Essential Reads

Four Great Relationship Hacks

By Karl Pillemer Ph.D. on February 10, 2016 in Lessons for Loving
Feel like your relationship is going stale? Here's some advice for people who've been through the relationship doldrums.

What to Do When You Feel Someone Pulling Away

By Kira Asatryan on February 09, 2016 in The Art of Closeness
The pain of a partner pulling away is real. Here’s how to maintain your sanity.

Narcissism and the Myth of Invincibility

People whose narcissism leads them to believe in the myth of their own invincibility may be setting themselves up for a pretty hard fall.

Violence and Valentine's Day

By Ben Michaelis Ph.D. on February 09, 2016 in The Creative Imperative
Can St. Valentine stop the violence?

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Mental Voice-Over?

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on December 30, 2015 The Dolphin Divide
Do internal sound-tracks color your communication? Experienced communicators can often make more from less, predicting what will come next before messages are complete.

Why You Should Kiss More

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D. on December 30, 2015 Worry Wise
There's nowhere to hide in a kiss, and hiding is not so good for marriages. So, a way of not hiding that is free, fast, and doesn't require a babysitter? That's a good thing.

Sometimes He Doesn't Want Sex--and You Do

By Temma Ehrenfeld on December 30, 2015 Open Gently
Men can lose interest in sex, too. The prime suspects are work issues, depression, or medical problems.

The Sexual Call of the Holidays

By Mark Borigini M.D. on December 29, 2015 Overcoming Pain
Grindr, an app for gay men, had a 15% rise in activity on Thanksgiving and usually experiences a 30% to 50% increase on Dec. 25, according to an article on ""

Why People Really Have Affairs

Affairs often have very little do with the other person. Instead, they reveal a deep, inner longing to be noticed and valued.

9 Powerful Ways Gratitude Can Change Your Life

Gratitude is the most under utilized super power of all time.

So You Don't Want Sex, and He Does

By Temma Ehrenfeld on December 29, 2015 Open Gently
Don't ignore your man's desire. Too many women are surprised when men leave sexless marriages.

7 Ways to Give Your Partner a Boost

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on December 29, 2015 In Practice
A key way that relationships benefit the individuals involved is when partners help each other see strengths that the individual doesn’t see in themselves.

Friends Offer Support During Divorce, Offline and On

By Wendy Paris on December 29, 2015 Splitopia
Connection to others helps regulate emotions, which is one reason your spouse might act crazy in divorce; she's missing the beneficial connection to you. Online community can help.

Getting Through the Holidays - Part 2

Is the holiday season a stressful time of year for you? Consider the following resources to turn stress into comfort.

So You're In a Relationship with a Narcissist, Now What?

Part 3 of a 3-part series on how to cope when you are in a relationship with a narcissist.

8 More Signs You're With a Narcissist

Eight more signs you may be in a relationship with a narcissist.

The One Sentence That Changes Everything

By Karl Albrecht Ph.D. on December 28, 2015 BrainSnacks
Knowing the power and influence of the first sentence can enable you to influence others more effectively than you might ever have thought possible.

I'm Attracted to the Wrong Person

What To Do If You Are Attracted To Your Mother

10 Signs You Are In a Relationship with a Narcissist

Are you in a relationship with a narcissist? Here are 10 telltale signs.

Celebration Time

Neuroscience explains what impact you as a leader can have on healthy physical and emotional changes in your team by having positive celebrations and intelligent conversations.

“She Said ‘Yes!” Research on Variables in Marital Success

Brenden proposes to Nicole on bended knee in Rockefeller Center and meets the criteria for marital success from the National Marriage Project at Rutgers.

You Can't Rush Grief

By Kimberly Key on December 28, 2015 Counseling Keys
The biggest myth about grief is that acceptance is the end of the road, the solution, the place where pain doesn’t exist.

Why Close a Street to Play as a Community?

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on December 28, 2015 Moral Landscapes
Did you play in the streets when you were a kid? I sure did. Here is how you can make it happen again--as an adult.

What's in Your Heart to Say?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on December 28, 2015 Your Wise Brain
If you say what's true for you, and say it clearly and kindly, you get one kind of result. But if you use a sharp tongue, speak falsely, exaggerate, you get different results.

7 Ways to Cultivate More Thankfulness

Gratitude has been linked to changes in mood, sleep, brain, heart, energy level, and personal happiness. How exactly do we become more grateful? Here are 7 practical ideas.

Adolescence and Problems of Parental Over-giving

Many of the old interpersonal rewards that parents enjoyed in their relationship with their child diminish once the little girl or boy transforms into an adolescent.

Feel Like You Are Doing It All? Time to Stop

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on December 27, 2015 Fixing Families
Feeling like your partner is pulling his share of the work is a common couple problem. Four sources and 4 solutions

Seven Dos and Don'ts for the Perfect New Year's Eve Kiss

Kissing is the most difficult sex act. Make the ritualized New Year's Eve kiss a symbol of your commitment. Here's seven dos and don'ts to make it perfect:

Top 5 Considerations for Your Last Married Holiday Season

Do you know that you will be filing papers after the New Year? If so, you'll want to read these tips to get through the rest of the holiday season.

Pushing Play in the Community

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on December 26, 2015 Moral Landscapes
The people of Takoma Park work together to make sure it’s a safe place for children to play, reports a 16-year-old player-observer.

The Hidden Emotion That Sabotages Our Lives

Shame is an insidious emotion that quietly sabotages our lives. The article offers ways to become more mindful of the shame we carry.

In 2016 Be Part Of The Solution

From irritating others to being dangerous, we need to stop and think about what we are all doing to ourselves and each other.

"Loving Thy Neighbor As Thyself" Makes Us Healthy and Happy

Scientific studies have found that small acts of generosity improve the health and happiness of both the giver and receiver.

Don't Let Him Ruin Your Good Mood

By Donna Barstow on December 25, 2015 Ink Blots Cartoons
How to negotiate with your mate. And 10 Christmas quotes for if you're feeling cranky.