Relationships Essential Reads

What NOT to Do When You Discover Your Partner Is Cheating

Here are 5 ways to NOT react when you discover your partner is cheating on you.

The One Crucial Thing to Do When Your Partner Is Upset

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on February 22, 2017 in The Squeaky Wheel
How to stop an argument before it actually becomes one

Why Do People Lie?

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on February 20, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Everyone lies, some to save face, others to deceive for personal gain. This blog explores white lies, those untruths we say to preserve our value in the eyes of someone else.

Marriage as a Constraint

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on February 19, 2017 in Fighting Fear
Someone may explain a hesitancy to marry in terms of a particular partner. Often, however, there are are more general reasons.Some men and women see marriage as a constraint.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: No Stealing

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on February 19, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Taking over a loved one's time, attention, property, space or decisions without explicit permission from him or her is stealing. Boundary violations can threaten a relationship.

"People are a Minefield"

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 18, 2017 in How To Do Life
One in my series of short-short stories with psychological implications.

Controlling Your Partner Is Illegal, But Not in the U.S.

By Lisa Aronson Fontes Ph.D. on February 17, 2017 in Invisible Chains
Domestic violence victims in the U.S. have less protection than in some other countries. Laws in England now make controlling a partner illegal.

For Better or for Worse?

By David Ludden Ph.D. on February 17, 2017 in Talking Apes
It takes both partners working together to make marriage a heaven on earth—or a living hell.

8 Signs You're in a Relationship With a Gaslighter

By Preston Ni M.S.B.A. on February 15, 2017 in Communication Success
How gaslighters emotionally manipulate, traumatize, and exploit victims in personal and professional relationships.

Do Tattoos Make Us Appear More Attractive?

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on February 14, 2017 in Attraction, Evolved
Why do men get tattoos? New research suggests that getting 'inked' makes a man appear more healthy.

So You Think You Can Dance?

By Lydia Denworth on February 14, 2017 in Brain Waves
What makes a woman a good dancer? The hips don't lie.

7 Ways to Annoy the Boss (and Why You Should Avoid Them)

Striving for success in your career may mean nothing more than succeeding at work. Getting those good job ratings can be in reach if you steer clear of these pitfalls.

Military Training Changes Who We Find Attractive

By Robert Burriss Ph.D. on February 14, 2017 in Attraction, Evolved
Do you have a 'type'? Research shows that exposure to a tough environment, such as an army boot camp, can change your type -- altering the kinds of faces you are most attracted to.

When Your Teenager's "In Love"

By Steven Schlozman M.D. on February 13, 2017 in Grand Rounds
Why do you think we call first love a crush?

Love Week

By Frances Kuffel on February 13, 2017 in What Fat Women Want
Today, on the eve of St. Valentine of Terni’s martyrdom 1700 years ago – for trying to convert Emperor Claudius – is International Self Love Day.

Falling in Love Online: Romantic or Risky?

A recent story in the The New York Times told of an online love connection that lasted nine years before it was realized in the real world. Romantic? Yes. Risky? Maybe.
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How to Adult (When It's Time to Grow Up)

By John Kim, LMFT on February 13, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
We were not born with adulting skills.
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Is Self-Love Healthy or Narcissistic?

By Tara Well Ph.D. on February 10, 2017 in The Clarity
Can you love yourself without being a narcissist? Research shows you how.

How “Wanting to Be Liked" Gets You Rejected

5 ways to stop approval seeking and improve your relationships.

Small World, Isn’t It?

By Po Chi Wu Ph.D. on February 08, 2017 in Jacob's Staff
Do you believe that innovative design principles can affect behavior?
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In Praise of Healthy Revenge

By Jeanne Safer Ph.D. on February 08, 2017 in The Last Taboos
Getting even can be good for you.

6 Essential Traits of Healthy Intimate Relationships

Healthy relationships require effort -- and that's a large part of what makes them so rewarding.

The 3 Pathways to Empathy in Close Relationships

Most of us believe we're pretty good at reading the moods of our partners. New research shows how we can improve our pathways to empathy by separating truth from bias.

When You Shouldn’t Play Hard to Get

By Mairi Macleod Ph.D. on February 07, 2017 in Sexy Science
If you pretend you don't "need" anybody, you'll probably attract a commitment-phobe.

How Does Gratitude Enhance Trust?

By Todd B. Kashdan Ph.D. on February 07, 2017 in Curious?
New research on how a weekly gratitude intervention influences monetary decisions, physiological responses, and emotional experiences during a decision to trust a stranger.

The Platinum Rule

"Where are you from? Could this question make someone feel excluded? Following the Platinum Rule can make people feel included.

Grief Is Another Word for Love

By Sophie Sabbage on February 06, 2017 in The Cancer Whisperer
Are you waiting for grief to bring closure? That's not its job.

Tales from a Trailblazer

By Jan Albert on February 02, 2017 in Points of Observation
Director Maggie Greenwald looks back and forward, on the long road to equality in film.

Terror, Love, and Brainwashing

By The Book Brigade on February 02, 2017 in The Author Speaks
Cults and brainwashing are more common than you might think. The best defense is educating children about the dangers of manipulative people and the techniques they use.

Age of Consent: How Old Is Old Enough for Sex?

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 01, 2017 in All About Sex
In most states, the "age of consent," the age when adolescents can legally have sex, is 16. It used to be considerably younger.