Essential Reads

Sisters Choosing Him for Themselves

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on February 09, 2016 in Attraction, Evolved
Research shows that women value physical attractiveness more when choosing a partner for themselves than for a sister.

The “Airbag” of Depersonalization: Shield or Disorder?

By Elena Bezzubova on February 09, 2016 in The Search for Self
The painful experience of unreality safeguards from a danger.

Why It's So Important to Banter With Young Children

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on February 08, 2016 in Joyful Parenting
Banter, or informal and spontaneous chatting, joking, and storytelling, builds a foundation for knowledge, skills, and relationships.

Depathologizing Sexual Eroticism

Discovering a partner’s surprising porn-viewing habits can be disturbing, but it can also be a gateway to greater understanding and compassion.

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Don't Say These 5 Things Before Somebody Leaves

You'll be recalled with more affection, respect and warmth if you're remembered with a cheering smile and not with sobs, snivels and the dry-heaves.

Deciphering A Stranger's Eye Contact

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on January 03, 2016 How To Do Life
Five types of eye-contact and what each might signify.

Penis Pumps: Play With Size. Treat ED.

By Michael Castleman M.A. on January 02, 2016 All About Sex
Useful and fun, you'd think penis pumps would be more popular.

Is the New Year Really the Best Time to Declare a New You?

By Gregg McBride on January 02, 2016 The Weight-ing Game
2016 is the year you can lose your excess weight. But only if you think of yourself with love, acceptance and the knowledge that you got it goin' on -- even as you are right now.

When is Good Good Enough?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on January 02, 2016 How To Do Life
When making a big decision, what information to get and when to stop ruminating and act.

Overcoming BPD - 9 New Years Resolutions

By Blaise Aguirre M.D. on January 01, 2016 On the Borderline
In dealing with the 9 symptoms of BPD, a regular mindfulness practice can make a lasting impact. Here is a specific practice.

Are You Saying This One Word That Hurts Your Love?

Words really can destroy relationships. Especially this one....

Reconsidering Resolutions

By Lydia Denworth on January 01, 2016 Brain Waves
No more same old, same old resolutions this year. They don't work anyway. I'm trying on a new attitude instead.

The Art of Being Stupid

When interacting with others — trainees, customers, children — we should try to take their perspective by dialing back our knowledge and expertise to achieve a beginner's mind.

2015 Best and Worst Sex List

It was a wild year for sex! Here are 25 of the most intriguing, perplexing, and stunning sex stories this year.

The Real Meaning Behind 9 Crazy Kid Behaviors

These 9 types of seemingly "bad" child behaviors are often just kids' way of communicating their fundamental needs.

Questions to Ask Yourself at the New Year

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on December 31, 2015 How To Do Life
Prompts to help you reflect on 2015 and decide what you want to do in 2016.

The Khan Academy of the Cl*toris

Is your New Year's resolution - be better in bed? Do you wonder: How do I make her want to have sex more often? What makes a woman have an orgasm? How do I tell him what I like?

Love What You Do, Pour Your Heart Into It and You'll Succeed

Do you need some motivation to kick-start your New Year's Resolutions? In this blog post, Christopher Bergland shares his personal story of becoming a Guinness World Record holder.

3 Hard-Earned Lessons of Love and Attraction

This time of year, we all try to learn from the past and create a better future. I learned some things about love that might help you have better future relationships too.

How Connected Are You to Your Life?

By Rubin Khoddam on December 31, 2015 The Addiction Connection
In this age of social media, we're more virally connected and physically disconnected than ever before. Find ways to regain that connection back into your life.

Give & Take with Adam Grant, Top Contrarian Self-Help Expert

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on December 31, 2015 How To Do Life
His contraintuitive ideas and my reactions to them.

Mental Voice-Over?

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on December 30, 2015 The Dolphin Divide
Do internal sound-tracks color your communication? Experienced communicators can often make more from less, predicting what will come next before messages are complete.

Why You Should Kiss More

By Tamar Chansky Ph.D. on December 30, 2015 Worry Wise
There's nowhere to hide in a kiss, and hiding is not so good for marriages. So, a way of not hiding that is free, fast, and doesn't require a babysitter? That's a good thing.

Sometimes He Doesn't Want Sex--and You Do

By Temma Ehrenfeld on December 30, 2015 Open Gently
Men can lose interest in sex, too. The prime suspects are work issues, depression, or medical problems.

The Sexual Call of the Holidays

By Mark Borigini M.D. on December 29, 2015 Overcoming Pain
Grindr, an app for gay men, had a 15% rise in activity on Thanksgiving and usually experiences a 30% to 50% increase on Dec. 25, according to an article on ""

Why People Really Have Affairs

Affairs often have very little do with the other person. Instead, they reveal a deep, inner longing to be noticed and valued.

9 Powerful Ways Gratitude Can Change Your Life

Gratitude is the most under utilized super power of all time.

So You Don't Want Sex, and He Does

By Temma Ehrenfeld on December 29, 2015 Open Gently
Don't ignore your man's desire. Too many women are surprised when men leave sexless marriages.

7 Ways to Give Your Partner a Boost

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on December 29, 2015 In Practice
A key way that relationships benefit the individuals involved is when partners help each other see strengths that the individual doesn’t see in themselves.

Friends Offer Support During Divorce, Offline and On

By Wendy Paris on December 29, 2015 Splitopia
Connection to others helps regulate emotions, which is one reason your spouse might act crazy in divorce; she's missing the beneficial connection to you. Online community can help.

Getting Through the Holidays - Part 2

Is the holiday season a stressful time of year for you? Consider the following resources to turn stress into comfort.

So You're In a Relationship with a Narcissist, Now What?

Part 3 of a 3-part series on how to cope when you are in a relationship with a narcissist.

8 More Signs You're With a Narcissist

Eight more signs you may be in a relationship with a narcissist.

The One Sentence That Changes Everything

By Karl Albrecht Ph.D. on December 28, 2015 BrainSnacks
Knowing the power and influence of the first sentence can enable you to influence others more effectively than you might ever have thought possible.