Essential Reads

Does Mindfulness Really Make Us Resilient?

The evidence misrepresents the truth: we need far more than emotional regulation

6 Surprising Benefits of Self-Compassion

Science explains how treating yourself with kindness is the key to success.

Let It Go! Your Stuff, That Is

The under-appreciated psychological benefits of de-cluttering your space.

Dark Thoughts Could be a Sign of Healthy Functioning

When we get stronger, we're more capable of exploring our fears.

Recent Posts on Resilience

Resilience, Growth & Kintsukuroi

By John Sean Doyle on October 03, 2015 Luminous Things
Standing and staring in the face of broken promises and broken dreams, eye-to-bloodshot-eye with our most assiduous fears, sometimes we discover that we were stronger than we imagined: that we can withstand more and that there is no reason to fear.

Does Mindfulness Really Make Us Resilient?

When Todd Sampson demonstrated that neuroplasticity could make his ordinary brain extraordinary, he forgot to mention that he had an amazing arsenal of supports helping him achieve his goals. Mindfulness practices may help us focus and regulate our emotions, but their ability to change our lives is vastly over-rated.

6 Surprising Benefits of Self-Compassion

Do you ever call yourself names or beat yourself up over the mistakes you make? If so, you might be missing out on the incredible benefits of self-compassion.

Albert Ellis Was the Real Expert on Bullying

By Izzy Kalman on October 02, 2015 Resilience to Bullying
Albert Ellis is one of the most influential psychologists of all time, and was an expert at teaching people how to stop being bullied, though no one recognized him as such. He could have told us that the popular bullying psychology couldn't work because it is based on irrational beliefs.

Get in Touch With Your Core Value

The rewards for staying true to your deepest values are great: Authenticity, conviction, long-term wellbeing. And the reminders for violating them are terrible: guilt, shame, anxiety, regret, feeling inadequate or unlovable.

Trumpism: Daily Examples of a Stunning Lack of Compassion

Is one-upmanship, or Trumpism, becoming more prevalent than empathic or compassionate responses in our day-to-day lives?

Detection and Management of Depression and Bipolar Disease

By Julie K Hersh on October 01, 2015 Struck By Living
On September 1, 2015, the Center for Depression Research and Clinical Care at UT Southwestern under the direction of Dr. Madhukar Trivedi was officially launched. Dr. Trivedi, an internationally recognized expert in depression and mood disorders, received the 2015 American Psychiatric Association Award for Research, the Association’s most significant award for research.

Let It Go! Your Stuff, That Is

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on September 30, 2015 The Web of Violence
The benefits of improving your immediate physical environment are under-appreciated.

Borderland Journey: Stories from Deported Latinas

Women crossing the Southwest border into the United States can be treated inhumanely by the coyotes who help them cross and by the border patrol agents if they are caught. They rely, above all, on their faith to see them through.

Relationship Ambivalence: Should You Stay or Leave?

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 29, 2015 Laugh, Cry, Live
A whirlwind romance starts out with such promise but has descended into a painful struggle. Should you stay or should you leave? Will it be worth the effort or should you run for cover? Paralyzed with uncertainty, you’re stuck in “relationship ambivalence”. The cure? Get out of your head and tune into your body. Your gut is your “second brain,” whose wisdom points the way.

How Mindfulness Improves Your Brain and Relationships

Mindfulness is the process of paying attention, in an open, nonjudgmental way, to your experience. Recent statistical review which pooled data from 16 studies shows that mindfulness has effects on at least 8 different brain regions involved in brain integration and connectivity, sense of self, impulse control, stress and anxiety, and regulation of attention and emotion.

Dealing With Anger on the Job

Keeping your cool and letting things go may be essential on the job

Living a Meaningful Life

Although we might think happiness – or the pursuit of it – will make us feel better about ourselves and our lives, research indicates that it’s actually finding greater meaning in our lives that, at the end of the day – or our lives – is more fulfilling.

