Relationships Essential Reads

Sex, Power, and Risk

By Joye Swan Ph.D. on October 22, 2016 in Up Close and Personal
When it comes to power in sexual relationships, who really controls what goes on in the bedroom?

Are You Obsessing Over Your Ex?

If your ex recently broke up with you, you may have OCD-like symptoms. The good news: standard self-help techniques for OCD may be able to speed up your recovery from the breakup.

Do Facebook "Likes" Affect Psychological Well-Being?

By Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Close Encounters
New research shows that the way we're affected by Facebook likes may depend on our self-esteem, and our sense of purpose in life.

Cheating? But It Was Just a Webcam!

In the 21st century, as our lives have become increasingly more digital, the once-clear line between monogamy and infidelity has gotten rather blurry.
Mike Mozart, used under Creative Commons License

The Downside of Having Nothing to Hide

By David Berreby on October 19, 2016 in The Outsourced Mind
Soon, we'll all know a lot more about each other's motives, in real time. And it won't be pretty.


Committing to a relationship requires whatever it takes to establish a secure base and resolve any problems that threaten the security, safety, and well-being of the relationship.

How to Have a Good Divorce: Try Interest-Based Negotiation

By Wendy Paris on October 18, 2016 in Splitopia
Q&A: Austin-based collaborative lawyer Janice Green on the critical difference between interests and positions.

Reframing Temperament: “Difficult” vs. “Stressed”

By Stuart Shanker DPhil on October 18, 2016 in Self-Reg
Parents need to understand what their child’s limbic system is “telling” them. And when they’re able, children and teens need to do the same.

A Man’s ABCs of Miscarriage

Miscarriage is a real and painful loss for the father-to-be as well.

5 Ways Our Body Language Speaks Loud and Clear

We constantly send out signals through our nonverbal communication, often without realizing it. A new study shows how these can impact our success at work.

Why Your Mother-in-Law Doesn’t Like You

Feeling at odds with your in-laws? Find out the reasons behind their dislike and get some tips to ease this common conflict.

Are Political Differences Straining Your Relationships?

Do's and don'ts for dialogue lest political differences wreck your relationships.

How to Navigate a Toxic Relationship

By Ralph Ryback M.D. on October 17, 2016 in The Truisms of Wellness
Navigating toxic relationships is a process that requires help from supportive friends, family and professionals. These tips can help you chart your course and build better bonds.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Helping Older Adolescents Evaluate a Love Relationship

The great source of instruction about conducting caring relationships is experience; however, parental guidance can help sort that experience out.
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An Inauthentic Apology Can Be Maddening

Why is apologizing as difficult as a root canal for some people? This is how we may respond when we're protecting our image rather than sincerely apologizing.

How You Just Know When You've Met Your Match

When you meet someone for the first time, you may have a feeling that you can’t quite identify. New research shows which signals we respond to, and why.

The Secret Within Milton’s Secret

By Moses Ma on October 11, 2016 in The Tao of Innovation
The film "Milton's Secret" shows a refreshing solution to the extremely difficult problem of bullying: Mindfulness.

7 Essential Keys to a Successful Relationship

Through my work, I have had the satisfaction of seeing positive outcomes when two people work hard at relationship self-improvement.

Annoying Offspring? You're in Good Company.

By Yael Schonbrun Ph.D. on October 09, 2016 in Moderating
Irritating offspring? You're not alone. Re-thinking the parenting relationship can help you ease your frustrations and parent more effectively.

Big Data and Everyday Life

When it comes to figuring out your musical taste, Pandora is the champ. That's because Pandora is based on Big-Data - and Big-Data is the future in the behavioral sciences.

The Surprising Truth About Why People Use Tinder

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on October 05, 2016 in Love, Digitally
Using Tinder to find love outweighs the use of it for casual sex; people also use Tinder to boost their self-esteem.

Unrequited Love: Why We Cling

By Wendy Paris on October 04, 2016 in Splitopia
Intermittent reward keeps us attached, says psychotherapist and author Jeanne Safer. We need to credit our own feelings of dissatisfaction and let go of "relentless hope."

10 Tips for Friendly Political Discussions

Although some of us like to “root for the underdogs,” most of us still want to be on the winning team. How do you discuss politics with friends who pull for the "other" team?

7 Reasons You Might Stay Friends With Your Ex

You broke up with your partner. Does that mean your relationship should end?

Is He or She an Addict First? Or a Narcissist First?

By Peg Streep on October 03, 2016 in Tech Support
When someone you love is addicted, your first impulse may be to offer all the support and empathy you can. But is this always wise? Apparently not....
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Goals Are Not What You Think!

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on October 02, 2016 in In Control
Goals are always about the outcome or result of particular behaviours, not about the actions that bring those results into being.

You Think You Want Your Ex Back?

Your significant other just ended your relationship. A natural reaction to this experience is to do everything in your power to undo the damage. Should you try to get your ex back?
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Do You Feel Guilty or Ashamed?

This article helps us find a language to differentiate between how we feel when we make a mistake or fall short of our ideals from the paralyzing shame of being a mistake.

Masculinity Does Not Equal Toughness, Research Argues

The traditional view of the manly man is that he is tough, hard, and unfeeling. A new viewpoint suggests that manly men can also show they care, benefiting everyone.

How to Bounce Back From Unrequited Love

Why do we love people who do not love us back? What can we do about unreciprocated feelings? Research has the answers.