Essential Reads

10 Ways to Know it’s Time to Leave

Sometimes it's hard know when it’s time to leave. These 10 tips will help you figure out the best way to make an exit.

Attachment Love and the Disempowerment of Women

Because attachment is linked to scripts of heterosexuality, monogamy and constrained female desire, it is far more likely than romantic love to lead to oppression of women.

The Communal Narcissist: Another Wolf Wearing a Sheep Outfit

By Peg Streep on May 24, 2016 in Tech Support
This type of narcissist isn't outgoing or a show-off or even self-effacing and covert... Nope, this one is out there, promoting a cause that he or she supposedly holds dear...

When Your Relationship Ends, How to Find the Silver Lining

Getting over the end of your relationship can be a difficult process, but finding the silver lining will help you move on.

More Posts on Relationships

Is This (Non-Four-Letter) Word Ruining Your Relationship?

Why do so many decent, sensitive, and intelligent people struggle in their loving relationships?

Thanking Others Is Actually Good for YOU, Research Confirms

If you've ever asked yourself, "Why should I say thank you when no one says thank you to me?" here are a few good reasons.

Praise for Adoptive Moms and Stepmoms on Mother's Day

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on May 07, 2016 in Good Thinking
What do adoptive moms and stepmoms have in common? They believe that a family is a group of people who love and care for each other. Shared genes are optional.

Taiwan Love Boat Doc Sets Sail, Its Mind on a New Romance

A new film explores how often marginalized Asian Americans found identity and camaraderie - and parties on Taiwan's famed "Love Boat". Help make this film happen!

A Disturbing Encounter With Another Couple

A woman asks how to handle an uncomfortable relationship with someone who happens to be a psychologist.

25 Things to Know About Your Partner Before You Tie the Knot

“If I knew that about him (or her) before we got married, I wouldn’t have been so quick to go ahead with the wedding".
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Random Love: To Hook Up or to Not Hook Up?

By Madelon Sprengnether on May 06, 2016 in Minding Memory
Who could have predicted that girls today would know less than women of my generation about their bodies and how to gratify their own desires?

Are Tattered American Dreams Destroying Our Nation's Psyche?

Why are Americans self-destructing in record numbers? Tattered American Dreams and malcontent may be driving our nation's suicide epidemic and opioid addictions.

Principle of Objectivity #2 Can Improve Your Relationships

Do you get frustrated when people don't think or act the way you do? These insights can help you be more objective.

5 Reasons to Treat Dating Like an Internship

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on May 06, 2016 in Full Living
Take full advantage of the exploratory, temporary nature of dating.

Happy Mother's Day to Me

Moms have so much on our plates and give so much to others. Here's how to make the time to nurture yourself.

Promposals: The Darkness Beneath the Cheer

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 06, 2016 in Living Single
Promposals are not just fun and games. Value systems and feelings of shame are also in play.

No-Win Conflicts in Intimate Relationships

How you fight and resolve your conflicts can speak to the overall health of your relationship.
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How to Survive Mother’s Day When Your Mother Is Gone

By Deborah Carr Ph.D. on May 05, 2016 in Bouncing Back
Mother's Day is hard when you don't have a mom. Here are ways to find strength and even joy on this bittersweet day.

Bringing Gaslighting to Light, Part II

No, you're not "crazy," you're being gaslighted. Start to understand and recognize this sneaky method of emotional manipulation, and take back control of your own mind.
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Megan Fox: Mending a Split?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on May 05, 2016 in Shrink Wrap
Consider time apart to reevaluate your relationship—just as so many celebrities are doing lately.

Where Do You Go After Trust Has Been Broken?

You don't have to resort to spying or testing your partner. Decide how you want to live and live that way.

My Time, Your Time, Our Time

"Time is of the essence" is written into most legal contracts. It's not, but should be, by most couples as well. How you and your partner allot your time will be critical.
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Sexuality Is Much More Fluid Than You Think

How fluid is sexuality? A lot more than you may think.
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4 Ways You Sabotage Your Relationships

We sabotage our ability to fix problems in our relationships by clinging to the stories we make up. A look at some of the most common saboteurs and ways around them.

How to Handle an Awful Boss: Tricks to Avoid Engaging

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on May 04, 2016 in Insight Is 20/20
A bad boss is bad due to one of two problems: personality issues or incompetence. Sadly, it's the ones with personality issues that cause employees the greatest distress.

What Do People Mean When They Say They're Happy?

When people tell us they’re happy, we automatically assume we know just what they mean.
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The Dalai Lama Was Right!

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on May 04, 2016 in In Control
We need to get much better at appreciating that behaviour from an observer’s perspective can be an entirely different experience from behaviour as it is experienced by the behaver.
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Feeling Entitled to a Little Gratitude This Mother’s Day?

Here’s an icky confession: Since becoming a mother, I have dreaded Mother’s Day.

Surviving Mother's Day: 5 Strategies to Get Through

By Peg Streep on May 03, 2016 in Tech Support
Yes, it's supposed to be a celebration. But for some women and men, it's one of the most difficult days in the year.
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Have We Learned to Ignore Emotional Abuse?

Emotional abuse is like the parable—pervasive, self-perpetuating, and so common that everyone can relate to it. In fact, that’s part of the problem: it is so common.

5 Reasons a Partner May Become Emotionally Distant

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on May 03, 2016 in The Squeaky Wheel
Do you feel disconnected from your spouse or partner? Do they avoid intimacy? Are they acting distant and disengaged? This is what might be going on, and what you can do to fix it.

The Cop Visit Taught Me a Lesson

By Tina Traster on May 02, 2016 in Against All Odds
With RAD children, the rules don't always apply. Telling Julia to call the police was a joke, but it backfired.

How Do You Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible? (Part 2)

I'll explain what I mean when I use the word "forgive," why I recommend the healing power of forgiveness, and how to heal even when you don't feel you can forgive.