Essential Reads

How LinkedIn Profiles Reveal User Personality

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 12, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Business profiles are meant for professional networking, yet research indicates we leak our true personalities through sites meant to showcase our professional identity.

Easy Ways to Tell Whether You’re an Inadvertent Narcissist

There are several basic keys to understanding who’s a narcissist but what about if the narcissist is you? New research shows how to tell if without realizing you’re one yourself.
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Is It Last Call for the Gay Bar?

By Adam Gerace Ph.D. on December 12, 2017 in Knowing Me, Knowing You
Are gay nightclubs and bars still relevant to same-sex attracted people for forming sexual and romantic relationships?

How to Know If Someone Is Right for You

By Sheila Kohler on December 11, 2017 in Dreaming for Freud
I think of the scene in the series "The Crown" where Elizabeth, who is about to be crowned, tells Phillip that if he is man enough he will kneel down before her.

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A Face in the Crowd: What Type of People Are Most Memorable?

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Ever wonder why certain people stand out in your mind? What is it about them that makes them so unforgettable? The answer likely has more to do with you than them.

Magical Thinking and Unloved Daughters: Childhood and Beyond

By Peg Streep on November 13, 2017 in Tech Support
What helps you escape from an unhappy childhood — the power of your imagination — may get in the way of your recovery in adulthood.

Cosmo Writer: Sex With Other Women Made Me a Better Lover

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Standard Deviations
Sex writer Sophie St Thomas reveals how she became a better lover by sleeping with women.

Thinking About Non-Monogamy?

By Samantha Joel on November 13, 2017 in Dating Decisions
Emerging research suggests that non-monogamous relationships can be just as satisfying as monogamous ones.

Seasonal Stalking: How Ex-Lovers Turn Rejection Into Revenge

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Tis the Season. Jilted, persistent paramours and lonely ex-lovers view the holidays as the season to turn rejection into revenge. Recognize when holiday blues become red flags.

Five Mistakes We Make When Complaining

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in The Squeaky Wheel
If you want to get results when you voice a complaint to a partner, friend, or customer service, you need to avoid these five mistakes...

Really Getting Real! Part 1

Being clear about our intention, regarding a future relationship is a crucial factor in the process of finding a suitable and appropriate partner...
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In Love With a Narcissist? 6 Ways to Make It Work

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on November 12, 2017 in Off the Couch
Despite popular belief, loving a narcissist can be rewarding in many ways. What can you do to make sure your love will last?

Some People Truly Don’t Feel Jealousy

Some people in long-term polyamorous relationships initially report that they do not feel jealousy, but over time many of them encounter jealousy triggers in their relationships.

You Just Got Dumped – Nice Timing, Right?

By Joseph Cardillo Ph.D. on November 12, 2017 in Attention Training
These 5 energy changers can help heal your broken heart.
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MeToo: A Watershed Moment

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on November 12, 2017 in Shadow Boxing
Collection of bold narratives from a range of writers, male and female, documents the social movement against sexual assault.

52 Ways: What Motivates Others Who Threaten a Relationship?

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on November 12, 2017 in Life, Refracted
A couple's relationship can be threatened by others. To minimize potential damage, explore conscious or unconscious motives that a third party might have.

The Primal Wound: Do You Have One?

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on November 12, 2017 in Moral Landscapes
Is suffering a necessary part of the human condition? To anticipate doom, fear intimacy, or carry a sense of falseness and meaninglessness? No, say the psychosynthesists.

Checking Out Others? You Probably Think Your Partner Is Too

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on November 11, 2017 in Close Encounters
New research examines whether we project our own wandering eye onto our partners, and how that affects the way we treat them.

Requiem For Leon, A Cat

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on November 11, 2017 in Sex & Sociability
Even a cat, especially a well loved one, deserves a public obituary,

The Wandering Eye and the Green-Eyed Monster

By David Ludden Ph.D. on November 11, 2017 in Talking Apes
New research shows that when people fantasize about illicit affairs, they often project their guilty feelings onto their partner.

Five Ways to Help You Find Your Passion

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on November 11, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
The important thing is to know that there is more of life you can fall in love with. Just give yourself a chance.
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What Suicide Grievers Don't Say

By Elizabeth Young on November 11, 2017 in Adaptations
"There won't be another son," I say quietly.  There's a long silence, and then Jack says. "No. There won't be another son." 

Interpersonal Rules that Undermine Your Relationships #7

By Amy Banks on November 11, 2017 in Wired For Love
In a relational world, you learn that the expectation of doing things “on your own” is stressful and when you body is stressed, your gut takes over.

When Is the Old New Again?: The Case of Jelena

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on November 10, 2017 in Shrink Wrap
Sometimes old relationships are worth rekindling.

Finding Solace Through Stories

By Robyn Fivush Ph.D. on November 10, 2017 in The Stories of Our Lives
Remembering our loved ones through stories helps us heal and bonds our families and friends together in times of grief.

Sometimes You Just Have to Let It Go

Is it enough to forgive and forget?

Insecurity May Enhance Your Ability to Detect Dishonesty

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 09, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Insecurity is related to the ability to detect dishonesty. Your suspicions about your partner´s dishonesty may reveal the honest truth about you.

When an Open Book Is Fiction: Detecting Dishonesty on a Date

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
As much as you want to take the plunge of trust, don't believe everything you hear. Pacing, presentation, and pauses provide several ways to detect deception.

Preventing Trouble With Houseguests

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Presence of Mind
Houseguests can be a dream but they can also be experienced as territorial invaders that create stress and strain, especially if we aren't clear about visit boundaries.

Phubbing—The #1 Phone Habit to Drop For Better Relationships

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Feeling It
Here's what happens to your relationships when you ignore others for your phone.
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Suicide's Grievers (Suicide-2)

By Elizabeth Young on November 08, 2017 in Adaptations
I feel like I don't breathe for 45 minutes, as each person describes the death of their loved one.

Dead Man Talking: Deceased Killers Reveal Motive for Murder

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Words Matter: In retrospect, mass murderers were in the best position to predict the crime. Threat assessors advise us to both look and listen.

How to Love Someone Again After Infidelity

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on November 08, 2017 in SexualityToday
Couples that stay together after infidelity fall into three categories: sufferers, builders, and explorers.
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How can we strengthen our relationships in a "snap?"

Welcome to the relationship gym where regular workouts can build your emotional muscles.