Conspicuous consumption seems like irrational economic behavior, with shoppers actively avoiding “Best Buys” in favor of things overpriced. But a series of studies released this week suggests rational underpinnings for this seemingly wasteful behavior.
Recently I have been noticing a recurring phenomenon in many clients and patients with regard to their intimate adult relationships. It appears that many of them are attracted to or have even married someone who is remarkably similar to a parent that they had "unfinished business" with.
Movement matters. Moving our bodily selves is not just about strengthening our muscles so that we can hold up our heads. How we move is about how we play. How we play is about how we learn. And what we are born to learn is how to love.
Effective assertivenesss is different for men than women. There is a fine art to female assertiveness. Although you might still be judged negatively by some for being direct and bold at any time, when you are diplomatically assertive, you are more likely to get what you want.
Have we raised a generation too willing to coast along on mom and dad's support? Have we spent too much time raising their self-esteem and not enough time making them face the music? Have we given them everything but made them lazy? I, for one, seriously doubt it.
We like to imagine that we'd do anything for our closest friends and loved ones. But "anything" is a huge, elastic concept. Would we really do "anything," or even want to do "anything"? When the abstract turns concrete, things can look very different.
It is hard to know if lengthy silences and withdrawals by friends are because they are trying to dump you or because they are busy and a little neglectful. I especially grapple with this at birthdays and at Christmas time, often continuing to send cards or emails because I assume the best---that my friends are just busy.
My research shows that LGBT youth want to hear more positive messages about their strengths, connection to family and community, and healthy relationships. We set up a video camera and asked people why they were proud of their community and to tell us about their relationships. This is the first video, with stories about connecting to family and community.
If you want to be happy in your marriage, what's the most important ingredient? Is it your personality, your partner's personality, or the similarity between the two that really matters when it comes to finding marital bliss?