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5 Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

If you want your relationship to last, there are certain relationship styles you should attempt to avoid or at the very least keep to a minimum.

Learning from the First Lovers

By Kaja Perina on March 21, 2017 in Brainstorm
Bruce Feiler, author of The First Love Story, explores the biblical tale that continues to illuminate contemporary unions.

Who's Harder to Buy Gifts for, Men or Women? It Depends!

Who’s harder to buy gifts for, men or women? It depends on who’s doing the giving!
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Is Your Relationship Toxic?

You may not realize your relationship is harming you or be able to leave. Find out the symptoms, whether there's hope for change, and steps you can put into action.

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Healing the Most Important Relationship In Your Life

If you had a choice, what would you rather be feeling right now?

Hell Yes: The 7 Best Reasons for Masturbating

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 22, 2017 in Hide and Seek
The stigma surrounding masturbation has to stop.

The Scarfmaker

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 22, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story

How to Handle Someone in a Bad Mood

By Sheila Kohler on March 22, 2017 in Dreaming for Freud
Yesterday my husband, a doctor, came in the door,with a long face, carrying the groceries he had bought. I could see he was annoyed.

Relatedness and Autonomy, A Delicate Balance

"Successful mountain climbers know that they must spend at least as much time if not more, in tending their base camp as they actually do climbing mountains..." - M Scott Peck

To Alleviate Moving Stress, Ask Yourself 20 Questions

Despite the stress of change, you can alleviate moving anxiety by appreciating where you are living now and looking forward, with gratitude, to a new place to call home.

Relationships Are Like Surfing

“You can’t stop the waves from coming, but you can learn to surf.” -Swami Satchidinanda

Family Dysfunction: How Therapists Get the Whole Story

Therapists have several useful techniques for getting shameful, protective, or guilty patients to open up and tell the whole story regarding dysfunction in their families.

What I Learned From Taking Part In A Silent Dinner

By Tim Leberecht on March 21, 2017 in The Romance of Work
In a time when everyone's constantly talking and rudeness seems legitimate, silence is not only golden - it can be disruptive.

Radical Self-Honesty

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on March 20, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
We can see in our society how dishonesty poisons our world with cynicism and mistrust. This suffering calls for a deepening commitment to being real with ourselves and each other.

10 Ways to Find More Happiness

Happiness can be as confounding as Indiana Jones looking for lost treasure. Just when you think you have a clue, some giant boulder comes rolling toward you.

The Life Lessons of Children

Adults who can recognize children as teachers can learn some life skills that might improve their own life experience.

10 Ways to Help Your Daughter Get Over Her Boyfriend

A breakup is like drug withdrawal.

Predatory Polyamory?

My first blog on this topic told monogamous folks that they did not need to worry about poly people trying to steal their partners, but readers wrote in telling a different story.

How Relationships Work

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on March 19, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Want a straightforward, research-backed, practical overview of how relationships work? Here it is.
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Are We Doomed to Repeat Our Relationship Patterns?

Do the attachment styles we develop in childhood inevitably shape our adult relationships? And if so, can they be changed?

Small Changes Can Have Big Effects: The I-M Approach

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on March 18, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Have you ever promised yourself to do something only to fail miserably? Perhaps you are trying to do too much. The I-M Approach reminds us that small changes can have big effects.

Movies That Tell Us Life Is Livable, Even If It's Imperfect

By Stanton Peele on March 18, 2017 in Addiction in Society
Two new movies tell us that life is worth living, and love worth pursuing, even as it carries bitter disappointments.

Looking Through the Eyes of Another

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on March 17, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
What would it be like, in this moment, to look through another’s eyes? To widen the circles of compassion and be part of the healing of our world?
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7 Common Mixed Signals in Dating and Relationships

By John Kim, LMFT on March 17, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
Don't let mixed signals get in the way of your relationship.

Readers' Views About Porn and Relationships

In 2012, I began asking Psychology Today readers about how pornography is influencing their relationships. You might be surprised by what they shared.

Looking for Love?

By Susan McQuillan M.S., RDN on March 16, 2017 in Cravings
Where do people look for love and friendship? And where do they actually find it?

Not Just Walking the Dog

A new study help us see what dog walking reveals about human-animal relationships and negotiations of power.

Too Many Questions!

How do you handle a friend who asks too many questions…to the extent that you feel like you’re being interrogated?

Tears of Pain and Tears of Joy

Crying can be a powerful expression of pain or joy; however it can also be used as a manipulative device. Genuine crying is a window into a person's emotional condition.

Negotiate, Don’t Compromise

Couples will inevitably run into situations where a decision needs to be made. Learning to negotiate a solution will lead to the best result.

Has Love Disappointed You?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on March 15, 2017 in Rediscovering Love
Learn how to understand about who you have been, who you are now, what you have to offer, and what you need in return.
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Growing Old

By Paul Ekman Ph.D. on March 15, 2017 in Face It!
Genetics, sensible living, and luck have helped an accomplished scientist accomplish much of what he wanted in 83 years.