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5 Ways to Finesse a Difficult End to Your Relationship

Endings present a psychological challenge unless they’re mutually negotiated. These 5 tips, based in part on a new group dynamics paper, provide some guidance for your goodbyes.

Is Sexual Generosity a Virtue?

Generosity is very valuable for our well-being and health. Is this also true concerning sexual generosity? Should we aim to be more sexually generous?

“Date Someone Your Own Size”

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on August 30, 2016 in Attraction, Evolved
Couples who vary in weight experience more prejudice, receive advice to not date in public, and are rated as less likable, according to new research from California.

How Long Should You Wait for a Partner?

By Jen Kim on August 29, 2016 in Valley Girl With a Brain
I’ve looked to science, asked relationship experts, talked to friends (both married and unmarried) for better answers. What I’ve found is that there isn’t one.

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Why We Love Watching the Olympics

The American women Olympic gymnasts are not simply amazing athletes; their stories are inspiring reminders of how struggling through challenge empowers us all.

Narcissist or Sociopath? Similarities, Differences and Signs

Narcissists and sociopaths are often confused for one another, can be tough to spot, and can wreak havoc on your life. Here are 7 reasons why that's so and how to see them coming.

5 Keys to Getting Through Difficult Conversations

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on August 11, 2016 in Wander Woman
Shifts in emotions tell you if someone accepts or rejects your ideas. Here are five cues to look for that will help a difficult conversation have a positive outcome.

Being Nice to Your Boss Isn't Optional

By Temma Ehrenfeld on August 11, 2016 in Open Gently
Don't kid yourself. Social niceties with employers influence how they see your performance.

What Does Body Positivity Actually Mean?

What, exactly, does it mean to be body positive? And do efforts to market the concept miss the point?

Go Wild and Grow Happy, Part 2

What went right in the hunter-gatherer life? We don't have to suffer from depression and anxiety. Here are some simple ways to live a more natural life and re-invite "being here."

Why Intimate Sex Is the Key to a Successful Relationship

By Lisa Thomas LMFT on August 10, 2016 in Save Your Sex Life
Sex + Intimacy = Mindblowing Experience

10 Enduring Truths About Friendship

Do you need to down-size your social network to make your life a little less complicated?

Dating Violence, Warning Signs

Can teens be taught the fundamentals of healthy relationships and the warning signs of possible abuse? Health education can do much to protect youth before it's too late.

An Out-of-Sync Friendship

A woman laments the loss of a long-time friend when their circumstances change.

Activating Your Soul’s Erotic GPS

By Carol S. Pearson Ph.D. on August 09, 2016 in The Hero Within
Have you ever wished you had the equivalent of a map, handbook, or GPS that would help you know what to do and where to go to be happy?

Cheating and Consensual Non-Monogamy

People can cheat before, during, and after consensual non-monogamous relationships. This cheating can be emotional and/or physical, involving lying or broken safer sex agreements.

Choose Forgiveness and Gratitude Over Gunny Sacking

By Rita Watson MPH on August 09, 2016 in With Love and Gratitude
If you store up resentment, one day it can overwhelm you.

3 Reasons Why People Who Feel Entitled End Up Miserable

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on August 09, 2016 in Think, Act, Be
A recent study explores why expecting more than we deserve leads to disappointment and damages relationships.

The Most Important Element of Any Friendship

How do you measure your "social capital" in life?

Power and Emotion

By Paul Thagard Ph.D. on August 09, 2016 in Hot Thought
Interpersonal relationships operate with power based on coercion, benefits, respect, or social norms. These kinds of power depend on different emotions.

Interview About "Your Friend Forever"

Lincoln's friendship with Joshua Speed reveals all kinds of things about his strengths, his struggles, and his character—and the making of greatness.

When You Want to Persuade Someone

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 09, 2016 in How To Do Life
When you want someone to change, having an alert, experimental mindset is key.

7 Behaviors That Ruin a Relationship

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on August 08, 2016 in Compassion Matters
What relationship pitfalls keep us from maintaining the passion, attraction, admiration and closeness we once felt for our partner?

The Surprising Health Benefits of Spirituality

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on August 08, 2016 in Feeling It
Whether you identify as Christian, Buddhist or conscious mindful yogi, spirituality appears to improve health, happiness, and even longevity.

Why It's So Hard to Get Over Some Breakup
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By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on August 08, 2016 in Me Before We
Chances are the more tumultuous the relationship was while you were in it, the more tumultuous your response in the aftermath of breakup will be.

Does Your Relationship Have Compassion?

By Joseph Cardillo Ph.D. on August 08, 2016 in Attention Training
At one point or another, most people wonder if their relationship is stable.
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Your 30-Year Crisis: A Short Guide

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 07, 2016 in Fixing Families
The early 30's are often a time of reflection, challenge and change. A guide to the common challenges and tips for navigating them.

College Parents 101

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on August 07, 2016 in Social Lights
Six things parents must discuss with their college-bound kids

The Seven Things That Happy Couples Do

Do these seven things to deepen your love and make it happier.
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Are You a Schlepper or a Schlepee?

Two psychologists on opposite sides of the planet discuss the nature of relationships.

6 Ways to Avoid Raising Racist Kids

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 06, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
We need to have clear communication with our kids about race.

What Makes These 6 New Novels Unforgettable?

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on August 05, 2016 in Creating in Flow
You probably don't remember every book you read. A novel sticks when characters are so real, emotions so genuine, that you experience the story as though an actual witness to it.

The Myth of “I Should Have Done Better”

When we are living from the belief that “I should do better," and “other people should do better," it sets us up for chronic judgment, resentment, and disappointment.

Sacred America, Sacred World: A New Book by Stephen Dinan

By Mark Matousek on August 05, 2016 in Ethical Wisdom
The visionary founder and CEO of The Shift Network talks about bringing evolution -- not revolution -- to Washington D.C.