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How to Avoid Studying Your Calls to Death

By Gregg Levoy on February 20, 2018 in Passion!
One of the dangers in trying to figure out your calls is over-analyzing them. Here's the trick to avoiding that impulse.

6 Signs You Don’t Know What Matters

By Steven C. Hayes Ph.D. on February 18, 2018 in Get Out of Your Mind
Does life feel empty and meaningless? Then you might be chasing the wrong goals.

11 Reasons Women Have Difficulty with Orgasm, and What Helps

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 17, 2018 in ExperiMentations
Up to half of women report difficulty with orgasm. Research identifies barriers to sexual pleasure, and provides guidance on how to enjoy intimate experiences more fully.

Love in the Time of Perfectionism

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 12, 2018 in ExperiMentations
New research examines our attitudes and decisions regarding three different kinds of perfectionism and romantic relationships.

How Can I Be Me While You’re Being You?

Just about all lovers go through a stage of high emotional reactivity that threatens to destroy their relationship.

Six Practical Strategies for Unhappy but Committed Couples

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on February 06, 2018 in In Practice
With Valentine's Day around the corner, what if you've fallen out of love with your partner?

The Autopilot Death of Love

The painful disconnection that modern intimate partners constantly confront rises from attempts to get their partners to “meet my needs when both are in their Toddler brains.

Why Does Compassion Feel So Good? Here Are Five Reasons

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on February 01, 2018 in Think, Act, Be
Recent research has explored ways to increase our ability to show compassion, both for others and for ourselves.

Procrastinating Your Creative Work? Push Through and Do It

By Susan Biali M.D. on January 29, 2018 in Prescriptions for Life
Some of the best, most prolific artists struggle daily with procrastination and avoidance. Learn to expect this and deal with it, and you'll finally start doing your creative work.

8 Things You Need from Your Therapy but May Not Be Getting

Do you want more out of your therapy? Identifying what you need can be a step toward getting unstuck.

Can You Create a New Reality by Reinterpreting the Old One?

The saying “keep an open mind” suggests the value of not clinging to old assumptions and beliefs. If your life lacks adventure, satisfaction, or fulfillment, here’s what to do.

7 Ways to Overcome Toxic Self-Criticism

You have 60,000 thoughts per day. That's 60,000 chances to either build yourself up or tear yourself down.

Easy Self-Improvement: Examples of One Percent Improvements

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on January 21, 2018 in In Practice
How to use the principle of improving yourself by 1 percent.

Neuroimaging, Cannabis, and Brain Performance & Function

Groundbreaking research organizes and analyzes prior research on cannabis' effect on healthy subjects in an elegant meta-analysis of neuroimaging and cognitive function studies.

Our Quest to Feel Significant

By Mel Schwartz L.C.S.W. on January 21, 2018 in A Shift of Mind
Do you long for more meaning and purpose in your life?

When Psychiatrists Fail to Diagnose Addictions

People often have both substance use disorders and mental illness. Why do only half of people with both just get treated for mental illness?

Forbidden Words: Sexual Health

Talking about about sexual health without people projecting their fears and shame onto it.

6 At-Home Options When Your Drinking Is Becoming Too Much

Low-level intervention is a useful starting point for people who drink too much.

The Power of Mindset Science for Pain Relief and Health

By Beth Darnall PhD on January 19, 2018 in Less Pain, Fewer Pills
Psychological factors influence the experience of pain, how well treatments work, and whether pain resolves. Mindset science for pain relief is key to recovery and well-being.

Why Are You Always Thinking About Yourself?

Narcissism ranges from healthy to unhealthy, but is core to who we are. Research reveals brain mechanisms which default to self-reflection when we aren't doing anything else.

How Suppressed Emotions Enter Our Dreams and Affect Health

We push negative thoughts out of our waking minds and they appear in our dreams, doing little good. How can we find a balance to address negative emotions with positive intent?

Healing From a Toxic Childhood? The Two Words You Need Most

By Peg Streep on January 16, 2018 in Tech Support
The culture thinks that persisting is hard and requires grit, while quitting is easy. The truth may surprise you, especially when it comes to toxic relationships.

3 Ways of Saying "No" to Unwanted Sex

Research on refusal to provide consent for sex begins to sketch out the complicated landscape of how people say "No," when "No means no!" is one important part of the picture.

Show Your Mind Who's Boss

By Joel Minden, Ph.D. on January 06, 2018 in CBT and Me
Are you tired of being controlled by negative, destructive thoughts? Take charge with these three strategies.

How Vulnerable Should You Let Yourself Be?

The impulse, self-protectively, to ward off whatever feels threatening is only natural. But you also have to consider the costs of such cautiousness.

Helping Victims of Sexual Harassment Bear Witness to Anger

How can we help victims of sexual harassment feel safer about addressing their pain?

Want to Make 2018 a Better Year? Measure Success Differently

By Bruce Grierson on December 29, 2017 in The Carpe Diem Project
Did 2017 fail to deliver the goods for you? It could be you were more successful than you think.

Six Forms of Resolution

By Andy Tix Ph.D. on December 28, 2017 in The Pursuit of Peace
Ever found New Year's resolutions to be unmotivating or unhelpful? Here are six options for New Year's goals that might help you clarify your best life.

7 Signs You're Better Off Alone

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on December 27, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
We often stay in not-great relationships because of inertia. Wondering if you're better off alone? Here are some signs to get you thinking.

When to Quit Therapy

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP on December 19, 2017 in In Therapy
In an ideal world, all therapy would provide a good ending, where loose ends are tied up, take-away points are clarified, and we share a clean goodbye. Sounds nice, doesn’t it?