The 6 Mental Health Habits That Kill Your Confidence

Do you struggle with self-doubt and self-defeating habits? Do you want to feel more confident about yourself and what you have to offer? Do you focus on pleasing others, rather than following your dreams and living your best life? The best way to start feeling better about yourself is to notice the automatic mental and emotional habits that don’t serve you well.

Is Fear of Rejection Holding You Back?

By Jennifer Verdolin Ph.D. on September 27, 2015 Wild Connections
Fear of rejection can be a major stumbling block for some when it comes to dating but does little to protect you. Rather than personalizing and internalizing this experience, a shift in perspective can help you deal with it better the next time around.

Bad Teachers Can Damage You-- or Make You Stronger

From one very bad teacher, I learned that intelligence without emotional generosity means nothing, that narcissism unchecked is poisonous and that sometimes it is far more honorable to be refused membership to a group than to be part of it. That lesson left welts.

Talking with Your Kids about Setbacks

By Gail Heyman Ph.D. on September 26, 2015 Let's Talk
Parents can help children view difficulties as stepping stones for success.

Grief and Fear

Grief is also about becoming untethered. It’s about losing an identity.

Dark Thoughts Could be a Sign of Healthy Functioning

Healthier people can tolerate more subjective distress.

Is Everything You Know About Stress Wrong?

Stress is an inevitable part of life. How you handle is it what counts.

The New Science of Stress: What You Need to Know

Did you drive to the office this morning wondering whether your work stress could kill you? Me neither, but I recently spent time talking to different radio outlets around the country about stress. Not exactly a light topic for the morning drive, yet I’m guessing that many of you experience some level of stress from your job.

Art Therapy With Sex Offenders: Exposing the Fragile Self

By David Gussak Ph.D., ATR-BC on September 24, 2015 Art on Trial
Guest blogger Cindy Chen focuses on the challenges of using art therapy with sex offenders to identify treatment barriers, build alliances and establish resiliency, and even to work with her own counter-transferential issues.

Seasons Change: Creating a Winter Oasis to Prepare for SAD

By Brad Waters on September 23, 2015 Design Your Path
Creating a winter oasis in your home: A holistic how-to for preparing for and coping with seasonal affective disorder (SAD).

Divorce Your (Bad) Mother: How to Love Her and Still Be Free

"The daily beatings stopped when I left home at nineteen, but the psychological abuse and manipulations were never-ending. I chose to love her from a distance and heal myself." Magdalena Gómez.

Taming The Anxious Mind

By Shahram Heshmat Ph.D. on September 22, 2015 Science of Choice
Facing your worst fear is a powerful measure in overcoming anxiety.

Declining Student Resilience: A Serious Problem for Colleges

By Peter Gray on September 22, 2015 Freedom to Learn
Diagnosable mental health problems are at an all-time high among college students, but, in addition, and in some ways even more disconcerting, there has been a sharp decline in students' abilities to deal with the bumps in the road of everyday life. These problems are making it hard for colleges to carry out their traditional academic mission. What can be done?

Worldwide Alzheimer's Day: Full Circle on the Irish Sea

By Greg O'Brien on September 21, 2015 On Pluto
“What scares me about this disease, is the loss of memory and the inability to carry a conversation. The brain just isn’t processing; it’s stalled. It’s embarrassing. So I often avoid conversation. I retreat into myself, and at times deal with rage. People who know me say, ‘He’s changed a lot.’”

5 Fears Mentally Strong People Face Head-On

Don't let fear prevent you from reaching your goals.

The Most Important Reason to Exercise is Rarely Mentioned

By Meg Selig on September 18, 2015 Changepower
So many good reasons to exercise! But the most important reason to exercise rarely gets a mention, even though it is vital to your daily life.

Life is Good The Book

By The Book Brigade on September 17, 2015 The Author Speaks
Of course life isn’t perfect. But that’s no reason to shun the power of optimism. Changing one simple phrase—saying “get to” instead of “have to”—can help shift your mindset.