Essential Reads

Single Mothers and Their Health, Around the World

Single parenting causes poor health? 6 ways you were misled

Three Simple Steps to Heal Conflict and Strengthen Love

A three step technique toward authentic intimacy

Nine Lessons from Mad Men: The Emotional Cost of Dishonesty

How our lies hurt us and how to repair the damage caused by dishonesty

Recent Posts on Relationships

Am I Narcissistic? How do I know?

Many adult children of narcissistic parents report their biggest fear or nightmare is discovering that they too may have some narcissistic traits. If a narcissistic parent raised you, have you wondered that as well?

Blood-, Half-, and Step Siblings

By Cathy Cress M.S.W. on January 17, 2011 in Mom Loves You Best
Siblings come in different forms, with different degrees of common genes, common history, common family values and a common culture.

How Much Do Behavioral Interventions Change Cardiovascular Risk Factors?

By James C. Coyne Ph.D. on January 17, 2011 in The Skeptical Sleuth
Is behavioral counseling an effective way to prevent cardiac problems?

Making Friends in a Thumb Talking World

You can bring so much joy to other people with such little effort, but... 

Should You Date Your Ex-Spouse?

By Harry K Wexler Ph.D. on January 17, 2011 in Getting Laid Over 60
Don't most ex-spouses fall into the category of childhood sweethearts? The preposterous proposition is that the sweetheart, who became the source of such pain, still has many of the endearing qualities that brought you together in the first place. And hopefully both of you have grown significantly since the divorce, perhaps enough to consider dating again.

Too desperate for friends at college?

I've been trying to make friends. But every one I meet and click with HAS friends already. I don't. I NEED friends and therefore, when I meet people it's not casual, it's survival.

The Art (and Science) of Giving Your Kids Feedback

Some types of praise and criticism motivate, and others don't. If you've gotten it wrong in the past (and who hasn't?), then you can do a better job giving your child feedback from now on by sticking to a few simple rules.

Beautiful People Have More Daughters

Physically more attractive parents are more likely to have daughters than physically less attractive parents, both in the United States and in the United Kingdom.

A Dream for Tolerance

As America observes Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., I question how far we've come in relation to teaching tolerance to our youth? How do we teach them to value each other? What can we do to encourage them to appreciate diversity?

Romantic Compromises: The agony of the present, the victory of fear, and the persistence of hope

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on January 15, 2011 in In the Name of Love
Romantic compromises involve dissatisfaction from the present, persistent hope for having a better alternative and fear for taking the steps for fulfilling this hope. Can people cope with such a complex mixture?  

Does Bisexual Infidelity Count?

By David J Ley Ph.D. on January 15, 2011 in Women Who Stray
Bisexuals are least likely to be sexually monogamous. But is bisexual infidelity different? Does it trigger less, or more jealousy?

Is Your Partner Addicted to their Phone or Blackberry?

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on January 15, 2011 in The Squeaky Wheel
A new study found that one third of respondents would rather give up sex for a week than their cell phone. Putting aside the fact that most people have sex less than once a week anyway, the debate about cell phone addiction rages on.

Quit Being So Nice

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on January 15, 2011 in Wander Woman
Women should be mindful of the need to be judged as nice. You won't find fairness and civility just because you model these behaviors. And being too nice is annoying. Know when it's time to speak up for yourself instead of worrying about the impact of your assertiveness, or even your anger, on others.

The Wave: The Single Greatest Threat to New Relationships

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on January 14, 2011 in Finding Love
The most common way we sabotage new love possibilities is through what I call the Wave of Distancing (or simply, the Wave). The Wave occurs when we unconsciously push a caring and available person away by inwardly diminishing his or her worth. Our lack of training in the phenomenon of the Wave has led to the loss of countless relationships.

Quality Meal Time or Hell on Earth?

By Donna Barstow on January 14, 2011 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Treatment doesn't work as well when your stomach is growling. A cartoon for a family of gourmands.

Take the 30-Day Unfinished Business Challenge

By Lee Kravitz on January 13, 2011 in Unfinished Business
Tackling your unfinished emotional business -- even just one item of it -- can transform your life. The author offers the strategies that worked best for him.

Don't Ask, Don't Know

By Sam Sommers on January 13, 2011 in Science Of Small Talk
A few posts ago, I blogged on the psychology of the lie that spins out of control, exploring how longstanding frauds often evolve slowly over time. Well, we might also consider how these lies, ruses, and exaggerations are perceived by the rest of us. Because, really, if a fraud case falls in a forest with no one around to be duped by it, does it make a sound?

Reflections on a massacre

By Gordon S Livingston M.D. on January 13, 2011 in Lifelines
True paranoia requires that we believe in a malign intent to injure us, to render us helpless, to take from us what is rightfully ours, to deprive us of our rights, our property, our freedom

Left out of happy hour

I was so glad to find this blog. This past year, I've gone through a breakup with a group of work friends and it continues to sting. The problem began when I befriended a new co-worker, whom at first I didn't trust.

Learning From Digital Natives: 6 Surprising Benefits

By Melinda Blau on January 12, 2011 in Consequential Strangers
Talking about technology with kid is like talking about sex: You need to keep having “the discussion.” It will help both of you.