Essential Reads

The Crisis of the Ailing Toxic Mother: Caretake or Run?

By Peg Streep on October 24, 2016 in Tech Support
Much has been written about the "Sandwich" generation-but the daughter of an unloving or abusive mother faces a different, more complicated choice without easy answers...

Sex, Power, and Risk

By Joye Swan Ph.D. on October 22, 2016 in Up Close and Personal
When it comes to power in sexual relationships, who really controls what goes on in the bedroom?

Are You Obsessing Over Your Ex?

If your ex recently broke up with you, you may have OCD-like symptoms. The good news: standard self-help techniques for OCD may be able to speed up your recovery from the breakup.

Do Facebook "Likes" Affect Psychological Well-Being?

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Close Encounters
New research shows that the way we're affected by Facebook likes may depend on our self-esteem, and our sense of purpose in life.

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The Formula!

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Ambigamy
Here's the real secret, passed down through generations of tyrants and self-proclaimed infallible know-it-alls.

5 Things to Do When You Are So Annoyed With Your Partner

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
Petty annoyances are inevitable in any relationship. Here are 5 approaches that can help you break the vicious cycle of chronic annoyance.

Passionate Surrender

Fear of passionate surrender is rooted in an underdeveloped sense of self. Passionate surrender is a joyous function of a fully realized adult brain.

Small Bits of Bravery to Accomplish Anything

By Susan Harrow on September 21, 2016 in The Body Blog
Bravery comes in many forms. What if you can do one brave act a day, no matter how small to build your bravery?

Why It Feels So Good to Hear That Your Ex Got Dumped

By Madeleine A Fugère Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Dating and Mating
Why does it feel so good when you find out that your ex has been dumped by his or her latest lover?
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The Key to Being a Better Friend

By Sophia Dembling on September 20, 2016 in The Introvert's Corner
If you worry about being a good friend, choose the people you love and trust most and tell them how you feel. This simple act will bring you closer together.

Record Numbers Are Single and Writing Their Own Life Scripts

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Living Single
More Americans than ever before are unmarried – and most of them have never been married. They may also be more diverse than ever in the ways they live and the people they love.

World Psychosynthesis Day

The synthesis of the psyche is an invitation, and in these difficult days, a mandate, towards creating inner and outer peace. Psychosynthesis offers a path towards that.

“You’re SO Controlling!”

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Evolution of the Self
It’s crucial to realize that though you might feel invaded or exploited by your partner, that doesn't necessarily mean they have the desire to control you. But if they do . . .

Three Keys to Healing Shame

To heal our shame, we need to be: truly seen, witnessed with compassion, and have our feelings and deepest truths believed.

The Downside of Narcissism

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on September 19, 2016 in Life After 50
Despite the pleasure of feeling like everything revolves around you, feeling like the sun has certain disadvantages as well—it makes other people angry and envious.

Interview: The Hidden Life of Trees

By Rachel Clark on September 19, 2016 in Mothering Nature
"To regulate the destruction of nature by law is not half as effective as loving nature." ~ Peter Wohlleben

The Pros and Cons of Giving a Friend Advice

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on September 19, 2016 in Off the Couch
Whether you give advice as a matter of course or you think carefully about everything you say, giving and taking advice from a friend is rarely simple.

The Problem With "Sex Positive"

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on September 19, 2016 in Minority Report
"Sex positive" is a popular term among certain therapists who believe there's nothing wrong with pornography. Yet if you listen to young people today, they'll tell you otherwise

Why You Can’t Walk Away

By Linda Esposito LCSW on September 19, 2016 in From Anxiety to Zen
Do you control, nurture, and protect your partner? It might be time to let go.

Divorce Pitfalls to Avoid, Part One

Divorce imposes challenges, reshuffling relationships between child and parents. Avoiding these divorce pitfalls will enhance your relationships for your child beyond the family.

Adverse Features Contribute to Abuse in Polyamory

Isolation, charismatic leaders, and groupthink could facilitate abuse in polyamorous families.
flickr image by Harold Heindell Tejada

Re-Envisioning Commitment

Many of us seek commitment in order to create safe, lasting relationships. But a deeper inquiry might suggest that we need to fine-tune what we're actually committing ourselves to.

After a Breakup: Work in the Good While Working Out the Bad

A breakup is the best time to plot out the life you've always wanted and make your dreams come true. While working out the bad, work in the good and make your life happen now.

Meeting the Intended

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 18, 2016 in How To Do Life
Musing on an underdiscussed signal moment.

The Power of a Mentor

My friend Bill died today. Here's how an unlikely friendship turned into one of my most treasured ones.

How to Overcome Feeling Insecure in Your Relationship

When insecurity is present, we live and relate from fear. Fear is toxic to intimacy.

3 Ways to Speak Up Without Starting a Fight

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on September 17, 2016 in Living Forward
Do you fear expressing negative emotions because you don't want to cause conflict? Here are three steps to help you effectively express yourself and improve your relationships.

That Sneaky Devil, Projective Identification

By Nick Luxmoore on September 17, 2016 in Young People Up Close
In relationships, we need to stop and wonder whether the things we feel belong to us or are unconsciously projected into us by other people.

The Psychology of Killing Wolves, Cats, and other Animals

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on September 16, 2016 in Animal Emotions
There are many unrelenting wars on a wide variety of animals. Often people who go out and kill animals say they actually love them. We need more psychological studies in this area.

What Helps Explain How Often People Lie in Relationships?

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on September 16, 2016 in Adventures in Dating
Studies have recently examined what factors explain the frequency of romantic partner deception. Affection, deception, and commitment potentially explain this process.

Are You an Enabling Parent?

By Ann Smith on September 16, 2016 in Healthy Connections
Parents are hardwired to love and protect their child from birth to death no matter what. What happens when parents begin to unintentionally enable their child?

Enough Is Enough Series Part 5: ADHD Is Exposed

By Robert Berezin M.D. on September 16, 2016 in The Theater of the Brain
Children must be raised with boundaries and love. To provide the best holding environment for our children has to be our parental imperative. Regarding ADHD, we have lost our way.

3 Simple Questions to Improve Your Relationship

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on September 16, 2016 in Between You and Me
We are wired to be selfish—to think about our own needs and desires first. Today, I urge you to take five minutes to consider your partner’s perspective by asking three questions.

4 Ways to Determine if You Have Self-Esteem Issues

If you struggle with self-esteem, you likely, repeatedly hit the same roadblocks within yourself and feel at a loss for improving your situation. There's a way out of this spiral.