Essential Reads

Seven Tips for Kissing Like You Mean It

How to make the most of making out.

For the Sake of the Children

Divorce isn’t failure; living in unhappiness is failure

Why You're Lucky to be Single and Seeking Love

Your longing for love is wisdom, not weakness

Body Confidence, the Most Potent Aphrodisiac of All!

Treat your body well and it will reward you throughout your life

Recent Posts on Relationships

4 Quick Conversation Tips to Connect with a Date or Lover

It is often hard to know how to talk to a potential romantic partner, date, or sexy stranger. What can you say to help build an emotional connection and get them to pick you? According to speed dating research, there are a few tips that can make even four minutes of conversation enough time to get someone to bond, connect, and click. Read on to find out how...

Want to be a Parent?

By Kimerer LaMothe Ph.D. on August 31, 2015 in What a Body Knows
Parents are not rational. Children are not choices. Neither parents nor children are individuals. Rather, parents and children emerge together, in relation to one another, expressions of life itself, as a potential matrix of mutually enabling loves.

Seven Tips for Kissing Like You Mean It

By Jennifer Haupt on August 31, 2015 in One True Thing
My husband of 25 years and I recently attended Kissing School, the brainchild of Seattle psychotherapist Cherie Byrd. Here's what we learned after seven hours of smoothing.

3 Long-Term Investments for Lasting Love

When the physical hunger starts to wane, what can you do to keep the fire of steady love stoked?

Your Opportunity to Move

Dr. Segar, who directs the Sport, Health and Activity Research and Policy Center at the University of Michigan, extols the virtues of our innate opportunity to move through space or water at our own will and in our own way. Taking this concept to its logical completion we begin to understand the vast importance of her thinking.

For the Sake of the Children

By Mel Schwartz L.C.S.W. on August 31, 2015 in A Shift of Mind
Many people in unhappy or conflicted marriages stay together for the purported sake of the children. This article examines this premise and explores what's really best for our children.

What Is Love?

By Paul Thagard Ph.D. on August 31, 2015 in Hot Thought
The best way to state the nature of love is to identify standard examples, typical features, and explanatory roles. Love is an emotion consisting of patterns of neural firing that represent a lover, a loved one, intense feelings, and caring behavior, all tied to chemical changes in the brain.

How to Have a Husband on the Side

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 31, 2015 in Living Single
What if you are married with kids, but you don't consider your spouse the most important person in your life? How can you arrange your life to honor the people you care about most, and also maintain the important place of both parents in the lives of the kids?

The Shocking Truth About Poaching

By Ryan Anderson on August 30, 2015 in The Mating Game
You can't always get what you want

Why You're Lucky to be Single and Seeking Love

By Ken Page L.C.S.W. on August 30, 2015 in Finding Love
If you’re single and you’re willing to treat your dating life as a journey of growth, then you’re very lucky. Why? Because the way we search for love usually determines the kind of love we find. By approaching your dating life with deeper awareness, you have the power to change your romantic future in powerful, positive ways.

How to Use Your Emotions to Build Relationships that Work

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on August 30, 2015 in The Freedom to Change
Using emotions to decide how to behave in any given situation is vital. Emotions are important pieces of data. They tell us something about our environment or situation that our conscious/rational minds might otherwise miss. Using attachment theory, you can learn to use emotions as data to make good choices regarding how and when to communicate in your relationships.

5 Problems With Long-Distance Relationships

Long-distance relationships at risk

5 Signs Your Spouse is a Bully

Many bullies are acquaintances from school or the workplace, or complete strangers who get off on bullying others, but bullying behavior can also occur in close relationships.

Why a New Partner Boosts Your Sex Life

The review reports a recent British survey which found women recorded an average of eight opposite sex sexual partners over their lifetime, while men reported 12. But the survey also found 22% of women and 14% of men reported having only one sexual partner in their lifetime.

The Crucial Factor in Making Real Change in Your Life

Disrupting just one unskillful behavior, for instance using silence to punish, or making critical, judgmental remarks, or being bossy by giving commands, can lead to a whole series of positive shifts.

10 Ways To Let Your Partner Know Your Care

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on August 29, 2015 in Emotional Fitness
Caring and closeness is what makes life worth living, and anyone can improve upon how they treat the people they love. Remember that showing you care is much more powerful than just saying it.

Entitled Teens: 3 Causes, 3 Solutions

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 29, 2015 in Fixing Families
Entitled teens feel they can do what they want and get away with it. Unfortunately to their own detriment often do. Three causes and their antidotes for reining in runaway teens

How to Move on From an Ex You Still Love

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on August 29, 2015 in Living Forward
Nothing can keep you from moving on to a better future than a lingering relationship wound. While time is ultimately the best of all healers there are some concrete steps you can take that will facilitate the healing process.

Curing Excuse-Making Syndrome

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 29, 2015 in How To Do Life
It feels good to externalize responsibility but that often leads to career and life failure.

Are You Angry or Hangry?

By Temma Ehrenfeld on August 28, 2015 in Open Gently
Don't have angry discussions on an empty stomach. And if your husband is angry at you, make sure he's fed.

What Most People Get Wrong About Generosity and Selfishness

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on August 28, 2015 in Ambigamy
People treat generosity as all good and selfishness as all bad. It's more complicated than that. Still, pretending it's that simple can be a great way to grab what we want.

Creating a Plan of Action

By Angie Hallier on August 28, 2015 in Life After Divorce
Once you have created a heartfelt and meaningful vision for what you want you new life to look lie, the next step is to create a plan of action. The plan needs to include guidelines, a paradigm, your values and your goals for the next 12 months.

25 Simple Trust Building Behaviors

Engagement. Innovation. Trust. Stop thinking about the outcomes you want. Focus, instead, on the simple, organic, and natural way to get all three. Explore what that looks like with these 25 behaviors.

Body Confidence, the Most Potent Aphrodisiac of All!

By Atalanta Beaumont on August 28, 2015 in Handy Hints for Humans
Body confidence, the most attractive aphrodisiac there is.

Women Initiate Divorce Much More Than Men, Here's Why

By Douglas LaBier Ph.D. on August 28, 2015 in The New Resilience
Women are much more likely than men to initiate divorce, according to survey of over 2000 heterosexual couples. The reasons point to unfulfilled desire for intimacy and emotional connection with their husbands during the course of marriage; while men report contentment with the way things are.

Intimate Relationship Dynamics

They worst thing your partner says goes into long-term memory; the worst thing you say does not. Natural selection favored recording injury we suffer more than injury we inflict.

The Psychology of Self-Deception

By Neel Burton M.D. on August 28, 2015 in Hide and Seek
A short, sharp look into some of the most important ego defenses.

Unvarnished

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 28, 2015 in How To Do Life
Straight talk on what works in the real world.

Meaningless Things We Say in the Aftermath of a Gun Slaying

By Stanton Peele on August 27, 2015 in Addiction in Society
What we must watch and listen to after every gun massacre. But does it do any good? And is it good for us?

Who Do You Find Attractive?

Take a look at your standards for a potential partner. Now look again: they might be less stable than you think.