Essential Reads

Six Ways to Get What You Want without Whining

Do people call you a whiner? These 6 tips will you get your way the right way

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 8

Are Women really More Talkative than Men?

Should Couples Share Their Sexual Fantasies?

Sexual fantasies excite the imagination—and sometimes are better left there.

What Not to Say to a Depressed Person

Depression isn’t just a matter of moral weakness or willpower

Recent Posts on Relationships

Why Falling in Love Can Be So Scary

Why Falling In Love Can Be So Scary. Powerful feelings of longing are unexpectedly stirred. By Melissa Ritter, Ph.D.

How to Turn "If Only" Worries into Positive Alternatives

Making the smallest decision, even during a crises can help restore equilibrium.

Duggar Sisters Interview: Disturbing Message About Sex Abuse

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on June 06, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
The Duggar sisters' attempt to whitewash the sexual abuse is problematic, sending a message to perpetrators and victims that a little over-the-clothes touching isn't really so bad.

Why Pride Is Nothing to Be Proud Of

We may pride ourselves on our achievements and accomplishments, but clinging to pride can become a trap that disconnects us from ourselves and others. In contrast, cultivating a sense of dignity can free us to honor and be ourselves just as we are. We create suffering for ourselves when cling to a sense of superiority. Dignity allows us to more more freely through life.

Build Your EQ With These 7 Constructive Thinking Tools

The quality of your emotional intelligence, or “street smarts,” can help you achieve greater success in your daily life. These 7 types of constructive thinking will help you understand and improve your ability to put your EQ to use.

The Kindness of Strangers

There's no need to make excuses for human kindness. We should celebrate it is one of the most fundamental aspects of human nature.

Stories of Seclusion: A Person Became Reclusive As She Aged

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 06, 2015 in How To Do Life
An installment in a series on people who spend much time alone.

Chris Soules: Is it Over Before it Begins?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on June 05, 2015 in Shrink Wrap
Ending before you start?

Hippo Love

With a reputation for aggressiveness, the hippopotamus is not usually thought of as "loving." But in a new book, "A Hippo Love Story," a more nuanced picture is revealed about these freshwater giants. The key to love, it seems, is good communication.

To Be More Intimate with Your Partner, Know Yourself First

Too many couples focus on sex and affection, ignoring other important skills that will ultimately best protect their ability to stay intimate over the long-term. What are those skills?

Emotionality - A 'Core Characteristic' of ADHD?

Use these specific strategies to manage the emotional responses that come with ADHD.

The Ratio of Love

The sex ratio influences men's mating and parenting effort. In a mating market, more men can mean more stable relationships and child-rearing. Yet this may be surprising when we also imagine men's lives in male-dominated social niches, like frontier mining towns, where plenty of gambling, prostitution and gun-toting can prevail.

Detaching with Love

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on June 05, 2015 in A Family Affair
Family and friends often feel trapped in their loved one’s addiction. Their challenge is to let go with love.

Ten Things Women Need to Know About Sex and Relationships

By Isadora Alman MFT on June 05, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Women's wisdom like these ten insights into sex and relationships are invaluable and rare.

7 Tips for Talking About Anything With Anyone

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on June 05, 2015 in Wander Woman
Giving feedback can hurt instead of help a relationship. If you need something to treat you in a different way, follow these 7 steps to help you agree on a way forward that is more respectful and rewarding for you both.

Empowerment and Better Health Through Assertive Behavior

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on June 05, 2015 in Think Well
Are you passive or aggressive when being assertive is usually the best choice? Here's why assertiveness is an essential life skill that empowers people, boosts their self-confidence, enhances relationships, and might even reduce certain health risks.

How to Avoid Raising a Narcissist

By Craig Malkin PhD on June 05, 2015 in Romance Redux
Praise doesn't create narcissists. Here's what does.

Monkey See, Monkey Don't

It important to continue to explore not just the sticky irrelationship dynamic that we have seen so many many of us get tangled up in, but also to ask: what are the resiliency factors? What allows one person from the same family to break the pattern, when others cannot?

Come Again?

There is perhaps no larger mystery in the science of human reproduction than the role of the female orgasm. Evolutionary theories tend to argue that the female orgasm either aids in mate selection or is just a by-product of shared development with males. Where the orgasm is concerned, there might be more to the story.

5 Special Questions To Ask Your Father—Before It’s Too Late.

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., J.D. on June 04, 2015 in All Grown Up
Storytelling can be a powerful opportunity to reinforce your values and teach important life lessons to your child. Whether you choose to be the question-asker, the storyteller, or both, take some time to celebrate Father’s Day with a beautiful round of family storytelling.

Saying No: the Most Affirming and Authentic Thing You Can Do

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on June 04, 2015 in Living Single
The "Affirmative No" is "the refusal to pursue a course of action that, on serious reflection, you discover is not right for you." It can be the most important, affirming, and authentic act of your life.

Are You in the Mood?

By Erica B Slotter Ph.D. on June 04, 2015 in Me, You, & Us
Mis-matched feelings of sexual desire are an incredibly common problem in relationships today. Sometimes you're in the mood and your partner isn't, sometimes it's the other way around. Brand new research has investigated how people with different relationship motivations handle these dilemmas to find sexual and relationship satisfaction.

3 Steps to Resolving Conflict Within Your Family

By Aldo Civico Ph.D. on June 04, 2015 in Turning Point
Conflicts with our loved ones are the most painful to deal with.

What One Thing Is Most Important?

By Gretchen Rubin on June 04, 2015 in The Happiness Project
Agree, disagree? How would you fill in the blank?

Where Have All the Members Gone?

By Roy Eidelson Ph.D. on June 04, 2015 in Dangerous Ideas
Milton Strauss was a member of the American Psychological Association for almost fifty years. His recent resignation is further evidence that the APA’s leadership has failed its members and the profession.

Stories of Seclusion:Too Often Burned, She Becomes Reclusive

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 04, 2015 in How To Do Life
After many unhappy relationships, she chooses a largely solitary existence.

A Date With Self: 14 Ways to Find Solitude and Its Benefits

People are often afraid of silence and solitude because it feels too much like loneliness. But there is a vast difference that you come to appreciate once you make a date with yourself.

Love and the Passive-Aggressive Personality

While you can help your partner verbalize their feelings and you can tell them what is and isn't ok with you—and hold them accountable, you are the only person whose behavior you can control.

5 Asian Love Languages

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on June 03, 2015 in Minority Report
The way traditional Asian parents express love to their children in America is often "lost in translation". Consequently mental health issues of low self-esteem, addictions, feeling unloved, and other relational challenges arise out of the complexity of being caught in a cultural crossroad.

Notes from My Divorce: 5 Coping Strategies that Worked

By Peg Streep on June 03, 2015 in Tech Support
Stressful situations, such as divorce, put our emotional skillsets to the test. Here's one writer's take on what research recommends and what worked for her in real life.