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Reasons People Cohabit, and Why Testing Is the Worst Reason

Most people believe cohabiting is a great test of compatibility, but it's probably not. We explore various reasons people give for cohabiting and why it can fail the test.

Online Dating: Quit Bragging

Research on why modesty is best for the online dater.

How to Say What You Mean without Sounding Like You're Mean

In a time when opinions are key to almost any dialogue between people, you may wonder- what’s the best way to express yours? This simple approach will help you find your voice.

The Surprising Things You’ve Never Wanted to Know about Love

We think of love as an entirely positive emotion, but there are some surprising downsides to being in love.

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Three Enticing Ways to Improve Communication and Intimacy

You've worked hard to become a good listener. But have you ever learned how to express yourself?

The 7 Types of Love

By Neel Burton M.D. on June 25, 2016 in Hide and Seek
By focusing on romantic love, we neglect other types of love which are more readily accessible and may be more fulfilling and less limiting.

Office Banter Turns to Silence

A woman's close friendship with a male co-worker suddenly becomes a distant one.

Making Room for It All – Part 1

We deepen our capacity to experience life in general when we have a close connection with another human being.

I Lost My Step-Family and I'm Distressed

Reader: My dad and stepmother split up and I miss my stepbrother.

Making Love with Your Bliss

By Dana Klisanin Ph.D. on June 24, 2016 in Digital Altruism
Spring has sprung with a leap and a bound. Sooner it seems, than in previous years.

Laughing After Divorce

Divorce is common and results in difficult feelings and experiences. A new study explores the role of humor after divorce.
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10 Ways to Reduce Smartphone Mindlessness

Smartphones have their pros and cons. But are we mindful of the cons or are we mindless to what we don't know? Here are 10 tips for managing the cons of too much cell phone use.

How Do Toxic Relationships Affect Health?

If relationships came with nutritional labels, would you think twice about getting involved?

Gender Communication: It’s Complicated

Women and men can be perceived as members of two distinct and separate subcultures within a larger, more general culture.

5 Ways to Tell If Your Relationship Is Built to Last

Are you riddled with angst over whether or not all is well and secure in your romantic partnership? Here are five ways to help determine if you need to let this relationship go.

Take Status Concerns Seriously

By Temma Ehrenfeld on June 23, 2016 in Open Gently
Status concerns underlie battles at work, home and in politics.

A New Way to Think About Couple Fights

By Temma Ehrenfeld on June 23, 2016 in Open Gently
We talk of "power" struggles but they may actually be more about status than power.

3 Reasons Why You Should Cuddle More

Cuddling can help you rewrite your history of trust, and enable you to enjoy feeling safe more often.

Do You Actually Have a Personality?

Maybe you don’t have a permanent and context-free personality. Maybe you have numerous identities, which vary from situation to situation.

It Didn't Start With You: The Mystery of Inherited Trauma

By Mark Matousek on June 23, 2016 in Ethical Wisdom
How do we inherit family traumas? What tools can we use to work with painful experiences that did not begin with us? Family Constellations pioneer Mark Wolynn explains.

Honoring Your Story in the Wake of Mass Trauma

Were you directly or indirectly impacted by the mass shooting in Orlando? Preserving your whole story can help you live more resiliently.

6 Subtle Ways a Partner Can Bully You

Does your partner bully you? These are some of the more insidious tactics a person might use to control you.

How Big Is Your Love?

Recent research on relationships in America suggests that Americans are becoming more traditional in some ways and less so in others—and identifies what we really want.

Grit: Is It Baloney?

Angela Duckworth has popularized "grit." But here's why I believe the concept is flawed, and in the end a remedy that produces mental health problems, and ignores social needs.

Is Living Together What You Expected?

Living with another person has good and bad aspects, usually both.

Are Polyamorous Relationships Sexist?

Polyamory may be sexist sometimes, but the unruly women who own their sexual desires and reject slut shaming have power in poly life, earn their own money, and control their lives.

Can Love Live Out Loud and Proud?

By Marty Babits on June 22, 2016 in The Middle Ground
Even in 2016, many still live in the closet. Despite the legalization of gay marriage, the forces of homophobic violence still exact a horrifying price from all.

Introverts' Secrets to Running a Successful Business

How can you thrive as an introvert business owner? The Introvert Entrepreneur is brimming with tips to help you run your own show, while honoring your quiet energy.

The Case for Men Marrying an Older Woman

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 22, 2016 in How To Do Life
It may be worth resisting the attraction to younger women.

How to Get Your Brain Off of Autopilot

We remain trapped in autopilot thinking unless we make an effort to think intentionally. These research-based strategies will help you live an intentional life.

Are These Signs of Toxic Arguing in Your Relationship?

Do you or your partner see any of these warning signs of toxic fighting when you argue?

The 3 Essential Elements of Attraction

Different traits and features are attractive for different types of relationships. Find out how you are attractive—and to whom.

America's Founding Fathers Meet the Father of Psychoanalysis

By Rebecca Coffey on June 21, 2016 in The Bejeezus Out of Me
"Hamilton" just swept the Tonys. What did America's founding fathers know that Freud knew, and that we should all celebrate about free speech ... and desire?