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Facing Your Depression

By David Ludden Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in Talking Apes
Researchers are working on a new treatment for depression you can put on your mobile device—but a self-help version is already available.
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Do You Build or Discover Your Life?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 19, 2017 in Fixing Families
You can approach to your life as a builder, blueprint in hand, or a discoverer, where you see where a path leads you. Qualities of each, and a possible middle ground

Why Do Stories of Change Inspire?

By Art Markman Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in Ulterior Motives
A staple of self-help groups is that people who have been through addiction and alcoholism tell stories of their journey. Why are those stories inspiring?

Seven Warning Signs of Potentially Toxic Relationships

If you have the misfortune to find yourself in a toxic relationship, the “normal response” to an “abnormal situation” can include feelings of suffocation, trepidation, and shame.

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6 Ways to Focus on What's Important in Your Life

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on August 23, 2017 in In Flux
While there's much we can't control happening around us there's always room to take back and refocus our attention on making our own lives as meaningful and fulfilling as possible.

Tribalism and a Way to Common Ground

If you are tired of the on- and offline vitriol inhabiting our daily lives today, consider this: we have a lot more in common than you might think.

When Facing Life Transitions, Check Your Social Groups

By Jolanda Jetten Ph.D. on August 22, 2017 in Social Cures
How to be best prepared for life transitions? Perhaps you should check your social groups.

Learning to Live From the Inside Out

Do you feel tossed around by the waves of your life? What if you could learn to powerfully surf them instead?

What if Your Parents Were Just Not That Into You?

What if your parents were just not that into you? The lifelong effects of childhood neglect.

How to Tell The Truth in Difficult Situations

By Peter Bregman on August 21, 2017 in How We Work
Discover the eight steps in a “truth talk,” the key to getting someone else to understand your perspective, and how to distinguish for yourself between facts and interpretations.

When Are You?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 21, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
The present moment is continually passing away, so if you try to hold onto it you are no longer in the present. Relax and be open to this moment. Stop being lost in thought.
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9 Strategies to Manage a Personal Setback

By David Susman, Ph.D. on August 21, 2017 in The Recovery Coach
Challenged by a loss or disappointment? How you manage it makes all the difference.

What Exactly Is Well-Being?

Everyone agrees that well-being is important, but what exactly is it? New research has identified the fourteen components that make up the good life.

10 Ways to Protect Yourself in a Terrorist Attack

Preparing for the next terrorist attack involves not paranoia, but preparedness. Mindful, intentional steps to be proactive, not reactive can protect you and your loved ones.

B.E.A.R.–Strategies for Restraint and Stability

Looking for strategies to help curb your anger arousal? Try practicing B.E.A.R.

Understanding Why Bachelorette Rachel Chose Bryan

By Goal Auzeen Saedi Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Millennial Media
Since the Bachelorette finale weeks ago, speculation and rumors are still flying regarding whether or not Rachel made the right choice. Read on for one psychologist's take.

A Simpler Way to Get Along Without Asking About Feelings

By Kimberly Key on August 18, 2017 in Counseling Keys
Some people, and lots of men, have been raised not to feel and are at a loss when they are asked to identify a feeling. Or worse, they have been abused for their feelings.

A New Toxic Trend in Relationships: Is Yours at Risk?

Do you look to your partner to support for your own self-expression? A cultural trend is having unforeseen consequences for couples.
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It’s Not Your Fault

If you were abused, know that it’s not your fault, you aren’t damaged, and you have a chance to live a meaningful life.

The Power of Persuasion: 6 Ways to Get Your Way

Making the principles of persuasion work for you.

The Unselfish Art of Prioritizing Yourself

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in Compassion Matters
Maintaining a certain regard for ourselves, doing things we want to do, and engaging in self-care are fundamental to creating a good life for ourselves and the people we love.
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Life’s Imaginary Prison Bars

By Alex Pattakos Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in The Meaningful Life
"Prison bars imagined are no less solid steel."

Superhero Therapy: A Book to Help Your Inner Hero

In her book Superhero Therapy, Janina Scarlet shows that a fear or weakness does not make a hero any less heroic, and that we all can be heroes both for ourselves and for others.
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Managing Your Life in a Dysfunctional Relationship

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 16, 2017 in Fixing Families
Dysfunctional relationships, whether they are filled with anger or addiction or mental illness, often create a flood of contradictory emotions within you. Tips on how to navigate.

Can Rest Make Us More Productive?

By Peter Bregman on August 14, 2017 in How We Work
Discover why even an hour of rest a week can increase your productivity and Marilyn’s principles for establishing a rest routine that works.

How Can We Change the Rampant Disrespect in Our World?

Is disrespect wearing you down? Some ways to begin making a difference.

Michelle Gielan On Mindset

By Isaac Lidsky on August 14, 2017 in Mastering Your Reality
A positive psychology expert teaches us to “mine the data of our existence” and construct a reality that fuels and empowers us.

From Panic to Peace

Do you struggle with anxiety? Smalls steps and simple approaches can make a big difference in how you experience it.

Does It Feel Safe With Other People?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 14, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
Even if the other person reacts to you, you could handle it fine. If there is something to deal with — conflict, betrayal — you can be clear-eyed and strong, without being anxious.

First Memories

Like a child who uses a blanket to self-soothe, a memory may be a psychological mechanism awakened at certain moments to protect us from hopelessness.

Holding the "Both-And" in Times of Stress

Compassion, wisdom, and curiosity may just be able to help us avoid the well trodden path to polarization, them vs us, and the limits of right and wrong. We are more than all that!

Race in America: Tips on Talking With Children About Racism

Current events depicting racism often spark the race conversation. How can you have the talk with your kid?

Three Questions for New Grads

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 13, 2017 in How To Do Life
Should you defy the conventional choices?

The Seduction of Secret — How Intrigue Sparks Attraction

Mysterious, fascinating, or assertive partners spark intrigue and admiration. Yet avoid a date with disaster by considering why someone does not open up.