Essential Reads

Hassles Are Part of Being Human, Even for Our Ancestors

Being human, with all its messiness, is worth the hassle

18 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on May 24, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
The more love, the better. But love can often blind you to differences that need to be worked out before the wedding. Here are some unexpected things to think about.

Toxic Friend or Just the Product of a Toxic Environment?

Sometimes non-toxic friends display toxic relationship behaviors.

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“I Went to See About a Girl”

Are you trying to make a choice between what's best for your love life and what's best for your career?
Tamarcus Brown

When Guilt Keeps You From Setting Boundaries

When you set appropriate boundaries and stop taking on other people's responsibilities, they're left with no choice but to complete their own tasks, resolve their own problems ...

How to Love Yourself When Those Around You Can't

The essence of well-being is the ability to love yourself in any kind of company.

Casual Sex On Tinder

What goes into the decision-making process of people who use Tinder to hook up?

The Struggle for Awe in a Robotic Age

The cry for awe—the humility and wonder, and the sense of adventure toward living—in an age of devices and programming.

How To Let Go After Your Breakup

Ever felt exhausted from a break up? This will help.

Interpersonal Rules that Undermine Your Relationships #4

By Amy Banks on May 08, 2017 in Wired For Love
In a power over system, it is essential to know who is in charge – and quite easy. The people in the dominant group are always in charge.

What Has Life Taught You So Far?

Problems teach us what we need to learn; success is life in a process of learning from our mistakes.

Three Ways to Fall Back in Love

If you want to feel emotionally closer to your partner, in a healthy way, here are three ways to get there.

Dual-Income Couples

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 07, 2017 in How To Do Life
Competition, dividing chores, long-distance relationships, time for each other.

How to Identify and Avoid Toxic People, via Trump's Tweets

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on May 06, 2017 in Finding Love
First step to a happy life: Know how to recognize toxic people and situations and do your best to stay away. Here are four warning signs.

Are All Therapies Equally Effective?

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on May 06, 2017 in Think Well
It's increasingly believed, especially in academia, that all psychological therapies are basically equivalent. Here's why that's an absurd notion, and two other therapy myths.

Loving or Having Sex with a Woman Who's Been Raped

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on May 05, 2017 in Insight Is 20/20
If a woman you are with romantically or sexually tells you that she has been raped, don't treat her like a lab specimen or museum exhibit.

How Couples Can Use Criticism Constructively

By Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST on May 05, 2017 in Modern Sex
Is criticism destructive in your relationship? Learn to have a conversation that leads to closeness instead.
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The Secret Gift That Will Turbocharge Your Relationship

The Secret Gift: What it is and how to use it.

Seeking Common Ground II: The Progressive Spirit

A “public” sphere appropriately transcends “private” concerns. The wealth of a nation is not the aggregate of individual interests but an expression of collective well-being.

I Don't Know How to Break Up With a Depressed Girlfriend

A teen is afraid of how a depressed girlfriend might react to a breakup.

3 Common Habits That Are Ruining Your Relationship

Marriage research suggests that marital satisfaction declines over time. These habits contribute greatly to that pattern, but are easy to move away from.

The Good Reasons We Stay in Bad Relationships

Do you know someone in a bad relationship? Have you ever wondered why they stay? Psychological research helps to elucidate why many couples remain in unfulfilling relationships.
Alona Grebenyuk Aug 22, 2015

Narcissistic Love Patterns: The Romantic

If you have ever been in love with a Romantic Narcissist who left you crying and wondering: “Did he really love me at all? This can help you understand what really happened.

What’s Your Anti-Gravity Strategy?

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 04, 2017 in Ambigamy
People seek transcendence by many means. Some come bundled with belief in supernatural magic at odds with science. Scientists can do more to help resolve the tension.

When Hiring a Lawyer or Mediator, Buyer Beware

Who is responsible when the public fails to understand the different dispute resolution processes and types of attorneys and mediators available, even after they retain someone?

The Arguer

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 04, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story.

“You Are Hot!” The Strange Link Between Body Heat and Love

Science is finding that the link between physical and psychological heat is not just metaphorical. A warm body often leads to warm feelings.

Put Down That Baggage

Two tips for personal reflection that will help you be a better friend

Slam Poetry Facilitates Sharing Stories of Mental Illness

Sharing poetry can build self-esteem and promote self-love in both speakers and audience members, and can be a form of therapy to treat anxiety and depression.
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Learning From Professional Listeners

Become a professional conversationalist.

Being a Grown Up: 8 Essential Skills

What does it mean to be adult, grown-up? It starts by asking yourself that question. Some thoughts and the skills you need to get there

Complements and Substitutes

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 03, 2017 in Ambigamy
If they have this trait, do they have that trait? We deal with such questions a lot. Understanding substitutes and complements can help us answer them well.

Not Naughty: 10 Ways Kids Appear to Be Acting Bad But Aren't

Understanding that many kid behaviors that appear to be naughty are normal responses to conditions, stressors, or developmental phases helps parents address them with compassion.