Essential Reads

The Benefits of Embracing the Ordinary

Why you should take the time to capture the mundane in your everyday life

Departing Earth

What does it say to leave your home planet forever?

Sex in the Head

What may look like pure physical arousal is usually much more complicated.

Obama and Netanyahu in Family Therapy

Mr. President and Mr. Prime Minister, for the sake of world peace, call me.

Recent Posts on Relationships

Collaboration, Willingness, and Leadership

Certainly, those of us who want to put collaboration at the center of how we function are swimming upstream. What’s most needed, in my mind, is the empowerment of all to be able to express their needs and perspectives and, simultaneously, be interested in the needs and perspectives of others and in finding a solution that works for all.

Try These Simple One Minute Relationship Boosters

By Alice Boyes Ph.D. on March 20, 2015 in In Practice
Super quick tips to re-up that lovin’ feeling.

10 Things Your Psychology Professors Want You to Know

An education in psychology is enormous - including information on such diverse topics ranging from how infants perceive shapes to how rats learn to complete mazes - and more. Way more. The list found here distills a traditional education in psychology to 10 things that psychology professors really want their students to walk away with.

Overcoming Relationship Anxiety and Feeling Good About It

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on March 19, 2015 in The Freedom to Change
Worrying about your relationships all the time and wondering if you are going to be marginalized or rejected is no fun. If you have an anxious attachment style then you know this all to well. The good news is that now you can learn to override your automatic emotional responses and have more positive experiences in relationships.

“I Need a Do-over!” 5 Ways to Fix Relationship Missteps

By Meg Selig on March 19, 2015 in Changepower
So you were a doormat or a bully and you regret it. There's a do-over for that! Try these 5 assertive scripts that will mend your relationship and restore your confidence.

Do You Like Your Sister?

Sympathy, compassion, understanding, respect, generosity and a willingness to forgive are essential features of every important relationship, including ones between members of an immediate family.

The Blissful Torture of Unrequited Love

Whether fast or slow, it comes on hard—as powerful as a bludgeon, but one covered in the softest velvet. It’s two-faced as well, like an optical illusion. And it’s also supremely paradoxical. How can an unreturned love engender such ecstatic, sublime feelings? Yet the chemical dynamics of reciprocation fantasies can be incredibly powerful...

Why Parents of Chronically Ill Children Deserve Respect

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on March 19, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
Most of us have no idea about the challenges parents of chronically ill children face. Seeing your child in pain takes a toll, so the rest of us must do our part and recognize their unique parenting experience and contribution.

How Helping a Friend Can Go Horribly Wrong

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on March 18, 2015 in Presence of Mind
Providing loans, housing, or jobs to friends or relatives is risky business, fraught with potential conflict. These dual personal and business relationships can result in unexpected internal and interpersonal conflict and temporarily or permanently damage the personal relationship, or strengthen it. Here are some guidelines for managing your dual relationships.

Self-disclosures Increase Attraction

The sense of closeness increases if self-disclosures are emotional rather than factual.

Why Are Emotionally Unavailable Men So Damn Desirable?

The allure of emotionally unavailable men is undeniable to many. Women caught up in their charms often spend inordinate time, energy, and internal resources working to get their special attention. Here are 5 reasons why unavailable men carry such value.

The 7 Habits of Truly Genuine People

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on March 18, 2015 in The Squeaky Wheel
Being authentic requires a different approach to life—here's what you need to know:

How to Become the Person You Most Want to Be

Those who feel compelled to defend their egos tend to violate their deeper values

How to Change Your Attachment Style

Although in childhood you may have learned habits of insecure attachment, it may be possible for you to override them with effort as an adult.

Science and the Online Dating Profile

Online dating is the new singles bar, one in which your words won't be drowned out by the music. But which words should you use? There is some scientific evidence about relatively more effective ways to turn an online contact into a real huggable moment.

What Do You Really Know About Online Dating?

It’s becoming socially more acceptable to admit to finding a mate online, but there remain many misconceptions about online dating. Find out your online dating IQ with this 8-item quiz that separates myth from reality.

My Daughter Didn't Invite Me to Her Wedding

My daughter chose her boyfriend over me.

Yes, You Can Raise Happy Children After Divorce

By Wendy Paris on March 17, 2015 in Splitopia
Intuitively, we feel that children should be raised by two married parents living together. But an avalanche of studies over the past 40 years shows that this isn’t what they need. Research shows that about 80-percent of children of divorce adapt well and see no lasting negative effects on their grades, social adjustment, or mental health. So what do kids need?

Instant Romance is Just a Click Away

From fast food to same day shipping, we have come to expect that everything in life—even intimate relationships—are available at the click of a key. Unfortunately, interpersonal chemistry in a face-to-face meet-up is still the deal breaker or maker in potential relationships.

Why the Best Relationship Advice May Be to Stay Out of One

Is your fear of being alone killing your relationships?

Why the Story of Cinderella Still Enchants

By Peg Streep on March 17, 2015 in Tech Support
Does the world really need another Cinderella movie? Well, maybe it does. A look at what fairy tales teach us and our children.

To Fix or to Build?

People prone to irrelationship commonly make projects of fixing other people’s problems in much the way some people are drawn to the challenge of rescuing a foundering business. However, while saving a failing company is an exhilarating exercise for some, fixing another person’s life is usually attractive only to people who need to deflect awareness of their own anxiety.

GRIT Is a Choice

Any significant accomplishment takes some serious GRIT. Use these three tools to align and enhance your chances of success on any given goal.

Are You Giving Up on Love?

Our tolerance for love is established early in our lives and is based on our unique experiences. As a result, love doesn’t always just slip away; we push it away…actively. To the degree that we ourselves control the amount of love we will tolerate, we control our romantic destiny. While we may not realize it, in countless, quiet ways, we may be giving up on love.

7 Tips for When Friendship Suddenly Becomes Something More

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on March 16, 2015 in Friendship 2.0
Some of the strongest romantic relationships can grow from long-time friendships that suddenly developed a spark. Other times, an ill-advised sexual hookup can all but ruin an otherwise brilliant friendship. If you're caught in the crosshairs the morning after, take a deep breath and follow these steps.

11 Ways to Help a Friend With Bipolar Disorder

Those diagnosed with bipolar disorder may be at the mercy of extreme mood swings, but they are not powerless. Medication, therapy and a healthy lifestyle can help them enjoy full and productive lives, especially when supplemented by the support of those closest to them.

4 Clues Your Online Relationship Will be Happy Ever After

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on March 16, 2015 in Love, Digitally
Online environments can sometimes lead to greater intimacy. People may often second guess what their communication partner really means.

How To Really Listen To Your Heart

Understand that if you approach someone with an open heart, he or she will feel it and will most likely return a similar energy to you. That’s how relationships are born, one open heart reaching out and touching another. It’s what we all want, and it is available to you by just being willing to listen to your heart.

Jealous Mothers and Their Daughters: The Last Dirty Secret?

By Peg Streep on March 16, 2015 in Tech Support
Maternal envy, perhaps the biggest taboo of all, needs to be addressed and discussed, not just for the sake of daughters but for mothers as well.

What Affairs Are (and Are Not): Find Out If You're At Risk

Affairs may feel good in the moment but the wreckage they can create is definitely not worth it. The good news is that they are preventable. All you need is some awareness and tools.