Essential Reads

Why You Shouldn't Fear Going Solo

You may miss a lot if you refuse to venture out without company.

Gossip in Your Workplace Probably Does More Good Than Harm

Gossip is a social skill, NOT a character flaw; it is essential to work life.

Are Women Better Managers Than Men?

In the study, female managers outperform male on employee engagement scores.

Why We Get Such Dumb Advice About Love, Money and Health

How to recognize the smart advice and snub the dregs

Recent Posts on Personality

Beyond the Divided Self: Why Mental Conflict Is Normal

Although inner conflict has traditionally been pathologized, the diametric model shows it to be normal.

10 Signs Your Boss / Manager is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration." At the workplace, a pathologically narcissistic manager can be insensitive and conceited at best, and exploitative or abusive at worst. Here are ten signs that your boss might be a narcissist...

Tattoos and Identity

A website urges you to tattoo a song lyric on "your skin and soul." What's going on?

Tame Your Sabotaging Self-Talk, Part 1

You may have heard the expression “monkey mind,” which refers to the way that our minds are all over the place. To learn more about how to be present with the inner chaos, I turned to Arnie Kozak, Ph.D., mindfulness expert and author of The Awakened Introvert.

Announcement: A Crash Course on Gender Differences

By Eyal Winter on May 01, 2015 in Feeling Smart
Is she so different than him?

Mother's Day for Those Raised by Narcissistic Parents

Mother’s Day is approaching. Is it time to run and hide or stumble into a Hallmark store to desperately search for that empty card that says nothing upon which you simply sign your name? How sad, awful, taboo, and misunderstood this is for adult children raised by narcissistic parents. Who woulda thunk it?

4 Character Strengths Sustain U2’s Success

How does U2 reflect a connection culture? One reason is the band's many character strengths that they express and appreciate in one another, such as love, humility, and appreciation of beauty and excellence.

New Film Features a Borderline Woman Who Starts a TV Show

By Randi Kreger on April 29, 2015 in Stop Walking on Eggshells
When Alice wins the Mega-Millions lottery in the new film "Welcome to Me," she quits her psychiatric meds and buys her own talk show hoping to be the next Oprah.

You Are What You Speak

By David Ludden Ph.D. on April 29, 2015 in Talking Apes
When bilinguals switch from one language to another, they shift their personalities as well.

Inner Selves: Calming the Demons

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on April 29, 2015 in Fixing Families
We all have inner voices that criticize or make us anxious or simply make us feel bad, but can control our lives. Some tips for pushing back.

All The Rage

By Mark D. Griffiths Ph.D. on April 28, 2015 in In Excess
Beserkers is a culture-bound condition historically affecting Norsemen. The condition manifested itself among males only as an intense fury and rage (berserkergang, i.e., “going beserk”) and mostly occurred in battle situations. But what more do we know about it from a psychological perspective?

Why You Shouldn't Fear Going Solo

By Sophia Dembling on April 27, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
Some people fear they'll be judged and pitied if they do things alone, but it's also possible people will be impressed.

Bruce Jenner, You Are Not Alone

If you've ever felt like a human being imprisoned in the body of a human doing, say "Aye"

Fifty Shades of Tattooing: Body Art, Risk and Personality

Women readers of the Fifty Shades trilogy have higher rates of risky behavior So do women who get tattoos. Both of these may be outward signs of a predisposition to take risk rather than a cause of such behavior.

The Personality Transplant

By Erica Sonnenburg Ph.D. on April 26, 2015 in The Good Gut
There is an information super highway that connects our brain and our gut called the brain-gut axis. Recent evidence indicates that our gut microbes are tapping into this axis and influencing our brain and behavior.

Real Psychiatry and Darwinian Evolution are One and the Same

The basic principle for the development of human personality is at one with Darwinian evolution. Psychotherapy is the treatment that addresses the human issues in precisely the way they were constructed in the first place.

What Would Optimus Prime Do?

Leaders of the Autobots and Decepticons are used to illustrate how schemas about leadership concepts are influenced by popular media. Understanding these schemas can help educate people about leadership and followership. Knowing the answer to "What would Optimus Prime Do?" could help leaders be more selfless and effective.

Do You Have the Personality of a Neanderthal?

By Gregg Murray Ph.D. on April 26, 2015 in Caveman Politics
Almost all of us have some Neanderthal in us. What can that tell us about how these ancient cousins of ours thought?

10 Signs Your Co-Worker / Colleague is a Narcissist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance. At the workplace, a pathologically narcissistic co-worker can be annoying and frustrating at best, and a serious threat to your career at worst. Here are ten signs that your colleague might be a narcissist...

Gossip in Your Workplace Probably Does More Good Than Harm

By Frank T McAndrew Ph.D. on April 25, 2015 in Out of the Ooze
Campaigns to stamp out workplace gossip overlook the fact that gossip is part of who we are and an essential part of what makes work groups function as well as they do. It is more productive to think of gossip as a social skill rather than as a character flaw, because it is only when we do not do it well that we get into trouble.

What Does Your Email In-Box Say About You?

Email in-boxes are ubiquitous. How do we manage the email we receive? For most, it comes down to some more personality-related behaviors—a combination of organization, procrastination, perfectionism, fear of loss, and the ability to let go. What about you?

5 Things You Didn't Know About Anger

By Ryan Martin Ph.D. on April 24, 2015 in All the Rage
Anger is everywhere. It influences our behavior in ways we can’t possible imagine. Here are five examples.

The Bear Hug and the Boogie Man

By Kirby Farrell Ph.D. on April 23, 2015 in A Swim in Denial
Every day world leaders shake hands or threaten somebody. The news can rattle you even though the diplomatic howdy-do is as artificial as a puppet show. Formality in business, sports, and even marriages tries to prevent tantrums and meltdowns. Once in awhile you may spot body language that could reveal something about inner life.

Are Women Better Managers Than Men?

By Victor Lipman on April 23, 2015 in Mind of the Manager
A new Gallup study says so.

How Not to Be Boring: Advice for Teen Introverts

By Sophia Dembling on April 22, 2015 in The Introvert's Corner
Teens crave and seem to admire risk taking. What can introverted teens do to scratch that itch?

If Only ...Then I'd Be Happy

Whether a positive event will make us happy depends more on our natural inclinations to be negative or positive than the perceived good outcomes of the event.

What’s Your Pressure Style?

How do you perform under pressure? Your pressure style might be holding you back or downgrading your results.

Making a Change? Remember the Key Ingredient!

When I listen to people speak about changes they are making, they often speak as if they have no control. They say things like “I’ll have to wait and see what happens” or “I just hope things go back to the way they were.” These statements indicate a passivity—a sense of inaction. They forget they have core internal qualities that give them some control.

Which Parent Do You Love More?

Parents are told not to favor one child in the family, but there are no rules that govern how children ought to feel about parents. One theory of family relationships can help provide perspective on this surprisingly under-researched area.