Essential Reads

Sage Relationship Advice From the Movie Swingers

It’s been twenty years and I still think one of my favorite relationship movies is Swingers. It is a veritable storehouse of relationship advice, particularly about self-esteem.

The Surprising Psychology of the Email Hack

All too often we hear of a public figure whose email was hacked. What they thought was private becomes grist for the media mill. How would you feel if someone targeted you?

Is It Time to Break Up With Your Partner?

By Jen Kim on July 26, 2016 in Valley Girl With a Brain
I asked several relationship experts what’s the one question that can help me decide if it’s time to end the relationship. Here's what they said.

Four Attractive Stereotypes You Shouldn't Try to Conform To

By Mairi Macleod Ph.D. on July 26, 2016 in Sexy Science
If you act dumb to appeal to men, or you flash your cash to pull women, then don't be surprised if you attract the wrong types.

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Pacing: The Chronically Ill Person’s Best Friend

I have a love-hate relationship with pacing. I love it because it keeps my symptoms from flaring. But I also can ignore it because it keeps me from doing everything I want to do.

The Keys to Avoid "Failing at Other Minds"

When was the last time you had a misunderstanding with another person? Here's the science behind such problems, along with pragmatic tips for avoiding them.

Otherfathering and Men in Polyamorous Families

Polyaffectivity offers men a way to connect with each other and stay connected with kids, even if no longer having sex with the kids' mother. Otherfathering provides connections.

Text Alert – Is Your Intimate Communication Inadequate?

It only takes a few minutes to make your text messages more representative of who you really are and what you truly feel towards your partner.

National Men’s Health Week

By Marty Klein PhD on June 15, 2016 in Sexual Intelligence
Let's talk about sexual health--without focussing on STDs

Sugar and ADHD: A Bad Mix?

Gummy bears or grapes? Why studies disagree on sugar and ADHD.

Myth: My Jealousy Shows How Much I Love My Partner

You have betrayed me. You have ruined our beautiful world.

Instead of Being Silent

What does love look like in the wake of violence I cannot grasp?

3 Ways to Feel Better When a Coworker Gets on Your Nerves

When someone gets on your nerves, it’s a real thing. You can recover quickly from co-worker stress if you know these three facts about your brain chemistry.

Happy Couples Do This Often

Doing this can really improve your loving relationship.

Go the Distance! From Distrust to Trust

Daily we see headlines that suggest we are becoming mired in distrust, at high cost to our organizations.

Tuning In To a Friends Feelings Is Not As Simple As It Looks

Does it seem that your feelings are unimportant? Are people only interested in the facts of your story and ignore any feelings you may have about the events that took place?

Why (Some) Substitutes Don't Satisfy Us

When we can't get what we want, are we better off looking for something new or something similar to what we initially sought? The choice makes or breaks our satisfaction.

4 Steps to a Better Relationship

Many of the ways act in our relationships are echoes of the past. How can we break our old patterns and become the person we want to be?

There Are No Words

Human aggression and violence may prove to be our undoing. Unless we control our baser tendencies and place value on "our emotional footprint," I fear for the future of humanity.

Emotional Anorexia

Are you suppressing your sense of being to the wants and desires of your partner? If so, you are at risk of “psychological starvation.” We call this emotional anorexia.

What's Wrong with Telling Married People to Stay Married?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on June 13, 2016 in Living Single
Studies have followed married people for many years. The results are not what Time magazine claims.
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Sibling Rivals and Murder Games

A unique case in the annals of serial murder will finally get a broader audience.

Do You Deal with Passive-Aggressive People? Take the Quiz

Psychiatrist Daniel Flavin describes passive-aggressive behavior as “a pattern of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them." Here are the signs...

For Your Summer Reading Pleasure: Find A Way, by Diana Nyad

A beautifully written impossible to put down narrative, that both deepened my respect for her and answered the questions about her trauma.

The 2 Questions You Have to Ask About Your Relationship

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on June 11, 2016 in Finding Love
This simple exercise will lead you to greater intimacy, joy and healing in your most important relationships.

The Breakup Museum: One of 11 Tips to Heal Your Heart

When a relationship ends, your world may be shattered. But there are strategies to help you cope, recover, and love again.

I Think My Mother Is Paranoid

How to cope with an angry mother.

Make Your Partner Feel Loved Tonight With A Few Simple Words

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on June 10, 2016 in Between You and Me
Infuse a little extra positivity and love into your relationship this weekend by taking a few moments tonight to do something nice for your partner (it'll only take 5 minutes).

What Do You Strive for in Relationships?

Power, achievement, intimacy and belonging are all key relational strivings that guide our everyday behavior.
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Can Shame Be Your Friend?

Shame is often destructive and toxic. But can shame have a healthy aspect? This article explores how a light, friendly sense of shame can serve our lives and relationships.

Love Can Turn the Ordinary Into the Extraordinary

“It’s my marriage that has been the place that I have found that has met my deepest needs to experience purpose, meaning, and contribution in my life."

Got Loyalty?

Demonstrating loyalty in all the possible ways we can think of is a direct and mighty way to strengthen the bond.

Enlightenment: A Controversial Psycho-Spiritual Experience

Do you sometimes feel stuck in patterns? Spiritual enlightenment could be a meaningful answer

Why We All Love a Narcissist . . . Until We Don’t

Not every pretty shiny thing is worth the effort to keep polished – especially when there is no return on your investment of time, energy, and resources.