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Simple, Everyday Actions That Support Mental Health

Elena Greco on mental health and community support

The Importance of Detaching From Work

Detaching from work is one of the keys to thriving under stressful work.

Living After a Police Officer Dies

Where do families turn when their police officer dies?

Recent Posts on Resilience

Lessons on Safari: Putting Humans In Their Place

An African photo safari provides the pathway to internalize the power of animal life in our world.

Simple, Everyday Actions That Support Mental Health

Learn simple ways to support yourself and others for better mental health.

Your Life After Trauma

By Patty Chang Anker on May 26, 2015 in Some Nerve
For trauma survivors the thought of living a big, brave life may seem far fetched. A new book provides an essential blueprint for going forward with confidence.

After the Break-up: Embracing the Lessons

By seeing a broken relationship as presenting lessons to learn, you can boost your resilience and bounce back from heartache. Embracing lessons also leads to fewer regrets and helps you see any breakup as an opportunity for growth and a better life, rather than a reason to lose hope, feel diminished, or die.

After the Break-Up: Making Sense of What Happened

Whenever someone breaks up with you, it’s normal to ask “why?” and try to make sense of what happened. This week, I received an inquiry from a reader who is mystified by a sudden breakup. She describes the relationship and breakup, revealing some clues as to what went wrong, including enmeshment, dishonesty, and insecurity, which doomed their relationship from the start.

Workover: Rejected From His Dream Job And They Won't Say Why

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 26, 2015 in How To Do Life
Advice I gave to a caller to my NPR-San Francisco radio program.

The Key To Relationship Success…And Failure

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 25, 2015 in Ambigamy
Today's most popular advice on successful marriage: Don't show criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. But this has couples criticizing each other for showing these traits, and defending against that accusation. The solution lies deeper than banishing these "four horsemen of the apocalypse."

A Heart-Rending Story of Courage in the Face of Loss

Bella lost her baby. What she did with her anger, grief and shame is remarkable.

Why Patience is Power

By Neel Burton M.D. on May 23, 2015 in Hide and Seek
Life is too short to wait, but it is not too short for patience.

Don’t Just Tell Me "Thank You"

By Nancy Sherman Ph.D. on May 22, 2015 in Afterwar
A young vet came forward, turned to a civilian he hadn’t met before, and said: “Don’t just tell me ‘Thank you for your service.’ First say, ‘Please.’” He didn’t explain further. But the resentment expressed was unmistakable. You couldn’t be a civilian in that room and not feel the sting.

The Importance of Detaching From Work

Typically when we hear that someone is “detached”, or is actively seeking “detachment”, this is viewed negatively. There are, however, instances where a certain amount of detachment is a good thing; in fact, there is considerable evidence that regularly detaching from work is an important key to thriving under stressful conditions.

Balancing a Japanese and Irish Heritage

I have learned to balance my parents' lessons in living.

The Long Hot Pressure: Cool it With Micro-Successes

It is hard to stay motivated for the long run but easier if you take this suggestion.

Barred Art: Reflections on a Prison Art Show

Guest blogger and colleague Shannon Schmitz, an art therapist who has spent many years working as an art therapist in various prison settings, offers heartfelt musings following her recent experience of judging an art show in a makeshift prison art gallery.

How to Know if You’re Stuck in Your Grief Post-Divorce

Learn seven tools that can help you get through your divorce grief and push through to the other side.

Do You Enjoy Paradox?

Leaders today describe the world as volatile, ambiguous, changing, and complex—a world full of disruption that demands resilience.

Why Your Boss Should Be Concerned With Your Mental Health

Nearly one in five employees experienced a mental illness last year, costing companies billions of dollars. Despite the consequences, most organizations never address mental health.

The Psychology of Getting Back in the Batter’s Box

Want to learn about building resilience? Developing team values? Developing a positive identity? Little League baseball has got all of this and more.

If You Could Change Your Past, Would You?

Perhaps then, what we should ask ourselves is not “If you could change your past, would you?” but “You can change your future. Will you?”

Sam Bradford: Staying positive in the face of adversity

Season-ending injuries can take a serious toll on athletes, and Sam Bradford, the quarterback of the Philadelphia Eagles, has had two of them. While at one point he even considered quitting football, he has demonstrated how having a positive attitude and outwardly expressing confidence can make a huge difference for an athlete trying to recover from devastating injuries.

Give Your Mind a Rest: Practice Not-Thinking

Discursive thinking—the constant stream of one thought following another—is a deeply ingrained habit. It’s so ingrained that we often start thinking just to occupy our minds.

Marshmallows. One or Two?

By Vance Z. Johnson M.D. on May 18, 2015 in What Hurts?
"What hurts?" and "What does it mean?" We all want to escape pain. Some of us make that our only goal while others have goals that are past the pain. Life is a few short years and a veil of tears. You can take the pain. Do you want to know if you can take the suffering? Joy can be predicted.

Have You Ever Been Told You Were Needy?

Oftentimes, needy is about reacting to the other—feeling neither heard nor understood.

5 Elements of Adventure: Authenticity, Purpose, Inspiration

Adventure is not reserved for youth or extreme sports. Adventure is a lifestyle choice. There is adventure in everything.

The Failure of Child-Centered Parenting

Parents love their children. So why wouldn't they want to be child-centered?

Prom Night and the Kids Are Going to Drink: What Do You Do?

Early exposure to alcohol in the home can be harmful to children if it leads to drunkenness, but coaching kids on how to drink responsibly at the prom may keep them safer than just preaching abstinence.

Living After a Police Officer Dies

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on May 15, 2015 in Freedom to Grieve
If you look closer, you’ll see some of them wiping away tears. You’ll see the exhausted look of fresh grief on many faces. For others, eyes shine with appreciation of being among family—not related by blood but related by blood lost.

Grit's Dilemma

It should come as no surprise that athletics is ready to jump on the grit-wagon. Is it ready for the bright lights of big time athletics?

Proactive Intervention for Psychosis

The adolescent who is encouraged and integrated with his peers may not develop schizophrenia.