Essential Reads

8 Secret Body Language Cues That Can Control Your Behavior

How others can trigger your senses and emotions.

When Adults Struggle With Their Relationships

At holidays, the focus is on family - some siblings do not get along though

Why Are So Many Indian Arranged Marriages Successful?

The upsides of relinquishing choice, deciding quickly, & lower expectations

"Mail Order Brides" Still Exist

Is a "mail order marriage" doomed to be a bad match?

Recent Posts on Relationships

Why Ghosting Causes So Much Pain

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on November 27, 2015 Living Forward
Regardless of the ghoster’s intent, ghosting is a passive-aggressive dating tactic that can leave psychological bruises and scars.

How to Put Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes

By Paul Thagard Ph.D. on November 27, 2015 Hot Thought
You can empathize with people in three ways: recognizing their situations as analogous to your own, perceiving their pain or emotions using mirror neurons, or simulating their experiences using unconscious embodied rules.

8 Secret Body Language Cues That Can Control Your Behavior

Subtle body language in others can trigger emotional, cognitive, and behavioral reactions in us -- and we may be completely unaware of them.

Patients with Misophonia Require Help and Understanding

Sufferers cannot tolerate certain sounds, and avoidance leads to social isolation.

Choose Gratitude Your Own Way for Good

The holiday season can seem like both the best of times and the worst of times. Don't just cope effectively with holiday stress, take advantage of the season to achieve your best life by choosing gratitude today and everyday and doing it in your own way.

When Adults Struggle With Their Relationships

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on November 25, 2015 Buddy System
Are sibling relationships getting you down this time of year?

Women Don't Like How Condoms Feel Any More Than Men Do

By Paul Joannides Psy.D. on November 25, 2015 As You Like It
Necessary but....Women speak out about condom use.

Seven Simple Ways to Fight the Holiday Blues

By Jennifer Haupt on November 25, 2015 One True Thing
During this season of giving, it's often the small gifts and everyday gestures of kindness that matter most. Here are 7 low or no-cost ways to help you find your holiday spirit.

4 New and Helpful Insights on Gratitude

Gratitude is easy to apply and brings nice benefits. If you relate to gratitude practice then you'll want to see these 4 new findings. If you don't relate to gratitude, check out what you can prioritize instead.

Marriage, Living Together, or Staying Single

Now that you are in a stable relationship, what is the best way to move forward? Perhaps you should not marry, choose to live with your partner or get married.

A Quick and Easy Guide to Surviving the Holidays

No matter how functional your family is you are guaranteed to be disappointed by the holidays in some way, and also to disappoint. But you can get ahead of all this with my help; forewarned is forearmed. Here are some easy do's and dont's to help you navigate through the Helliday minefields and to even possibly have a good time.

Going Home for the Holidays — Tragedy or Comedy?

If a family’s drama can’t be handled or the dysfunction runs too deep or lies too close to the surface, keeping your distance may be the only choice. In other cases, do what you can to show how well you’ve turned out — because of, or in spite of, the family that raised you.

Marriage in Today’s World

What are the factors that make marriage more difficult today than it was in the past?

How to Save the World

Could the same nightmares we fear possibly also be the soul-stimuli that we need to grow in compassion and love?

Why Are So Many Indian Arranged Marriages Successful?

Relinquishing difficult aspects of choice, deciding quickly, and starting the relationship with lower expectations may have upsides for longer-term marital outcomes.

5 Resolutions for Enhancing Intimate Relationships

Finding true love is seldom easy, but maintaining it for the long-term can be challenging, too. Here are 5 resolutions that may up your odds in keeping the romance alive.

"Mail Order Brides" Still Exist

The mail order bride business as it now operates may be in the perverse position of attempting to match independent, nontraditional women with very traditional Western men, a situation which frequently leads to dissatisfaction for both parties.

20 Questions to Ask This Holiday Season

Our friends and family know what to expect when they come to our house for a meal: Jeffersonian conversations. Thomas Jefferson seated all his guests at one table for dinner, where he asked each guest a single question for all to hear…no side conversations or small-talk allowed. Sounds rigid, but these sorts of dinners are FUN over the holidays.

Beware the Charming Narcissist

Puzzled about a relationship that started well, captured your heart but now seems to be going nowhere? Maybe you are involved with a charming narcissist.

4 Steps to Prevent a Bad Divorce

By Wendy Paris on November 24, 2015 Splitopia
While we've all heard horror stories of expensive, nasty divorces, there are steps we can take to help ensure our own break-up does not follow that model.

6 Tips for Avoiding Family Drama

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Friendship 2.0
The holidays are upon us—and every year, family tensions can cause more indigestion than that lumpy gravy. Here are six concrete steps to take in preparation for holiday drama, to help you banish stress and increase your enjoyment of the day.

What’s the Best Way to React to an Insult?

Insults live at the bottom of the scale of socially appropriate behavior. Because our first tendency is to be polite, especially with people we don’t know very well, it’s not always clear whether to respond in kind or turn the other cheek. Here’s some guidance for how to handle these confusing situations.

Releasing the Barriers to Love: An Interview with Tara Brach

By Mark Matousek on November 24, 2015 Ethical Wisdom
What is the role of radical acceptance in intimate relationships? Why is spaciousness necessary for deep connection? Is it possible to be committed without attachment? How can we set our beloved free without losing trust?

What Do Others Give You?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Your Wise Brain
Say Thanks - it's a small moment with big ripples: a confirmation of a wonderful truth - that we are all joined in a web of innumerable acts of giving.

The Passions of Peter Muller: Math and Music

By Michael Friedman Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Brick by Brick
Peter Muller explains the importance of following our passions.

Cooking Up More Gratitude This Thanksgiving

By Jaime L. Kurtz Ph.D. on November 24, 2015 Happy Trails
Feeling grateful isn't always easy.

Could New Facebook Features Help You Get Over Your Ex?

Facebook may soon be helping you manage your relationship with your ex by allowing you to limit how much of them you see in your news feed without unfriending or blocking them. Research on coping with break-ups suggests that Facebook has the right idea about how to deal with your ex.

Loneliness: Perceived Social Isolation Is Public Enemy No. 1

For the first time, a new study has identified how "perceived social isolation" triggers fight-or-flight stress responses that can lead to illness and premature death.

I’m Getting Married, Should I Change My Name?

What to consider if you’re uncertain about marital name change. This choice can have many different meanings.