Essential Reads

The Benefits of Embracing the Ordinary

Why you should take the time to capture the mundane in your everyday life

Departing Earth

What does it say to leave your home planet forever?

Sex in the Head

What may look like pure physical arousal is usually much more complicated.

Obama and Netanyahu in Family Therapy

Mr. President and Mr. Prime Minister, for the sake of world peace, call me.

Recent Posts on Relationships

What Do You Really Know About Online Dating?

It’s becoming socially more acceptable to admit to finding a mate online, but there remain many misconceptions about online dating. Find out your online dating IQ with this 8-item quiz that separates myth from reality.

My Daughter Didn't Invite Me to Her Wedding

My daughter chose her boyfriend over me.

Yes, You Can Raise Happy Children After Divorce

By Wendy Paris on March 17, 2015 in Splitopia
Intuitively, we feel that children should be raised by two married parents living together. But an avalanche of studies over the past 40 years shows that this isn’t what they need. Research shows that about 80-percent of children of divorce adapt well and see no lasting negative effects on their grades, social adjustment, or mental health. So what do kids need?

Instant Romance is Just a Click Away

From fast food to same day shipping, we have come to expect that everything in life—even intimate relationships—are available at the click of a key. Unfortunately, interpersonal chemistry in a face-to-face meet-up is still the deal breaker or maker in potential relationships.

Why the Best Relationship Advice May Be to Stay Out of One

Is your fear of being alone killing your relationships?

Why the Story of Cinderella Still Enchants

By Peg Streep on March 17, 2015 in Tech Support
Does the world really need another Cinderella movie? Well, maybe it does. A look at what fairy tales teach us and our children.

To Fix or to Build?

People prone to irrelationship commonly make projects of fixing other people’s problems in much the way some people are drawn to the challenge of rescuing a foundering business. However, while saving a failing company is an exhilarating exercise for some, fixing another person’s life is usually attractive only to people who need to deflect awareness of their own anxiety.

GRIT Is a Choice

Any significant accomplishment takes some serious GRIT. Use these three tools to align and enhance your chances of success on any given goal.

Are You Giving Up on Love?

Our tolerance for love is established early in our lives and is based on our unique experiences. As a result, love doesn’t always just slip away; we push it away…actively. To the degree that we ourselves control the amount of love we will tolerate, we control our romantic destiny. While we may not realize it, in countless, quiet ways, we may be giving up on love.

7 Tips for When Friendship Suddenly Becomes Something More

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on March 16, 2015 in Friendship 2.0
Some of the strongest romantic relationships can grow from long-time friendships that suddenly developed a spark. Other times, an ill-advised sexual hookup can all but ruin an otherwise brilliant friendship. If you're caught in the crosshairs the morning after, take a deep breath and follow these steps.

11 Ways to Help a Friend With Bipolar Disorder

Those diagnosed with bipolar disorder may be at the mercy of extreme mood swings, but they are not powerless. Medication, therapy and a healthy lifestyle can help them enjoy full and productive lives, especially when supplemented by the support of those closest to them.

4 Clues Your Online Relationship Will be Happy Ever After

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on March 16, 2015 in Love, Digitally
Online environments can sometimes lead to greater intimacy. People may often second guess what their communication partner really means.

How To Really Listen To Your Heart

Understand that if you approach someone with an open heart, he or she will feel it and will most likely return a similar energy to you. That’s how relationships are born, one open heart reaching out and touching another. It’s what we all want, and it is available to you by just being willing to listen to your heart.

Jealous Mothers and Their Daughters: The Last Dirty Secret?

By Peg Streep on March 16, 2015 in Tech Support
Maternal envy, perhaps the biggest taboo of all, needs to be addressed and discussed, not just for the sake of daughters but for mothers as well.

What Affairs Are (and Are Not): Find Out If You're At Risk

Affairs may feel good in the moment but the wreckage they can create is definitely not worth it. The good news is that they are preventable. All you need is some awareness and tools.

How the Menstrual Cycle Affects Women's Libido

By Michael Castleman M.A. on March 15, 2015 in All About Sex
Unlike dogs and cats, women don't experience "heat," but studies show a libido spike around ovulation.

Women Like Men With Big Medals

By Gregg Murray Ph.D. on March 15, 2015 in Caveman Politics
If our basic drive is to survive and reproduce, why do men, who have been the primary war fighters throughout human history, volunteer to subject themselves to the life-threatening dangers of war?

How to Learn the Language of Love

By Sheila Kohler on March 15, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
Every time we fall in love it seems so new. We say to our beloved, “I’ve never felt quite like this before!” and we sincerely believe it. Suddenly, it seems, we see the world lit up anew.

Should Men Be Bad Boys Or Dutiful Providers?

To provide or not provide, that is the question?

5 Ways to Motivate and Encourage Seniors

Caring for, and having successful relationships with older adults often require unique interpersonal skills and strategies.

St. Patrick's Day Drinking: Facts, Hangovers, and Advice

Watch out for the lure of too much green beer.

Why You May Be Stronger Than You Think

By Sophia Dembling on March 14, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
In his book "Deeper Dating," Ken Page suggests that embracing what you're most ashamed of opens you up to greater intimacy.

Sparkle Versus Glow—and What That Means For Your Love Life

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on March 14, 2015 in Finding Love
I recently had a dialogue with Sophia Dembling, author of Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After. Both of us had books come out at about the same time concerning the search for love. Her insights on the distinction between glow and sparkle hold one of the greatest keys to finding and keeping healthy love.

Extreme Jealousy in Relationships

Jealousy is a social convention just like monogamy.

Top 10 Ways to Get Over a Breakup

The time immediately following the shock of a breakup and the time of a mad obsession are driven by the overflow of stress chemicals released by your brain in response to what is happening to you. This is a time when you are likely to act crazy! Breakup chemistry is insanity chemistry. Temper your stirred-up emotions by sticking to these 10 pieces of breakup advice.

What No One Tells You Before Moving In Together

It may seem like a dream. You have met the love of your life, and you want to move in together. You have always dreamed of owning your own house, having a home of your own. You and your SO find a cheap starter house, finalize the deal and move in. You are living the dream. Or are you?

6 Reasons that Women Fake It During Sex

A woman’s faking an orgasm during sex with a man appears to be a fairly common occurrence. New research reveals that these 6 reasons are behind women’s tendencies to be fake during their most intimate moments.

What Does It Mean to Really Listen to Someone?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on March 13, 2015 in Off the Couch
Psychoanalysts learn to listen in our training – it is quite possibly one of the most important things we do in our work. Yet one of the ongoing themes of a conference on "The Art of Listening" is not only how we listen, but also what it actually means to listen and how well we do it.

Are Environmentalists Better Romantic Partners?

Choosing eco-friendly vs luxury goods may have an impact on your love life.

Wanting and Finding Love After Fifty

By Donna Flagg on March 13, 2015 in Honestly
Why do people think finding love later in life is doomed from the start?