Essential Reads

Social Skills 101: Test and Improve Your Niceness Quotient

Social skills are such a key part of life that most of us rarely give them conscious thought. New research will provide a tool for you to do a reality check on yours.

5 Common Ways Money Issues Wreck Relationships

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Friendship 2.0
Issues surrounding money are one of the most common conflicts within relationships, even where there is plenty of love. Here are some frequent ways that money damages partnerships.

Are Men Attracted to Clever Women?

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on September 22, 2016 in Attraction, Evolved
The claim that men are intimidated by clever women has been backed by the results of a new study of speed-dating by Polish economists.

Women’s Right to Say YES to Sexuality

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in In the Name of Love
Women’s sexual right to say “yes” should be respected, including their right to freely shape their sexual performances, without incurring any social or emotional censure.

More Posts on Relationships

5 Questions That Could Change Your Life

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on September 13, 2016 in Emotional Fitness
When you learn how to ask yourself the right questions, you immediately become empowered.

The Other Einstein—Was There One?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on September 13, 2016 in Singletons
At what point can a writer legitimately cross the line between fact and fiction?

A Recipe for Finding True Love

By Eric Haseltine Ph.D. on September 13, 2016 in Long Fuse, Big Bang
An ounce of computer science plus a teaspoon of neuroscience can produce a delicious result!

Listen to Me!

When we are ignored in relationships, we either despair or become angry. Here's how to work together to find a solution.

To Get Over a Breakup, Change Your Mindset

Although breakups are painful, some people are better able to pick themselves up and move on, while others ruminate for months and years in ways that hurt their chances of success
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Self-Compassion in Eating Disorder Recovery

By Greta Gleissner LCSW on September 12, 2016 in Bottom's Up
Your eating disorder does not define you. Cultivating self-compassion will help you to understand your experience and find peace within yourself.

Study Warns Sex Is Good for Older Women, Risky for Older Men

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on September 12, 2016 in Cravings
Sex is different for men and women, in more ways than one. A recent study explains.

Can You Read Your Mate’s Mind?

By Madeleine A Fugère Ph.D. on September 11, 2016 in Dating and Mating
The ability to accurately read your partner’s thoughts and feelings may enhance your relationship.

Is Restorative Justice Exhausting?

By Mikhail Lyubansky Ph.D. on September 11, 2016 in Between the Lines
School teachers and staff are already stretched thin. Is restorative justice the final straw?

How a Breakup Can Change You for the Better

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on September 11, 2016 in Communication Success
"When one door closes another opens."
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The Real Reason We Over-Think Relationships

Do you get caught in over-thinking or over-analyzing relationships instead of just enjoying them? Here’s what’s really going on, and what you can do about it.

Why Popular Dating Advice Is Keeping You Single

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on September 10, 2016 in Finding Love
Popular dating advice consistently leads single people away from the very love they are seeking. Research explains why this is and what to do about it.

A Great Way to Expand Your Capacity for Joy

Putting a stop to destructive behaviors such as jealousy and envy only brings a couple up to the neutral zone.

7 Ways to Listen

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on September 09, 2016 in Wander Woman
You may be able to get more from your conversations if you consider your purpose for listening. Choose from the following reasons before you meet.

When Rage Is the "Third Party" in a Relationship

For some couples, rage is a "third party" in the relationship in much the same way as alcohol or drugs can be.

Unearthing Rarely Heard Songs of Your Youth Is Revitalizing

By Christopher Bergland on September 08, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
Overplayed songs become blasé. But, tracking down forgotten music of your youth—and reconnecting with rare nostalgic songs—can take you back in time and make you feel young again.

Why Secrets Can Ruin Relationships

Being honest and emotionally vulnerable by not keeping secrets in a romantic relationship is a form of both personal and relationship integrity.

4 Principles Keeping You Together, for Better or Worse

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 08, 2016 in Friendship 2.0
A new book explains how those dusty Psychology 101 theories shed light on your behavior and your relationships.

Happiness and Habits: Make Small Changes, Get Big Results

By Linda Esposito LCSW on September 08, 2016 in From Anxiety to Zen
Are you coming up short in the happiness department? A few tweaks to your daily routine can go a long way.

Married Bachelors, Married Bachelorettes

How might a person, married to someone they love and with whom they are happy, be unhappy being married? And how can they successfully address it?

Can You Salvage Your Relationship With Mom? Should You?

By Peg Streep on September 08, 2016 in Tech Support
The plight of the unloved daughter remains a societal secret, kept under wraps and rarely acknowledged. But many of us don't get our emotional needs met in childhood.

Before You Give Up on Someone...

By Tim David on September 07, 2016 in The Magic of Human Connection
Is "relationship grit" more important than chemistry, connection, or even love?

The Story Of One Sexually Abused Girl

By Marvin G. Knittel Ed.D. on September 07, 2016 in How to Help a Friend
Far too many adults carry feelings of guilt and shame left by childhood sexual abuse. Therapy can help alleviate the pain but major efforts need to be spent on prevention.

Just Looking at a Dog Can Make You Smile

By Stanley Coren Ph.D., F.R.S.C. on September 07, 2016 in Canine Corner
A simple set of data demonstrates that merely seeing a dog can make people feel good.

Why Do People Make Love at Night?

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on September 07, 2016 in The Human Beast
Most people make love when they go to bed, which is usually at night. Why are human sex and sleep so intertwined?

Are People a Minefield?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 07, 2016 in How To Do Life
We need to be more careful than ever in what we say.

Why Chinese Parents Are Becoming Superior

By Shimi Kang M.D. on September 06, 2016 in The Dolphin Way
China pivots to Dolphin Parenting as we enter into the Year of the Monkey.

Setting up the Family for a Successful School Year

By Shimi Kang M.D. on September 06, 2016 in The Dolphin Way
With the end of summer and start of school, for many parents life can be a juggling act. Here are 3 science-based strategies to stay on track with your family's goals this year!

A Letter to My Teenage Son About Sexual Assault

By Sherry Hamby Ph.D. on September 06, 2016 in The Web of Violence
When my children learned about a sexual assault at my daughter's school, it made me realize there were things I wanted to say.