Essential Reads

Why the Narcissistically Entitled Are So Difficult to Please

The narcissistically entitled can make dealing with them difficult indeed. Knowing what’s behind their fussiness can make your life, and possibly theirs, much easier.

Healing From a Toxic Childhood? The Two Words You Need Most

By Peg Streep on January 16, 2018 in Tech Support
The culture thinks that persisting is hard and requires grit while quitting is easy. The truth may surprise you, especially when it comes to toxic relationships.

Is Facebook Spying on an Ex-Flame The New Normal?

Has Facebook stalking become the new normal? Research indicates that post-break up covert monitoring of an ex-flame after a breakup is increasingly common.

Porn "Addiction" in the Mainstream Media

The mainstream media presents pornography addiction as a legitimate disorder when in fact this is far from certain. In addition it offers questionable advice and suggestions.

More Posts on Relationships

The Do’s and Don’ts of Great Relationships

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on January 12, 2018 in Rediscovering Love
Intimate partners who value and respect each other willingly and continuously embrace these “Do’s” and avoid these “Don’ts.”

How to Make a Relationship Last Forever

By Kelly Campbell Ph.D. on January 12, 2018 in More Than Chemistry
With the rate of divorce hovering around 50 percent, people often ask how they can make a relationship last forever? These are my top three tips.

Mr. Zuckerberg, Tear Down This Wall!

Mark Zuckerberg is changing the Facebook Newsfeed, again. He claims it's to help users' mental health and make Facebook a force for moral good. Don't believe the hype.

Four Dating Tips for Smart People

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on January 12, 2018 in How To Do Life
Tactics for finding and building a long-term relationship that works.

Family Relationships in Early Stages of Substance Use Change

By Michael Ascher M.D. on January 11, 2018 in Unhooked
Whether you are the person with the substance use problem in early stages of change or someone who loves them, everyone needs a road map to navigate existing family relationships.

You Are Judged By Your Screen Name, So Choose Carefully

Sexual predators prey on women using provocative screen names. Yet good guys are looking too. So choose your screen name carefully.

6 Simple Exercises to Benefit Your Relationship

Try out a few tricks that happy couples use to support their relationship satisfaction.

Tips for Sexual Wellness in 2018

By Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST on January 11, 2018 in Modern Sex
What will you do to cultivate more sexual wellness this year?

Alleviate Divorce Pain By Avoiding These 7 Common Mistakes

By Michael F. Kay on January 11, 2018 in Financial Life Focus
Divorce can leave scars on families that get passed from generation to generation.

Does Bickering Pretty Much Define Your Relationship?

This title might seem to smack of hyperbole. But as a therapist I’ve seen this dismal pattern of contentiousness all too often. So how do couples "achieve" such unending friction?

Tackling Self-Blame and Self-Criticism: 5 Strategies to Try

By Peg Streep on January 10, 2018 in Tech Support
Do you believe when things go wrong, someone has to take the fall and that person should be you? Do you think people are capable of changing their reactions?

You Are Going to Fall in Love With This Person—Really?

By Kevin Bennett on January 10, 2018 in Modern Minds
Will you fall in love with your total opposite? Are cult members dumb, gullible sheep? Answers to these questions and eight other surprises from psychological science.

Five Tips for Smart People in a Not-So-Smart World

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on January 09, 2018 in How To Do Life
Tactics for bright and gifted people in a mixed-ability world.

Talking With Larry King About "Why the Grass Seems Greener"

Are small annoyances in your relationship driving you crazy? Shifting your perspective from what's going wrong to what's going right can make all the difference.

Gender Inequality

By Carol A. Lambert, MSW on January 09, 2018 in Mind Games
When we live in a culture where genders are not treated equally, women are at risk of being over-powered and mistreated in the workplace and in their intimate relationships.

Just Because It Seems Accurate, Doesn’t Make It True

By Michael Bar-Eli, Ph.D. on January 09, 2018 in Boost!
A problematic relationship continues to persist in psychology between hypothetical constructs and operational definitions.

Why Are You Having Sex and Have You Told Your Partner?

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on January 08, 2018 in Sex & Sociability
Hot sex or maintenance sex and any kind of sex in between — Are you and your partner having the same kind?

Did My Narcissistic Mate Mean to Hurt Me?

If you have ever wondered if your narcissistic mate was intentionally causing you pain or simply oblivious, this article can help you understand what was going on and why.

The Big Split

By Sarah C. Newcomb Ph.D. on January 08, 2018 in Loaded
Here’s what you need to know about the psychology of money when it comes to splitting up.

The Move to New Manager Is One of the Toughest in Business

By Victor Lipman on January 08, 2018 in Mind of the Manager
New managers are often thrown into the job with minimal training and guidance. In some ways the transition to new manager is harder than the transition to CEO.

#MeToo: Take Your Hands Off Pandora’s Box!

Transactional analysis explains the current sex scandals as a series of games with established rules and well-defined roles for each participant.
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Why Authoritarians Love Religion

The ongoing Authoritarian Wound series continues with an examination of the authoritarian personality's relationship to religion.

How Jealous Partners Use Facebook to Monitor and Manipulate

Partners do not always make good Facebook friends. How digital surveillance, manipulation, and mate-retention strategies can be harmful to your relationship.

Why Bother? Part 1

There are no guarantees that when we bring to the surface some of the material that needs healing that it’s going to benefit us right away...

Pulling Back? Withdrawing? 5 Possible Reasons Why

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on January 07, 2018 in Fixing Families
Pulling back, emotionally or physically withdrawing happens to all of us from time-to-time. Here are five common reasons why and how to handle them.

Don’t Create What You Defend Against: Don’t Build the Wall

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on January 06, 2018 in The Freedom to Change
When we defend ourselves too strongly and without thinking about long-term outcomes, we tend to make situations worse and create the very outcomes we feared.

Save Yourself From Unnecessary Heartache!

Have you ever thought, "I'll never fall in love again"? There's a better way to take care of yourself without depriving yourself of deep connection.

Marriage Alone Does Not Make You a Better Person

When I got married, I was young, weak, wimpy, unconscious, and inexperienced.
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How to Distinguish a Sociopath from a Narcissist

Sociopaths and narcissists can share similar traits, but knowing the difference is crucial to determine whether the relationship improve? Information is power.

Let's Wait Until After the Holidays

By Michele Weiner-Davis MSW on January 06, 2018 in Divorce Busting
Rather than ruin the holidays for everyone, did you put off divorce until after New Year's? Before calling your attorney, read about a holiday gift that keeps on giving.