Essential Reads

Four Great Relationship Hacks

By Karl Pillemer Ph.D. on February 10, 2016 in Lessons for Loving
Feel like your relationship is going stale? Here's some advice for people who've been through the relationship doldrums.

What to Do When You Feel Someone Pulling Away

By Kira Asatryan on February 09, 2016 in The Art of Closeness
The pain of a partner pulling away is real. Here’s how to maintain your sanity.

Narcissism and the Myth of Invincibility

People whose narcissism leads them to believe in the myth of their own invincibility may be setting themselves up for a pretty hard fall.

Violence and Valentine's Day

By Ben Michaelis Ph.D. on February 09, 2016 in The Creative Imperative
Can St. Valentine stop the violence?

More Posts on Relationships

5 Things a Loving Parent Never Says

By Peg Streep on January 12, 2016 Tech Support
Being aware of your own behavior and how it can impact your child's development as well as practicing mindful and conscious parenting are key to raising emotionally healthy kids

Saying Yes to Female Orgasm

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on January 12, 2016 SexualityToday
The techniques each woman prefers are so specific that guessing will get you nowhere. A good reminder that sometimes the best way to find out what turns a woman on is just to ask.

10 Ways to Bring Mindfulness to the Way You Use Facebook

Research suggests that using Facebook can cause people to feel worse about themselves, lonelier, or sadder. Mindfulness can help protect you some of these detrimental effects.

Marriage Counseling

All relationships have problems. Should we try to work them out ourselves, talk to friends or relatives, or go to a marriage counselor?

Who Do You Argue With?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on January 11, 2016 Your Wise Brain
Quarrels activate the ancient fight-or-flight machinery in your brain and body: a bit won't harm you, but regular quarreling is not good for long-term physical and mental health.

Talking with High School Students about Communication

Talk about communication of the un-spoken and spoken kinds, view communication as data sharing, discuss primary information needs, and suggest sex differences that may occur

Self-Improvement as Cultural Illness

Have we slipped the social and cultural moorings that historically have connected people and guided their ventures into the world?

Before You Divorce, Why Not Try a Parenting Marriage?

This newer alternative is actually a throw-back to the ways people used to operate all the time (and, in some areas of the world, still do).

The Benefits of Play Events in Your Community

By Darcia Narvaez Ph.D. on January 10, 2016 Moral Landscapes
Your community will come alive when they have the opportunity to play together!

7 Signs of a Covert Introvert Narcissist

Introvert narcissists are often difficult to spot, and yet can carry the same self-conceit and negative contagion as their extroverted counterpart. Look for these key signs...

Lust on the Loose

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on January 10, 2016 Love Doc
Slim of waist, statuesque of build, Samantha strode briskly into the room. Flashing me a winning smile, she sat down and tossed her long auburn hair out of her eyes.

The One Thing To Know About Happiness

Don't you want to know what the secret to happiness is? I know I do. What do we gain once we know, and what is there to do from here on? Find your path, walk your steps...Leap!

Are Power Over Relationships Inevitable?

By Amy Banks on January 09, 2016 Wired For Love
“Neuroaffiliative hormones” are chemicals running through your body 24/7 that help shape your experience of being in human relationship.

The Appeal of Borderline Personality

Borderline individuals can be appealing, interesting people. "Don't hate me because I'm borderline!"

What You Can Really Expect From Couple's Therapy

Deciding to go to couple counseling can seem a bit overwhelming. Some guidelines on how to start and what to expect

Where Are You Most Likely to Meet the Love of Your Life?

In a test of the real vs. virtual world of forming new romantic relationships, which wins out? The results may surprise you.

4 Steps to Stop Blaming

Knowing who is to blame (and blaming them) will not make you happier or change your life!

Presence, Pain and Compassion

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on January 08, 2016 Think, Act, Be
While we might think of meditation as "taking time for ourselves," it's anything but a selfish exercise.

Can Empathy Towards Political Opponents Change Their Views?

Are your political views the opposite of someone you know? Research shows how you might persuade that person towards your own position.

4 Tips for Having "the Talk" With Your Partner

By Kira Asatryan on January 08, 2016 The Art of Closeness
What does your partner expect from the relationship? Finding out is critical to making the relationship work.

Watching TV: Why We Love to Binge

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on January 08, 2016 Living Single
There's a psychology to binge-watching TV—and writers, directors, and other masters of emotional engagement have us hooked.

What Determines a Woman's Favorite Sex Positions?

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on January 07, 2016 As You Like It
This isn't something people can learn from porn, where every woman likes every position and all women like being flipped around like pancakes on a griddle.

Star Wars Resilience: Overcoming Adversity

For George Lucas and Seiji Ozawa accidents changed their lives. We have the power to turn an adverse situation into a positive experience.

The Price of Loving Someone Narcissistic or Borderline

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on January 07, 2016 Insight Is 20/20
Loving someone who is severely borderline or narcissistic sets the stage for one of the most heartbreaking relationships a person can have.

Why You Should Consider Making Love to Your Ears

Having a hard time doing what's good for you? Gamifying and Mimifying to the rescue!

The Case for Looking Up Old Flames

By Isadora Alman MFT on January 07, 2016 Sex & Sociability
Someone in your past may hold the key to your future. Is it worth a second look?

What Are Basic Emotions?

By Neel Burton M.D. on January 07, 2016 Hide and Seek
Basic emotions such as fear and anger are held to be innate and universal.

Discovering Your Defense Against The World

Irrelationship is a joint psychological defense system, but how does our interaction with the world shape our relationship with ourself?

10 Ways Your Job is Like a Bad Marriage

Just like a bad marriage, a bad job can be a source of stress and unhappiness. Here are the warning signs.

This Is Why Couples Cannot Hold Grudges

Conflict is always stressful, and animals show us that re-establishing positive interactions quickly afterward is crucial for a relationship to remain healthy.