Essential Reads

How Being Knocked Out Of Our Comfort Zones Can Be Beneficial

Sometimes the answers we're looking for come with a cold, hard slap of reality

How to Be Courageous

Being afraid and acting anyway is a form of nobility, and all of us can do it.

The Simple Exercise That Will Lead You Toward Love

A gentle process for changing the course of our lives

Recent Posts on Self-Help

Why We Use Drugs: The Power of Addictive Tendencies

Addictions are a hotel; they are not home but can remind people of home so powerfully that they won’t easily abandon them without knowing where their real home is and how to get there.

Are You Having a Relationship with an Adult Coloring Book?

As of this writing, five of the top 30 titles on Amazon’s best-seller list are adult coloring books. With over 2000 titles out there and rising, the phenomenon of adult coloring-within-the-lines just seems to have no end in sight. Just why have adult coloring books become such a phenomenon?

Why Beauty Isn’t As Important As You Think

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in The Sports Mind
New research finds that attractiveness does little to guarantee a healthy relationship.

The Deep Dark Hole of Depression

Depression is scary to some and familiar to others. But everyone knows how easy it can be to fall into the depression hole. What we all need to realize though is that regardless of whether we fall in the trap or not, we don't have to live there. We don't have to make a home there. This article distinguishes between living in depression and acknowledging that it's there.

Your Commute Could Be Killing Your Happiness

If reducing your commute isn't an option, changing your attitude could combat the negative effects of a lengthy commute.

Personal Growth 101: Letting Go of Self-Improvement

Too often striving to be a better person means rejecting the person you are. This can be demoralizing and undermine your motivation to make changes. But it doesn’t have to be this way. If you value who you are AND strive to improve, you will flourish as a person.

"Anger Is an Energy!"

By Scott Haas on June 30, 2015 in Shrink in the Kitchen
Anger is an energy and not an emotion.

Making Every Day Count

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on June 29, 2015 in In Flux
We spend so much time planning way ahead for our future. Yet, all we can ever be sure of is the day in which we find ourselves. This article is a reminder to honor each day and night of every day you are given.

Be Amazed

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on June 29, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Try to see more of your world as if you are seeing it for the first time, perhaps through the eyes of a child. If you're not amazed, you're not paying attention. If we were brave enough to be more often filled with wonder and surprise, we would treat ourselves, others, and our fragile world more gently.

How Does Your Child Sleep?

Having difficulty getting your child to bed down in the evenings? Check out this new book for frazzled families.

Self-Help Tips for Empaths: A Cartoon

By Anneli Rufus on June 29, 2015 in Stuck
A few simple tips for empaths seeking to safely navigate this crowded world.

Revolutionary: the Pressure-Less Diet

If you feel like you are burdened daily, have trouble sleeping, and going nowhere fast, it's time to start the pressure-less diet.

How to Stop Re-Creating Your Past and Finally Break Free

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on June 28, 2015 in Living Forward
If no matter how hard you try you keep ending up in the same place, it may be that you don’t realize you are creating your life by recreating the past over and over again because the brain works on the principle of anticipation. Learn how to break free of the cycle that is keeping you trapped.

6 Signs You Might Want to Call a Therapist

Depressive thinking can inhibit help-seeking behaviors.

Managing ADHD During the Summer

ADHD is a neurological disorder that causes difficulties in many aspects of children’s lives. Often when school is out during the summer, many parents consider taking their child off medications. Here are some tips to help decrease behavior problems.

How Being Knocked Out Of Our Comfort Zones Can Be Beneficial

By Gregg McBride on June 27, 2015 in The Weight-ing Game
We often want the answers to life's biggest dilemmas to be complicated, enabling or even pricey. But sometimes the best advice we can receive comes without any fancy packaging, outrageous promises or gratuitous politeness.

How to Finish What You Start

Practically everybody has started something that they've put off finishing. What's your main unfinished task? Can you use extra help?

Lessons From Happiness and Habits to Help Me Buy a Backpack

By Gretchen Rubin on June 26, 2015 in The Happiness Project
Some people love finishing, and some people love opening—both literally and figuratively.

Procrastination 101: Determine the Source, Solve the Problem

Procrastination has many sources and determining your own goes a long way in putting procrastination to rest. Some of the common causes and their antidotes.

Are You a Codependent Beast of Others' Burdens?

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on June 25, 2015 in Presence of Mind
Do you have codependent tendencies and if so, what should you do about it?

Coping with Loneliness: Finding Your Way Out of the Dark

Loneliness can be so agonizing that it often presses us to seek a quick remedy, something to numb the pain. Here are a few suggestions to help you make your way back out of the darkness without introducing new regrets.

What's the Best Career For Me? A Quick Way to Identify It

Try this quick three-question visualization to learn the essence of the kind of work you most enjoy doing.

How to Be Courageous

Notice every time you do something that you’re scared to do—something your body is telling you not to do. You’ll start to realize that you do these things all the time. You’re already much braver than you think.

Stop Worrying About How Much You Matter

By Peter Bregman on June 25, 2015 in How We Work
For many years — almost as long as he could remember — Ian* owned and ran a successful pub in his small town in Ireland. Ian was well-known around town. He had lots of friends, many of whom he saw when they came to eat and drink, and he was happy. Eventually, Ian decided to sell his establishment.

Parenting Without Punishment: A Humanist Perspective, Part 2

Given the particular situation, children (like all the rest of us) are doing the best they’re capable of. So what are some ways that parents might effectively confront their child’s annoying, hazardous, or otherwise troublesome behavior—without, that is, having to punish them for it?

The Impact of Cyberbullying: 3 Strategies to Help

Cyberbullying is a general term used to describe a form of bullying that takes place via electronic technology, such as blogs, chat rooms, emails, and other social media sites. It’s such a devastating form of bullying because it can happen literally at any time—24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Curiosity: The Top Trait Among Those Who Succeed

By Gregg Levoy on June 24, 2015 in Passion!
How the power of passionate curiosity—what Buddhists call "beginner's mind"—can help us thrive.

Why We Shouldn’t Reward Ourselves for Good Habits

By Gretchen Rubin on June 24, 2015 in The Happiness Project
In large part because the lesson is: be very wary of using rewards to master habits!

Between Obsessions

What if what our irrelationship—and obsessional-compulsive—routines are really protecting us from is how truly and totally at risk we are when we acknowledge and accept ourselves and our lives—those in it (our friends, our spouses, our children, our families) and our circumstances (our history, our experiences, our education, our jobs, careers)—exactly as is?