Essential Reads

The LGBT Family Blender

Lesbian moms and gay dads coming out: (heterosexually) married with kids.

Is the Tongue the "Sword of a Woman?"

Is it just a stereotype that women are nastier gossips than men?

Are You Tired of Being Judged?

We can't avoid being judged, but we can avoid letting others define us.

7 Reasons for Gay & Lesbian Couples to Celebrate

Saying “I do” is a big step whether the couple is gay, lesbian, or straight.

Recent Posts on Relationships

10 Marriage New Years Resolutions for 2011: The Divorce Busters Edition

By Michele Weiner-Davis MSW on December 29, 2010 in Divorce Busting
Most marriage New Year's Resolutions are written for couples in which both partners are willing work toward their goals together. Unfortunately, many spouses don't have that luxury.  If you're going about saving your marriage alone, please, read this!

Do Crime Victims Deserve Some Blame?

By Jeff Wise on December 29, 2010 in Extreme Fear
Recently I wrote that "We are not all equally likely to fall prey. Just as the psychopaths are a special breed, so too are their victims." This suggestion drew a heated response from readers. Some accused me of "blaming the victim." Am I guilty as charged?

The Most Important Journey of Our Lives

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on December 29, 2010 in Finding Love
I'm Ken Page, LCSW, a psychotherapist whose work focuses on the search for intimacy. I'm delighted to begin this blog for single people and those who support them in their growth. It's a subject very close to my heart. In my experience, the quality of love in our lives is the single greatest determinant of our happiness.

Declining Holiday Invitations to Virus-ville: An Assertive Account of Saying No--Repeatedly

 When assertiveness begets passive aggression: Can friendships withstand honest and direct self-expression?

The Rose

By Francois Grosjean Ph.D. on December 29, 2010 in Life as a Bilingual
We all have one or two key people who have inspired us in our careers. We might not have chosen our particular domain, and be who we are, had we not met them. A bilingual couple played that role in my career and in my life.

The Power of Releasing Resentments: A Holiday and New Year’s Gift to Yourself and Others

By Judith Orloff M.D. on December 28, 2010 in Emotional Freedom
The main person resentment hurts is you. To free yourself from negativity learn how to release your resentments no matter how mistreated you feel. Instead forgiveness penetrates the impenetrable--the obstinacy that stifles love, the tenacious pain that dams our energy reserves.

Cleaning Out the Attic (the One in Your Head)

By Karl Albrecht Ph.D. on December 28, 2010 in BrainSnacks
That old cliché "Growth is painful" is wrong. As I see it, not growing is what's painful; growth is pain-relieving. It's liberating.

Disgruntled partners defend "honey-do" lists

And what is a "honey-do" list but a bid to control a partner's free time?

The Paradoxical Rationale for Self-Sabotage (Pt 2 of 5)

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on December 28, 2010 in Evolution of the Self
 Do you seem to struggle in life much more than others? If you're disciplined enough to work hard at accomplishing a goal, yet routinely do something rash or imprudent to undermine it, your behavior may actually be more motivated than you imagine. . . .

A New Year's Resolution You Won't Complain About

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on December 28, 2010 in The Squeaky Wheel
This New Year's you can improve your relationships, bolster your mental health and enhance your self-esteem all by making one simple resolution. Even better, keeping this resolution is easier than sticking to a diet, attending classes at a gym or organizing all your closets. 

Housebound and lonely: What advice would you give this reader?

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on December 28, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
I'm 63 years old, and housebound due to health and mobility problems. My family works so they can't come every day. I find myself sitting alone in the house day after day and would love to have someone visit, and sit and talk to me 

Look for the Holes

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on December 28, 2010 in Fixing Families
In order to solve problems you need to step outside of the familiar and comfortable.

Reward Training vs. Discipline-Based Dog Training

By Stanley Coren Ph.D., F.R.S.C. on December 28, 2010 in Canine Corner
Dog training based upon rewards versus punitive discipline not only produces different rates of learning, but also produces learned emotional responses that may strengthen or weaken the human-animal bond.

What Is Virtualism? (And Why You Should Care.)

By Elias Aboujaoude M.D. on December 27, 2010 in Compulsive Acts
How our real life persona increasingly resembles that of our avatar...

The perfect guy and other thoughts on love in your 20s

By Jen Kim on December 27, 2010 in Valley Girl With a Brain
Why writing about perfect relationships is boring, but finding them is anything but.

Role of the Favorite Child- Avoid Cleopatra's Murderous Carnage

By Cathy Cress M.S.W. on December 27, 2010 in Mom Loves You Best
Did you feel like killing your sibling this holiday season because they still reign as the favorite ,as they walked in the family door.

Do You Protect What's Yours at Work and Should You?

By Donna Flagg on December 27, 2010 in Office Diaries
Turfism. It's one of those annoying little things that usually ends up creating big problems in the workplace.

Why did my best friend dump me?

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on December 27, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
In Sunday's UK Mail, journalist Mandy Francis wrote about her experience of being dumped by a friend without warning or explanation. Years later, she still feels the hurt.

How To Admit You're Wrong

By Alex Lickerman M.D. on December 26, 2010 in Happiness in this World
This last summer, my wife and I had a fight. As with many fights between married couples, the surface issue was inconsequential but housed an important issue underneath.

Darling, Are You Upset by My Success?

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on December 25, 2010 in In the Name of Love
Happy-for is an emotion that describes the state of happiness we feel for someone else when they achieve a success. Does such an emotion exist at all? Does my partner's success make me feel happy or does it upset me? Sadly enough, the latter is often the case among people in general and couples as well. 

Giving really is better than receiving

By Allen R McConnell Ph.D. on December 25, 2010 in The Social Self
During the holiday season, one custom that is shared across many religious and cultural traditions ranging from Christmas to Hanukkah to Kwanzaa is the act of giving to others. Recent scientific evidence and many influential transcendental leaders support the notion that "it is better to give than to receive."

The most wonderful time of the year? Not for everyone

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on December 24, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
Think everyone's feeling jolly this holiday season? Think again. Actually, the time between Thanksgiving and New Year's tends to be stressful for many.

Like Edward Scissorhands - Will You Be The Victim of Christmas?

By Cathy Cress M.S.W. on December 24, 2010 in Mom Loves You Best
Whatever happened in your childhood, can flash back like holiday PTSD.

When all you want for Christmas is perfection . . .

By Kate Distin Ph.D. on December 23, 2010 in Cultural Evolution
How do you feel about Christmas? For most of us, the answer will depend on what's revealed when the festive magnifying glass is placed over our relationships with family and friends.