Essential Reads

Cover Story: Clothing Items That Make Women Attractive

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on September 17, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Fair or not, women are often approached based not on who they are, but on what they wear. Research reveals the appeal of heels, and why the color red looks red hot.

How Long Should Psychotherapy Last?

By Stephen Joseph Ph.D. on September 14, 2017 in What Doesn't Kill Us
A good psychotherapist won’t try to push clients to go faster than they can. To do so can feel threatening and, paradoxically, lead a client to become more entrenched.

Young Yogis Rock

By Gail F. Melson Ph.D. on September 13, 2017 in Why the Wild Things Are
Contemplative practices, like yoga, mindfulness meditation, guided imagery and relaxation breathing can help children deal with stress, reduce anxiety and improve well-being.

“Never Again!” The Psychological Fallout of Trauma

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 13, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
You're born with various survival programs (or defenses). Later, when you actually experience a serious threat, you acquire more defenses that can end up harming you.

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My Defining Moment

By Mel Schwartz L.C.S.W. on September 05, 2017 in A Shift of Mind
Do you long for change?

This Brain Needs Sugar!

By Elizabeth Young on September 05, 2017 in Adaptations
I groan louder because, I begin to know, I need help. I need help badly.

Is Realistic Positivity the Key to Happiness as We Age?

By Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T. on September 05, 2017 in Mindful Anger
Do you think you can change your mindset?

Who Is the Crazy One?

Encounter behavior that seems to be absurdly out of place? Ever say, “that person is crazy!"? Here are some drivers you might interpret as negative or “crazy”.

I Can't Afford That

Are we substituting financial concern for something unrelated?


By Bence Nanay Ph.D. on September 05, 2017 in Psychology Tomorrow
Mindfulness works – when it does – in spite of its ideology. This explains the worrying finding that mindfulness meditation often leads to panic attacks and depression.

Are Meaning and Happiness Part of Your Career?

By Peter Bregman on September 04, 2017 in How We Work
Discover how to break out of the trap of success, “leverage up” personal connections to advance your career, and shift from a poverty mentality to one of abundance.

Loving Relationships Provide Purpose and Value for Life

The circle of life is really a circuit of love.

Use Mindfulness To Improve Your Life, Not Escape It

By Nancy Darling Ph.D. on September 03, 2017 in Thinking About Kids
Being mindful of what makes us uncomfortable is the first step towards building a better life.

Pressing the Button

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 02, 2017 in How To Do Life
At death’s door, she revisits her life.
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Time for a You 2.0?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 02, 2017 in Fixing Families
It's all too easy to go on auto-pilot. Maybe it's time to re-evaluate and update your life's software. Tips and tools

Going Under the Knife

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on September 02, 2017 in Sex & Sociability
Surgery is scary, no way around it. When it can no longer can be avoided one can employ self talk, write about it, or both.

Caught Between Two Loves?

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on September 01, 2017 in Loving Bravely
Love is messy and sometimes it pulls our hearts in two directions at once. A couples therapist offers three questions you can use to resolve your love triangle.

15 Reasons to Be Wary About Falling in Love

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 01, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
No matter how it turned out, most people would agree that falling in love was the most euphoric, even ecstatic, experience of their life.
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Answering Life's Call

By Alex Pattakos Ph.D. on September 01, 2017 in The Meaningful Life
Do you recognize that you are being questioned by life? Here is some guidance to help you find answers.

Synchronicity and Symbols

Coincidence awareness can be expanded to the signs and symbols of daily life.

How to Use the Hero’s Journey as a Life-Coaching Tool

By John Kim, LMFT on August 31, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
How to use The Hero's Journey as a coaching tool

3 Clues to Recognize Bipolar Disorder Mania in the Eyes

Bipolar mania affects the entire eye, from lids and lashes to pupils and color rings. Once you start looking for mania in the eyes, you can spot a person’s mania, or your own.

Mindfulness Therapy Could Help ADHD, Studies Suggest

By Marlynn Wei M.D., J.D. on August 31, 2017 in Urban Survival
New studies suggest an important role for mindfulness cognitive behavioral therapy in ADHD treatment.

Art Therapy and Non-First-Person Narratives

Talking to your therapist about your art? Try shifting your perspective from first person to "non-first-person" language. It can make a big difference.

Are Millennials Socially Impaired or Just Rude?

By Goal Auzeen Saedi Ph.D. on August 30, 2017 in Millennial Media
In our times of tragedy, pain and suffering, extending simply greetings can go a long way.

One Simple Question for Modern Humans Who Want to Be Happy

Our minds must operate in the hustle and bustle of the modern world. Yet their underlying hardware was molded in a tribal context on the African Savanna. How can we make this work?

Think You're a Bad Parent?

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on August 30, 2017 in Think, Act, Be
The work of parenting is even harder when we're constantly telling ourselves we're doing it wrong. Moms and dads can use the tools of CBT to fix overly critical thoughts.
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When Love Feels Like a Burden

She abandoned herself, lost her sense of autonomy, and wound up feeling allergic to intimacy.

Three Quotations That Will Increase Your Trust Knowledge

Ever use quotations to motivate yourself or clarify thinking? Here are three commonsense wisdom nuggets that can assist any leader in increasing work group trust.

Students Who Defend Bullying Victims Become More Popular

Bullying is not a spectator sport - don't be a captivated audience. Intervention on behalf of victims can discourage bullies and save lives.

Beyond the Breath: The Promise and Perils of Compassion

Experiential techniques can deepen our mindfulness practice and help us get unstuck from painful patterns.

You Can Use Mindfulness to Choose How to Live

We can learn to be present for our experience without our habitual responses automatically kicking in—responses that are often unskillful, knee-jerk reactions that we later regret.

Design Empathy

Designing with empathy is designing for everyone's comfort.

How to Deal When a Friend's Success Leaves You in the Dust

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on August 28, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Most of us want to be happy for our friend's successes. But when they hit us where it hurts, weathering the disruption can be tough. Here's how to handle it.