Essential Reads

Are You Tired of Being Judged?

We can't avoid being judged, but we can avoid letting others define us.

7 Reasons for Gay & Lesbian Couples to Celebrate

Saying “I do” is a big step whether the couple is gay, lesbian, or straight.

Social Media Cannot Fix 'Being Alone'...Nor Should It

Becoming comfortable with solitude leads to a deeper connection with others.

What's The Most Important Decision You’ve Ever Made?

A 10-item quiz to test how your life choices reflect, and affect, your identity

Recent Posts on Relationships

Nine Lessons from Mad Men: The Emotional Cost of Dishonesty

What emotional price do we pay for our lies? Here, I share nine lessons from Mad Men on how to stop your lies from destroying your happiness.

A Simple Way to Stop Relationship Arguments From Spiraling

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on May 20, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
The most common forms of miscommunication that lead to heated arguments are also the ones we least expect.

Irrelationship Is Not Codependency

Codependency may sometimes dovetail with irrelationship to the point that they’re not easily distinguishable. They may sometimes seem like kissing cousins, but at the level of purpose and of points of origin, they’re decidedly not identical twins.

What Is “Medical Food” for ADHD?

What is “Medical Food” for ADHD? Do Omega Fatty Acids Play a Role in ADHD Symptoms?

Synchronicity Can Signal Love Moments or Breakthroughs

Creating the environment that allows for you to aware of how synchronicity and its cousin, serendipity, can enrich your life.

Red Flags of Potentially Toxic Relationships

While most of us know at some level that a relationship has turned toxic, we may have a hard time admitting that we have made a poor choice in placing our trust in another.

Want to Keep Love Alive? Here’s How

Since May is Date Your Mate Month, here are a few ideas you might want to consider. Try some of these and add your own creative touches to the process of keeping romance alive! Taking time out of our busy lives to make sure that the intimate aspects of our relationship are thriving works wonders for the partnership and our lives as a whole.

The Hazard of Coasting in Your Partnership

We often coast in our important relationships rather than pay attention. Avoiding a slippery slope toward disconnection means being mindful of when we’re unwisely coasting.

4 Ways to Deal with Obnoxious People

Most of us can recall a situation in which someone behaved obnoxiously, offending you or the people with you in the room. Whether that target is you or someone else, these 5 strategies will help you smooth out an otherwise rough situation.

Staying Connected in Long-Term Relationships

In order to hold on to each other, you must first learn how to hold onto yourself.

Would You Still Love?

Choose to love, choose to live.

Want to Get Ahead? Pick the Right Partner

Surprising new research shows how your spouse's personality impacts your chances of success at work.

How to Identify a Sexual Manipulator

Not all relationships are formed on an equal footing. Learn how to spot a sexual manipulator and avoid the heartache.

People Who Say “I Hate Game Playing” Play Them

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 19, 2015 in Ambigamy
Hate game playing? Hate it enough to wonder what's really behind it? If so read on.

How a Breakup Can Jumpstart Your Career

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on May 18, 2015 in The Sports Mind
Research suggests that a clean mental slate is essential for peak performance. Add on relationship baggage, and performance suffers.

Mental Subtraction: A Simple Trick to Boost Gratitude

Among the stories of tragedy following a plane crash in 2012, was a story of appreciation–a missed connection prevented one man from boarding that plane and when news of the crash aired he broke down, unable to believe how lucky he was. His wife told reporters she couldn't imagine life without him; but, for a few minutes, she had been forced to imagine the unimaginable.

How To Connect To Your Audience (Even After You’re Dead)

Your stone is your closing number, summing it all up, an eternal Facebook page. Your life is your Message. If ever there was a place to put “The Message of You,” it’s on your gravestone!

How To Love Unconditionally When You're Angry

Loving unconditionally when you're furious isn't easy. In fact, it's such heavy lifting of the heart that it builds real love muscle. But nothing changes your child's behavior quite as quickly.

How Our Lips Speak Louder Than Our Words

No one can read minds, but you can come close by observing nonverbal gestures.

You Live Together, but You Aren’t Even Engaged?

Living together before marriage is not uncommon, but living together before engagement may spark feelings of uncertainty. New research studied non-engaged couples living together and what topics/situations spark uncertainty.

Clergy as Counselor

Clergy are usually the first to know when painful psychological problems come up for people. Michelle Friedman, MD helps us understand the value of religious leadership and what clergy need to learn to fulfill their calling. Good counseling, after all, is also a Godsend. But, it often requires extra training.

Are Teens Going Online to Form Romantic Relationships?

By Michele Ybarra MPH, Ph.D. on May 18, 2015 in Connected
Many teens use the Internet to make new friends, but are today's teenagers also going online to find romantic partners? Moreover, do lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) teens use the Internet in different ways than non-LGBTQ teens when it comes to finding romantic partners? These questions and more answered in our new infographic.

Leaders, Followers, and Trust

Actions speak louder than words, but words provide the backdrop for how actions are judged. How is that measurement for you? What impact is your word-action alignment having on your ability to build trust with those you lead?

Is There Ever Just One Side To A Story?

By Allison Carmen on May 18, 2015 in The Gift of Maybe
Sometimes it's hard to imagine how someone else could have another perspective when we feel so right about how we perceive a situation. But if we are willing to pause and think about why the other person feels the way that they do, we might open our hearts a bit and realize MAYBE there is more to the situation than meets the eye.

Can Snapchat Cause Jealousy?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on May 18, 2015 in Love, Digitally
Snapchat used for sexting Participants used Snapchat more for flirting

Lack of Employee Recognition is a Management Epidemic

By Victor Lipman on May 18, 2015 in Mind of the Manager
According to a new survey, only 20% of employees feel "strongly valued" at work. 80% feel "poorly to moderately valued."

What It Takes for High School In-Love Relationships to Last

Young people who fall in-love and work to turn it into lasting love can learn some mature communication skills that will benefit them later on, in this relationship if it holds, or in another if it does not.

6 Tips to Beat Loneliness for Good

Are you hungry for love? These six tips will help you create the intimacy you desire, and also show you how to avoid toxic affection.

Singles in Finland – No Shrinking Violets!

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 17, 2015 in Living Single
Finland is a small country with a very big place for single people. An astonishing 42 percent of all households in Finland are comprised of single people living alone (and not all single people live alone). Here's what they say they need and deserve.

I Have To Leave My Kids:Help

What To Do When You Feel Trapped At Home