Essential Reads

What Makes A Great Lover

Is a great lover determined by parts or practices?

Do I Complain Too Much?

How to complain more effectively

Life’s Endings and How We Make Sense out of Them

At life transition points, it’s your sense of self that counts in the end

The Procrastination Fallacy of Working Better Under Pressure

Do you wait until you are nearly out of time before you start?

Recent Posts on Self-Help

10 Ways to Spot and Cope with Any Narcissist

By Craig Malkin PhD on August 03, 2015 in Romance Redux
Most people, even those narcissistic enough to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, won't strut about insulting you at the start of a relationship. If they did, no one would fall in love with them. In these videos, you'll learn to recognize--and cope--with all forms of narcissism, no matter how subtle they might be.

What Makes A Great Lover

By Isadora Alman MFT on August 03, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
The ingredients that comprise a great lover may surprise you.

Refill Your Cupboard

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Stress builds up over time, so it's important to do small things throughout the day to keep the stress meter in the "green zone." There are many ways to lower the sense of stress in your mind or body, even in the middle of a busy day.

Sharing Is Important, Not Easy

More adult sons and daughters are returning to the family nest to live; which complicates life for both them and their parents.

What I've Learned about Friendships in my 20s (So Far)

By Rubin Khoddam on August 03, 2015 in The Addiction Connection
Navigating your twenties is hard, especially socially, as we make and lose friends. But here are some tips I've learned about friends in my twenties so far.

Soliloquest

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 03, 2015 in On Having Fun
Talking to yourself is sometimes very, very fun.

Here's How You Can Become An Expert

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on August 03, 2015 in Memory Medic
Is there a shortcut to becoming an expert?

10 Anger Quotes That Will Transform Your Life

By Steven Laurent on August 03, 2015 in Chill Pill
Number three is genius!

Mind and Body in Concert— Healing without Harm

The mind-body connection has been well-studied and is very real. Are you ready to trade in the prescription pad for empowerment of your own health care? This article is a great start.

Do I Complain Too Much?

Do I Complain Too Much? How to complain more effectively. By Lisa Juliano, Psy.D.

Life’s Endings and How We Make Sense out of Them

When something important in your life comes to an end, whether your career or your relationship, the process may be more difficult to cope with than you might realize. Ultimately, it’s your identity, and the sense you make of that ending, which will determine how you emerge from life’s transition points.

The Procrastination Fallacy of Working Better Under Pressure

By Bill Knaus Ed.D. on August 01, 2015 in Science and Sensibility
Are you tired of feeling pressured and rushed? Try a simple two-step solution.

Brain's Response to Meditation

With meditation, you have the opportunity to become aware of what causes you stress and condition yourself to react differently. You can learn to let go of negative thoughts, events or interactions.

Art Therapy: It’s Not Just an Art Project

Are there circumstances where art itself is the proverbial therapist? This is a question that continues to rankle the profession called “art therapist” as well as those who are trying to establish a clearly defined scope of practice for the field.

What Can Anger Do for Me?

How to use anger wisely and keep yourself safe.

Henry David Thoreau: “Simplify, Simplify”

We’re probably not going to do what Henry David Thoreau did and live at a lake to make our lives simple. But we could move in that direction.

7 Ways to Deal With a Chronic Complainer

The chronic complainer. Nothing's ever good enough for them. They love to focus on problems and ignore solutions. This person might be a customer, an employee, a student, a co-worker, a child, or a spouse. On some days, it seems like it's everyone all at once. How can you effectively deal with these people without resorting to violence or sedatives? Here's the plan:

The Value of Sadness

We tend to pass on the message that sadness is bad and should be avoided. Yet, research has shown that sadness can be an adaptive emotion with real benefits. Sadness can make us feel more vital and centered within ourselves. So, why is it that we are so afraid to feel sad?

What's Your Joy?

We might be happier if we spend more time thinking of our joys rather than our miseries. Writing about our joy is one way to bring about healing and establishing a sense of harmony in our lives. It can be a way to tap into our subconscious mind. In addition to writing, sometimes trying to do something different as a way to break routine.

How to Boost Your Self-Esteem? Try Hitting the Weight Room

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in Social Instincts
New research shows that physically stronger men have higher self-esteem.

4 Healthy Mind Games to Play With Yourself

Our minds are incredibly malleable, and are influenced by the world around us. We can also choose to consciously influence our minds through thoughtful “mind-games” that ultimately can change our lives for the better.

Why Your View of the Future Can Make You Depressed

Most people assume that if you're depressed, that colors your view of your future. New research turns that thinking on its head, showing that, for many, if your view of your future is negative to begin with, that can actually make you depressed. The flip side is that a positive view of your future stimulates greater mental health.

The Problem With Wanting

Wanting make us unhappy. The more desires we have, the less satisfied we are with what already have. How can we stop wanting things we don't really need?

Are You Fully Charged? 5 Ways to Energize Your Work & Life

A survey of 10,000 people revealed that only 11% responded "yes" when asked, "Did you have a great deal of energy yesterday?"

Developing Time Management Skills

When life gets busy, things pile up. Time management is not about having all of those things done; it’s about having enough time for what matters most to you. By managing your time in a more efficient way, not only will you the right things done, but you’ll also have enough time to relax, de-stress and breathe more freely.

Feeling Good? What Makes Good Feelings Flow?

How much good feeling have you been experiencing? Would you like more? Check out these 5 factors.

The "2-minute Miracle"?

Even very short amounts of time engaged in expressive writing are healing. Both psychological and physical benefits have been found. Here are a few tips if you want to get the benefits of expressive writing for yourself.

Is the Taboo Against “Blaming Victims” Over?

By Izzy Kalman on July 27, 2015 in Resilience to Bullying
The politically correct anti-bullying academic anti-bullying field has been shunning approaches to bullying that focus on teaching victims how to solve their problems because they don't want to be accused of "blaming victims." Researchers, discovering that the bully-focused approach doesn't work, may finally be ignoring the taboo against blaming victims.

Break Out of Your Boredom

People can feel imprisoned by their boredom. They are stuck in feeling restless and unmotivated with no hope of finding freedom. But there is a way out. Much like any prison break, your way out is to begin by tunneling down.

Seeing the Person Within the Persona

Irrelationship is about a lot of things: a co-created and shared defense, compulsive caregiving, Performing and Audiencing, suffering and feeling trapped and helpless. It is also about hiding out in a routine, a song-and-dance routine. That routine is like a mask that protects the self from observation—it is a persona-in-action (an enacted disguise).