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Recent Posts on Relationships

On Grudges and the Importance of Letting Go

Forgiveness is the most frequently cited remedy for ridding oneself of a grudge and moving forward with life. If you find yourself willing to let go of your grudge but held back by your negative feelings and inability to forgive the wrong-doer, explore these five steps to identify what’s in your way of letting go, and how-to finally release the negativity from your life.

Touch and Go Relationships – Do they have to be Superficial?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on August 14, 2015 in Rediscovering Love
How can we rise above when new intimate relationships don’t pan out, and multiple failures take their toll on optimistic expectations.

Suffer From Social Anxiety? Doing Something For Others Helps

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on August 14, 2015 in The New Resilience
Social anxiety diminishes when you serve others in some way. Research finds that doing something that helps another person pulls you out of self-absorption, which is a part of social anxiety.

6 Reasons to Appreciate Differences With Your Partner

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on August 14, 2015 in In Practice
Appreciating your differences.

Help! You're Too Close

By Atalanta Beaumont on August 14, 2015 in Handy Hints for Humans
How to give and get personal space

5 Tips for Reigniting the Relationship Spark After Kids

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on August 14, 2015 in Between You and Me
In just a little over a year and a half our relationship before baby is becoming a distant memory. I worry that the stress of parenthood, jobs, and other daily demands could bend our relationship into something unrecognizable. Research shows that for a sizeable portion of couples, having a child is hard on the relationship. But it also shows that it doesn’t have to be.

4 Creative Ways to Become a Better Manager

By Victor Lipman on August 14, 2015 in Mind of the Manager
To develop managers, we tend to focus on a relatively predictable skill set. These four less expected, creative approaches can help improve management performance. It's not about sensitivity, it's about productivity.

We Shall Overcome

Upside is designed to inspire and provide practical tools for a fuller and more fulfilled recovery to the millions of Americans who have experienced, or will experience, a traumatic event. The book lays out actions that have a solid track record of promoting positive growth, including narrative reframing, problem-focused coping, social support, and expressing gratitude.

The Powerful and Lasting Effects of Sexual Betrayal

Is your spouse a sex addict? Do you feel like you are losing your mind?

6 Strategies to Communicate With Anger Addicts

Anger addicts cope with conflict by accusing, attacking, humiliating, or criticizing. Unchecked they can be dangerous and controlling. Learn 6 tips to communicate with these type of people.

Divorce, “Crying Off,” and the Perils of Eugenic Perfection

By Elliot Hosman J.D. on August 13, 2015 in Genetic Crossroads
Eugenic divorces, break-ups, and courtroom drama in the 1910s vividly illustrate the downsides of “perfection.”

What is the Future for Baby Boomers and Older Americans?

By Rita Watson MPH on August 13, 2015 in With Love and Gratitude
Since we are not going to live forever, how shall we take control of the future?

Back to School

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., J.D. on August 13, 2015 in All Grown Up
Back to school: How to set your kids up for a happy, successful semester. (Best school year ever!)

The Right Way to React to Risky Moments in Your Relationship

By Erica B Slotter Ph.D. on August 13, 2015 in Me, You, & Us
How do you react when your partner does something that makes you feel hurt or rejected? In these situations, you can either protect yourself or seek connection with your partner. Read on to find out which behavioral option is best for your relationship and which strategy you may be more likely to choose.

When You're Not Supposed to Laugh

By Bernard L. De Koven on August 13, 2015 in On Having Fun
For some people, like people with autism, or people who think of themselves as rejected, isolated, alienated; Not Laughing games are probably more important than we could possibly guess.

The Neuroscience of Trust

By Christopher Bergland on August 12, 2015 in The Athlete's Way
Neuroscientists have identified specific brain regions associated with trust.

On Being an Instrument

By Po Chi Wu Ph.D. on August 12, 2015 in Jacob's Staff
Are you creating dissonance (conflict) or harmony in your life? How are you expressing your energies when you interact with others? How does your energy define who you are and how others perceive the value you bring? Can you describe yourself as "an instrument of intimacy"? How might that change your relationships?

Getting Out Of The Abusive Relationship

It is possible to live a happy, healthy life after abuse

Do You Prefer You Pets to Your Friends?

Pets are like a combination between court jesters and strict Freudian therapists: They can make you feel better about the world while never saying a word.

How to Stop Resenting Your Spouse

Before having kids, my husband and I hardly ever fought. But after my son arrived, we suddenly turned into one of those couples on the Maury Povich show, screaming into each other's face. Unfortunately (but reassuringly), this is normal. Researchers have found that relationship satisfaction takes a dive in the first five years of parenthood.

Who Gets the Dog?

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on August 12, 2015 in So Sue Me
When can your vengeful ex successfully take your precious pet away from you? It is more complicated than you think. Learn how to protect yourself and your furry best friend.

The Three Components of an Effective Apology

People make mistakes all the time. Not just bad people, or weak people. All people. Our mistakes are what make us human. And even when we don’t think that we’ve made a mistake, other people will often find errors in our ways. We human beings are walking offenders.

How Extreme Weather Gave Me Empathy For Divorcing Folks

Learning how to weather your divorce will help you do much better.

Disability and Humanity in Therapy

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP on August 12, 2015 in In Therapy
How do physical disabilities impact psychological treatment? How do they impact the therapist? Dr. Deborah Buckwalter shares her thoughts in this Moments of Meaning video.

How I Turned BodyShame Into BodyLove

4 steps I used to heal my relationship with food, my body, and myself

What It Takes to Support a Conscious Disruptor

By Miki Kashtan Ph.D. on August 11, 2015 in Acquired Spontaneity
In a world in which exchange is the norm, letting go of any accounting, giving as much as I can, and asking for all I want, are radical acts. Every step of the way, I have encountered people who tell me what I am trying to do isn’t possible.

To Love Someone, Do You Really Need to Love Yourself First?

It’s become commonplace to proclaim that truly loving another depends on first loving yourself. But just how warranted is this maxim? Is it backed by science or academic research? Or is it little more than folk wisdom—or maybe, pseudo-wisdom? I’ve sought to track down any authoritative studies on this so-intriguing topic and . . .

6 Questions to Ask Yourself when a Friend Lets You Down

We cannot always blame a friend when the bonds of a friendship are broken.

Logging on for Love

By Wendy Paris on August 11, 2015 in Splitopia
The Internet has fundamentally altered how we date but some things never change, such as the need to assess chemistry in person.

First Date Pressure

It is a first date. As usual, you feel nervous as hell.