Essential Reads

5 Powerful Winter Solstice Practices for Parents

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on December 16, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
The more you clear space and work toward closure, the more you make space for all the good waiting for you around the corner of the new year.

The Biggest Red Flag That Your Partner is Not "The One"

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 16, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Infatuation Alert: You have feelings of anticipation and excitement whenever you think about your new love interest. But is your emotional intoxication healthy or harmful?

5 Ways Your Mind Deceives You When Your Heart Is Broken

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on December 16, 2017 in The Squeaky Wheel
You cannot trust your mind when your heart is broken. Here's why:

An Ingenious Way to Predict if Your Partner Will Cheat

Predicting who will cheat and who will be faithful in a romantic relationship can be tricky, but new research on parental infidelity suggests a surprisingly useful strategy.

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Looking for the Perfect Gift for Your BFF? Help Is Here.

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on December 16, 2017 in Off the Couch
Is trying to find the perfect gift for your best friend overwhelming you? These tips can simplify the task.

The Five Most Common Parenting Mistakes

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on December 15, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
What to consider as you parent.

A Sexual Manifesto for Women

By Ruth C. White Ph.D. on December 15, 2017 in Culture in Mind
No longer should women feel the need to tolerate and moderate the sexual indiscretions of others. It is time for us to be explicit about our expectations and our boundaries.
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Embracing Masculine Vulnerability: A Q&A with Lewis Howes

By Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. on December 15, 2017 in How to Be Yourself
Why men have trouble letting themselves be vulnerable, and why it is so important that they try.

Gifts That Disappoint: Seven Rules of Gift-Giving Explained

Gifts are given for many occasions throughout the year, but it seems that there are some basic reasons why we inadvertently choose gifts that fail to please the recipient.

What Fraction of Men Develop Erectile Dysfunction, Really?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on December 15, 2017 in All About Sex
Sexologists still don't know the true prevalence of ED. But as time passes, the proportion of men who admit it keeps growing.

How to Let Go of Unhealthy Grudges

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on December 15, 2017 in Think Well
Hanging onto grudges and past grievances only contributes to unhappiness and corrodes relationships. Here's how you can defuse these psychological time bombs.

A Body Image Holiday Wish List

By Renee Engeln Ph.D. on December 15, 2017 in Beauty Sick
During the time of year when we take special care to show love to others, don’t forget to show your body that same kindness.

Why There's No Place Like Home for the Holidays

By Frank T. McAndrew Ph.D. on December 15, 2017 in Out of the Ooze
Home can be a slippery concept. But psychologists have long understood that it plays a huge role in self-identity and emotional well-being.

Better Recognizing Vocal Emotions Can Improve Relationships

A sound way to learn more about your partner and yourself.

Stop Giving People More Stuff This Holiday—Do This Instead

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on December 15, 2017 in Feeling It
This is how to make others (and yourself) truly happy this holiday season.

Love Is Easy

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on December 15, 2017 in Rediscovering Love
But relationships are hard. These six commitment behaviors can help.

The Mystery of Love and Attraction

By Anthony Synnott Ph.D. on December 15, 2017 in Rethinking Men
Who are we attracted to? Who do we love? And why? And who loves us? And why? Attraction and love are a mystery.

The Meaningful Conversation Most Couples Are Not Having

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on December 14, 2017 in Loving Bravely
The news cycle is full of stories about abuses of power, yet we overlook the subtle and meaningful ways that power dynamics are an integral aspect of our intimate relationships.

Tired of Arguing About Politics, Race, or Social Policy?

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on December 14, 2017 in Laugh, Cry, Live
Tired of arguing about politics? You may even be dreading family or social gatherings this holiday season. But you can build bridges, not walls, with compassion and warmth.

Would You Rather Be Heard or Get Even?

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on December 14, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
When you’re really frustrated with someone (for whatever reason), you need to say something. But what? And how do you say it? And what if you remain silent?

Can Money Buy You Happiness?

By Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D. on December 14, 2017 in Between You and Me
Money can buy happiness, if you spend it right. Research shows there are more benefits to spending money on experiences than material goods. Here are three reasons why.


Life is sometimes difficult. We don’t get what we want, and we get a lot of what we don’t want.

Love Isn’t Enough

By Iben Sandahl on December 14, 2017 in The Danish Way
There are many factors creating turmoil, insecurity, and stress in our children’s lives. One is the many inputs children take in every day.
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What Cows Can Teach Us About Being Human

By David Evans on December 13, 2017 in Can’t We All Just Get Along?
Some surprising new information about people and cows.

Two Cheers for Empathy

By Robert J King Ph.D. on December 12, 2017 in Hive Mind
Paul Bloom has recently (and one suspects slightly provocatively) called for a rejection of empathy. But he has left us little grounds for his alternative "rational compassion."

The Burdens Posed by Invisible Physical and Mental Illnesses

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on December 12, 2017 in Turning Straw Into Gold
I look healthy. My friend, whom I’ll call Gail, also looks healthy. The difference is that I suffer from a physical illness and she suffers from a mental illness: depression.

The Greatest Lesson of Love—Taught By Donald Trump

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on December 12, 2017 in Finding Love
This is the most urgent lesson of love: Stay away from toxic relationships. When we ignore that lesson, we marry misery. Which is precisely what is happening in our country.

Womanizers, Harassers and Predators #MeToo: Part Two

By Sari Cooper, CST on December 11, 2017 in Sex Esteem
What can men learn to expand their awareness of boundaries in this new age of #MeToo.

Why it's So Difficult to Change Someone's Point of View

By Stephen J Betchen D.S.W. on December 11, 2017 in Magnetic Partners
Why is it so hard to listen to another persepctive?

Freedom and Power Must Be Grown from Inside

Living with a commitment to a balanced life doesn’t mean that we never get off track or caught up in one thing or another.

If You’ve Been Sexually Harassed, What’s Next?

How do you move forward after you’ve been sexually harassed?

Why Going No Contact with Mom Doesn't Solve Everything

By Peg Streep on December 11, 2017 in Tech Support
Deciding to cut a parent out of your life is a huge decision which can bring with it some unwanted baggage rather than the expected freedom and relief.
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Why Do the People I Love Hurt My Feelings so Often?

Why do the people I love hurt my feelings so often? We often (mis)attribute our reactions to the intention of others.
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What Sexual Harrassment Does to All of Us

By Elizabeth Young on December 10, 2017 in Adaptations
That’s a weird sentence, so I’m going to repeat it for emphasis. I am privileged: I have never been threatened, assaulted, or raped.