Essential Reads

How to Put Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes

Empathy works by analogy, mirror neurons, or embodied simulation.

8 Secret Body Language Cues That Can Control Your Behavior

How others can trigger your senses and emotions.

When Adults Struggle With Their Relationships

At holidays, the focus is on family - some siblings do not get along though

Why Are So Many Indian Arranged Marriages Successful?

The upsides of relinquishing choice, deciding quickly, & lower expectations

Recent Posts on Relationships

The Anxieties of Dating

By Stan Tatkin Psy.D. on November 05, 2015 The Puzzle of Love
Research shows that an insecure attachment style can make people more likely to stalk a date, and suggests how to help young people avoid getting snared in an unproductive cycle.

Irrelationship: How We Hide from Intimacy

By The Book Brigade on November 05, 2015 The Author Speaks
Wanting intimacy is one thing. Achieving it is another, more difficult, thing. Often, partners use their relationship to guard against the very thing they want most.

Sensory Sensitivity Can Strain Parent-Child Relations

Parent awareness alleviates stress, and helps improve relationships.

Good Morning, Atlantis!

Some reflections on my own moral failings, and a city I have grown to love.

More Sex is Tied to Happiness

By Temma Ehrenfeld on November 04, 2015 Open Gently
Happier people may be having more sex, but don't let sex be a chore.

The Real Reason to Care About Employee Engagement

By Victor Lipman on November 04, 2015 Mind of the Manager
Mindset matters. Attitude is a difference maker. It's not about sensitivity. It's about productivity.

When a Loved One is Suffering

What can we do if someone we care about is suffering?

Like a Moth to a Flame

By Ryan Anderson on November 03, 2015 The Mating Game
Some people would prefer attraction to remain mysterious. There are several things you can control to make yourself more attractive to the opposite-sex.

The Secret to Dealing With Difficult People

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on November 03, 2015 The Web of Violence
Distance, Delay and Deny, the three Ds that can help you manage challenging interpersonal relationships.

How Master Manipulators View Adult Relationships

Habitually manipulative people are likely to have an anxious-ambivalent, anxious-avoidant, or disorganized attachment style.

With Or Without You

By Kristi Pikiewicz Ph.D. on November 03, 2015 Meaningful You
Here's how to work on your relationship even if your partner won't join you.

Can You Fall Back in Love With Your Partner?

By Isadora Alman MFT on November 03, 2015 Sex & Sociability
Falling in love is always exciting, and can be even more so when it's with your own mate.

To Win an Argument, Women Need to Hold Their Temper

In the heat of an argument, it’s natural to lose your temper once in a while. Whether that meltdown will help you or hurt you in winning that argument depends on your gender. For a woman, chances are you’ll lose the power of persuasion according to new research on how juries reach their decisions.

15 First Date Mistakes You Should Avoid

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on November 03, 2015 The Squeaky Wheel
Small mistakes can ruin your chances of getting a second date. Here are the most common ones to avoid:

Compassionate Communication

By Marty Babits on November 03, 2015 The Middle Ground
Compassionate communication safeguards love.

The 8 Suprising Things Abusive Partners Need To Learn

There is hope for people who have abused their partners. Here's what they need to learn in order to change.

Sex Positive vs. Sex Negative

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on November 02, 2015 Minority Report
In therapeutic circles you might hear a therapist tell you they are "sex positive" as way to indicate their stance on treating issues related to sex. But what does this mean when it comes to issues related to clients with sexually compulsive behaviors? Are sex addiction therapists just prudish people against sexual fetishes and other behaviors?

What's Really Going on When We Fall in Love

"Lovers are those for whom no minute is like any other, people between whom nothing habitual takes place, just what is new, unprecedented, unexpected..."

The Psychology of Policing

By Jay Richards Ph.D. on November 02, 2015 The Violent Mind
An interview with Seattle University professor Dr. Ed Reed about the intersection of race, psychology, and policing in America today.

4 Things an Empath Never Says (and You Shouldn't Either)

By Peg Streep on November 02, 2015 Tech Support
Sympathy and empathy are often used interchangeably but the truth is that they are very different processes on both a neurological and social level. And the difference matters.

What to Do When Your Emotions Overwhelm You

When you're highly sensitive and someone says or does something hurtful, you feel a rush of emotions like a wave has cracked over your head. If you want to keep yourself from drowning in your emotions, you must learn to relax and stop fighting them.

21 Sleep Tips to Refresh Your Body, Brain, and Gratitude

Sleepless nights can disrupt thinking and loving.

Should You Worry About Your Lover's Ex-lovers?

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on November 02, 2015 Fighting Fear
People inclined to be jealous are especially inclined to be jealous of a lover's ex-lovers. Is this reasonable?

The Trouble with Modern Love

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on November 02, 2015 SexualityToday
We have many more choices than our parents and grandparents had, but this hasn’t made it any more likely that couples will find fulfillment. In many ways, it’s made it less likely.

How Parental Divorce Can Impact Adolescence Now and Later

Although parents wish divorce was only about the adults, children and adolescents are always affected.

Five Quick Ways to Enhance Your Online Dating Profile

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on November 02, 2015 Love, Digitally
There are simple ways to improve your online impression. For example, males who adopt certain postures are perceived as more attractive and the colour red has long been associated with love and passion.

The Myth of Being "Unmotivated"

Why aren't people motivated to make changes that would improve their lives? Why would they mislead the very people they’re seeking help from? Motivational interviewing can help us understand—and point the way toward more constructive conversations about change.

Why Is Sex in Marriage Such a Big Deal?

The problem with sex today is that it's getting out of control

The Neglected Art of Receiving

We're told that it is better to give than to receive. We may strive to love, but to what extent do we allow ourselves to be loved? People who are narcissistic do not know how to lovingly extend themselves to others. But narcissism can also take the form of being so guarded and self-absorbed that we don't let love in.