Essential Reads


Depathologizing Sexual Eroticism

Discovering a partner’s surprising porn-viewing habits can be disturbing, but it can also be a gateway to greater understanding and compassion.

Just How Important Is Affection In Relationships?

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on February 08, 2016 in Adventures in Dating
What role does affection play in commitment, satisfaction, hurt, and cholesterol?

Overcoming BPD: 9 New Year's Resolutions

By Blaise Aguirre M.D. on February 07, 2016 in On the Borderline
In dealing with the 9 symptoms of BPD, a regular mindfulness practice can make a lasting impact. Here is a specific practice to even out the roller-coaster moods of BPD.

What Is the Trajectory Toward Divorce?

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on February 05, 2016 in Close Encounters
There are many reasons why couples may divorce, but when are these marital problems most likely to arise? Research tests three compelling possibilities.

More Posts on Relationships

6 Things Never to Say to a Friend Dealing With a Breakup

Sometimes, avoiding what NOT to say is just as important as saying the right thing.

Hot, Mindful Sex

Want some hot, slow sex to keep warm these days/nights? Consider starting a mindfulness practice.

When You Love Someone Who Doesn't Love You Back

By Jared DeFife Ph.D. on January 27, 2016 The Shrink Tank
How far would you go to pursue someone who didn't love you back? Author and NYTimes Modern Love column contributor Lisa A. Phillips shares her own story of romantic obsession.

What Do We Learn About Marriage From Our Parents?

New research identifies the memorable messages that children received from parents about marriage.

What Every Leader Should Know About Trust and Influence

As a leader, how much influence do you really have with those you are expected to lead? The answer might surprise you.

Are You Withholding Love?

Are you a love with-holder? After failing in love, many people turn into cynics. Here are 2 common ways people keep love at bay after being emotionally wounded, and how to change.

Dog Tales Are Fun to Read but Often Stretch What We Know

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on January 27, 2016 Animal Emotions
Dogs do not live in the moment nor are they unconditional lovers. Tales about how dogs help humans are great to read but must stick to what we know about these amazing beings.

The Rise of Toxic Leadership and Toxic Workplaces

By Ray Williams on January 27, 2016 Wired for Success
The truth of the matter is that we are hypocrites, and we are witnessing the rise of toxic leaders and workplaces. We tend to choose or follow a very different kind of leader.

Managing Midlife Malaise

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on January 27, 2016 How To Do Life
Is that all there is? Is it all downhill from here?

Behind the Mask - Inside a Psychopathic Romance

By Rhonda Freeman Ph.D. on January 26, 2016 NeuroSagacity
Most with psychopathy are nothing like what we might imagine (i.e., the socially awkward loner, disengaged from society, plotting to do harm.) Actually, they often have attractive

Are You the Listener You Think You Are?

In The Listening Life, author and ordained minister Adam McHugh examines what it really means to listen--to God and to others.

Contemplating Divorce? Answer Two Essential Questions First

Dissolving a marriage is tough. A few mindset shifts can make the task easier.

3 Reasons Why Conflict Can Be Good for Your Relationships

Plenty of us prefer to avoid conflict because it seems like the least troublesome path. But if we really understood the price we pay with our silence, we might reconsider.

6 Simple Strategies for Being Happy Alone

By Kira Asatryan on January 26, 2016 The Art of Closeness
You don't need anyone else to get happy.

You Can Kill a Relationship With Anxiety

By Temma Ehrenfeld on January 26, 2016 Open Gently
Anxiety can make you self-absorbed.

Code Switching Solves Workplace Communication in 2020

The term "code switching" refers to having knowledge of both the male and female cultures or languages and readily swapping between them as you communicate.

Can this Friendship be Saved?

Anything is possible when it comes to relationships. But if you're trying to fix one, you need to be clear in your goal.


By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on January 26, 2016 How To Do Life
39 tips on how to do life, each in a half-dozen words or fewer.

5 Things Your Friends Can Do for You (If You Let Them)

Here are the top two ways to keep your friends around.

Two Dog Evening: Happiness Tips from Bliss and Oakley

Because dogs live in the emotional moment, they can teach their humans how to truly live joyfully.

3 Simple Tricks to Make Thank-Yous Memorable

Writing a thank you letter has been found to result a huge increase in happiness for the writer, with the benefits lasting over a month. Here's how to make them stand out.

Thinking About Thinking

By James Doty M.D. on January 25, 2016 The Magic Shop
My first mantra.

The Real War on Marriage

By Jen Kim on January 25, 2016 Valley Girl With a Brain
t's true: There is a war on marriage. But it has nothing to do with the Supreme Court or the LGBT community. The real warmonger? It's none other than...

The Flavors of Our Travels

Food is a gateway to the cultures we are exploring, and later, a faithful gateway to our memories.

Can Divorce Increase Your Overall Health?

Research finds that divorce can increase health, but the findings underscore the importance of a positive relationship, no matter what form it takes.

Day 7: Jackie Goldstein on Communities of Care

The future of mental health interview series continues with Jackie Goldstein on communities of care.

7 Signs You’re in an Unhealthy Rebound Relationship

Research indicates that while some rebound relationships can be successful, others may be harmful. Here are seven signs you’re in an unhealthy rebound relationship...

When a Friend Complains but Doesn't Want Advice

When friends are in turmoil, they may snap at those who offer advice—even good friends.

How Has Shame Influenced Your Life?

Do you recall someone telling you "you should be ashamed of yourself." Have you continued to "shame on yourself?" How will you let go of your false notions of shame?