Essential Reads

How to Neutralize Your Partner’s Defenses

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on November 15, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
Unlike courtship, once couples enter into a presumably lasting commitment, they both—however unconsciously—focus more on what they never really liked about each other.

How Do New Babies Affect Parent and Sibling Relationships?

Many couples expect a new child to strengthen their union, but distress first-born children. Research suggests that these expectations are unfounded.

5 Traits of Positive Narcissism and Their Downfalls

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on November 12, 2017 in Communication Success
Narcissism is toxic. Some aspects of narcissism might be positive in the short-term and in limited ways.

Meet the Teen Who Discovered the Secret of Social Capital

The design of children's social life teaches them to create a world of status where people are left out and mistreated. One teen is trying to change that––with an app.

More Posts on Relationships

How Are We Connected to Our Partner?

Similar attachment styles make for better marriages. Different attachment styles cab cause major problems.

The Problem with Anger

How can we use anger to strengthen communication and enhance our relationships?

Why Do We Have an Empathy Deficit?

Have you been feeling an empathy deficit? If so, here's how to deal with it.

A Face in the Crowd: What Type of People Are Most Memorable?

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Ever wonder why certain people stand out in your mind? What is it about them that makes them so unforgettable? The answer likely has more to do with you.

Magical Thinking and Unloved Daughters: Childhood and Beyond

By Peg Streep on November 13, 2017 in Tech Support
What helps you escape from an unhappy childhood—the power of your imagination–may get in the way of your recovery in adulthood.

Cosmo Writer: Sex With Other Women Made Me a Better Lover

By Michael Aaron, Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Standard Deviations
Sex writer Sophie St Thomas reveals how she became a better lover by sleeping with women.

Thinking About Non-Monogamy?

By Samantha Joel on November 13, 2017 in Dating Decisions
Emerging research suggests that non-monogamous relationships can be just as satisfying as monogamous ones.

Seasonal Stalking: How Ex-Lovers Turn Rejection Into Revenge

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Tis the Season. Jilted, persistent paramours and lonely ex-lovers view the holidays as the season to turn rejection into revenge. Recognize when holiday blues become red flags.

Five Mistakes We Make When Complaining

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on November 13, 2017 in The Squeaky Wheel
If you want to get results when you voice a complaint to a partner, friend or customer service, you need to avoid these five mistakes...

Really Getting Real! Part 1

Being clear about our intention, regarding a future relationship is a crucial factor in the process of finding a suitable and appropriate partner...
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In Love With a Narcissist? 6 Ways to Make It Work

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on November 12, 2017 in Off the Couch
Despite popular belief, loving a narcissist can be rewarding in many ways. What can you do to make sure your love will last?

Some People Truly Don’t Feel Jealousy

Some people in long-term polyamorous relationships initially report that they do not feel jealousy, but over time many of them encounter jealousy triggers in their relationships.

You Just Got Dumped – Nice Timing, Right?

By Joseph Cardillo Ph.D. on November 12, 2017 in Attention Training
These 5 energy changers can help heal your broken heart.
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MeToo: A Watershed Moment

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on November 12, 2017 in Shadow Boxing
Collection of bold narratives from a range of writers, male and female, documents the social movement against sexual assault.

52 Ways: What Motivates Others Who Threaten A Relationship?

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on November 12, 2017 in Life, Refracted
A couple's relationship can be threatened by others. To minimize potential damage, explore conscious or unconscious motives that a third-party might have.

Checking Out Others? You Probably Think Your Partner Is Too

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on November 11, 2017 in Close Encounters
New research examines whether we project our own wandering eye onto our partners, and how that affects the way we treat them.

Requiem For Leon, A Cat

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on November 11, 2017 in Sex & Sociability
Even a cat, especially a well loved one, deserves a public obituary,

The Wandering Eye and the Green-Eyed Monster

By David Ludden Ph.D. on November 11, 2017 in Talking Apes
New research shows that when people fantasize about illicit affairs, they often project their guilty feelings onto their partner.

Five Ways to Help You Find Your Passion

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on November 11, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
The important thing is to know that there is more of life you can fall in love with. Just give yourself a chance.
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What Suicide Grievers Don't Say

By Elizabeth Young on November 11, 2017 in Adaptations
"There won't be another son," I say quietly.  There's a long silence, and then Jack says. "No. There won't be another son." 

Interpersonal Rules that Undermine Your Relationships #7

By Amy Banks on November 11, 2017 in Wired For Love
In a relational world, you learn that the expectation of doing things “on your own” is stressful and when you body is stressed, your gut takes over.

When Is the Old New Again?: The Case of Jelena

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on November 10, 2017 in Shrink Wrap
Sometimes old relationships are worth rekindling.

Finding Solace Through Stories

By Robyn Fivush Ph.D. on November 10, 2017 in The Stories of Our Lives
Remembering our loved ones through stories helps us heal and bonds our families and friends together in times of grief.

Sometimes You Just Have to Let It Go

Is it enough to forgive and forget?

Insecurity May Enhance Your Ability to Detect Dishonesty

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 09, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Insecurity is related to the ability to detect dishonesty. Your suspicions about your partner´s dishonesty may reveal the honest truth about you.

When an Open Book is Fiction: Detecting Dishonesty on a Date

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
As much as you want to take the plunge of trust, don´t believe everything you hear. Pacing, presentation, and pauses provide several ways to detect deception.

Preventing Trouble With Houseguests

By Shawn M. Burn Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Presence of Mind
Houseguests can be a dream but they can also be experienced as territorial invaders that create stress and strain, especially if we aren't clear about visit boundaries.

Phubbing-The #1 Phone Habit to Drop For Better Relationships

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Feeling It
Here's what happens to your relationships when you ignore others for your phone.
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Suicide's Grievers (Suicide-2)

By Elizabeth Young on November 08, 2017 in Adaptations
I feel like I don't breathe for 45 minutes, as each person describes the death of their loved one.

Dead Man Talking: Deceased Killers Reveal Motive for Murder

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on November 08, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Words Matter: In retrospect, mass murderers were in the best position to predict the crime. Threat assessors advise us to both look and listen.