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Withholding Information Leads People to Like Us Less

People often prefer to hide sensitive information about themselves, thinking it will lead people to like them more. But research shows it has precisely the opposite effect.

A Happy Ending Matters in this Hollywood Divorce

By Wendy Paris on September 27, 2016 in Splitopia
The negative stories about the Brangelina break-up are dangerous, because the expectation that divorce must be a tragedy for all involved can create just that outcome.

New Research Shows How to Manage Public Speaking Anxiety

Extreme fear of public speaking is one of the most prevalent form of anxiety disorders. New research shows how you can test, and overcome yours.

What to Do When You Feel Annoyed by Your Partner

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
When you’re feeling annoyed by your partner, what can you do in the moment that will make things better, not worse? Here are 5 winning tips for soothing the flames of indignation.

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Fight or Grow

Moments of hurt or anger with your partner can become opportunities to heal, grow, and develop intimacy.

No, You Cannot Get Attached to Porn

By David J Ley Ph.D. on September 28, 2016 in Women Who Stray
Blaming porn-related personal and relationship problems on addiction disturbance is the worst form of pseudoscience - it's also potentially iatrogenic.

Intimate-Partner Violence—What a Difference a Day Makes

The frequency of occurrences can depend on the day of the week or year.

I Just Can’t Get Over Him!

When a man walks away from a marriage, particularly when the wife didn’t see it coming, it is often a profound emotional injury, which leaves her feeling abandoned.

New Love Euphoria Mimics Effects of Crack Cocaine

There are at least 10 compelling reasons to use a model of addiction to crack cocaine to describe the new love's euphoria.

Oxytocin, Spirituality, and the Biology of Feeling Connected

By Christopher Bergland on September 28, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
A groundbreaking new study from Duke University has identified a link between oxytocin and feelings of spiritual connectedness.

Will a Guy Like This Be Good in Bed?

By Donna Barstow on September 28, 2016 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Signs to look for, or look out for, when you're thinking about having sex with someone. Will he be able to get the job done?

Marriage's Purpose

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 28, 2016 in How To Do Life
Is she right that marriage's core purpose is to nurture each other?

10 Reasons New Love Is Like Crack Cocaine

Off-putting though it may be to some, here are ten reasons why I am sticking with “cocaine rush phase” as the best way to capture the first phase of new relationships.

Therapists Need to Help Adults Deal With Their Siblings

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in Buddy System
Do therapists know the importance of discussing sibling relationships with clients? Here are five things they should consider.

In Practical Praise of Romance

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 26, 2016 in Ambigamy
Care a lot about being considerate? It can make you defensive when you fear that you've disappointed someone. Part of the solution is romantic reassurances.

A Life in Balance: A Grownups' 4 H Club

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on September 26, 2016 in Sex & Sociability
One problem area of your life can disturb all others areas sending everything seriously out of balance. Take an appraising look at these 4 H's. Is your milking stool stable?

How to Keep Calm, Carry On, and Still Get Your Way

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on September 26, 2016 in The Dolphin Divide
Diffusing negative energy before it goes rodeo. How behavioral psychology can help you get what you want even when tempers begin to flare.

To Empathize, Don't Trust Your Gut

By Temma Ehrenfeld on September 26, 2016 in Open Gently
Thinking—rather than guessing—is a better path to accurate empathy.

Divorce: American Style

The single-most reason marriages fall apart.

Mixed Signals on Social Life, Relationships, and Loneliness

We get nearly as much conflicting advice about our social lives and happiness these days as we do about nutrition, diet, and exercise. Do experts really know what makes you happy?
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What Is Healthy Narcissism?

What is Healthy Narcissism? The joy of self-love can be powerful and sustaining.
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Divorce Pitfalls to Avoid, Part Two

During divorce parents confront numerous dilemmas that damage relationships with their children. By avoiding divorce pitfalls, you will enhance the relationships with you children
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Narcissism: Try Dropping the Label

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 25, 2016 in Fixing Families
It's easy to label someone as narcissistic, but the label can mentally stop the relationship. Start by solving concrete behaviors.

Who Looks After You?

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W.- R. on September 25, 2016 in Quite Queerly
Psychotherapy offers relational support that is crucial to our emotional wellbeing, no matter who or how old we are.

Toxic People

By Abigail Brenner M.D. on September 24, 2016 in In Flux
Several people weighed in on 8 Common Traits of Toxic People. Here are some of their thoughts, and mine, that will hopefully help shed more light on the subject.

Why I Wish I Could Be a Narcissist

Simply put, life might be easier as a narcissist.

Myth: I’m Too Old to Find Love

Everyone dreams of finding sweet love.

Marrow: A Love Story: Sitting Down With Elizabeth Lesser

By Mark Matousek on September 23, 2016 in Ethical Wisdom
Author Elizabeth Lesser, talks about her new book, Marrow: A Love Story. It's a sister's tale of becoming a donor and what it taught her about the meaning of love.

How to Make Things Better by Making Them Worse

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Think Well
While it's counter intuitive, sometimes to make things better we first have to make them worse. Here's how to understand and use the power of paradox to solve many problems.

When Food = Love, Saying "No" Can Be Tough

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on September 23, 2016 in Cravings
Whether it's a box of candy or a second helping of your grandma's famous lasagna, sometime you have to (carefully) refuse.

Transitioning From Lovers to Partners

Marriages change over time. Partners go from passionate to more companionate.

The Power of Grief

Grief is a powerful healer. Instead of running from it, we need to embrace it so it can do it job.

On Becoming an Orphan

By Madelon Sprengnether on September 23, 2016 in Minding Memory
My older brother and one remaining sibling died suddenly last spring. He was just shy of his seventy-seventh birthday, so you might think I was prepared. I wasn’t.
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3 Ways to Improve Wellbeing at Work

The word ‘wellbeing’ is increasingly being thrown around workplaces today.