Essential Reads

Base Relationships on the Present, Not the Base

By William R. Klemm Ph.D. on December 10, 2016 in Memory Medic
Memories are seldom fully literal. Memories are constructed, not recorded like an audio tape. The brain decides how an experience is to be packaged as a narrative to remember.

A Newly Developed Scale Offers Gauge of Relationship Health

It’s one thing to be satisfied in your relationship but, according to new research, quite another to feel it’s flourishing This 12-item scale will show where yours stands.
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How to Amp Up Your Empathy

By Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. on December 09, 2016 in How to Be Yourself
The benefits of having empathetic skills are unparalleled; it's the next best thing to telekinesis! But, how do you improve these vital skills?
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3 Steps to Breaking Up With Someone

By John Kim, LMFT on December 09, 2016 in The Angry Therapist
How to break up with someone.

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Why Single People Can’t Catch a Break

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on December 05, 2016 in Living Single
Stereotypes of single people aren’t true. Surprising findings help explain why they persist.

"Malone Alone"

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on December 05, 2016 in How To Do Life
A reclusive person's story.
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Beauty and the Beast as a Lesson in Self Acceptance

Can't accept some part of yourself? "Beauty and the Beast" has a lesson for us all.

13 Challenges and Opportunities in Long-Distance Love

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on December 04, 2016 in Life, Refracted
Tempted to begin a long-distance relationship? Awareness of unique challenges and opportunities can help you decide what you may be getting into.

When Love Becomes Infiltrated by Hate

Passionate love and hate are obsessive emotions, whereas indifference is a a kind of numbness that likely sparks an absence of action as opposed to reaction.

Love and Separation Throughout the Life Cycle

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on December 03, 2016 in Life After 50
Do you wish your adult children needed you more?

The Spirit of Generosity Part 1

If you have been in a working partnership for any length of time, you will have discovered that true love requires sacrifice and a spirit of generosity.

How to Speak Up and Take a Stand

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on December 03, 2016 in Wander Woman
The suggestions in this post will help you be heard when it is time to declare your point of view.

Have We Finally Found a Way to Detect Lies?

The big question in detecting deception is the ability to separate truth-tellers from fibbers.

Crush Holiday Stress: Have a Better Than Perfect Holiday

Want to crush the stress of the holidays? Here's how to have a better than perfect holiday season!
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Redefining the Extraordinary Life

By John Kim, LMFT on December 02, 2016 in The Angry Therapist
How do you define an extraordinary life?
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Giving or Taking Criticism: Stay Cool, Calm, and Collected

By Hendrie Weisinger Ph.D. on December 02, 2016 in Thicken Your Skin
Can you stay calm when giving criticism? Can you hear criticism without feeling your heart zoom?

When Your Child Snarls at You, Could You Just Offer Love?

No, you’re not teaching your child that she can get away with being rude. You’re teaching her that you’re a safe haven and she never needs or wants to lash out at you like that.
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What I Tell Everyone Who Wants to Be a Life Coach

By John Kim, LMFT on December 01, 2016 in The Angry Therapist
Are you interested in life coaching?

Can of Worms? Pandora’s Box? Divulging Your Dark Secrets

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on December 01, 2016 in Evolution of the Self
As a psychologist, I’ve seen clients show tremendous ambivalence about bringing up certain subjects, particularly those suffused with fear, trepidation, guilt and shame.

Beware of Criticizing Concepts You Don't Fully Understand

It's extremely harmful when respected news sources convey false and misleading information to the public.

Use Holidays to Boost Your Relationship, Not Stress It Out

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on December 01, 2016 in Joyful Parenting
Here are some research-based ways people can not just protect a partnership from holiday stress, but also use the holidays to make it even stronger.

Older Dogs: Giving Elder Canines Lots of Love and Good Lives

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on December 01, 2016 in Animal Emotions
Photographer Jane Klonsky's new book called "Unconditional: Older Dogs, Deeper Love," with its deeply moving stories and beautiful photos, is an inspirational and essential read.

Who’s Checking on Whom?

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on December 01, 2016 in Love, Digitally
Our surveillance behavior is now motivated by a desire to check out what a partner may be doing offline, and what they're doing online.

What Would You Do, Really?

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on December 01, 2016 in How To Do Life
12 dilemmas that may give you clarity about who you really are

13 Amazing Books to Devour

By Todd B. Kashdan Ph.D. on November 30, 2016 in Curious?
The top 9 non-fiction and 4 fiction books off the beaten path that I digested this year.

Overprotective Parenting and Symbolic Rejection

The problem with helicoptering is that, like being physically absent as a parent, being hyper-present can harm children.

The Art of High-Stakes Psychological Diagnosis Pt. 2

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on November 30, 2016 in Ambigamy
When diagnosing or name-calling, call out the behavior and speculate carefully about the possible motivations for it or you'll get mired in debate over the motivations.

Helen Keller and the First Akitas in the United States

By Stanley Coren Ph.D., F.R.S.C. on November 30, 2016 in Canine Corner
Helen Keller, the deaf blind social activist, speaker, and author, is credited with bringing the first Akitas to America.

Pet Ownership Impact on Well-being Depends on Marital Status

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on November 30, 2016 in Life, Refracted
Pet ownership is unrelated to well-being in married Americans. Single women benefit from having a pet, yet single men appear to be burdened by it.

Scared to Date Again?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on November 30, 2016 in Rediscovering Love
Many people repeatedly pick the same kind of partners even though none of those relationships have worked out in the past. Here's how to break the cycle.

Emotionally Abusive Relationships, Part Two

Think you're in an emotionally abusive relationship? Understand the dynamics of emotional abuse.

The Big Three

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on November 30, 2016 in How To Do Life
A life key: Surround yourself with people who are intelligent, driven, & ethical.

Vanishing Grandmothers and the Decline of Empathy

Find out why empathy is declining, why grandmothers matter, and why disappearing cultures can show us a unique recipe to nurture compassionate children and happy people.
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5 Signs You're In The Wrong Relationship

By John Kim, LMFT on November 29, 2016 in The Angry Therapist
Are you in the right relationship?