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The Real Reason Religion Is Declining In America

Why the U.S. will eventually resemble Europe

How to Foster More Adaptive Thinking

Are your cognitions working for you or against you?

The Perfect Graduation Gift: A Coat for All Seasons!

Give your son or daughter life's ultimate edge!

Room Rights in Adolescence

When disagreeing about room-care, respect the importance of the teenage room

Recent Posts on Parenting

Moneygrams: Recalled Childhood Memories About Money

A surprising number of people are "money troubled." Because money is a taboo topic, people often get surprised by the money beliefs and habits of their partners who they have known for a long time. But where do these money attitudes and habits come from? Do we have moneygrams from our childhood?

Kids and TV

By Jamie Krenn Ph.D. on May 27, 2015 in Screen Time
Why do you think people tend to be so fearful about the effects on TV?

How to Talk to a Single Person

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 27, 2015 in Living Single
Some people seem to have a hard time conversing with single people. All they can think of to ask is whether the single person is seeing someone. Even worse, researchers can be just as flummoxed. A survey claiming to be "the most comprehensive" about single life asked only about 1 question of 128 that was not about becoming unsingle. Here's how to talk to a single person.

10 Secrets Every Parent Needs to Know About Saying No

How can I say "no" if I don't resort to threats? This is, of course, the million dollar question. All parents wish their children would just comply when we ask them to do something. Luckily, it is indeed possible to help children want to cooperate, without resorting to yelling, threats or harshness. Read on to learn how.

New Trends Show “Real Progress” for Concussion Care

By Harry Kerasidis M.D. on May 27, 2015 in Brain Trauma
Concussion safety isn't moving fast enough on most sports levels, so leagues, states -- even countries -- are stepping in to step up concussion education, baseline testing, and related recovery protocols. It's a new era of governing concussion safety.

The Real Reason Religion Is Declining In America

Why Millennials are the least religious generation in American history

Invading Privacy in the Name of Safety

Whether or not we allow parents and governments to invade our privacy depends on how the question is framed - is it a safety or moral concern or is simply an issue that concerns only ourselves.

How to Foster More Adaptive Thinking

By Gregg Henriques on May 27, 2015 in Theory of Knowledge
A review of how to employ the cognitive approach to maintain an adaptive mindset during stressful conditions.

Come Here-Go Away; the Dynamics of Fearful Attachment

Adults “fearful” attachment styles feel lonely and want closeness in relationships; at the same time, they are avoid close relationships because of possible rejection or emotional injury. Learn how understanding this style can free you of the tyranny of your emotions so that you can live with intent. You can also learn to love and help your loved ones with this style.

High Stakes Testing in America

“Thank God it’s over.” That’s what my high school educator friend in Florida says. The fattening-the-pig-by-weighing-it, over-the-top testing, happened almost every day from March to mid-May and impacted every student in his school. Everyone’s overwrought with this mess, most likely including the guy who started it, Jeb Bush.

Mom Humiliates Daughter via Facebook: Discipline or Abuse?

Have you ever seen what emotional abuse looks like? Here's a live example from a story that broke just this past week. What would you do if you saw someone doing this to a teenager?

The Perfect Graduation Gift: A Coat for All Seasons!

What is the one gift that can help your kids to succeed? The best part about it --- it's free!

Why Do You Have to Tell Them Five Times?

It's a good question: Why don't kids just do what we say the first time we say it?! And there's a good answer. Several, in fact. The good news is that following the practices in this article consistently not only raises a self-disciplined child, it raises a child who knows you'll follow through, so he doesn't need to be asked five times to do something.

Room Rights in Adolescence

Parents need to respect the adolescent room for the many personal functions it can provide; the adolescent needs to respect parental needs for that room to fit into what they want in a family home. This is an accommodation that must be made.

How to Parent Kids Who Simply Don't Get Along

By Seth Meyers Psy.D. on May 25, 2015 in Insight Is 20/20
If you have kids who simply don't get along, focus on separating them and encouraging solo play. It's a lot harder to parent kids who don't get along than those who have the usual sibling spats, so don't add stress to your life by telling yourself they should get along better. Parents already deal with enough 'shoulds.'

Parental Guilt: The Dilemma

Today both men and women worry about short-changing their children because of their both working, and their own parents often feed their guilt. The result is an epidemic of over- and under-parenting in which the needs of the children take precedence over the need of the parents, leading to out of control children who have trouble becoming responsible adutls.

The Inconvenience of Tackling and Eliminating Defiance

Parenting can be an inconvenience that every parent has to come to terms with. The parenting relationship is not one that money alone can solve, or one that can be tackled remotely.

Conversation with a Mother about Sleep Training her Baby

Dear Dr., I need help! I have a lovely 11 month old baby girl and my husband and I both work full-time… I resorted to sleep coaching recently… I am afraid that we have already done irreparable damage to our sweet baby.

Single Mothers and Their Health, Around the World

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on May 23, 2015 in Living Single
A much-publicized study claimed that single mothers are at risk for poor health. Here's a less credulous analysis, starting with the fact that in many countries, there is no difference whatsoever between the health of the single and married mothers, and continuing with the actual factors that make a difference.

The Surprising News about Children's Mental Health

How mentally healthy are today’s children and teens? A comprehensive new survey shows that the current generation of young people are in better shape than we’ve realized. However, trends in medication use continue to draw concern by mental health experts.

What Really Motivates Kids

What really motivates kids (and adults for that matter)? Not rewards. Not punishments. Not even intrinsic motivation! My goodness -- what's left?

Balancing a Japanese and Irish Heritage

I have learned to balance my parents' lessons in living.

8 Tips for Letting Go of Your College Grad’s Job Hunt

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on May 22, 2015 in Singletons
More and more young college grads find themselves jobless or underpaid, living with their parents again and job hunting. The situation can feel like a minefield. Discover when to step in and when to back off as your young adult looks for employment.

How to Give Your Child a Rich Life

We all want to raise kids who know how to work hard to create what they want in the world. Nobody wants to raise a child who thinks the world owes him, who feels like he’s entitled to take whatever he wants. We also DO want to raise a child who feels deserving of the blessings of abundance. How do we raise a child we feels deserving - but not "entitled"?

Self-Learner in Your Home?

By David Palmer Ph.D. on May 20, 2015 in Gifted Kids
Self-Learner in your home? Free and low cost resources available!

The Truth About Children of Working Mothers

By Denise Cummins Ph.D. on May 19, 2015 in Good Thinking
The results of a meta-analysis of sixty-nine studies indicated that the impact of early daycare on child development was different for single-parent, low income families and dual-parent, high income families. The age at which daycare starts also mattered.

Friendships Help Kids Cope With Divorce

By Wendy Paris on May 19, 2015 in Splitopia
Your children's friendships can be disrupted by divorce, either because you move or because everyone is too busy and preoccupied to help maintain them. Eileen Kennedy-Moore answers four questions on the impact of divorce on childhood friendships, and gives advice for how parents can foster strong community.

Let’s Release Our Youth From the College Anxiety Epidemic

I have clients in 2nd grade telling me they going to Stanford or UC Berkeley. I listen to high school students who have GPAs of 4.2 or 4.6 tell me how stressed, anxious, and depressed they are and weary of their future. I talk to parents daily about their worries that their child is not going to get into a "good” school. There is a place—or several—for every student.

What Happens When the Whole Family Plays with Food?

By Susan Newman Ph.D. on May 19, 2015 in Singletons
What to make for dinner? What will the kids eat? How to get everyone to the table for dinner in spite of packed schedules? Challenges worth meeting. Family therapy can be helpful, but family dinner is transformative.