Resilience Essential Reads

Our Emotional Reactions to Terrorism

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on July 27, 2016 in Face It!
Here's how to untangle the confusing array of emotions we feel in the aftermath of terrorist attacks.

How to Respond to Romantic Rejection With Grace

What we can learn from 'the Bachelorette' about handling rejection well.
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Why Change Is So Hard

Change is hard only if you think it's so.

7 Tricks for Turning Mega-Threats into Micro-Triumphs

How do you convert big fat ominous threats into bite-sized micro-triumphs? Here are a few suggestions, based on some of the best applications of psychological research.

The Problem with Obstacles

I recently wanted to prescribe a medication called Prevacid for a patient. It's a proton pump inhibitor that shuts off acid production in the stomach.

Do You (Figuratively) Lick Your Wounds? Should You?

Metaphorically, for humans the essence of wound-licking involves not a lapping tongue but a rationalizing mind.

What's All the Anger About?

Taking that first step toward "healthy anger"

Acceptance and Transformation

Should left-handers demand that half the baseball diamond be reversed?

The Poison Tendrils of Negative Emotions

By Timothy A Pychyl Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 in Don't Delay
A recent research summary argues that negative emotions poison every aspect of successful self-regulation. Understanding this process is key to understanding procrastination.

5 Ways to Get What You Want, on Your Terms

Always getting what you want is tempting, but also unrealistic. With some grit and goal-setting, you can get close.

8 Common Myths (and 1 Truth) About Intimacy in Relationships

Without your realizing it, your beliefs about intimacy may be based more on myth than reality.

Why Tuesdays Are More Inspiring Than Fridays

By Nick Tasler on July 05, 2016 in Strategic Thinking
We all want to be happy and inspired. But what if the pursuit of happiness blocks the arousal of inspiration?

Stoicism: Being Indifferent to Pain or Pleasure

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on July 01, 2016 in A Sideways View
Many of the world religions suggest that being stoical is wise and virtuous. But many therapists suggest that rather than repress our emotions we should learn to embrace them.

5 Keys to Providing Quality Dementia Care at Home

Quality dementia care is the source of my mother's contentment and having a team of caregivers is key to my father's very survival. Here's how we've created our pleasant journey.

History of the NorthEastern Evolutionary Psychology Society

This post combines my interest in evolutionary psychology along with my interest in doing my best to inspire young minds to achieve. Here is the story of NEEPS.

What to Do When Your Life Is a Mess

When you feel like everything in your life is going wrong, follow these steps to gain control of your problems.

Talk the Talk: Dealing With a Family Member’s Addiction

How many people does it take to save an addict? Only one, but the addict really has to want to change.

Are the Benefits of Grit Exaggerated?

A systematic review of the literature raises questions about this popular concept.

2 Steps to Start Believing the Best About Yourself

Inaccurate beliefs about yourself will limit your potential. The good news is, you can train your brain to think differently.

Why Are Some Soldiers With Combat Stress More Resilient?

By Eric Newhouse on June 07, 2016 in Invisible Wounds
Researchers in San Diego have found genetic differences in two groups of combat vets—those with PTSD and those without it—that may explain why some are more resilient.

Anger, Forgiveness, and Healing

Healing from trauma is possible using tools like these to work through it.

Getting Unstuck

We all know the frustration of hitting an impasse, unable to find a solution to an important problem. Studying examples of people who were successful can provide some useful hints.
Amy Weiss/ Used with permission.

Mental Health for the Rest of Us

In an effort to decrease stigma, we’ve expanded the way we talk about mental illness.

The Power of "No"

How rejection can be the best gift a friend can give. Do you have someone in your life willing to tell you when they think you are "off course"?

Helping Children Succeed: Brain Science in the Classroom

By Claudia M Gold M.D. on May 24, 2016 in Child in Mind
Paul Tough grew to recognize that the qualities that help children succeed are not "skills" that are "taught" but rather qualities that develop in early relationships

How Can We Best Help Underrepresented and Talented Students?

The story of how a university-charter district partnership made an early college high school.

15 Tips from 15 Years Sick

There’s been one constant in my life since I began writing for Psychology Today five years ago: chronic illness. Because 10 + 5 = 15, it’s time for “15 Tips from 15 Years Sick.”

Growth After Losing a Spouse

By Temma Ehrenfeld on May 17, 2016 in Open Gently
Losing a spouse could actually help you fight illness. We get stronger.

5 Better Ways to Deal With Disappointment

After suffering a disappointment, it's important to let go of negative feelings. What's the best way to do this?

5 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on May 10, 2016 in Friendship 2.0
Do you frequently struggle with meeting your goals? Do you feel trapped in a rut where you're your own worst enemy? These are five common ways people sabotage themselves.