Essential Reads

Your Magic Wand for Less Drama, More Love

What if you could create that deep loving connection as your (almost) constant way of being with your child? It would be like giving yourself a magic wand.
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How to Overcome FOMO

Fear of missing out got you down? Not for long with these 5 tips.

Self-Absorption: The Root of All (Psychological) Evil?

If you’ve ever been called self-absorbed, you can be sure you weren’t getting a compliment. So why is it so easy to fall into the pit of obsessive rumination?

New Study Explains Why Twins Live Longer

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on August 24, 2016 in The Squeaky Wheel
A new study examined why twins live longer. But non-twins can benefit from their findings as well.

More Posts on Relationships

Defenders of Wildlife Supports Killing Wolves: Livestock Win

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on August 24, 2016 in Animal Emotions
This shocking decision presents many challenges to conservation psychologists, anthrozoologists, and those interested in compassionate conservation.

Choosing the Mindful Path in the Woods

By Michele Weiner-Davis MSW on August 24, 2016 in Divorce Busting
How my self-induced attitude adjustment changed my day...and my life.

My Mother Won't Listen to Me

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 24, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when your mom won't talk to you

Win-Win Parenting When It All Falls Apart

It starts by extending compassion to ourselves, which we can do when we Stop, Drop and Breathe. Just stop. Drop your agenda. Take a deep breath.

Do Dogs Prefer Food or Praise?

A new study looks at whether dogs prefer food rewards more than social interaction with their owners by monitoring what goes on inside the dogs brain.

Who’s the Boss in Your Relationship?

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on August 22, 2016 in Compassion Matters
Equality is one of the most important elements of a relationship, and yet, countless couples fall into dynamics and roles that are inherently unequal and generate a lot of problems

Desperately Seeking a False Sense of Security

It is the awareness of the most mundane threats to our hearts that irrelationship most effectively protects us from—how emotionally close we are to those in our everyday lives.

Why Is Getting Emotional Divorce Help So Hard?

You may have to create the support you need.

Dangerous Thoughts

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 21, 2016 in How To Do Life
Things that are hard to say, even to our diary.

Stories of Our Good Single Lives: Thank You, Kim Calvert!

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 20, 2016 in Living Single
How a “singles expo” exposed the worst of single life and inspired Kim Calvert to create a magazine that instead shows us the best of being single.

Getting Serious About Your Marriage Is No Joke

It is a popular misconception that marriage counselors have some kind of magical powers that can fix relationships.

The Fear Behind Women in Power

By Kimberly Key on August 19, 2016 in Counseling Keys
With a woman running for president, what kind of differences do women bring to leadership? How far have women come and where are women's rights headed?

The Neurobiology Behind Breakups

By Rhonda Freeman Ph.D. on August 19, 2016 in NeuroSagacity
The brain's process of detaching from a romantic relationship.

Why You Should Never Tell Someone "I Need You To..."

By Melissa Orlov on August 19, 2016 in May I Have Your Attention
"I need you to..." is sometimes a politically correct way to boss a partner around. As such, it hurts your relationship. The key is to be careful.
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News Flash: Watching TV with Your Sweetheart...

By Gretchen Rubin on August 19, 2016 in The Happiness Project
After all, after sleeping and work, watching TV is the biggest consumer of the world’s time.

If You Don’t Look Injured, You Must Be Fine

By James F. Zender Ph.D. on August 19, 2016 in The New Normal
What happens to your behavior after a car accident?

On an Albert Ellis Quote

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 19, 2016 in How To Do Life
How much free will do we really have?
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The Power of Healthy Shame

While toxic shame is destructive, healthy, friendly shame can offer a path toward seeing more clearly how we are affecting others. Friendly shame can get our attention.

The Man Who Tastes Time

By Maureen Seaberg on August 18, 2016 in Sensorium
Time is tasty for Hamrick Walters, a very unique synesthete

An Era of Incivility

By Saul Levine M.D. on August 18, 2016 in Our Emotional Footprint
Living with constant incivility breeds unrest, unhappiness and discord between people. This is an incremental step towards animosity and enmity, leading to aggression and violence.

All the Presidents' Men

Men need male friends. Even presidents, including the current Republican aspirant, need their friends. But the most interesting male presidential friendship was that of Lincoln.

Letter to Young Activists

This post is adapted from a talk recently given to young community organizers about self-care and well-being on the journey to a more compassionate and just society.

4 Questions You Need to Answer Before Going Back to an Ex

Considering reuniting with an ex? The odds of a successful relationship the second time around are not in your favor.
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7 Ways to Get Your Self-Esteem Back After Divorce

Is divorce taking a bite out of your self-esteem? Fight back by finding ways to rise to the emotional challenge, and impress the heck out of yourself (and your kids).

"Same Head Every Day"

Brainlock is our way of describing the neurological/physiological-meets-individual/social/contextual factors that underlie and sustain irrelationship.

Are You Single? You're Likely to Have a More Fulfilling Life

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on August 16, 2016 in The New Resilience
New research finds that single people are not lonely and unhappy, as the stereotype describes. Rather, they experience greater fulfillment and personal growth than married people.

Why Do Siblings Have Different Memories of Growing Up?

Have you ever noticed siblings remember things differently? Partly because we each experienced a different family. We need to accept our different perceptions and each other.

Are We Really So Separate?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 16, 2016 in Your Wise Brain
When you love the world, you appreciate and care for it. Each of these actions makes you feel good, they help you preserve and improve everything you depend on: air, food, etc.

Being Something vs. Doing Something

If the ancient world was over-personalized, than today personal and family life face the threat of becoming ‘professionalized.’

Marriage as a Social Contract

If things are wrong with your marriage, perhaps you need to renegotiate your relationship contract.