Essential Reads

Base Relationships on the Present, Not the Base

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on December 10, 2016 in Memory Medic
Memories are seldom fully literal. Memories are constructed, not recorded like an audio tape. The brain decides how an experience is to be packaged as a narrative to remember.

A Newly Developed Scale Offers Gauge of Relationship Health

It’s one thing to be satisfied in your relationship but, according to new research, quite another to feel it’s flourishing This 12-item scale will show where yours stands.
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How to Amp Up Your Empathy

By Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. on December 09, 2016 in How to Be Yourself
The benefits of having empathetic skills are unparalleled; it's the next best thing to telekinesis! But, how do you improve these vital skills?
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3 Steps to Breaking Up With Someone

By John Kim, LMFT on December 09, 2016 in The Angry Therapist
How to break up with someone.

More Posts on Relationships

6 Ways Holiday Visits Can Stress You Out

Do holiday visits with the family wear you out? You might have covert aggressors in your midst.
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The One Thing Everyone Should Look For in a Relationship

By John Kim, LMFT on November 29, 2016 in The Angry Therapist
The #1 thing you should look for in a relationship.

An Experiment: Your Child, Thriving, in 30 Days.

When you see what's getting in the way for your child, you can give her the support she needs to feel, and act, better.

Is My Son Being Abused By His Girlfriend?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on November 29, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
What to do when you don't like your child's partner

You Can Catch a Bad Mood

We must be mindful of the people we associate with in order to protect our psychological health.
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'Tis the Season to Stay Calm

By Dora Calott Wang M.D. on November 28, 2016 in The Kitchen Shrink
Expecting people to change is unrealistic—especially during Christmas dinner.

7 Subtle Ways to Measure the Strength of Your Relationship

How committed is your partner? Use these tests to find out.

Not Trusting the Happy

One reader asks if it is possible to be happy as a secondary in a polyamorous relationship. Dr Eli says go for it -- with two cautions.

Turns Out, Porn Doesn’t Kill Love

By David J Ley Ph.D. on November 28, 2016 in Women Who Stray
A 1989 study found that porn made men love their wives less, but these findings could not be replicated in more recent research.

To Punish or to Teach?

How we handle mistakes can make a difference.
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6 Simple Ways to Make Yourself Happier Today

If you are tired of being down and dragging yourself through the day, try one of these 6 things to increase your happiness.

Are Your Partner's Rules Ruining Your Sex Life?

Sexual boundaries protect our special commitment. Sex rules, on the other hand, are often unspoken and usually limit sex.

Nonverbal Communication and Strategic Flexibility

By Audrey Nelson Ph.D. on November 27, 2016 in He Speaks, She Speaks
Strategic flexibility means expanding your nonverbal communication repertoire to use the best skill available for a particular situation.

No Partner, No Worries: New Study of Psychological Health

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on November 27, 2016 in Living Single
The authors predicted a hierarchy of well-being, with married people at the top, then cohabiters, then daters, with unpartnered singles at the bottom. That’s not what they found.

The Only Way to Succeed in Your Romantic Relationship

If we are used to the high of being in love and then we suddenly feel nothing but the occasional closeness and sexual attraction, we are bound to think that something is wrong.

What People Keep Asking Me About Sex and Relationships

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on November 27, 2016 in Sex & Sociability
Now you'll know what others want to know too, here, and in educational and entertaining essays on every aspect of dating and mating, socializing and sexuality.

Power Imbalance During Divorce

Divorce may lead parents to forfeit their leadership roles and empower children inappropriately for their age, resulting in damaging consequences.

The Perils of One-Sided Romance

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on November 27, 2016 in Close Encounters
New research examines the consequences of mismatched commitment in romantic couples. It turns out that one partner’s commitment may be key to whether or not the relationship lasts.

How to Handle a Friend Who Pressures You to Buy Stuff

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on November 27, 2016 in The Friendship Doctor
As the holidays approach, friends may lean on you to help achieve their business goals. How can you respond graciously?

Where Do We Go From Here?

We are living in trying times, largely due to the unprecedented, most contentious presidential election in our nation's history. What can we do to move on? How can we help?

Along With Rights Come Responsibilities

A great many conflicts and issues stem from the irresponsible exercise of our rights.

Fall Back in Love by Doing This!

Falling back in love comes easily when you clear out your toxic thoughts. Here is how to do it.

Help! My College Kid Is Driving Me Crazy

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on November 26, 2016 in Social Lights
How do we know when our kids are back at home?

Catfished Part Two: How to Not Be on the End of the Line

7 ways to keep yourself from being fooled online and draft your standards and compatibility inventory

Catfished Part One: When You Might Be on the End of the Line

How to keep from being fooled that you're not being fooled by an online relationship.

Sexual Infidelity: The Post-Discovery Longer-Term Aftermath

After you discover your partner's infidelity, this is what you should expect to feel and deal with during the next weeks or months.

Parents Cut Off by Adult Children: Clueless? Part 2

By David M. Allen M.D. on November 25, 2016 in A Matter of Personality
In a previous post I opined that most parents whose adult children have cut them off know the real reason. That is not always the case. This post describes one common issue.
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Interfaith Holidays and Conflict Resolution

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on November 25, 2016 in Off the Couch
A rise in interfaith marriages has led to greater confusion about how to celebrate the holidays, and greater family tensions than ever before. How can you manage the differences?

Infidelity, Open Relationships, and Polyamory

Some romantic partners are convinced that they can provide everything the other person needs. Not so.

Miracle of Conjoined Twins Brings Gratitude After Election

By Rita Watson MPH on November 24, 2016 in With Love and Gratitude
Simple acts can transform anger to gratitude, a gloomy day to one of sunshine and beauty.