and avail ourselves to all that is possible.

Treating Erectile Dysfunction Without Pills

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on May 28, 2015 in Save Your Sex Life
Treating Erectile Dysfunction Without Drugs

No One Wants a Secret Admirer

A closed mouth gathers no foot. It also gathers no friends. People want verbal affirmation of their attributes and accomplishments, not secret admirers. Regardless of how far up the food chain someone has managed to climb, everyone wants to be assured of their value and worth.

Stop Numbing Out and Awaken to Your Life

Do you frequently numb out with food, television, social media or drama? Escapist habits quietly cheat us of the life that we're meant to live and prevent the healing that wants to take place in our hearts.

Can You Grow From the Loss of Love?

The painful experience of a lost love relationship can spur positive emotional growth, depending on how you deal with its impact.

Not Sleeping?

Rolling around in bed thinking a mile a minute when you want to be sleeping isn’t fun. Sometimes a simple mindfulness routine can turn down the tensions and send you into dreamland.

The Science of Predicting the Future

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on May 27, 2015 in The Sports Mind
Some people are surprisingly good at predicting the future. Are you one of them?

How Good Are You at Flirting?

Flirting isn't easy but some styles are more effective than others.

Anger Management Failures

Anger management fails for the same reason that diets don’t work.

Sleepless in the Summer

How to improve your sleep when the mercury rises

Mom Humiliates Daughter via Facebook: Discipline or Abuse?

Have you ever seen what emotional abuse looks like? Here's a live example from a story that broke just this past week. What would you do if you saw someone doing this to a teenager?

Simple, Everyday Actions That Support Mental Health

Learn simple ways to support yourself and others for better mental health.

If You Want People To Listen, Stop Talking

By Peter Bregman on May 26, 2015 in How We Work
George had a different edge, which wasn’t immediately obvious to me because I was listening to what George said. His power was in what he didn’t say.

10 Wishes What Loved Ones of Addicts Really Want

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on May 26, 2015 in A Family Affair
If you are related to or in a relationship with someone who abuses alcohol or drugs, life can be filled with many highs and lows. What are some TRUE DESIRES that you might have in common with someone else going through the same process of acceptance and self-help?

Yes, You Are Probably Biased:

Scientific evidence declares that prejudice is an inherent part of every person; we are genetically wired to be racist, sexist, ethnocentric, etc. However, does that justify the discrimination and consequential brutality that are so rife in our society? The answer is NO. Catch your triggers and choose to make different choices about how you will react.

After the Break-Up: Making Sense of What Happened

Whenever someone breaks up with you, it’s normal to ask “why?” and try to make sense of what happened. This week, I received an inquiry from a reader who is mystified by a sudden breakup. She describes the relationship and breakup, revealing some clues as to what went wrong, including enmeshment, dishonesty, and insecurity, which doomed their relationship from the start.

Wrong Self-Appraisals Result from the Use of Wrong Criteria

Mental conflicts, including intrusive thoughts or emotions (e.g., rumination on trauma or other negative events, self-blame, shame, hopelessness, guilt, anger, or sadness) result from both unawareness that the self-schemas or appraisals are regulated by one’s pattern schemas, and the use of wrong or distorted pattern schemas for self-evaluations.

The #1 Rule for How to Inspire Passion in Others

By Gregg Levoy on May 25, 2015 in Passion!
For anyone in a position of leadership or stewardship—whether you're a parent or teacher, minister or manager, performer or politician, this much is certain: your passion is critical to their engagement.

What's Your Purpose?

I would like to enlist the help of Psychology Today readers with some research I'm doing into different types and levels of purpose.

Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder

By Karyn Hall Ph.D. on May 24, 2015 in Pieces of Mind
Listen to someone who has borderline personality disorder (BPD) talk about her experience and learn the symptoms of BPD. Much of the stigma about the disorder comes from myths.

How to See Yourself More Clearly

Writing can help you see yourself more clearly

Behaviours for Winners

Winning behaviours to help you get what you want and want what you get.

The Melancholy of Anatomy: Excessive Weight and Depression

Does a depressive disorder lead to weight gain or does weight gain lead to a depressive disorder? Studies in the past few years seem to indicate a “bidirectional relationship” between excessive weight and depression, with major public health implications.

The Long Hot Pressure: Cool it With Micro-Successes

It is hard to stay motivated for the long run but easier if you take this suggestion.

3 Ways to Make Your Work More Meaningful

People who believe that their lives have meaning and purpose share a whole host of healthy benefits: they are happier, feel more in control over their lives, feel more engaged at work (and high engagement usually means less burnout), report less depression and anxiety and less workaholism.