Essential Reads

What We Really Want—And Almost Never Get

The secret desire that makes or breaks relationships.

5 Things Extroverts Who Love Introverts Should Know

(And they're not what you think.)

Getting to the Source

Confessions of a Replication Scientist

Why You Shouldn’t Give Friends Unsolicited Love Advice

Unwanted advice is more likely to harm than help the recipient.

Recent Posts on Relationships

Is Your Relationship Growing or Diminishing Your Real Self?

By Peg Streep on August 26, 2015 in Tech Support
We connect with others in part to validate our sense of who we are but why is it that, sometimes--more often than we'd like--the close connections we forge make us feel "less than" instead of "more than." A close look at the perils and rewards of interdependence....

Superman Needs You

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on August 26, 2015 in A Swim in Denial
A powerful leader in politics, business, in love has “magnetism.” But leaders depend on followers, who follow because it’s rewarding. Consider the attention commanded by Donald Trump or even Adolf Hitler. Lives depend on it. What’s the magnetic secret?

Sex: The Pursuit of Immortality at the Cost of Immorality?

Our minds are wired for survival, but what happens when the technology and abundance of contemporary life lead some of us to "eat beyond fullness" in terms of sex, diet, and information?

Abuse That’s Hard to Recognize: Coercive Control

Recognize abusive control in relationships

Anger's Allure: Are You Addicted to Anger?

By Jean Kim M.D. on August 25, 2015 in Culture Shrink
Anger is becoming an epidemic; it's worth exploring the biological and psychological reasons why anger can become addictive for people, and alternatives to kick the habit.

5 Signs You May Be Battling Relationship Burnout

By Kira Asatryan on August 25, 2015 in The Art of Closeness
Does dating sound awful? Are you secretly dreading your next relationship? You may be battling relationship burnout. Learn the signs and how to overcome it.

Speaking Up for Yourself, Part 1

The idea of boundaries feels like I may be asking them to put up a wall, to keep others away or just be alone without anyone near them.If you are depressed the idea of creating boundaries that separate you would make you feel much worse.

Doing Good Makes Life Meaningful

How putting the needs of others may make your life more meaningful

Why Narcissists Try to Make You Feel Bad About Yourself

It’s never pleasant to be the target of an insult. However, before you let an insulting remark get the better of you, stop and consider who’s doing the insulting. It’s likely that it’s just a narcissist, trying to feel better by making you feel bad.

Parenting an Alienated Child

Parenting an alienated child is a labor of love

Emotional Generosity

Here's Why We Need More Emotion In Our Relationships

Who Is Living with Whom?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 25, 2015 in Living Single
Alongside the well-known increase in the number of people living alone is another very different and less heralded trend – people who are living with all sorts of other people who are not their spouse or romantic partner.

Are You Trapped in a Divorce Storm?

Find the best professionals you can who will guide you through the process and help you navigate the stormy weather ahead.

Where Do We Draw the Line with Office Romance?

Many organizations ask themselves where the line is between “none of our business” and “hurts our business.”

How to be a Groomsgal

Marriage equality is not just for "the gays." Wedding ceremonies and customs are evolving for all couples.

Cheating Ethically?

By Isadora Alman MFT on August 24, 2015 in Sex & Sociability
I can think of no circumstance in which cheating of any klind can be ethical. Can you?

How the "Bonding Potion” Oxytocin May Cure Anorexia Nervosa

Oxytocin is widely known as the bonding hormone for its effects on love and lust between two people in a relationship. Many studies have been performed to determine whether this love potion can aid in psychological disorders such as autism, schizophrenia and depression.Oxytocin is making a big impact in science and is currently being researched to treat eating disorders.

Which Five Powerful Self-Beliefs Motivate Donald Trump?

By Bobby Hoffman Ph.D. on August 24, 2015 in Motivate!
Research indicates most people are unable to articulate their own motives. Accurate detection of motivation is even more challenging when assessing others. Do you really know what motivates billionaire Donald Trump?

What Men Want

By Ryan Anderson on August 24, 2015 in The Mating Game
Men are only interested in sex right? There's more to it than you think

Pursue an Artistic Career? Advice for You and Parents

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 23, 2015 in How To Do Life
Careers as writer, actor, artist, musician are seductive but when are they worth the risk?

Groovin’ on Movin’: A Model for Movement

Kate McFetridge, US silver medalist in the 2015 Pan American games, hopes to row for the US Olympic team in 2016. Join us at Vesper Boat Club as she teaches Ava, 9 and Sara, 5,how to avoid pediatric obesity and grow to adulthood intelligent, beautiful, and groovin' on movin".

5 Surprising Reasons Relationships Fail

Much has been written about reasons why relationships fail. Incompatibility, different priorities, and poor communication are just a few of the causes of relational dissolution. At the same time, there are some couple characteristics which, although seemingly positive at first, can ruin a relationship down the line. Here are five surprising reasons relationships fail...

The Secret to Controlling Other People

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on August 23, 2015 in In Control
It’s our own private collection of goals that determines what will be sticks and carrots for each of us.

Dear Beach-Going Friends...

Will someone think the patterns on my bathing suit secretly spell out the phrase “Do not resuscitate”?

Great Relationships Require Hard Work, But Not Forever

Relationships, we think, should not have to be this hard. Well, that’s true. They shouldn’t be relentlessly difficult, at least not on a permanent basis, otherwise who, other than a masochist would consciously choose to live in a state of perpetual struggle.

Thank You For Not Sharing

By Nick Luxmoore on August 22, 2015 in Young People Up Close
Young people have to learn that there are degrees of privacy, that not sharing is normal.

Why Some People Are Just as Happy Being Single

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on August 21, 2015 in Close Encounters
Much research has suggested that married people are happier than singles, but it’s not clear if marriage actually makes people happy, and it isn’t always the case that marriage is related to greater happiness. New research shows how the goals we have in our relationships are tied to whether or not we’re happier when we’re coupled.

Five Steps to Improved Parenting

This single father is raising two stellar teenagers on his own using a technique he calls "The 4 C's". No small feat for any parent, much less one who suffers from service-related post-traumatic stress due to 3 tours in the Middle East. We can all learn from what he has to share.

How to Confront a Friend Who Really Needs It

Sometimes, an all-out “friendervention” is the last hope for that friend in the group whose behavior drives everyone else a little too crazy.

The World's Most Expensive Sunglasses

If you lose some of your sunglasses, you might be happier.