Essential Reads

It's Time to Take the "Positive" Out of Positive Psychology

Being kind, caring, and compassionate may not always lead to greater well-being.

Getting to Yes with Yourself

The first step in any difficult conversation.

Unnaturally Good: The Plight of the Goody Two-Shoes

Don’t be fooled—not all virtue is the same.

Do You Feel Sexy on the Inside?

The emphasis on physical perfection outside has harmful effects on the inside.

Recent Posts on Self-Help

What Kind of Angry Are You? (Part 2)

In order to get the important message that anger is trying to deliver, you need to steer clear of your old, unhealthy avoidance habits and let your inner communication come through.

Six Ways to Stop Feeling Annoyed with Your Mate

When annoyances get in the way of you enjoying your relationships, it’s time to take stock of what is going on.

5 Ingredients of an Extraordinary Ordinary Life

Extraordinary people exist within even the most ordinary lives. They are the ones with the knack for living genuinely and who inspire us to attempt the same.

Happiness With Life 7: Rid Life's Unnecessary Negatives

Leading a happy life includes building in as much pleasure as possible, while also ridding all the hassles and hardships you can. While needing to gracefully tolerate those frustrations you cannot eliminate, learn the process of slowly but surely eliminate all those you can.

Want to Change a Habit?

By Gretchen Rubin on March 31, 2015 in The Happiness Project
I truly do believe that it’s possible for us to change our habits—even when we’ve failed before.

It's Time to Take the "Positive" Out of Positive Psychology

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on March 30, 2015 in Between You and Me
What is the prescription for optimal living? The burgeoning field of positive psychology appears to have many of the answers: We should be kind to others, forgiving of transgressions, gracious and compassionate in our daily lives, and optimistic about the future. Following this simple plan should keep us happy and healthy. It turns out the answer might not be so simple.

High School and Beyond

As a parent, you understand the desire to help your child succeed in the world and have the best future possible. Many parents dream their child will be successful, obtain postsecondary education, excel academically and most of all: find a career that is rewarding and satisfying. After all, isn't that the American dream?

Getting to Yes with Yourself

By Aldo Civico Ph.D. on March 30, 2015 in Turning Point
In his latest book, William Ury, one of the world's best-known experts on negotiation, shows us how we can understand and influence ourselves first, before we engage in difficult conversations and negotiations with others--thus improving our chances for a successful agreement.

10 Signs That You're In a Healthy Relationship

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on March 30, 2015 in In Flux
Relationship usually begin with romance and sex being upfront and center. But what really sustains a relationship? Here are some points to keep in mind while you're working on creating that special partnership.

Can You Stop Thinking?

By Steve Taylor Ph.D. on March 30, 2015 in Out of the Darkness
Why do our minds chatter away so much? Why involuntary mental chatter is bad for us, and how can we quieten it.

How Metaphors Influence You More Than Facts

By Douglas Van Praet on March 30, 2015 in Unconscious Branding
We often think we are logical people making fact-based decisions. But we are often being swayed simply by the use of a metaphor.

Back in the Swim

Ambivalent about permission to move on with her life after early widowhood, Angie has spent three years going through classic stages of grieving. As a widow, I understand and help her to free her energies to move into warm weather with a spring in her step.

Mental Illness Among Nurses

By Scott Haas on March 29, 2015 in Shrink in the Kitchen
Workplace Stress: Identification and Intervention. Pilots, yes. And let's look at other professions that are also down-to-earth.

How to Cope with Side-Effects of Medications

Many of us who suffer from chronic pain and illness are on medications with side-effects that, in some cases, can be as difficult to cope with as our initial health problems.

Pressure Anxiety: A Contemporary Plague

By Hendrie Weisinger on March 29, 2015 in Thicken Your Skin
Pressure Anxiety---if you don't have it, chances are great you know many who do!

You're Okay . . . That's All You Need to Remember

The desire and expectations you have for your own personal growth should be tempered by the acknowledgement that you are okay and that you, alone, know yourself best.

Do Your Habits Control the Meaning of Your Life?

To change the meaning of our lives, we must change our habits.

How to Apply Spring Cleaning to Your Body, Mind and Soul

By Gregg McBride on March 28, 2015 in The Weight-ing Game
What are you sitting on, keeping in your home or potentially hoarding on your shelves that might be holding you back mentally? Anything you need to get rid of? Any de-cluttering you need encouragement on? You might be surprised to learn that your mind is in need of spring cleaning even more than your living space is.

Detox From Negative News In The Media

By Marlynn Wei M.D., J.D. on March 27, 2015 in Urban Survival
Feeling weighed down by all the negative news in the media? Here's how to detox from the influx of negative events and news in the media.

9 Warning Signs of Burnout

Burnout has been described as the biggest occupational hazard of the twenty-first century. Educating busy professionals and workplaces about its warning signs is a big first step in reducing its impact.

I Had a Very Odd Experience at the Gym

By Gretchen Rubin on March 27, 2015 in The Happiness Project
For a moment, I was someone different. Not very different, but different nevertheless.

Are You a Survivor of Sexual Assault and Afraid of Flying?

12 Air travel tips for sexual assault survivors who are afraid of flying

Let´s Go to the Movies

By Ana Nogales on March 26, 2015 in Family Secrets
Movies have the ability to change our attitude, how we think and feel, and even our values.

Three Reasons to Not (Always) Trust

The kind of trust that builds good work relationships has conditions, boundaries, and limits. But, do you know them? Do you understand when not to trust?

Surprise

By The Book Brigade on March 26, 2015 in The Author Speaks
Surprise is good for the brain, great for relationships, and adds a certain frisson all around. Without it, life is lackluster. So why don't more people embrace the unexpected? They run from it or try to subdue it when they should instead roll with it.

6 Ways to Improve Your Self-Discipline Today

Self-discipline isn't an innate characteristic, it's a learned skill. The good news is, we all have the ability to start improving our self-discipline today.

Unnaturally Good: The Plight of the Goody Two-Shoes

There’s authentic virtue, and then there’s a kind of chronic, not-quite-credible virtue that doesn’t—and can’t—reflect the individual’s true nature. Their righteous words and actions, though perceivable as virtuous, may not come from their heart but their head. And what they say may belie what they’re really thinking—may not, in essence, “capture” who they truly are.

Yet Another Study Reporting Loneliness Can Kill You…

By Sean Seepersad Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in Web of Loneliness
Apparently the media have long-term memory loss. Every time another study comes out showing that loneliness is indeed deadly, they jumps on it like it was not something we knew before. But I guess you would expect that with a topic like loneliness. After all, who remembers anything about loneliness?

To Everything There Is a Season: A Time to Smash the Ice

By Julie J. Exline Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in Light and Shadow
Is there a time for rage? After a brutal winter and an attempt to come to peace with the ice that wouldn't leave our streets and sidewalks, here's what happened when I finally had a chance to do something about it.

Are You a Traumatized Woman?

By Rosemary K.M. Sword on March 24, 2015 in The Time Cure
When we peruse the landscape of our world half the women we see have experienced a life-altering traumatic event, perhaps a natural disaster like a tornado, or a human-made disaster such as a car accident. And 1 in 3 women will experience sexual assault in their lifetime. But this number is probably much higher because these are only reported cases.