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When Weddings Hurt

Insight into why weddings might be particularly fraught for women.

Seven Warning Signs of Potentially Toxic Relationships

If you have the misfortune to find yourself in a toxic relationship, the “normal response” to an “abnormal situation” can include feelings of suffocation, trepidation, and shame.

If I Can't Have You, No One Can

How can we predict who will kill someone s/he once loved? Look at the dark clouds in the relationship to predict storms after a breakup.

How Likely Is Your Partner to Cheat on You?

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on August 14, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Are you concerned your partner may be seeing someone else when you've agreed to be exclusive? Researchers continue to study infidelity to better understand when and how it happens.

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Like Mother, Like Daughter?

By S.M. Schmitt on July 13, 2017 in Eat, Write, Love
Why do so many daughters of mothers with anorexia nervosa also develop an eating disorder? Current scientific perspectives are discussed

The Most Important Relationship Strength You Must Have

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on July 13, 2017 in Clear Communication
Though our natural inclination is not to do this, new research shows there's one behavior that can keep all of your human relationships happy.

Are Romanticized Expectations Good or Bad for Relationships?

Our culture is full of romantic beliefs: Love conquers all, each of has a soulmate, love at first sight is possible. Is it harmless romanticism or a recipe for disappointment?

Creating Safe Spaces

The idea of creating a safe space is well-intentioned. But creating a safe space takes work.

Want to Change an Important Habit?

By Gretchen Rubin on July 12, 2017 in The Happiness Project
Do you want to make a significant change in your life? Or help someone else to make an important change?

Some Forms of Compassion Are More “Acceptable” Than Others

Everything is a matter of perception, including empathy and compassion.

Wedding Blues

By Kathy McCoy Ph.D. on July 12, 2017 in Complicated Love
The wedding of a loved one can be a joyous occasion or one filled with drama and emotional minefields. But there are ways you can cut the drama and increase the possibility of joy.

Seven Factors Comprising Resilience

We often feel like the vase in the kiln that we are being baked alive, angry at our predicament or angry at who we believe is victimizing us.

The Perils of Popularity

Likability is conducive to the establishment of satisfying relationships, personal and professional fulfillment, and good health. But popularity grounded in status can be harmful.

Why Women Have Affairs

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on July 12, 2017 in Love, Digitally
Engaging in infidelity might increase a female’s perceptions of her self-esteem.

Do You Have #hashtag Friends or Real Friends?

Popular people are more resilient, live longer, and report fewer severe symptoms of the common cold. But be careful, true friends are different from #hashtag friends.

Coming to Terms with Infidelity: Men Versus Women

Why do some but not all relationships survive infidelity?

Want to Keep Love Alive? Here's How

There is an idea going around that you may have heard, that-long term relationships eventually and inevitably become flat and boring...

I Feel Your Pain—Is That a Problem?

Empathy is one of the greatest triumphs of humanity. Or is it? Find out why empathy is both great and terrible.
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How to Talk About Feelings With Your Romantic Partner

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on July 10, 2017 in Off the Couch
Many people come into therapy because a romantic partner wants them to share their feelings. But does this really help a relationship?

Short Answers: Marry?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 10, 2017 in How To Do Life
Should you marry your current partner? Should you marry anyone?

The Ordinary Courage of Being Our Selves

If we want to live full, rich lives, we must take the risk to override the shame and to be fully in relationship with others and the word.

Bullying Bosses and Incivility in the Workplace

By Ray Williams on July 09, 2017 in Wired for Success
We are at a crossroads where one road leads to a uncivil workplace dominated by abusive bosses and the other to a kinder, civil workplace led by humanitarian leaders.

Netflix and What?!

Hooking up is an intentionally vague term that is often used to describe a sexual encounter without commitment. It has its own script, which is different from the traditional date.

Relationship Communication Tools

That we sometimes miscommunicate is normal, but most issues can be avoided and harmony restored by just following a few simple guidelines.

Gaslighting: How it Manipulates Relationships

How gaslighting controls, dominates, and exploits relationships.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Provide Comfort

When someone suffers physical or emotional pain, sadness, disappointment, anxiety or fear or frustration, bringing them comfort can illustrate love made useful.

The Life-Changing Magic of Going Your Own Way

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 09, 2017 in Living Single
Guest blogger Ellen Worthing watched all the kayaking couples go in one direction, and she went the other. It did not turn out the way any of them anticipated.

Bright Minds, Anxious Hearts: 9 Secrets of a 'Magnet Mind'

By Jared DeFife Ph.D. on July 08, 2017 in The Shrink Tank
Passionate for learning, emotionally intense, frequently indecisive, and highly achievement striving. What happens when gifted kids grow up to become bright, sensitive adults?

Adult Siblings

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on July 08, 2017 in Life After 50
Are there opportunities for adult siblings to understand and work out unresolved issues that are lurking from childhood?

Summer Reading

Breaking waves and beach houses are lovely, but nothing says summer like a day in the sun with a tote full of books.

Do People Learn More from Mistakes or Successes?

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on July 08, 2017 in Wander Woman
Do you want someone to change? How you do this will affect their brain to either open up or shut down. This post gives you guidance for holding effective growth conversations.

Have Hearing Loss? Try These Six Steps To Communicate Better

By Shari Eberts on July 08, 2017 in Life With Hearing Loss
Do you have trouble communicating with others because of your hearing loss? Set yourself up for success with these six steps.

The 3 Stages of Dating

Like marriages, dating too moves through stages. Here are the common dangers and challenges of this changing landscape. Knowing the terrain can help you navigate the process