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Why We Need To Structure Our Days Differently Than We Think

Are you using your brain as effectively as you could be? A few changes can go a long way.

Cover Story: Clothing Items That Make Women Attractive

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on September 17, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Fair or not, women are often approached based not on who they are, but on what they wear. Research reveals the appeal of heels, and why the color red looks red hot.

How Long Should Psychotherapy Last?

By Stephen Joseph Ph.D. on September 14, 2017 in What Doesn't Kill Us
A good psychotherapist won’t try to push clients to go faster than they can. To do so can feel threatening and, paradoxically, lead a client to become more entrenched.

Young Yogis Rock

By Gail F. Melson Ph.D. on September 13, 2017 in Why the Wild Things Are
Contemplative practices, like yoga, mindfulness meditation, guided imagery and relaxation breathing can help children deal with stress, reduce anxiety and improve well-being.

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Beat Your Anxiety by Correcting These Mental Miscalculations

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on September 22, 2017 in Think Well
Here are a few common, cognitive errors that cause anxiety and what you can do to correct them.

On the Difficulty of Getting People to Change

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 22, 2017 in How To Do Life
Even extraordinary measures won't work if the client only claims to want change.

How Do You Describe ADHD?

Make sure your words build you up and don't tear you down.

When Online Friendships Cause Distress

It’s not uncommon for people to establish friendships with individuals who “show up” in online and virtual settings, but are these friendships "real" friendships?

Myth-busting About Open-mindedness

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Ambigamy
Becoming more open-minded isn't just saying you're open-minded or deciding to think out the box. It's disciplining yourself to follow out harder thoughts.

Sharing the Love: Research Shatters Myths About Non-monogamy

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Standard Deviations
New research employing personality theory and moral psychology shatters myths about consensual non-monogamy.
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The Art of Bliss

By Diana Raab PhD on September 20, 2017 in The Empowerment Diary
Have you ever thought that activities, such as writing, can lead to bliss?

Feeling Lonely? You May Be Damaging Your Health

Loneliness has been linked to inflammation and even higher mortality rates. Find out if you have an unhealthy level of loneliness and what you should do about it.

Can Embracing Negative Emotions Increase Your Well-Being?

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in The New Resilience
Is it possible that you can increase your happiness in life by embracing unhappy feelings -- your anxieties, fears, anger, resentments, and all sorts of negative emotions?

Should You Go to Couples Therapy?

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Lots of people waver on whether they should take the plunge and see a couple's therapist. Might it be time for you and your partner? Here are some clues.
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Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset

By Robert Puff Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Meditation for Modern Life
We have to do specific things to improve our level of happiness.
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Hate Shame: The Emotional Roller Coaster

By Sue Scheff on September 19, 2017 in Shame Nation
With technology, hate speech and online cruelty are magnified. No one escapes the target of the narcissist troll. How can we rebuild empathy online?

I Like a Gloomy Day

Do gloomy days deflate you? It can be easy to become sad, blue and down. However, you can begin to look forward to a gloomy day and get enjoyment out of it, as I do.

How Can Leaders Find Happiness?

By Peter Bregman on September 18, 2017 in How We Work
Discover the SHARP model for a happier life, an easy way to beat procrastination, and the number-one factor in predicting well-being.

What Would Bear Lots of Fruit?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on September 18, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
What's on your short list of things that support you? Try to do one thing on the list each day. "Pass forward" a gift to the person you will be tomorrow...and a year from now.

BIG FUN

By Bernard L. De Koven on September 17, 2017 in On Having Fun
There's a certain kind of fun we call "Big Fun." It's something massive, usually, demonstrably fun, alluring, freeing, even.
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Two Essential Ingredients for Effective Communication

We may think we have a communication problem, and perhaps we do. But more fundamentally, we often have difficulty practicing these two things, which can help us break through.

Synchronicities Imply That Meaning Exists Outside of Us

How does coincidence counseling work? Here is a specific example involving a rare disease, a patient, and the two doctors.
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The “Victim and Savior Relationship"

When you always have people taking care of you and meeting all your needs, it’s very difficult to develop your own limits, values, or sense of self.
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Getting to Where You Want to Go

Don't beat yourself up; instead follow these five steps to pull yourself up and get back to making important progress.

The Kind of Support That Will Nourish a Lasting Marriage

By Meg Selig on September 14, 2017 in Changepower
When one member of a couple encourages the other in this specific way, it can make for long-lasting magic within their relationship.
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Good Intentions Aren't Enough

By Alex Pattakos Ph.D. on September 14, 2017 in The Meaningful Life
In our failures we can find tremendous meaning, and only in meaning do our failures have a useful legacy.

Top 5 Payoffs to Staying Stuck

By Ronald Alexander Ph.D. on September 14, 2017 in The Wise Open Mind
Why do some people seemingly embrace the process of transformation, while others get stuck. Discover the payoffs to change that keeps us from making a change in our lives.
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The "One-Two" Method

A positive perspective is important and useful—but acknowledging feelings before shifting to rationality can be valuable.

Healthy and Unhealthy Risk

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on September 13, 2017 in Life After 50
Are you stilted in your career because of fear of failure? Or are you a self-destructive risk-taker? Either way, your reality testing is distorted.

6 Simple Steps to Make Happiness Happen

Welcome happiness into your life with these six simple practices from the field of positive psychology.

How to Find Happiness Where You Least Expect It

By Rob Kendall on September 13, 2017 in Blamestorming
Research shows that we pay a heavy price for mind-wandering and rumination.
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Calming the Monkey Mind

By Diana Raab PhD on September 13, 2017 in The Empowerment Diary
Do you find that there's a voice inside of you that seems like negative self-talk? Is it hindering your creativity or affecting your success? It might be your monkey mind at work.

What You Should Know When Disaster Strikes

Recovery and healing are possible following a natural disaster. Here's how.