Self-Help Essential Reads

Are You Obsessing Over Your Ex?

If your ex recently broke up with you, you may have OCD-like symptoms. The good news: standard self-help techniques for OCD may be able to speed up your recovery from the breakup.


Committing to a relationship requires whatever it takes to establish a secure base and resolve any problems that threaten the security, safety, and well-being of the relationship.

How to Challenge Your Self-Limiting Beliefs

Don't let your mind limit your potential. Train your brain to think differently.

Do You Know When to Confront Your Doctor?

By Eric Haseltine Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in Long Fuse, Big Bang
Knowing what to say to your doctor can save your life.

How An Ancient Philosophy Can Help Us Defeat Perfectionism

By Ryan Holiday on October 18, 2016 in The Obstacle Is the Way
Don’t excuse yourself from trying to achieve your goal because the conditions aren't right. There are plenty of small steps that will help move you forward.

How to Navigate a Toxic Relationship

By Ralph Ryback M.D. on October 17, 2016 in The Truisms of Wellness
Navigating toxic relationships is a process that requires help from supportive friends, family and professionals. These tips can help you chart your course and build better bonds.
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Helping Older Adolescents Evaluate a Love Relationship

The great source of instruction about conducting caring relationships is experience; however, parental guidance can help sort that experience out.

World Mental Health Day: Let's Break the Stigma

10 Common Warning Signs: Identifying a mental health condition.

Getting Sick When You Travel Sucks

By Peter Edelstein M.D. on October 08, 2016 in Patient Power
The fastest way to spoil your long-anticipated vacation or schedule-packed business trip is to get sick. Here are my travel tips for keeping healthy (or at least functional).

How Your Regrets Can Actually Help You

Today in America the dominant opinion on regret is to get over it, let it go, or—if you’re a New Yorker—“fuhgeddaboudit!” In her TED Talk on the subject, Kathryn Schulz notes . . .

Are You Mentally Strong?

Answering these 27 questions will help you gain insight into how mentally strong you really are.

Irisin: The "Exercise Hormone" Is a Fat-Fighting Phenomenon

By Christopher Bergland on October 05, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
A new study reports that the exercise-induced hormone irisin can reduce the number of mature fat cells by 20 to 60 percent. If you want to lose weight, irisin production can help.

10 Tips for Friendly Political Discussions

Although some of us like to “root for the underdogs,” most of us still want to be on the winning team. How do you discuss politics with friends who pull for the "other" team?

7 Reasons You Might Stay Friends With Your Ex

You broke up with your partner. Does that mean your relationship should end?

Are You Avoiding Your Fate?

Are you avoiding doing what you're supposed to do with your life? The Old Testament story of Jonah has a message for you.
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Do You Feel Guilty or Ashamed?

This article helps us find a language to differentiate between how we feel when we make a mistake or fall short of our ideals from the paralyzing shame of being a mistake.

How Beneficial Are You?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 01, 2016 in How To Do Life
A self-assessment: How positive or negative are your impacts?

6 Strategies for Dealing With Adult Sibling Rivalry

The most effective way to break the cycle of relentless sibling rivalry is to reset the system.

The Top Ten Myths About Men’s Sexuality

By Joe Kort Ph.D. on September 30, 2016 in Understanding the Erotic Code
It is time to stop gender bias and catch therapists up to understanding what really is happening in men’s erotic universe.

Just-in-Time and Deep: The Secret to Less Stressful Planning

Are you worried that you're doing too much planning and not enough doing? Once you know the purpose of personal project plans, you'll know just how much to plan, and when.

Staying in the Present Can Bring Happiness

Staying present it one of the most effective ways to relieve the symptoms of anxiety and depression, trauma, and suffering. Here's how to do it.

What to Do When You Feel Annoyed by Your Partner

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
When you’re feeling annoyed by your partner, what can you do in the moment that will make things better, not worse?

9 Things Highly Sensitive People Do

Studies estimate 15 to 20 percent of the population meet the criteria for being highly sensitive people. Here are a few telltale signs you might be one of them.

5 Ways Money Issues Can Ruin Relationships

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Friendship 2.0
Issues surrounding money are one of the most common conflicts within relationships, even where there is plenty of love. Here are five ways that money damages partnerships.

The Antidote to Envy

Envy tells us that someone, somewhere has it all—but it just isn’t true. The best we can do is be thankful for what we have and try to do something useful with it.

How to Make Long-Distance Relationships Work

New research reveals what really makes a long-distance relationship work.

The Art of Giving Advice

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in How To Do Life
How to make suggestions the recipient will actually embrace.

What I Wouldn’t Change If My Health Were Restored Tomorrow

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on September 19, 2016 in Turning Straw Into Gold
I’ve lived with chronic pain and illness for over 15 years. This is the first of two pieces on the subject of what I would and what I would not change should I regain my health.

Why Is It Hard to Live for the Moment

By Eyal Winter Ph.D. on September 19, 2016 in Feeling Smart
Can our evolutionary disposition to overly focus on the past and the future be tricked into giving the present more space?

6 Things Predators Already Know About You

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on September 16, 2016 in Shadow Boxing
The basic principles of social influence and persuasion are effective tools for predators.