Essential Reads

The Science of Betrayal

This is your brain on betrayal

Hate Small Talk? It’s a Skill Worth Learning

5 Ways to Make Conversation about Unimportant Things

5 Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

... including the truth about rebound relationships.

Are Babies Contagious?

Why parenthood spreads through social networks.

Recent Posts on Relationships

War on Christmas

By Sam Sommers on November 23, 2010 in Science Of Small Talk
Ours is an era fraught with urgent social problems.  That's why it's such a relief to find out that at least one of the truly pressing crises of our time is on the road to resolution. According to recent reports, the "War on Christmas" may be in its final throes, and contrary to the fears of many, Christmas is winning...

10 Things Passive Aggressive People Say

Is there someone in your life who consistently makes you feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster? Do you know a person who is friendly one day but sulks and withdraws the next? If you answered "yes," chances are you may be interacting with a passive aggressive person.

The friendship pause that refreshes

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on November 23, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
I have a group of girlfriends, basically six of us, who've known each other since high school. Anyway, I got very close with three of them: Annie, Carole and Beth. I thought we would be best friends forever just like in the movies. 

Does Volunteering Your Time Really Help Anyone?

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on November 23, 2010 in The New Resilience
Volunteerism can have a significant impact on the volunteer's own values, relationships and life goals.

This Holiday, a Toast to Cross-Race Friendship

When toasting family and friends this holiday, the likelihood is that many among us won't be thinking about people belonging to groups different from our own. Yet research shows that the single best antidote to prejudice and racism is having cross-race friends. And the benefits extend beyond the friendship itself.

More Reasons To Be Thankful We're Living NOW and Not in the Good Old Days

Vacuums, George Clooney, and votes for women: Isn't there plenty for which we should give thanks? What have I left out? Any ideas?

When love fails us

By John Elder Robison on November 22, 2010 in My Life With Asperger's
Lies, evasions, and half-truths. All deceits. Yesterday’s white lie, discovered, reveals last month’s big deception. What seemed sweet and sad becomes shabby and tawdry. It’s easy to demand honesty, but hard to deliver it, and harder still to know if we receive truth in our most intimate exchanges. Revisited in the light of dishonesty, everything changes

10 Steps to Handling Unfair Criticism

Let's take a close look at how we can manage--or mismanage--the process of receiving unfair criticism.

A low-calorie Thanksgiving? Really?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on November 22, 2010 in Off the Couch
Thanksgiving can be emotionally difficult and physically demanding. Here are some suggestions for getting through the day without feeling like a badly stuffed turkey.

Alternet Says: Living Single Can Be Great for You and Your Future Relationships

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 22, 2010 in Living Single
In one of the most popular stories on Alternet last week, Greta Christina made the case for the profound personal rewards, as well as the lighthearted joys, of living single. She is now married and thinks that her dozen years of single life made her marriage happier and stronger.

Don't Stuff the Wrong Turkey

It's time to have fun, and look and feel good after it's all over.

Takeaways From the Rebound and Recover Panel at the Texas Conference for Women

The panel, Rebound and Recover: Strategies for Emerging from the Recession and Taking Control of Your Finances, definitely delivered on the promise of giving the audience members practical skills and tools and I was delighted to be a part of it.

Improving Connection When it Counts - using the PEN Method

By Elaine Shpungin Ph.D. on November 22, 2010 in Peacemeal
With so much potential for both disagreement and discovery - for both gaining and losing closenes - family gatherings around the holidays can feel like an emotional casino.When disagreements become fruitless or "stuck", this effective method can help you shift conversation to a place of mutual connection.

Is There a Wrong Reason to Stay in a Marriage?

By Nancy Kalish Ph.D. on November 22, 2010 in Sticky Bonds
In a lost love affair where both people are married, one wants to leave the marriage for her true love and the other wants to remain married. Who is right?

Naughty Naked Skeletons

By David J Ley Ph.D. on November 21, 2010 in Women Who Stray
What skeletons are in your closet? These days, our leader's moral campaigns might as well be an inkblot test, revealing thieir own sordid history of naughty sex in the closet.

Do Contemporary American Women Take Their Husband’s Surnames?

By Gad Saad Ph.D. on November 21, 2010 in Homo Consumericus
How common is it for American women to change their maiden names once they get married? Furthermore, what is the strongest predictor for retaining one's maiden name?

Family Therapy for the Holidays

By Jacqueline Hudak M.Ed., Ph.D., L on November 21, 2010 in FamilyLife
 Like ghosts in the night, old family issues, long dormant, reappear at holiday time. 

Time Calls Marriage a ‘Luxury Yacht.’ Remember What Happened on the Last Cruise Ship?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 20, 2010 in Living Single
A Time cover story asks "who needs marriage" but never discusses single life. And about that cruise ship...

Good Old Days? No Thanks! Being Grateful for 2010 (part I)

The Good Old Days? Would a taffy pull for the whole family really keep us from noticing that very few of the family had their own teeth?

Jagger and Richards - Perfect F'in' Partners

By Stanton Peele on November 19, 2010 in Addiction in Society
While Keith Richards puts Mick Jagger down at several points in his memoir, Life, he actually describes a close and productive relationship that was key for both of them for decades.

Making time for a friend at a different stage of life

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on November 19, 2010 in The Friendship Doctor
My problem is one friend in particular, who accused me of being "stingy" with my time and ungenerous. I was hurt, mostly because she lashed out with such venom. I pointed out to her that she was only making time for me in large group settings and that her full-time job, family, trips, and other activities made it nearly impossible to see her.

From ‘Marriage Becoming Obsolete’ Report: Only 46% of Singles Want to Marry

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 18, 2010 in Living Single
If you've browsed any newspapers or websites today, you've probably seen some variation of the heading, "4 in 10 say marriage is becoming obsolete." Less often noted was that only 46% of singles said they wanted to marry. 

The Contingency Plan

By Alida Brill on November 18, 2010 in Chronic Healing
Confronted recently by a sudden flare of disease, author Alida Brill was also faced with something else she had not expected. Read more about how to choose friendships that heal not wound. And reflections about why those with chronic conditions do not need to apologize or disappear.