Essential Reads

What’s the Key Imperative for Lasting Love?

One thing most distinguishes romantic love from a more mature, adult love.

Apocalypse Again: Why Can't We Get Enough?

Unpacking why we love the threat of disaster

How Facebook Affects Our Relationships

Whether Facebook helps or harms your relationship depends on how you use it.

Infatuation, Temptation? How To Think Less About That Person

Telling yourself to stop may not be enough.

Recent Posts on Relationships

Gay Kids: Please Don't Commit Suicide!

Because I work at Rutgers, and because I am gay and a psychotherapist, it is perhaps understandable that Tyler Clementi has been on my mind all semester. At times I indulge in rescue fantasies and consider what I would say to Tyler if he had been my client and we were lucky enough to have the opportunity to change the course of what happened on that fall day.  

Love to Hate

By Kasia Galazka on December 15, 2010 in Pop Rocks
The transition from love to disdain has long fueled pop culture. And while Mom Code dictates that "hate" is a strong word, the feeling runs rampant when a relationship ends. So how thin is the line that separates life's most compelling dichotomy, really?

Infertility and the Holidays: A "Double Dose of Hectic"

December holidays are busy for almost everyone, and those of us who grapple with infertility feel especially challenged at this time of the year.  Those challenges are both practical and psychological.  So let's see what we can do so as not to become overwhelmed by the "double dose of hectic!" 

Hormonal Levels Predict the Likelihood of Women to Stray.

By Gad Saad Ph.D. on December 15, 2010 in Homo Consumericus
"When you're in love with a beautiful woman, it's hard." These classic lyrics from a 1979 song by Dr. Hook and the Medicine Show were recently validated in a study linking a woman's estradiol level to her penchant to stray.

Flash Forward -- What a Temper Does to Sex

Having a temper means having a lonely bed

Men and Women as Friends – When One is Gay or Lesbian

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on December 15, 2010 in Living Single
In a study of close friendships between men and women - when one is gay or lesbian - the friends regarded one another as family and sometimes planned their later lives together.

Breakup Etiquette: What Not To Do

By Maryanne Fisher Ph.D. on December 14, 2010 in Love's Evolver
Most of us have been there: the end of the romantic relationship.  There might have been a full disclosure about why the person was dumping you, or maybe they just drifted away without a word. Hopefully, though, no matter how the breakup went, the person didn't hire someone to dump you.

Dread nots: surviving the holidays with spirit intact

By Marcia Eckerd Ph.D. on December 14, 2010 in People Skills
Get rid of the "Holiday Dreads" and enjoy yourself!

Don't Let the Dragon Steal Christmas

By Julie K Hersh on December 14, 2010 in Struck By Living
Hersh uses her read of Girl with the Dragon Tattoo to prepare for the Christmas holiday.

Guest Post: Learning from Elizabeth Edwards

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on December 14, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
 I am saddened by the Elizabeth Edwards' death. I never knew her personally, but whenever I saw Elizabeth Edwards on television, or read something she wrote, or saw her from afar during her husband's days in D.C., I couldn't help but think that she is one of those women who I'd want to have as my friend. 

The Pursuit of Perfect as the Basis for Blaming

By Neil Farber M.D, Ph.D. on December 13, 2010 in The Blame Game
Tal Ben-Shahar is an expert on happiness, teaches at Harvard and has written some internationally successful books on the subject. He has identified the major obstacle to achieving happiness; the aspiration to a life that is not just happier, but perfect. It is also our habitual pursuit of perfect which is one of the leading causes of blaming. How does this happen?...

Autism - It's a Family Thing

By Chantal Sicile-Kira on December 13, 2010 in The Autism Advocate
Family life is all about relationships and communication: relationships between two people in love, parents and children, siblings, extended family members. Yet, autism spectrum disorders (ASDs) are all about communication challenges, misunderstanding of social cues, and lack of emotional understanding, thus affecting every relationship in the family. It has been estimated that the divorce rate is in the 80% range in families with children who have autism (Bolman, 2006). Despite high rates of marital conflict, many couples do not reach out for couples therapy.

Death to Cheating Wives? Take Two

By David J Ley Ph.D. on December 13, 2010 in Women Who Stray
Tragic events related to female infidelity will continue as long as men view their wives' sexuality as property, rather than a cherished gift.

Compulsive Buying: An Impulse-Control Disorder

Although not all compulsive buyers are particularly interested with such distinctions, there's some uncertainty among the mental health profession about whether to see overshopping as a genuine disorder or merely a bad habit.

5 Ways to Ask for Help

By Terri Orbuch Ph.D. on December 13, 2010 in The Love Doctor
The sense of being able to count on your spouse for help turns out to be a key to marital happiness.

Upside of Committing to Marriage

By Kimberly Key on December 13, 2010 in Counseling Keys
Examining why 50% of people stay married and what they get out of their lifetime commitment.

Basking in Human Goodness

By Marietta McCarty on December 13, 2010 in Life Saving Philosophy
What does your experience of the world teach you? Not the news, twittered or blogged; not movies, magazines, or music - - - what about your own, everyday, very personal experience of humanity?  I hereby take a stand for the abundance of human goodness.

Loving Someone with ADD

By Lara Honos-Webb Ph.D. on December 13, 2010 in The Gift of ADHD
 Loving Someone With ADD. You need to know the gifts of ADD to create a passionate partnership.

Your platonic friend…she’s just not that into you~

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on December 13, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
Dear Irene,I have read and been told by female friends that when a man is friends with a woman and all of a sudden wants to take it to a romantic level, the woman will "freak out" and get turned off. 

In the Garden of Faith, by Jenna Holst

By Jennifer Haupt on December 12, 2010 in One True Thing
There is a nocturnal bird in my garden who stands motionless during the daylight hours, waiting for the dimness of dusk before moving about. He is like a monk patiently listening for the ringing of the bell that calls him to meditations.