Self-Help Essential Reads

Why Lisa Lampanelli is a ‘Spiritual Gangster’

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on July 23, 2015 in Brick by Brick
Lisa Lampanelli shares how helping others can help develop a strong self-concept.

How and Why Color Matters in Early Recollections

The experience of color in early recollections occurs only with a minority of persons. The meaning of color to these individuals is often life-orienting and personally enriching. The "color-minded" remind all people of the vitality and wonder of color as a human endowment.

Personal Intelligence: Are You Using Yours?

You've heard a lot about emotional intelligence. Now there's a new kid on the block.

Anger Problems

It is nearly impossible to understand other people's perspectives when angry or resentful. You're bound to oversimplify and see only the negative aspects of something.

3 Reasons We Can't Make Up Our Minds

Indecisive? Some causes and tips for learning to be bold.

How Do You Really Know If You're Falling in Love?

Are you falling in love, or is this just a passing attraction?

Living in the Candy Store

Taking responsibility for yourself sometimes means taking responsibility for the world you live in. Change where you are and change who you are. The latest generation of technological assists do that exactly that, helping you march to your own tune and do the work you think is important.

F%$& Shame, TEDx and Mental Health

By Adi Jaffe Ph.D. on July 13, 2015 in All About Addiction
Many of us don't give the proper weight to the use of mental health labels. As this talk shows, diagnostic labels can actually impact the way in which labeled individuals perform. If nothing else, this fact should make us more wary of using these labels as everyday placeholders to describe those around us. We may just be sentencing them to meeting our low expectations.

Is it OK Not to Come Out?

“Is it ok NOT to come out?” In short, depending on the circumstances, the answer is sometimes yes.

Brace Yourself

By Joann P. Galst Ph.D. on July 12, 2015 in Fertility Factor
While egg freezing can offer a woman the possibility of extending her fertile years, it is a procedure that is far from benign in its psychological ramifications.

Top 10 Reasons Relationships Fail

Most of us want to meet and settle down with the “right” person, and most of us want such a relationship to last. At the same time, the majority of romantic partnerships end in dissolution. What are some of the major causes? Here are ten common reasons why relationships fail...

Why Waiting for Your Vacation to Unwind May Be Hurting You

Have you been waiting for that highly-anticipated vacation? Research is demonstrating that including daily break rituals in your routine can help stave off burnout and keep you from stress overload and exhaustion.

Being at Peace With the Pain of Others

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on July 07, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
When you recognize the truth of others' pain, it is strangely calming. You still care about the other person, and you do what you can, but you see that this pain and its causes are a tiny part of a larger and mostly impersonal whole.

The Road Let's Travel: Why David Brooks Should Start a Cult

How does what we say pave the road to character? David Brooks has some words of wisdom.

What I Learned From 2,000 Hours Of Freudian Psychoanalysis

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on July 06, 2015 in Ambigamy
Everything I learned from long psychoanalysis, distilled to nine bullet points. Can you learn it just by reading the list? Probably not but you may be learning it anyway.

7 Ways to Beat Self-Doubt

Are you struggling with self-confidence? Learn how to overcome negative thinking and live to your fullest potential. Here are seven tips to mitigate self-doubt and create a new path to renewed confidence.

3 Myths About Romance You Probably Believe (But Shouldn't)

By Peg Streep on July 01, 2015 in Tech Support
When we think about relationships, sometimes our thinking is just plain wrong or uninformed, thanks to the brain... Really,

Why We Use Drugs: The Power of Addictive Tendencies

Addictions are a hotel; they are not home but can remind people of home so powerfully that they won’t easily abandon them without knowing where their real home is and how to get there.

Why Good Looks Don't Guarantee a Great Relationship

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in The Sports Mind
New research finds that attractiveness does little to guarantee a healthy relationship.

Revolutionary: the Pressure-Less Diet

If you feel like you are burdened daily, have trouble sleeping, and going nowhere fast, it's time to start the pressure-less diet.

How to Stop Re-Creating Your Past and Finally Break Free

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on June 28, 2015 in Living Forward
If no matter how hard you try you keep ending up in the same place, it may be that you don’t realize you are creating your life by recreating the past over and over again because the brain works on the principle of anticipation. Learn how to break free of the cycle that is keeping you trapped.

How Being Knocked Out Of Our Comfort Zones Can Be Beneficial

By Gregg McBride on June 27, 2015 in The Weight-ing Game
We often want the answers to life's biggest dilemmas to be complicated, enabling or even pricey. But sometimes the best advice we can receive comes without any fancy packaging, outrageous promises or gratuitous politeness.

How to Finish What You Start

Practically everybody has started something that they've put off finishing. What's your main unfinished task? Can you use extra help?

How to Be Courageous

Notice every time you do something that you’re scared to do—something your body is telling you not to do. You’ll start to realize that you do these things all the time. You’re already much braver than you think.

Why We Shouldn’t Reward Ourselves for Good Habits

By Gretchen Rubin on June 24, 2015 in The Happiness Project
In large part because the lesson is: be very wary of using rewards to master habits!

Can We Choose Our Identity?

By David J Ley Ph.D. on June 23, 2015 in Women Who Stray
Caitlyn Jenner, Rachel Dolezal, Barrack Obama. The news today is filled with a debate about how much choice and control we truly have, over defining who and what we are.

The Simple Exercise That Will Lead You Toward Love

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on June 21, 2015 in Finding Love
The path to love is never simple. When we decide to pursue our longing for love, we’re led down a path with challenges we might never have dreamed of. For me, the decision to become a father—as a forty-something, single gay man---is what changed everything. In this post, I’d like to offer a potent exercise for following your own call to love—and share my personal story.

Why It's So Easy to Hurt the Ones We Love

Everyone who loves another is susceptible to some form of emotional or verbal abuse, by virtue of the Mirror of Love.

Why It's Good to Go Alone

By Polly Campbell on June 11, 2015 in Imperfect Spirituality
Worries about what others will think can keep us couch bound. But you may be surprised what happens when you head out for some fun on your own.

What Makes You So Special? It's Time You Found Out.

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on June 10, 2015 in Think, Act, Be
Why do we treat ourselves worse than we'd treat an enemy? We can learn to be more compassionate with ourselves.