Essential Reads

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

Simple steps to get to a better place.

Developmental Dislike of Parents During Early Adolescence

Come adolescence, there is more to dislike about parents, and there needs to be

I'm Having An Impossible Time With A Break-Up

Break-Ups Are Harder In The Age of Social Media

3 Tips for Seeking Compassion When Emotionally Distressed

Why prior experience does not always lead to empathy

Recent Posts on Relationships

11 Ways to Help a Friend With Bipolar Disorder

Those diagnosed with bipolar disorder may be at the mercy of extreme mood swings, but they are not powerless. Medication, therapy and a healthy lifestyle can help them enjoy full and productive lives, especially when supplemented by the support of those closest to them.

4 Clues Your Online Relationship Will be Happy Ever After

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on March 16, 2015 in Love, Digitally
Online environments can sometimes lead to greater intimacy. People may often second guess what their communication partner really means.

How To Really Listen To Your Heart

Understand that if you approach someone with an open heart, he or she will feel it and will most likely return a similar energy to you. That’s how relationships are born, one open heart reaching out and touching another. It’s what we all want, and it is available to you by just being willing to listen to your heart.

Jealous Mothers and Their Daughters: The Last Dirty Secret?

By Peg Streep on March 16, 2015 in Tech Support
Maternal envy, perhaps the biggest taboo of all, needs to be addressed and discussed, not just for the sake of daughters but for mothers as well.

What Affairs Are (and Are Not): Find Out If You're At Risk

Affairs may feel good in the moment but the wreckage they can create is definitely not worth it. The good news is that they are preventable. All you need is some awareness and tools.

How the Menstrual Cycle Affects Women's Libido

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Unlike dogs and cats, women don't experience "heat," but studies show a libido spike around ovulation.

Women Like Men With Big Medals

By Gregg Murray Ph.D. on March 15, 2015 in Caveman Politics
If our basic drive is to survive and reproduce, why do men, who have been the primary war fighters throughout human history, volunteer to subject themselves to the life-threatening dangers of war?

How to Learn the Language of Love

By Sheila Kohler on March 15, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
Every time we fall in love it seems so new. We say to our beloved, “I’ve never felt quite like this before!” and we sincerely believe it. Suddenly, it seems, we see the world lit up anew.

5 Ways to Motivate and Encourage Seniors

Caring for, and having successful relationships with older adults often require unique interpersonal skills and strategies.

St. Patrick's Day Drinking: Facts, Hangovers, and Advice

Watch out for the lure of too much green beer.

Why You May Be Stronger Than You Think

By Sophia Dembling on March 14, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
In his book "Deeper Dating," Ken Page suggests that embracing what you're most ashamed of opens you up to greater intimacy.

Sparkle Versus Glow—and What That Means For Your Love Life

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on March 14, 2015 in Finding Love
I recently had a dialogue with Sophia Dembling, author of Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After. Both of us had books come out at about the same time concerning the search for love. Her insights on the distinction between glow and sparkle hold one of the greatest keys to finding and keeping healthy love.

Extreme Jealousy in Relationships

Jealousy is a social convention just like monogamy.

Top 10 Ways to Get Over a Breakup

The time immediately following the shock of a breakup and the time of a mad obsession are driven by the overflow of stress chemicals released by your brain in response to what is happening to you. This is a time when you are likely to act crazy! Breakup chemistry is insanity chemistry. Temper your stirred-up emotions by sticking to these 10 pieces of breakup advice.

What No One Tells You Before Moving In Together

It may seem like a dream. You have met the love of your life, and you want to move in together. You have always dreamed of owning your own house, having a home of your own. You and your SO find a cheap starter house, finalize the deal and move in. You are living the dream. Or are you?

6 Reasons that Women Fake It During Sex

A woman’s faking an orgasm during sex with a man appears to be a fairly common occurrence. New research reveals that these 6 reasons are behind women’s tendencies to be fake during their most intimate moments.

What Does It Mean to Really Listen to Someone?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on March 13, 2015 in Off the Couch
Psychoanalysts learn to listen in our training – it is quite possibly one of the most important things we do in our work. Yet one of the ongoing themes of a conference on "The Art of Listening" is not only how we listen, but also what it actually means to listen and how well we do it.

Are Environmentalists Better Romantic Partners?

Choosing eco-friendly vs luxury goods may have an impact on your love life.

Wanting and Finding Love After Fifty

By Donna Flagg on March 13, 2015 in Honestly
Why do people think finding love later in life is doomed from the start?

Displaced, Replaced, Erased

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on March 13, 2015 in Rediscovering Love
Of all of the possible experiences people endure when they are abandoned in love, rejection is probably the most painful.

Are You Having Enough Sex?

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual and intimacy disorders, I can tell you that for a lot of individuals and couples the amount of sex they’re having (or not having) can be worrisome.

What's Wrong With Giving Advice

By Aldo Civico Ph.D. on March 13, 2015 in Turning Point
We might think that giving advice might be the best way to help someone who has a problem. But it might instead inhibit our interpersonal relations, and be very ineffective. Here is why.

Why Your Friends' Approval Is So Crucial to a Relationship

By Erica B Slotter Ph.D. on March 13, 2015 in Me, You, & Us
Recent research demonstrates that how your friends and family feel about your romantic partner matters for the success of your relationships.

The 'Other' Marshmallow Test

The tower building exercise - and its marshmallow - reveals another secret of successful human behavior, in this case for mental health professionals: when we put the goals of our patients first and foremost, they are going to be more effective, and so will we.

How to Completely Change Your Sex Life and Relationship

It's normal for a couple who has been together for a few years to fall into a stale and boring pattern. Our brains crave novelty. Stability and security is nice and comforting, but it’s not exciting. Instead of taking each other for granted and then going on Facebook looking up someone you dated high school, try being open and honest with each other. Hit the reset button.

20 Random Facts About Dating, Sex, Breakups and Divorce

Twenty random facts about dating, sex, breakups and divorce.

Surprising Facts about Non-Monogamous Relationships

If you consider swinging, both partners need to be completely comfortable with it. There is no “un-ringing the bell” with this type of decision, so if you are a couple reading this, the first and most important step before making the leap is to talk to your partner and find out what he or she might be interested in.

On "Falling in Love" vs "Loving"

By Christopher Ryan on March 12, 2015 in Sex at Dawn
Does "falling in love" prevent us from actually loving?

The Most Precious Gift My Mother Gave Me

By Sheila Kohler on March 12, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
Perhaps the most precious gift I inherited from my mother, the one which led me to become a writer, was her silence about so many parts of her life, the mystery in which she wrapped herself—like a dark cloak—giving only brief glimpses of her true self from time to time.