Relationships Essential Reads

Withholding Information Leads People to Like Us Less

People often prefer to hide sensitive information about themselves, thinking it will lead people to like them more. But research shows it has precisely the opposite effect.

A Happy Ending Matters in this Hollywood Divorce

By Wendy Paris on September 27, 2016 in Splitopia
The negative stories about the Brangelina break-up are dangerous, because the expectation that divorce must be a tragedy for all involved can create just that outcome.

New Research Shows How to Manage Public Speaking Anxiety

Extreme fear of public speaking is one of the most prevalent form of anxiety disorders. New research shows how you can test, and overcome yours.

What to Do When You Feel Annoyed by Your Partner

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in Laugh, Cry, Live
When you’re feeling annoyed by your partner, what can you do in the moment that will make things better, not worse? Here are 5 winning tips for soothing the flames of indignation.

Social Skills 101: Test and Improve Your Niceness Quotient

Social skills are such a key part of life that most of us rarely give them conscious thought. New research provides a tool to help you evaluate yours.

5 Common Ways Money Issues Wreck Relationships

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on September 23, 2016 in Friendship 2.0
Issues surrounding money are one of the most common conflicts within relationships, even where there is plenty of love. Here are some frequent ways that money damages partnerships.

Are Men Attracted to Clever Women?

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on September 22, 2016 in Attraction, Evolved
The claim that men are intimidated by clever women has been backed by the results of a new study of speed-dating by Polish economists.

Women’s Right to Say YES to Sexuality

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on September 21, 2016 in In the Name of Love
Women’s sexual right to say “yes” should be respected, including their right to freely shape their sexual performances, without incurring any social or emotional censure.

How Do Relationships Survive Long Distance?

What makes a long-distance relationship work?

8 Ways to Overcome a Blow to Your Ego

It’s tough to lose at something that matters to you, whether a race with hundreds of strangers or a bet with your best friend. These 8 tips will help you bounce back from defeat.

Is It Too Late to Say Balti?

By Vyv Evans Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in Language in the Mind
What is the nature of punning? Musical puns in TV adverts provide an unexpected venue to explore the linguistics of humor.

The Art of Giving Advice

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 in How To Do Life
How to make suggestions the recipient will actually embrace.

12 Things You Missed While You Were on Your Smartphone

Are you stalled in a digital time warp instead of being there for your loved ones?

Ambiguous Family Communication: Descriptions or Judgments?

By David M. Allen M.D. on September 19, 2016 in A Matter of Personality
People involved in repetitive dysfunctional family interactions may use the intrinsic ambiguity of language to mislead interested third parties. One way is make global judgments.

Detox Your Relationships

By Ralph Ryback M.D. on September 19, 2016 in The Truisms of Wellness
Toxic people can damage and leave long-lasting effects on others, so it's important to determine when it's time to either sever or mend the relationship.

Do We Put Too Much Weight on Shared Interests When Dating?

It sounds wonderful to have interests in common with a person we're dating, but we should be wary of putting too much stock in them—in the end, they could backfire.

What Staying In Touch With an Ex May Mean

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on September 18, 2016 in Close Encounters
New research shows having contact with an ex could harm a new relationship; whether it does depends on the motives for staying in touch.

How Your Cellphone Is Like a Teddy Bear

Do you ever wonder if you’re too dependent on your cellphone? Are you distraught when you misplace it? New research suggests how attachment style affects our cellphone behavior.

Why We Need Closure

What is 'closure', really, and why do we need it to move on?

Narcissism and the Myths That Just Won’t Die

By Jean M Twenge Ph.D. on September 16, 2016 in The Narcissism Epidemic
Why I'm done with narcissism
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What You Should Know About Transcending During Sex

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on September 16, 2016 in The Empowerment Diary
Do you find that some of your sexual encounters bring you to a magical place or a feeling that you're experience an altered state of consciousness? This can be very transformative.

7 Ways to Make Conflict Healthy

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on September 15, 2016 in Between You and Me
It's not whether you fight, but how you fight that matters. Bringing understanding into your fights can transform them from negative experiences to positive ones.

Human Intimacy

Few human endeavors are as rewarding and as frightening as acts of intimacy.

The American Dream: For Single People, Is It Just a Fantasy?

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on September 14, 2016 in Living Single
New reports offer new insights on the psychology and economics of home buying for single women, single men, and unmarried couples.

Resilience: The Divorcées Secret Superpower

By Wendy Paris on September 13, 2016 in Splitopia
Resilient people make conscious choices every day to put aside time for practices that energize them, enliven them or strengthen them." Here's how.

Age as a Factor in Sexual Orientation and Attraction

By Loren A. Olson M.D. on September 13, 2016 in Finally Out
Sexuality research focusing exclusively on genital sex to the exclusion of attraction, affection and affiliation falls short in our understanding of sexual orientation or identity.

Is it Time to Unclutter Your Social Network?

Is your circle of friends more like a chaos of clutter?

Why Do We Accept Harmful Shortcomings in Our Partners?

Why are some people so picky when it comes to superficial qualities in a partner, yet willing to put up with harmful or dangerous personality traits?

How Eye Contact Brings You Together (or Pulls You Apart)

Science explains why making eye contact can be a friendly social signal or challenge another person.

Do You Outsource Your Self-Esteem to Relationships?

It’s a sad reality that people who haven’t been loved adequately in childhood are often loved inadequately in adulthood. There's a way to break this pattern.