Essential Reads

Why Do People Lie?

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on February 20, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Everyone lies, some to save face, others to deceive for personal gain. This blog explores white lies, those untruths we say to preserve our value in the eyes of someone else.

Marriage as a Constraint

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on February 19, 2017 in Fighting Fear
Someone may explain a hesitancy to marry in terms of a particular partner. Often, however, there are are more general reasons.Some men and women see marriage as a constraint.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: No Stealing

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on February 19, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Taking over a loved one's time, attention, property, space or decisions without explicit permission from him or her is stealing. Boundary violations can threaten a relationship.

"People are a Minefield"

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on February 18, 2017 in How To Do Life
One in my series of short-short stories with psychological implications.

More Posts on Relationships

Be Responsible For Your Relationships

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on February 21, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
We are 100 percent responsible for our relationships. We create them in our minds and hearts, and we have a hand in the twists and turns they take.

Are You Experiencing Low or Decreased Sexual Desire?

By Sarah Hunter Murray Ph.D. on February 21, 2017 in Myths of Desire
Five things that could be contributing to your low sexual desire. (Number 5: You were taught women shouldn't enjoy sex).

Beware Of Anger

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on February 21, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
In small and passing quantities, anger can be like medicine, but in large and lasting quantities it poisons the mind and relationships.

Why Do Only Famous People Have Biographies?

By Robyn Fivush Ph.D. on February 20, 2017 in The Stories of Our Lives
Family stories bind us together and define who we are as a family. Whether you are 7 or 70, it is never too early or too late to start sharing family stories.

Fake orgasms

By Sean M. Horan Ph.D. on February 20, 2017 in Adventures in Dating
Though often portrayed on the big screen, research reveals how and why this might happen.

What Happens if You Love a Flirt?

Does flirting have a place in on-going relationships or should it be limited to relationship initiation?

Personality Traits, Emotional Intelligence and Collaboration

There is a strong connection between certain personality traits, emotional intelligence and collaborative potential.

Wake Up To the Joy of You: Talking to Agapi Stassinopoulos

By Mark Matousek on February 19, 2017 in Ethical Wisdom
Arianna Huffington's younger sister is a powerhouse of inspiration and creativity.

Do This To Stop Lashing Out At Your Loving Partner

Make your relationship stronger by avoiding those urges to say hurtful things!!
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To Judge or To Non-Judge

By Margaret Moore on February 19, 2017 in Life Changes
Appreciate the value of judgment and non-judgment, which are opposite states, and when to use non-judgment.

Navigating the Swamp of Politics in a Relationship

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on February 19, 2017 in In It Together
Do You and Your Partner Disagree About Politics? Ways to Cope With the Challenges

Big Screen, Big Life

By Laurie Helgoe Ph.D. on February 18, 2017 in Introvert Power
Would your life win an Oscar? Watch movies, watch your life, enjoy both.
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When “I’m Sorry” Just Isn’t Enough

Since we are all (no exceptions) mistake-prone to varying degrees, it behooves us to become adept in the art of making effective repairs and corrections.

Time Together and Time Apart

Spending time with others helps to strengthen our identification as a couple and make us feel connected to the world. Just as important for a successful marriage is time together.

Mental Health and Sexual Orientation: What the Evidence Says

It’s no secret that being different can be a source of stress in our society. Individuals of minority sexual orientations may feel that stress most acutely.

Hungry? No You're Not! A Working Example of the I-M Approach

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on February 16, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Ever been told you are wrong when you know you are right, or felt like your point of view is not respected? This is happening now in the USA with potentially devastating results.

Dogs: Love, Rejection, Dominance, Training, and Breeding

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on February 16, 2017 in Animal Emotions
Dogs are in the news a lot and here's a summary of what's "hot." Dogs fall in love and suffer from rejection, dominance should not be used in training, and they're awfully smart.
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How Do We Learn to Appreciate Each Other's Differences?

By Lori Russell-Chapin Ph.D. on February 16, 2017 in Brain Waves
Appreciating rather than tolerating diversity makes life richer and more effective.

Rethinking Love

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on February 16, 2017 in Face It!
Is love an emotion?

7 Tips for Embracing Love While Keeping Oxytocin in Check

By Rita Watson MPH on February 16, 2017 in With Love and Gratitude
The way to finding love is by giving love.

Interpersonal Rules That Undermine Your Relationships #2

By Amy Banks on February 15, 2017 in Wired For Love
A longstanding myth in our culture is that only the fittest members of society flourish and procreate and that a person's survival and safety is dependent on individual strength.

Hungry? I'll Feed You! A Working Example of the I-M Approach

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on February 15, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Ever feed someone? This simple kindness can have a long-lasting effect. The four domains of the I-M Approach are explored when a little boy asks his mother for a snack.

Was That Text You Sent Really Heart-felt or a Manipulation?

By Gerry Heisler Ph.D. on February 15, 2017 in Relationship Boot Camp
Are you as genuine and honest communicating as you think?
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When Your Heart is Breaking

When you lose someone you love, it can feel like your heart is breaking. Attending to emotional suffering is as important as taking care of physical pain.

Evidence Mounts That Yoga Improves Sex

By Michael Castleman M.A. on February 15, 2017 in All About Sex
Adding to a growing research literature, a recent Korean study shows that yoga improves sex for women.

7 Secrets to a Successful Relationship

Lasting love is hard to come by - how do successful couples make their relationships work?

Ten Ways to Heal Your Attachment Issues

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on February 15, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
It’s never too late to have a close relationship with someone you love. If you had a connection before, you can have it again.

Feeling Friendless After Separation

By Irene S Levine Ph.D. on February 15, 2017 in The Friendship Doctor
Advice on dealing with separation from a long-time partner.

The Missing Piece for Many Parents: Time to Reflect

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on February 14, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Stress, exhaustion, and overwork may be edging out the time parents need to synthesize, abstract, and articulate the parenting lessons that they glean from their experiences.
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The Pursuit of Happiness

The biggest challenge in relationships -- with ourselves and others