Essential Reads

What Is the Trajectory Toward Divorce?

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on February 05, 2016 in Close Encounters
There are many reasons why couples may divorce, but when are these marital problems most likely to arise? Research tests three compelling possibilities.

The Stubborn Ones

By Dena Kouremetis on February 05, 2016 in The Unedited Offspring
Do you have a child whose first response is to push the outside of any envelope designed to contain her? Take heart. You just might have gotten lucky.

Sober Dating + Sober Sex = Less Drug and Alcohol Relapse

What should recovering alcoholics and former drug addicts keep in mind when pursuing romantic relationships?

Can You Babyproof Your Relationship?

By Darby Saxbe Ph.D. on February 04, 2016 in Home Base
Will having a baby ruin your marriage? And should policy makers try to help couples transitioning to parenthood?

More Posts on Relationships

Why Is Infidelity So Painful?

Being cheated on by a romantic parter can be excruciatingly painful. But why is it so painful? Is it merely because it's a strong betrayal of trust?

Morning Relationship Rituals That Take 2 Minutes or Less

Relationships are not about grand gestures. They’re about the little ones we squeeze into the tiny moments of each day.

What Tiny Celebrations Can Do For Your Relationship

You don’t need flowers and balloons, you just need tiny bits of effort in the right places.

Why Humans Have Problems

Of course we have problems. Of course our minds, evolved to guide us, often misguide us. Find out why and what to do about it.

How to Keep the Heat in a Monogamous Relationship

Couples in significant relationships need to make time for sexual intimacy even if schedules seem too busy to allow it.

The 5 Most Dangerous Myths About Narcissism (Part 1)

By Craig Malkin PhD on January 16, 2016 Romance Redux
You may think you know all there is to know about narcissism. But you’d be surprised by how many of your most cherished ideas turn out to be just plain wrong.

Crisscrossing Layers of Privilege

Why is it so much easier for so many people to say that they are "fortunate" than to say they are "privileged"?

Societal Roles and Schizophrenia

The context of schizophrenics, in terms of a vocational and relational roles, is typically misunderstood. Combating stigma by understanding of their perspectives is essential.

Why Is It Hard to Say “No” and How Can You Get Better At It?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on January 15, 2016 Off the Couch
Do you have troubles saying "no"? You're not alone. Here are some reasons why this little word is so hard to say, and seven simple ways you can learn to say it better.

Albert Ellis: A Creative Revolutionist

How can one explain the creativity of Albert Ellis, a legendary psychologist?

5 Brain-Smart Resolutions

By Billi Gordon Ph.D. on January 14, 2016 Obesely Speaking
Preventing no pain no gain from turning into no pickles no onions.

When Your Partner Wants Non-Monogamy and You Don’t

This blog explores the difficulties that some people in mixed orientation relationships with a monogamous and a polyamorous person, as well as some strategies to handle challenges

When Good Intentions Aren’t Enough

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on January 14, 2016 Presence of Mind
We usually expect our gifts and help to strengthen our relationship . But that doesn’t always happen because good intentions aren’t enough for successful helping and giving.

How to Tame Your Unruly Brain

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on January 14, 2016 Wander Woman
Your brain is quick to react so how you act following a reaction is critical. Learn how to better analyze your reactions and then tell your brain what to do next.

Do Women Prefer Handsome Men or Helpful Men?

Women are attracted to men who are altruistic and good looking. But, if you had to choose, which would be more important to you?

4 Key Reasons Grandmas Act Differently With Their Grandkids

My 30+ years as a therapist has led me to a curious conclusion about families: namely, that grandparents find it much easier to love their grandchildren unconditionally than . . .

Do You Expect Too Much from Yourself?

We burden ourselves when our expectations are unrealistically high. Being human means having limits and sometimes failing. But failure can be a doorway to future success.

Having Social Bonds Is the No. 1 Way to Optimize Your Health

Maintaining close-knit social ties throughout your life may promote well-being and longevity even more than diet and exercise.

Star Wars: The Force Awakens

Princess Leia has not lost faith. Persephone is rising.

9 Rules for Recovering from Relationship Mistakes

These 9 ideas are critical to returning to a healthy relationship with your partner.

The Hero Within

Most people have no idea that the stories inside our heads determine much of what we notice in the world or how we string our observations together to make meanings of them.

Beware of Performers Bearing Gifts

Being generous is, of course, a wonderful quality. It is also the sheep’s clothes of irrelationship, allowing us to hide our anxiety about being close to others.

Why All Parents Need The Teachings from the Jedi Master

We will all face challenges in 2016. We can choose the good side of the force—always. Let's teach this to our children and remember it for ourselves.

Are Narcissists Born or Made?

Narcissism can be understood through developmental theory, but it can only be addressed through honesty and hard work.

5 Ways to Get Closer to Each Other, Starting Today

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on January 12, 2016 In Practice
Practical tips for a stronger bond and more loving relationship.

The Ideal Ex-Husband

By Wendy Paris on January 12, 2016 Splitopia
We assume divorce leads to ever-growing distance, or active anger, but my own ex feels more like a 20-percent spouse, fulfilling about one-fifth of the roles I'd once sought.

Agree? There are 3 Main Avenues to Meaning in Life

By Gretchen Rubin on January 12, 2016 The Happiness Project
Reading these lines reminds me of another post in which I quoted Frankl–which may be one of the best posts I ever wrote.

5 Things a Loving Parent Never Says

By Peg Streep on January 12, 2016 Tech Support
Being aware of your own behavior and how it can impact your child's development as well as practicing mindful and conscious parenting are key to raising emotionally healthy kids

Saying Yes to Female Orgasm

By Stephen Snyder M.D. on January 12, 2016 SexualityToday
The techniques each woman prefers are so specific that guessing will get you nowhere. A good reminder that sometimes the best way to find out what turns a woman on is just to ask.

10 Ways to Bring Mindfulness to the Way You Use Facebook

Research suggests that using Facebook can cause people to feel worse about themselves, lonelier, or sadder. Mindfulness can help protect you some of these detrimental effects.