Essential Reads

How Beneficial Are You?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 01, 2016 in How To Do Life
A self-assessment: How positive or negative are your impacts?

6 Strategies for Dealing With Adult Sibling Rivalry

It only takes one person to change the functioning of an entire family system – as you shift your own behaviors, others will have to shift in response.

The Top Ten Myths About Men’s Sexuality

By Joe Kort Ph.D. on September 30, 2016 in Understanding the Erotic Code
It is time to stop gender bias and catch therapists up to understanding what really is happening in men’s erotic universe.

Just-in-Time and Deep: The Secret to Less Stressful Planning

Are you worried that you're doing too much planning and not enough doing? Once you know the purpose of personal project plans, you'll know just how much to plan, and when.

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Do You Feel Guilty or Ashamed?

This article helps us find a language to differentiate between how we feel when we make a mistake or fall short of our ideals from the paralyzing shame of being a mistake.

Biscuits Before Breakfast: Recovery in Microcosm

By Emily T. Troscianko on September 30, 2016 in A Hunger Artist
Eating a plain biscuit reminds me of how different healthy eating needs to be during recovery.

The Pill's Role in The Pain of the Pain-Pleasure Principle

By Mark Borigini M.D. on September 30, 2016 in Overcoming Pain
What is consistent is that many women suffer, in many ways, when they assume the burden of contraception in a relationship.

In Defense of Power Poses

The idea that you can get a boost of confidence from posing like a superhero has recently come under fire. While these critiques have merit, so does the original idea.

What’s Really Behind the Curtain?

So, what happens when our social assumptions and expectations are misplaced? More to the point, what happens when we figure that out? We discover things aren't quite as they seem.

Some "Do's" and "Don'ts" for Loved Ones

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on September 30, 2016 in A Family Affair
Are you trying to figure out how best to handle a loved one's addiction? Consider some do's and don'ts.

4 Ways to Stop Putting Your Joy on Hold

By Susan Biali M.D. on September 30, 2016 in Prescriptions for Life
Do you complain a lot about your life, or frequently wish that it could be different? Shift your perspective and discover how to enjoy your life now, no matter what's going on.

You CAN Stay Strong, Sane & Centered in Times of Stress

By Traci Stein Ph.D., MPH on September 30, 2016 in The Integrationist
These 7 tips can help you become more emotionally resilient in general and maintain perspective during times of strife

Ask Yourself This Question to Better Meet Your Goals

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 30, 2016 in Friendship 2.0
If you keep coming up short when trying to meet goals, you might want to give this theory a look.

How to Communicate in a World of Spin

By Steve Sisgold on September 30, 2016 in Life in a Body
This virus of falseness is only getting worse and no one, it seems, is spared the plague of this spin.

I Have a Mouse Problem...Maybe a Rat Problem

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 30, 2016 in How To Do Life
Musings on the practicalities and the ethics of killing rodents.

Energy Bites for Teachers

By Joseph Cardillo Ph.D. on September 29, 2016 in Attention Training
Often times the last person teachers think about is themselves.

10 Ways to Change Hurtful Habits

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on September 29, 2016 in Emotional Fitness
Once you discover (or are confronted with) something you do that hurts the one you love, you will want to change that habit. Here are 10 ways to help you do so.

How Powerful Is Status Quo Bias?

By Rob Henderson on September 29, 2016 in After Service
Research sheds light on our resistance to change.

Fear of Speaking in Public: A Lesson for Teens

By Raychelle Cassada Lohmann MS, LPC on September 29, 2016 in Teen Angst
Have you ever wanted to ask a question or speak in front of a group of people, but couldn't get the words out? If so, then you are 100 percent completely normal.

Self Care 101: You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup

By Susan Biali M.D. on September 28, 2016 in Prescriptions for Life
If your life has felt too busy for a while, you're probably running on empty. Avoid the inevitable disaster by heeding warning signs in your body, before it's too late.

Coping Guidelines for All of Us

In the last few months our nation has witnessed a surge in violent acts of intolerance. Are we suffering from secondary PTSD?

Stop Waiting for the Right Moment to Meditate

By Marty Babits on September 28, 2016 in The Middle Ground
Too frenetic to sit for meditation? There are alternatives. Here are some of the most useful action-oriented meditation practices.

The Power of Positively Priming the Therapist

By Goal Auzeen Saedi Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in Millennial Media
We've all heard the adage that we are what we think. Turns out what your therapist thinks can go a long ways in your therapy treatment.

Expressive Arts Therapies and Posttraumatic Growth

Arts expression and expressive arts therapies are changing personal narratives of posttraumatic stress to ones of posttraumatic growth and posttraumatic "possibility."

Juggling Bricks?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in Your Wise Brain
In a way, everything is a cloud, made of parts. Enjoy the clouds. Relax.

Prepare Yourself for Change in 4 Basic Steps

By Leslie Becker-Phelps Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in Making Change
By recognizing your unspoken hesitations about achieving your goals, you can address them and prepare yourself to create the change you want.

An Ode to Readers of How-To Articles

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 26, 2016 in How To Do Life
To those who appreciate the how-to article.

Eye Contact: Yes! or No!

Design can keep us all comfortable, no matter how much eye contact we desire.

Toxic People

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on September 24, 2016 in In Flux
Several people weighed in on 8 Common Traits of Toxic People. Here are some of their thoughts, and mine, that will hopefully help shed more light on the subject.

Thousands of Genes Are Altered by Aerobic Endurance Training

By Christopher Bergland on September 24, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
A groundbreaking new study reports that aerobic endurance training can alter 3,400 RNA variants, associated with 2,600 genes. These findings have widespread health implications.

How to Make Things Better by Making Them Worse

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Think Well
While it's counter intuitive, sometimes to make things better we first have to make them worse. Here's how to understand and use the power of paradox to solve many problems.

What Does Trust "Look Like" at Work?

Engaged people do great work. Who wouldn't want that as a leader? But are you making enough trust currency to enable these behaviors? Take this quiz to find out.

The (Lost) Art of Self-Reflection

If you are tired of the blame game and want to get real answers, consider engaging in a little self-reflection with these nine steps.

Five Easy Steps to Recharge Your Money Life

By Michael F. Kay on September 22, 2016 in Financial Life Focus
Along with the flying calendar pages comes the feeling that you’re running out of time to accomplish all those financial goals you’d so optimistically planned out last January.