Essential Reads

The Science of Betrayal

This is your brain on betrayal

Hate Small Talk? It’s a Skill Worth Learning

5 Ways to Make Conversation about Unimportant Things

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

... including the truth about rebound relationships.

Are Babies Contagious?

Why parenthood spreads through social networks.

Recent Posts on Relationships

Three Reasons to Not (Always) Trust

The kind of trust that builds good work relationships has conditions, boundaries, and limits. But, do you know them? Do you understand when not to trust?

Who Participates in Dog-sporting Events and Why?

Although people can be highly competitive in the various dog-sports, recent research shows that internal motives and social benefits are more important than trophies and accolades.

The Best Way to Deal With Controlling People

Controllers are hard to spot and will turn the tables on you. Learn how not to give in to the control.

Surprise

By The Book Brigade on March 26, 2015 in The Author Speaks
Surprise is good for the brain, great for relationships, and adds a certain frisson all around. Without it, life is lackluster. So why don't more people embrace the unexpected? They run from it or try to subdue it when they should instead roll with it.

Why We Laugh, and Why We Need To

By Rob Kendall on March 26, 2015 in Blamestorming
How does laughter work? Who laughs more when telling a joke - the speaker or the listener? Are there different types of laughter? And do we laugh randomly or not?

What No One Tells You About Avoidant Men

A subgroup of men with an avoidant attachment style suffer from a condition known as the Madonna-whore complex. Men with this complex assign Madonna status to some women and whore status to others.

10 Awkward Moments, and 6 Ways to Escape Them

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 25, 2015 in Living Single
We all have socially awkward experiences, but what makes a social interaction so uncomfortable? Research has pointed to 10 kinds of experiences that are especially likely to make people feel awkward, and 6 things people can do to escape from the awkwardness (without just walking away) and feel comfortable again.

9 Ways to Restore Balance to a Relationship

Do you feel the power has been shifting in your relationship? Did you suddenly find yourself adjusting your calendar according to your partner’s schedule, canceling appointments to have lunch with her (or him), waiting for her to call or write, following her around like a little puppy dog? Here are 10 ways to change things around.

4 Reasons Kids Stop Respecting Their Parents

Just telling kids their behavior is not okay is not enough

10 Signs That Your Lover Is Commitment Phobic

True commitment phobia is fear of any kind of commitment that involves other people, not just relationship commitment. Here are 10 signs that can help you spot it.

6 Myths About Intimacy

Both men and women have myths about intimacy. The problem with these myths is that when believed, they can result in dysfunctional relationships.

Sex in the Head

What is sexual desire? Is it raw, animal instinct? Or is it something more mindful?

Smart Strategies to Detect a Liar Online

More than 20 million people visit online dating services every months. But there is a lot of creeps out there. Some online-daters put up photos from 20 years ago. Some lie about their age, their job situation, their marital status, or their personality traits. Given all this uncertainty, how do you best navigate through the jungle of online profiles?

Is Flirting Ever Unethical?

Can flirting be unethical? The answer to that question depends on what counts as flirting.

Obama and Netanyahu in Family Therapy

After the initial evaluation and assessment, the therapist identified three classic family dysfunctions that exist in the relationship between Barack and Bibi: enmeshment, triangulation, and emotional cut-offs.

Emboldened by Email: Walking the Talk

Is email good for relationships or not? Does it foster connectedness? Does it allow for the confessional moment which face to face contact inhibits? OR does email (as well as its cousin, texting) provide a constant distraction from being present with one another?

One Key to a Good Marriage

By Michael W Austin on March 25, 2015 in Ethics for Everyone
For a good marriage, focus on being the right person.

Are You on the Fence? 10 Questions to Help Set Yourself Free

By Peg Streep on March 25, 2015 in Tech Support
Are you someone who second-guesses every big decision to death? Do you find yourself unable to move one way or another? Here are some questions that can possibly help...

What We Need Most From a Relationship

When you think about your ideal romantic partner, it’s not hard to generate that list of traits that describes your dream man or woman. And the closer your current partner is to those ideals, the happier you’ll be. But not all ideals are created equal. Partners who meet your ideals on certain types of traits are more likely to make you happy.

Should You Make Choices for Your Kids?

Parents need to be concerned about the choices their kids make. The quality of your presence and support as your child explores and sorts through the options establishes the basis for his and her confident and solid decision-making when he and she are on their own.

8 Ways to Divorce-Proof Your Relationship

Married and want to stay that way? You can do a lot to impact your odds of lasting love. While the odds of divorce remain high, there's nothing that says you have to become a statistic. Check in here for strategies you can use n what you can do to make that difference.

Yet Another Study Reporting Loneliness Can Kill You…

By Sean Seepersad Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in Web of Loneliness
Apparently the media have long-term memory loss. Every time another study comes out showing that loneliness is indeed deadly, they jumps on it like it was not something we knew before. But I guess you would expect that with a topic like loneliness. After all, who remembers anything about loneliness?

Meeting Your Conditions for Sex

By Isadora Alman MFT on March 24, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Not having your conditions for good sex met is a frequent cause of failed erections and no orgasms.

Resilience: 4 Ways to Move Forward After Time Stands Still

Resiliency is a gift, but in some ways it is an art that can be cultivated.

Principles of Parting

By Wendy Paris on March 24, 2015 in Splitopia
Create principles of parting to help you adhere to your values, manifest your strengths and move through divorce more smoothly.

2 Reasons Why People Don't Get to Know the Real You

Assumptions come in many varieties, but two of the most powerful and pervasive of these are confirmation bias and the primacy effect.

Who Needs Marriage?

By Renee Garfinkel Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in Time Out
Diversity, inequality and social change are an important context in which to view the decline in marriage and other changes in American family life.

We Really Do Die Alone

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on March 24, 2015 in Brick by Brick
When working to improve public health, there are often many things that we simply can't change. Social isolation has proven to be a robust and significant risk factor of poor health and early mortality. And there is something we can do about it.