Essential Reads

The Problem With Positive Thinking

By Joel Minden, PhD on August 25, 2016 in CBT and Me
Does positive thinking lead to greater happiness? If only it were that simple. When negative thinking gets you down, here’s what to do instead.

Should We Treat Business School Students Like Customers?

University professors and administrators should be customer-oriented, but we should not treat students like customers.

Connecting: Forging Real Relationships with People of Color

Are you a white person who wants to combat racism? Use the science of social connection to make your own world a less white place. Deliberately connect with people of color.

Acting Out of Conviction vs. Acting Out of Resentment

Conviction is the strong belief that a behavior is right, moral, and consistent with your deeper values. Like resentment, conviction provides a sense of certainty.

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Looking Beyond Opioids for Chronic Pain

By Beth Darnall PhD on August 28, 2016 in Less Pain, Fewer Pills
Leverage yourself out of the chronic pain trap. Tap into resources -- including pain psychology-- that can help you feel better with fewer pills.

Three Essential Trust Giving Don'ts

Knowing how, when and whom to trust gets complicated at times. Discover three easily avoided mistakes that will lower your workplace trust-risk while increasing your trust-skill.

What Makes People Passive-Aggressive? 6 Possible Causes

Be on the lookout for these, before you’re blindsided!

On a Freud Quote

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 28, 2016 in How To Do Life
When does introspection cross the line into self-absorption?

3 Things Mental Strength Trainers Teach Olympic Athletes

Mental strength trainers help elite athletes perform at their best. Here are some of the skills you can apply to your own life.
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Stop Giving Your Power Away to Others

Take back your power with these 5 steps on dealing with difficult people! Own your reactions and actions, and shift the dynamic to lessen the sting inflicted by a negative person.

On a B.F. Skinner Quote

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 26, 2016 in How To Do Life
What do you remember from your education? What are the implications of that?

Crazy Busy? What Would You Pay for an Hour of Calm?

As you reflect on your life for a moment, how much would you pay to avoid feeling negative emotions or to experience more positive emotions?

10+ Ways Exercise Can Change Your Life

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on August 25, 2016 in Cravings
One of them is bound to give you the motivation you need to get moving.

The Art of Letting Go: How to Make the Most of Sacrifice

By Gregg Levoy on August 23, 2016 in Passion!
To sacrifice means to “to make sacred,” and it's about liberation, not defeat. Here's how to reframe sacrifice so it serves your growth and unfolding.

Smoking in the Shower

What we do in private drives who we are in public.

What Do Others Want?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 23, 2016 in Your Wise Brain
You have to actively look for good intentions. You'll find them all around you - the deep goodness in every being. Practice looking for good intentions that may make you happier.

On Doing Nothing

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 23, 2016 in On Having Fun
Both "having fun" and "doing nothing" can, at their deepest and most salubrious, become an art.

3 Steps to Find a Business Mentor for Free

By Judy Carter on August 22, 2016 in Stress Is a Laughing Matter
Therapists get this all the time. Someone, under the guise of friendship wants you to solve their problems over a cobb salad. Isn’t that why you have an office?
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What Death Teaches Us About Living

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on August 21, 2016 in The Empowerment Diary
I've had the honor of being with two different loved ones this year at the time of their passing. In many ways this was an honor which reminded me what is important in life.

Dangerous Thoughts

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 21, 2016 in How To Do Life
Things that are hard to say, even to our diary.

What's the 4-Letter Word Your Diet Might Be Missing?

By Gregg McBride on August 20, 2016 in The Weight-ing Game
Wanting a quick fix (which can include fads, pills or even surgery), some dieters often ignore the actual "work" it takes to successfully lose excess weight once and for all.

Getting Serious About Your Marriage Is No Joke

It is a popular misconception that marriage counselors have some kind of magical powers that can fix relationships.

How to Build a Happier Brain in Two Easy Steps

By Meg Selig on August 19, 2016 in Changepower
Learn Rick Hanson's simple two-step process for "hardwiring" positive experiences into your brain so that you can feel happier, calmer, and more confident.

If You Don’t Look Injured, You Must Be Fine

By James F. Zender Ph.D. on August 19, 2016 in The New Normal
What happens to your behavior after a car accident?

On an Albert Ellis Quote

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 19, 2016 in How To Do Life
How much free will do we really have?
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The Power of Healthy Shame

While toxic shame is destructive, healthy, friendly shame can offer a path toward seeing more clearly how we are affecting others. Friendly shame can get our attention.

An Honest Letter to Your Therapist or Counselor

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 18, 2016 in How To Do Life
Thoughts for clients and practitioners

"Healthy Anger"

Let it all hang out? Really?
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Eight Traits of People With Healthy Self-Esteem

Heightened self-esteem comes about by continuing to take those baby steps, then making small decisions and seeing small results.

Living With Intention

Intention is the power to redirect your thoughts. This power is limited. Here's how to grow it instead of wasting it.

Are We Really So Separate?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 16, 2016 in Your Wise Brain
When you love the world, you appreciate and care for it. Each of these actions makes you feel good, they help you preserve and improve everything you depend on: air, food, etc.
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Happiness Is Not Set in Stone

Your happiness might be more controllable than you think.

Can Disappointment Become an Addiction?

When disappointment and hurt have been deep and consistent, it can, paradoxically, become pleasurable.

ADHD and Michael Phelps: Medication Is Not a Crutch

Not taking stimulant medication for your diagnosed ADHD? You still have ADHD.