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7 Ways to Mitigate Self-Doubt

Release negative thinking and live to your fullest potential.

Why We Use Drugs: The Power of Addictive Tendencies

The Reason We Get Hooked on Substances

Why Good Looks Don't Guarantee a Great Relationship

... and why this should be encouraging for all relationship-seekers.

Recent Posts on Self-Help

What I Learned From 2,000 Hours Of Freudian Psychoanalysis

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on July 06, 2015 in Ambigamy
Everything I learned from long psychoanalysis, distilled to nine bullet points. Can you learn it just by reading the list? Probably not but you may be learning it anyway.

Difficult Choices Following Bipolar Destabilization

Medical withdrawal from enrollment can be a painful but necessary choice sometimes encountered by university students with bipolar disorder. This blog post discuses the importance of carefully managing ones recovery during the time away from school in order to maximize chances of success upon return to the university environment.

What is Your Relationship Attachment Style?

What is your relationship attachment style? Based on the works of Bartholomew and Horowitz, etc., there are four adult attachment styles: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant. Most people have various degrees of the four attachment styles, which may change over time...

4 Signs That Your Relationship is Over…Maybe

Deciding to end a relationship can be anguishing. Some suggestions for when it's time to pull to plug and when to slow down

Parenting Without Punishment: A Humanist Perspective, Part 3

Tragically, since recorded history corporal punishment has been the “default” system for disciplining children. In the past century, however, evidence demonstrating its ineffectiveness has mounted to the degree that it can no longer—whether ethically or pragmatically—be justified. It’s therefore regrettable that today it's still common in the U.S.

Is Honesty Really the Best Policy?

Is it ever OK not to be completely honest?

The Psychology of Repression

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on July 02, 2015 in A Sideways View
Repression is a well known Freudian concept, written about by both Sigmund and daughter Anna. The central question is how and why this process occurs and whether it is essentially healthy or unhealthy?

How Your Beliefs About Yourself Limit Your Potential

At one time, your beliefs protected you and helped you navigate your life. But as an adult, believing you can't express your anger or that winning is all that matters - doesn't help you anymore. It limits you.

Reflections on the Soul of Washington, D.C.

By Pythia Peay on July 02, 2015 in America On The Couch
"In my view, Washington is the spiritual center of the country. I don't mean that in terms of a church or beliefs. I mean that in the very real sense of a religious way of being." Thomas Moore

Bouncing Back From Getting Dumped in 3 Easy Steps

It’s normal to need to re-validate your potential as a lover and a partner, but remember that every relationship is not meant to last forever and that every new relationship is a new beginning that does not have to yield to the self-same ending.

7 Ways to Mitigate Self-Doubt

Are you struggling with self-confidence? Learn how to overcome negative thinking and live to your fullest potential. Here are seven tips to mitigate self-doubt and create a new path to renewed confidence.

3 Myths About Romantic Relationships You Probably Believe

By Peg Streep on July 01, 2015 in Tech Support
When we think about relationships, sometimes our thinking is just plain wrong or uninformed, thanks to the brain... Really,

Self-Other-Help

As we are developing the irrelationship theory, model, and recovery process, we see it as our most primary of tasks to be inclusive of the experience of our readers, clients and colleagues. We are committed to building this model in a way that is in synch with our recover model: in a collaborative reciprocity with those for whom these ideas are resonating.

Self-Faith

By Christa Smith Psy.D. on June 30, 2015 in Shift
Learning how to trust yourself

Exploring Post Traumatic Growth

In recent years, we’ve heard a lot about post-traumatic stress, or PTSD, and the negative effects it can have on a person’s overall health and wellness. PTSD is triggered in response to either experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event, particularly if that event is life threatening

Why We Use Drugs: The Power of Addictive Tendencies

Addictions are a hotel; they are not home but can remind people of home so powerfully that they won’t easily abandon them without knowing where their real home is and how to get there.

Are You Having a Relationship with an Adult Coloring Book?

As of this writing, five of the top 30 titles on Amazon’s best-seller list are adult coloring books. With over 2000 titles out there and rising, the phenomenon of adult coloring-within-the-lines just seems to have no end in sight. Just why have adult coloring books become such a phenomenon?

Why Good Looks Don't Guarantee a Great Relationship

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in The Sports Mind
New research finds that attractiveness does little to guarantee a healthy relationship.

The Deep Dark Hole of Depression

Depression is scary to some and familiar to others. But everyone knows how easy it can be to fall into the depression hole. What we all need to realize though is that regardless of whether we fall in the trap or not, we don't have to live there. We don't have to make a home there. This article distinguishes between living in depression and acknowledging that it's there.

Your Commute Could Be Killing Your Happiness

If reducing your commute isn't an option, changing your attitude could combat the negative effects of a lengthy commute.

Personal Growth 101: Letting Go of Self-Improvement

Too often striving to be a better person means rejecting the person you are. This can be demoralizing and undermine your motivation to make changes. But it doesn’t have to be this way. If you value who you are AND strive to improve, you will flourish as a person.

"Anger Is an Energy!"

By Scott Haas on June 30, 2015 in Shrink in the Kitchen
Anger is an energy and not an emotion.

Making Every Day Count

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on June 29, 2015 in In Flux
We spend so much time planning way ahead for our future. Yet, all we can ever be sure of is the day in which we find ourselves. This article is a reminder to honor each day and night of every day you are given.

Be Amazed

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on June 29, 2015 in Your Wise Brain
Try to see more of your world as if you are seeing it for the first time, perhaps through the eyes of a child. If you're not amazed, you're not paying attention. If we were brave enough to be more often filled with wonder and surprise, we would treat ourselves, others, and our fragile world more gently.

How Does Your Child Sleep?

Having difficulty getting your child to bed down in the evenings? Check out this new book for frazzled families.

Self-Help Tips for Empaths: A Cartoon

By Anneli Rufus on June 29, 2015 in Stuck
A few simple tips for empaths seeking to safely navigate this crowded world.

Revolutionary: the Pressure-Less Diet

If you feel like you are burdened daily, have trouble sleeping, and going nowhere fast, it's time to start the pressure-less diet.

How to Stop Re-Creating Your Past and Finally Break Free

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on June 28, 2015 in Living Forward
If no matter how hard you try you keep ending up in the same place, it may be that you don’t realize you are creating your life by recreating the past over and over again because the brain works on the principle of anticipation. Learn how to break free of the cycle that is keeping you trapped.

6 Signs You Might Want to Call a Therapist

Depressive thinking can inhibit help-seeking behaviors.