Essential Reads

A Minute Therapist Guide to Managing Anger

Defusing anger by changing what you say to yourself.

Lying to Your Therapist

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP on October 26, 2016 in In Therapy
You spend money, time, and emotional energy coming to therapy – so why lie? Wouldn’t deception or omission mean that you’re avoiding your issues, keeping you from reaching goals?
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Tools of Influence

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 26, 2016 in How To Do Life
Rhetorical devices used in some of our most influential speeches are exemplars of the exercise of influence.

9 Compassionate Tips for Surviving the Death of Your Baby

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on October 24, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month. The death of a baby can bring profound grief. Here are some words of comfort and wisdom to carry parents through their mourning.

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Rethinking Your Anger

Anger is not just an emotion; it's a state of mind.

What's Up With These People?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on October 26, 2016 in Your Wise Brain
It’s natural for others to want things from you, but it can be stressful. But, there’s a sweet spot from which you can respond to their wants with an internal sense of autonomy.

The Thin Line Between Too Little and Too Much Passion Part 1

Is being passionate all that it is hyped up to be? Yes, but in moderation!

Here Come the Holidays

Prepare now with these 7 tips if family get togethers are struggles throughout the holidays and look forward to them with happy anticipation instead of fear and dread.

Myth of the Perfect Partner

Mary and Jordan are a couple I worked with fell into a pattern of avoiding sex because Jordan had come on too strong, too directly, without setting a context for love-making.

Keeping Life in Perspective

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on October 24, 2016 in Emotional Fitness
I want a low-stress life, and I want to live as fully as possible. I know that keeping things in perspective is a far better way of going on with this (mostly) wonderful journey.

Moments That Changed Everything

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 24, 2016 in How To Do Life
And how you might change things again.
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The Day After the Election, Will We Still Be Friends?

By Allison Carmen on October 23, 2016 in The Gift of Maybe
Many of us have people in our lives that we have argued with or may not be speaking to because of the presidential election. How can we repair these relationships and begin again?

Early Memories

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 23, 2016 in How To Do Life
Our strongest early memories may offer clues for what we're like today and what we can be tomorrow.

Those Who Make Your Checklist Often Don’t Make It

It’s the one that contains all the characteristics of the partner of your dreams, the one with whom you know you’ll experience happiness forever after.

Love Handles

How we “handle”, or better yet, help a significant other overcome negative experiences and behaviors can pave the way for more positive present and future sexual encounters.
Judith Orloff

Beware of the Go-For-the-Jugular Vampire

By Judith Orloff M.D. on October 20, 2016 in Emotional Freedom
This vampire is one of the most malevolent of bloodsuckers, this person is vindictive and cuts you down with no consideration for your feelings. Learn how to protect yourself.

Why Should You Build Some Nostalgia Into Your Life?

Nostalgia can make your life better.

There's Only One Way to Love: Bravely

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Loving Bravely
How do you reconcile the romanticized images of love portrayed in the media with the lived experiences of being in an intimate relationship? Let self-awareness be your guide.

You Have Power Over Your Brain Chemistry

Your brain has an operating system inherited from earlier animals. It rewards you with "happy chemicals" when you step toward meeting needs and alarms you with "unhappy chemicals.

Can You Come Home to Yourself?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Your Wise Brain
Meditation is the quintessential training of attention. Getting better control of your attention is the foundation of changing your brain, and thus your life, for the better.

Couples, Go Ahead—Enter Each Other’s “Hurt Museum”

Do you sometimes think you’ve worked through a conflict with your partner, only to have it show up again . . . and again?
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How to Handle Observing a Narcissist – 5 Survival Techniques

By Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. on October 19, 2016 in What Matters Most?
When you know you will be around a narcissist, or observing one in action, what can you do? How can you take care of yourself and grow in the process? Check out these 5 strategies.

In Search of Cracks

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 19, 2016 in How To Do Life
The first step in expanding hope is to recognize cracks of opportunity.

Coloring Books Can Help Adults During Tough Times

By Elizabeth Wagele on October 18, 2016 in The Career Within You
For my 7-Adventurer friend, coloring within an outlined structure helped her feel more organized. Coloring can also calm feelings of distress and helplessness.

Want to Better Yourself? Start Here

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in Making Change
Goals are easy to set, but can feel near impossible to meet. Learn to use self-awareness to harness your inner power to change.

What Can Secrets and Confessions Reveal?

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on October 17, 2016 in The Empowerment Diary
Most of us have secrets and/or confessions to reveal. Sharing with a therapist, friend, or a journal can be cathartic. Choosing the right recipient of the secret is important.

A Mindfulness-Based Approach to Healing From Loss

By Dan Mager MSW on October 17, 2016 in Some Assembly Required
Ironically, allowing oneself to feel the pain of loss takes considerably less energy than running from or trying to suppress it.

Recovering From Adversity

When life bruises and wounds us, we can use even the scratches to etch a portrait of beauty and charm.

13 Ways to Find More Meaning

By Megan Dalla-Camina on October 16, 2016 in Real Women
Are you one of the many people going through the motions when it comes to your career and struggling to find your purpose? Here are 13 simple ways to find more meaning.

7 Steps That Can Help Anyone Start to Meditate. Even You.

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on October 16, 2016 in Think, Act, Be
If you've wanted to start meditating and weren't sure where to begin, use this guide to get started.

To Be Awakened

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 16, 2016 in How To Do Life
Some of my clients', colleagues', friends', and my changed opinions.

How a Narcissist Can Derail You

Narcissism can derail families, relationships, work environments, and social and political institutions.

Six Expressions of Love

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on October 14, 2016 in In It Together
Do you and your partner have different ideas about how to express love? "Not feeling loved" is a major underlying cause of separation, so this is a conversation worth having.
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Getting What You Want

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on October 13, 2016 in In Control
We are all wanters. Every one of us wants lots of different things all day, every day.