Essential Reads

Unbroken by Divorce: 5 Rules of Resilience

What's different about the people who are least likely to be undone by divorce

What Do Women Look for in a Mate?

Choosing a potential mate is always tricky. A new research study shows why.

The Power of Influence

Want to affect the world? You have more power than you think.

Six Tips to Guide You in Sharing Your Feelings

There’s a time, place, and way to use self-disclosure in your relationships

Recent Posts on Relationships

Do Alzheimer's Patients Have the Right to Say Yes to Sex?

The right to love is considered to be an essential human right; however, one exception that often prevails is in cases of Alzheimer’s patients. The case of Henry Rayhons, who was charged with sexually abusing his wife Donna, is such a striking example; Can people who are unable to recognize their own children give their sound sexual consent?

Smart Leaders Know They Need to Put Their Phones Away

By Craig Dowden Ph.D. on April 29, 2015 in The Leader's Code
How smartphones can undermine the most important relationships of our lives.

How to Build Rapport: A Powerful Technique

By Aldo Civico Ph.D. on April 29, 2015 in Turning Point
Knowing how to build rapport is at the root of our personal and professional success. Here is a powerful technique you can practice right away, as soon as you finish reading this article.

Wife Swapping in the Stone Age

By Nigel Barber Ph.D. on April 29, 2015 in The Human Beast
Anthropologists are all too familiar with the violence and bloodshed triggered by marital infidelity. Now they are coming to terms with a more mysterious phenomenon—consensual wife sharing. If a man flies into homicidal rages when his wife cheats on him, why would he encourage another man to sleep with her?

Angry Tears

It’s become increasingly common for therapists to note that underlying your anger are feelings of hurt. In fact the more pronounced your anger, the greater the hurt it conceals. So if the phrase “angry tears” sounds oxymoronic to you, that’s because it is: It’s profoundly descriptive of human experience yet, on the face of it, certainly seems contradictory. . . .

The Gut-Wrenching Confusion of an Epic Breakup

By Suzanne Lachmann Psy.D. on April 29, 2015 in Me Before We
After a stormy relationship, you can think you’re OK, you're feeling stable, but then you plunge right back into confusion, disgust, and fear all over again.

4 Reasons Why You Can’t Read Your Partner’s Nonverbal Cues

You would think that with familiarity, our ability to accurately read someone’s body language would improve, but it often doesn’t. Here are some reasons why you might not be able to read a loved one’s nonverbal cues.

When Is a Doormat Not a Doormat?

Irrelationships may cross the line into frank abuse. However, the abused partner's seeming acquiescence may not be simple acceptance of the unacceptable. Despite his abusiveness, she may believe her partner needs what she has to offer. And her abuser may be equally committed to demanding it even while refusing to validate it.

Why Relationships Can Never Be 50-50 Propositions

A personal relationship is so much more than its business aspects. We can work to cultivate a more mutual generosity and trust between us. When couples are in the rhythm of giving to each other, they are sensitive to each other’s needs, and get great pleasure from bringing happiness to each other.

When Your Partner Wants To Do It But You Don't

By Amy Muise PhD on April 28, 2015 in The Passion Paradox
In long-term relationships couples are bound to encounter times when one partner wants to have sex, but the other partner is not in the mood for sex at that time. New research examined how couples can navigate these situations of differing sexual interests with greater success.

Can Women Ever Be Taken Seriously?

Gravitas, or the assertion of power through body language, is a concept usually associated with men. However, it is possible under the right circumstances for women to have a piece of the power dynamic pie.

Moving Past Anger in Divorce

By Wendy Paris on April 28, 2015 in Splitopia
Anger is a backward-looking emotion. It can keep you trapped in the past you no longer have. Moving on can mean moving past anger.

The Communicative Advantages of Interrupting

The Sermon on the Mount takes 8 minutes to read aloud, so be wary of any speech act that goes on for longer than that.

Pardon Me—Or Else!

By Rebecca Coffey on April 27, 2015 in The Bejeezus Out of Me
Haters gonna hate. Forgivers gonna live longer.

Change Your Brain With Kindness

By Marlynn Wei M.D., J.D. on April 27, 2015 in Urban Survival
Practicing a loving kindness meditation allows you to be gentle and compassionate to yourself and also the people around you. The practice not only can bring more positivity into your life but also can actually change your brain.

When You Lose a Friend

By Thelma Duffey Ph.D. on April 27, 2015 in Works in Progress
Friendships are one of the most important relationships in your life. Allow yourself to grieve and recover through these steps.

5 Steps to End a Toxic Relationship

By Rosemary K.M. Sword on April 27, 2015 in The Time Cure
The tendency to unconsciously seek out toxic relationships frequently starts with past negative experiences when we are children and might carry on throughout our lives. They can become so deeply ingrained in the way we think and feel that we don’t realize we are steeped in toxicity...

My Daughter Is Dating My Son Figure

How To Adjust To The Changing Nature Of Relationships

Don’t Give Up On Finding a Companion

Dr. Abraham Maslow, who created the hierarchy of needs, listed “belonging” as our next need after food, safety, and shelter. For almost everyone, this need pulls at your heart, and even if you have given up in your head, that other organ still yearns for the company of another person.

10 Ways to Build Trust Remotely

Are people who work remotely less worthy of your trust? Is it possible to build strong trusting working relationships with people you can't see? Are people who work remotely less worthy of your trust? Is it possible to build strong trusting working relationships with people you can't see?

The Social Pain of Rejection

By Amy Banks on April 26, 2015 in Wired For Love
SPOT theory confirms that people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones – but it also tells us that we all live in glass houses.

Changes in the Family: Impact on Child Relationships

Single parenting carries many responsibilities, not least of which is an even greater need to support children in their understanding for healthy relationships.

The Science of Betrayal

A betrayal by someone you trust is one of the most challenging interpersonal situations you can face in life. Whether through infidelity or a failure to fulfill a promise, betrayal leads to a desire for revenge, particularly in some people. New neuroscience research suggests who’s most likely to be hurt by a betrayal and why.

10 Signs Your Co-Worker / Colleague is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance. At the workplace, a pathologically narcissistic co-worker can be annoying and frustrating at best, and a serious threat to your career at worst. Here are ten signs that your colleague might be a narcissist...

What Do Your Hands Reveal About You?

A single behavior can have multiple meanings in different cultures and can get us in trouble! For instance, the ring gesture (the circle created by the thumb touching the index finger) with which Americans convey “Okay,” means “You are a zero” in France and Belgium.

16 Breaking up Tips and How Journaling Eases Heartbreak

Research tells us that writing about the positive aspects of the relationship has healing value.

Spinster is the New Black

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on April 25, 2015 in Living Single
Single people are having a moment. Articles are popping up everywhere about ways of living fully and joyfully outside of marriage and nuclear families. Suddenly, spinster is the new black. The question is, who gets to wear it?

How Trying to Make Everyone Happy Can Make You Miserable

By Kristi Pikiewicz PhD on April 24, 2015 in Meaningful You
Do you bend over backwards to make everyone else happy? Then why are you so lonely? Here's why being a people pleaser is a losing long-term strategy.