Essential Reads

The Benefits of Embracing the Ordinary

Why you should take the time to capture the mundane in your everyday life

Departing Earth

What does it say to leave your home planet forever?

Sex in the Head

What may look like pure physical arousal is usually much more complicated.

Obama and Netanyahu in Family Therapy

Mr. President and Mr. Prime Minister, for the sake of world peace, call me.

Recent Posts on Relationships

Having a Baby: When You Don't Agree

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on February 26, 2015 in Fixing Families
Being on different pages about having children can be a major relationship roadblock. The key is uncovering the problem under the problem -- some likely suspects.

3 Reasons Your Kids Won't Take "No" For An Answer

By Erica Reischer Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in What Great Parents Do
The surprising truth about why your kids won't take "no" for an answer and what to do about it

Should You Write With a Partner?

By Dennis Palumbo on February 25, 2015 in Hollywood on the Couch
Learn the pros and cons of writing with a partner.

7 Ways Your Relationship Can Change Who You Are

Who you are is less stable than you think, especially when it comes to the influence of romantic partners.

What Color Should You Wear on a First Date?

Maximize your attractiveness in that online dating profile pic or on that first date

The Benefits of a Coach During Your Divorce

By Angie Hallier on February 25, 2015 in Life After Divorce
Your divorce will be a time of intense emotions, whether you’re the one that wanted the divorce or not. If you want the divorce, you may feel impatience, eagerness, or detachment. If you did not want the divorce, you are probably feeling sadness, shock, or betrayal. Whatever you are feeling, your emotions may cause your divorce to be much more expensive than it should be.

Is It Time to Track Down the One Who Got Away?

By Duana C. Welch Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in Love Proof
Do you have an old flame you’ve never stopped thinking about? Here’s how to tell if it was the real deal~and whether to reconnect.

Looking for the Right Relationship? Make a Plan!

Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and you’re still alone. Or maybe you’re just wishing you were alone because clearly you’re dating a total loser. Or maybe you’ve decided to address your long-standing dating dilemma with a bold new approach. If you’ve opted for the latter, read on.

Can You be in Love and Still Feel Lonely?

By Kira Asatryan on February 25, 2015 in The Art of Closeness
Determine if your love relationship is making you more or less lonely... and learn what to do about it.

Online Dating: The Dark Side

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on February 25, 2015 in Love, Digitally
These people use devious psychological ploys. Have you ever been suspicious about an online relationship?

When Love Brings Pain - #3

Love is letting down your guard, and defensiveness is snapping it back up. You have good reason to be on guard sometimes, but defensiveness doesn’t get you what you want. Your partner quickly pulls up their guard too, and seconds later a good relationship is off the rails. Here are three alternative strategies.

Why It's Easier to Be Kind to Strangers Than to Our Partners

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on February 24, 2015 in Off the Couch
Ann and Bob have been married for five years and, after trying to get pregnant for two years, have just had their first baby. Their friends and family are all thrilled for them. And while they are both excited to be parents at last, they are also exhausted, anxious and miserable.

Malignant Narcissism and the Murder of a Parent

By Carrie Barron M.D. on February 24, 2015 in The Creativity Cure
This blog explores Malignant Narcissism and the damaging impact that it can have on family members and others.

5 Ways to Get the Most out of Your Relationship

Relationships are an important part of our overall happiness and even our health. As satisfying as they can be, they can also present us with significant challenges. These research-based 5 suggestions will help you tip the cost-reward balance in your favor, for your sake, and that of your partner.

Stars In Their Eyes

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in In Excess
Celebriphilia has been defined as “an intense desire to have a romantic relationship with a celebrity” and shares many similarities with celebrity stalking. It is also a completely modern, man-made phenomenon. But what do we know about celebriphilia?

Want to Damage Your Relationship? Here Are 2 Easy Ways

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on February 24, 2015 in The New Resilience
Troubled couples who seek therapy often show patterns of withdrawal and silent expectation when dealing with conflict; a kind of dance that deepens the damage to their relationships. New research shows how that happens.

Where Does the Anger in Your Relationship Come From?

Everyday love can come with some anger... but is your anger linked to who you are, rather than what your partner did?

The Most Important Word You'll Ever Use

By Tim David on February 23, 2015 in The Magic of Human Connection
What if I told you you were completely ignoring THE most important word in the English language? What if ignoring this has been causing you undue pain and stress and creating tense situations with other people that could have easily been avoided? If you're like most people, you've been missing out on a key to success in life and you don't even know it.

There Is Life After Divorce

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in Emotional Fitness
You can’t rush back into the dating scene before making the necessary realizations about what happened in your previous one. Doing so is just foolish. The old saying holds true here, that if you don’t learn from your mistakes you are doomed to repeat them.

Love And Fear

By J. R. Bruns M.D. on February 23, 2015 in Repairing Relationships
Are you paralyzed by the thought of happiness?

The Benefits of Being Blond

Is it better to be blond? Prior research suggests that blond women enjoy a wage premium and preferential treatment from men. But does this really translate into higher lifetime earnings or better odds of marriage? And might blond men be similarly-advantaged?

Live as if You’ll Die Tomorrow—Write a Will Today

By Cortney S. Warren Ph.D. on February 23, 2015 in Naked Truth
Writing a will is not something most of us think about. Or talk about. Or want to think or talk about. Because writing one reminds us that we are all going to die. Yet, until we find the scientific fountain of youth, death is inevitable. If you want any control over what happens to your belongings and dependents (such as your children and pets), write a will today.

After the Break-Up: When Moving On Seems Impossible

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in Laugh, Cry, Live
It’s impossible to win love when you feel like a loser. If you’re trying to recover a lost relationship, convinced s/he’s the one, yet feeling unworthy, then the affirmations in my popular post “Coping with Distress and Agony After a Break-Up” may fall short. Inspired by a recent comment, here are strategies for reclaiming your power and recovering yourself, first.

Love, Longing and Lust: The Pursuit of Happiness

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in The Empowerment Diary
Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe and sets humans apart from other species. The emotion invites us to transcend into altered states of consciousness which can be very transformative and result in feelings of empowerment.

9 Thoughts That Destroy Loving Relationships

Don't let any of these toxic thoughts overtake you and hurt or destroy your loving relationship.

Serenity: 6 Steps to Peace in the Midst of Change

By Rita Watson MPH on February 22, 2015 in With Love and Gratitude
Keep yourself and your relationship on an even keel and when change comes about -- second guessing will not shatter your peace. .

8 Negative Attitudes of Chronically Unhappy People

All of us experience negative thoughts from time to time. How we manage our negative attitudes can make the difference between confidence versus fear, hope versus despair, mastery versus victimhood, and victory versus defeat. Here are eight negative attitudes of chronically unhappy people...

The Mind of the Authoritarian

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on February 22, 2015 in A Sideways View
It was around 70 years ago that the famous book entitled THE AUTHORITARIAN PERSONALITY was published. What was the central theory and how is it considered today

Can You Trust Married People to Keep a Secret?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 21, 2015 in Living Single
If you have friends who are married, should you assume that those friends share all of your communications and conversations – both the routine ones and those told in confidence – with their spouse? What does it mean if couples see themselves only as a unit and not also as individuals?

Use Curiosity to Hook New Friends

“Curiosity hooks” act as silent invitations for people to initiate conversations.