Essential Reads

How to Know If Someone Is Right for You

By Sheila Kohler on December 11, 2017 in Dreaming for Freud
I think of the scene in the series "The Crown" where Elizabeth, who is about to be crowned, tells Phillip that if he is man enough he will kneel down before her.

Two Ways to Spot When a Suitor Is Becoming a Stalker

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 10, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
When it comes to attention, there can be too much of a good thing. When focus becomes fixation, it is time to end a relationship that has crossed the line.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Receive Graciously

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on December 10, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Childhood experiences with our caregivers and feelings of guilt, embarrassment, fear, and disappointment can influence ways in which we receive others' expressions of love.

The Many Mini Ways to Show You Care

It doesn't take a grand gesture to show someone that you care. With a "micro" act of kindness, according to new research, the payoff can be surprisingly high for both of you.

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Why It Is so Difficult to Change Someone's Point of View

By Stephen J Betchen D.S.W. on December 11, 2017 in Magnetic Partners
Why is it so hard to listen to another persepctive?

Freedom and Power Must Be Grown from Inside

Living with a commitment to a balanced life doesn’t mean that we never get off track or caught up in one thing or another.

If You’ve Been Sexually Harassed, What’s Next?

How do you move forward after you’ve been sexually harassed?

Why Going No Contact with Mom Doesn't Solve Everything

By Peg Streep on December 11, 2017 in Tech Support
Deciding to cut a parent out of your life is a huge decision which can bring with it some unwanted baggage rather than the expected freedom and relief.
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Why Do the People I Love Hurt My Feelings so Often?

Why do the people I love hurt my feelings so often? We often (mis)attribute our reactions to the intention of the other.
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What Sexual Harrassment Does to All of Us

By Elizabeth Young on December 10, 2017 in Adaptations
That’s a weird sentence, so I’m going to repeat it for emphasis.  I am privileged: I have never been threatened, assaulted, or raped. 

Why the Resentment?

Has your family gotten used to you doing the lions’ share of the work over the holidays? 3 suggestions for navigating your resentment.

Give Your Spouse the Gift of a Parenting Marriage This Year

By changing the focus of your relationship, you may actually be able to keep the family together as one unit in a happy healthy way.

How to Deal With Irrational Family Members Over the Holidays

By Dr. Gleb Tsipursky on December 10, 2017 in Intentional Insights
Want peaceful and productive engagements with irrational family members over the holidays in 5 steps? You can't skip this article!

Ten Tips for Preventing Infidelity

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on December 10, 2017 in Emotional Fitness
Preventing infidelity isn't something you have to worry about as long as you and your partner stay communicative about your desires, your dreams, and your devotion.

Should You Tell A Friend That You Don't Like Her Partner?

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on December 09, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
What to consider before telling your friend that you don't like her partner.

Why Not Alpha?

Does your dog bite, snarl or snap at you, despite your most devoted love and affection? Are you worried you may have an “alpha” dog?

Rethinking Authenticity

Being authentic does not mean standing alone; it means making worthy judgments about the people one chooses to stand with.

The Cure for an Imperfect Childhood

Some of us got off to a rough start in life, and for many of us, our childhood was missing the kinds of experiences that every child needs in order to thrive.

Why You Talk about Your Relationship with Friends

It's not what we say, it's why we say it.

A Game-Changer for Difficult Holiday Dinner Conversations

Dreading spending the holidays with relatives whose politics you can't stand? Doing this one thing is a game-changer.
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Romantic Love, Casual Sex, and Human Ecology

Do harsh environments foster short-term mating, and rich ones long-term commitment? Environmental effects on reproductive strategies are more complicated than one might think.

Are We Allowing Social Media to Dictate Our Happiness?

“A fixation with connecting with 'friends' online comes with the risk of disconnection with friends waiting for you to be present in the offline world.”

You Don't Have to Make Up for Not Being a Perfect Parent

Our fantasy of the perfect family holiday can drive us to do more, more, more – but more of what we didn't need to begin with can't fill those deep longings. There's a better way.

Men Want to Be Wanted Too

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on December 07, 2017 in Sex & Sociability
Magazine articles abound about wooing women, very few about wooing your men. Yet men need the same declarations of being admired and desired.

Self-Blame or Self-Inquiry?

While self-blame is something to avoid, a self-inquiry into what they might have done to contribute to an unfortunate circumstance might prove extremely helpful.
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It's Better Going With the Dogs

By Matthew J. Edlund M.D. on December 07, 2017 in The Power of Rest
The many advantages of humanity's best friend.

Five Reasons You Get Angry

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on December 07, 2017 in Fixing Families
Trouble managing your anger? Here are five common causes and their solutions.

How to Be a Secure Base of Attachment for the Holidays

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in The Freedom to Change
Does the thought of the family holiday gathering stress you out? Attachment theory can teach you to be a "secure base," lower everyone's anxiety, and enjoy your family and friends.

Couples Therapy: Does It Really Work?

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in In It Together
Are you wondering if couples counseling will work for you and your partner?

How Careful Should a Parent Be?

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on December 06, 2017 in Fighting Fear
A discussion of some of the issues surrounding the sexual abuse of young women.

Adoption and Sibling Relationships

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on December 06, 2017 in Cravings
What role does adoption play in the development of bonds between brothers and sisters? Researchers are looking for answers.

Apologizing as a Developmental Stage

By Roberta Satow Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in Life After 50
Why is it so hard to apologize?
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The Heartbreak of Relationships With Narcissists

By Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT on December 06, 2017 in Toxic Relationships
Partners of narcissists can feel as cursed as the tragic lovers Narcissus and Echo. Their myth reveals important lessons for heartbreaking relationships with narcissists.

Why Empathy Is the Golden Rule of Couples Communication

By Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. on December 06, 2017 in Evolution of the Self
It's only logical that to get your partner to hear you the way you want, you first need to emotionally connect with them. Yet that’s almost never what happens.