Essential Reads

Three Reasons to Not (Always) Trust

Trust is not inherently good

Sex in the Head

What may look like pure physical arousal is usually much more complicated.

Obama and Netanyahu in Family Therapy

Mr. President and Mr. Prime Minister, for the sake of world peace, call me.

Recent Posts on Relationships

Is There Time in Your Type-A Lifestyle for Friendship?

By Rick Miller LICSW on February 19, 2015 in Unwrapped
Socializing, connecting and laughing with friends are an essential part of happiness. We need to take a moment, press "escape", unplug, and make space for friendship. Don’t click “like” if you agree, call me!

Why Does Anyone Love Men Who Won't Love Back?

By Robert T Muller Ph.D. on February 19, 2015 in Talking About Trauma
Guest writer Aviva Philipp-Muller examines why Hollywood glorifies characters who exhibit a dismissing-avoidant attachment style.

12 Ways to Spot a Misogynist

The misogynists. You may have heard of them. But what you may not know is that they can be anywhere around you. They are notoriously hard to spot. They do not come with a label attached to them, and they may even come across as woman lovers.

Can We All Just Get Along?

By Rupert W Nacoste Ph.D. on February 18, 2015 in A Quiet Revolution
Look, neo-diversity has come upon us very fast. Rapid social change has put each of us in situations where we have to interact with people on an equal footing, but with people who do not look like, sometimes do not even sound like, sometimes do not even believe like us.

What Should I Look For in a Therapist?

How to tell if you are somewhere safe with somebody good

Why Are This Divorcee's Friendships Eroding?

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on February 18, 2015 in The Friendship Doctor
I recently started a relationship and my boyfriend who just moved in with me. I have never ignored my friends but they have pulled back from me and two even stopped talking to me altogether.

10 Issues That Can Drive You Apart, and How to Beat Them

By Peg Streep on February 18, 2015 in Tech Support
How close and connected you feel to your partner changes over time and can, alas, both ebb and flow. What you can do to increase intimacy in your relationship, based on science.

4 Reasons You're Not Having Sex

By Barbara Markway Ph.D. on February 17, 2015 in Living the Questions
Women want sex as much as men do, but sometimes life gets in the way.

A Surprising Key To Sustainable Relationship

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on February 17, 2015 in Ambigamy
We often get frustrated that our partners don't take responsibility for changing an annoying behavior. Their unwillingness to change feels like a violation of give and take. Paradoxically, we can often get more give and take if we stop holding out for them to change and instead change our way of interacting with them so we're fine regardless of whether they change.

The New Pleasure Principle

By Gayil Nalls Ph.D. on February 17, 2015 in Sensoria
Looking at sexual practices through the lens of geosocial sexual networking apps.

I’m Glad I Raised My Kids in the Flintstone Era

As I watch mothers who talk or text while they breast feed and fathers who read their emails despite the fact that their kids are practically ripping their shirts as they pull on them, I reminisce about raising my three beautiful sons. I couldn't use an iPad to babysit my kids, and that meant they were free to fully engage in imaginary and creative play.

In Love and Life, Keep a Sense of Humor

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on February 17, 2015 in Emotional Fitness
We cannot travel through life without hitting a few speed bumps. When you can find the humor in it, things will go much easier for both of you. Sometimes that may take a little effort, and perhaps you will find something amusing and your partner will not, or the other way around, and that’s OK. A sense of humor may be your best friend (next to your mate).

Mindfulness and Relationships: Never React the Same Way

By Rubin Khoddam M.A. on February 17, 2015 in The Addiction Connection
We can choose to react to situations and get pissed off, or we can choose to respond thoughtfully.

The 5 Types of People Most Likely to Cheat

By Jen Kim on February 17, 2015 in Valley Girl With a Brain
Nobody goes into a relationship assuming they’ll be cheated on or try a little cheating, right? Proceed with caution before falling for mates who fall into these five categories.

How to Make People More Accepting of Polyamory?

By Zhana Vrangalova Ph.D. on February 17, 2015 in Strictly Casual
As alternative relationships become ever more present in the public eye, a new study suggests that all that added information and critical evaluations of monogamy may make people more accepting of consensually nonmonogamous lifestyles.

Is It Irrational to Decide to Have Children?

People choose to have children on the grounds of mistaken beliefs. And we can’t really blame them. Cognitive dissonance, or what is better known as self-deception, leads people who already have kids to testify to the great wonders of parenthood.

What 50 Shades of Grey Tells Us About Women

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Good Thinking
The phenomenal success of Fifty Shades of Grey is telling something important about the female psyche.

To Improve Your Relationships, Give Up These 4 Habits

By Aldo Civico Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Turning Point
The major barrier to mutual interpersonal communication is our very natural tendency to judge and to evaluate, wrote the great psychologist Carl Roger. I explain the four most common forms of judgement and evaluation we use that undermine the quality of our interpersonal relations. Becoming aware of how we judge can help us to become more effective communicators.

What Does That Person Really Mean?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in How To Do Life
For different groups, the same sentence can have a very different meaning.

10 Interesting Facts About Romantic Dating

By Todd B Kashdan Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Curious?
Get information from a large, never to be published dataset on people's attitudes and behavior in romantic relationships

I'm Terrified of Rejection By Women

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in The Teen Doctor
How To Think About Virginity & Relationships

When Love Brings Pain - #2

I struggled to understand my husband until I read "The Power of Two." Now I don't "cross over" into his brain. I speak for myself and respect his ability to speak for himself. What a relief!

Ending Relationship Addiction

Relationship addictions may require going "cold turkey," as it is hard to stop smoking if you have a lit cigarette in your hand.

Pride and Prejudice and Compassion

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in The Web of Violence
How does gender affect the relationship between compassion and mental health? Revisit a classic love story in this blog as we look at how compassion could drive you crazy.

Is Your Teen an Observer, Asserter, Perfectionist or …?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Singletons
So much about being a teen can be confusing and difficult. Understanding the nine Enneagram personality types could help your teen. What type is your teen and what does that say about the way he or she relates to others including you, her parents?

Why Does the Fifty Shades Movie Look Like Domestic Abuse?

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on February 16, 2015 in SexualityToday
In the theater, I realized that the idea of Fifty Shades just being fantasy and therefore innocuous doesn't completely work. Some of the fantasy on-screen struck me as too close to the things people put up with in real life.

7 Bad Ways To Quit If You Want A Fresh Start

By Peg Streep on February 16, 2015 in Tech Support
When you leave a situation, a job, or a relationship, what's your quitting style? You will want to avoid all seven of these for sure......

Let's Give Valentine’s Day 2016 Back to Children

By Rita Watson MPH on February 15, 2015 in With Love and Gratitude
Look at the world through the eyes of a child before that child learns anger or hate. And just as we tallied up cards from our Valentine’s Day box as children, let the next Valentine’s Day become a day when children’s organizations can tally up checks.

Why Is There So Much Miscommunication Via Email and Text?

Why Is There So Much Miscommunication Via Email and Text? How we interpret electronic messages is shaped by our feelings. By Melissa Ritter, Ph.D.

The Most Toxic (Non-Four-Letter) Word in Any Relationship

Stop saying this word so you and your intimate partner can get along better and feel a stronger, healthier love.