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The Surprising Psychology of the Email Hack

All too often we hear of a public figure whose email was hacked. What they thought was private becomes grist for the media mill. How would you feel if someone targeted you?

Is It Time to Break Up With Your Partner?

By Jen Kim on July 26, 2016 in Valley Girl With a Brain
I asked several relationship experts what’s the one question that can help me decide if it’s time to end the relationship. Here's what they said.

Four Attractive Stereotypes You Shouldn't Try to Conform To

By Mairi Macleod Ph.D. on July 26, 2016 in Sexy Science
If you act dumb to appeal to men, or you flash your cash to pull women, then don't be surprised if you attract the wrong types.

Why Are We Attracted to Our Friends?

Three new scientific papers reveal why we are prone to fall for our friends, and explain why so many of us try to remain friends with an ex.

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Is Serving Others the Key to Meaning and Purpose?

Are you going through the motions day after day without feeling fulfilled, and tired of not having a sense of meaning and purpose in your life? Serving others might be the answer!

Psychological and Political Polarization Are Toxic

Humans are divided by political sentiments based more on psychological perceptions and feelings than with policies. To survive, we must address our communication and community.

A Deeply Meaningful Way to Communicate With Your Partner

Do you feel the communication with your intimate partner fails when conflicts become heated and emotional?

4 Parts of a Real Apology

Apology is a relational process that leads to change.
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5 Surprising Tips for Taking the Sting out of Rejection

Your worse rejection story is probably not as terrible as you think.

The Revealing Questions No One Is Asking About Single Life

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on July 14, 2016 in Living Single
Single life isn’t marriage minus the spouse. It is a whole different experience, meaningful in ways that are rarely acknowledged.

For People Who Are Angry With “The Other Side”

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 in Freedom to Grieve
There is one thing we have in common: We are afraid. What have we become? And what can we do?

How to Fight Fairly on Facebook and Other Social Media

Is your Facebook aflame with hateful discussions? How can you stand up, say your piece, and shed some light without getting burned or adding to the chaos? Here are some guidelines.

How to Help Someone With Anxiety

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 in In Practice
Practical tips for helping a friend with anxiety (or spouse/family member). Much of the advice also applies to how to help someone with depression.
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Breaking Out of the Make-Up-Break-Up Cycle

Are you in a toxic romantic cycle of constantly breaking up, then making up? This might help!

Why You're Miserable After a Move

It won't be rainbows and unicorns after you move, but a few simple changes can help you cope.

Cluttering is a Relationship Issue

There's no doubt that cluttering can be a form of passive aggressive behavior. When a person has difficulty expressing anger directly, they act out their anger by cluttering.

Does Jealousy Help or Hurt Your Relationship?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 in Talking Apes
An expression of jealousy can either increase or decrease your partner’s relationship satisfaction, depending on the circumstances.

The Anti-Psychologists

By Stanton Peele on July 13, 2016 in Addiction in Society
Psychology has been engaged in a decades-long battle for its soul—is it really a field independent of brain psychology? I sometimes view myself one of psychology's last advocates.

Why We Still Love ‘Please Kill Me’

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 in Brick by Brick
In “Please Kill Me,” Gillian McCain and Legs McNeil have delivered to their readers one of the most important ingredients of effective therapy - unconditional positive regard

Homesickness: A Sign of Weakness or Strength?

Once considered beneficial, attachment to home is now viewed as dysfunctional. Is love of home a disorder? Or is it a foundation for healthy relationships?
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Should You Stay or Go?

Is he or she right for you? Not a simple question. Let's consider what went wrong - and if it's fixable.

My Daughter Won't Let Me Help Her With Her Breakup

Helping your daughter get over a breakup

Do Good Fences Make Good Neighbors?

Shaped significantly by American traditions, interactions between neighbors, marked by reciprocity, speaking out, and live and let live, reflect the democracy of everyday life.

Want to Be Liked? Check Two Things Before Clicking SEND

Want people to like you when you correspond with them via email? Pay attention to these two factors. One or two moments of checking can have huge impact.

Sex—A Freak of Nature

Sex. What's the origin of this term? What did philosophers have to say about it? Are we scared of it?

Dealing With Your Partner’s Explosive Anger

By Marty Babits on July 11, 2016 in The Middle Ground
Explosive anger creates turmoil and confusion. Here are four tips designed to help you sort through the negative and move towards healing and resilience.
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“I’m Sorry You Were Offended” Is Not Really an Apology!

Consider these 5 steps to get good at saying sorry when you aren’t even sure you did anything wrong.

Fear Keeps Depression in Place

Facing fear is one of the great challenges in life, and not facing fear is a great cause of depression.

The New Normal: Helping Accident Survivors Move Forward

By James F. Zender Ph.D. on July 11, 2016 in The New Normal
A new blog about auto accident recovery issues.

The Digital Psychological Disconnect

The digital psychological disconnect (diminished emotional awareness and connections) can emerge when a society interacts increasingly more with devices than directly with people.

I'm Divorced. Now What?

You can take control of your life post-divorce by connecting with those who've gone before you.
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Why Do We Hate Difference?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on July 10, 2016 in Off the Couch
Why do leaders who nurture prejudice and fan the flames of hatred become so incredibly and disturbingly popular? And what can you do about it?

A Case of the Trumps

Leon Neyfakh talks to psychotherapist, Mark O’Connell, LCSW, about how Trump is making his way into his clients’ psyches.

“She Has No Money; She’ll Come Crawling Back.” NOT!

Financial control increases abusers' power over a partner. Innovative approaches offer survivors steps toward financial independence so they can take back their lives.