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Online Dating Photo Fraud: The Person Behind the Profile

Online daters with attractive photos are both distrusted and desired.

Hassles Are Part of Being Human, Even for Our Ancestors

Being human, with all its messiness, is worth the hassle

18 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on May 24, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
The more love, the better. But love can often blind you to differences that need to be worked out before the wedding. Here are some unexpected things to think about.

Toxic Friend or Just the Product of a Toxic Environment?

Sometimes non-toxic friends display toxic relationship behaviors.

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One View of Relationships That Needs a Proper Burial

The belief that no one can make us feel anything is an unrealistic belief that can increase isolation and suffering. Personal growth means engaging with how we affect each other.

How to Get the Family You Deserve

Creating the family you deserve and want.

Short on Sleep? Conflict Could be Bad for Your Health

Fighting after a bad night of sleep can hurt your physical health. But how you deal with your emotions during the fight can make a difference.

5 Tips for Dealing when Partner Act Like a 2-Year-Old?

If your partner is stuck in a 2-year-old's relational patterns, you may need to patiently model and encourage behavior change.

Marriage Can Heal Old Wounds From the Family

Sometimes, the greatest lessons that we learn in our family of origin have more to do with what we don’t want than what we do.

How To Have a Great Relationship With Yourself, Starting Now

Self-care is where it's at, but it doesn't mean being selfish or overindulgent. Learn to have a great relationship with yourself. It's a long-term project, and you won't regret it.

Recycling in Breakup Grief

Just when we think we're over it, the old feelings come bubbling up. It's part of the process. Learn what to do when it happens.

“I Don’t Have the Bandwidth for That”

Have computers changed the way you see yourself? Why losing touch with nature can be hazardous to your health.
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5 Essential Tips for Getting Along with Your In-Laws

Relationships with in-laws can be a blessing or a curse. Tips on how to make it more the blessing.

The Number One Reason Relationships Fail

By Darcy Sterling Ph.D. on May 24, 2017 in Ask Dr. Darcy
There is one indicator that can predict, with amazing accuracy, the ending of your relationship story. It has to with how you fight.

Digital Silence, and Its Impact on Relationships

Why do we get so upset when we don't get a quick response to our text or email?
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How to Deal with Difficult People in Your Life

When it comes to dealing with difficult people, you have to be the one to set boundaries, express yourself, and continue to speak up about what’s okay and not okay for you.

The Rules of Disengagement

Even though No Contact is hard after a breakup, it's a necessary step to healing.

What Does Prayer Do? What Does Love Do?

The two aspects of human consciousness that must be experienced and their psychological significance personally understood if one is to become psychically whole.

How Does A Narcissist Think?

Here is how narcissistic behavior is dangerous and harmful to others.

The Best Preparation for Marriage

Great relationships aren’t discovered; they are created.

Why Do You Find Someone Attractive?

Researchers have spent years studying the attraction process. Want to learn some of what they know? I summarize some findings here.

Forget Co-Parenting With A Narcissist, Round 2

Establishing peace of mind and parenting rules, despite a toxic ex is possible. Here are five additional tips.

To Find The Right Person, Be The Right Person

To find the right person, you need to BE the right person. Healthy people are attracted to those who lead exciting, interesting lives. Cultivate that life and become that person.

When Is the Best Time to Have Sex?

Misinformation about sex is just about as pernicious as no information about sex. Both are worse than having lots of information about sex.

Narrative Expressive Journaling Could Help Your Vagus Nerve

A new study found that "narrative expressive journaling" (in which you create a storyline with self-distancing) reduces stress better than extremely emotional "expressive writing."

When You're Not Sure Therapy and Self-Help Is Working

Sometimes we are not sure the hard work on ourselves is paying off. It's important to trust the process.

“Do You Take This…”

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 20, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story about the decision to marry.

The Choices We Make Create History, So Choose Wisely

One of the infinite number of choices we make is how we deal with conflicts and disputes.

Will You Be Less Depressed If You Get Married? Two Studies

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 19, 2017 in Living Single
When single people marry, do they get less depressed? Are married people less depressed than people who are cohabiting or dating or single with no romantic partner?

Negotiating with Your Teenager

Your child is not your enemy. You have to be willing to negotiate and prepare your own thoughts and reasons for why you say what you do and to share those reasons with your child.

Ethics and Trust at Work

Avoiding wrongdoing isn't the same as doing what's right when it comes to building trust at work. Neither is quiet compliance.

Reclaiming Human Dignity

Have you experienced religiously-based abuse or violence? This post explores the ideological basis for Judeo-Christian patterns of aggression.

Do You Trust Your Partner?

Trust is one of the keystones of any relationship—without it two people cannot be comfortable with each other and the relationship lacks stability.