Essential Reads

Six Tips to Guide You in Sharing Your Feelings

There’s a time, place, and way to use self-disclosure in your relationships

Mind the Gap

Mindfulness helps us avoid destructive trains of thought.

Your Version of Reality, and Mine

We construct our own sense of the way things are—including our relationships.

How Social You Are in College Predicts Loneliness at Midlife

The importance of shifting social and emotional needs in early adulthood

Recent Posts on Relationships

What to Do When Your Life Takes an Unexpected Turn

As you make your way through life, you are guided by both the long- and short-term goals you’ve set for yourself. However, your plans may take an unexpected turn. From research on “career shocks,” you can learn to manage the unexpectedly good and bad that life throws your way whether in your career or your relationships.

Unloved Daughters and the Pain of Mother's Day

By Peg Streep on April 14, 2015 in Tech Support
While for many children, Mother's Day is one of true celebration, it's a day to be gotten through, survived, or ignored for others. Why is it that we continue to look away from an unpleasant truth: that, sometimes, Mother's Day hurts?

When Introverts and Extroverts Attract

If your love interest is your polar opposite, here are a few things you should know about introversion and extroversion.

10 Signs of True Love

Two selfish creatures committing to a life partnership need an ironic frame.

4 Ways That Breaking Up Could Improve a Relationship

By Wendy Paris on April 14, 2015 in Splitopia
Many people assume that since hate is the opposite of love, discord must be the opposite of marriage. But some former couples get along better unmarried. Four reasons why this might be true.

When Friends Take Sides After a Breakup

After a breakup—whether it’s one between friends or lovers—it’s not unusual for friends of the twosome to take sides.

Dealing with Difficult People: Lessons from Iran and Cuba

By Aldo Civico Ph.D. on April 14, 2015 in Turning Point
What can the meeting between Barack Obama and Raul Castro and the framework agreement between the United States and Iran teach us to deal with difficult people?

Why Some People Let Us Down When We Need Them

If someone has experienced a particular event, they’ll sympathize with those going through the same experience. But those who have gotten through difficult situations tend to be the harshest judges of those who fail under similar circumstances.

5 Hidden Benefits of Being in a Long-Term Relationship

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on April 13, 2015 in In Practice
Here are some of the personal benefits you can reap as a result of being in a committed and loving relationship.

10 Proven Ways to Make Love Last

By being loving and supportive, you can keep your foundation strong and build your dreams for the future. Here are some ways to help make that happen.

The Emotional "Trials" of Trial Independence (ages 18 - 23)

For many last stage adolescents (18 - 23) independence can prove too much of a good thing when they flounder in so much freedom, become stressed out, and experience emotional crisis as a result. At this juncture, parents can be of help.

8 Tips For Teasing Lovingly To Relieve Partnership Tension

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on April 13, 2015 in Ambigamy
Healthy teasing can make partners feel safe and free. Unhealthy teasing can make partners feel unsafe and unfree. Here are a few ideas about how to stay on the healthy side of teasing, especially when your working to expand how safe and free you both feel.

Mental Illness On Reality TV: Helpful Or Harmful?

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on April 12, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
A new TV show begs a very basic question: Does showing the intensely emotional moments of untreated mentally ill individuals help or harm the overall cause?

10 Things You Need to Know About Real Love

10 Things To Know About Real Love and How To Prepare For It

The Real Dangers of “Diagnosing” Everyone a Narcissist

By Craig Malkin on April 12, 2015 in Romance Redux
The current promiscuous use of "narcissist" not only trivializes the pain of people who've suffered greatly in abusive relationships, it generates massive confusion about what narcissism really is. Here's the truth about narcissism and narcissists--and why we need to stop, take a breath, and think carefully before we use either word as an insult.

How To Change Your Life

By Sheila Kohler on April 12, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
Change, which is so difficult to achieve in life and to portray in literature is often brought about by a catalyst, a stranger, who comes into our lives and makes us see ourselves in a different and perhaps more truthful light.

Kicking an Abuser Out of Your Life, and Out of Your Head

Kicking an Abuser Out of Your Life, and Out of Your Head. Ending an abusive relationship requires leaving physically and psychologically. By Avigail Gordon , M.A.

Holding a Grudge Produces Cortisol and Diminishes Oxytocin

Are you currently holding a grudge against someone? Is someone holding a grudge against you? This blog post offers scientific reasons and some basic advice on how-to let go of a grudge and move on with your life.

Business As Unusual

Bring it or blow it. Can you stand the feeling of intimacy and closeness in a new business relationship? Does this throw you off your game and make you back off, or blow it? In this entry we address how it is that irrelationship can trigger old, and familiar anxieties, kick up old song-and-dance routines, and ultimately, cause you to fail in your entrepreneurial efforts.

Rejected!

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on April 11, 2015 in One Among Many
Breaking up is easy to do but difficult to digest. Here’s some consolation. Sort of.

Her Marriage, and His

By Steven Mintz Ph.D. on April 11, 2015 in The Prime of Life
Why it is so hard to make a marriage last.

4 Ways to Thwart the Serenity Stealers

Learn the danger signs that affect you when you are in the presence of someone seems to intrude on your peace.

10 Great Ways to Get to Know New People Without Awkwardness

Icebreakers are a traditional way to overcome the original awkwardness that many people feel when they first form a group. Whether it’s with a class, a set of co-workers, or a volunteer committee, a little psychology will go a long way toward building group cohesion and identity.

Smiling at Fear

I’m remembering the words of Swami Satchidananda , who was fond of saying that we can’t stop the waves from coming, but we can learn to surf. Hang ten!

You're Not Going to Like This: Delivering Bad News

By Isadora Alman MFT on April 10, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Unpleasant news delivered considerately can sweeten the bitter pill.

The Secret to Friendship - Revealed!

By Kira Asatryan on April 10, 2015 in The Art of Closeness
What makes friendships so much easier than romantic and family relationships? The secret may surprise you!

Is Competition Between Men Healthy?

In moderation, competition is a normal, healthy human expression and way to strengthen ourselves. But it is not uncommon for competition to be taken to extremes, and manipulated to feed a man’s ego. If left unaddressed, unhealthy competitiveness can lead towards detrimental relationships and other long-term problems for men.

The Best Bosses Aren't Bossy

By Victor Lipman on April 10, 2015 in Mind of the Manager
Overmanaging is one of the least discussed but most prevalent problems of management. Too much management—often a.k.a. bossiness—is the enemy of productivity.

The Problem of Having Only One Friend

Friendships that feel one-sided and unsupportive usually aren't worth the cost.

How to Leave Your Company (On a Good Note)

By Tim Leberecht on April 09, 2015 in The Romance of Work
The average employee will change jobs 11 times during a career. Here are a few suggestions for how we can begin to consecrate a professional transition. They can help you honor the institutional knowledge you’ve built up during your tenure, including the triumphs that thrilled you and the failures that stretched you.