Essential Reads

Waiting for the Haiku in Mindfulness

Have we taken the bones out of Dogen so that we can pick our teeth?

RID Yourself of Psychological Distress

Three simple steps that will help you live more contentedly.

How to Trust Again After Job Loss or Career Setback

Four tips for moving forward toward trust

Top 10 Unpopular Strategies to Boost Happiness

What the science of positive psychology reveals about how to boost well-being.

Recent Posts on Self-Help

Waiting for the Haiku in Mindfulness

By Thomas Hills Ph.D. on November 26, 2015 Statistical Life
Mindfulness can be about a personal and experimental exploration of reality that is not about saving yourself, but rather experiencing your self. Realizing that the "explanation for you" is not only the finger your mind constantly points at itself, but something undefinably larger and more personal at the same time.

Flying the Coop: The Importance of Adventure

By Gregg Levoy on November 25, 2015 Passion!
There's an inverse relationship between adventure and depression in our lives. Too little of one can lead to too much of the other. Here's a cautionary tale that captures it.

Another Frantic Holiday Season?

Is the holiday season wearing you down? How to find more flow and less stress.

Stay In or Go Out? A Bigger Question Than You Might Think

Life often requires us to choose between the familiar and the unknown, and no one wants to look back with regret. How much security is enough, and what might it be costing you?

4 New and Helpful Insights on Gratitude

Gratitude is easy to apply and brings nice benefits. If you relate to gratitude practice then you'll want to see these 4 new findings. If you don't relate to gratitude, check out what you can prioritize instead.

A Quick and Easy Guide to Surviving the Holidays

No matter how functional your family is you are guaranteed to be disappointed by the holidays in some way, and also to disappoint. But you can get ahead of all this with my help; forewarned is forearmed. Here are some easy do's and dont's to help you navigate through the Helliday minefields and to even possibly have a good time.

4 Psychological Smartphone Apps Designed to Benefit Behavior

Too little sleep, too much stress, anxiety over getting the kids to school on time, and a fear of flying are common issues that can be relieved from these smartphone or tablet apps.

5 Resolutions for Enhancing Intimate Relationships

Finding true love is seldom easy, but maintaining it for the long-term can be challenging, too. Here are 5 resolutions that may up your odds in keeping the romance alive.

6 Tips for Avoiding Family Drama

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Friendship 2.0
The holidays are upon us—and every year, family tensions can cause more indigestion than that lumpy gravy. Here are six concrete steps to take in preparation for holiday drama, to help you banish stress and increase your enjoyment of the day.

What Do Others Give You?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Your Wise Brain
Say Thanks - it's a small moment with big ripples: a confirmation of a wonderful truth - that we are all joined in a web of innumerable acts of giving.

More Indispensables for Those With Chronic Pain and Illness

My "comfort food" is a cup of decaf coffee with cocoa powder, stevia, and coconut milk in it. (I admit, it’s really a pretend decaf mocha.) Does this sound truly awful to you? That’s why comfort food is a personal indispensable!

5 Things They Don't Tell You About Grief

Worried you aren't grieving the "right" way? There are some parts of the grief process that people don't like to talk about.

Politics, Money, and Religion: Happy Thanksgiving

Are you stressed about spending the holidays with family? A simple strategy for dealing with 'those' relatives can help.

Imagination in Action: Interview With Shaun McNiff

Imagination in action is about accepting the struggles, mistakes and failures and realizing that they are all part of the challenging process of personal transformation. Put down that coloring book and give yourself the gift of spontaneous, authentic, creative expression.

How Gratitude Leads to a Happier Life

Gratitude has been shown to have many benefits in terms of our health, happiness, satisfaction with life and the way we relate to others. It goes hand in hand with mindfulness in its focus on the present and appreciating what we have now, rather than wanting more and more. Learn research-based strategies to be more grateful.

What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on November 22, 2015 Fixing Families
Stuck making a decision? Six tips on what to do when you don't know what to do.

7 Tips to Create Healthy Boundaries with Others

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on November 21, 2015 In Flux
Healthy boundaries help you form and maintain healthy relationships. Knowing what you need, what personal space is yours helps to to prevent unwanted overtures and violations of what you consider personally sacred.

Self Help Books that Work

By Temma Ehrenfeld on November 21, 2015 Open Gently
Some self-help books really work; others are bunk.

Lessons From the Paris Attacks

In the words of the next door neighbor of the ax-murderer, “But he . . . (say it with me) seemed like such a nice guy!” Why did she have that impression? Because her neighbor, whom she knew nothing about, had become familiar.

3 Things to Do When You're Not Sure About Your Relationship

Ambivalence is common in long-term relationships because it’s easy to drift apart over the years, but you stay because leaving is too complicated. And yet ambivalence is a stressful place to park. Is your marriage really worth saving? Here are some reasons to set yourself free from indecision and tips for moving toward a more peaceful, fulfilling existence.

Life in the Slow Lane in the Fastest City on Earth

Is it possible to decelerate when everyone else around you is going at the speed of light. Journalist Bill Powers gave it a try. And discovered you can shape society by going slower.

7 Questions to Get You Through Any Challenge

If stress is a given, how can you build your resilience to it? How can you evaluate the challenge in a flexible and accurate way? Whether you’re dealing with a minor adversity or going through a big life crisis, these seven questions will give you some perspective and build your resilience.

Top 10 Highly Popular Strategies for Boosting Happiness

Here are 10 of the most popular interventions for boosting well-being. The science of happiness is young but there are many good strategies that have begun to show consistency in both research and popularity. Which ones will you try?

12 Easy Ways to Shrink Annoying Problems Down to Size

By Meg Selig on November 20, 2015 Changepower
Got a problem? Shrink it! These 12 techniques will relieve stress by shrinking annoying problems down to a more manageable size.

Building Core Value Narratives

When personal narratives persist over time, they develop a support structure of highly reinforced habits.

Our Hidden Fear of Acceptance

While the fear of rejection is understandable, the fear of acceptance is less visible. The article explores how this more subtle fear operates. Being mindful of how we fear acceptance can open to door to a deeper capacity to receive the love and caring that is available.

7 Chilling Facts About Your Fear of Fear

Is fear your ally or enemy? The more you understand about fear, the less scared of life you will be.

What Can Wounded Storytellers Teach Us?

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on November 19, 2015 The Empowerment Diary
Many memoirs are based on the author's experience with illness, trauma or the loss of a loved one. Narrative writing is one way to make sense of difficult times. Writing also facilitates reflection on lived experiences. Sharing our stories helps us heal, and also helps readers navigate their own journey.

5 Key Elements Of Sustainable Change

If you want to know whether someone will stick to a given goal (resolution) you will need to know how specific/realistic the goal, about his motivation, his level of confidence, and the strength of his willpower.

RID Yourself of Psychological Distress

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on November 19, 2015 In Control
When correcting any problem, the way in which the trouble is understood will have a large bearing on how effective and efficient the remediation efforts are.