Essential Reads

Is Pregnancy Contagious? How About Marriage or Divorce?

Our friends influence us in surprising ways.

The Value of Romantic Gestures

How our relationships would improve if we incorporated more romantic rituals.

The Scientific Case for Owning Up to Your Porn Use

Women are happier when they believe their partners are honest about porn habits.

Singles, You Can Lower Your Risk of Divorce

The things you can do before you marry that can change your odds of divorce

Recent Posts on Relationships

Ending Relationship Addiction

Relationship addictions may require going "cold turkey," as it is hard to stop smoking if you have a lit cigarette in your hand.

Pride and Prejudice and Compassion

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in The Web of Violence
How does gender affect the relationship between compassion and mental health? Revisit a classic love story in this blog as we look at how compassion could drive you crazy.

Is Your Teen an Observer, Asserter, Perfectionist or …?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on February 16, 2015 in Singletons
So much about being a teen can be confusing and difficult. Understanding the nine Enneagram personality types could help your teen. What type is your teen and what does that say about the way he or she relates to others including you, her parents?

Why Does the Fifty Shades Movie Look Like Domestic Abuse?

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on February 16, 2015 in SexualityToday
In the theater, I realized that the idea of Fifty Shades just being fantasy and therefore innocuous doesn't completely work. Some of the fantasy on-screen struck me as too close to the things people put up with in real life.

7 Bad Ways To Quit If You Want A Fresh Start

By Peg Streep on February 16, 2015 in Tech Support
When you leave a situation, a job, or a relationship, what's your quitting style? You will want to avoid all seven of these for sure......

Let's Give Valentine’s Day 2016 Back to Children

By Rita Watson MPH on February 15, 2015 in With Love and Gratitude
Look at the world through the eyes of a child before that child learns anger or hate. And just as we tallied up cards from our Valentine’s Day box as children, let the next Valentine’s Day become a day when children’s organizations can tally up checks.

Why Is There So Much Miscommunication Via Email and Text?

Why Is There So Much Miscommunication Via Email and Text? How we interpret electronic messages is shaped by our feelings. By Melissa Ritter, Ph.D.

Drop This Word To Improve Your Loving Relationship!

Stop saying this word so you and your intimate partner can get along better and feel a stronger, healthier love.

Fifty Shades of Grey

By Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. on February 15, 2015 in Get Hardy
E. L. James' racy bestseller Fifty Shades of Grey has been called an amusing, romantic tale of a woman's exploration of sexual desire that has captured the interest and imagination of over 19 million readers. But, is there something more to the subject matter of this racy novel that has led to its huge success and the making of a movie? See this post!

I Would Rather Have Tasted Her Lips Just Once

Social psychologist Phillip Shaver and colleagues asked students how confident they were that words on a list of over one hundred emotion words referred to emotions. Interestingly, they found that “love” was the single word that students were most confident signified an emotion. But is love really an emotion?

How to Keep People From Bringing Out the Worst in You

Reactaholism is the major addiction of our times. The others tend to start as attempts to ease the chronic powerlessness of reactaholism.

10 Ways to Tell if You're Giving Your Relationship a Chance

We all hold beliefs about love and the importance it have for our happiness. This 10-item scale will tell you how realistic or unrealistic you are about what to expect from your closest romantic partners, how responsible you are for other people's happiness, and whether you're driven by the need for approval.

Check Your Marital Privilege

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 14, 2015 in Living Single
There is a vast swath of unearned privileges that have gone largely unrecognized, even though they unfairly advantage about half of the adult population in the U.S.—marital privileges. People who marry enjoy social, cultural, economic, and political advantages that single people do not, simply because they are married.

How Do You Define Love?

Careful how you use the word, "Love." It just might be misunderstood and that can get you into trouble.

How to Improve Your Relationship Satisfaction

By Kristine Anthis Ph.D. on February 13, 2015 in Who Am I?
What is the Secret to Relationship Satisfaction?

