Essential Reads

Getting to the Source

Confessions of a Replication Scientist

Why You Shouldn’t Give Friends Unsolicited Love Advice

Unwanted advice is more likely to harm than help the recipient.

Now You See It, Now You Don’t: The Many Faces of Narcissism

It’s time for narcissism to be “rebranded”—enter "Rethinking Narcissism."

This Trait Costs Men Money, but Makes Them Marriage Material

Would you rather have a broke partner or a broken heart?

Recent Posts on Relationships

Eye of the Beholder: The Brain Sabotaging Love

By Billi Gordon Ph.D. on August 02, 2015 in Obesely Speaking
Expectations, which are influenced by social norms, filter reality about the world, others, and our selves. As a result we could walk right past Mr. or Ms. Right without ever recognizing them.

10 Signs of a Passive-Aggressive Relationship

The NYU Medical Center defines a passive-aggressive individual as someone who "may appear to comply or act appropriately, but actually behaves negatively and passively resists.” A passive-aggressive relationship can occur in romantic partnership, family, social circles, or at the workplace. Here are ten common traits passive-aggressive people exhibit in relationships...

Sex and Spirituality

Spirituality is about discovering who we really are, and sexuality is obviously part of that. Neither repression nor over-indulgence lead to lasting joy or spiritual maturity. We each need to find another way.

When Parents Date Someone New, What's Best for the Kids?

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on August 01, 2015 in Nurturing Resilience
Though parents are moving in and out of romantic relationships more often, there are things they can do to make these transitions easier for their children.

The Surprising Way Social Media Boosts Romantic Commitment

According to research, making things "Facebook Official" with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or lover could help create a lasting love. Find out how to post, share, update, and like your way to long-term relationship happiness.

Tom Brady, Difficult Conversations & Dr Hank

We all have them but none of us like them. Now you have a game plan.

4 Reasons Best Friends Stick Together (or Come Apart)

As most of us look back over our lives, best friends have entered our lives, but they’ve also exited them. What factors determine if your best friend today will be your best friend forever?

Make Me a Match Made in Heaven - A New Crash Course

By Eyal Winter on July 31, 2015 in Feeling Smart
"Make Me a Match Made in Heaven" What Evolution, Psychology and Economics say about romance and reproduction. Stay Tuned!

7 Reasons You May Not Get What You Need

If you have trouble expressing your needs it's not necessarily because you're an introvert, but some introverted behaviors might contribute to the problem.

What Can Anger Do for Me?

How to use anger wisely and keep yourself safe.

When Love Goes Bad at the Office

When the breakup happens, people may take sides. Coalitions may form. Who’s the bad one who caused the breakup? This makes for high drama at the office.

6 Things Women Secretly Know About Relationships

We want to be your friend but if we’re sexually/erotically involved, we want to be acknowledged as more than your friend. If we’re living together, you shouldn’t say, “This is my housemate” or “This is my roommate.” If we’ve been a couple, openly and happily, for more than a few months, let’s figure out a way to present ourselves to the world as more than “just friends.”

Why Grow and Make Your Own Food? Especially as an Artist?

Why grow and make your own food? Why put it in all those hours slaving under the hot sun, covered with dirt, when you could stroll through an air-conditioned grocery store? Why spend all that time processing milk when there are others who can do it for you? And what does it have to do with being an artist?

No, No, No, I Love YOU

By Bernard L. De Koven on July 31, 2015 in On Having Fun
A word game that sometimes takes you both beyond words into something very much like deep, loving, intimate glee.

The Psychology of Touch: The Taboo of Physical Contact

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on July 31, 2015 in A Sideways View
Who can you physically touch at work? A handshake may be acceptable but what about a "high five" or a bear hug, or even a kiss on the cheek? This whole area has become a minefield such that many of us are too terrified to have any form of physical contact with anyone publically lest one is accused of some immoral act or intention?

The Trouble With Facebook

We need Facebook etiquette rules.

Fading Fast: Is 'Thank You' a Thing of the Past?

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on July 30, 2015 in The Dolphin Divide
How to reinvigorate the power of appreciation. Despite our well-meaning efforts to appreciate our fellows, our favorite phrase of acknowledgment seems to be ringing hollow these days. Can “Thank you” be restored to its former glory by capitalizing on the psychology of message delivery -- or are we doomed to a thankless world?

5 Ways Relationships Can Go Wrong (and 3 Ways to Fix Them)

Relationships get stuck or can't move forward because one or both partners don't feel safe. Here are 5 of the common causes and ways to make it better

Eugenics, Love, and the Marriage Problem

By Elliot Hosman J.D. on July 30, 2015 in Genetic Crossroads
When gazing deeply into a lover's eyes, eugenists advised, women should not look for the "yearning, burning, soulful fires, which rage in the erotic litany of love," but for symptoms of eye disease.

Why We Love Each Other, Warts (Especially) and All

For all those who live in fear of making a mistake, take heart. According to research, making mistakes makes us more, not less, likable.

Do Dog Owners Make Better Lovers? Some Scientific Answers

By Peg Streep on July 30, 2015 in Tech Support
Some studies have shown that dog owners like to dominate but that they're also more sociable than people without pets or people who prefer cats. But did you know that the presence of a dog changes how we assess someone, even a stranger? That and more....

The Surprising Shadow Side of a Narcissist

Like the boy Narcissus in the Greek tale, narcissists are in love with their own appearance. They expect others to be mirrors of themselves.

An Unexpected Chord

Disagreement don't need to poison relationships

Things Not to Say to a New Widow

It's best to avoid these five phrases.

Cat Lovers In Denial

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on July 29, 2015 in Am I Right?
Love wears rose-colored glasses and that ain't good.

How Do You Feel About Gifts?

By Gretchen Rubin on July 29, 2015 in The Happiness Project
How about you? How do you feel about gifts?

13 Steps to Better Relationships...And Peace of Mind

By Meg Selig on July 28, 2015 in Changepower
You can use mindfulness techniques to create a more peaceful mind. But good social relationships may be just as important.

3 Reasons to Take a Break After a Breakup

By Wendy Paris on July 28, 2015 in Splitopia
We may think that divorce opens the door to a rousing round of nonstop dating, but many people find they need a break between marriage and getting back out there. Taking a break can bring real benefits.

Why We Feel Insecure, and How We Can Stop

It’s natural to feel insecure from time to time, but these feelings can get in the way of your happiness. Figuring out where those insecurities come from is the first step to overcoming them.

Invisible

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on July 28, 2015 in A Family Affair
Conflict is a part of every relationship. It’s often more pronounced for family’s affected by addiction. Often moms, dads, sisters and brothers disagree on how best to handle the thorny situations fueled by the addict’s behavior.