Essential Reads

Fading Fast: Is 'Thank You' a Thing of the Past?

How to reinvigorate the power of appreciation

Do Dog Owners Make Better Lovers? Some Scientific Answers

Insights into the human-canine connection

Things Not to Say to a New Widow

Five phrases to avoid

To Date or Not to Date

Are you ready to meet someone new?

Recent Posts on Relationships

This Is Why Betrayal Hurts So Much

Whether you’ve been lied to, cheated on, or otherwise made to feel a loss of trust, it’s always painful when someone betrays you. How you respond may depend as much on the nature of the betrayal as on your personality and values. Whatever the cause, one of betrayal's most painful aspects is the cost it takes on your self-esteem.

Relationships Cause Conduct Disorder, Not "Bad Seeds"

To paraphrase a certain politician, it's the relationships, stupid! In order to avoid looking at their own or their family's behavior, both parents and professionals seem to want to think that children can be born as "bad seeds." However, human genes do not work that specifically. It is not toxic people that create most dysfunctional families, but toxic relationships.

Who Will Clip Your Toenails When You Cannot?

They never tell you when you are little that you will one day clip the toenails of your parents or siblings. Such little things must amount to great differences in the quality of life as we age. If you needed one more reason to build and maintain lifelong, loving relationships. . .

Finding Romance in Middle-age

Being single in middle age is complicated. Working long days, staying in touch with grown children, managing medical and financial complexities . . . how do people summon the energy to manage break-ups and pursue romance?

If You Love Cats, This May be Why

Many of us love cats, but we may not have considered one major reason why we find them so irresistible. This article explores how cats have an uncanny ability to surrender to affection. We humans would do well to be more like a cat in the sense of deepening our capacity to receive love and affection.

What Codependency Is, and What It Isn't

By Ann Smith on July 06, 2015 in Healthy Connections
What had been labeled in the past as codependency is actually human beings doing what comes naturally – LOVING.

How Good Are You at the Art of Conversation? A Quiz

What makes a good conversationalist? These 10 key factors may surprise you.

People Are Not Disposable

Relationships and friendships take effort, and no one is perfect. Although it may be difficult for you to discuss your feelings with someone who has hurt you, and you may be scared to open the discussion, it is the only way to resolve your issues. A few well-chosen words and taking the time to listen to one another could easily save your friendship or your marriage.

4 Self-Portraits That Make Us Self-Conscious

We all worry where we stand with others. These four self-portraits, and the gaps between them, provide a map of your self-conscious thoughts.

7 Things I Love About Women With Postpartum Depression

When we can harness that arousal, we can guide her toward support resources that she is unable to utilize distress is high.

The Unveiling

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on July 06, 2015 in How To Do Life
A Jewish tradition with lessons for us all.

What My Children Teach Me About How to Live Well

What my children have taught me is that it is better to be a human being than a human doing.

What is Your Relationship Attachment Style?

What is your relationship attachment style? Based on the works of Bartholomew and Horowitz, etc., there are four adult attachment styles: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant. Most people have various degrees of the four attachment styles, which may change over time...

Why the sky won't fall even if gay marriage spurs polygamy

Does same-sex marriage lead the way to multiple-partner marriage? If so, what kind of impact might that have on society? This blog introduces the Supreme Court decision and its relationship to plural marriage, puts polygamy in social, cultural, and historical context, and identifies differences between polygyny and polyamory.

Is Technoference Wrecking Your Love Life?

Electronic devices are reported by many couples to be the source of arguments especially when used during meals and at other times when there is a hope or expectation that there will be an opportunity for meaningful interpersonal relating.

6 Ways to Get What You Want (Without Being Called a Whiner)

We tend to associate whining with the behavior of toddlers, but there are plenty of adults who could equal the whininess of any two-year-old. These 6 tips will help you turn your complaints into effective strategies to get others to gladly give you what you want.

Raising Kids Who Love Reading & Devour Books Voraciously.

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., J.D. on July 04, 2015 in All Grown Up
Tips for raising kids who love reading, devour books voraciously, and practically beg for a trip to the library. Ready to ignite a lifelong love affair with books? Here are 5 questions that can help you to light the first spark:

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 8

By Eyal Winter on July 04, 2015 in Feeling Smart
In fact Men Talk More than Women - Read for evidence. Read also about the role the"demand withdrawal" phenomenon that is typical to so many relationships shapes this myth.

Undecided

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on July 03, 2015 in Love Doc
Darla has it all. She is brainy, beautiful, sexy, and successful. At the ripe age of 33 she is worth 200 million dollars. She owns a chain of medical spas with top plastic surgeons who offer numerous beauty enhancing procedures. Darla easily makes good decisions in her spas.

4 Signs That Your Relationship May Be Over

Deciding to end a relationship can be anguishing. Some suggestions for when it's time to pull to plug and when to slow down

Father, Daughter, and House: A Dialogue

In this post Miki Kashtan asks: How do we speak our truth authentically, and do it with care for the other person, letting them know how much we care? In this detailed example she helps a woman connect with her father over a difficult issue.

12 Signs That Your Partner Lacks Emotional Intelligence

Emotionally intelligent/competent people (high-EQ) make better relationship partners. Here are some signs that someone lacks emotional intelligence.

Can You Stay Married But Have Your Independence Too?

Perhaps the institution of marriage is failing society rather than all of those unhappily marrieds or divorcing men and women being the failures. Why not explore some new alternatives?

Is Honesty Really the Best Policy?

Is it ever OK not to be completely honest?

You Are Your Child’s “First Verb”

"First Verb Parenting" sees parents as a “child’s first verb”---loving action figures giving meaning, direction, guidance, and linking---to children, their attentive subjects.

What Can You Learn About People from Facebook?

As anyone who uses Facebook knows, different people post updates about different things: Your high school friend sharing photos of her kids, your colleague opining on politics, your friend posting funny animal videos. But what drives people to post what they do? A new study examines how our personality relates to the type of content we present on Facebook.

Erotomania Haunts Female Tennis Stars

Erotomania may mean the fixed false idea that someone is in love with you, and that she is prevented from declaring her love. This could be dismissed as a relatively harmless though annoying belief, except for the fact that erotomaniacs can turn vengefully upon the love object after perceiving themselves as rejected.

Should Couples Share Their Sexual Fantasies?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 02, 2015 in All About Sex
Sexual fantasies excite the imagination—and sometimes are better left there.

5 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Say

If you find yourself saying any of these phrases, consider it a warning sign that you could be making a bad decision.

The Family Values of Penelope Spheeris and Anna Fox

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on July 02, 2015 in Brick by Brick
Penelope Spheeris and her daughter, Anna Fox, share how The Decline of Western Civilization movies have impacted their lives.