Essential Reads

Nine Lessons from Mad Men: The Emotional Cost of Dishonesty

How our lies hurt us and how to repair the damage caused by dishonesty

A Simple Way to Stop Relationship Arguments From Spiraling

First thing's first: Are you even fighting about the same thing?

How Our Lips Speak Louder Than Our Words

When you see the signs, you need to know what to say next.

Recent Posts on Relationships

4 Character Strengths Sustain U2’s Success

How does U2 reflect a connection culture? One reason is the band's many character strengths that they express and appreciate in one another, such as love, humility, and appreciation of beauty and excellence.

Embracing Death

We all know Death, the Detroit rock band that was "punk before punk was punk." But Death is something else: It’s a living, breathing monument to how one can live, create, cope with adversity, and thrive if one does not fear dying.

Number One Secret to Getting Communication Unstuck?

By Marty Babits on May 01, 2015 in The Middle Ground
Number One Secret to Getting Communication Unstuck?

Should Men or Women Play Hard to Get?

When you meet a sexy stranger, should you act interested or play it cool? The answer depends on whether you are a man or a woman. Read on to learn the science...and the answer.

Spring Roadside Cleaning with Two Boys and Two Bags

So which is it: Do we take care of what we love? Or do we love what we take care of? Which comes first—loving the Earth or taking care of it?

Curious Criticism? Or do you get defensive?

Don't lose opportunities to grow.

Mind the Gap

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on April 30, 2015 in Think, Act, Be
We can train our minds to avoid going off track.

Your Version of Reality, and Mine

By Gregg Henriques on April 30, 2015 in Theory of Knowledge
Although many folks assume that there is a single reality that is readily perceived, the fact of the matter is that we construct versions of reality based on our backgrounds, frames, motives, and broader life narratives. This blog explains how this insight can often be used to help couples break unproductive cycles of blame.

Why Your Old Friends Are Vital to Your Future

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on April 30, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
Can we predict who might be at risk for becoming lonely later in life?

Looking for Mr. Right? 16 Questions to Consider

Look at the research on matters of the heart. Answer 16 questions. And if you are describing a past love who has disappointed you, rewrite your love story, and seek out someone who values you.

Do Alzheimer's Patients Have the Right to Say Yes to Sex?

The right to love is considered to be an essential human right; however, one exception that often prevails is in cases of Alzheimer’s patients. The case of Henry Rayhons, who was charged with sexually abusing his wife Donna, is such a striking example; Can people who are unable to recognize their own children give their sound sexual consent?

Smart Leaders Know They Need to Put Their Phones Away

By Craig Dowden Ph.D. on April 29, 2015 in The Leader's Code
How smartphones can undermine the most important relationships of our lives.

How to Build Rapport: A Powerful Technique

By Aldo Civico Ph.D. on April 29, 2015 in Turning Point
Knowing how to build rapport is at the root of our personal and professional success. Here is a powerful technique you can practice right away, as soon as you finish reading this article.

Wife Swapping in the Stone Age

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on April 29, 2015 in The Human Beast
Anthropologists are all too familiar with the violence and bloodshed triggered by marital infidelity. Now they are coming to terms with a more mysterious phenomenon—consensual wife sharing. If a man flies into homicidal rages when his wife cheats on him, why would he encourage another man to sleep with her?

Angry Tears

It’s become increasingly common for therapists to note that underlying your anger are feelings of hurt. In fact the more pronounced your anger, the greater the hurt it conceals. So if the phrase “angry tears” sounds oxymoronic to you, that’s because it is: It’s profoundly descriptive of human experience yet, on the face of it, certainly seems contradictory. . . .

7 Ways to Heal After a Painful Breakup

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on April 29, 2015 in Me Before We
After a stormy relationship, you can think you’re OK, you're feeling stable, but then you plunge right back into confusion, disgust, and fear all over again.

4 Reasons You Can Misread Your Partner's Body Language

You would think that with familiarity, our ability to accurately read someone’s body language would improve, but it often doesn’t. Here are some reasons why you might not be able to read a loved one’s nonverbal cues.

When Is a Doormat Not a Doormat?

Irrelationships may cross the line into frank abuse. However, the abused partner's seeming acquiescence may not be simple acceptance of the unacceptable. Despite his abusiveness, she may believe her partner needs what she has to offer. And her abuser may be equally committed to demanding it even while refusing to validate it.

Why Relationships Can Never Be 50-50 Propositions

A personal relationship is so much more than its business aspects. We can work to cultivate a more mutual generosity and trust between us. When couples are in the rhythm of giving to each other, they are sensitive to each other’s needs, and get great pleasure from bringing happiness to each other.

When Your Partner Wants To Do It But You Don't

By Amy Muise PhD on April 28, 2015 in The Passion Paradox
In long-term relationships couples are bound to encounter times when one partner wants to have sex, but the other partner is not in the mood for sex at that time. New research examined how couples can navigate these situations of differing sexual interests with greater success.

Can Women Ever Be Taken Seriously?

Gravitas, or the assertion of power through body language, is a concept usually associated with men. However, it is possible under the right circumstances for women to have a piece of the power dynamic pie.

Moving Past Anger in Divorce

By Wendy Paris on April 28, 2015 in Splitopia
Anger is a backward-looking emotion. It can keep you trapped in the past you no longer have. Moving on can mean moving past anger.

The Communicative Advantages of Interrupting

The Sermon on the Mount takes 8 minutes to read aloud, so be wary of any speech act that goes on for longer than that.

Pardon Me—Or Else!

By Rebecca Coffey on April 27, 2015 in The Bejeezus Out of Me
Haters gonna hate. Forgivers gonna live longer.

Change Your Brain With Kindness

By Marlynn Wei M.D., J.D. on April 27, 2015 in Urban Survival
Practicing a loving kindness meditation allows you to be gentle and compassionate to yourself and also the people around you. The practice not only can bring more positivity into your life but also can actually change your brain.

When You Lose a Friend

By Thelma Duffey Ph.D. on April 27, 2015 in Works in Progress
Friendships are one of the most important relationships in your life. Allow yourself to grieve and recover through these steps.

5 Steps to End a Toxic Relationship

By Rosemary K.M. Sword on April 27, 2015 in The Time Cure
The tendency to unconsciously seek out toxic relationships frequently starts with past negative experiences when we are children and might carry on throughout our lives. They can become so deeply ingrained in the way we think and feel that we don’t realize we are steeped in toxicity...

My Daughter Is Dating My Son Figure

How To Adjust To The Changing Nature Of Relationships

Don’t Give Up On Finding a Companion

Dr. Abraham Maslow, who created the hierarchy of needs, listed “belonging” as our next need after food, safety, and shelter. For almost everyone, this need pulls at your heart, and even if you have given up in your head, that other organ still yearns for the company of another person.

10 Ways to Build Trust Remotely

Are people who work remotely less worthy of your trust? Is it possible to build strong trusting working relationships with people you can't see? Are people who work remotely less worthy of your trust? Is it possible to build strong trusting working relationships with people you can't see?