Resilience Essential Reads

Art is about Resilience, It Always Has Been

Art expression and the creative process are really manifestations of the drive toward health and well-being, not merely signposts of repression, projection, displacement, and sublimation. As Louise Bourgeois noted, “Art is a guarantee of sanity” – it a human way of self-actualizing rather than "pathologizing" the human condition.

For the Sake of the Children

By Mel Schwartz L.C.S.W. on August 31, 2015 in A Shift of Mind
Many people in unhappy or conflicted marriages stay together for the purported sake of the children. This article examines this premise and explores what's really best for our children.

Four Necessary Voices in Your Resiliency Network

By Robert Wicks Ph.D. on August 24, 2015 in The Resilient Life
Examining the four types of friends every person should include in their network: the prophet, cheerleader, harasser, and inspirational friend.

5 Signs You're Trying too Hard to Please Everyone

Mentally strong people don't try to please everyone.

10 Uncommon Tips For Addressing The Self-Esteem Paradox

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on August 11, 2015 in Ambigamy
10 off-the-beaten-path tips for beating your path to sustainable calmfidence--calm confidence in your personal worth.

Too Much Tragedy Making You “Heartworn”—Weary of Compassion?

Sad and tragic headlines assault us daily. How do we keep our compassion safe from fatigue?

8 Things Mentally Strong People Do Every Day

Mentally strong people work had to keep strengthening their mental muscles.

7 Ways Childhood Adversity Changes Your Brain

If you’ve ever wondered why you’ve been struggling a little too hard for a little too long with chronic emotional and physical health conditions that just won’t abate, feeling as if you’ve been swimming against some invisible current that never ceases, a new field of scientific research may offer you hope, answers, and healing insights.

Striving To Maximize Both Charm and Chutzpah

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in Ambigamy
Etiquette is no longer enough to make a gentleman or gentlewoman, and actually never was. Aspiring gents must strive to maximize etiquette and character, humility and boldness, always seeking for better ways to speak their minds and be heard.

7 Ways Mentally Strong People Deal With Stress

While stress causes some people to crumble, mentally strong people continue to thrive in the midst of added tension.

Seven Reasons Why Your Financial Life Creates Anxiety

By Michael F. Kay on July 23, 2015 in Financial Life Focus
While there are some who breathe the rarified air of having their financial lives totally together, most people struggle. Your degree of struggle might range from small—not being sufficiently organized—to complete and utter meltdown.

Transgender? Or TrueGender?

Being transgender is not a choice. Transgender people don’t choose to cross over and live as the other gender. They are, and always have been, the other gender. They have never felt aligned with the gender assigned at birth according to anatomy. The choice they do make is whether to live as their true gender or live a lie. This decision can be a matter of life and death.

Resilience: The Capacity to Rebuild and Grow from Adversity

Resilience is not a genetic trait. It is derived from the ways children learn to think and act when they are faced with obstacles, large and small. How do teachers cultivate resilience in the classroom?

Is it OK Not to Come Out?

“Is it ok NOT to come out?” In short, depending on the circumstances, the answer is sometimes yes.

How a (Close) Loss Can Set You Up for a Win

By Art Markman Ph.D. on July 03, 2015 in Ulterior Motives
Modern slot machines are fascinating devices. Most of them are not mechanical, they are electronic. That means that you pull the lever (or press a button) and the machine draws a random number that determines whether you have won. After that, the machine displays a show on the screen that ultimately lets you see whether you won.

Why Are People with Disabilities the Targets of Violence?

Why do offenders target people with disabilities? Are there links between types of disability and type of victimization? The Data Doctor answers a question from the aunt of a former student.

6 Important Facts About Forgiveness

From our partner not doing their share of the chores to infidelity, brutal mass murder and everything in between, there are many times in life when we are called on to forgive (or not). Consider these psychological facts before making your personal decision about forgiveness.

How John Steinbeck Convinced Me to Start a Writing Diary

For years I resisted keeping any sort of diary or journal, but reading the writing diary of John Steinbeck made me look at keeping one in a different light.

Gay Marriage, Racism, and Obamacare: The Challenge of Caring

The gay marriage struggle, modern racism, and the disregard for the poor shown in the opposition to Obamacare all have a common root. We are wired for empathy, but not for a sense of common humanity and emotional openness. The challenge is not that we do not care: it is that we do.

An Honest, Heartfelt Portrayal of Bipolar Disorder

Hollywood depictions of mental illness usually are far off the mark. In Infinitely Polar Bear, Mark Ruffalo gives a rich, three dimensional, and deeply sympathetic performance as the bipolar father of two young girls.

How to Be Grateful for Not-So-Great Dads

With Father's Day approaching and blogs abuzz about what makes the quintessential dad, or top ‘pop’ gifts, what about those who have not-so-great dads? Is it possible for them to appreciate a holiday dedicated to fathers? Let’s get real and accept that mediocre or “bad” dads exist and consider this for a second: can one be thankful for a terrible father?

Young People, Not Alone in Their Despair

What is that cautionary tale? Things may not always—if ever—be as they seem.

Sleeplessly at War

Sleep deprivation can hurt or kill you - especially when you're a soldier.

Teach Kids the Wisdom of Failure Long Before Graduation

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D on June 09, 2015 in Worry Wise
Our job is to not wait for graduation to talk about failure and success. It’s a little late then. Rather, we need to be rolling out the red carpet for our kids throughout their education. Making saying “I don’t know” or making mistakes safe. Making “I don’t know for sure” a noble and defendable position.

Educational Prestige as Career Insurance

By Chris Rider Ph.D. on June 03, 2015 in The Continuum
Research finds that for two people with the same jobs, the one who graduated from the more prestigious school will suffer lesser career consequences if their employer fails, and that a school’s alumni network places a central role in maintaining one’s career trajectory. So, you might want to choose a graduate school based on the career insurance that the school provides.

7 Reasons for Gay & Lesbian Couples to Celebrate

Rainbow weddings and "Mr. & Mr." or "Mrs. & Mrs." events are a growing phenomenon -- but keeping the relationship strong is equally challenging regardless of the gender identity of the couple!

Simple, Everyday Actions That Support Mental Health

Learn simple ways to support yourself and others for better mental health.

The Importance of Detaching From Work

Typically when we hear that someone is “detached”, or is actively seeking “detachment”, this is viewed negatively. There are, however, instances where a certain amount of detachment is a good thing; in fact, there is considerable evidence that regularly detaching from work is an important key to thriving under stressful conditions.

The Psychology of Getting Back in the Batter’s Box

Want to learn about building resilience? Developing team values? Developing a positive identity? Little League baseball has got all of this and more.

Living After a Police Officer Dies

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on May 15, 2015 in Freedom to Grieve
If you look closer, you’ll see some of them wiping away tears. You’ll see the exhausted look of fresh grief on many faces. For others, eyes shine with appreciation of being among family—not related by blood but related by blood lost.