Essential Reads

The Benefits of Embracing the Ordinary

Why you should take the time to capture the mundane in your everyday life

Departing Earth

What does it say to leave your home planet forever?

Sex in the Head

What may look like pure physical arousal is usually much more complicated.

Obama and Netanyahu in Family Therapy

Mr. President and Mr. Prime Minister, for the sake of world peace, call me.

Recent Posts on Relationships

TMI: Try the 'less social' approach

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on November 16, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
Like the seasonal flu, we all get a touch of social media fatigue from time to time. Whether it's Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Foursquare or something else, there are days when there's too much information (TMI) out there-from too many people who are actually pretty peripheral to our lives. We worry about privacy, too, and whether we're giving away too much of our selves.

Who Keeps Siblings Together When They Become Adults?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 16, 2010 in Living Single
During adulthood, there is a category of people who are especially likely to help, support, and stay in touch with their siblings. Now we also know how contact with siblings changes as people get married or divorced.

Taking on Cyberbullying

The effects of Cyberbullying are being felt by teens all across the nation.  So, how do we stop it? We join our forces and form an alliance with Teens, Parents, Schools, and Community/Business Leaders. By forming an alliance and following some basic tips, we can prevent Cyberbullying.

Sex, Pleasure and Orgasm: How Much is Mind, How Much is Body?

Some scientists believe that sexuality is becoming increasingly “medicalized” – that is, sexual problems are often viewed as medical problems that have medical solutions. Here's what you need to know about creating better sex through the intersections of mind and body.

National Gaming Day Is Sending the Wrong Message

By Ryan G Van Cleave Ph.D. on November 14, 2010 in Unplugged
On November 13, 1,800 libraries throughout the world will participate in the largest simultaneous national video game tournament ever. While folks from Guinness World Records might be supportive of this, the rest of us should not be.

A Letter from Your Ex-Spouse

One of the most painful things for many who have been left is the fact that they will never get the acknowledgement or apology they feel they deserve. So, although you will probably never receive this letter for real, here's a chance for you to read the words you need to hear. 

To Complain or Blame: Is That the Question?

The two greatest sources of our habitually negative thoughts are Blaming and Complaining. Our love for these two negative bedfellows is unhealthy and detrimental to us as individuals and as a society. While Blaming and Complaining have very distinct personalities, when it comes to performing the actions,...

Is Your Spouse's Extreme Weight Gain a Good Excuse for an Affair?

By Anita E. Kelly Ph.D. on November 12, 2010 in Insight
Wives are more likely to have a major weight gain; and husbands are more likely to be bothered by a spouse's weight gain. But are weight gain and the accompanying loss of attraction legitimate excuses for an affair?

Ending a one-sided friendship: How can I get her to stop IM-ing me?

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on November 12, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
It's gotten to the point that as soon as I see that she's online, I immediately sign off, which then infuriates me that I'm doing these things just so she won't contact me. I started off wanting to simply downgrade the friendship, but it's as if she won't let me! It's wearing me out, and it's affecting my other friendships

Healing Erectile Dysfunction

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on November 11, 2010 in Save Your Sex Life
Are you a man struggling with erectile problems? You may believe that you will have difficulty with this forever or that is not solvable unless you take medication for the problem but a pill may not fix all of the trouble. Here's why....

National Unfriend Day: Can you have too many friends?

By Robbie Woliver on November 11, 2010 in Alphabet Kids
Jimmy Kimmel might have a point when he suggests we have too many friends. We can blame Facebook for that, as some people will "friend" any name that pops up on their screen. But does that mean they can't turn into more meaningful relationships at some point. They can.

Would you hire this woman?

By Rosemary Joyce Ph.D. on November 10, 2010 in What Makes Us Human
Well-intentioned positive comments that echo gender stereotypes work against women in the academic job market.

Infertility: Creative Approaches to Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving causes many peope with infertility to re-evaluate the meaning of this holiday, as we feel apprehensive at the prospect of sitting at a meal with pregnant women, nursing mothers and infants in high chairs.

Am I Good Enough Yet? Yes You Are!

By Ann Smith on November 10, 2010 in Healthy Connections
If you answered yes to some of the questions from yesterday's quiz about perfectionism you may now feel even more critical of yourself but that is not the purpose! The goal is to relax, be in the moment and be honest but not abusive to yourself. Recovery is a lifelong journey not a destination.

Finding Friends on a Large College Campus

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on November 10, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
I'm a college freshman at a large state university. I chose not to join a sorority because it's really not my thing, and I've had some difficulties joining campus organizations. They don't make it easy to join clubs here. I've made a few friends, but no one close yet, and I feel that it's been a long time not to develop any close relationships. 

5 Ways to Minimize Family Holiday Stress

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on November 10, 2010 in The Squeaky Wheel
Even the best planned holiday gatherings can become a disaster if heated arguments erupt between guests or family members. The following suggestions will help minimize complaining and maximize the potential for a peaceful and pleasant holiday.

What We Can Learn About Sex From Britney Spears

From Hit Me Baby One More Time to her love affair gone wrong with Justin to her marriage to and divorce from K-Fed, Britney ranks among the top Celebrity Sexperts of contemporary times. Here’s what I think we can learn from her:

Should You Be Monogamous To Your Job?

By Vicki Salemi on November 09, 2010 in Big Career Corner
Do people "cheat" on their jobs the same reasons why they cheat on their spouse? Aside from moonlighting for extra cash, do people moonlight to gain something our main squeeze doesn't provide whether it's autonomy, creativity or downright satisfaction?

Author Frank Delaney's Storytelling Life: "We All Need Stories"

By Mary Beth Sammons on November 09, 2010 in The Story of Our Lives
 Author Frank Delaney Helps Us Find Our Stories

Who Is Asian?

 An Iranian immigrant to the US described to me his first contact with American racial concepts. He had to fill out a form and label himself with one of the listed options. When he chose Asian, he was told "You aren't Asian."