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Reasons People Cohabit, and Why Testing is the Worst Reason

Most people believe cohabiting is a great test of compatibility, but it's probably not. We explore various reasons people give for cohabiting and why it can fail the test.

Online Dating: Quit Bragging

Research on why modesty is best for the online dater.

How to Say What You Mean without Sounding Like You're Mean

In a time when opinions are key to almost any dialogue between people, you may wonder- what’s the best way to express yours? This simple approach will help you find your voice.

The Surprising Things You’ve Never Wanted to Know about Love

We think of love as an entirely positive emotion, but there are some surprising downsides to being in love.

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4 Ways to Breathe New Life into a Stale Relationship

When relationships start to get a bit too routine and boring, it's time to spice them up. Follow these four steps to get things moving.

Do You Want to Be More Fit, but Are Afraid of Exercise?

Have you become more and more sedentary as the years go by? Are you at the point where you fear strenuous exercise, even though you used to be an active, fit, adventurous person?

Fear, Fame, and Fortune

Aside from our men and women in uniform, celebrities likely have had to surmount the most fear to succeed. These celebrity quotes sum up their often sordid victories over fright.
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For More Sex in Marriage...Think About It

Is your marriage suffering from a lack of increased love and intimacy? Try this...

How to Talk About the Things You Don't Want to Talk About

You can learn to talk about difficult subjects with your partner. Doing so is vital to your relationship.

A Couple Quits Therapy; What Is “Normal” Desire?

By Marty Klein PhD on June 29, 2016 in Sexual Intelligence
When is a lack of desire a problem to fix, and when is it a reasonable response?

Love in Outer Space - Or Just in Your Head?

Water worlds? Kelper 62f? Stanislaw Lew’s sci-fi novel "Solaris" gave them a living angry mind. Tarkovsky’s and Steven Soderbergh’s psychological films saw it differently. Why?

Can Being Scared Make Someone Appear More Attractive?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on June 28, 2016 in Love, Digitally
Arousal from one stimuli is transferred to another We make a mistake in judging what is causing us to be aroused

11 Ways to Deal With a Critical Mother

What to do about a critical mother

Celebrating Marriage Equality's One Year Anniversary

How have things been different for loving couples since the Supreme Court ruled in favor of marriage equality, one year ago?

Can Mindfulness Make Your Relationship Happier?

Mindfulness can make us healthier and happier, more successful at work, and less stressed. But can mindfulness actually improve our romantic relationships?

3 Surprising Ways Dogs Make Your Relationships Better

By Vinita Mehta Ph.D., Ed.M. on June 27, 2016 in Head Games
Humans relate to each other more positively when there's a dog in the mix.

Basic Primer—Trust 101 for New Leaders

Are you a new manager or leader? Are you wondering how to get results from those you need to influence? Here are 15 things that will help you do just that.

What's Carrying You?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on June 27, 2016 in Your Wise Brain
Fundamentally, this practice means a relaxed opening into the love—in a very very broad sense—that is the actual nature of everything.

4 Reasons You Might Want to LOVE Your Anxiety.

What if you could reframe that anxiety and actually learn to believe that it is one of the best parts of who you are?

The Lies Lovers Tell Survey

Are you lying to your lover? Or are they lying to you? A recent study explores what we lie to our partners about and how often we do it.
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5 Ways to Cope With Failure

Here's five things you can do to cope with failure.

It’s Not About You

By David Ludden Ph.D. on June 27, 2016 in Talking Apes
The angry words delivered during a verbal attack tell far more about the speaker than they do the receiver.

How Do You Know Whether Love Will Last?

How do you know if your partner is going to stick with you through the rough patches or whether early romance will lead to more serious commitment? Research has some answers.

Want to Get Closer to Your Romantic Partner? Try Doing This!

Check out this quick, powerful way for couples to get closer that is so widely "overlooked"!

Why Your Friends May Know You Better Than You Know Yourself

Understanding these three key social perception factors can help us get to know ourselves better.

Do Narcissists Really Feel Great About Themselves?

By Craig Malkin Ph.D. on June 26, 2016 in Romance Redux
Previous research suggests that narcissists have extremely high self-esteem. But is that simply illusion?

Three Enticing Ways to Improve Communication and Intimacy

You've worked hard to become a good listener. But have you ever learned how to express yourself?

The 7 Types of Love

By Neel Burton M.D. on June 25, 2016 in Hide and Seek
By focusing on romantic love, we neglect other types of love which are more readily accessible and may be more fulfilling and less limiting.

Office Banter Turns to Silence

A woman's close friendship with a male co-worker suddenly becomes a distant one.

Making Room for It All – Part 1

We deepen our capacity to experience life in general when we have a close connection with another human being.

I Lost My Step-Family and I'm Distressed

Reader: My dad and stepmother split up and I miss my stepbrother.

Making Love with Your Bliss

By Dana Klisanin Ph.D. on June 24, 2016 in Digital Altruism
Spring has sprung with a leap and a bound. Sooner it seems, than in previous years.

Laughing After Divorce

Divorce is common and results in difficult feelings and experiences. A new study explores the role of humor after divorce.
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10 Ways to Reduce Smartphone Mindlessness

Smartphones have their pros and cons. But are we mindful of the cons or are we mindless to what we don't know? Here are 10 tips for managing the cons of too much cell phone use.