Essential Reads

How to Deal With Unrequited Love

Why do we love people who do not love us back? What can we do about unreciprocated feelings? Research has the answers.

6 Strategies for Dealing With Adult Sibling Rivalry

It only takes one person to change the functioning of an entire family system – as you shift your own behaviors, others will have to shift in response.

Psychology's Crisis Isn't New

By Jonathan Wai Ph.D. on September 30, 2016 in Finding the Next Einstein
What is new is the public attention and change that’s generating. In addition to the replication crisis, here are some other problems with the field that need addressing.

When Is It Good to Forgive?

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on September 29, 2016 in Between You and Me
What should you do when your partner upsets you? Recent research suggests that whether you are better off forgiving or getting angry depends on your partner’s personality.

More Posts on Relationships

What is Lasting Love?

Can we learn to appreciate our romantic partner without the sparks and fireworks? Clearly, some people manage to. What is their secret?

The Pill's Role in The Pain of the Pain-Pleasure Principle

By Mark Borigini M.D. on September 30, 2016 in Overcoming Pain
What is consistent is that many women suffer, in many ways, when they assume the burden of contraception in a relationship.

What’s Really Behind the Curtain?

So, what happens when our social assumptions and expectations are misplaced? More to the point, what happens when we figure that out? We discover things aren't quite as they seem.

Some "Do's" and "Don'ts" for Loved Ones

By Fran Simone Ph.D. on September 30, 2016 in A Family Affair
Are you trying to figure out how best to handle a loved one's addiction? Consider some do's and don'ts.

How to Stop Insecurity From Damaging Your Relationships

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on September 30, 2016 in Living Forward
Chronic insecurity is toxic to your relationships. Learn 4 ways to stop the sinking feeling of insecurity and regain your sense of well-being.

Can a Relationship Survive After Betrayal?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on September 30, 2016 in Rediscovering Love
Even when a relationship seems healthy and unassailable, they can fall prey to a betrayal that cannot be easily predicted or explained.

Tinder and Lasting Love?

What is Tinder? What can it lead to? Why are people on it? I decided to dive deeper and find the answers to those questions.

The True Nature of Jealousy

We often appear to experience jealousy long after knowing that we have lost a romantic or sexual partner to another person.

Is It True That "No Good Deed Goes Unpunished?"

By Temma Ehrenfeld on September 29, 2016 in Open Gently
People may withdraw or punish you after you try to help them.
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Beyoncé and Jay-Z: A Balancing Act?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on September 29, 2016 in Shrink Wrap
Compromise or sacrifice?

Respect Differences: Learn From the Boy Who Lived With Seals

By clinging to what divides us from others, we only hurt ourselves.

Five Proven Truths About Finding Happiness

There is no magic pill that can make us happy forever, but when we better understand the nature of happiness we can become more skillful at staying happy.

Coffee: Warding Off Dementia and Identifying Psychopaths

By Rita Watson MPH on September 28, 2016 in With Love and Gratitude
Coffee may ward off dementia and coffee preferences can help identify antisocial behavior.

Fight or Grow

Moments of hurt or anger with your partner can become opportunities to heal, grow, and develop intimacy.

No, You Cannot Get Attached to Porn

By David J Ley Ph.D. on September 28, 2016 in Women Who Stray
Blaming porn-related personal and relationship problems on addiction disturbance is the worst form of pseudoscience - it's also potentially iatrogenic.

Intimate-Partner Violence—What a Difference a Day Makes

The frequency of occurrences can depend on the day of the week or year.

I Just Can’t Get Over Him!

When a man walks away from a marriage, particularly when the wife didn’t see it coming, it is often a profound emotional injury, which leaves her feeling abandoned.

New Love Euphoria Mimics Effects of Crack Cocaine

There are at least 10 compelling reasons to use a model of addiction to crack cocaine to describe the new love's euphoria.

Oxytocin, Spirituality, and the Biology of Feeling Connected

By Christopher Bergland on September 28, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
A groundbreaking new study from Duke University has identified a link between oxytocin and feelings of spiritual connectedness.

Will a Guy Like This Be Good in Bed?

By Donna Barstow on September 28, 2016 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Signs to look for, or look out for, when you're thinking about having sex with someone. Will he be able to get the job done?

Marriage's Purpose

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 28, 2016 in How To Do Life
Is she right that marriage's core purpose is to nurture each other?

10 Reasons New Love Is Like Crack Cocaine

Off-putting though it may be to some, here are ten reasons why I am sticking with “cocaine rush phase” as the best way to capture the first phase of new relationships.

Therapists Need to Help Adults Deal With Their Siblings

By Geoffrey Greif Ph.D. on September 27, 2016 in Buddy System
Do therapists know the importance of discussing sibling relationships with clients? Here are five things they should consider.

In Practical Praise of Romance

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 26, 2016 in Ambigamy
Care a lot about being considerate? It can make you defensive when you fear that you've disappointed someone. Part of the solution is romantic reassurances.

A Life in Balance: A Grownups' 4 H Club

By Isadora Alman MFT, CST on September 26, 2016 in Sex & Sociability
One problem area of your life can disturb all others areas sending everything seriously out of balance. Take an appraising look at these 4 H's. Is your milking stool stable?

How to Keep Calm, Carry On, and Still Get Your Way

By Seth Slater M.F.A. on September 26, 2016 in The Dolphin Divide
Diffusing negative energy before it goes rodeo. How behavioral psychology can help you get what you want even when tempers begin to flare.

To Empathize, Don't Trust Your Gut

By Temma Ehrenfeld on September 26, 2016 in Open Gently
Thinking—rather than guessing—is a better path to accurate empathy.

Divorce: American Style

The single-most reason marriages fall apart.

Mixed Signals on Social Life, Relationships, and Loneliness

We get nearly as much conflicting advice about our social lives and happiness these days as we do about nutrition, diet, and exercise. Do experts really know what makes you happy?
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What Is Healthy Narcissism?

What is Healthy Narcissism? The joy of self-love can be powerful and sustaining.