Essential Reads

The Psychology of Tipping

Do American tipping practices help the customer more than the waitstaff?

How to Put Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes

Empathy works by analogy, mirror neurons, or embodied simulation.

8 Secret Body Language Cues That Can Control Your Behavior

How others can trigger your senses and emotions.

When Adults Struggle With Their Relationships

At holidays, the focus is on family - some siblings do not get along though

Recent Posts on Relationships

Book Review: Staci Sprout’s Naked in Public

The most important aspect of Naked in Public is that it presents a very real and much needed look at the pain and darkness of female sexual compulsivity, coupled with an equally real and necessary message of hope. Staci Sprout’s story is proof positive that recovery, healing, and a better life are possible.

Compromise Made Simple: 7 Handy Tips for Couples

Even if you marry the person of your dreams—the “one of all ones”—you still won’t live happily ever after. Humans that we are, we inevitably run into problems when our wants and needs don’t match our mate’s. And unless we become skilled in the fine art of compromise, in such situations our relationship can quickly degrade into feelings of dissatisfaction and discontent.

5 Facts Everyone Must Know About Domestic Violence

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. There is a great deal to be understood about domestic violence. This blog explores some important facts.

Dharma and Lifelong Love

By The Book Brigade on October 29, 2015 The Author Speaks
Finding the “right” partner requires attracting the right kinds of people into your life. The ancients no less than the moderns developed systems for achieving that. Aligning with the order of the universe—dharma—has as much relevance today as it did thousands of years ago.

Do Your Students Struggle With Hikikomori?

By Tim Elmore on October 29, 2015 Artificial Maturity
Have you heard of “Hikikomori”? It’s a phenomenon that we first read about in Japan.

Why Do We Like Watching Scary Films?

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on October 29, 2015 In Excess
Why do we love to watch scary horror films? Some psychologists claim people go to horror films because they want to be frightened or they wouldn't do it twice. You choose your entertainment because you want it to affect you. But what else does the literature tell us about the psychology of horror movies?

For Halloween Love and Sex, Wear Red and Smile

To look more sexually desirable, try bright red lips and a red dress.

Our Love Affair with Thrillers and Suspense

By Jenni Ogden Ph.D. on October 28, 2015 Trouble in Mind
Thrillers and Psychological Suspense are two of the most popular fiction and film genres. Why are so many of us addicted to them, and what’s wrong with everyone else who isn’t!

Relationships and Being a Great Partner

You might be wondering how being single has anything to do with being in a successful relationship with others, but it does.

Treating Sleep Apnea Could Save Your Sex Life

By Temma Ehrenfeld on October 28, 2015 Open Gently
Treating sleep apnea or choosing to sleep apart may improve your sex life.

Bliss Molecules and Love Hormones Propel Our Social Networks

Neuroscientists from the University of California, Irvine have discovered that the “love hormone” oxytocin stimulates the brain production of self-produced cannabis neurotransmitters called endocannabinoids—which are also known as the “bliss molecule." This dynamic duo enhances the pleasure of social interactions and drives our human urge for intimate relationships.

A Guilty Pleasure: Being With People From Your Background

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 28, 2015 How To Do Life
Implications for relationships and for the workplace.

Five Reasons People Abuse their Partners

Why do some people abuse their partners? The answers will surprise you. A therapist who runs a treatment program for abusive partners writes about why many people behave abusively in their intimate relationships.

For Happy Kids, Keep Your Divorce Out of Court

By Wendy Paris on October 27, 2015 Splitopia
Keeping your divorce out of court can help you create a positive, peaceful co-parenting plan. Fighting in court over child support or visitation hurts children, and a settlement hammered out in seething resentment can look downright crazy once the smoke clears. Help is on the way.

Divorcing Differently: End a Marriage, Save the Relationship

Often, divorce probably will be ugly as it seems to inevitably signify the end of fighting for each other and the beginning of fighting against each other. But what if sometimes it didn’t? What if sometimes we are able to keep fighting for each other in the midst of the change? What if we chose to divorce differently? A "differently divorced" woman shares her experiences.

Should You Follow Your Heart or Your Head?

We often hear it said that it’s better to listen to your heart rather than your head. However, when and to what extent is this good advice?

When Have People Been Caring?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on October 27, 2015 Your Wise Brain
Sometimes we feel embarrassed about our yearnings to be cared about. But they are completely normal - and deeply rooted in evolution. Love, broadly defined, has been the primary driver of the development of the brain over the last 80 million years.

How You Can Tell that Deep Down, Solitude Is Your Thing

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 27, 2015 Living Single
A wildly popular article identified 10 signs that you are perfectly happy with solitude. Most of them were spot-on. But the author got it wrong about the kinds of people focused primarily on fulfilling their own needs.

Breathwork as a Treatment for Addiction?

By Amy Dresner on October 26, 2015 Coming Clean
Just Breathe! Breathwork for Addiction.

Strategies to Handle a Drama Queeen

By Judith Orloff M.D. on October 26, 2015 Emotional Freedom
The rollercoaster antics of a drama queen can put you on overload, and wipe you out. Learn how to protect your energy from this energy vampire.

Too Busy to Trust!

What is that busy-all-the time feeling doing to our ability or desire to build trusted work relationships? Trust building is a process that requires time. Is busyness hurting trust building?

4 Ways to Curb Halloween Candy Highs and Rethink the Myth

Is the sugar high we see at Halloween really just a myth?

How to Finally End Up With the Right Partner

Each new partner seems so much better than the last one, at least in the beginning. But looking back, the similarities between them are undeniable. Until we become aware of unconscious needs that haven't been met, we'll attract the same person over and over again.

Kevin Powell’s Skill to Be Real

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on October 26, 2015 Brick by Brick
Kevin Powell explains how no matter what we face, if we can find our sense of purpose, we can build the best version of who we are —our real self.

The Mating Game Is Changing —And You Won't Believe How

By Hara Estroff Marano on October 26, 2015 Nation of Wimps
Mating is changing in some very surprising ways in response to an increasing shortage of high-quality men. When it comes to mating, it turns out, numbers change psychology.

14 Ways to Be a Better Online Dater

By Vinita Mehta Ph.D., Ed.M. on October 26, 2015 Head Games
How can you convert online interest into an offline date? New research reveals evidence-based tips on how to increase your chances of meeting a potential match in person.

"Hey This Isn't A Competition And You Have Cooties So I Win"

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on October 25, 2015 Ambigamy
When we want to end arguments without admitting defeat we often accuse our opponents of having negative emotions which we treat as the equivalent of having cooties. Here's how it works and why its not just insulting to them but dangerous for us to end arguments this way.

Pound for Pound: Shelter Dogs Love a Woman Back to Life

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on October 25, 2015 Animal Emotions
A new book by Shannon Kopp, "Pound for Pound: A Story of One Woman's Recovery and the Shelter Dogs Who Loved Her Back to Life," is an inspirational gem.

Why Can’t I Get Over My Ex?

An ex can occupy our thoughts and heart for days, months, or even years after a break-up. When you can’t seem to get over an ex, more accurately remembering how our relationship really was can help us move on.

Why Do the Lonely Stay Lonely?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on October 24, 2015 Media Spotlight
A new research study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology takes a closer look at chronic loneliness in adolescents and how they respond to being socially included or excluded. Results suggest that fear of rejection can play a powerful role in reinforcing long-term patterns of loneliness.