Essential Reads

Should Couples Share Their Sexual Fantasies?

Sexual fantasies excite the imagination—and sometimes are better left there.

What Not to Say to a Depressed Person

Depression isn’t just a matter of moral weakness or willpower

Why We're So Hung Up About Facebook Stalking

And is it really stalking after all?

Recent Posts on Relationships

Paying it Forward

Imagine someone does something nice for you. You then see someone else that needs help. Are you more likely to help that person? What if you were mistreated by someone, are you more likely to then mistreat a person unrelated to the situation?

What Is Wrong With Dichotomous Thinking

It is said that there are two kinds of people, those who think there are two kinds of people and those who don't. Please discuss.

My Daughter Is Going To College And I Am Terrified

How To Handle Anxiety About College

Why Do We Misjudge Others

When we interact with a new person, our judgments are colored by our own past experiences, projections, and expectations.

Do This One Thing If You Want To Heal Faster From Divorce

How is it that being with others in the same boat can help so much?

The Compassionate Way to End a Relationship

Ending a relationship involves pain for both partners, regardless of who initiates the breakup. Although the well-known song proclaims there are 50 ways to leave your lover, the literature identifies 47. People high in compassionate love will be the most likely to use the least painful of these breakup strategies.

4 Things You Should Never Do During an Argument

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on June 30, 2015 in Between You and Me
The last time you got into a fight, how did you act? Did you criticize or roll your eyes as you sat in stony silence? Did you get defensive? Or maybe you were able to joke around and lighten the mood. Although everyone fights, people differ in how they deal with conflict. And it turns out that how we deal with conflict says a lot about the future of our relationships.

Can Technology Improve Divorce?

By Wendy Paris on June 30, 2015 in Splitopia
Technology has improved divorce in many ways, such as by allowing people to learn the laws in their state without ever leaving the living room. One website promises to help you choose the right professionals by "crunching" the details of your dissolution style, and steering you toward a customized support team.

Facebook Rainbows

Rainbow colored Facebook images could help in some way to alter views towards homosexuality. At the very least, it shows support for a group of individuals who have been marginalized and made to feel less than for far too long. And I can imagine that that - even in such a small gesture as a colored profile pic- feels incredible.

No More Tears

It will be a year ago tomorrow that my mom left this world. Even though I believe that she is happy and at peace, I still want her here with me NOW.The heartbreak of loss seems to be a fundamental, inescapable aspect of the human condition. When we take the risk of caring about another living being, we set ourselves up for eventual loss. What can compare to that pain?

Does Setting Your Boundaries Mean You Always Have to Say NO?

By Donna Barstow on June 30, 2015 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Maybe you shouldn't say no - to anything - until you know yourself a little better.

How to Learn to Love Networking

We all want to connect at a deep level. The only question is, how do you find the magical portal to the deep stuff?

Do You Forgive and When Should You?

From our partner not doing their share of the chores to infidelity, brutal mass murder and everything in between, there are many times in life when we are called on to forgive (or not). Consider these psychological facts before making your personal decision about forgiveness.

5 Ways to Build Trust and Honesty in Your Relationship

Honesty is a key component of a healthy relationship, yet 64 percent of serious lies involve people’s closest relationship partners. So, what can we do to not only be more honest but to promote an atmosphere of honesty around us?

Healing Hints for When Love Fades

When loves fades, our feelings vacillate between sad, uncomfortable, and angry. It is our right and responsibility as human beings to try to fix it. And we all have the ability. Unfortunately, many people are too afraid to work on their relationships.

Choose Your Own (Romantic) Adventure

By Samantha Joel M.A. on June 29, 2015 in Dating Decisions
Choose Your Own Adventure stories aren't just for kids anymore.

Finding a Life Partner, Part Two

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on June 29, 2015 in Media Spotlight
While David Buss points out that we all come from a long line of ancestors who have been fairly successful in the mating game which, in theory, means that we are all equipped to succeed ourselves, Menelaos Apostolou isn’t so optimistic. The rules under which we live in modern society are very different from what our ancestors took for granted.

Can Subliminal Messages Create Feelings of Love and Lust?

Can a sexy picture in the background or a well-chosen romantic word, trigger automatic feelings of love and desire? Could the right situation or association make you seem more attractive, sexy, or alluring to a potential lover? See what the research has to say here...

This Proves That Men Are Visual Creatures

By Donna Barstow on June 29, 2015 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Some men are wonderful conversationalists, but others don't say much at all, and prefer to let their eyes do the talking.

A Love Letter to Mothers of Sons

Although mother-daughter relationships are often fraught with conflict, mothers and their adult daughters seem to have an easier time with each other than mothers and their adult sons..Read about the real nature of a man's relationship with his mother, the first love of his life, and how and why it changes so drastically.

12 Bliss Tips: Love and Gratitude Can Reduce Stress

The 4th of July is a time for celebrating freedom and the world comes aglow with fireworks. It is a good time to rethink ways of freeing yourself from stress, making the time to dream, and practicing gratitude and kindness to find your bliss.

Does Everyone Seem Clique-y? the Problem May Be You

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on June 28, 2015 in Friendship 2.0
Entering any group as an outsider can be difficult. Often, we sabatoge ourselves by assuming that others are snobby or exclusive, when in reality they just already know each other-- and that's what makes us uncomfortable.

Should We Choose Someone Similar or Different as a Mate?

By Sheila Kohler on June 27, 2015 in Dreaming for Freud
Should we choose someone very different or similar to us as a partner?

A Little Good News for a Change

Many studies have shown that couples who enjoy long-term, fulfilling relationships, also tend to experience enhanced self-esteem, clarity of life purpose, a tendency to view things optimistically, and generally, better health.

Gay Men and Straight Men as Friends

For the straight guy, friendship with a gay man offers the opportunity to learn important lessons about masculinity, male identity, sexual orientation, and diversity. For the gay man, a relationship with a straight male friend can be healing.

Who Do You Fear, and Why?

Being afraid of another person, except in very rare cases, doesn’t really make sense. It’s time to sort out how much of your fear of others is based in reality and how much is based on your own preconceived notions. Overcoming those fears will help you improve both your relationships and your well-being.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 7

By Eyal Winter on June 27, 2015 in Feeling Smart
More Clichés: Men seek Younger and Physically Attractive; Women seek Professionally Successful

Why Are People So Defensive?

Why are we so quick to fight, to defend our positions? What are we really afraid of?

An Overlooked Reason To Commit

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on June 26, 2015 in Ambigamy
You can't tell what a compromise will cost until you commit to it and start figuring out how to make it cost less.