Essential Reads

Why Do We Misjudge Others

Projecting one’s own motives to others

The Compassionate Way to End a Relationship

Of the 47 ways to leave your lover, there's one that hurts the least

Facebook Rainbows

On Why Gay Pride Support on Facebook Matters

How to Learn to Love Networking

"We all want to connect at a deep level."

Recent Posts on Relationships

Does Your Relationship Need a Reality Check?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on June 21, 2015 in Off the Couch
Most of us want to be admired and even, on occasion, slightly idealized by our loved ones. But at a certain point, the good feelings can turn bad. Too much admiration can damage a relationship. What’s the tipping point, and what can you do to avoid it?

Love Lies: 7 Tips for Relationship Clarity

The biggest risk with having the talk is this -- you may lose. But if you you know there is a problem and avoid solving it, in the end you will lose anyway. Take a chance on saving your relationship

Corrosive Communication

Sticks and stones, who believes it? Words can hurt. Here’s a look at sarcasm and the accusation of defensiveness.

What Turns Guys On? Understanding Male Sexual Desire

Unsurprisingly, a large body of research (and a good bit of common sense) supports the idea that male and female sexual arousal are very different.

Every Relationship Has Rules. Do You Follow Yours?

Whether they realize it or not, couples have rules that help keep their relationship going. From mundane household chores to the guiding principles behind deeper issues of fidelity, honesty, communication and support, it’s important to take stock of the ones that guide you and your partner.

Stories of Seclusion: The Power of a Solo Trek

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 20, 2015 in How To Do Life
Suddenly widowed, Madeline decides to push well beyond her comfort zone.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 6

By Eyal Winter on June 20, 2015 in Feeling Smart
Men, Women and the Roulette of Life

Confessions Of A Recovering Control Freak

You know them. You may even live with them. You deal with them every day. You may be married to one. You may even be one. They are the dreaded…. Control Freaks!

Love Avoidance: Dance Partner to Love Addiction

The love avoidant is terrified of intimacy and cannot tolerate it. He or she may crave love, but when it comes knocking, the love avoidant runs like hell.

Inside Out: Emotional Intelligence Made (Maybe Too) Easy

This movie makes it fun to ponder emotional conflict, but it needs a sequel on the risk of using sadness as a way to get love. Til then, we can learn more about our inner conflicts from gorgeous graphics than boring buzzwords.

Twelve Things Men Need to Know About Sex & Relationships

By Isadora Alman MFT on June 19, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
Men, is your relationship stale or your sex life dull? Here are some reminders to get things going once more...even better.

How to Beat Emotional Eating

By Temma Ehrenfeld on June 19, 2015 in Open Gently
New programs for emotional eaters teach acceptance.

How Phones Are Tearing Us Apart

By Guest Blogger on June 19, 2015 in Brainstorm
Research suggests that smartphones may decrease our trust in one another, lower the quality of our relationships, and degrade the quality of our conversations.

Sibling Incest in the News

Having worked in the child sexual abuse field for 30 some years, I am continually struck with a sense of sadness when yet another family comes forward with admissions of sibling sexual abuse. Rather than judgment it is important to be aware of treatment and healing options. Jumping to quick labeling without understanding the help needed is dangerous.

Seeking Solitude but Finding Loneliness: Five Wrong Turns

Many of us feel the need to seek out solitude. Recently, though, I’ve been learning that this quest for time alone can be a gamble. Sometimes, when all that I’m seeking is a little solitude, I can take a wrong turn somewhere and find myself way out in a lonely place. Here are five wrong turns that might take us away from solitude and toward loneliness.

Same Sex Wedding Advice for Everyone

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W. on June 19, 2015 in Quite Queerly
Marriage equality is flourishing across the United States, yielding more same-sex weddings than ever before. Here I share a few ideas – some from my own experience – for navigating the unknown terrain of same-sex weddings, all of which will help any couple (gay or straight) who want to celebrate individuality over tradition.

Cinderella and the Wrongdoing Schema for Moral Thinking

By Paul Thagard Ph.D. on June 19, 2015 in Hot Thought
The Cinderella story illustrates a common pattern in which a victim experiences harm because of bad actions performed by a bad agent with bad intentions. I call this pattern the wrongdoing schema, and outline how it explains important aspects of moral cognition.

Charleston Shooting: We're All In This Together

When I felt sad or anxious or angry, I wanted those around me to keep me company for a while, to meet me where I was, to let me know that they were impacted by my experience.

The Life of a Teacher

Teachers make a big difference in our lives. There's something we can do to make a small difference in theirs.

What Will Your Children Remember About You?

Raising a child can be daunting. In the midst of the hectic effort to meet all our children’s needs, we might wonder what will make the most important difference in their lives. What will they remember best about their childhood experiences with us?

Create a Solitude Space and Find Your Gratitude Voice

If making a space for solitude feels awkward at first, buy yourself a journal and call alone time your gratitude time. Then use the precious moments to yourself to express thanks.

Gone Daddy Gone

By Deborah Carr Ph.D. on June 18, 2015 in Bouncing Back
A Father's Day survival guide

5 Tips for Dealing With the Sister-in-Law From Hell

By Deborah King on June 18, 2015 in Mining the Headlines
Jealousy is such a destructive emotion. What can you do when you are the recipient of someone else's envy?

Are Parents Putting Less Work Into Their Relationships?

Relationships take an incredible amount of work. The introduction of a child, though, changes the nature of one's relationship and results in competing demands. The study reported here examined differences in relational maintenance between parents and non-parents. Click to see what really explains differences in relational maintenance...

Intuitive Decision Making

You make a lot of bad decisions because you don't follow Mother Nature's decision protocol.

Healing Unloved Daughters and the Art of Kintsugi

By Peg Streep on June 17, 2015 in Tech Support
What do we mean when we speak of being healed? When it comes to getting past the influence of a bad childhood, is healing or becoming whole possible? Or even desirable?

To View or Not to View? That is the Question

75% of men and 41% of women have viewed and/or downloaded pornography in their lifetime. In the United States more than 60 million people are dealing with issues involving excessive porn use. But is all porn bad for you? Is there also a case for porn improving your psychological well being?

Abuse and the Mirror of Love

Everyone who loves another is susceptible to some form of emotional or verbal abuse, by virtue of the Mirror of Love.

“Daddies Are Not Mommies”

Irrelationship starts as reversed caretaking often initiated because parental resources are stretched thin. Irrelationship is less likely if parents are being taken care of—if they are taking care of each other, are able to be empathetic, intimate with each other and to share parental responsibilities. A "Direct-Care Dad" is someone who does just that: Happy Father's Day!

Why Anxiety May Be Your #1 Frenemy

Many of us see our anxiety as public enemy #1, but new research is proving why we shouldn't abandon our relationship with it altogether.