Essential Reads

Nine Lessons from Mad Men: The Emotional Cost of Dishonesty

How our lies hurt us and how to repair the damage caused by dishonesty

A Simple Tip to Stop Relationship Arguments From Spiraling

Identifying and preventing the root of the miscommunication

How Our Lips Speak Louder Than Our Words

When you see the signs, you need to know what to say next.

Recent Posts on Relationships

The Mommy Madness Mistake

By Michele Weiner-Davis MSW on November 03, 2010 in Divorce Busting
"The best way to avoid the mommy madness mistake is to remember that the single best thing you can do for your children is to put your marriage first."

Sex, Polyamory, and the Wisdom of the Body

By Deborah Anapol Ph.D. on November 02, 2010 in Love Without Limits
What is the biological and emotional truth about polyamory?

Jocks, Brains, Populars: Crowds' Effects On You

By Mitch Prinstein Ph.D. on November 02, 2010 in The Modern Teen
Chances are, if you attended a public high school in the United States, or in several other Western nations, then you know all about the Brains, the Populars, the Druggies, and the Jocks.

Disappearing Acts: Should you think the best or assume the worst?

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on November 02, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
It is hard to know if lengthy silences and withdrawals by friends are because they are trying to dump you or because they are busy and a little neglectful. I especially grapple with this at birthdays and at Christmas time, often continuing to send cards or emails because I assume the best---that my friends are just busy. 

The Social Network, Asperger's, and Your Brain

Mark Zuckerberg may have been a case of Asperger's, but that didn't stop him from changing your and my brain.  Facebook in real life is making us like the Zuckerberg of the movie.

One Woman's Search for Love

By Jann Gumbiner Ph.D. on November 02, 2010 in The Teenage Mind
When I was in graduate school, we were all wildly curious about love and sex. How do I get and keep a lover?

LGBT Youth talk about connecting to family and community

By Brian Mustanski Ph.D. on November 02, 2010 in The Sexual Continuum
My research shows that LGBT youth want to hear more positive messages about their strengths, connection to family and community, and healthy relationships. We set up a video camera and asked people why they were proud of their community and to tell us about their relationships. This is the first video, with stories about connecting to family and community.

Do You Wear Masks?

By Lissa Rankin M.D. on November 01, 2010 in Owning Pink
It makes me realize that stripping off the masks we wear is not a one-time thing.

Two Things You Need (And One You Don't) For A Happy Marriage

If you want to be happy in your marriage, what's the most important ingredient? Is it your personality, your partner's personality, or the similarity between the two that really matters when it comes to finding marital bliss?

Adolescent Romance: Do You Think It Is Linked to Sexism?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 01, 2010 in Living Single
Over the course of the teenage years, adolescents become less sexist. But is that true of adolescents with more experience in romantic relationships? The answer has different inflections for boys vs. girls.

My teenage daughter feels like an outcast: What should I do?

My daughter is 14-years-old. She is very bright and is in the top 1/3 in all her classes. She is also involved in a music group, does drama, teaches music to younger children, sports, dancing and ballet---a general all-rounder. However I worry as she has no close friends and she feels very much an outcast at school.

Can you excuse your extramarital affair or marrying without love?

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on October 30, 2010 in In the Name of Love
Romantic behavior sometimes involves actions that generate negative consequences. Two major means for defending such wrong deeds are excuses and considering the action to be a compromise. I examine these by considering two types of circumstances: The extramarital affair and marrying without love.

Infertility and Halloween: Cheers? Jeers? Tears?

If you are childless and infertile, it is normal to feel emotionally sidelined at Halloween when parents take such joy in their children's antics. 

For Better Sex, Learn to Forget

An exploration of how sex could be different if we could learn to "forget" our past and our failures and instead, open ourselves to pleasure and wonder. 

Welcome to "Adulthood: What's the Rush?"

By Barbara Ray on October 28, 2010 in Adulthood: What's the Rush?
You're probably already shaking your head at the title of this blog. I know, I know, I get it all the time. "'What's the rush? I'll tell you what's the rush," you're probably saying. "I want my kids out of the house and on their own, so I can get on with my life."

Creating a Singles-Friendly Workplace: How Would You Do It?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 27, 2010 in Living Single
‘Family-friendly workplace' has become a familiar phrase. Usually, though, it is implemented with married-with-children employees in mind. What kinds of policies and practices would be fair to all workers? Plus, a reader has a question about a specific workplace issue.

Teasing and Bullying, Boys and Girls

By Nancy Darling Ph.D. on October 26, 2010 in Thinking About Kids
Bullying and teasing may sometimes feel the same to the victim, but they function very differently.