Essential Reads

The Science of Betrayal

This is your brain on betrayal

Hate Small Talk? It’s a Skill Worth Learning

5 Ways to Make Conversation about Unimportant Things

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

... including the truth about rebound relationships.

Are Babies Contagious?

Why parenthood spreads through social networks.

Recent Posts on Relationships

National Unfriend Day: Can you have too many friends?

By Robbie Woliver on November 11, 2010 in Alphabet Kids
Jimmy Kimmel might have a point when he suggests we have too many friends. We can blame Facebook for that, as some people will "friend" any name that pops up on their screen. But does that mean they can't turn into more meaningful relationships at some point. They can.

Would you hire this woman?

By Rosemary Joyce Ph.D. on November 10, 2010 in What Makes Us Human
Well-intentioned positive comments that echo gender stereotypes work against women in the academic job market.

Infertility: Creative Approaches to Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving causes many peope with infertility to re-evaluate the meaning of this holiday, as we feel apprehensive at the prospect of sitting at a meal with pregnant women, nursing mothers and infants in high chairs.

Am I Good Enough Yet? Yes You Are!

By Ann Smith on November 10, 2010 in Healthy Connections
If you answered yes to some of the questions from yesterday's quiz about perfectionism you may now feel even more critical of yourself but that is not the purpose! The goal is to relax, be in the moment and be honest but not abusive to yourself. Recovery is a lifelong journey not a destination.

Finding Friends on a Large College Campus

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on November 10, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
I'm a college freshman at a large state university. I chose not to join a sorority because it's really not my thing, and I've had some difficulties joining campus organizations. They don't make it easy to join clubs here. I've made a few friends, but no one close yet, and I feel that it's been a long time not to develop any close relationships. 

5 Ways to Minimize Family Holiday Stress

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on November 10, 2010 in The Squeaky Wheel
Even the best planned holiday gatherings can become a disaster if heated arguments erupt between guests or family members. The following suggestions will help minimize complaining and maximize the potential for a peaceful and pleasant holiday.

What We Can Learn About Sex From Britney Spears

From Hit Me Baby One More Time to her love affair gone wrong with Justin to her marriage to and divorce from K-Fed, Britney ranks among the top Celebrity Sexperts of contemporary times. Here’s what I think we can learn from her:

Should You Be Monogamous To Your Job?

By Vicki Salemi on November 09, 2010 in Big Career Corner
Do people "cheat" on their jobs the same reasons why they cheat on their spouse? Aside from moonlighting for extra cash, do people moonlight to gain something our main squeeze doesn't provide whether it's autonomy, creativity or downright satisfaction?

Author Frank Delaney's Storytelling Life: "We All Need Stories"

By Mary Beth Sammons on November 09, 2010 in The Story of Our Lives
 Author Frank Delaney Helps Us Find Our Stories

Who Is Asian?

 An Iranian immigrant to the US described to me his first contact with American racial concepts. He had to fill out a form and label himself with one of the listed options. When he chose Asian, he was told "You aren't Asian."

Am I Good Enough Yet?

By Ann Smith on November 09, 2010 in Healthy Connections
How good is good enough when it comes to personal growth? Most of us would deny being a classic perfectionist and yet when we listen carefully to our self-talk we may find a few perfectionistic tendencies. 

About Those 10 Ten-Minute Life-Enhancing Tips

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 09, 2010 in Living Single
A very popular post at Psych Today was marred by singlism. Christina from Onely describes the problem, and shows how the post could have been written in a way that would not have diminished and dismissed people who are single. Consciousness-raising comments from other PT readers are quoted here, too. 

Deep Rationality II: Conspicuous Consumption as Mating Display

Conspicuous consumption seems like irrational economic behavior, with shoppers actively avoiding “Best Buys” in favor of things overpriced.  But a series of studies released this week suggests rational underpinnings for this seemingly wasteful behavior.

Unfinished Business - Don't Leave Home WITH It

By Mark Goulston M.D., F.A.P.A. on November 08, 2010 in Just Listen
Recently I have been noticing a recurring phenomenon in many clients and patients with regard to their intimate adult relationships.  It appears that many of them are attracted to or have even married someone who is remarkably similar to a parent that they had "unfinished business" with.

Movement = Play = Love

By Kimerer LaMothe Ph.D. on November 08, 2010 in What a Body Knows
Movement matters. Moving our bodily selves is not just about strengthening our muscles so that we can hold up our heads. How we move is about how we play. How we play is about how we learn. And what we are born to learn is how to love. 

ADHD and Marriage: Use "Living in the Now" to Your Advantage

By Melissa Orlov on November 08, 2010 in May I Have Your Attention
Understanding that people with ADHD often have two time zones - "now" and "not now" - can improve your relationship.

Intimate Justice

By Jacqueline Hudak M.Ed., Ph.D., L on November 08, 2010 in FamilyLife
As a culture, we don't acknowledge the ways in which the presence or absence of racism, poverty, gender privilege, or heterosexism shape and give meaning to our relationships.

The Fine Art of Female Assertiveness

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on November 07, 2010 in Wander Woman
Effective assertivenesss is different for men than women. There is a fine art to female assertiveness. Although you might still be judged negatively by some for being direct and bold at any time, when you are diplomatically assertive, you are more likely to get what you want.

Will it Ever End?

Survivors of child abuse are not the only one's in search of the answer. Their family and friends may wonder as well.

Siblings and Self-Esteem

You can't just lie down and be a doormat.

Is Blaming Parents for "Failure to Launch" a Red Herring?

By Barbara Ray on November 04, 2010 in Adulthood: What's the Rush?
Have we raised a generation too willing to coast along on mom and dad's support? Have we spent too much time raising their self-esteem and not enough time making them face the music? Have we given them everything but made them lazy? I, for one, seriously doubt it.