Essential Reads

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

... including the truth about rebound relationships.

Lessons From the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt

How to fix your problems from the inside-out

Life Is Not a Premortality Condition

And death is not treatment failure

3 Tips for Seeking Compassion When Emotionally Distressed

Why prior experience does not always lead to empathy

Recent Posts on Resilience

Embracing Death

We all know Death, the Detroit rock band that was "punk before punk was punk." But Death is something else: It’s a living, breathing monument to how one can live, create, cope with adversity, and thrive if one does not fear dying.

Finding Silver Linings in Hard Times

By Juliana Breines Ph.D. on April 30, 2015 in In Love and War
Major negative life events, such as the death of a loved one, the dissolution of an important relationship, or the diagnosis of a serious illness, can be painful and isolating. But these experiences can also sometimes bring about unexpected positive changes.

Want Less Stress and More Happiness? Try Hope

While many people think of hope as an emotion, researchers describe it as a cognitive theory that is tied to goal setting. Hope researcher, Dr. C.R. Snyder, often described hope with this phrase: “You can get there from here.”

Bouncing Back Instead of Falling Down

Are the keys to your life in someone else's pocket from the past or in your own today?

Lucky Man

By Susan Hooper on April 29, 2015 in Detours and Tangents
My grandfather died suddenly in his fifties from a heart attack, leaving behind a wife and four sons. But years earlier he had sidestepped death on the Titanic and possibly the Lusitania, too. Did he die prematurely or did he have the good fortune to live far beyond the number of years the Fates had originally allotted him?

10 Tips for Correcting Your Anxious Child

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on April 28, 2015 in Worry Wise
Anxious kids are so afraid of messing up and getting in trouble. They are constantly rattled by the thought that someone could be mad at them. They stress about it all day, and have bad dreams about it at night. So wouldn’t it be helpful for them to learn that the thing they fear most— messing up— is survivable and maybe even not that bad, not to mention pretty rare?

The Social Pain of Rejection

By Amy Banks on April 26, 2015 in Wired For Love
SPOT theory confirms that people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones – but it also tells us that we all live in glass houses.

How to Prepare for Life Changes

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on April 25, 2015 in In Flux
Change is inevitable. Sometimes change comes about that we need to respond to and this may require putting our own plans on hold. Sometimes we decide that we need to change course in our lives because what we had been doing is not working for us. Here are some basic points and tools to help us prepare for change.

Spinster is the New Black

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on April 25, 2015 in Living Single
Single people are having a moment. Articles are popping up everywhere about ways of living fully and joyfully outside of marriage and nuclear families. Suddenly, spinster is the new black. The question is, who gets to wear it?

The Secret to Well-Being

Finding one's happiness is each individual’s personal adventure, but research can provide some guidance. Find out what science tells us is the key to finding your happiness and learn the five essential elements that lead to well-being.

3 Reasons You Need Mental Strength to Thrive

Building mental strength will help you reach your greatest potential, despite whatever challenges you face.

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

How do you recover from one of the most painful life experiences?

Lessons From the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt

Do you live by the philosophy of Outside-In or Inside-Out? Love or hate the show, there’s some first rate psychological wisdom in it.

Life Lessons from My 100-Year-Old Grandmother

The inspiration for this week’s blog is the 100th birthday of my beautiful grandmother. She has been an ongoing reminder in my life that all things are possible when you believe in yourself, and it's never, ever too late to grow, change, or create a new life chapter.

Life Is Not a Premortality Condition

By Allen J Frances M.D. on April 21, 2015 in DSM5 in Distress
Western medical science has changed life into a premortality condition and death into a failure of treatment.

Get Out Of Your Toxic Relationship By Taking These 3 Steps!

Toxic relationships are not good for you. They can break down your emotional health. Here are three steps to get yourself out of your toxic relationship!

Routine, Grit, and Vision

Establishing simple, repeatable, and mundane routines set you up for a life of adventure in everything. Small steps, big rewards.

Lovely Me

Amy loses weight by squarely facing her emotional eating patterns and envisions living the life in the body of her choice.

3 Tips for Seeking Compassion When Emotionally Distressed

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on April 19, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
When you want to reach out after an emotionally distressing event, which person is more likely to be compassionate and supportive, someone who has been through a similar experience or someone who has not? Read on to find out...

What Causes You Inner Turmoil?

Being in heated conflict not with others but with yourself can—let’s face it—be agonizing. To be split down the middle, to endlessly waver between two (and sometimes more) options, can at its worst be almost unimaginably distressing. Obsessive to an extreme, it can lead to a paralysis of will (not to mention, much lost sleep). . . .

The Upside of Jealousy

Simply put, jealousy is motivated by fear. When fear is driving your behaviors, it is essential to tune into the cognitive components that accompany the fear to help you break it down and make it containable.

5 Natural Reasons Why Life Is Hard

If you're like me, you've got a computer, a smart phone, a TV, a couch, some pets, a great family, and lots of awesome things - but you still often find that life is hard. Evolutionary psychology can help explain why.

How The Politics of Memory Affects Us All

By Sam Osherson Ph.D. on April 16, 2015 in Listen Up!
How our society remembers history affects our sense of identity and well-being. The current controversy about remembering the Vietnam War trickles through families up to the present day, and shapes what kind of future our children will encounter.

Can You Really Calm Disturbing Feelings With Just One Word?

By Meg Selig on April 16, 2015 in Changepower
Can one word calm your agitated feelings? Yes! Try this simple and effective word magic and ease your distress in a nanosecond.

Two Year Tragiversary of the Boston Marathon Bombings

By Russell Friedman on April 15, 2015 in Broken Hearts
Three unconnected events connect us to a loss of trust, a loss of safety, and a loss of innocence.

Body Smart

Your diaphragm plays a huge role in your tension and relaxation.

Why Some People Let Us Down When We Need Them

If someone has experienced a particular event, they’ll sympathize with those going through the same experience. But those who have gotten through difficult situations tend to be the harshest judges of those who fail under similar circumstances.

Curiosity: The Heart of Lifelong Learning

What makes children want to learn? Curious children often spend a great deal of time reading and acquiring knowledge because they sense a gap between what they know and what they want to know—not because they are motivated by grades.

When a Sociopath Is Hell Bent on Destroying You

By Carrie Barron M.D. on April 13, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
Sociopaths (anti-social personality, psychopath) can decimate a life. The mental, emotional or physical trauma can be stunning. The aftermath of sociopathic is unique because the assault instills a dim world view, a shaky sense of safety and a feeling that one has been visited by evil. Here are 16 points of focus to begin recovery.