Essential Reads

20 Expert Tactics for Dealing with Difficult People

Believe it or not, you can stay calm, defuse conflict, and keep your dignity.

How to Feel Better When You’re Feeling Bad

Buddhist-inspired wisdom for navigating difficult times.

Why We Hate It When People Invade Our Space

John Travolta and Joe Biden put it in the news, but it's an everyday problem.

How to Talk to Yourself

Speak to yourself using words that soothe and heal.

Recent Posts on Self-Help

March is National Brain Injury Awareness and My Journey

Today, March 5, marks the 25th anniversary of the day that changed my life and the beginning of my journey.

The Friendship Cleanse

A friendship cleanse can leave you feeling lighter and happier when you let go of the people who just weigh you down.

Can You Capture What You Love?

When you become passionate about something, or someone, you want to hold onto it, attach yourself to it, possess it. Fascinated or enchanted, you experience a high, your spirits soar. So naturally you desire to have the object of your attraction close by, to make it your own—and permanently. So what’s the problem with this? Unfortunately, just about everything...

How Playing Baseball in Prison Can Help You Face Your Fears

By Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on March 05, 2015 in The New You
Not many people like to socialize with some of the nation’s most notorious criminals. Even fewer challenge them to a competition.

Why We Hold Onto Grudges, and How to Let Them Go

We hold onto our grudges, fiercely, even though we really want to let them go. We stay stuck in anger and resentment towards those who"wronged" us in the past, but we really want to move on and live in the present moment. What gets in the way of letting go and moving on, and how can we get free from our grudges and live what we really want?

Let's Honor Leonard Nimoy and End Smoking in Rehab

By Jason Powers M.D. on March 04, 2015 in Beyond Abstinence
Leonard Nimoy, an icon to millions of Trekkies as Mr. Spock, the half-Vulcan, half-human first officer of the Enterprise, fell victim to the most human of all diseases: addiction.

3 Signs It’s Time for a Friendship Break-Up

Knowing when it is time to let go of a friendship is a matter of personal preference, but there are 3 sure-fire signs that the relationship leaves you cold.

Kindness to You Is Kindness to Me

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on March 04, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Helping others helps you; helping yourself helps others. Similarly, harming others harms you; harming yourself harms others. By letting it really land inside you that we are deeply connected with each other.

Make Choices Today That Will Help You Thrive Tomorrow

If you always give in to what feels best in the moment, it will be hard to ever have the life you really want.

Letting Go of Self-Destructive Behaviors

By The Book Brigade on March 03, 2015 in The Author Speaks
The millions of teens and adults who engage in self-destructive behavior do so because they never learned more constructive ways of soothing themselves in moments of distress. Many have engaged in such behaviors for so long that they can't envision a way out. But it's possible to replace self-destructive acts with kinder means of coping.

5 Reasons Why People Leave Bad Bosses, Not Companies

People leave bad bosses, not companies. Here's why.

Happiness With Life 6: Serve Yourself a Slice of Happiness

I don't care how physicists define time. Time, to me, is choice. This blog, Serve Yourself a Slice of Happiness, provides the mindsets and strategies to choose pleasure each and every day of our lives.

Balancing Inhibition and Exhibition

By Gregg Levoy on March 03, 2015 in Passion!
The desire to keep your spark, your life-force, intact, will always have to contend with agents of decay and distraction. All the forces of resistance and inhibition, from within and without, that can rob you of your vitality if you let them. Here's how to referee that boxing match.

20 Expert Tactics for Dealing with Difficult People

You can't reason with an unreasonable person, but verbal de-escalation techniques can help. Learn how professionals handle the most difficult of situations.

Worthy Proverbs and Silly Ones

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 03, 2015 in How To Do Life
We’re affected by proverbs, aphorisms, and slogans…and not always for the good.

What Kind of Angry Are You? (Part 1)

Anger dumping can destroy your relationships. You can use mindfulness skills to learn how to recognize the signs of anger so that you may learn from your anger rather than release it into the world in a destructive way.

How to Feel Better When You’re Feeling Bad

When you feel down, discouraged or frustrated, Buddhist concepts and techniques can offer surprising relief. Here's some starter key ideas, and info on an accessible and engaging guide that can help you to learn more.

Why Do So Many Middle Aged Men Feel Lost?

Is the future of men "neutered uselessness"?

Why You Should be More Grateful

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 01, 2015 in Hide and Seek
Despite its many benefits, gratitude is hard to cultivate.

8 Warning Signs Your Lover is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." How do you know when your romantic partner may be a narcissist? Here are eight telltale signs...

Overcome Hopelessness Thinking and Stop Feeling Depressed

By Bill Knaus Ed.D. on February 28, 2015 in Science and Sensibility
Can you think your way out of feeling depressed?

Minimize Distraction: When Customers Feel They Aren’t Heard

By Joseph Cardillo Ph.D. on February 28, 2015 in Attention Training
As you shift from one situation to another, pay attention to how you are paying attention.

Finding The Sweetness in LIfe Even When Times Are Tough

By Allison Carmen on February 28, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
I had just found out my mother had breast cancer, and I was walking to meet her for dinner. My mind was seized by the most frightening thoughts of losing my mother and what this illness would mean. All of a sudden, a beautiful breeze hit my face and an enveloping peace and joy ran through me. Was it okay for me to feel this joy when danger was looming over my family?

Blaming the Victim

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on February 28, 2015 in Memory Medic
"What did we do to make them hate us so much?"

How to Find Proof That Hope is Not Lost

By Gregg McBride on February 28, 2015 in The Weight-ing Game
The little, seemingly innocuous ways you take care of yourself are your proof that you care about yourself. And this "proof of caring" can be the first step toward committing yourself to lasting and permanent change when it comes to other matters like losing weight, embracing wellness, and/or getting healthier.

Addiction Speaks

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on February 27, 2015 in In Flux
Addiction comes in many shapes and forms. Not all addictions are alike in their severity and duration. Even those addictions that are less severe and less life-threatening can hold us in its clutches for years on end. This entry includes a letter written to Veronica by her "addict self." What emerges from our own depths and from our own will to heal is often poignant.

The Bystander Effect

By Rosemary K.M. Sword on February 27, 2015 in The Time Cure
We’d all like to think that when we see something bad happening that we’d step forward to render aid. But in reality most of us don’t. And although some people won’t take the initiative to help, they will take the time to photograph or videotape the event and post it on the internet. Why?

Intimate Partner Abuse: Walk Away Before the Cycle Starts

We should never live in fear of the people who say they love us.

Why We Hate It When People Invade Our Space

By Joe Navarro M.A. on February 27, 2015 in Spycatcher
Why exercising social intelligence matters and why it can dominate a news cycle

Love Yourself Before You Love Others

Compassion starts with self-compassion. Without it you will burn yourself out. Without it you won't be able to share compassion wholeheartedly.