Relationships Essential Reads

Teens Tell Us How They Are Stopping Cyberbullying

By Sue Scheff on December 13, 2017 in Shame Nation
A new survey explains how students are coping with cyberbullying. Here are five techniques you can discuss with your tweens and teens.

Smartphone Attachment Can Mimic a Human Relationship

By Martin Graff Ph.D. on December 13, 2017 in Love, Digitally
Is there is a connection between anxious smartphone attachment and anthropomorphic beliefs? Anxious smartphone attachment is related to the urge to answer texts or emails.

How LinkedIn Profiles Reveal User Personality

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 12, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Business profiles are meant for professional networking, yet research indicates we leak our true personalities through sites meant to showcase our professional identity.

Easy Ways to Tell Whether You’re an Inadvertent Narcissist

There are several basic keys to understanding who’s a narcissist but what about if the narcissist is you? New research shows how to tell if without realizing you’re one yourself.
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Is It Last Call for the Gay Bar?

By Adam Gerace Ph.D. on December 12, 2017 in Knowing Me, Knowing You
Are gay nightclubs and bars still relevant to same-sex attracted people for forming sexual and romantic relationships?

How to Know If Someone Is Right for You

By Sheila Kohler on December 11, 2017 in Dreaming for Freud
I think of the scene in the series "The Crown" where Elizabeth, who is about to be crowned, tells Phillip that if he is man enough he will kneel down before her.

Two Ways to Spot When a Suitor Is Becoming a Stalker

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 10, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
When it comes to attention, there can be too much of a good thing. When focus becomes fixation, it is time to end a relationship that has crossed the line.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Receive Graciously

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on December 10, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Childhood experiences with our caregivers and feelings of guilt, embarrassment, fear, and disappointment can influence the ways in which we receive others' expressions of love.

The Many Mini Ways to Show You Care

It doesn't take a grand gesture to show someone that you care. With a "micro" act of kindness, according to new research, the payoff can be surprisingly high for both of you.

Love, Trust, and Sexual Infidelity

By Eyal Winter Ph.D. on December 09, 2017 in Feeling Smart
Can a medication based on oxytocin treat sexual infidelity?

How President Trump's Lies Are Different From Other People's

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on December 09, 2017 in Living Single
I thought Trump would be more self-serving in his lies than most other people. He was. But that wasn’t what stood out most about his ways of lying.

Loneliness Is a Killer. Why Don't We Talk About It?

By Loren A. Olson M.D. on December 08, 2017 in Finally Out
We don't talk about loneliness because of a stigma: It feels like a failure in one of life's fundamental domains. But it is essential for our health that we talk about it.

My Parents Cheated. Does That Mean I Will Cheat?

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on December 08, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Infidelity is of constant interest, especially during the holidays when intimacy reigns. New research sheds light on how our parents' behavior affects our relationship decisions.

Toxic Tagging: Be Careful What You Post About Your Friends

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 08, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Avoid posting too much information about your connections; not everyone is comfortable sharing personal information online.

5 Ways Group Therapy Empowers You in Relationships

Want more out of your relationships? Group therapy can help.

5 Things Psychopaths and Narcissists Do in Conversation

By Kaja Perina on December 07, 2017 in Brainstorm
He was betrayed by a wife who took everything. He's on retainer with the NSA. Whatever the disclosure, it comes before he even knows whether or not you are trustworthy.

When Does a Woman Prefer a Feminine to a Masculine Man?

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in Attraction, Evolved
Do women who are attracted to men prefer a macho, masculine appearance? Or is a gentler, more feminine face the ideal?

Three Things You Should Never Share on Facebook

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Facebook is the virtual water cooler. Oversharing, about yourself or others, can be dangerous because not everyone in your network is your friend.

Psychopathy and the Dark Side of Facebook Comments

It’s painful to be the target of a Facebook troll. New research shows that it’s the psychopathic who are more likely to engage in this dark side of social media.

Traveling, Fighting, Dancing: Illness and Recovery Metaphors

By Emily T. Troscianko on December 05, 2017 in A Hunger Artist
Metaphors shape our language and our thought. Paying attention to them in illness and in health can help us clarify our defaults and experiment with other possibilities.

Winning Love

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on December 05, 2017 in In the Name of Love
Attempting to change the beloved and surrendering to the beloved are common practices. Although each has some value, neither is effective in guiding our romantic path.

The Dark Side of Outing Men’s Sexual Misdeeds

The vast majority of men I deal with in therapy say, “If she doesn’t want it, it totally turns me off.”

5 Ways Intimate Partner Violence Research Informs #MeToo

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on December 03, 2017 in ExperiMentations
High-profile cases raise awareness of gender-based sexual violence. Research on perpetrators of domestic violence tells us what we may need to do to prevent future aggression.

How to Deal With Colleagues Who Deny Reality

By Dr. Gleb Tsipursky on December 02, 2017 in Intentional Insights
Our typical way of dealing with professional colleagues who deny reality is dead wrong. Learn a better method.

4 Little Words That Can Forever Change Your Relationship

New research on an age-old phenomenon suggests that it only takes 4 words to revitalize your relationship, as you remember how it all started.

Sex in America: 45 Years of Often Contradictory Changes

By Michael Castleman M.A. on December 01, 2017 in All About Sex
Teen sex has decreased, but casual adult sex is on the rise. Acceptance of premarital sex is up, but acceptance of affairs is down. What’s going on?

Freud's Enduring Legacy to Psychoanalysis

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on December 01, 2017 in Life After 50
Three of Freud's concepts still distinguish psychoanalytic treatment from cognitive varieties — regression, transference, and resistance.

How Dangerous Is a Broken Heart?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on November 30, 2017 in Media Spotlight
Are people dealing with a romantic breakup more prone to depression and suicide? New research examines the short-term dangers of relationship loss.

How Do I Ask My Grandma to Stop Being So Techy?

Using social media to connect across generations sounds like a good thing, but how do we respond when our good intentions cause embarrassment to our youth?

Male Sexual Misconduct and the Testosterone Curse

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on November 29, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
In assessing present-day perpetrators, it's important to consider testosterone—the "ethics-free" chemical of desire—as being the organic culprit of their objectification of women.