Do you believe your love for junk food, your dysfunctional childhood, or the stress in your life is at the root of your compulsive eating? Is so, you've fallen into the therapy trap. The cause is more fundamental yet simpler. Here's how to diagnose and treat the root, acting as your own therapist.
Do you offer your child a “reward” to get him or her to comply with a rule? “If you tidy you room, I’ll take you to the movies.”
But this is not a reward — this is a bribe. And “bribery” is not an effective parenting technique. Learn why bribing does not work when it comes to gaining your child's cooperation and what does.
It’s a profound—and paradoxical—truth that courage isn’t really courage at all unless there’s some fear attached to it. Without a moment’s hesitation before taking on something felt as hazardous, the act would exemplify not so much courage as foolhardiness or mindless impulsivity. As Mark Twain put it: “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear—not absence of fear."
Did you ever wonder how you can be more compassionate in your life? Often times compassion is linked to being having a sense of consciousness in your everyday life. If we were all more conscious and compassionate this world would be a better place. The article uses examples of compassionate leaders and offers suggestions on how to increase compassion.
Success often brings unexpected anxieties and feelings of being a fraud. When this happens, you may press for more accomplishments or accolades. But this only seems to perpetuate your anxieties. Despite what it seems, there is a way out of the seemingly unending self-doubt and self-criticism.
What people tend to regret the most near the end of their lives is that they have not been more compassionate, loving, and supportive to those they love. A presage of this kind of regret comes with the untimely death of a loved one. The common self-doubt, even in relationships that were very close and loving, is something like: “Did she really know how much I loved her?”
Focusing was developed through research into psychotherapy effectiveness. Eugene Gendlin found that those clients who were attending to their bodily felt experience in a caring, gentle way were making the most progress in psychotherapy. This article describes Focusing as a path of befriending our experience just as it is.
The rewards for staying true to your deepest values are great: Authenticity, conviction, long-term wellbeing. And the reminders for violating them are terrible: guilt, shame, anxiety, regret, feeling inadequate or unlovable.
I was opening the mail (the real mail, the one delivered by an actual, live person) and between the bills and solicitations, was a single letter, addressed to me, in sloppy — but recognizable — handwriting.
Recognizable because the handwriting was mine.
Wayne Dyer's career as one of the most successful self-help authors and motivational speakers of all time came to an end last month at age 75, when he died of heart failure. Despite his success and accolades from millions, he has been accused of propagating New Age drivel. In this post I examine Dyer's life and discuss his contributions.
Mindfulness is a paradox. It’s the easiest thing in the world and the hardest thing in the world. But, you can cultivate your mindfulness. Here are 5 tips to find success with your mindfulness practice, whether you are new to mindfulness or someone who has been experiencing some hiccups in your practice.
The need to talk about something difficult can fill us with anxiety, whether at work or in our romantic, family, or friend relationships. Often we enter these conversations without being mindful of how to make them go the best they possibly can-- and we can make things far worse if we're not prepared. Here are important factors to consider when planning the interaction.
The term "narcissist" gets tossed around with a fair amount of abandon. Who's a narcissist and who isn't? Well, the answer offered up by a new book might surprise you. Welcome to healthy and unhealthy narcissism....You're all included.