Essential Reads

Why We Hate It When People Invade Our Space

John Travolta and Joe Biden put it in the news, but it's an everyday problem.

Does Science Really Say That Hot Guys Are Jerks?

Our new study suggests that better-looking men are more selfish.

Having a Baby: When You Don't Agree

Different visions? Find the problem under the problem.

What Color Should You Wear on a First Date?

What primates can teach us about attracting a mate

Recent Posts on Relationships

4 Great Ways to Use a Snow Day...Sort Of

By Melissa Orlov on January 28, 2015 in May I Have Your Attention
How do you respond to adversity? Reflecting upon your answer can lead to improvements in your life and in your relationship.

Are 36 Questions All It Takes to Fall in Love?

When love follows a 36-question exercise, people pay attention. But is this method a reliable one for transitioning strangers into long-term romantic partners?

Does Wanting Casual Sex Really Mean Not Wanting Love?

By Zhana Vrangalova Ph.D. on January 28, 2015 in Strictly Casual
If someone loves one-night stands, do you automatically assume that they don't like long-term relationships? Yeah? Well, you shouldn't.

Nice Guys or Bad Boys: What Do Women Want?

What do women want in a romantic partner? Men often do not know. Women are sometimes confused themselves. Fortunately, science does have a clue. Read on to find out too!

Who's in Charge in Your Relationship?

Men’s Secret Revenge Against Successful Women, Insecurity and resentment can lead to covert warfare in the bedroom. By Max Belkin, Ph.D.

Ten Things To Remember After a Break-Up

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on January 27, 2015 in Emotional Fitness
We have all been through it and, at best, a breakup is a difficult situation. Here are some tips and advice to help you make it through this rough patch. I hope these tips will help you get through the hard parts. Remember that your heart is still whole and you will find your soulmate.

17 Rules to Guide You Through Any Conflict

Whether in your relationships or your work life, it’s inevitable that you’ll be involved in a conflict with someone over something. These 17 principles will guide you in learning how best to put your emotions, motives, and communication skills to settle any of those conflicts in to produce successful results.

The 9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 9: Hope

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on January 27, 2015 in Me Before We
As you begin to accept that reconciliation it is not an option, you shift from the hope that the relationship can be saved, to the possibility that you just might be ok without it.

Is Curiosity Good for Your Relationship?

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on January 27, 2015 in In the Name of Love
Curiosity is usually regarded as a virtue, since it widens our horizons and develops our capacities. However, our natural romantic curiosity is contrary to the natural need to deepen the romantic connection. Distinguishing between two types of romantic curiosity may solve this enigma.

The Inherent Paradox of Online Dating

The trauma of online dating

What Is the Divorce Rate, Anyway?

There have long been arguments about the divorce rate—what it really is, where the numbers come from, and what that means for couples today. I go deep into the backstory of the arguments about the risk for divorce and the complexity of what many think should be such an obvious number to report.

Take This Gratitude Quiz, Then Assess Your Love Life

By Rita Watson MPH on January 26, 2015 in With Love and Gratitude
As people look at cards of hearts and flowers to send for Valentine’s Day, we might consider creating an abundance garden in our own hearts, one that can attract love or strengthen love.

Who's to Blame for Toxic Relationships?

The first step in detoxifying your life is figuring out whether the negative influence is you, your friend, or the relationship.

How Coping with Chronic Illness Impacts Loneliness

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on January 26, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
While it has been well established that chronic loneliness has a significant impact on our physical health and longevity, two new studies are providing fascinating information about how chronic illness impacts loneliness, as well as about how our coping mechanisms influence both our psychological and our physical health.

Resources for Non-Monogamous Relationships

By David J Ley Ph.D. on January 26, 2015 in Women Who Stray
People exploring non-traditional relationships are often left out of relationship self-help resources. Here's a list of some of the guides, resources and materials that I often recommend.

The 9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 8: Anger

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on January 26, 2015 in Me Before We
After breakup, anger often takes the shape of self-blame and self-disgust: you’re “not good enough” – you’re “ugly,” “stupid,” “fat,” “old,” “useless, "undeserving." It’s a long way out of that hole you're digging yourself into.

How to Be Happily Single for Life

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on January 26, 2015 in Living Single
In a study of lifelong single people in Ireland, 65 and older, those who had chosen to live single were happier and had fewer regrets than those who were single because of constraints. The single-by-choice seniors were contentedly pursuing their interests, volunteering, and socializing with friends and relatives.

Does Familiarity Really Breed Contempt?

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on January 26, 2015 in Close Encounters
We’ve all heard the adage “familiarity breeds contempt.” But does it? A large body of research suggests that familiarity often breeds liking, but sometimes it does the opposite. So when does getting to know more about a person make us like them more and when does it make us like them less?

6 Surprising Ways to Communicate Better With Your Partner

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on January 25, 2015 in Off the Couch
Are you having troubles talking about your feelings to someone you love? Does your partner run the other way any time you bring up the word “feeling”?

How To Keep Social Media From Complicating Your Relationship

By Marlynn Wei M.D., J.D. on January 25, 2015 in Urban Survival
It's common for romantic partners to check on each other on social media and social networking sites. So how can you prevent social media from complicating your romantic relationships? What tricky issues should you be aware of?

Nine Ways You May Be Making Your Relationship Toxic!

You may be destroying your relationship without even knowing it!

What Do Women Want From Women And Men From Men ?

By Sheila Kohler on January 25, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
Do homosexuals and heterosexuals want different things from their partners?

Your Anxiety & Relationships: Are You a Good Match?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on January 25, 2015 in Fixing Families
There are 3 ways of coping with anxiety. How does your style match up with your partners?

9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 7: Initial Acceptance

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on January 25, 2015 in Me Before We
For now, know that it’s okay if the moments of clarity and the realization that you’ll be okay are submerged more often than experienced.

Get Past Dead-End Conversations With Your Kids

By Gail Heyman Ph.D. on January 24, 2015 in Let's Talk
For many parents, dead-end conversations with their kids have become part of the daily routine. The key to getting unstuck is finding the right questions to ask.

“Last Call”

The "Last Call" phenomenon describes the desperation-fueled perception of desirability that often accompanies relationship shopping when you are hungry.

Intervening in Family Conflict

By Jeffery S Smith M.D. on January 24, 2015 in Healing and Growing
To intervene on a family in conflict, we need to understand the mammalian brain and how to help members move from a state of defense to one of empathy and understanding. Here is how to recognize what is happening and intervene.

The 9 Stages of Grieving a Breakup No. 6: Relapse

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on January 24, 2015 in Me Before We
By reconciling, you relieve the agony of withdrawal, at least temporarily.

6 Ways to Get More Comfortable With Others, and Yourself

Social skills are a vital tool to promote success in life. You may think that the socially adept among us are born, not bred. These 7 simple tips can help you gain the skills you need to handle any situation with charm and grace.

Too Big For Suddenly Bigger Britches

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on January 23, 2015 in Ambigamy
If you have been down a while and suddenly see an opening to climb out of your rut it can breed delusions of grandeur. You can overshoot, going from "less than" to "more than" rather than "equal to" with respect to others.