Essential Reads

Do Romantic Relationships Imply a Loss of Self? Should They?

A recent column by David Brooks raises the false dichotomy between individuality and sociality.

How Many Americans Want to Be Single? Results of 5 Studies

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Living Single
How many unmarried Americans want to be married? 5 studies suggest answers, but it will take a revolution to know for sure.

Why Do We Love the View From High Above?

By Andrea Bartz on September 19, 2017 in The Wandering Mind
The weird psychological reason you'll take an elevator to the 102nd floor.

Longing for More

By Andy Tix Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in The Pursuit of Peace
What do you really want in life? Applying theory and research on the German concept of Sehnsucht may help you to better understand your quest and live well.

More Posts on Relationships

When Online Friendships Cause Distress

It’s not uncommon for people to establish friendships with individuals who “show up” in online and virtual settings, but are these friendships "real" friendships?

Sharing the Love: Research Shatters Myths About Non-monogamy

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Standard Deviations
New research employing personality theory and moral psychology shatters myths about consensual non-monogamy.

Adoptees and Lying: Why Your Child Might Be Telling Lies

By Carrie Goldman on September 20, 2017 in Modern Day Parenting
Are you struggling to understand why your adoptee frequently lies? Learn how to empathize and respond.

Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust IV

By Joan Cusack Handler Ph.D. on September 20, 2017 in Of Art and Science
The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship and Still Love Yourself

"I am leaving you for me. Whether I am incomplete or you are incomplete is irrelevant. Relationships can only be built with two wholes..."

Feeling Lonely? You May Be Damaging Your Health

Loneliness has been linked to inflammation and even higher mortality rates. Find out if you have an unhealthy level of loneliness and what you should do about it.

The Creepy Appeal of the Bad Guy Narrator

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Creating in Flow
When the bad guy pops into your head and demands a novel, what can you do? That's easy. You write from the point of view of a narcissist.

Attachment Styles

Attachment styles can affect our partner selection, the way in which we relate to our significant other, and the behaviors we display during the course of our relationship.

10 Things I’ve Learned About Love in the Last 10 Years

By John Kim, LMFT on September 19, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
10 Love Lessons From A Therapist

Should You Go to Couples Therapy?

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
Lots of people waver on whether they should take the plunge and see a couple's therapist. Might it be time for you and your partner? Here are some clues.

16 Fun Games to Play with Toddlers & Preschoolers in the Car

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on September 19, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Car rides can be meaningful ways to engage with toddlers and young children. They can help strengthen a playful bond and grow children's vocabulary and skills.

Who’s Cleaning the House?

It’s not just physical labor. It’s about expectations, perceptions of fairness, and various emotions.

My Mother Tries to Control My College Life

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on September 18, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
I need help dealing with my controlling mother.
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The Key to Healthier Relationships

How partners can help one another change their attachment styles and deepen their relationship.

How Can Leaders Find Happiness?

By Peter Bregman on September 18, 2017 in How We Work
Discover the SHARP model for a happier life, an easy way to beat procrastination, and the number-one factor in predicting well-being.
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The Shadow in a Selfie

By Elizabeth Young on September 18, 2017 in Adaptations
Silence was the main means of communication about the deep, sharp tensions that sliced the fabric of family life.

Relationship as Spiritual Practice: Part 4

To consider death and loss helps to keep us awake, for we don’t have forever to show those we love how we feel about them. We don’t have a moment to lose.

What Turns a Man On? For Some, It's Feeling Desired

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on September 18, 2017 in SexualityToday
A man whose deepest need is to feel desired may be analogous to one who gets excited by wearing women’s clothing. Best to just chalk it up to sexual diversity and accept it.

Hooked on Disappointment

By Megha Pulianda, M.S., LPC-I on September 17, 2017 in The In-Between
Daring to break an unhealthy relationship cycle takes hard work and courage, but it can lead to a future of genuine love.

Deconstructing the Pumpkin Spice Latte Craze

September is here and that means one thing…Starbucks’ Pumpkin Spice Latte is Back! Have you ever wondered why this seems to be such a big deal to the general populace?

BIG FUN

By Bernard L. De Koven on September 17, 2017 in On Having Fun
There's a certain kind of fun we call "Big Fun." It's something massive, usually, demonstrably fun, alluring, freeing, even.

I Should Never Have Trusted Him (or Her)

If you have been deceived for years, you may have this same reaction. But should you?
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Self-Critical? Time to Lighten Up on Yourself

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on September 16, 2017 in Fixing Families
Self-criticism can erode your self-esteem, keep you constantly anxious, sap you of any of life's rewards. Time to calm those scolding voices.

Looking for the G-Spot? 6 Things to Know

Is the G-spot real? Does every woman have it? How do I know if I'm touching the right spot?

Maybe You Should Get Married

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on September 15, 2017 in Clear Communication
Before you make a copy of your house key, read this before cohabitating.

Different Ways to Say “I Love You”

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on September 15, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
We all know that people experience love in different ways. Some people want affection, others need praise, and for others, actions speak louder than words.
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Two Essential Ingredients for Effective Communication

We may think we have a communication problem, and perhaps we do. But more fundamentally, we often have difficulty practicing these two things, which can help us break through.
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Warning: You or Your Spouse May Be Addicted to Criticism

Can people be addicted to criticism in the same way they can be addicted to alcohol?

Bedside Manners and Coping with Fear and Anxiety

The power of knowledge can not only improve our emotional symptoms, but our physical ones as well.

How Is Your Relationship Really Doing?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on September 15, 2017 in Rediscovering Love
11 subtle issues that can harm relationships.