Essential Reads

10 Tips to Emotionally Engage Your Partner

Miscommunication damages relationships. Whether it’s from a lack of understanding or something misspoken, you can use your emotions to help you heal.

3 Not So Obvious Things Women Find Attractive in Men

By Vinita Mehta Ph.D., Ed.M. on April 25, 2016 in Head Games
For women, attraction is hardly about good looks and money.

How to Help Someone Who Is Grieving

By Jen Kim on April 25, 2016 in Valley Girl With a Brain
What you should do (or not do) when someone you love is suffering.

What Does a 'Gold Digger' Deserve?

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on April 25, 2016 in So Sue Me
Gold diggers love your wallet more than they love you. And when they have taken enough from you, they leave. Is there a way to stop them from getting away with it?

More Posts on Relationships

Mini-Memoir: Write Your Story in 40 Minutes

How to let gratitude, the arts, and music help you write just one memory at a time.

An Instruction Manual for and About Dissenters

All of the tips I present here are based on what I have learned on my way to being able to survive, and often even thrive, as a “professional” outlier in the world.

Overcoming the Comfort of Credibility

Sometimes we learn the hard way that credentials do not translate into character. Beware of cloaking impressive people with more credit than they deserve.

Red Flags and Workplace Violence

To avoid tragedies in the workplace, we need to read behind the resumes and get to know our coworkers.

Familiarity Breeds Contentment

We are drawn to the appeal of familiar faces—whether we know these people or not.

Relationships – 10 Practices for High Quality Energy

Keeping the good energy flowing is fun. It is also a gift.

6 Science-Based Ways to Say “I’m Sorry” Effectively

New research has pinpointed the 6 key elements to an effective apology. Interestingly, 'requesting forgiveness' is the least effective way to say "I'm sorry."

Tattoos and Sexual Attraction

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on April 13, 2016 In Excess
Scientific studies on women’s tattoos tend to show that most people view them negatively. But does that include sexual attraction?

Resilience: "Nobody Does It Alone"

Individualism is an ingrained American value, contributing to the belief that we can come back from adversity. While we are indeed resilient souls, we often need help from others.

How Can I Be More Popular?

Do you wonder why it so easy for some people to be well-liked? Learn if your characteristics and behaviors push people away or draw them closer. Quiz included!

Curing Neediness

Needy people, who always rely on others, deprive themselves of joy and happiness that come from personal growth, a sense of accomplishment, and the ability to take care of others.

Love Actually

It is incumbent upon us–particularly with regard to youth–to recognize effort over achievement, resiliency over success and individuality over conformity.

Beyond Traditional Grief Therapy

It wasn't until I lost my beloved husband of 27 years that I realized that traditional Western grief therapy leaves the bereaved at an even greater loss.

Why Love Can Make You Crazy

At the beginning of a relationship people often lose touch with reality.

When You Think Your Marriage is Over, There’s No Easy Path

Staying is hard. Leaving is hard. This is too big a decision to make on your own. These 7 tips will help.

10 Things to Know About Parent-Child Relationships

The parent-child relationship is qualitatively different than all of our other relationships.Here are some tips from a leading parent-child relationship expert.

Paternity Shock: Is Who You Call Dad Your Genetic Father?

Perhaps one reason for these high estimations is that female adultery is supposedly common, occurring in an estimated 5–27% for people younger than 30 years old...

Does Love Really Mean Never Having to Say You’re Sorry?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on April 10, 2016 Talking Apes
Both the victim and the perpetrator bear considerable psychological burdens until the atonement-redemption cycle is complete.

The 5 Steps of Falling in Love

By Rolf Reber Ph.D. on April 10, 2016 Critical Feeling
Yes, there is logic in falling in love. And it yields a surprising insight.

Shaming Men Doesn't Build Healthy Sexuality

By David J Ley Ph.D. on April 09, 2016 Women Who Stray
Fear and panic-based dialogues about pornography are isolating men, shaming them and preventing conversations about how to help men be sexually healthy.

What Will We Do if Trump Is the Next President?

In response to the intensity of hatred and separation that I see coming from Trump and his supporters, I want to find a way to meet them in an entirely different way.

3 Essential Ways to Protect Your Personal Boundaries

How many times have you ended a relationship because the other person kept ignoring your boundaries? Here’s how to get even hard cases to show some respect.

The Truth About Lying Politicians

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on April 08, 2016 Ambigamy
Yes they lie, but we all do. The question isn't whether to lie but when? When does it help and when does it hurt? Not as easy to answer as we'd like to think.

"Who's My Father?"

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on April 08, 2016 How To Do Life
The child of sperm donation tries to find her biological father.

Do Smart People Make Good Friends?

Your IQ might also reveal a fair amount about the level of your “SQ,” or social intelligence quotient.

The Universal Language of Management

By Victor Lipman on April 08, 2016 Mind of the Manager
At first I was surprised by my readers in Botswana, Kenya and India. But then it occurred to me: The fundamentals of effective management are pretty much the same everywhere.

A Table Topic: Removing Toxic Relationships

Negative relationships can influence stress and exacerbate eating issues or other co-morbid disorders. In other words, toxic people can make you sick. Learn how to make changes.

ADD or ADHD: Are They Different?

Why Do Some People Have ADD and Others ADHD? Learn More about Both

Who Does the Chores?

Housework is an unpleasant chore, and the added people in polyamorous and other blended families can make it even more complex. There is ongoing research on poly household labor.

Lingering Gratitude: Nonna’s Young Lover and Your Memoir

To begin your memoir, just capture one moment in time.