Essential Reads

Nine Lessons from Mad Men: The Emotional Cost of Dishonesty

How our lies hurt us and how to repair the damage caused by dishonesty

A Simple Way to Stop Relationship Arguments From Spiraling

First thing's first: Are you even fighting about the same thing?

How Our Lips Speak Louder Than Our Words

When you see the signs, you need to know what to say next.

Recent Posts on Relationships

Are Aunts and Uncles the Forgotten Kin?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 23, 2010 in Living Single
Finally, aunts and uncles are getting some recognition from the family scholars who have long neglected them. Is there anything special about aunts and uncles who are single? 

Olfaction and Conception

By Gayil Nalls Ph.D. on July 22, 2010 in Sensoria
Like a bee or hummingbird is attracted to a flower, human sperm smell its way to the egg.

What Dreams Can Do For You

By Frances Cohen Praver Ph.D. on July 22, 2010 in Love Doc
Over 100 years ago, Freud proffered that dreams were the royal road to the unconscious. From that time on, we analysts have helped to decipher the cryptic messages hidden in these dreams. Today, not only analysts, but lay people meet in dream groups to find meaning in these disguised messages. The NY Times on 7-9-2010 reported that "dream groups are similar to book groups, but the themes and plotlines discussed come not from 19th century novels or the latest best seller but from the member's unconscious minds."

I Bow to Thee: Entering the Temple of Sacred Sexuality

By Steve Sisgold on July 22, 2010 in Life in a Body
It is said in the Hebrew tradition that when two people join in love, a voice from heaven announces the merging of the souls. In Hebrew your lover or spouse is your "Bashert", which means destiny.

Jerk Off Kit* + Marketing Tip

Do you own any Mental Real Estate?

PRENUPTIAL Contracts: A Blight- or Just Bright?

By Pepper Schwartz Ph.D. on July 21, 2010 in Love Lessons
Keep your eye on that divorce rate-that may predict how common prenups may become.

Can you afford not to take a vacation?

By Pepper Schwartz Ph.D. on July 21, 2010 in Love Lessons
Vacations are not a luxury.  Our health, mental and physical, requires down time

HELP! My Controlling Behavior is Ruining Relationships!

By Ann Smith on July 21, 2010 in Healthy Connections
Why would anyone continue to meddle, fix, advise, worry, obsess or monitor other people's behavior when it makes them and everyone around them miserable? 

Eat, Pray, Love Like a Girl

By Anastasia Harrell on July 20, 2010 in The View From Venus
We have spent decades poking fun at thirteen year old girls and their obsession with their equally awkward and gawky male counterparts. However, with the arrival of the new film, Eat Pray Love, quickly approaching, we may have been too quick to dismiss the interests of the stereotypical teenaged girl.

The Four Burners Theory -- Your Thoughts?

I did an interview for the nice people at The 99 Percent last month, and Jocelyn shared an idea that has stayed with me ever since...

Canine Dominance: Is the Concept of the Alpha Dog Valid?

The idea that dog training and problem solving requires the establishing of dominance, with the human taking the role as pack leader (such as suggested by Cesar Millan and others) is challenged by scientific data that suggests that canines do not naturally have rigid dominance hierarchies

Coping With Guests

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on July 20, 2010 in Off the Couch
Why does the very image of summer guests make us feel inadequate and tense just when we're supposed to feel relaxed? Some ideas about what this is about and how to cope!

The Unorthodox Gift

By Lynne Soraya on July 19, 2010 in Asperger's Diary
When I think of emotions and emotional expression – I can't help but think of my stepfather. He didn't talk much of emotion, but he definitely felt it. 

Why Romantic-Sexual Relationship Failures Are Good For You

Why failures and loss in your romantic and sexual relationships can be a good development for your life.

Are Negative Emotions More Important than Positive Emotions?

In order to explain and understand emotions, we can divide them into two groups: The emotions we term 'positive' and those that we term 'negative'. On this issue, there are two major claims that appear to be contradictory: (a) that negative emotions are more noticeable, and (b) that, because people typically consider themselves to be happy, the average person considers herself to be happier than the average person. How can this apparent paradox explained?

Which truth is "the truth" in my relationship?

What is the truth about my partner?  Finding an answer to this question is a bit complicated.  The reason for this is that our moods shift frequently, our lives are constantly changing, and so are our feelings about our significant other......  

Geeky Guys Make Great Husbands!

Mildly autistic men may be a better bet for a long-term relationship than their more seductive, smooth-talking opposites.

Beat the Odds Against Marital Success

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.

5 Tips for Handling an Incessant Talker

Have you ever sat down for lunch with a friend who talks non-stop---without giving you the slightest chance to get a word in edgewise? You begin to feel like you turned on a TV set, helplessly trying to interact with a very boring re-run.

Passive Aggressive Minds Think Alike

Siblings without rivalry are like thunder without lightening. The two just go together, although some storms are more damaging than others. One of the most common sources of family conflict has to do with sibling jealousies and all of the ways that envy rears its ugly head-from physical violence to passive aggressive behavior.