Essential Reads

The Psychology of Tipping

Do American tipping practices help the customer more than the waitstaff?

How to Put Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes

Empathy works by analogy, mirror neurons, or embodied simulation.

8 Secret Body Language Cues That Can Control Your Behavior

How others can trigger your senses and emotions.

When Adults Struggle With Their Relationships

At holidays, the focus is on family - some siblings do not get along though

Recent Posts on Relationships

Lessons From the Paris Attacks

In the words of the next door neighbor of the ax-murderer, “But he . . . (say it with me) seemed like such a nice guy!” Why did she have that impression? Because her neighbor, whom she knew nothing about, had become familiar.

3 Things to Do When You're Not Sure About Your Relationship

Ambivalence is common in long-term relationships because it’s easy to drift apart over the years, but you stay because leaving is too complicated. And yet ambivalence is a stressful place to park. Is your marriage really worth saving? Here are some reasons to set yourself free from indecision and tips for moving toward a more peaceful, fulfilling existence.

Lifting the Covers: Sex with the Undercover Police

Has reporting over-simplified the predicament of undercover agents and their relationships?

The Uneven Distribution of Violence and News

Which violence counts? It is as if the entire world is complicit in some unconscious belief that violence in some parts of the world is unavoidable, part of life, and therefore not important, and only some parts of the world, those that have managed to export violence elsewhere, those are the parts of the world about whose rare acts of violence news media speak.

Should You Boycott Holiday Baking?

Are you already stressed about the weight you'll gain over the holidays? Here's a simple tip that will go a long way: Stop baking. Say no to anything that involves bringing or exchanging sweet treats. Trust me, you'll thank me later.

Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence: Can we break the cycle?

Like Water: Why We Attract Who We Attract

If you want to know what needs work, look at your choices of mates. The answer will surprise you.

What Kind of Romantic Partners Make Narcissists Happy?

Narcissists attach more importance to the physical attractiveness and status of potential mates than to whether or not their mate is a warm and caring person. But are narcissists really happier when they find that trophy partner? New research suggests that the answer is yes.

Our Hidden Fear of Acceptance

While the fear of rejection is understandable, the fear of acceptance is less visible. The article explores how this more subtle fear operates. Being mindful of how we fear acceptance can open to door to a deeper capacity to receive the love and caring that is available.

Less Me More We

Happiness is not a solo enterprise and wellbeing doesn’t occur in a vacuum. We are social creatures and our wellbeing—both physical and mental—depends on our connections.

The Healing Power of Gratitude

Science shows that gratitude is good for us both mentally and physically. As we aim to cultivate more gratitude, there are two questions to consider: what barriers do we face in feeling grateful in our daily lives, and how can we connect more fully to our feelings of appreciation?

Who is "A Mensch"?

You've surely heard or read the word "Mensch," which is a Yiddish-derived term reserved for a special human being, who is recognized by others to represent decency, honest and kindness, among other admirable qualities.

How to Trust Again After Job Loss or Career Setback

Trusting after job loss or career setback comes with challenges. But not learning how to trust again can hurt your career. These four tips can help.

The New Date Night: Dinner and...Therapy?

With date nights occurring so rarely, many couples want to take advantage of their limited time together. They may want to talk, but forget how. Therapy can provide a safe, sympathetic and constructive environment where couples can express their wants and needs within a relationship, relieving the expectation to tackle each issue while they are in a more social setting.

Think Vacations Are Luxuries? Think Again.

Interestingly, the word “vacation” comes from the Latin “vacatio”, which means “freedom; release from occupation”.

Teen Sexting vs. Child Pornography

The simple truth is teen sexting is relatively common — a fact that really shouldn’t surprise anyone. I mean, weren’t we all teenagers once upon a time, with raging hormones and bad ideas and weird thoughts about what is and isn’t appropriate sexual behavior?

New Employee Survey Underscores the Value of Feeling Valued

By Victor Lipman on November 18, 2015 Mind of the Manager
A new survey shows how few employees feel valued at work and see meaningful advancement opportunities — and why this matters for retention.

3 Ways to Be Happy in Unrequited Love

By definition, an unreturned love is one-sided. But doubtless, the experience itself embodies two sides. On the upside, you’re enthralled, charmed, and captivated by the beloved. Your passion for them is exhilarating: an incomparable high. Regrettably, the downside of such ardor is every bit as intense—replete with agonizing feelings of loneliness, misery, and despair...

How Well Do You Know What Motivates You?

By Rob Kendall on November 18, 2015 Blamestorming
When asked what motivates them, many people are surprisingly vague. And yet deeply understanding your own motivations helps you create the life you want. And when you discover what motivates other people, you can help them fly.

4 Reasons Thanksgiving is the Loneliest Holiday

By Kira Asatryan on November 18, 2015 The Art of Closeness
Can a holiday cherished for family togetherness induce the most loneliness? Absolutely. Learn why it's so common to struggle to connect with others on Thanksgiving.

Why Men Don’t Listen to Women

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on November 18, 2015 How To Do Life
Many men decide it's unwise to engage in certain conversations.

One Key to Effective Management: Plain Old Common Sense

By Victor Lipman on November 17, 2015 Mind of the Manager
Most people like to be treated the way you like to be treated. Why wouldn't they?

Why Is Your Relationship a Secret?

Historically, the closest a young woman could get to having power was to have sex with a man who had it. If the powerful man desires a woman privately, could he really deny publicly that she's the love of his life?

How Depression Prepared Me For A Death In The Family

By Tom Wootton on November 17, 2015 Bipolar Advantage
If I did not understand how to function during depression or, worse yet, still clung to the notion that it is not possible, I would have been a burden to my family instead of an asset. Most people fear they will break down and become a burden on those around them or that their bipolar loved ones will break down and add to the already difficult situation.

Male-Female Interactions: Don’t Get Your Signals Crossed

In any relationship the interaction between individuals is carried out through both words and actions. It is not only what is said but also the way it is said.

Relationships: Finding a Great Partner

First, be a good mate yourself. Second, find someone who is as much like you as possible. When you do this, you will find happiness and a happy relationship.

Romance Is Bad for Our Mental Health

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on November 17, 2015 Ambigamy
The tendency to treat life's rough, uncertain ride as romantic fiction runs and ruins our personal and social lives. Romance ignores chance in favor of fate, probabilities in favor of certainties, details in favor of destinies. It glorifies us and vilifies anyone who gets in our way. It turns love into a sugar high and crash and makes a mess of politics.

Can You Prevent a Bad Divorce . . . While Married?

By Wendy Paris on November 17, 2015 Splitopia
Committing to treating each other well, whatever happens with your relationship, can help prevent a bad divorce and strengthen a marriage.

5 Ways to Defuse Holiday Stress

By Peg Streep on November 17, 2015 Tech Support
Is the thought of the holiday season getting you down or making you anxious? If so, you're not alone...