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Practical Tips for Metabolizing a Compliment

We often deflect people's compliments because we're been taught to be self-effacing. But letting ourselves receive and metabolize a compliment can nurture us as nothing else can.

Millennial Distress: Why More? Why Now?

By Russ Federman Ph.D., A.B.P.P. on November 12, 2017 in Bipolar You
A discussion of current socioeconomic and social media influences upon the emotional and psychological distress of today's millennial generation.

Seeking Self-Improvement? Start with IQ...by Ditching It

By Kevin Bennett on November 11, 2017 in Modern Minds
Many established IQ tests are valid, reputable, and trustworthy, but use caution with free internet tests. Either way, how much should you let a single number affect your life?

How Biology Affects Self-Perception

By T. Joel Wade Ph.D. on November 02, 2017 in The Mate Market
Evolutionary psychology explains why women’s self-esteem is based more on physical attractiveness, while men’s self-esteem is based more on relative status.

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The Numbers Don't Lie

By John-Manuel Andriote on October 04, 2017 in Stonewall Strong
Think all gay men are drug-addled, sex-crazed, risk-taking hedonists? Think again this LGBT History Month.

How Do We Value Time?

By Po Chi Wu Ph.D. on October 04, 2017 in Jacob's Staff
A revolution is coming! Tech is not only disrupting traditional industries, it is fundamentally changing the basis of our economy and the value of being human.

Big Shot

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on October 04, 2017 in A Swim in Denial
A wealthy gambler uses an arsenal and a casino hotel to kill 58 concert-goers and himself, wounding hundreds. His actions can help us understand what it means to be human.

The Good Leader

By Carrie Barron M.D. on October 02, 2017 in The Creativity Cure
What makes a good leader? Understanding why you may have a subpar feeing about work.
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Vlog: Build Self-esteem in Your Young Athletes

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on October 02, 2017 in The Power of Prime
Sports are a venue in which children are exposed to experiences and challenges that can foster healthy and resilient self-esteem.
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How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist

Here are the things that you need to know to help your children when your co-parent has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Two Magic Words that Keep Relationships Together

Here are the two most healing words in the English language--and why.
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Overcoming the Need to Please

Care too much about what other people think of you? Why you need to stop now.

The Global Epidemic of Online Hate: This Is Us?

By Sue Scheff on October 01, 2017 in Shame Nation
New survey shares the rise of online incivility. Most Americans blame social media and the internet. Tips to take this shame nation to a civil nation online.

Claiming Our Own 'Resistance' for LGBT History Month

By John-Manuel Andriote on September 30, 2017 in Stonewall Strong
If we only see the tragedies of our history, we miss the heroism--especially our own.

Can You Be Vulnerable in Love?

Many partner up for the long term, and even marry and have families together, and yet all along the relationship misses one important quality — intimacy.

5 Habits of Successful Daters

Why is it that some people can date with ease and authenticity while others feel awkward and inhibited? Here are 5 habits of successful daters.

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust V Siblings: Adoration & Abuse

By Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D. on September 28, 2017 in Of Art and Science
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood

Timeouts: Good for Adults, but Not for Kids

Most adults know they shouldn’t hit, shame, yell at, or ridicule kids. Timeouts are just as bad. Here's why timeouts are good only for adults, with 13 ideas for what to do instead.

6 Terms that Summarize Generation Z’s Mindset

By Tim Elmore on September 28, 2017 in Artificial Maturity
Struggling to understand and connect with today's kids and young adults? These six terms will help you learn how to best lead them, given their mindset and circumstances.

How Is Rewriting History the Goal of All Therapy?

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 27, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
It’s common to talk about what therapy can do for you. But before therapy is able to eliminate disturbing personal and relational problems, it needs first to undo what caused them.
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Stuck in a Pile of Dirt (Henry-1)

By Elizabeth Young on September 24, 2017 in Adaptations
As Henry lands on the ground, he knows that his life has just changed forever.

Therapy for Gambling Addiction

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP on September 24, 2017 in In Therapy
Gambling maintains the fantasy of success while denying some harsh, cruel realities.

Asian Shame & Perfectionism

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on September 23, 2017 in Minority Report
Asian shame can impact perfectionism. Whether it's the drive to succeed academically, vocationally, or relationally...the deeper fear with Asian perfectionism is being rejected...

Roadblocks to Intimacy & Trust IV: Emotional Triangles

By Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Of Art and Science
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

Deconstructing the Pumpkin Spice Latte Craze

September is here and that means one thing…Starbucks’ Pumpkin Spice Latte is Back! Have you ever wondered why this seems to be such a big deal to the general populace?
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Self-Critical? Time to Lighten Up on Yourself

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 16, 2017 in Fixing Families
Self-criticism can erode your self-esteem, keep you constantly anxious, sap you of any of life's rewards. Time to calm those scolding voices.
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Getting to Where You Want to Go

Don't beat yourself up; instead follow these five steps to pull yourself up and get back to making important progress.

USA vs Norway: The One Night Stand

Are Americans more likely to have one night stands? A recent study suggests otherwise.
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Calming the Monkey Mind

By Diana Raab PhD on September 13, 2017 in The Empowerment Diary
Do you find that there's a voice inside of you that seems like negative self-talk? Is it hindering your creativity or affecting your success? It might be your monkey mind at work.

The Flight Attendant Said My Leg Was Going to Fall Off

Medical advice should make people feel better, but it's easy to make them feel worse, by only paying attention to what you say, not what they hear.

Are You Giving Yourself the Level of Self-Care You Deserve?

By Gregg McBride on September 09, 2017 in The Weight-ing Game
When we care for something, it thrives. When we shun it, it withers. Therefore, isn't it time we stop mentally knocking ourselves down when we think of goals we haven't yet met?

A Psychology of Rescue

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on September 08, 2017 in A Swim in Denial
A nurse gave patients lethal injections so he could dazzle colleagues by bringing the victims back to life. He may have been driven by "heroic rescue," one of our core motives.

Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust III: The Passive Parent

By Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D. on September 08, 2017 in Of Art and Science
The impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

Isn’t It Time? Having the Nerve to Acknowledge Our Strengths

By Rick Miller LICSW on September 07, 2017 in Unwrapped
To let yourself flourish in the full light, inside and out, is a gift to oneself and to the world!