Essential Reads

Unnaturally Good: The Plight of the Goody Two-Shoes

Don’t be fooled—not all virtue is the same.

Do You Feel Sexy on the Inside?

The emphasis on physical perfection outside has harmful effects on the inside.

High Tech Care for Heart Failure Patients: A Bathroom Scale

A simple scale is a weapon in preventing unwanted heart failure emergencies.

21 Things Clinical Perfectionists Do

What's the difference between ordinary perfectionism and a problem?

Recent Posts on Self-Help

Detox From Negative News In The Media

By Marlynn Wei M.D., J.D. on March 27, 2015 in Urban Survival
Feeling weighed down by all the negative news in the media? Here's how to detox from the influx of negative events and news in the media.

9 Warning Signs of Burnout

Burnout has been described as the biggest occupational hazard of the twenty-first century. Educating busy professionals and workplaces about its warning signs is a big first step in reducing its impact.

I Had a Very Odd Experience at the Gym

By Gretchen Rubin on March 27, 2015 in The Happiness Project
For a moment, I was someone different. Not very different, but different nevertheless.

Are You a Survivor of Sexual Assault and Afraid of Flying?

12 Air travel tips for sexual assault survivors who are afraid of flying

Let´s Go to the Movies

By Ana Nogales on March 26, 2015 in Family Secrets
Movies have the ability to change our attitude, how we think and feel, and even our values.

Three Reasons to Not (Always) Trust

The kind of trust that builds good work relationships has conditions, boundaries, and limits. But, do you know them? Do you understand when not to trust?

Surprise

By The Book Brigade on March 26, 2015 in The Author Speaks
Surprise is good for the brain, great for relationships, and adds a certain frisson all around. Without it, life is lackluster. So why don't more people embrace the unexpected? They run from it or try to subdue it when they should instead roll with it.

6 Ways to Improve Your Self-Discipline Today

Self-discipline isn't an innate characteristic, it's a learned skill. The good news is, we all have the ability to start improving our self-discipline today.

Unnaturally Good: The Plight of the Goody Two-Shoes

There’s authentic virtue, and then there’s a kind of chronic, not-quite-credible virtue that doesn’t—and can’t—reflect the individual’s true nature. Their righteous words and actions, though perceivable as virtuous, may not come from their heart but their head. And what they say may belie what they’re really thinking—may not, in essence, “capture” who they truly are.

Yet Another Study Reporting Loneliness Can Kill You…

By Sean Seepersad Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in Web of Loneliness
Apparently the media have long-term memory loss. Every time another study comes out showing that loneliness is indeed deadly, they jumps on it like it was not something we knew before. But I guess you would expect that with a topic like loneliness. After all, who remembers anything about loneliness?

To Everything There Is a Season: A Time to Smash the Ice

By Julie J. Exline Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in Light and Shadow
Is there a time for rage? After a brutal winter and an attempt to come to peace with the ice that wouldn't leave our streets and sidewalks, here's what happened when I finally had a chance to do something about it.

Are You a Traumatized Woman?

By Rosemary K.M. Sword on March 24, 2015 in The Time Cure
When we peruse the landscape of our world half the women we see have experienced a life-altering traumatic event, perhaps a natural disaster like a tornado, or a human-made disaster such as a car accident. And 1 in 3 women will experience sexual assault in their lifetime. But this number is probably much higher because these are only reported cases.

How Being Funny Can Save You Money

Having a sense of humor can save you money. I learned that while working as a comic. I’ve found out that when you make someone laugh, they feel positively toward you and will actually give you discounts. Here's how to do it...

13 Ways to Be Friendship Smart

How does your Friendship Quotient measure up? Here are 13 key personal traits that strongly influence friendship quality.

Do You Feel Sexy on the Inside?

By Rick Miller LICSW on March 23, 2015 in Unwrapped
Expanding the ways in which we feel “sexy” is good for everyone (yup, except maybe for the beauty industry that sells just one way).

Pressure: Meet The Villain

By Hendrie Weisinger on March 23, 2015 in Thicken Your Skin
Pressure downgrades your "cognitive success tools," compromises your ethics, makes you a damaging parent, and can destroy your marriage. You'd be wise to learn how to manage pressure.

Tackling Mid-Life Weight Issues (Part 2): Why Sleep Matters

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on March 23, 2015 in Cravings
Lack of sleep can have a negative impact on many areas of your life, including the state of your overall mental and physical health. Experts believe that sleep may also play a big role in weight management.

Is A Bad MarrIage Dangerous To Your Health?

Is an alienated spouse a matter of life or death?

True Love or Outdated Obligation?

When you feel yourself falling out of love, here are three questions that might help you determine the long-term prognosis for the relationship.

Book Review: Wisdom from the Couch

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP on March 22, 2015 in In Therapy
Dr. Jennifer Kunst shares the warmer, friendlier side of Kleinian psychology in this interview and book review.

Cancer Risk and Weight: Our Body and "Pathologies of Space"

Being overweight or obese has been associated with metabolic abnormalities such as type 2 diabetes, hypertension, and abnormal triglyceride and cholesterol levels, as well as cardiac disease, osteoarthritis, and even sleep apnea. Researchers also have found strong associations between excessive body weight and many forms of cancer. Women are even more at risk than men.

Signs You're Taken for Granted

By Kimberly Key on March 21, 2015 in Counseling Keys
Don't settle. Love exists. Test to tell if you're not getting the nurturing you need.

The Pathways of Experience

When asked to describe the most important challenges of living, Freud is reputed to have said – for there is no firm evidence of his doing so – that every person should “work and love.”

3 Secrets to Making Your Good Habits Stick

Just because you're struggling with self-discipline doesn't mean you have to raise the white flag and declare your self-improvement efforts a failure. Instead, work to increase the chances that you'll stick to your healthier habits - even when you don't feel like it.

So You Think You Are In Recovery? Maybe Not.

Does you recovery contain these 10 components?

How Most Anxiety Can be Beaten With Just One Simple Method

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on March 21, 2015 in Think Well
The most important ingredient in almost all successful anxiety treatments is what therapists call exposure. Here is what it is and why it works.

Say What? Why Do People Forget They Have a Live Mic?

What is it that makes this universal faux pas in attention and concentration so easy to occur?

“I Need a Do-over!” 5 Ways to Fix Relationship Missteps

By Meg Selig on March 19, 2015 in Changepower
So you were a doormat or a bully and you regret it. There's a do-over for that! Try these 5 assertive scripts that will mend your relationship and restore your confidence.

A Pivotal Book on PTSD

"Your Life after Trauma" provides readers with a well-rounded, motivational, and concise cognitive approach that provides a road map to regaining one’s life and identity after a trauma. What makes this book stand out is that, in a sense, it truly helps readers to create a blue print of their future selves.

6 Ways to Infuse Therapy with a Sense of Hope

Bringing a genuine sense of hope and optimism into the therapy process is paramount in our alliance with clients. Fortunately, there are a number of ways in which clinicians can infuse the therapy process with the notion that there is truly a light at the end of the tunnel—and it’s not an oncoming train!