Essential Reads

Lying to Your Therapist

By Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP on October 26, 2016 in In Therapy
You spend money, time, and emotional energy coming to therapy – so why lie? Wouldn’t deception or omission mean that you’re avoiding your issues, keeping you from reaching goals?

Managing Your Expectations About Marriage

Having realistic expectations about our marriage will result in less dissatisfaction.

We Need a New Word for Stepparents

By Wendy Paris on October 25, 2016 in Splitopia
The fact that a stepparent is not a legal relationship highlights the role of strong emotional bonds within a blended family structure. Three tips for building good bonds.

New Research Shows Relationships End in 5 Stages

It may seem random, but when relationships come to an end, they often go through a series of predictable stages. New research shows how to tell whether you're ready to move on.

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Beware of the Go-For-the-Jugular Vampire

By Judith Orloff M.D. on October 20, 2016 in Emotional Freedom
This vampire is one of the most malevolent of bloodsuckers, this person is vindictive and cuts you down with no consideration for your feelings. Learn how to protect yourself.

How Do I Handle My Father's Mental Ilness?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in The Teen Doctor
How to handle a father's mental illness

There's Only One Way to Love: Bravely

By Alexandra Solomon Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Loving Bravely
How do you reconcile the romanticized images of love portrayed in the media with the lived experiences of being in an intimate relationship? Let self-awareness be your guide.

My Mother's First Love at Age 93, by Caroline Leavitt

By Jennifer Haupt on October 20, 2016 in One True Thing
My mother begins to talk about love differently. It’s no longer the thing that ruins lives, that traps you. Instead, it’s this wonderful secret she wants to share with everyone.

How to Tell if You Should Avoid Contact With Your Ex

If you and your ex cannot or do not intend to treat each other like true friends, then needless to say, it is best to end all contact ASAP.

How to Listen So That Kids Will Talk About Bullying

Why is it that so many young people are so loathe to talk to their caregivers about bullying?

I'm Free. I Just Do What I Want, Say What I Want

Long-term, romantic relationships always involve compromise. But how much compromise is too much?

Couples, Go Ahead—Enter Each Other’s “Hurt Museum”

Do you sometimes think you’ve worked through a conflict with your partner, only to have it show up again . . . and again?

Harsh Views of Singles: Stereotypes or Accurate Perceptions?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 19, 2016 in Living Single
Are harsh judgments of single people unfair stereotypes or accurate perceptions? Four kinds of studies all offer the same answer.

In Search of Cracks

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 19, 2016 in How To Do Life
The first step in expanding hope is to recognize cracks of opportunity.

When Love and Attention Just Aren't Enough

You'll be amazed at how affectionate and cooperative your little guy is after you "hear and see" his feelings.

Losing Friends and Family Over the Election?

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in Buddy System
I hate my friend/spouse/partner because he or she is voting for Clinton/Trump!

Good Communication Alone Doesn't Improve Relationships

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on October 18, 2016 in The New Resilience
Research finds that good communication results from a positive relationship that's been built on a solid foundation.
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A Journey to the Good Life

By Jeffrey Davis M.A. on October 18, 2016 in Tracking Wonder
Author, entrepreneur, and business strategist Jonathan Fields shares his journey to the good life in his latest book How to Live a Good Life released today.
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The Art and Science of Mistakes II

Why and how we sabotage our success

Recovering From Adversity

When life bruises and wounds us, we can use even the scratches to etch a portrait of beauty and charm.

When the Perks of Love Interfere With Love

It is sometimes the case that the gifts of love become more important (and are certainly more safe from the risks and anxieties of love) than love itself.

Childhood Sexual Abuse: How Men Can Help Women Recover

By Michael Castleman M.A. on October 17, 2016 in All About Sex
One woman in six has survived child sex abuse. Even years later, men can help them recover. Here's how.

13 Ways to Find More Meaning

By Megan Dalla-Camina on October 16, 2016 in Real Women
Are you one of the many people going through the motions when it comes to your career and struggling to find your purpose? Here are 13 simple ways to find more meaning.

How Long Should You Wait for Your Partner to Commit?

When you don't get the level of commitment you desire in a relationship, how do you decide when enough is enough?

10 Ways to Tell if You're Being Gaslighted

Gaslighting is psychological abuse. 10 ways to tell if you're being gaslighted.

To Be Awakened

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on October 16, 2016 in How To Do Life
Some of my clients', colleagues', friends', and my changed opinions.

How a Narcissist Can Derail You

Narcissism can derail families, relationships, work environments, and social and political institutions.

How Empathetic Are Americans? Gender and Generation Matter

By Christopher Bergland on October 15, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
America was ranked no. 7 in a first-of-its-kind global survey on empathy. But, not all Americans are equally empathic. Why are some Americans more empathetic to others' suffering?

Reflections on Veteran Suicide, Veteran Resilience and Tribe

Trauma may not be the that thing catalyzes despair but rather the combination of trauma with gaping attachment wounds that service members feel when they separate from their tribe.

If You Meet a Shark in the Dating Pool, Swim Away!

Beware that "soulmate" feelings may be echoes of former trauma that may lead us into a relationship that will morph into the nightmare of the abusive situation.

Six Expressions of Love

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on October 14, 2016 in In It Together
Do you and your partner have different ideas about how to express love? "Not feeling loved" is a major underlying cause of separation, so this is a conversation worth having.

This Election Is Not Just About You

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W.- R. on October 14, 2016 in Quite Queerly
America is about freedom and opportunity for all, not just a few.

How to Love People When You Hate Their Political Choices

By Nancy Berns Ph.D. on October 14, 2016 in Freedom to Grieve
This presidential election seems to be harder than others. How do we survive this election? Here are seven places to start.