Essential Reads

How to Say What You Mean without Sounding Like You're Mean

In a time when opinions are key to almost any dialogue between people, you may wonder- what’s the best way to express yours? This simple approach will help you find your voice.

The Surprising Things You’ve Never Wanted to Know about Love

We think of love as an entirely positive emotion, but there are some surprising downsides to being in love.

Do You (Figuratively) Lick Your Wounds? Should You?

Metaphorically, for humans the essence of wound-licking involves not a lapping tongue but a rationalizing mind.

How to Make Political Conversations More Productive

Being able to talk together constructively is a small but mighty consolation in these troubling times.

More Posts on Relationships

How to Survive Father's Day Without a Father

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on June 17, 2016 in Social Lights
Five ways to deal with a fatherless Father's Day.

Children, Dogs and the Power of Unconditional Love

For these kids, the human/dog bond really does lead to hope and healing.
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Straight, Not Straight, Gay, Not Gay

We believe that we understand a person if we know whether she or he is straight or gay. But there might be alternatives to these two categories.

Saying Goodbye to Barack and Michelle

By Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on June 17, 2016 in The Puzzle of Love
A psychobiological analysis of an excerpt from an interview with Barack and Michelle Obama suggests the secure-functioning nature of their relationship.

When a Relationship Makes You Sick

Victims of coercive control frequently experience medical problems, including heart trouble, non-specific head, back, and stomach pain, and difficulty sleeping and eating.

Stop Trying to Fix Things, Just Listen!

Did you see the video, “It’s Not About the Nail,” where a couple struggles with getting and giving support? Here’s how to do it right.
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Sex and the Smart Phone

By Madelon Sprengnether on June 17, 2016 in Minding Memory
Sex, in the context of mutual attraction and empathy can feel not only loving, but also transcendent—a far cry from hooking up. Part II of my "Random Love" post series.

The Undeniable Power of a Simple Hug

Research finds that asking for a group hug isn't such a bad idea when life feels out of control.

5 Relationship Tips For New Parents

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on June 17, 2016 in Between You and Me
Has the transition to parenthood taken a toll on your relationship? Are you not as close as you used to be? Start fighting back with these five fixes.

Not Your Usual Father's Day Present

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 17, 2016 in How To Do Life
More meaningful ways to say "Happy Father's Day" than a tie.

Say Yikes to the Dress

Beauty, for better or for worse, has always mattered in our culture and is so much more in the limelight at a wedding.

Creating Space for Grief and Loss

So many of us don't really know how to grieve, and also drop the ball when someone we know is going through a loss.

Coyote America: The Evolution of Human-Animal Relationships

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on June 16, 2016 in Animal Emotions
A new book on coyotes is a well-researched study of human-animal relationships and how they have changed for the worst in an increasingly human dominated world.

10 Stress-Busting Strategies for Parents

As every parent learns, you can't be a good mom or dad when you're stressed out, no matter how positive your intentions.

How to Leave a Narcissist For Good

Leaving a narcissist is one of the toughest things you'll ever do. Here's how to get out with minimal emotional damage.

How Much of Porn Depicts Violence Against Women?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on June 15, 2016 in All About Sex
One study says 88% of porn videos show violence against women. Another says 2%. What explains this huge difference?
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Why I Worry About Being a Good Listener

Introverts are good listeners, but do we even try to get our fair share of the conversation, or simply allow our needs to be buried under other people's chatter?

Marital Commitment

There are different forms of commitment and some are better than others.

Pacing: The Chronically Ill Person’s Best Friend

I have a love-hate relationship with pacing. I love it because it keeps my symptoms from flaring. But I also can ignore it because it keeps me from doing everything I want to do.

The Keys to Avoid "Failing at Other Minds"

When was the last time you had a misunderstanding with another person? Here's the science behind such problems, along with pragmatic tips for avoiding them.

Otherfathering and Men in Polyamorous Families

Polyaffectivity offers men a way to connect with each other and stay connected with kids, even if no longer having sex with the kids' mother. Otherfathering provides connections.

Text Alert – Is Your Intimate Communication Inadequate?

It only takes a few minutes to make your text messages more representative of who you really are and what you truly feel towards your partner.

National Men’s Health Week

By Marty Klein PhD on June 15, 2016 in Sexual Intelligence
Let's talk about sexual health--without focussing on STDs

Sugar and ADHD: A Bad Mix?

Gummy bears or grapes? Why studies disagree on sugar and ADHD.

Myth: My Jealousy Shows How Much I Love My Partner

You have betrayed me. You have ruined our beautiful world.

Instead of Being Silent

What does love look like in the wake of violence I cannot grasp?

3 Ways to Feel Better When a Coworker Gets on Your Nerves

When someone gets on your nerves, it’s a real thing. You can recover quickly from co-worker stress if you know these three facts about your brain chemistry.

Happy Couples Do This Often

Doing this can really improve your loving relationship.

Go the Distance! From Distrust to Trust

Daily we see headlines that suggest we are becoming mired in distrust, at high cost to our organizations.

Tuning In To a Friends Feelings Is Not As Simple As It Looks

Does it seem that your feelings are unimportant? Are people only interested in the facts of your story and ignore any feelings you may have about the events that took place?