Essential Reads

Six Ways to Get What You Want without Whining

Do people call you a whiner? These 6 tips will you get your way the right way

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 8

Are Women really More Talkative than Men?

Should Couples Share Their Sexual Fantasies?

Sexual fantasies excite the imagination—and sometimes are better left there.

What Not to Say to a Depressed Person

Depression isn’t just a matter of moral weakness or willpower

Recent Posts on Relationships

The LGBT Family Blender

Can a mother or father come out as gay and maintain the love and respect of spouse and kids?

Seven Steps For Coming Out to a (Potential) Sweetie as Poly

Because most people grow up thinking monogamy is the norm in the US, people who want to date others in consensual non-monogamous relationships often have to introduce the concept to dates. This blog gives 6 steps for coming out as poly to a current or potential sweetie.

Is the Tongue the "Sword of a Woman?"

The current evidence about sex differences in gossip indicates that beliefs about females being more likely to use gossip in an aggressive fashion are based upon more than just a stereotype. However, this does not mean that women are more aggressive or “nastier” than men; they simply differ in their preferred style of aggression.

5 Things That Can Kill Your Relationship

Five ways to drive love from your relationship....and how to get it back.

Form a Line in the Barbie Queue

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on June 02, 2015 in In Excess
Doll fetishism is a type of sexual fetishism where individuals are sexually aroused and attracted to dolls and/or doll-like objects (e.g., figurines). There is also a virtual form of doll fetishism where such fantasies can be acted out online and in virtual worlds via self-created doll avatars. But what else do we know psychologically about the behaviour?

Why You Shouldn’t Overthink Your Relationship

A common piece of advice when you’re trying to make an important decision is to generate a pros and cons list. You think “Should I break up with my boyfriend”, and then you generate a list of your guy’s faults and assets. It turns out this strategy is remarkably ineffective in illuminating your true feelings about your partner. But why?

20 Signs Your Partner Is Controlling

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on June 01, 2015 in Friendship 2.0
The stereotype of a controlling partner is one who is physically intimidating and threatening. Sometimes, the signs are much more subtle—but the danger is just as real.

5 Things to Do Today to Preserve Your Relationship

Because the only person we can control or change in a relationship is ourselves, it’s almost always worth it to do what we can to develop ourselves before we throw in the towel with our partner. Here are five things that can help any couple reignite their feelings of love.

Tired of Being Judged? Try This.

We are being bombarded with implicit and explicit judgments in our professional and personal lives. Does constant evaluation take a toll on our psychological well-being?

Age Difference and Love

People raise eyebrows at couples who are far apart in terms of age. Anything over ten years apart is subject to question. The real truth is that there are so many other things that matter more when it comes to long-lasting love than how old the two of you are.

Good Management is Sustainable Management

By Victor Lipman on June 01, 2015 in Mind of the Manager
When I was in the corporate world, we had a saying about a certain kind of manager: “He got results, but he left a trail of bodies in his wake.” His (or her) methods were unsound, unsustainable. What are characteristics of sustainable management?

Rebound and Revenge Sex: The Truth Behind the Myths

By Michael Castleman M.A. on June 01, 2015 in All About Sex
Myth: To get over breakups, people quickly jump into bed with new lovers, often strangers. Truth: Recent research shows that this is more the exception than the rule.

7 Reasons for Gay & Lesbian Couples to Celebrate

Rainbow weddings and "Mr. & Mr." or "Mrs. & Mrs." events are a growing phenomenon -- but keeping the relationship strong is equally challenging regardless of the gender identity of the couple!

I-candy: Evidence That You’re A-OK

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on June 01, 2015 in Ambigamy
Your ability to stay committed in any relationship depends on how much self-affirming I-candy you expect and how much you can tolerate its absence.

Why a Wife Bonus Won’t Buy You Security

By Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on June 01, 2015 in The Puzzle of Love
A new book explores the culture of the wealthy who use wife bonuses. Money aside, this may do more to undermine than to support a successful relationship.

Can May-December Romances Work?

How To Handle Feelings Toward An Older Man

Have We Discovered a Prime Reason Why Some Men Cheat?

By Rebecca Coffey on June 01, 2015 in The Bejeezus Out of Me
Do men who feel "pink washed" by their wives' earning power try to reclaim their masculinity by catting around?

Loneliness Is Not Caused By A Lack of Social Skills

By Temma Ehrenfeld on June 01, 2015 in Open Gently
Anxiety can be the root of loneliness, not lack of social skills.

"Sorry, Honey, I Wasn't Listening. What Did You Say?"

Your partner might say, “I don’t mean to interrupt your discussion of my lack of affection, but look at this right away! Isn’t it the Goodyear blimp? Wow. Amazing. Now what were you talking about?”

What Is Sufism?

Sufism is not the Islam of fundamentalists—quite the reverse! It is a search for the truth of divine love through direct personal experience of God. Sufi practices have much in common with those of other world faith traditions, their efficacy backed up by modern neuro-scientific research.

3 Reasons Why We Don't Commit to Relationships

Why do so many partners seem to prefer casual dating and friends-with-benefits, rather than deeper commitments and marriage? What can you do if you feel stuck in a relationship that is going nowhere? Learn about the research on commitment in romantic relationships—and find out what you can do to get him (or her) to commit!

Irrelation(Friend)ship

Irrelationship does not just have to do with romance, but friendship too. Do you get into a fix with friends sometimes? Do you recognize in friendships troublesome relational—irrelational—dynamics that are tanking opportunities for genuine emotional connection? Do you regret friendships which have failed and wish that you'd been able to hang onto those folks? Read on...

Happiness With Life 9: Making Friends With Death

Death can be your friend or your enemy. If you fear your death, you will create for yourself anguish and dread. If you embrace it as something you are inevitably moving toward, you use it to spur yourself to exult in each day as if it were your last.

How to Get Unstuck After Divorce

Does your divorce recovery need a boost?

A Child is Being Beaten—Ever or Never?

Hannah Arendt (1906-1975) made famous the stark phrase “the banality of evil.” This complex idea connotes colossal destructiveness done by men of less than colossal character. The everyday pervasiveness of senseless cruelty---humankind’s inhumanity toward itself---makes it clear that the inclination of destructiveness is real. Effective parenting is primary prevention.

Social Media Cannot Fix 'Being Alone'...Nor Should It

Being alone is not the same as loneliness, and it could be good for you.

Trust Your Gut If You Suspect Lying

By Temma Ehrenfeld on May 30, 2015 in Open Gently
Fleeting expressions can indicate hidden emotions, and you can learn to see them.

Mommy Cliques: 7 Ways to Beat Being Outside the 'In' Group

When my son was a toddler I signed him up for a “gymnastics” group, hoping not only to use up some of his energy, but to find some friends for myself. Instead, I found that there was an "in" group of moms and kids -- and we were definitely on the outside. I felt like a third grader again. If you've ever been in this situation, you'll like these psychologically savvy ideas.

CROSSING THE BOUNDARIES

Should a woman act or become submissive because a man uses power gestures? Does he cue her to be acquiescent with his expansive, powerful, dominating behaviors?

Healing Anxiety Naturally

The original and best remedy for fear is a safe relationship: intimacy is the mother of all anxiety tonics.