Essential Reads

We Project Onto Romantic Partners Our Own Desires to Cheat

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on October 19, 2017 in ExperiMentations
We are often convinced that mistrust of our romantic partners is well-founded. Sometimes it is but research suggests that suspicion also comes from our own attraction to others.

3 Best and Worst Ways to Be a Friend When a Friend Needs You

A recent news article suggests that people need friends as well as lovers. When your friend’s relationship is in trouble, research shows what to do and not do as a confidant.

The Most Attractive (Invisible) Asset on a Date

If you set your device on the table on a date, beware: distraction signals disinterest. Instead, cultivate chemistry through the most significant silent compliment: your attention.

Bromance Over Romance, Say Men in New Study

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 17, 2017 in Living Single
A study of 30 heterosexual university men found that they valued their bromances more than their romances in every way except one.

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How To Design Your Best Future

By Peter Bregman on October 03, 2017 in How We Work
Discover the five design mindsets, how to make decisions in the face of uncertainty, and whether you should work through or around your problems.
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Last Stage Adolescence, 18-23, and What Is Consensual Sex

Keep sex consensual, because when it is not it becomes intimately hurtful and does a lot of lasting harm.

How Likely Are You to Be Scammed in Online Dating?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on October 02, 2017 in Love, Digitally
Stories exist of victims parting with their life savings to obtain funds for the scammer. Better educated people more likely to be scammed.

Why Do We Need Friends? Six Benefits of Healthy Friendships

True friends:"Lots of people will want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will ride with you in the bus when the limo breaks down"—Oprah Winfrey

Twin Estrangement

By Barbara Klein Ph.D., Ed.D. on October 01, 2017 in Twin Dilemmas
Defining Twin Estrangement
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Are You Conflict Avoidant or Conflict Seeking?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on October 01, 2017 in Off the Couch
Learning to manage conflict is extremely important in every area of life. But what's the best approach to conflict management?
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How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist

Here are the things that you need to know to help your children when your co-parent has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Two Magic Words that Keep Relationships Together

Here are the two most healing words in the English language--and why.

Allegiance to What?

“Who” and “what” are we respecting when we proclaim our devotion to country? And who gets to say what our expressions of commitment – or non-commitment – "mean"?

The Shadow Side of Our Personality is Challenging

By Rita Watson MPH on October 01, 2017 in With Love and Gratitude
Few of us want to admit to our own dark side. Yet we can recognize and tame it or take a negative reaction to someone as a warning sign to back away.

Harmlessness

When we imagine the depths that we can move to if we live a life without inner conflict, our motivation to practice harmlessness with others and ourselves increases....

Are Sexual Lubricants Safe?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on October 01, 2017 in All About Sex
Recent studies suggest that sexual lubricants may damage genital cells and increase sexual infection risk. But if this is true, there are easy ways around the problem.

Dating Dealbreakers: How to Make or Break a First Date

Dating dealbreakers come in all shapes and sizes. From personality,to lifestyle, to health. Make it a priority to spot them on a first date, when you are at your most objective.

5 Tips to Turn Your Love of Reading Into a Career

By Katharine Brooks Ed.D. on October 01, 2017 in Career Transitions
How to make a career out of loving to read.

Americans’ Reluctance to Take Time off from Work

There is a reason for vacations as there is a reason the human body needs sleep.The body and mind need time to recover and repair from the continuing demands of daily life.

What Parents Need to Address About Sex

Talking with your kids about sex to open an ongoing and effective exchange requires engaging them on five levels. Can you address the five areas where your children need you most?

This One Exercise Can Improve Your Relationship Today

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on October 01, 2017 in Living Forward
Do you wonder what happened to the parter you once adored? See how learning to shift your attention can bring back the loving feelings in your relationship.

How To Be Your Child’s Friendship Coach

Recent research suggests that parents can play an important role in helping children learn social skills. Here are some ways to be an effective friendship coach for your child.

Why Smell Makes Us Choose Bad Boys (Sometimes)

By Donna Barstow on September 30, 2017 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Need some pointers? Dogs can help. But find out about the hidden organ humans have ourselves to help us select the right partner!

How a Picture With Friends Can Get You a Date!

Does who you surround yourself with matter when looking for a date? Can being near friends (or lovers) make you more attractive to potential partners? Find out here…

How Parents Can Warn Their College Kids About Sexual Assault

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on September 30, 2017 in Insight Is 20/20
Parents can play an instrumental role in trying to reduce the risks of sexual assault with their children if they routinely discuss the issue and remind them how it happens.

Are These "Normal" Behaviors Killing Your Relationship?

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on September 30, 2017 in Living Forward
Do you self-justify relationship sabotaging behavior by labeling it as normal? If you want your relationship to last, here's how to transform normal to great.

Loving Myself

We are aching to love and to love ourselves. What stands in the way of self-love? It is essential to remove the obstacles, however arduous that might be....

It's (Not Always) A Wonderful Life

By Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D. on September 30, 2017 in Between You and Me
There is a rather unfortunate term in psychology, hedonic adaptation, that summarizes the state of long-term relationships. It is the tendency to get used to the good in our lives.

Making Friends: There’s An App For That

By Miriam Kirmayer on September 30, 2017 in Casual to Close
With the success and ubiquity of online dating, it’s not too surprising that friendships are now making their way into the virtual world.

Scaring Away Boyfriends and Men Who Loved Me

They'd fallen for a young woman who appeared to be the most independent, self-sufficient, assertive and self-confident girl they'd ever met. I was all that--but only in public.

Help Your Child Learn to Forgive

Holding onto resentment is emotionally costly. Here are some forgiveness guidelines to help your child figure out when to let go.

Can You Be Vulnerable in Love?

Many partner up for the long term, and even marry and have families together, and yet all along the relationship misses one important quality — intimacy.

What Counts as Sex?

By Nathan A Heflick Ph.D. on September 30, 2017 in The Big Questions
What counts as sex is shaped by our own sexual preferences.

Do You Need a Makeover, or a Makeout?

By Donna Barstow on September 29, 2017 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Are you ready to find your soul mate? Try this.