Has Technology Hijacked Your Quality of Life?

Don’t settle for contact; go for connection! Much of what motivates us to go on-line has to do with a desire for personal contact. While there’s nothing wrong with making contact with others through electronic media, contact alone isn’t sufficient to fulfill our need for meaningful connection.

The Ideal Family: How Do You Stack Up?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on February 13, 2015 in Fixing Families
An ideal family isn't necessarily about children having manners or creating "quality time", but creating a healthy foundation and structure. Here's what you want to shoot for.

Why We Need Fantasy

What exactly do we get out of watching romantic relationships on television?

How Valentine's Day Is Ruining Relationships

By Jonathan Fader Ph.D. on February 13, 2015 in The New You
Valentine’s Day is the holiday of love – a day to celebrate your significant others. But for some, it’s not all roses and chocolates. Multiple studies have shown that couples are more likely to break up in the weeks before and after Valentine’s Day. So, why does a holiday meant to celebrate relationships result in more break ups?

Use Science To Show Loved Ones You Care This Valentine's Day

Want to make this Valentine's Day scientifically significant? Turn to sex and relationships science for all you need.

Travel: The Ultimate Aphrodisiac?

By Jaime Kurtz Ph.D. on February 13, 2015 in Happy Trails
Travel is related to improved communication, deeper satisfaction, and increased intimacy in married couples.

3 Tips for Better Rebound Relationships

Have patience with yourself or your friends, if a rebound relationship is on the radar.

Will Love Make You Happy?

By Paul Dolan Ph.D. on February 13, 2015 in Happiness by Design
Sometimes love is described as if it is happiness in and of itself. Love is not happiness, although it can contribute to your happiness - and your happiness can contribute to your success in love too. This Valentine’s Day, learn a bit more about what love is and think about whether it’s worth having or not.

The Sticky (Dating) Problem: Inertia, Lock-in, and Sunk Cost

By Scott M. Stanley Ph.D. on February 13, 2015 in Sliding vs. Deciding
Things move fast these days in the world of romance. One of the problems that people often do not see coming is making it harder to break up before really deciding if the person they are seeing is right for them. That happens all the time (now) because it's become so easy to increase constraints that lock you in before developing deeper dedication and knowledge of the fit.

Fifty Shades of Grey Review

By Sari Cooper L.C.S.W. on February 13, 2015 in Sex Esteem
The long anticipated movie has finally hit the screens! Here are some thoughts coming from a Certified Sex Therapist.

Reading Your Partner Better Can Change the Way You Fight

By Jessica Grogan Ph.D. on February 13, 2015 in Encountering America
Interpreting anger and withdrawal as protests against disconnection can improve how your relate to your partner.

Is Casual Sex Just Plain Wrong?

Continuing to have sex with a heedlessly selfish partner who is concerned only about his or her own gratification is irrational. But when sex is unlikely to subtract from your wellbeing, it is perfectly permissible as long as the encounter is consensual. There is nothing inherently bad about casual flings, loveless hookups and friends-with-benefits arrangements.

Irrelationship’s Audience—Who Helps the Helper Help

The "Audience" in irrelationship, though apparently passive receivers of others' (Performer’s) ministrations, are actually caretaking others in their own way. Though it may look like passivity—i.e., they allow others to believe that their controlling and caretaking made them feel happier and their lives better—they are very actively keeping themselves safe emotionally.

Why So Cynical About Valentine’s Day?

As the Valentine's Day hype machine roars on, so does the Valentine's Day cynicism. Here's why you should resist both.

From "Sex and the City" to Marriage, “The Longest Date”

By Elise Ballard on February 12, 2015 in Epiphany
Award-winning, former "Sex and the City" writer Cindy Chupack talks candidly with Elise Ballard about her epiphanies and insights on life, love, romance, writing, and therapy, as well as her new book about the trials and tribulations of marriage and starting a family.