Essential Reads

Marrying Your Best Friend: Is It for Better or Worse?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on December 04, 2016 in Off the Couch
“My wife is my best friend" or “I can talk to my women friends about things my husband would never understand.” Which is better?

What Do You Do Right After Sex?

Do you want to snuggle, talk, or check your phone after sex? How is what you do after sex connected to your relationship satisfaction or the hormonal influences of sexual activity?

Psychopaths Have Regrets: Can Early Help and Love Save Them?

By Rita Watson MPH on November 30, 2016 in With Love and Gratitude
If children with antisocial tendencies could be raised in a loving atmosphere or receive early intervention, perhaps full-blown psychopathic and violent tendencies might be curbed.

A Step-Child's Guide to Step-Parenting

Each family has its own story with its own peculiar complexities, but most have a moment in which the new boyfriend or girlfriend becomes a parent...

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Does Age Make You Pickier When Finding a Partner?

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on November 14, 2016 in Emotional Fitness
It’s perfectly okay to be picky. Just make sure you pick something to get involved in, and don’t let life pass you by.

Forgiving Your Partner

What do you when your partner does something that hurts you?

In the Face of Fear Is Love Possible?

An activist explains why it's a challenge to approach solutions from a place of openness and love in the aftermath of the election.

Crossover Fiction Gets Parents & Teens Talking

Using a conversation-based approach to discussing fiction, teens are afforded a safe space to learn about preventive mental health.

Holiday Traditions

Are your holiday traditions those of stress and apprehension? Try a new approach.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

When Becoming Step Parent to an Adolescent

The attached, young child is more likely to accept and bond with a step parent, than the adolescent who is detaching and differentiating for more independence and individuality.

Crisis Response Models for Suicide Are Not Enough

The suicide rate is at a 30-year high, and rising. Crisis response models try to plug the dam, but the dam isn’t holding. We need a total re-envisioning of crisis response.
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Now What? Hallelujah, Come Together

By Margaret Moore on November 13, 2016 in Life Changes
Is our polarized country getting you down? Let's embrace and integrate the opposites into a new order that is good for everyone.

Ten Reasons to Find Gratitude Despite Election Shock

By Rita Watson MPH on November 13, 2016 in With Love and Gratitude
Our US emblem is the eagle, a symbol of long life. Yet many are terrified about our nation's future as they look at the incoming regime. What to do? Educate and organize for 2020.

Can a TV Series Teach Us to Love Androids?

By Richard E. Cytowic M.D. on November 13, 2016 in The Fallible Mind
Our response to humanoid robots says more about us than them. Emotional reading comes from within, leading us to project our own feelings onto others, both living and inanimate.

Love Is Stronger Than Hate – How to Be Strong, Kind, & Laugh

7 keys to keep yourself positive and strong during these challenging times.

"How Could You Vote for Them?"

By Samantha Joel on November 12, 2016 in Dating Decisions
Evidence suggests that “interparty” relationships frequently either fail to form or fail to last.

Low Man on the Totem Pole—A Husband’s Lament

If your husband is grumbling about being low man on the totem pole, you need to take it seriously because it makes him vulnerable.

What’s The Best Thing to Do to Make More Money?

I am a romantic. I believe that people should marry for love, but I am also practical. If being married will assist in the process of being financially fit, I’m all for it.

Words Kill Trust at Work, Too!

No matter your vote in this election -- trust lost. It lost in our workplaces, too.

How to Reduce Conflict and Foster Healing

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on November 11, 2016 in Freedom to Grieve
In a nation divided, hurting, and fearful, the pressure is mounting. When tension and conflict escalate, do you know how to help?

Bridging Our National Divide Demands Empathy and Compassion

Bridging divides requires humanizing "the other" by discovering our shared humanity in spite of our different lived experiences.

Dropping the Struggle: A Conversation With Roger Housden

By Mark Matousek on November 10, 2016 in Ethical Wisdom
Author Roger Housden offers an antidote to compulsion toward self-improvement in his new book Dropping the Struggle:Seven Ways to Love the Life You Have

Stealth Voters Facilitate Trump´s Poll Vault to Victory

By Wendy L. Patrick Ph.D. on November 10, 2016 in Why Bad Looks Good
How could polls be so wrong? Momentum drove math. Undercover Trump voters were quiet about their political views, and quietly cast their votes this week—for the Donald.

Why Your Clutter Is Killing You and What to Do About It

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on November 10, 2016 in Think Well
Are you a clutterbug, packrat or full-blown hoarder? Here's why your stuff could be weighing down your health and happiness. And what to start doing about it.
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Attachment Hatred

It is hard to conceive of the possibility of a father who loves his daughter but brutally murders her for falling in love with a man.

Communication Lessons from the Trump Win

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on November 10, 2016 in How To Do Life
Takeaways for us all.

Loving Across Party Lines

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on November 10, 2016 in Loving Bravely
Did you and your partner cancel out each other's votes in the presidential election? If so, here are some ways to bridge that difference and find your way back to common ground.

Forgiveness Is the Answer to (Almost) All of Our Ills

By Jason Powers M.D. on November 09, 2016 in Beyond Abstinence
Harboring resentment not only slows healing, but can cause illness. Even justified anger is toxic.

How to Talk to Your Kids About Trump’s Win

By Erica Reischer Ph.D. on November 09, 2016 in What Great Parents Do
Wondering how to talk to kids about the election results? These 3 suggestions will help you go high, and also help kids in the long-run

Leveling Up: Moving Beyond Rejection

Moving beyond rejection starts by rejecting the rejecter and making a commitment to yourself to change who and what you want in your life.
Roni Beth Tower

Sources and Characteristics of Close Relationships

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on November 09, 2016 in Life, Refracted
Close relationships help us live complex lives with emotional, logistical, social, financial support. They warrant navigation because of rich rewards.11 attributes are described.

Living With Change, Post Election

By Temma Ehrenfeld on November 09, 2016 in Open Gently
Now is not the time to gloat or despise others who didn't vote the way you did.

Controlling Students

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on November 09, 2016 in In Control
Nagging people to change a goal that they’re currently nurturing rarely works.

Parental Attachment Problems

Recent reports reveal that a shocking high number of children are not securely attached to their parents.