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Open or Closed Sexual Relationships?

What do we know about consensual non-monogamous relationships? This study is a first step.

The Crisis of the Ailing Toxic Mother: Caretake or Run?

By Peg Streep on October 24, 2016 in Tech Support
Much has been written about the "Sandwich" generation-but the daughter of an unloving or abusive mother faces a different, more complicated choice without easy answers...

Sex, Power, and Risk

By Joye Swan Ph.D. on October 22, 2016 in Up Close and Personal
When it comes to power in sexual relationships, who really controls what goes on in the bedroom?

Are You Obsessing Over Your Ex?

If your ex recently broke up with you, you may have OCD-like symptoms. The good news: standard self-help techniques for OCD may be able to speed up your recovery from the breakup.

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A Grown-Up's Guide to Friendship

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 25, 2016 in How To Do Life
Making, deepening, and keeping friends.

Some Thoughts on Changing for the Better:

By Audrey Nelson Ph.D. on October 24, 2016 in He Speaks, She Speaks
The androgynous communication style grasps the differences and uses them to improve the interactions between men and women. / AdobeStock

The Surprising Reason People Aren’t There For You

When people don’t listen to you, don’t have your back, or constantly let you down, are they treating you the way you treat yourself?

Bringing Gaslighting to Light, Part III

Are you being gaslighted? Here's how to tell!

Myth of the Perfect Partner

Mary and Jordan are a couple I worked with fell into a pattern of avoiding sex because Jordan had come on too strong, too directly, without setting a context for the love-making to

Faces of the Narcissist: The Critic and the Judge

Eight tips to protect yourself from a critical and judgmental narcissist.

Moments That Changed Everything

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 24, 2016 in How To Do Life
And how you might change things again.

How Much Money Should You Spend on a Wedding Gift?

Economics & psychological perspectives provide us with different spending values in response to this common question.

"Help Me Stop Thinking About My Ex Girlfriend"

"She’s all fine and dandy, and I struggle with this every day," Jim said after his girlfriend of several years broke up with him. Read on to find out how people like Jim can cope.

Matt and Lisa’s Wedding Ceremony

It’s much safer and more convenient to fall in love with your phone.
Fotolia, with permission

The Day After the Election, Will We Still Be Friends?

By Allison Carmen on October 23, 2016 in The Gift of Maybe
Many of us have people in our lives that we have argued with or may not be speaking to because of the presidential election. How can we repair these relationships and begin again?

You’re Not Crazy⎯He’s (or She's) Controlling!

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on October 22, 2016 in Mind Games
Psychological abuse incites greater fear and impacts a woman's or man's psyche and sense of wellbeing to the same extent as physical abuse.

Election Stress Disorder

By Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on October 22, 2016 in The Puzzle of Love
Americans are suffering emotionally due to the caustic nature of the election, and our brains offer both the explanation and the solution.

The Impact of Death on our Everyday Lives

Defensive reactions to personal trauma, separation issues, and especially death anxiety impact our lives at three distinct levels.

Those Who Make Your Checklist Often Don’t Make It

It’s the one that contains all the characteristics of the partner of your dreams, the one with whom you know you’ll experience happiness forever after.

The Pitt-Jolie Divorce, Five Takeaways

What can we take away from the highly publicized Jolie/Pitt divorce and apply to our own relationships?

Love Handles

How we “handle”, or better yet, help a significant other overcome negative experiences and behaviors can pave the way for more positive present and future sexual encounters.
Judith Orloff

Beware of the Go-For-the-Jugular Vampire

By Judith Orloff M.D. on October 20, 2016 in Emotional Freedom
This vampire is one of the most malevolent of bloodsuckers, this person is vindictive and cuts you down with no consideration for your feelings. Learn how to protect yourself.

How Do I Handle My Father's Mental Ilness?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
How to handle a father's mental illness

There's Only One Way to Love: Bravely

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Loving Bravely
How do you reconcile the romanticized images of love portrayed in the media with the lived experiences of being in an intimate relationship? Let self-awareness be your guide.

My Mother's First Love at Age 93, by Caroline Leavitt

By Jennifer Haupt on October 20, 2016 in One True Thing
My mother begins to talk about love differently. It’s no longer the thing that ruins lives, that traps you. Instead, it’s this wonderful secret she wants to share with everyone.

How to Tell if You Should Avoid Contact With Your Ex

If you and your ex cannot or do not intend to treat each other like true friends, then needless to say, it is best to end all contact ASAP.

How to Listen So That Kids Will Talk About Bullying

Why is it that so many young people are so loathe to talk to their caregivers about bullying?

I'm Free. I Just Do What I Want, Say What I Want

In long-term romantic relationships you need to compromise. But how much compromise is too much?

Couples, Go Ahead—Enter Each Other’s “Hurt Museum”

Do you sometimes think you’ve worked through a conflict with your partner, only to have it show up again . . . and again?

Harsh Views of Singles: Stereotypes or Accurate Perceptions?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 19, 2016 in Living Single
Are harsh judgments of single people unfair stereotypes or accurate perceptions? Four kinds of studies all offer the same answer.

In Search of Cracks

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 19, 2016 in How To Do Life
The first step in expanding hope is to recognize cracks of opportunity.

When Love and Attention Just Aren't Enough

You'll be amazed at how affectionate and cooperative your little guy is after you "hear and see" his feelings.

Losing Friends and Family Over the Election?

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in Buddy System
I hate my friend/spouse/partner because he or she is voting for Clinton/Trump!

Good Communication Alone Doesn't Improve Relationships

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in The New Resilience
Research finds that good communication results from a positive relationship that's there to begin with. What, then, creates a lasting, satisfying relationship?