Self-Help Essential Reads

Waiting for the Haiku in Mindfulness

By Thomas Hills Ph.D. on November 26, 2015 Statistical Life
Mindfulness can be about a personal and experimental exploration of reality that is not about saving yourself, but rather experiencing your self. Realizing that the "explanation for you" is not only the finger your mind constantly points at itself, but something undefinably larger and more personal at the same time.

RID Yourself of Psychological Distress

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on November 19, 2015 In Control
When correcting any problem, the way in which the trouble is understood will have a large bearing on how effective and efficient the remediation efforts are.

How to Trust Again After Job Loss or Career Setback

Trusting after job loss or career setback comes with challenges. But not learning how to trust again can hurt your career. These four tips can help.

Top 10 Unpopular Strategies to Boost Happiness

When it comes to boosting well-being, some exercises get all the attention (e.g.., mindfulness) and some get little attention. This post offers 10 powerful but rarely discussed interventions that emerge from well-being research.

Not Speaking Up Can Be Shocking

By Susan Harrow on November 12, 2015 The Body Blog
As a student attending Palo Alto High School I was intrigued by experiments. So I hired myself out to any experiment, focus group or survey that would have me.

Do You Defend Your Partner’s Defenses? Here's Why You Should

We all need our psychological defenses. They protect us from experiencing an otherwise disturbing anxiety. Or an ancient sense of inferiority, or shame that may go all the way back to childhood—and that we’ve never managed to fully resolve. So when we talk about getting our buttons pushed, it’s about someone’s (however accidentally) triggering these uncomfortable feelings.

Does Fairness Depend on Kindness or Justice?

By Garth Sundem on November 11, 2015 Brain Trust
Imagine you have to split a plate of cookies. Does the person who baked the cookies get the most or do you split them evenly?

What Puts People at Ease?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on November 09, 2015 Your Wise Brain
Much of the time the fear we trigger in others is mild but people can feel threatened by stimuli they're not actually aware of.

How to Strengthen Your Brain's Happiness Circuitry

By Alex Korb Ph.D. on November 04, 2015 PreFrontal Nudity
I used to think that being happier was all about teaching yourself to think more positively. But often the most powerful path to increasing happiness is to strengthen the right brain circuits by using these five simple neuroscience tips.

The Genius of Instinct

If you want to thrive in life, begin to use the genius of your instincts.

Compassionate Communication

By Marty Babits on November 03, 2015 The Middle Ground
Compassionate communication safeguards love.

The Neglected Art of Receiving

We're told that it is better to give than to receive. We may strive to love, but to what extent do we allow ourselves to be loved? People who are narcissistic do not know how to lovingly extend themselves to others. But narcissism can also take the form of being so guarded and self-absorbed that we don't let love in.

Should You Play Hard to Get?

You can't always get what you want....but sometimes you can, if you're strategic.

How to Finally Change Your Life

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on October 29, 2015 Wander Woman
There are three emotions you can draw on that will strengthen the courage you need to make the changes you want. Don't let fear paralyze you. Use these emotions to make your hopes come true.

The Several Meanings in a Meaningful Coincidence

By taking apart coincidences and examining their qualities, we can more fully appreciate them.

Not Everything Happens for a Reason

Loss, suffering, hurt, trauma, these are not things we “get over,” they are things we learn to put into perspective and that become a part of who we are becoming.

Like No One Is Watching

We’d like to believe ourselves to be “good” people — kind and altruistic — it’s not that easy when life’s challenges are in front of us. The culture we live in seems to have rapidly deteriorating standards of how we treat others. Here are five tips to consider if you'd like to get your own personal compass back on track and feel good about making good choices!

The Surprising Power of an Uncomfortable Brain

By Garth Sundem on October 27, 2015 Brain Trust
What happens when surroundings don't match your expectations? A new series of experiments shows that this "cultural dysfluency" shocks your brain off autopilot and back into thinking.

Implementing Amy Schumer’s Orgasm Advice

By Laurie B. Mintz Ph.D. on October 26, 2015 Stress and Sex
Amy Shummer is using her comedic genius to be an orgasm advocate. Now it’s up to you to take her advice and advocate for your own orgasm. It feels great, and Amy’s right: You deserve it and your clitoris and your communication are the key.

What It Really Means to Love Yourself

We often hear that it is important to love ourselves. But what does this actually mean? This article explores ways to love and care for ourselves in a deeper way.

5 Relationship Red Flags You Have to Watch Out For

Everyone knows the feeling of being in a relationship where something doesn’t feel quite right, but you stick it out anyhow. However, even if you don't like admitting those red flags exist, your relationship will be better off if you do.

If You Want to Improve Health, Change Your Behaviour

New research confirms the role of behavioral factors in health and that text-based support can improve heart disease risks. Making small changes in behavior can improve life.

7 Easy Practices to Feel Better About Your Life

By Aldo Civico Ph.D. on October 14, 2015 Turning Point
Our thoughts condition the quality of our emotions. Knowing how to take care of our emotional health can help us to feel better about life.

5 Myths About Burnout (and the Truth We Need to Understand)

It’s Sunday night and you’re dreading the thought of going to work in the morning. You used to be able to juggle all of the demands of the job as you leaned into success, but now something is missing. You don’t feel as “plugged into” the projects you’re working on, but you know it’s not the right time to change jobs. Is this burnout? Are you just stressed out?

In Praise of Demotivation

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on October 11, 2015 Ambigamy
You can't be self-motivated to do new things without the power of self-demotivation to stop doing old things.

Courage in Relationships: Conquering Vulnerability and Fear

It’s a profound—and paradoxical—truth that courage isn’t really courage at all unless there’s some fear attached to it. Without a moment’s hesitation before taking on something felt as hazardous, the act would exemplify not so much courage as foolhardiness or mindless impulsivity. As Mark Twain put it: “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear—not absence of fear."

Why a Relationship Review Can Help Keep You Together

What's the secret to marital bliss? Maybe an occasional performance review.

6 Reasons to Treat Yourself Better

Do you ever call yourself names or beat yourself up over the mistakes you make? If so, you might be missing out on the incredible benefits of self-compassion.

Can You Really Change Your Personality? Research Says “Yes”

Research shows that you can consciously "grow" and develop dimensions of your personality that have been dormant or blocked.

How Gratitude Can Help Your Career

By Peter Bregman on October 01, 2015 How We Work
I was opening the mail (the real mail, the one delivered by an actual, live person) and between the bills and solicitations, was a single letter, addressed to me, in sloppy — but recognizable — handwriting. Recognizable because the handwriting was mine.