Essential Reads

Now You See It, Now You Don’t: The Many Faces of Narcissism

It’s time for narcissism to be “rebranded”—enter "Rethinking Narcissism."

Distracted Living

Take Your Attention Back!

The Secret to Controlling Other People

What do you really want? And what will you do to get it?

All or Nothing

We are all creatures of habit. Why not make them good ones?

Recent Posts on Self-Help

24 Simple Phrases to Boost Your Happiness

By Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. on September 03, 2015 in What Matters Most?
Character strengths use is connected to greater happiness. Many scientific studies have shown this. But, sometimes clarity is needed on what strengths are and how to use them. Here 24 strengths and phrases you can memorize that get at the essence of each universal quality.

Want a Release? Myofascial Release Gave Me a New Body

If you're feeling tight and out of kilter, don't assume the problem is outside of you. Your fascia connect up every cell in your body and if they are stuck, you are stuck. You can feel good now by releasing your fascia.

My Best Tweets: Part V

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 03, 2015 in How To Do Life
22 of my best ideas on work & on relationships, each in just a sentence or two.

Now You See It, Now You Don’t: The Many Faces of Narcissism

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 02, 2015 in Evolution of the Self
Are writers on narcissism perhaps too quick to declare this core personality attribute dysfunctional? For in one way or another, narcissistic traits exist in us all. And those seriously lacking in narcissism—as in healthy narcissism—may be just as troubled, and have just as badly distorted a self-image, as those pernicious individuals “super-saturated” with it.

The Positive Side to the Personality of Procrastinators

By Garth Sundem on September 02, 2015 in Brain Candy
Research is showing that procras­tination isn’t a defect in ability or personality but rather a disconnect between the demands of a task and what motivates the procrastinator.

The GPS Approach to Chronic Pain

By Mark Borigini M.D. on September 01, 2015 in Overcoming Pain
It would seem that chronic pain that is experienced as a noxious physical stimulant, and is often hand-in-hand with symptoms whose origin lie in the emotional and cognitive parts of the human being, is fueled by neural links between the somatosensory part of the brain and those parts that process and express emotional and cognitive brain outputs.

The Essence of Confidence

By Hendrie Weisinger Ph.D. on September 01, 2015 in Thicken Your Skin
Here's a perspective that can help you build confidence in yourself.

What Extracurriculars Will Help Me Get into Grad School?

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on September 01, 2015 in The Web of Violence
What are the best ways to spend your time outside of class to beef up your grad school applications? The Data Doctor responds.

Your Feelings Are Keeping You Stuck

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on September 01, 2015 in Creating in Flow
Using a bit of profanity for the sake of humor and enlightenment, a new book explores feelings and their uselessness in solving your most troublesome life issues.

Personality Challenges, Perfectionism, and Self-Compassion

By Dan Mager MSW on August 31, 2015 in Some Assembly Required
Having compassion for oneself means that we can honor our humanness by accepting ourselves—even during those times when we inevitably come up against our limitations and fall short of our ideals.

3 Secrets to Building Your Mental Strength

If you want a strong mind, you need to exercise it daily.

Getting Into Your Growth Zone

If we look closely, what we find nested inside our comfort zone is a little rabbit hole—our complacency zone.

3 Long-Term Investments for Lasting Love

When the physical hunger starts to wane, what can you do to keep the fire of steady love stoked?

The Crucial Factor in Making Real Change in Your Life

Disrupting just one unskillful behavior, for instance using silence to punish, or making critical, judgmental remarks, or being bossy by giving commands, can lead to a whole series of positive shifts.

Distracted Living

Realize where your priorities lie and turn your undivided attention towards them to use all of your efforts and resources achieving things that make you feel proud and content. These seven tips can help you stop living distracted and add more value to the time you have!

25 Simple Trust Building Behaviors

Engagement. Innovation. Trust. Stop thinking about the outcomes you want. Focus, instead, on the simple, organic, and natural way to get all three. Explore what that looks like with these 25 behaviors.

How Trump Trumps Pressure

What do Tom Brady and Donald Trump have in common?

The Psychology of Self-Deception

By Neel Burton M.D. on August 28, 2015 in Hide and Seek
A short, sharp look into some of the most important ego defenses.

The Disposable Person—Being Unvalued in the Modern Age

Do you ever get the funny feeling that something isn't right? Not to make trouble or anything—but maybe you are right. Do you feel like you’re in a state of chronic interview, a cog in the system, a rat the race, and that seemingly significant people in your life—in romance and at work—may not care about you as a human being? Here's why...

Career Advice for Geniuses (Revised and Expanded)

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 27, 2015 in How To Do Life
Smart people don't have it as easy as many people think. Help is here.

11 Ways Rituals Help Us Celebrate Our Lives

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on August 26, 2015 in In Flux
Rituals as we know them have the ability to move us into our spiritual lives. But personally created and performed rituals and ceremonies have the power to give us the freedom to take real responsibility for how we choose to live and help to create a unique individual and meaningful existence.

More Thoughts on the Wound with No Name—First Aid

There are rarely any quick fixes when the wounds are deep, especially from early childhood and/or in combination with being highly sensitive. But what might help, right now?

The Advantages of Being Shy

Shyness is often criticized by our society. But if we distinguish shyness from social anxiety, we might honor being shy as a tender and positive part of ourselves. If we can become more empowered in our shyness rather than feel shame, it can be a doorway to connecting with people in a more deep, sweet, and tender way.

How To Manage Situations and Emotions of Acute Stress

By Garth Sundem on August 26, 2015 in Brain Trust
The ability to keep stress in a productive “Goldilocks zone” depends less on what you have to deal with and more on how you deal with it. Here's how.

Read Any Good Psychology Books Lately?

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on August 25, 2015 in The Web of Violence
The Data Doctor gets asked about reading recommendations from a former student.

More Evidence For Meditation

By Temma Ehrenfeld on August 25, 2015 in Open Gently
Chinese mindfulness practice can lower cortisol levels in a week.

What is a Life Well-Lived?

Once in a while, I like to take a step back from my daily concerns and ask myself what it means to live a good life. What would I be thinking about each day? What would I be saying and doing?

Movie Review: "I'll See You In My Dreams"

By Kristi Pikiewicz PhD on August 25, 2015 in Meaningful You
At first glance, Carol Petersen (Blythe Danner) appears to be living the dream. At second glance, it looks like Carol is not so much living a dream as she is sleepwalking through life.

The Three Cs and More

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on August 25, 2015 in A Family Affair
Courage, compassion and community are key ingredients to help loved ones heal.

What Good Is Guilt?

When it comes to evaluating guilt and whether it's helping or hurting you, it's the underlying beliefs that matter. Here's how to get to the bottom of it.