Relationships Essential Reads

Six Ways to Get What You Want without Whining

We tend to associate whining with the behavior of toddlers, but there are plenty of adults who could equal the whininess of any two-year-old. These 6 tips will help you turn your complaints into effective strategies to get others to gladly give you what you want.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 8

By Eyal Winter on July 04, 2015 in Feeling Smart
In fact Men Talk More than Women - Read for evidence. Read also about the role the"demand withdrawal" phenomenon that is typical to so many relationships shapes this myth.

Should Couples Share Their Sexual Fantasies?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on July 02, 2015 in All About Sex
Sexual fantasies excite the imagination—and sometimes are better left there.

What Not to Say to a Depressed Person

By Jean Kim M.D. on July 01, 2015 in Culture Shrink
What isn’t helpful and remains a huge hurdle for the lay public to understand about depression is that it isn’t just a matter of moral failure or weakness or lack of willpower. The following comments are worth avoiding when talking to people you know going through a depressive episode:

3 Myths About Romantic Relationships You Probably Believe

By Peg Streep on July 01, 2015 in Tech Support
When we think about relationships, sometimes our thinking is just plain wrong or uninformed, thanks to the brain... Really,

Why We're So Hung Up About Facebook Stalking

By Lisa A. Phillips on July 01, 2015 in Unrequited
Your best friend tells you to “stop stalking” your ex on Facebook. You’ve probably told yourself the same thing. Even if what you're doing isn't "real" stalking, it's still not a good idea.

What Is Transgender? A Beautiful Short Film With an Answer

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W. on July 01, 2015 in Quite Queerly
Dylan is a short film written and directed by Elizabeth Rohrbaugh, and is based on a interview done with Dylan Winn Garner. The film follows a young trans man as he explains his story, his exploration in the trans community, his family's acceptance of his identity, and ultimately his physical and emotional transformation.

5 "Flaws" That Make You More Lovable

By Juliana Breines Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in In Love and War
You may think that people love you despite your flaws, not because of them. But some of the traits that you see as flaws may be more attractive than you realize.

Why Good Looks Don't Guarantee a Great Relationship

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on June 30, 2015 in The Sports Mind
New research finds that attractiveness does little to guarantee a healthy relationship.

The SCOTUS Ruling on Marriage Equality is Good for Everyone

By Mark O'Connell L.C.S.W. on June 30, 2015 in Quite Queerly
The language of American law--e.g., “Marriage is a commitment between one man and one woman.”--is sometimes in need of a hermeneutic update in order to truly do its job: to protect us all. In much the same way it is often necessary to use anomalous language in a variety of disciplines--medicine, psychology, religion--as we live, learn, and evolve.

Why Do We Misjudge Others

When we interact with a new person, our judgments are colored by our own past experiences, projections, and expectations.

The Compassionate Way to End a Relationship

Ending a relationship involves pain for both partners, regardless of who initiates the breakup. Although the well-known song proclaims there are 50 ways to leave your lover, the literature identifies 47. People high in compassionate love will be the most likely to use the least painful of these breakup strategies.

Facebook Rainbows

Rainbow colored Facebook images could help in some way to alter views towards homosexuality. At the very least, it shows support for a group of individuals who have been marginalized and made to feel less than for far too long. And I can imagine that that - even in such a small gesture as a colored profile pic- feels incredible.

How to Learn to Love Networking

We all want to connect at a deep level. The only question is, how do you find the magical portal to the deep stuff?

Do You Forgive and When Should You?

From our partner not doing their share of the chores to infidelity, brutal mass murder and everything in between, there are many times in life when we are called on to forgive (or not). Consider these psychological facts before making your personal decision about forgiveness.

A Little Good News for a Change

Many studies have shown that couples who enjoy long-term, fulfilling relationships, also tend to experience enhanced self-esteem, clarity of life purpose, a tendency to view things optimistically, and generally, better health.

Who Do You Fear, and Why?

Being afraid of another person, except in very rare cases, doesn’t really make sense. It’s time to sort out how much of your fear of others is based in reality and how much is based on your own preconceived notions. Overcoming those fears will help you improve both your relationships and your well-being.

A Crash Course on Gender Differences - Session 7

By Eyal Winter on June 27, 2015 in Feeling Smart
More Clichés: Men seek Younger and Physically Attractive; Women seek Professionally Successful

The Psychological Benefits of Legalized Gay Marriage

By Clay Routledge Ph.D. on June 26, 2015 in More Than Mortal
Marriage provides psychological security and meaning. And now these benefits are fully available to same-sex couples.

Same-Sex Marriage Needed to Be Decided by the Supreme Court

Today the Supreme Court decided that marriage is a right for all, same-sex and opposite-sex couples alike. Some would rather this has been decided by popular vote, but it's more appropriate and just that the courts should decide. But why?

An Honest, Heartfelt Portrayal of Bipolar Disorder

Hollywood depictions of mental illness usually are far off the mark. In Infinitely Polar Bear, Mark Ruffalo gives a rich, three dimensional, and deeply sympathetic performance as the bipolar father of two young girls.

It Is Time to Legalize and Accept Same-Sex Marriage

Researchers, the majority of the American public, and even advertisers are calling for acceptance of same-sex marriage—isn’t it time the Supreme Court and our legal system followed suit?

A 20-Second Experiment in Racial Stereotypes

A 20-second demonstration of where stereotypes come from. Knowledge is power.

A Surprising Influence on Your Emotions

By Guest Blogger on June 24, 2015 in Brainstorm
Recent research has found that group members actually become more similar in their expressions of anger and gratitude over time.

Want to Make More Friends? Get a Dog

New data confirms that walking your dog makes it more likely that you will know your neighborhood and form friendships in your community.

23 Mental Health Professionals Interviewed About Their Jobs

By Brad Waters on June 24, 2015 in Design Your Path
Going behind the scenes with 23 mental health professionals to gain insight into the pros and cons of the industry.

What I Would Like to Like, but Don't Like

By William Irwin Ph.D. on June 24, 2015 in Plato on Pop
There are lots of bands, books, shows, and movies that I unapologetically dislike. But then there are those I don’t like or dislike. I would like to like them, but I don’t. Is this category revealing of likes more honest and revealing?

Nice Guys Really Do Finish Last

A new study shows that being over-confident may not make you more desirable, but can still help you get the girl.

Creating a Home Alone, After Divorce

By Wendy Paris on June 23, 2015 in Splitopia
While it can seem sad and overwhelming to create a home alone after co-habitating with a spouse or partner, it’s also a chance to choose new décor, a new abode or even a new city that better supports and reflects you.

9 Ways to Handle Nosy People

Some questions are just too personal, but you’re worried that if you don’t answer them, you’ll seem rude. These 9 tips will give you a graceful way to duck the question and help you protect you from future, similar, assaults on your privacy. You'll also gain important insight into yourself and your sensitivities in the process.