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5 Common Ways Money Issues Wreck Relationships

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Friendship 2.0
Issues surrounding money are one of the most common conflicts within relationships, even where there is plenty of love. Here are some frequent ways that money damages partnerships.

The Antidote to Envy

Envy tells us that someone, somewhere has it all—but it just isn’t true. The best we can do is be thankful for what we have and try to do something useful with it.

How Do Relationships Survive Long Distance?

What makes a long-distance relationship work?

The Art of Giving Advice

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in How To Do Life
How to make suggestions the recipient will actually embrace.

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An Ode to Readers of How-To Articles

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 26, 2016 in How To Do Life
To those who appreciate the how-to article.

Eye Contact: Yes! or No!

Design can keep us all comfortable, no matter how much eye contact we desire.

Toxic People

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on September 24, 2016 in In Flux
Several people weighed in on 8 Common Traits of Toxic People. Here are some of their thoughts, and mine, that will hopefully help shed more light on the subject.

Thousands of Genes Are Altered by Aerobic Endurance Training

By Christopher Bergland on September 24, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
A groundbreaking new study reports that aerobic endurance training can alter 3,400 RNA variants, associated with 2,600 genes. These findings have widespread health implications.

How to Make Things Better by Making Them Worse

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Think Well
While it's counter intuitive, sometimes to make things better we first have to make them worse. Here's how to understand and use the power of paradox to solve many problems.

What Does Trust "Look Like" at Work?

Engaged people do great work. Who wouldn't want that as a leader? But are you making enough trust currency to enable these behaviors? Take this quiz to find out.

The (Lost) Art of Self-Reflection

If you are tired of the blame game and want to get real answers, consider engaging in a little self-reflection with these nine steps.

Five Easy Steps to Recharge Your Money Life

By Michael F. Kay on September 22, 2016 in Financial Life Focus
Along with the flying calendar pages comes the feeling that you’re running out of time to accomplish all those financial goals you’d so optimistically planned out last January.

Is Your Partner Annoying the Crap Out of You?

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
Petty annoyances are inevitable in any partnership, but you needn’t drive each other insane. Here are 5 approaches that can help you get off the train to Crazytown.
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Do It Now

By Susan Sparks on September 21, 2016 in Laugh Your Way to Well-Being
Putting off the things you love until later? Life can change in the blink of an eye. Do It Now!

Passionate Surrender

Fear of passionate surrender is rooted in an underdeveloped sense of self. Passionate surrender is a joyous function of a fully realized adult brain.
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Don’t Just ‘Face’ Fear: Attack the Ambush

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Shadow Boxing
Author Bob Mayer offers writers strong advice from battlefield training.

Small Bits of Bravery to Accomplish Anything

By Susan Harrow on September 21, 2016 in The Body Blog
Bravery comes in many forms. What if you can do one brave act a day, no matter how small to build your bravery?

“You’re SO Controlling!”

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Evolution of the Self
It’s crucial to realize that though you might feel invaded or exploited by your partner, that doesn't necessarily mean they have the desire to control you. But if they do . . .

The Risks of Joy

By Joseph Burgo Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Shame
The potential experience of joy threatens the emergence of shame and must be avoided at all costs. Heavy defenses against shame thus limit the opportunity to experience joy in life

Three Keys to Healing Shame

To heal our shame, we need to be: truly seen, witnessed with compassion, and have our feelings and deepest truths believed.

Recovery Is a Process of Learning, Growth, and Healing

By Dan Mager MSW on September 19, 2016 in Some Assembly Required
Recovery from addiction is the process of sustaining abstinence, and learning and practicing the awareness and skills necessary to live a whole, healthy, and healed life.

Are You Nourishing Yourself?

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that nourishing yourself is so much more than what you eat.

This Is What a Panic Attack Feels Like

Imagine waking up in the morning, driving to work, and going about your day when all of a sudden you feel a sudden rush of overwhelming, intense anxiety.

To What Is Your Mind Given?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on September 19, 2016 in Your Wise Brain
Return to reliable rewards of feeling already full. Savor pleasure, move, lift your eyes to the horizon, enjoy art, feel the core of your body, and come into the present moment.

How To Be Perfect

By Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D. on September 18, 2016 in Intentional Insights
Do you want a perfect job? A perfect body? A perfect relationship? Perfect health?

Fusion Cuisine

The FATT Initiative: Food as Tasteful Therapy. Why it is good eats and good medicine for us all.

The Benefits of Avoidance

By Gregg Levoy on September 17, 2016 in Passion!
Resistance to your passions and callings may be a good omen. Why?

3 Simple Questions to Improve Your Relationship

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on September 16, 2016 in Between You and Me
We are wired to be selfish—to think about our own needs and desires first. Today, I urge you to take five minutes to consider your partner’s perspective by asking three questions.

4 Ways to Determine if You Have Self-Esteem Issues

If you struggle with self-esteem, you likely, repeatedly hit the same roadblocks within yourself and feel at a loss for improving your situation. There's a way out of this spiral.

How Volunteering Helps You

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on September 16, 2016 in Cravings
Want a long and happy life? Help someone else stay healthy.

"Moonshadow" Offers Many Clues for Letting Go of Entitlement

By Christopher Bergland on September 16, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
A new study pinpoints how a sense of entitlement leads to malcontent, distress, and anger. What can we do to break the cycle of entitlement? Pop music and poetry offer some clues.
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Why Do You Always Have Room for Dessert?

By Shahram Heshmat Ph.D. on September 15, 2016 in Science of Choice
Research consistently shows that exposure to a variety of foods results in overeating and weight gain.

When Was the Last Time You Floated On Your Inner River?

By Bernard L. De Koven on September 15, 2016 in On Having Fun
Is there a water feature in your Inner Playground?

The Pluto Effect

If there’s a chance that you might be affected by an ending or transition, consciously anticipating that it might happen might help.