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Beyonce: Making Marriage Work?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on April 29, 2016 in Shrink Wrap
Is it worth the effort?

10 Tips to Emotionally Engage Your Partner

Miscommunication damages relationships. Whether it’s from a lack of understanding or something misspoken, you can use your emotions to help you heal.

3 Not So Obvious Things Women Find Attractive in Men

By Vinita Mehta Ph.D., Ed.M. on April 25, 2016 in Head Games
For women, attraction is hardly about good looks and money.

How to Help Someone Who Is Grieving

By Jen Kim on April 25, 2016 in Valley Girl With a Brain
What you should do (or not do) when someone you love is suffering.

More Posts on Relationships

Early Relationships: The Fourth Vital Sign

When a baby is born, taking time to listen to parent and child together should be a top priority.

What Do Your Secret Playlists Reveal About You?

Do your secret playlists bring you the pleasure of private enjoyment or hide aspects of yourself you'd rather not share?

How Hospitals Do Us Wrong

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 26, 2016 Living Single
In this guest post, Dr. Cathy Goodwin explains the many ways in which hospitals make things unnecessarily difficult and risky for people who are single.

Optimism and the ADHD Partner

Some partners think those with ADHD aren't taking their personal or joint marital woes seriously enough. But there may be other things going on.

Is Your Partner Playing Head Games With You?

Head games destroy relationships. Do you know how to spot them?

8 Signs of a Toxic Friendship

Good friendships, bad friendships--there's problems ahead if you can't recognize early on which is which.

5 Ways to Bring More Intimacy into Your Life

More than personal successes or riches, people who are the happiest and physically healthiest in old age are those who maintain close relationships. Here are 5 ways to start.

Does Pornography Demean Women?

Some porn may be ugly or distasteful. But the idea that it "demeans women" is essentially a rejection of female sexuality.

Stop Saying There Are No Good Men if You Want a Good Man

By Shawn T. Smith Psy.D. on March 24, 2016 Ironshrink
I frequently hear some version of “there are no good men” from women who find themselves repeatedly dating the wrong guys. Luckily, there’s a simple (not necessarily easy) fix.

Six Secrets of Success in Love and Work

By Sheila Kohler on March 24, 2016 Dreaming for Freud
It is often from suffering that we learn best how to live.

Unloved Daughters: 4 Tips to Make Self-Compassion Easier

By Peg Streep on March 24, 2016 Tech Support
Why is it so hard to turn off that critical voice in your head? Taking a close look at self-criticism—and how self-compassion can help.

Who Says "I Love You" First (and Why)?

Saying "I love you" is a big deal in relationships. Read on to discover who tends to say these words first, and why.

Couples Need This Even More Than Love

Couples who stay in love and go the distance have this working in their favor.

The Trauma Searchers, Gabor Maté and Ted Cruz

By Stanton Peele on March 24, 2016 Addiction in Society
As social trauma festers and grows, people magnify hurts to their detriment.

Are Open Marriages Psychologically Healthy for Couples?

New forms of sexual-romantic relationships are increasingly visible today. How we assess them psychologically may reflect personal views and assumptions more than real evidence.

Animal Reunions: A PBS Film on the Power of Trust and Love

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on March 24, 2016 Animal Emotions
This outstanding film has incredibly moving scenes and discussions about humans and formerly captive animals reuniting after years apart. It will air on PBS on March 30, 2016.

What Your Dream Vacation Says About You

Not everyone wants to go to Hawaii. Here's why.

Teaching Girls the Truth About Sex

By Temma Ehrenfeld on March 23, 2016 Open Gently
Girls are having far more sex than pleasure. New coming of age ceremonies could allow older women to talk candidly about orgasm.

The Psychology of Murder for Hire

It's pretty common to fantasize about a loved one's demise when we're in the throes of anger, hurt or desperation. But it takes a special person, to put those thoughts into action

Fighting Fair

When it comes to arguing, form trumps substance.

You Can't Change Someone Else. But You Can Do This.

Freedom from the whole blaming/changing the other cycle, ironically, comes from moving our attention away from the other and turning that attention onto ourselves!

How to Get Your Partner to Open Up

You want to talk it out, but your partner or friend is conflict-avoidant and/or giving you the silent treatment. Use this strategy to get them to open up.

5 Things You Must Do To Change The Quality of Relationships

Five things you must do to avoid bad relationships and find real love with a healthy person.

Living in Parts, Dreaming of Wholeness

Cuban-American author Gustavo Pérez-Firmat writes poetry in both English and Spanish. Today, he talks to us about the delights and challenges of writing in two voices.

Guidelines For Dealing With A Partner's Affair

Affairs can end the relationship or strengthen it and they are always occasions for re-evaluation.

7 Basic Rules for Hugging

We hug people we love, but to what extent is it ok to hug someone you barely know? These 7 rules will help you decide when and who to hug.

Why Do We Repeat the Past in Our Relationships?

Are you stuck in a repetitious cycle of relationship despair? Here are some reasons why, and solutions toward recovery.

4 Signs That Your Relationship Has Long-Term Potential

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on March 21, 2016 In Practice
What are the signs a new relationship is likely to last and thrive?

Digital Don Juans

Meetups, conferences, bootcamps? Seduction communities offer men creative ways to gamify dating.

Writing an Online Dating Profile That Works

A new book provides solid tips for making your online-dating profile stand out.