Essential Reads

Six Ways to Get What You Want without Whining

Do people call you a whiner? These 6 tips will you get your way the right way

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 8

Are Women really More Talkative than Men?

Should Couples Share Their Sexual Fantasies?

Sexual fantasies excite the imagination—and sometimes are better left there.

What Not to Say to a Depressed Person

Depression isn’t just a matter of moral weakness or willpower

Recent Posts on Relationships

A Little Good News for a Change

Many studies have shown that couples who enjoy long-term, fulfilling relationships, also tend to experience enhanced self-esteem, clarity of life purpose, a tendency to view things optimistically, and generally, better health.

Gay Men and Straight Men as Friends

For the straight guy, friendship with a gay man offers the opportunity to learn important lessons about masculinity, male identity, sexual orientation, and diversity. For the gay man, a relationship with a straight male friend can be healing.

Who Do You Fear, and Why?

Being afraid of another person, except in very rare cases, doesn’t really make sense. It’s time to sort out how much of your fear of others is based in reality and how much is based on your own preconceived notions. Overcoming those fears will help you improve both your relationships and your well-being.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 7

By Eyal Winter on June 27, 2015 in Feeling Smart
More Clichés: Men seek Younger and Physically Attractive; Women seek Professionally Successful

Why Are People So Defensive?

Why are we so quick to fight, to defend our positions? What are we really afraid of?

An Overlooked Reason To Commit

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on June 26, 2015 in Ambigamy
You can't tell what a compromise will cost until you commit to it and start figuring out how to make it cost less.

Gay Marriage Ruling Is Matrimaniacal, Shames Single People

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on June 26, 2015 in Living Single
It is possible to expand the scope of social justice without declaring one class of people superior and derogating another. The SCOTUS ruling on same-sex marriage failed in that respect. We are all supposed to be equal under the law.

The Psychological Benefits of Legalized Gay Marriage

By Clay Routledge Ph.D. on June 26, 2015 in More Than Mortal
Marriage provides psychological security and meaning. And now these benefits are fully available to same-sex couples.

#Love Wins . . . Marriage Equality Is for Real

It's about love and equality. That's about as simple as it can get.

The Healing Power of Forgiveness

The families of slain church members teach us a lesson in forgiveness.

Same-Sex Marriage Needed to Be Decided by the Supreme Court

Today the Supreme Court decided that marriage is a right for all, same-sex and opposite-sex couples alike. Some would rather this has been decided by popular vote, but it's more appropriate and just that the courts should decide. But why?

Lessons From Happiness and Habits to Help Me Buy a Backpack

By Gretchen Rubin on June 26, 2015 in The Happiness Project
Some people love finishing, and some people love opening—both literally and figuratively.

Stories of Seclusion: After A Face Lift

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 26, 2015 in How To Do Life
The weeks of seclusion after a face lift are scary and high-stakes.

Three Vital Differences Between Pride and Dignity

While maintaining a delicate sense of pride for our achievements in not necessarily a bad thing, it can easily solidify into an arrogant pride that distances us from others. We might do well to get clearer about what we're really wanting. Differentiating pride from dignity can help orient us toward what really nourishes and sustains us.

An Honest, Heartfelt Portrayal of Bipolar Disorder

Hollywood depictions of mental illness usually are far off the mark. In Infinitely Polar Bear, Mark Ruffalo gives a rich, three dimensional, and deeply sympathetic performance as the bipolar father of two young girls.

It Is Time to Legalize and Accept Same-Sex Marriage

Researchers, the majority of the American public, and even advertisers are calling for acceptance of same-sex marriage—isn’t it time the Supreme Court and our legal system followed suit?

Are You a Codependent Beast of Others' Burdens?

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on June 25, 2015 in Presence of Mind
Do you have codependent tendencies and if so, what should you do about it?

Coping with Loneliness: Finding Your Way Out of the Dark

Loneliness can be so agonizing that it often presses us to seek a quick remedy, something to numb the pain. Here are a few suggestions to help you make your way back out of the darkness without introducing new regrets.

The Non-Committal RSVP

Are you having trouble getting people to commit to showing up? I’m impressed with the two convicted convicts who escaped from a NY prison. I know they are horrible and dangerous. Still, I admire their ability to get a plan together and stick with it. Obviously, they are not from LA.

Keeping the Faith With Cindy Williams

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on June 25, 2015 in Brick by Brick
Cindy Williams of TV's "Laverne and Shirley" shares how her devout faith in G-d has shaped the person that she is today.

A 20-Second Experiment in Racial Stereotypes

A 20-second demonstration of where stereotypes come from. Knowledge is power.

Falling in Love With a Culture and a Language, Part 2

People who fall in love with a new culture and language are always fascinating. Here we follow Jimmy Davis, an American songwriter and composer, best known for his song "Lover Man", who first went to France during World War II as a soldier and who finally settled there for good.

Should I Send My Ex-friend a Birthday Card?

My best friend's birthday is approaching and I wanted to know if I should still wish her a happy birthday even though we’re not speaking.

A Surprising Influence on Your Emotions

By Guest Blogger on June 24, 2015 in Brainstorm
Recent research has found that group members actually become more similar in their expressions of anger and gratitude over time.

Your Old School-Days Bully Wants to Friend You

On the one hand, you can finally have your voice heard, even dish back a moment of—pain? Doubt? Regret? Humility? (while reminding him or her what a little shit s/he was). On the other hand, what’s the point? Reminding them of their cruelties may feel good, in the moment, but after hitting “Send” are you really able to move on? What is it you want?

Does Love Change Your Brain?

Falling in love may be more than just an emotional experience; it might alter your brain chemistry.

Want to Make More Friends? Get a Dog

New data confirms that walking your dog makes it more likely that you will know your neighborhood and form friendships in your community.

When Bipolar Disorder Moved Into the House

By Hara Estroff Marano on June 24, 2015 in Brainstorm
In this new film, a bipolar father learns to take care of his two daughters Or did they take care of him?

23 Mental Health Professionals Interviewed About Their Jobs

By Brad Waters on June 24, 2015 in Design Your Path
Going behind the scenes with 23 mental health professionals to gain insight into the pros and cons of the industry.

Save Any Relationship With Just 2 Questions

By Kira Asatryan on June 24, 2015 in The Art of Closeness
It doesn't take much to stop fights and reduce resentment... just 2 simple questions.