Essential Reads

The Benefits of Embracing the Ordinary

Why you should take the time to capture the mundane in your everyday life

Departing Earth

What does it say to leave your home planet forever?

Sex in the Head

What may look like pure physical arousal is usually much more complicated.

Obama and Netanyahu in Family Therapy

Mr. President and Mr. Prime Minister, for the sake of world peace, call me.

Recent Posts on Relationships

One Phrase We Should All Stop Saying to Kids Today

What’s wrong with saying the phrase “What Is Wrong with You?” to children or adolescents? Nothing, if your tone is compassionate and you are wondering if they want to share their feelings with you. But that is different from what we hear far too often when a parent is exasperated with a child, throwing up their hands in desperation, and asking this question.

2 Dating Mistakes You Don't Want to Make

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on March 11, 2015 in Fixing Families
It's natural to try and present your best self when dating and avoid confrontations. Makes sense but not a good idea. Here are some tips on making dating do what its supposed to do.

Why Intimacy Is Hard for Some, and How to Make It Easier

By Duana C. Welch Ph.D. on March 11, 2015 in Love Proof
Feeling unlovable, or afraid of loving? The answer could be in your attachment style.

Are Most of Us Touch Deprived?

From professional "cuddlers" to the massage craze, are we touch deprived? Why do we pay to be touched?

Does Your Partner’s Bark Feel Like a Bite?

The closer your attachment to someone, the more an effect their words will have on you. So assuming you’re in a committed relationship, how your partner addresses you can closely connect to how good, or secure, you feel about yourself. Moreover, given the nature of intimate relationships, your partner is as likely to be reactive to your words as you are to theirs...

Are Your Texts and Tweets Hurting Your Relationships?

Does sharing the everyday details of your life help or hurt your relationships?

Why We Need People Who Care About Us

Empathy erosion occurs when people fail to attend to the humanity—the feelings, interests, kinship, etc—of others. Either they don’t cognitively understand others’ feelings or they aren’t emotionally affected by others’ feelings.

Are You Too Clingy? Too Distant? Or Is Your Partner?

By Peg Streep on March 11, 2015 in Tech Support
Our childhood experiences can influence us in our day-to-day adult lives, especially in the arena of intimate relationships. Are you able to find the balance between being yourself and part of a dyad? If not, you should probably read this...

Coming Out as Polyamorous, Part I

Coming out as polyamorous can be fine, but it can be quite risky as well. Thinking carefully about why coming out would be important, to whom it would be relevant, and if it is safe are only a few of the consideration that polyamorists go through when considering coming out. This two-part blog explores issues of coming out, with the first blog focused on why and to whom.

The Borderline Father

Women are more likely to have Borderline Personality Disorder, but men can be impacted as well. Here's how a Borderline father can affect you and some tips about what you can do about it.

Do You Ever Think About Marrying Your Dog?

By Amy Banks on March 10, 2015 in Wired For Love
Do you ever think relationships with people are more problem then they are worth? Are you frequently disappointed by friends and family who are supposed to have your back? Do you ever think about marrying your dog? Join the club!

When Your Ex Bags On You

Think before you speak harshly about your ex, especially if you have kids, because there are no secrets in families and they will hear and feel it all. If your ex is saying things to make you look bad or even damage your reputation, there are some things to do and not to do.

The Importance of Disconnecting

By Arthur Dobrin D.S.W. on March 10, 2015 in Am I Right?
The uniqueness of personality is often obscured by the clamor of society, a carnival of distractions.

10 Ways to Spot an 'Everyday' Sadist

When we think of sadism, it’s often the “50 Shades of Grey” variety. However, sadism doesn’t just live in the bedroom. This 10-item quiz will help you find out who secretly harbors an unnatural desire to harm.

23 Quips for Marriage Skeptics and Lovers of Single Life

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on March 10, 2015 in Living Single
Some great insights about solitude, single life, and marriage, offered with brevity and sometimes a touch of humor

Self-Blindness Harms Relationships

Being blind to how you act in a relationship, you may not be able to measure whether a relationship is going well or not.

How Much Is Too Much to Share on Social Media?

We often talk about the problem of “oversharing” on social media. But what’s the difference between sharing and oversharing? Where do we draw the line, and how does what we share on social media affect how other people see us? Here are 5 research-backed tips about what we should, and shouldn't, be sharing on Facebook.

I'd Do Anything For Love (But I Won't Do That)

What people single out as perfect instances of being in love and true love does not reflect the love that exists in real love relationships.

How does Love Affect Happiness?

Unlike marriage, love seems to increase happiness significantly. This was the conclusion of a seventy-year long longitudinal study of two socially different groups.

Ain't Much Left of Lovin' You

Prolonged exposure therapy requires you to gradually move closer to scenarios that resemble the event that haunts you. It can help you fall out of love!

Un-Break My Heart

The time immediately following the shock and bewilderment of a breakup is driven by an overflow of stress chemicals released by your brain in response to the trauma that is happening to you. Your emotions run wild. As the fictional detective Dirk Gently would put it, you are in a state of mind that would make even Mother Teresa spank babies. How can you fall out of love?

Love Comes in Degrees

Bearing in mind that love comes in degrees can shed light on the mystery surrounding the fact that your hotshot boyfriend or girlfriend can insist that he or she loves you one day, then shamelessly cheat on you the next.

Should You Use This Word? It Decreases Your Effectiveness

There is a common yet all-too-potent word that can profoundly undermine you. It also can antagonize others. Fortunately, there's tricks for eliminating it from your vocabulary.

The Brave New World of Connectional Intelligence

By Tim Leberecht on March 09, 2015 in The Romance of Work
Connectional intelligence highlights an evolution that has been quietly taking place across workplaces all over the world—just like traditional intelligence is “out,” so is the old way of working. It’s a whole new world in more ways than one; there’s less emphasis on conventional hierarchies, more on reshaping office environments and workdays for improved collaboration.

6 Awkward Things You Must Tell Your Therapist

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on March 09, 2015 in Friendship 2.0
Some topics can be especially difficult to discuss with your therapist, no matter how good your relationship. Here are six things to make the effort to bring up, to maximize the effectiveness of your treatment-- after all, you're in this to get better, aren't you?

Falling Out of Love

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on March 09, 2015 in Media Spotlight
Though there has been extensive research looking at the psychology of romantic love, is it possible to learn what can cause people to fall out of love with their significant other? For that matter, how is it possible to move on after a relationship comes to an end? A new article published in Review of General Psychology raises some intriguing questions about this.

Are Separate Vacations a Sign of an Ailing Marriage?

Does your mate want to get away from you?

I Want a Baby Desperately, He Doesn't

By Joann P. Galst Ph.D. on March 08, 2015 in Fertility Factor
Are you and your partner having difficulty agreeing on whether to start a family together or not? Read on.

Still Lonely and Friendless After 25 Years?

Embodying the loneliness of the human condition.

3 Major Warning Signs of Relationship Trouble

Most of us want to meet and settle down with the “right” person, and most of us want such a relationship to last. Yet, 53% of marriages in the U.S., 48% in Canada, 47% in the U.K., and 43% in Australia end in divorce. What are some of the major warning signs of a relationship in trouble? Here are three key indicators based on research...