Essential Reads

Love in the Time of Perfectionism

By Grant Hilary Brenner M.D. on February 12, 2018 in ExperiMentations
New research examines our attitudes and decisions regarding three different kinds of perfectionism and romantic relationships.

Is the Perfectionism Plague Taking a Psychological Toll?

By Christopher Bergland on January 03, 2018 in The Athlete's Way
Every generation of young adults from 1989 to 2016 has felt increased pressure to be perfect, according to a new study.

The Biggest Red Flag That Your Partner Is Not "The One"

By Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D. on December 16, 2017 in Why Bad Looks Good
Infatuation Alert: You have feelings of anticipation and excitement whenever you think about your new love interest. But is your emotional intoxication healthy or harmful?

The Monistic Mistake About the Meaning of Life

Some people wrongly hold that in order to have a meaningful life, they must commit to one source of meaningfulness throughout their whole life.

More Posts on Perfectionism

The Unsettling Truth About What’s Hurting Today’s Students

A new study affirms that the pressure to be perfect is doing a number on today’s students. Here's what we can do about it.

How to Let Go of the Need to Be Perfect

One of the biggest pushes towards perfectionism is the need to always “get it right.” We strive for perfection and success, and when we fall short, we feel worthless.

Five Ways to Overcome Fear of Failure and Perfectionism

By Christopher Bergland on January 05, 2018 in The Athlete's Way
An expert on coping with anxiety recommends five practical ways to overcome fear of failure and paralyzing perfectionism.

Anti-Perfectionism Anthems Can Silence Your Inner Critic

By Christopher Bergland on January 04, 2018 in The Athlete's Way
Is perfectionism taking a psychological toll on your mental health? Listening to songs that unapologetically embrace imperfections helped me to challenge my own perfectionism.

The A to (Almost) Z of How Flow Helped Sue Grafton Find Fame

By Susan K Perry Ph.D. on January 01, 2018 in Creating in Flow
It's no mystery that Sue Grafton loved to write. The joy of being in flow is one reason why, as she explained in this interview.

Five New Year Resolutions to Improve your Mental Health

By Rob Whitley, Ph.D. on January 01, 2018 in Talking About Men
Evidence suggests that certain self-initiated activities can be very beneficial for mental health. A new year resolution based on one of these activities may be a life-changer.

Self-Blame: How do you respond when things go wrong?

Why do you attribute self-blame to the occurrence of negative events? Doing so can come with benefits but also risks. Be careful!

If You Skip the Party, What Will You Miss?

By Donna Barstow on December 31, 2017 in Ink Blots Cartoons
Tips on how to prepare to be a party success, and leave with someone's number.

Stop Making Resolutions that Leave You Disappointed

Tired of beating yourself up for falling short of your goals? In 2108, make a resolution to be firm but loving parent to yourself.

Seven Simple Tips for Coping With Holiday Stress

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on December 18, 2017 in In It Together
Are you feeling holiday burnout? Here are some ways to lighten the load.

Scrooge: The Quintessential Controlling Perfectionist

By Alan A. Cavaiola Ph.D. on December 18, 2017 in Beyond Bullying
Could Ebenezer Scrooge have been diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder?
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Looking for the Perfect Gift for Your BFF? Help Is Here

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on December 16, 2017 in Off the Couch
Is trying to find the perfect gift for your best friend overwhelming you? These tips can simplify the task.

Holiday Stress

By Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D. on December 13, 2017 in Feeling Our Way
A major source of stress in life comes from finding yourself in a role you can’t pull off.

You Don't Have to Make Up for Not Being a Perfect Parent

Our fantasy of the perfect family holiday can drive us to do more, more, more – but more of what we didn't need to begin with can't fill those deep longings. There's a better way.

Ten Varieties of Gratitude

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on November 23, 2017 in Ambigamy
Gratitude isn't just one thing. In addition to listing all the things you're grateful for today, list the varieties of gratitude.

The Perfectionist Mistake About the Meaning of Life, Part 2

Would rejecting perfectionism about the meaning of life push us to mediocrity and meaninglessness?

10 Reasons Why Today's Teenagers Are So Anxious

We're robbing American teenagers of the mental strength they need to stay healthy.

Giving Up "The Gift"

By Jennifer Hamady on October 25, 2017 in Finding Your Voice
To maximize your talents and abilities, focus less on how special they are, and more on your enjoyment of developing them, and yourself.

Go With the Flaw

By Marcia Reynolds Psy.D. on October 21, 2017 in Wander Woman
The moment you realize you made a mistake and feel stupid, whipped, or embarrassed, you can be powerful. Learn how to master your mind before you beat yourself up.

What Resilient Lawyers Do Differently

By Paula Davis-Laack J.D., M.A.P.P. on September 30, 2017 in Pressure Proof
In order to be an impactful lawyer and an effective leader in this era of continuous change, resilience must be part of your toolkit.

Asian Shame & Perfectionism

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on September 23, 2017 in Minority Report
Asian shame can impact perfectionism. Whether it's the drive to succeed academically, vocationally, or relationally...the deeper fear with Asian perfectionism is being rejected...
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Common Career Traps of High Performers

By Sara Canaday on September 19, 2017 in You (According to Them)
If you are a top performer (or a leader who manages one), it’s important to know the common career traps that may be draining confidence and diminishing a sense of achievement.

Orienting the Incoming Class: How I Introduce Myself

By Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D. on September 11, 2017 in Feeling Our Way
Orient trainees by displaying clinical values.

The Root of All Hypocrisy

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on September 08, 2017 in Ambigamy
In a pinch, we pull out bogus one-size-fits-all moral rules that we can't, won't, and shouldn't try to live by.

The Perfectionist Mistake about the Meaning of Life: Part 1

Some see life as meaningless because their obsession to achieve only the excellent blinds them to the great value of the good

The Problem with Assuming Others Are Perfect

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on August 07, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
Assuming others live perfect lives is problematic.

Are You A Parenting "Know It All"?

"Parenthood is a contagious disease," Jeff Terry observes. "It's like smoking. Even though we can witness, firsthand, the devastation caused by parenting, it spreads.”

A Few Words to Young Adults with Disabilities, and Without

We all mess up. Its easy to be hard on yourself when you have a disability, or even when you don't.

Why Is Everyone so Crazy about Narcissism?

For better and worse, it is a powerful—and alluring—personality trait.