Essential Reads

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

Simple steps to get to a better place.

Developmental Dislike of Parents During Early Adolescence

Come adolescence, there is more to dislike about parents, and there needs to be

I'm Having An Impossible Time With A Break-Up

Break-Ups Are Harder In The Age of Social Media

3 Tips for Seeking Compassion When Emotionally Distressed

Why prior experience does not always lead to empathy

Recent Posts on Relationships

A Destination Divorce? Get Outta Town! No, Really.

By Wendy Paris on April 21, 2015 in Splitopia
You don’t need to travel to get a divorce today, but purveyors of tropical divorce getaways insist you might reach a better agreement under the swaying palm trees of someplace else.

6 Reasons Nice People Hurt Your Feelings

Are your feelings easily hurt? These tips can take the sting out of the thoughtless things people can say.

Extinguishing Gender Roles, Igniting the Romance

When you think about it, being flexible in your role (gender or otherwise) is an obvious plus. It allows you and your partner to find middle ground by seeing things through a common lens.

My Student Wants a Romantic Relationship

Romance, teachers, and students don't mix.

You Can’t Reason with a Verbal Abuser, so Don’t Even Try

Verbal abuse can be ever so subtle. Yet it leaves the victim of the abuse in a lot of pain and confusion. Believing in a different reality where people reason and communicate in rational ways with each other, the victim of the abuse tries to make sense of her abuser’s treatment of her. That is the wrong way to deal with this type of abuse.

A Betrayal Anxiety Quiz for Women in an Unequal Workplace

When limited opportunities for advancement in a workplace exist, women often find themselves competing for the few positions available. Oftentimes, women who have been betrayed by ladder climbing colleagues are then prone to sabotage others.

You Can't Fix Everything

I’m much more at peace since I stopped trying to fix everyone’s life, including my own. It’s making it easier to take those unfixable moments in stride and to appreciate happiness and joy when they happen to come my way.

5 Ways to Know When to Leave the Relationship

You don't want to go home anymore. You don't look forward to seeing or being in the actual company of the person with whom you are intimately involved. You prefer the idea of the relationship to the reality of it; you have an idealized image of the beloved that is far enough removed from the everyday, authentic person that being in his or her presence undermines, erodes an

How Men Unknowingly Reveal Their Sexism

New research finds that observing two clues about men's interaction with women reveals their degree of sexism.

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

How do you recover from one of the most painful life experiences?

Get Out Of Your Toxic Relationship By Taking These 3 Steps!

Toxic relationships are not good for you. They can break down your emotional health. Here are three steps to get yourself out of your toxic relationship!

Developmental Dislike of Parents During Early Adolescence

One function of adolescence is to grow parent and adolescent apart. Dislike of parents is part of what allows this social separation to occur. Most important for parents to remember is that this loss of liking for parents does not mean any lessening of of adolescent love.

I'm Having An Impossible Time With A Break-Up

Breaking Up in The Age of Social Media

All Kids Lie To Their Parents. But When? How Much?

Respecting children's boundaries while staying strict and engaged is the best way to encourage them to share information and to keep them from lying.

3 Tips for Seeking Compassion When Emotionally Distressed

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on April 19, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
When you want to reach out after an emotionally distressing event, which person is more likely to be compassionate and supportive, someone who has been through a similar experience or someone who has not? Read on to find out...

Fear of Intimacy and Closeness in Relationships

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on April 18, 2015 in The Freedom to Change
Being in a relationship with someone who shuts down emotionally when times get tough is no fun. It’s also no fun to try your best only to have others accuse you of not being emotionally available. Learning where these avoidant personality styles come from can help you cope more effectively with stress in your relationships and have a more rewarding experience.

Who Owns the Embryos?

By Joann P. Galst Ph.D. on April 18, 2015 in Fertility Factor
What couples can learn from the conflict over embryo disposition between Sofia Vergara and her ex-partner Nick Loeb.

How Attachment Styles Impact Attitudes Toward Infidelity

Why do people respond differently to sexual versus emotional infidelity? People's attachment style may be a crucial factor.

When Your Personal, Private Choices Enrage Others

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on April 18, 2015 in Living Single
Why do perfect strangers react to some of our most personal choices with anger and attempts to stigmatize us for them? "Otherhood" author Melanie Notkin, historian Elaine Tyler May, environmentalist Bill McKibben, "Childless by Choice" project director Laura S. Scott, and I share our thoughts about the matter.

Fifty Shades of Gay

By Rick Miller LICSW on April 17, 2015 in Unwrapped
An ever-widening spectrum of choices and possibilities means that the gay community is truly taking on all of the colors of the rainbow, every shade and hue.

What Causes You Inner Turmoil?

Being in heated conflict not with others but with yourself can—let’s face it—be agonizing. To be split down the middle, to endlessly waver between two (and sometimes more) options, can at its worst be almost unimaginably distressing. Obsessive to an extreme, it can lead to a paralysis of will (not to mention, much lost sleep). . . .

6 Tips for Managing Life With a Control Freak

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on April 17, 2015 in Fixing Families
It's difficult to live with someone who is always controlling in a variety of ways. Some tips for not taking it personally and for changing the dynamics.

Couple’s Alert - Is Your Love Dying?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on April 17, 2015 in Rediscovering Love
By the time I see couples in therapy, they are often at a breaking point. Frustration tolerance is at an all-time low, and a love that once had such hope is floundering badly. We have to get through layers of disillusionment, anger, and hurt to see if there is anything worth saving at all and if both partners want their relationship to heal.

The Upside of Jealousy

Simply put, jealousy is motivated by fear. When fear is driving your behaviors, it is essential to tune into the cognitive components that accompany the fear to help you break it down and make it containable.

What To Do About a Small Penis

If size is an issue, the trick is to find ways to make up for the lack in volume. Penis extension devices, such as Andropenis, and penis extension surgery carry with them significant inconvenience and risk. In most cases choice of sexual position can make up for a lack in size.

Breakup: How to Tell If You Suffer from Complicated Grief

Sometimes it is impossible to let go of grief. When you continue to grieve a loss, your condition is called complicated grief. Complicated grief is so severe that psychiatrists now consider it for inclusion in the psychiatric manual for diagnosing mental disorders. Here is how to tell if you suffer from complicated grief.

Jennie Garth: Can You "Win" the Breakup?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on April 16, 2015 in Shrink Wrap
Endings or beginnings?

When Women Use Jealousy

By Duana C. Welch Ph.D. on April 16, 2015 in Love Proof
Common knowledge says jealousy always backfires. Common knowledge is wrong.

If You Judge People, You Have No Time To Love Them

By Allison Carmen on April 16, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
"If You Judge People, You Have No Time To Love Them." Mother Teresa Our judgments interfere with many of our relationships. Often we get so consumed with everything our spouse, child, friend or co-worker is not doing right, that we often forget to see what is special and wonderful about them.

Women’s Pay Gap: Is it Children, Expectations, or Feminism?

It's time for the power structure of corporate and political America to better accommodate women and their families.