Self-Help Essential Reads

Compassionate Parenting

We teach children self-regulation by modeling our more humane values.

Follow These 3 Tips to Get Outside Your Comfort Zone

By Andy Molinsky Ph.D. on September 23, 2017 in Adaptation
Follow These 3 Tips to Get Outside Your Comfort Zone

Why We Need To Structure Our Days Differently Than We Think

Are you using your brain as effectively as you could be? A few changes can go a long way.

Cover Story: Clothing Items That Make Women Attractive

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on September 17, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Fair or not, women are often approached based not on who they are, but on what they wear. Research reveals the appeal of heels, and why the color red looks red hot.

How Long Should Psychotherapy Last?

By Stephen Joseph Ph.D. on September 14, 2017 in What Doesn't Kill Us
A good psychotherapist won’t try to push clients to go faster than they can. To do so can feel threatening and, paradoxically, lead a client to become more entrenched.

Young Yogis Rock

By Gail F. Melson Ph.D. on September 13, 2017 in Why the Wild Things Are
Contemplative practices, like yoga, mindfulness meditation, guided imagery and relaxation breathing can help children deal with stress, reduce anxiety and improve well-being.

“Never Again!” The Psychological Fallout of Trauma

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 13, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
You're born with various survival programs (or defenses). Later, when you actually experience a serious threat, you acquire more defenses that can end up harming you.

Thinking With Focus

Approaching ADHD the right way.

Are Women More Codependent Than Men?

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on September 09, 2017 in Presence of Mind
Traditional gender roles can set some people up for unhealthy helping and giving.

When You Should Stay Right Inside Your Comfort Zone

By Andy Molinsky Ph.D. on September 05, 2017 in Adaptation
Is it really true that nothing good comes from staying inside your comfort zone?
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How Failure Impacts Men

By Mathis Kennington Ph.D. on September 01, 2017 in Meaningful Change
Research shows us why men are too busy trying to solve problems to listen to their partners.

5 Ways to Heal from Online Shame and Digital Hate

By Sue Scheff on September 01, 2017 in Shame Nation
Incivility online is growing as empathy is dipping, and more adults are becoming victims of online shaming and digital hate. Learn five ways to rebound.
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How to Get Better at Achieving Your Goals

Setting goals is, at its core, about behavior change.

A Movement to Improve the Legal Profession

The legal profession is in a state of constant change, and lawyer well-being is taking a hit.

How To Make Turning Points More Likely In Your Life

Do you wish your life had a sudden beneficial turning point? A few mindset shifts can go a long way.
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After Charlottesville: Managing Life’s Traumatic Events

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 25, 2017 in Fixing Families
The effects of trauma are unique and often subtle, but the healing process following its own logic.

When Facing Life Transitions, Check Your Social Groups

By Jolanda Jetten Ph.D. on August 22, 2017 in Social Cures
How to be best prepared for life transitions? Perhaps you should check your social groups.

Facing Your Depression

By David Ludden Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in Talking Apes
Researchers are working on a new treatment for depression you can put on your mobile device—but a self-help version is already available.
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Do You Build or Discover Your Life?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 19, 2017 in Fixing Families
You can approach to your life as a builder, blueprint in hand, or a discoverer, where you see where a path leads you. Qualities of each, and a possible middle ground

Why Do Stories of Change Inspire?

By Art Markman Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in Ulterior Motives
A staple of self-help groups is that people who have been through addiction and alcoholism tell stories of their journey. Why are those stories inspiring?

Seven Warning Signs of Potentially Toxic Relationships

If you have the misfortune to find yourself in a toxic relationship, the “normal response” to an “abnormal situation” can include feelings of suffocation, trepidation, and shame.
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Why We Hate People Who Disagree

By Mark Alicke Ph.D. on August 13, 2017 in Why We Blame
Can we like people who disagree with us?

Keep Daydreaming: Why Only Dreamers Create Consciously

Understand the concept of unintentional creation of reality: Worrying vs. daydreaming.

Sexual Disorientation of Male Sexual Abuse Survivors

Sexual abuse disorients you; it does not orient you. Consider straight men who have sex with men due to childhood sexual abuse.

Making Friends With Fear

How would your life transform if you could overcome even your biggest fears? Through small, intentional steps, that transformation can begin now.

13 Societal Trends

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 09, 2017 in How To Do Life
Awareness of societal trends helps us make sense of our fast-changing world.
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Put a Frame Around It

By Bruce Grierson on August 07, 2017 in The Carpe Diem Project
How to make something magic? Declare it so.

Anger, Anxiety, Resentment, Stress, and Basic Humanity

Your chances of consistently managing anger, anxiety, resentment, and stress, without becoming a better person, are practically zero.

Seven Ways to Fight the Body Image Blues

By Renee Engeln Ph.D. on August 01, 2017 in Beauty Sick
Let’s reclaim some of that time we spend despairing about our bodies and get back to what really matters.
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The Reason Introverts Might 'Think Too Much'

Introverts had higher levels of electrical activity in their brains than extroverts.