Essential Reads

Fragmentation of Personality

By Po Chi Wu Ph.D. on April 24, 2017 in Jacob's Staff
Given the complexity of our online lives, how do we define the totality of who we are? Is this changing how we think of being integrated human beings and our creative lives?

Love and Exile: Decoding the Many Rules of the Girl Code

By Jen Kim on April 24, 2017 in Valley Girl With a Brain
What do women want from their female friendships? Decoding the rules of the Girl Code.

Do Half of All Marriages Really End in Divorce?

Does the thought that half of all marriages end in divorce have you afraid to tie the knot? That statistic is outdated, and knowing more about the facts can ease your fear.

Overcoming the Paralysis of Toxic Shame

How might toxic shame play a role in your anger?

More Posts on Relationships

Negotiate, Don’t Compromise

Couples will inevitably run into situations where a decision needs to be made. Learning to negotiate a solution will lead to the best result.

Has Love Disappointed You?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on March 15, 2017 in Rediscovering Love
Learn how to understand about who you have been, who you are now, what you have to offer, and what you need in return.
Paul Ekman, PhD

Growing Old

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on March 15, 2017 in Face It!
Genetics, sensible living, and luck have helped an accomplished scientist accomplish much of what he wanted in 83 years.

Why Young People Destroy the Very Things They Need Most

By Nick Luxmoore on March 15, 2017 in Young People Up Close
When young people spurn our best attempts to love and support them, why do they do this?

Sexual Harassment Is in the Eye of the Beholder

Sexual Harassment: Do you know it when you see it? Many people don´t--including the perpetrators.

Recent Research About Millennials' Sex Life

Are more millennials preferring to binge watch on the couch at night rather than having sex? What the latest research tells us about sex and coupledom for the millennial cohort.

Feel Like a Repeating Train Wreck? Learn to See It Coming

Learning when shift out of autopilot and reflect on situations can make the difference between feeling good in yourself and your relationships, and feeling “like a train wreck.”

Empathy: There’s an App For That!

By Sara Konrath Ph.D. on March 14, 2017 in The Empathy Gap
The science behind using mobile phones for good

Thinking About Divorce or Suicide? Stop it! For 6 Months

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on March 14, 2017 in Full Living
Neither divorce nor suicidality is the easy way out, but first we must consider every vehicle, every effort, every courageous act to save what is most precious.

Starting Places for Learning About Good Divorce

By Wendy Paris on March 14, 2017 in Splitopia
From apps to websites to books to classes: my top picks for getting through divorce and managing co-parenting.
Bill Davidow

Why Dogs Don’t Use The Internet

What we can learn from dogs about managing the internet.

Daddy's Little Girl

On the make for married men

Myth: "As Soon As"

There can be a lot of ideas floating around in our mind that aren’t actually true. They are a series of stories, excuses, justifications, rationalizations, and procrastination.

Love Your Neighbor

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on March 13, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
Compassion and kindness expresses an inner freedom. 

The Great Aspie

Loving a partner with Asperger’s can be both challenging and rewarding

Can a Friendship Survive Major Political Disagreement?

Can friends stay friends when they disagree about politics? Here's how strategies like self-determination, curiosity, and respect can help you keep your friendships intact.

Avoiding "Fatal Attractions" in Intimate Relationships

Finding the right partner can be challenging. Picking one who will not annoy you or turn you off in the long run can be even harder. Fortunately, research can help...

What's the Difference Between Friendship and Love?

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 12, 2017 in Hide and Seek
The line between friendship and love is difficult to draw.

Should I leave This Person?

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on March 12, 2017 in Fighting Fear
Frequently, a patient asks me if he/she should leave the person he/she is dating. Usually, that person's friends make that recommendation. I do not usually--for different reasons.

War of the Worlds: Common Enemies

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on March 12, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Orson Wells galvanized America with the alternate truth that we were being invaded by Martians. But do we still need a common enemy to feel united?

Poetry Lights Up Your Brain Like a Favorite Song, fMRI Shows

New research on the link between happy or scary musical cues—and the difference between reading poetry or prose—offer new clues about how the brain responds to music and poetry.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Allocating Resources

Allocation of one's time, money and energy can reflect priorities. When the relationship itself is a primary recipient, behavior underscores powerful messages of love.

Why (Most) Polyamorous People Are Not Out to Steal Your Wife

There are three main reasons polyamorous people are not trying to steal monogamous partners away from their spouses -- consent, skills, and orientation.
Sophia Dembling

The Peculiar Pleasures of Traveling Alone

By Sophia Dembling on March 11, 2017 in The Introvert's Corner
Traveling with other people is fun, but solo travel is a very particular pleasure for introverts.

10 Ways to Use Walks to Teach and Bond With Young Kids

Walks are a perfect way to help children learn concepts and have memorable experiences related to science, language, math, senses, nature, joy, and the community.

Five Forgiveness Exercises for Couples

Do you want a stronger relationship with your partner? If so, you might try these five forgiveness exercises.

How Parents Can Leverage the Power of Intention

Setting specific, clear intentions can help parents create rich, meaningful relationships with kids and partners. Here are 3 creative ways to apply intention to family life.

Heartfelt Apologies 101

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on March 10, 2017 in Loving Bravely
Love means never having to say "I'm sorry," right? Wrong! Follow these tips for overcoming this common relationship stumbling block.

What Bachelor Nick Viall Teaches Us About Love

Sometimes doing the opposite of what we learn on tv can help us really find love in the real world.

Strong and Kind Negotiation

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 10, 2017 in How To Do Life
An interview with negotiations expert Seth Freeman.