Essential Reads

Finding Meaning Through Mental Time Travel

Imagine walking into the door of your childhood home: What would you learn?

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

... including the truth about rebound relationships.

Lessons From the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt

How to fix your problems from the inside-out

What Seinfeld Understood About Motivation and Psychology

Jerry Seinfeld's amazing advice on motivation and productivity.

Recent Posts on Self-Help

Pink Ribbon Purge

I’ve been researching and writing about breast cancer for so many years that I’ve accumulated a plethora of pink-ribbon-themed items. I’m finished with the baggage. Taking control of my surroundings has been very freeing!

Journaling Clears Out the Bad, Builds Up the Good

By Jason Powers M.D. on May 03, 2015 in Beyond Abstinence
Multiple studies show that disclosing emotions through journaling is therapeutic, which is why I encourage my patients to write for their own benefit and consumption.

10 Signs Your Boss / Manager is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." At the workplace, a pathologically narcissistic manager can be insensitive and conceited at best, and exploitative or abusive at worst. Here are ten signs that your boss might be a narcissist...

Teach Someone to Prioritize Using Psychological Distance

You may be tempted to write off some team members as never being able to manage themselves. They may be great at execution, but the level of handholding they need about what actually has to get done is frustrating. It would be ideal if there were a way to get everyone on a work team to be thinking about the big picture.

Part II: Communication is Not about Techniques

There is almost always a hidden agenda in the use of communication techniques. When people are emotionally disconnected, communication techniques makes them feel manipulated.

The Honest Truth About Self- Publishing

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on May 02, 2015 in Listen Up!
There are profound rewards, delights, and costs to self- publishing. They may not be the ones you expect.

Finding Meaning Through Mental Time Travel

Imagine returning to the home where you grew up, opening the door, and walking right back into your childhood or youth? What would you learn about yourself and your life story? How would you live your life differently today?

You May Be Playing the Victim, and Not Even Know It?

When you do everything your partner asks, you likely expect gratitude in return, but what it actually creates in them is a reservoir of guilt and anger.

Mental Health Awareness

The month of May celebrates mental health

Mother's Day for Those Raised by Narcissistic Parents

Mother’s Day is approaching. Is it time to run and hide or stumble into a Hallmark store to desperately search for that empty card that says nothing upon which you simply sign your name? How sad, awful, taboo, and misunderstood this is for adult children raised by narcissistic parents. Who woulda thunk it?

A Path To Less Suffering

By Allison Carmen on May 01, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
So what is the key to internal freedom and joy? In a word, it is acceptance. Acceptance does not change your passion or need for change, but allows you to “show up” in the moment with peace about what is, and strength and focus to make things different.

Regret - 8 Ways to Move On

Regret gnaws at you and won't let go. You said something stupid, or hurt someone, or simply missed a great chance. The mind wraps around these mistakes and can torture us. Consider eight ways to learn important lessons, make changes and then - let go!

Number One Secret to Getting Communication Unstuck?

By Marty Babits on May 01, 2015 in The Middle Ground
Number One Secret to Getting Communication Unstuck?

Three Strong Steps To Combat Anxiety And Insecurity

Do you feel tangled up in anxiety and insecurity? Learn a simple technique to break free.

Curious Criticism? Or do you get defensive?

Don't lose opportunities to grow.

Winning the Battle with Inner Criticism

Does inner criticism shake your confidence, make you feel that you are not beautiful, intelligent, powerful, or even worthy? Here's how to make a real difference in your struggle to love yourself.

Want Less Stress and More Happiness? Try Hope

While many people think of hope as an emotion, researchers describe it as a cognitive theory that is tied to goal setting. Hope researcher, Dr. C.R. Snyder, often described hope with this phrase: “You can get there from here.”

Bouncing Back Instead of Falling Down

Are the keys to your life in someone else's pocket from the past or in your own today?

3 Ways to Outsmart Your Inner Critic

By Christa Smith Psy.D. on April 30, 2015 in Shift
You can’t please your inner critic but you can outsmart it.

Secret of Adulthood: Lose Yourself to Find Yourself.

By Gretchen Rubin on April 29, 2015 in The Happiness Project
Sometimes we have to lose our way in order to find our way.

The Gut-Wrenching Confusion of an Epic Breakup

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on April 29, 2015 in Me Before We
After a stormy relationship, you can think you’re OK, you're feeling stable, but then you plunge right back into confusion, disgust, and fear all over again.

Inner Selves: Calming the Demons

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on April 29, 2015 in Fixing Families
We all have inner voices that criticize or make us anxious or simply make us feel bad, but can control our lives. Some tips for pushing back.

When Is a Doormat Not a Doormat?

Irrelationships may cross the line into frank abuse. However, the abused partner's seeming acquiescence may not be simple acceptance of the unacceptable. Despite his abusiveness, she may believe her partner needs what she has to offer. And her abuser may be equally committed to demanding it even while refusing to validate it.

How Does a Rebel Change Habits?

By Gretchen Rubin on April 28, 2015 in The Happiness Project
I love it when people tell me about their ingenious ways of working with their Tendency, in order to change their habits.

Can Orange Glasses Improve Sleep Quality? Testing it Out

By Jordan Gaines Lewis on April 28, 2015 in Brain Babble
Can orange-tinted glasses improve sleep quality by blocking out blue light? I did an experiment.

Your Anxiety Might Be a Healthy Sign

There is certainly a reason for all that anxiety you are feeling, but it may not be what you fear. Instead of being a symptom of something wrong, it might mean that your body is working well and trying to tell you something. It might mean that you need to slow down.

Something Becomes Important Because We’re Paying Attention

By Gretchen Rubin on April 27, 2015 in The Happiness Project
It’s our listening that makes a conversation important; it’s our vision that makes a masterpiece; it’s our love that makes a face stand out from the crowd.

10 Ways to Build Trust Remotely

Are people who work remotely less worthy of your trust? Is it possible to build strong trusting working relationships with people you can't see? Are people who work remotely less worthy of your trust? Is it possible to build strong trusting working relationships with people you can't see?

The Wisdom of Our Elders

Good news: we can employ ordinary measures for mood improvement and to fight against anxiety, depression, and stress. My conclusion from working with nursing home residents is that feeling better does not usually require a miracle, just careful management of the mundane elements of our lives.

My Sunday Morning With Mental Health Advocates

I wanted to spend our time hearing the thoughts of those who attended, families and patients, about they believed stood in the way of improving mental health services and what we could do about it