Essential Reads

How to Boost Your Self-Esteem? Try Hitting the Weight Room

New research shows that physically stronger men have higher self-esteem.

Why Lisa Lampanelli is a ‘Spiritual Gangster’

Comedian's Service To Others Is A Path To Self-Esteem

How and Why Color Matters in Early Recollections

The first memories of life emerge in color for only a minority of people

Personal Intelligence: Are You Using Yours?

Do you have an untapped talent? Do you delude yourself?

Recent Posts on Self-Help

What's Your Joy?

We might be happier if we spend more time thinking of our joys rather than our miseries. Writing about our joy is one way to bring about healing and establishing a sense of harmony in our lives. It can be a way to tap into our subconscious mind. In addition to writing, sometimes trying to do something different as a way to break routine.

How to Boost Your Self-Esteem? Try Hitting the Weight Room

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in Social Instincts
New research shows that physically stronger men have higher self-esteem.

4 Healthy Mind Games to Play With Yourself

Our minds are incredibly malleable, and are influenced by the world around us. We can also choose to consciously influence our minds through thoughtful “mind-games” that ultimately can change our lives for the better.

Why Your View of the Future Can Make You Depressed

Most people assume that if you're depressed, that colors your view of your future. New research turns that thinking on its head, showing that, for many, if your view of your future is negative to begin with, that can actually make you depressed. The flip side is that a positive view of your future stimulates greater mental health.

The Problem With Wanting

Wanting make us unhappy. The more desires we have, the less satisfied we are with what already have. How can we stop wanting things we don't really need?

Are You Fully Charged? 5 Ways to Energize Your Work & Life

A survey of 10,000 people revealed that only 11% responded "yes" when asked, "Did you have a great deal of energy yesterday?"

Developing Time Management Skills

When life gets busy, things pile up. Time management is not about having all of those things done; it’s about having enough time for what matters most to you. By managing your time in a more efficient way, not only will you the right things done, but you’ll also have enough time to relax, de-stress and breathe more freely.

Feeling Good? What Makes Good Feelings Flow?

How much good feeling have you been experiencing? Would you like more? Check out these 5 factors.

The "2-minute Miracle"?

Even very short amounts of time engaged in expressive writing are healing. Both psychological and physical benefits have been found. Here are a few tips if you want to get the benefits of expressive writing for yourself.

Is the Taboo Against “Blaming Victims” Over?

By Izzy Kalman on July 27, 2015 in Resilience to Bullying
The politically correct anti-bullying academic anti-bullying field has been shunning approaches to bullying that focus on teaching victims how to solve their problems because they don't want to be accused of "blaming victims." Researchers, discovering that the bully-focused approach doesn't work, may finally be ignoring the taboo against blaming victims.

Break Out of Your Boredom

People can feel imprisoned by their boredom. They are stuck in feeling restless and unmotivated with no hope of finding freedom. But there is a way out. Much like any prison break, your way out is to begin by tunneling down.

Seeing the Person Within the Persona

Irrelationship is about a lot of things: a co-created and shared defense, compulsive caregiving, Performing and Audiencing, suffering and feeling trapped and helpless. It is also about hiding out in a routine, a song-and-dance routine. That routine is like a mask that protects the self from observation—it is a persona-in-action (an enacted disguise).

Cheating Yourself? I Hear the Advice, I Do What I Want

Real behaviour change is not about willpower, or stages of change, but about satisfying wants and dealing with needs along the way.......it is about coherence at all levels of the person......

10 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. How do you know when you’re dating a narcissist? Here are ten telltale signs...

An Invaluable Lesson From Elders

Although suffering in life is inevitable, we can mitigate it.

How to Escape a Master Manipulator

The best way to handle the manipulative people in our lives is to become less manipulatable. We are only as easily manipulated as we choose to be – manipulators make us feel good when we bend to their needs.

The Problem with a Trust-But-Verify Approach

As a leader, do you know when to use a "trust, but verify" approach at work, and when not to? Are you making a common mistake about trust? Find out; plus explore five practices effective leaders use to build trust.

Breaking The Bystander Effect in Sports Concussions

By Harry Kerasidis M.D. on July 24, 2015 in Brain Trauma
We witness concussions frequently, yet from the sidelines and stands, we may gasp or cringe. But we definitely won't do or say anything, right? It's the dreaded "Bystander Effect," that has people stunned still when someone yells, "call 911!" However, I propose every youth sports team in the US empower a "Concussion Coordinator" to solve this problem.

Happify With Your Strengths!

Interested in the science of character strengths? Get tons of interesting research and information all in one image!

In Marriage, It's Compassion or Resentment

Marriages die a slow death from too little compassion. Most marriages end in a whimper, not a bang.

It's a Step, Not a Stop, on your Journey

Savor every single step of the journey for what it is . . . . a step, not your final "stop."

Ask not what fun does for you

By Bernard L. De Koven on July 24, 2015 in On Having Fun
Making a list of what you do for fun.

Getting Up and Hitting the Road Feeling Good

Becasue you feel better, you operate better.

Do You Want More Respect and Recognition for Your Work?

By Allison Carmen on July 23, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
The desire for appreciation and respect from others often stems from a fear that things are not all right. We are afraid that we're not who we should be or we're not accomplishing enough with our lives. Yet the trap is that we can’t always get from others what we are looking for and must look within in order to find any semblance of stability and freedom.

Trauma Workers At Risk for Compassion Fatigue

Those who experience compassion fatigue are often more caring of their clients, and more vulnerable to the emotional pain of others. There are, however, ways to overcome compassion fatigue.

Why Lisa Lampanelli is a ‘Spiritual Gangster’

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on July 23, 2015 in Brick by Brick
Lisa Lampanelli shares how helping others can help develop a strong self-concept.

7 Key Signs of a Lying Child or Teenager

Psychologist Adrian Furnham identified a variety of ways to detect whether an individual may be dishonest. We can apply some of the tips to communication situations with young persons. Here are seven ways to tell if a child or teenager might be lying to you...

How To Become More Resilient

Resiliency is the way in which someone copes with life's adversities. You might assume that some people are simply more resilient than others. The fact is that resiliency may be more of a lifestyle choice than anything else. While some might be innately more resilient than others, resiliency can be a learned behavior resulting in a healthier outlook on life.

How and Why Color Matters in Early Recollections

The experience of color in early recollections occurs only with a minority of persons. The meaning of color to these individuals is often life-orienting and personally enriching. The "color-minded" remind all people of the vitality and wonder of color as a human endowment.

Am I Being Punished?

If we were punished for every mistake, it would for sure be a depressing world. None of us gets what we deserve, and that is usually a good thing.