Resilience Essential Reads

Does Mindfulness Really Make Us Resilient?

When Todd Sampson demonstrated that neuroplasticity could make his ordinary brain extraordinary, he forgot to mention that he had an amazing arsenal of supports helping him achieve his goals. Mindfulness practices may help us focus and regulate our emotions, but their ability to change our lives is vastly over-rated.

6 Surprising Benefits of Self-Compassion

Do you ever call yourself names or beat yourself up over the mistakes you make? If so, you might be missing out on the incredible benefits of self-compassion.

Let It Go! Your Stuff, That Is

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on September 30, 2015 The Web of Violence
The benefits of improving your immediate physical environment are under-appreciated.

Dark Thoughts Could be a Sign of Healthy Functioning

Healthier people can tolerate more subjective distress.

How to Become a Successful Failure

Failure lurks everywhere. Nearly half of all new businesses fail within four years. About three-quarters of students who apply to top colleges aren’t accepted. More than 90% of people who resolve to lose weight fail to do so. No matter how carefully we calculate our odds and make our decisions, failure is one of the constants in life.

20 Signs That Your Boss May Be a Psychopath

When psychopathy hits the workplace, the effects can be devastating, especially if that psychopath is your boss. Take this 20-item quiz to find out if this recently-discovered form of the dark triad personality may be affecting you and those you love in ways you didn’t realize.

Making Patients Feel Worse Without Really Trying

Doctors can do the right thing and still make their patients feel worse instead of better. It depends on whether they pay attention to what the information they use and pass on means not just to them but to the people they're talking to.

Art is about Resilience, It Always Has Been

Art expression and the creative process are really manifestations of the drive toward health and well-being, not merely signposts of repression, projection, displacement, and sublimation. As Louise Bourgeois noted, “Art is a guarantee of sanity” – it a human way of self-actualizing rather than "pathologizing" the human condition.

For the Sake of the Children

Many people in unhappy or conflicted marriages stay together for the purported sake of the children. This article examines this premise and explores what's really best for our children.

The 4 Types of Friends You Need in Your Life

Examining the four types of friends every person should include in their network: the prophet, cheerleader, harasser, and inspirational friend.

5 Signs You're Trying too Hard to Please Everyone

Mentally strong people don't try to please everyone.

10 Uncommon Tips For Addressing The Self-Esteem Paradox

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on August 11, 2015 Ambigamy
10 off-the-beaten-path tips for beating your path to sustainable calmfidence--calm confidence in your personal worth.

Too Much Tragedy Making You “Heartworn”—Weary of Compassion?

Sad and tragic headlines assault us daily. How do we keep our compassion safe from fatigue?

8 Things Mentally Strong People Do Every Day

Mentally strong people work had to keep strengthening their mental muscles.

7 Ways Childhood Adversity Changes Your Brain

If you’ve ever wondered why you’ve been struggling a little too hard for a little too long with chronic emotional and physical health conditions that just won’t abate, feeling as if you’ve been swimming against some invisible current that never ceases, a new field of scientific research may offer you hope, answers, and healing insights.

Striving To Maximize Both Charm and Chutzpah

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 Ambigamy
Etiquette is no longer enough to make a gentleman or gentlewoman, and actually never was. Aspiring gents must strive to maximize etiquette and character, humility and boldness, always seeking for better ways to speak their minds and be heard.

7 Ways Mentally Strong People Deal With Stress

While stress causes some people to crumble, mentally strong people continue to thrive in the midst of added tension.

Seven Reasons Why Your Financial Life Creates Anxiety

While there are some who breathe the rarified air of having their financial lives totally together, most people struggle. Your degree of struggle might range from small—not being sufficiently organized—to complete and utter meltdown.

Transgender? Or TrueGender?

Being transgender is not a choice. Transgender people don’t choose to cross over and live as the other gender. They are, and always have been, the other gender. They have never felt aligned with the gender assigned at birth according to anatomy. The choice they do make is whether to live as their true gender or live a lie. This decision can be a matter of life and death.

Resilience: The Capacity to Rebuild and Grow from Adversity

Resilience is not a genetic trait. It is derived from the ways children learn to think and act when they are faced with obstacles, large and small. How do teachers cultivate resilience in the classroom?

Is it OK Not to Come Out?

“Is it ok NOT to come out?” In short, depending on the circumstances, the answer is sometimes yes.

How a (Close) Loss Can Set You Up for a Win

Modern slot machines are fascinating devices. Most of them are not mechanical, they are electronic. That means that you pull the lever (or press a button) and the machine draws a random number that determines whether you have won. After that, the machine displays a show on the screen that ultimately lets you see whether you won.

Why Are People with Disabilities the Targets of Violence?

Why do offenders target people with disabilities? Are there links between types of disability and type of victimization? The Data Doctor answers a question from the aunt of a former student.

6 Important Facts About Forgiveness

From our partner not doing their share of the chores to infidelity, brutal mass murder and everything in between, there are many times in life when we are called on to forgive (or not). Consider these psychological facts before making your personal decision about forgiveness.

How John Steinbeck Convinced Me to Start a Writing Diary

For years I resisted keeping any sort of diary or journal, but reading the writing diary of John Steinbeck made me look at keeping one in a different light.

Gay Marriage, Racism, and Obamacare: The Challenge of Caring

The gay marriage struggle, modern racism, and the disregard for the poor shown in the opposition to Obamacare all have a common root. We are wired for empathy, but not for a sense of common humanity and emotional openness. The challenge is not that we do not care: it is that we do.

An Honest, Heartfelt Portrayal of Bipolar Disorder

Hollywood depictions of mental illness usually are far off the mark. In Infinitely Polar Bear, Mark Ruffalo gives a rich, three dimensional, and deeply sympathetic performance as the bipolar father of two young girls.

How to Be Grateful for Not-So-Great Dads

With Father's Day approaching and blogs abuzz about what makes the quintessential dad, or top ‘pop’ gifts, what about those who have not-so-great dads? Is it possible for them to appreciate a holiday dedicated to fathers? Let’s get real and accept that mediocre or “bad” dads exist and consider this for a second: can one be thankful for a terrible father?

Young People, Not Alone in Their Despair

What is that cautionary tale? Things may not always—if ever—be as they seem.

Sleeplessly at War

Sleep deprivation can hurt or kill you - especially when you're a soldier.