Essential Reads

Finding Meaning Through Mental Time Travel

Imagine walking into the door of your childhood home: What would you learn?

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

... including the truth about rebound relationships.

Lessons From the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt

How to fix your problems from the inside-out

What Seinfeld Understood About Motivation and Psychology

Jerry Seinfeld's amazing advice on motivation and productivity.

Recent Posts on Self-Help

Be Mind Full of Good

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on May 06, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Believe in realistic thinking, seeing the whole mosaic of reality, the good, the bad and the neutral. Life is often hard - and because we've got a brain that's relatively poor at growing the inner strengths needed to deal with these challenges - we need to focus on the good facts in life, let them become good experiences, and then help these experiences really sink in.

6 Signs That a Passion or Calling is "True"

By Gregg Levoy on May 06, 2015 in Passion!
The critical challenge of discernment—of knowing whether your calls and passions are true or false, how and when to respond to them, even whether they belong to you or not—requires that you know what to look for to signal their "integrity." Here are six ways to tell.

5 Easy Pieces...of Great Advice

By Meg Selig on May 06, 2015 in Changepower
The best advice ever? These 5 pearls of wisdom may be a bit unusual, but they provide effective, simple guidelines for making life decisions.

10 Notes for Parents of Complex Kids

You thought you were a doer, a go-getter, indefatigable and unsinkable? Think again. And welcome to the club!

Why Judging Others Is Bad for You

We go through so much of our lives judging people, places, and things. We make these judgments our reality and see them as facts. Then we use the same language to judge other people, places, and things, to judge ourselves. By doing this, we don't leave room for compassion towards ourselves and to the experience of others.

Behaviour for Failures

Top behaviours that guarantee misery for yourself and others

The Best Way To Handle Children’s Nightmares

An automatic response for many parents after their child has a nightmare is, “It’s not real, so you don’t need to feel scared.” The problem is, while the bad dream isn’t real, the emotions that the child is experiencing are intensely real and can’t be ignored.

14 Tips from 14 Years Sick

#14: When all else fails, go to bed.

Dealing with Broken Unspoken Promises in Friendship

What do you do when a friend consistently lets you down?

Lose the Booze

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on May 05, 2015 in In Excess
There is a general rule of thumb that where the opportunities and access to potentially addictive behaviours are increased, more people engage in that behaviour. One such behaviour is the drinking of alcohol. Given the wide accessibility of alcohol, what are the best ways to minimize alcohol intake? Here are some practical tips.

If You Tend to Get Scattered, Check for Adult ADD/ADHD

Children with attention deficits tend to be recognized by parents, pediatricians and teachers. Adult ADD sufferers by contrast often go undiagnosed. Yet adult ADD can destroy relationships at home and at work.

Four Steps to Making Change an Opportunity Not a Threat

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on May 04, 2015 in The Power of Prime
In general, people don’t like change. During primitive times, change was perceived as a threat to survival which triggered our ‘fight or flight’ response. Unfortunately, though we like to think that we have evolved far beyond our ancestors, the reality is that we are still quite primitive in some basic ways including our response to change.

These 6 Time Wasters Can All Be Avoided

These time wasters are taking away tiny pieces of our lives. Some are easier to avoid than others. Ultimately, you will save the most time, and will enjoy your life more, by not getting caught up in negative emotions about it.

Pink Ribbon Purge

I’ve been researching and writing about breast cancer for so many years that I’ve accumulated a plethora of pink-ribbon-themed items. I’m finished with the baggage. Taking control of my surroundings has been very freeing!

Journaling Clears Out the Bad, Builds Up the Good

By Jason Powers M.D. on May 03, 2015 in Beyond Abstinence
Multiple studies show that disclosing emotions through journaling is therapeutic, which is why I encourage my patients to write for their own benefit and consumption.

10 Signs Your Boss / Manager is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." At the workplace, a pathologically narcissistic manager can be insensitive and conceited at best, and exploitative or abusive at worst. Here are ten signs that your boss might be a narcissist...

Teach Someone to Prioritize Using Psychological Distance

You may be tempted to write off some team members as never being able to manage themselves. They may be great at execution, but the level of handholding they need about what actually has to get done is frustrating. It would be ideal if there were a way to get everyone on a work team to be thinking about the big picture.

Part II: Communication is Not about Techniques

There is almost always a hidden agenda in the use of communication techniques. When people are emotionally disconnected, communication techniques makes them feel manipulated.

The Honest Truth About Self- Publishing

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on May 02, 2015 in Listen Up!
There are profound rewards, delights, and costs to self- publishing. They may not be the ones you expect.

Finding Meaning Through Mental Time Travel

Imagine returning to the home where you grew up, opening the door, and walking right back into your childhood or youth? What would you learn about yourself and your life story? How would you live your life differently today?

You May Be Playing the Victim, and Not Even Know It?

When you do everything your partner asks, you likely expect gratitude in return, but what it actually creates in them is a reservoir of guilt and anger.

Mental Health Awareness

The month of May celebrates mental health

Mother's Day for Those Raised by Narcissistic Parents

Mother’s Day is approaching. Is it time to run and hide or stumble into a Hallmark store to desperately search for that empty card that says nothing upon which you simply sign your name? How sad, awful, taboo, and misunderstood this is for adult children raised by narcissistic parents. Who woulda thunk it?

A Path To Less Suffering

By Allison Carmen on May 01, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
So what is the key to internal freedom and joy? In a word, it is acceptance. Acceptance does not change your passion or need for change, but allows you to “show up” in the moment with peace about what is, and strength and focus to make things different.

Regret - 8 Ways to Move On

Regret gnaws at you and won't let go. You said something stupid, or hurt someone, or simply missed a great chance. The mind wraps around these mistakes and can torture us. Consider eight ways to learn important lessons, make changes and then - let go!

Number One Secret to Getting Communication Unstuck?

By Marty Babits on May 01, 2015 in The Middle Ground
Number One Secret to Getting Communication Unstuck?

Three Strong Steps To Combat Anxiety And Insecurity

Do you feel tangled up in anxiety and insecurity? Learn a simple technique to break free.

Curious Criticism? Or do you get defensive?

Don't lose opportunities to grow.

Winning the Battle with Inner Criticism

Does inner criticism shake your confidence, make you feel that you are not beautiful, intelligent, powerful, or even worthy? Here's how to make a real difference in your struggle to love yourself.

Want Less Stress and More Happiness? Try Hope

While many people think of hope as an emotion, researchers describe it as a cognitive theory that is tied to goal setting. Hope researcher, Dr. C.R. Snyder, often described hope with this phrase: “You can get there from here.”